MY MOST PAINFUL BREAKUP STORY

you [Music] it was when I was studying in the US I was in college it was just a normal day except for the fact that tomorrow is my graduation we weren't we were fighting about not being able to meet up or something to give a little background to the story we had broken up before and got back together never recommend that but we did oh and so we'd been dating again for a couple of months and we just started getting on each other's nerves again we met in Japan an exchange program and we became good friends and then we ended up dating it was around the time where I graduated we kind of we split we felt that we broke up just because being apart from each other just kind of just chew us apart so I remember that this was a Sunday and I remember she came to the apartment at this point I had already knew that our relationship was probably heading towards a very big end she program within the first time but this time I was kind of getting frustrated like there was nothing I could do to make it better and that was frustrating for me and so we were on we had a phone call that night it was a frustrating conversation because there was no way of really connecting with each other anymore eventually I just couldn't take it and that's kind of got to the point where I was like I'm I have to end this I can't do this anymore I don't know if it was a rash or premature but I it was not a happy time and I felt horrible this is gonna be our last time hanging out like this I'm physically getting away from this school and and you have a couple more years to study and there's nothing we can do about them it was just so unrealistic because we are here and then the time is just going going going it's getting late I don't know what to do just wanted to stop the time [Music] I remember the conversation was a combination of talking and crying and me being really angry I knew that you had been seeing this other guy even after catching some messages and even seeing some pictures that just confirmed my suspicions and I remember telling her you know I'm willing to work it out I thought it was okay I was cool until maybe about a year issue later friend of ours from England Kane we decided to all just hang out again at my apartment and as we were hanging out I started to get this these feelings kind of realizing how much I might have missed her all that just kind of just hit me like like a just a bag of bricks and I don't know if I was getting like sad or emotional or whatever but I couldn't stop looking at her it was weird because we knew like when that phone call ended that was it that was the end and it's weird knowing that you're not gonna have any contact with someone that you cared about for a couple of years like we dated for a couple years and there would be have no I don't know when the next contact was gonna be because I was at that time finally standing up for myself like I'm not gonna I'm not gonna message in the next week or a month but whenever I'm ready I'll tell you I was dark it was night I was walking through the back alleys of my neighborhood I remember definitely member where I was even standing I don't remember where it is ight remember like the scene when I hung up the phone I wanted to ask her basically can we try it again before I could even do that I know she saw it coming she basically got in her car and drove away and I knew her well enough to know that she avoided the situation I didn't really know what to do at that moment I was kind of dumbfounded I just remember being so mad in that moment because I was so hurt I felt like she just gave up I just left her there I went out of the apartment I remember I had a water bottle with me well it's probably like one of the most emotional states I've ever been in so I'm walking down the street and I just remember being so angry I just threw the water bottle down on the street yeah I just remember walking back to the apartment and she was still there on the couch and I think at that moment we just knew that we're done [Music] yeah I cried a lot I cried a lot for me was I loved you with everything that I had and you were my everything those tears were sad tears disappointed tears and also angry tears because of how things ended up I don't know who started it but we started to cry like it was a nobody kind of funny because we would both cry and then you'd stop crying and talk laugh and then we would start crying again I met him on the very first week of my my school days and then yeah that was the last day that I will be in Pennsylvania so the person you spent the most time together and yeah I definitely cried because even though it was the right move it was kind of a bit you know yeah it was tough it was tough rebounding from that took a while it took a long time I don't know the thing about rejection is it really makes you ask the questions what's wrong with me and I remember our shirts getting wet because of our tears I I never saw a man Christ that much even to these days and I don't know what kind of person that makes me for saying that but seeing him crying that much meant a lot to me I like I like that I know it sounds weird but it just showed how much he cared as well because he doesn't do that normally it felt special because you care about that person still like it doesn't matter if someone wrongs you which is how I felt during the break-up probably we all had those feelings but I could also hear it in her voice too like there was sadness knowing it was the end not saying she was sad like maybe she also thought it was the right thing to do but you'd also don't want someone you care about to be crying goodbyes for people you care about are tough even when it's over and then the next day my family is there and then of course it's my graduation he shows up with this big smile on his face and he looks so happy no sign of tears at all if if there weren't yesterday no one could have believed that we had that miserable day yesterday and I am so thankful that last time that I that I saw him was him being happy for me him smiling for me yeah that really became the last time I ever saw him I don't think I ever will and I'm so happy that it ended that way it wasn't a sad goodbye [Music] if I had to choose I think it's probably better to do the dumping and the reason is it always hurts when someone breaks up with you and you're not in a position where you saw it coming or you're not in a position where you even thought that was a possibility if I could choose I'd always choose to be that person who's getting dumped it hurts more I honestly felt it was just better doing the dumping cuz at least with doing the dumping you not just prepare your heart but I mean just being honest you're not gonna be as heartbroken I mean you might be hurt because you had to do the deed but you know for the person who got hit with it I mean it can completely blindside them they don't see it coming and then when it hits it hurts a lot just the thought hurts me more giving that words to the person that I cared the most at certain point well it's painful really painful in the beginning for the person who's breaking up with someone I think it just last longer if you've been broken up with sometimes it's a blindside you know you get hit from the side you don't see it coming and they spend the most time asking questions like why what could we have done better did I make a mistake you ask those questions longer I Amen no yes I know you have a kid now and I know you live and I can come find you I'm sorry oh yeah I don't want to know what they're up to and but I don't want them to be mad at me for saying that from the bottom of my heart I would tell her that I forgive you I have 100% forgive you even though it wasn't an ideal situation to be in I hope you're happy and I hope you live happy happy life I'm not gonna be in it obviously and I'm so okay with that I want that person to be happy and I want them to be living well and I want you to be if I'm speaking to her I'd say I want you to be living the best life you can and I'm completely it's been years and I'm completely okay with everything that happened it's what should have happened it was best for both of us I know that you're married and you have a kid I'm glad that you get the happy ending because you deserve the happy ending I really hope that you're doing well I just want her to be happy and I wants to live happy live separately it's for the best and I think what happened was for the best of course sometimes there are were times that I thought of the question what if but then I'm it's okay because I'm just really grateful if you think about it the space is this is so nerdy but the space is so freakin big and the time is infinite but we spent shared the time together we were at the same place think about the odds we had that in my heart right now I can truly say that I want you to have a really good life I want you to be happy and then whatever you decide to do go for it just know that I'm okay and I hope for the best for you I have no regret so I guess I what I wanted to say is just yep I hope you are happy be happy have a happy life get a hot wife have beautiful children and I'll do the same piece now I realize that things happened the way they happen because they were supposed to happen and it made me who I am now and I'm really happy with who I am now and although I'm not a perfect man now I'm not perfect but I'm ok with that and I know that my happy ending is just beginning and I'm glad you found yours but now I'm going to get mine and I know it's going to end just the way as opposed to [Music] you you

Channel: Rachel Kim

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Length: 14min 14sec (854 seconds)

Published: Sun Jan 13 2019