Silent killer: DEPRESSION AFTER A BREAKUP OR SITUATIONSHIP

hey guys welcome back to my channel I'm going to be talking about depression such a serious topic is such a big epidemic that's going on that is disrupting our high vibrations and most depression is onset caused by relationships or a loss of something or just feeling empty inside and I know from personal experience going through depression after a breakup and I just want to take my pain and generate it into positivity to help others and I just want to say a quick prayer father god I accept this person who was ever watching this video have their heart lifted the tears swept away in the pain and that inner child that is crying and need help and attention guard that that child can get fulfilled through this video and through healing and that they can hear you through all of that pain so that was just a quick prayer that I just wanted to send out because obviously if you're watching this video then that me you are going through heartbreak you're going through depression you're having all these crazy thoughts go through your head and this voice that's probably telling you that you are not good enough or you know you weren't worth it or works the relationship but worth fighting for or whatever and I'm just coming to tell you like I've been there and that voice is not real it's not true it's whatever it's telling you is to stop you from growing and you know after a situation ship or a relationship you're you're feeling you're feeling a little like your self-esteem is like cloud a bit right you know your self-esteem is hurt you know you're probably thinking you're not good enough you're probably looking at other people and looking at their relationships and and just wondering why your relationships keep filling and you start to feel as if you're the failure especially if you see this person with another person or moving on too quickly as if they didn't care or this person isn't treat you right and finally just like completely trash the relationships and the relationship that you guys had and didn't want to work it out or whatever the reason is I just came to tell you that everything and I know as simple as it sounds and I know you're probably tired of hearing this but everything does happen for a reason and deep down aside when we uncover and unfold the love that we have for that person we actually do start to see the flaws that that person had it's kind of like when you break up with a person and you're like wow like I didn't know this you know I started to notice that he wasn't as good as you know and I remember this one incident he did this and you know I don't even know why I tolerated that and that's why it's so important when you see those red flags and those signs in the beginning of the relationship to address them and see if that's something that you can live with it that is that's something that's not that's on your list as in court disruption that person that you want to be with not an ideal person but a person that say if you had certain standards like I can't have a guy that curses around my children or I can't have a guy that doesn't have a steady income if that is something that is on your list and you see that this person doesn't really have a career and they're unstable then maybe you should just leave them alone and just cut it off right then and there before you start falling in love because once you fall in love with that person you start to make excuses for a lot of their behaviors and a lot of things that you wouldn't put up with in the beginning or you wouldn't like to deal with in the beginning and that tends to happen when you fall in love so a heartbreak out the depression I mean uh depression has the heartbreak you know I remember after like my depression set in and I thought I got rid of it I thought I was healed from it but there are situations that trigger flaws inside of you and your inner child comes out you know I have abandonment issues like I have abandonment issues in a way where my mom died at an early age so whenever a relationship ends or I feel like somebody left me it feels devastating it feels like a loss it feels like I lost that person in my life especially we're not communicating or talking anymore and I really once cared for this person then it definitely does hurt and you have to understand you know I think it was Nipsey Hussle whoever said it you know you can only experience that person you know you don't possess that you can't possess a person you can only experience them and that's very true like you know sometimes you have to realize that people either outgrow each other or you outgrow them and the universe whoever you look to as a higher power and I look to God you know I trust that if I made it this far and I overcame a lot of things in my life that's probably wait works and it's are scarier than this or car accidents then obviously I'm meant to be here and obviously I have a journey and obviously I have a purpose and just know that you have a purpose through the heart breaking off it may seem dark when you wake up in the morning and you're not getting those text messages that you used to get it's only clearing out that toxic relationship because you're only start to the depression sets in when you start to think about the good things of that person you start to think about oh they used to do this and they used to do that of course you start thinking about the honeymoon stage like what happened everybody has the honeymoon stage it lasted from three months to a year you know and after that year that's when things get real and if you didn't make it to a year and you're heartbroken about a situation and obviously that person was quickly that person was able to show their true self before honeymoon stage was over so just imagine like years down the line what that could have been it could have been even worse and God saves you from certain situations that you don't need to be in that's not healthy for you and that you're settling for it because he knows when you're settling he sees the future he knows deeply deep down what you really want you think you want that person you think like you imagine how life would be with that person what sucks about it is that you do start to have this ideal ahead of how you guys future will look but that's not room that's only imagination that's only something that you plant it in your mind and then you've got you put a certain standard expectation on that relationship and when it doesn't happen you feel like you filled in some type of way and you did not fail it was not meant to be and to get out of that depression you have to speak to yourself every single day you have to fight I don't please please I'm telling you to fight fight if you have to cry cry wake up and call a friend and get them to talk you out of getting out of bed you know I call people I talk to my friends and I told them what exactly what I was going through if I didn't have a friend to call because some people just didn't answer or had time to talk to me you know what I did I got on YouTube and I looked at videos such as these and I listened and I learned and then I learned that I'm strong that I'm a woman that I'm fierce that aren't powerful and I spoke those lively things in my life and I have to understand that I can't make up certain like when you go through certain heartbreaks you tend to like make up scenarios in your head of how this person is probably living their best life and that is far from the truth no matter what social media tells you although yeah you shouldn't look at their social media especially the first thing when you wake up don't look at their social media it doesn't make you feel good inside if you wake up and you look at their social media and then you look off did that make you feel better and did that kind of just make you feel like they're out having fun or living their life of course that's what they want you to see that they're happy that they're getting over you that they're not pressed and worried because they seem like the winner because they seem like they don't care posting quotes it's not going to get him to understand how you feel people one thing I've learned is people have issues don't matter who they are don't matter how much money they have no matter how much they seem like they're living their best life people are going through things and then when you act heartbreak on top of that it seems devastating so just wake up in the morning play some meditation music pray some praise music thank God that I'm awake music look yourself in the mirror dressed up you know do your hair do your makeup do whatever address nice buy yourself a new pair of clothes go get your nails and stuff done go do something for yourself because this is a time to do something for yourself and no one else you know I when I was going through my depression I literally had to get talked out of bed almost every day and it sucks but I was so grateful for the people that were there for me to help me out I also listen to youtube videos and motivational videos and and focus on myself and focus on my work and great that looks around and I said you know what a lot of people are going through what I'm going through but they don't have what I have you know I have my health I have my kid health you know my kid tells this great um I live in a nice place I'm taking care of myself I may not be where I want to be but at least I'm headed there and at least I have the mindset to you know get to where I'm going and sometimes I just have to take it like this where I'm going and I always have to remind myself where I'm going doesn't necessarily mean that other person can come with because if you think about it on your way to your success on your way to your goals and your purpose some people get in the way of that unattended sometimes some people have their own demons where they're bringing along bigger demons and bigger bags that can't go where you're going they can't go where are you going you need to understand that they can't go where you are going you are going somewhere sweetheart and that person was gonna probably hold you back you don't know what God was saving you from when it came to that person it may have seemed so great in the beginning but obviously y'all not together now because certain things has happened regardless of what the situation was it wasn't meant to be just like one sperm and an egg met and made you because it was meant to be so you have to understand that everything lines up and everything happens for a reason is some time you guys meet because I person teaches you something at some time that person teaches you what you don't want some time that person teaches you to get out of a certain fear sometimes that person leaves you with a certain essence about yourself sometimes that breakup can make you realize that you have inner deep demons that you need to do with like wow I didn't know I was this depressed well I didn't know I was the sad well I didn't know I can get broken down this easily that person pulled out a weakness and go work on yourself because it will get better I promise you when they say time heals it really does it sometime you want to focus on his efforts and thinking about me is that person thinking about me yeah they're thinking about you just like you're thinking about them we're all connected we're all connected in some way of form especially if you guys were intimate you're so tight you know there's ways to break those those soul ties once you heal it's very good to break those soul ties because you don't want to be tied to something that it's very toxic and that doesn't need to be in your life and disrupts you [Music] so I come to say that everything happens for a reason and that you're not alone even though it feels like it you're not worthless you're beautiful you are appreciated and you're gonna start appreciating yourself after this video because I want you to go to the room and start telling yourself positive affirmations and telling yourself that you are worth it that you're healthy but you are loved that you were to care for and you do it every day and I promise you by that third month if you start really focusing on yourself and the people that are around you in your life that actually truly love you and stop looking at their social media and every time you think about them think about you know what I wish them the very best I wish them will and happiness wished in the BET's pray for them if they had a cheating problem pray for them not pray for them for someone else pray for them so yeah don't pray for them to be better for somebody else pray for them to be better for themselves pray for them to be a for them to be a better person in general and that that person get the healing that they need in their life I also feel like when you wake up in the morning and you say those positive affirmations and you pray and you look around and you start saying I'm grateful for my shoes I'm grateful for these clothes I have and it fix yourself a nice cup of green tea get up early in the morning sit outside on your patio burn some incense and pray and be grateful that this world is given to you and you have to learn how to use your experiences to help others and to heal yourself through reeling others as well trust me I've been through heartbreak many times situation ships many times that doesn't decrease my value when somebody leaves me and it doesn't decrease your value when somebody leaves you and that's the most hardest thing to sucks is that you think your value has me down because that person is no longer a part of your life and that is far from the truth your value increases when you see the value in yourself and that no matter who comes in and out of your life that value never changes it just only goes up because if you take every learning situation and you use that to your advantage it's gonna help you and it's gonna heal you [Music] I always they start doing stuff that you love and as time goes that first two weeks you're gonna be like huh it wasn't as bad as waking up today but you have to get in the mindset of doing a positive routine you just can't wake up and just you know you can't be up all night looking at his mess around and then go to bed and inspect to feel great the next morning no and every time you think about that person just say god bless them and if that person tries to come back in your life make sure that you are healed in yourself and what you want first before you start attending to someone else's needs it is it a positive comeback or is it just drama we get back together and then it's the same cycle over and over again sometimes we have children with these people sometime we're connected with them in some way where we you know they're in our same inner circle and group stay away from that circle and group for a while if you know that this person is always around these people don't hang around these people for a while and tell them like I know you guys probably want us together I know you're looking out for this person but if you love me and care about me you're not gonna set me up in a situation where I'm gonna be around this person I need time to heal and think for myself and if it's meant to be it will always come back but you don't focus on what's coming back you focus on who wants to be in your life right now and that you are focusing on yourself and to better yourself not for the next person but for yourself self-love self-esteem that all needs to be worked on after a breakup and depression it sucks trust me it's very scary it's dark it it's dark it's it's it's something that it's a fight every day and it brings tears to my eyes because you know I had to do with this I had some battle with depression and it's scary because I know that I'm strong enough to do with it but some people feel like they're not strong enough to deal with it and it can really take you over it's a silent killer because you don't know what people are going through depression and what triggered me to make this video is a woman set herself on fire because she was depressed over a divorce and sorry guys I'm getting emotional about it because I know how it is and that's why I want to make this video be vulnerable I just want to say I'm sorry guys I got all emotional because I've been there you know and it's a it's a silent killer because people don't know that voice that attacks you every day that tells you you're not good enough that tells you that no one will love you and that you're alone and that people are better off without you and I just came to tell you that that's not true and that voice is not real and that voice is there to destroy you because it's trying to stop you from your bigger purpose no relationship is bigger than your purpose your purpose in this world is needed you are needed you are the person who balances this world you are the person who balances this world you know everybody is needed for something and when that person goes off and harmed themselves or kills themselves the world becomes more and more imbalanced and I just need you to keep fighting I just need you to keep fighting and I need you to understand that you have a purpose in this world you have a place and don't let that voice win I know you probably went through money issues on top of the break-up I know you feel like you may not be where you want to be in life with your career but you're gonna get there you're gonna get there and you have to keep fighting you need to fight you need to put on that warrior outfit every single day and I need you to fight because it's not easy and nobody is saying it's easy but if I can do it and the things that I used to hear and the things that's been said to me and done to me if I'm still here and making it you can too and you're gonna look back one day and see that all of this was worth it it was worth it even though it's like why would somebody put me through something like this why do I have to keep going through this you're gonna finally see one day that everything happened for a reason and you're gonna be able to steer that little girl in the face and tell her you are loved and you are beautiful and um into the air because you were born you were born and that one seed meant that a and made you it's a reason why you're here you're not just here because anybody could have been here but you're here and you're watching this video and I need you to get up out of bed I don't need you to fight I need you to granny through the show I need you to dance I need you to go out I need you to have fun stay away from drugs stay away from smoking stay away from drinking too much you know maybe a wine a day could do suffice you know but don't over drink yourself don't indulge yourself in alcohol sorry that's my um air-conditioning I'm gonna go ahead and cut this video short you guys need any advice give me any advice how to get through this dark time you can message me I'm on Instagram you can follow me on at put in the shade sorry guys my camera overheated but yeah it overheated but go ahead and follow me on instagram at Brittany mache I'll link it below um send me a message don't be shy I give messages all the time and I'm actually they make me excited getting those type of messages because it just shows that I am actually helping somebody and that you are not alone and start doing stuff for yourself start working out if you have the energy to do so or just work out whenever you're ready you know that definitely helps out in a lot of ways and just always be mindful that you are not alone and it doesn't matter how you look how you dress or anything how that person treats you it's not who you are you are bigger you are better than that and at time heals everything I promise to God it really does I will be in a situation and by that third month me doing healthy things going to go see a counselor talking to my friends listening to positive videos on YouTube and telling myself I'm that girl and listening to music like city girl meagan Italians let them know like yeah I'm that girl that's going to help you out that it's going to be so I'm listening to praise music as well that is going to be something that takes time to heal because it is kind of like a loss when you lose somebody it's kind of like you know you kind of like lost that person like that person died or something and you need time to heal and so I'm telling you about that third month come back to this video and let me know how you feel comment below if you have any ideas or tips or experiences that you are experiencing right now and hopefully this has helped you and like I said I hope to hear from you guys or anybody that's needing help don't be shy and reach out we can even talk on the phone if you want to okay guys thank you so much for watching this video I love you you are loved and you are beautiful and just keep smiling smile through the pain until it feels better love yourself until it feels better hug yourself until it feels better and just tell your inner child that you're not a little baby girl or guy or anything that you are loved and no matter what you experience in life this is only making you stronger you know you're a warrior you're warrior and Christ so thank you guys for watching give this a thumbs up if you liked it alright bye

Channel: BTaylor TV

Views: 16,341

Rating: 4.9866557 out of 5

Keywords: depression, situationship, relationship, breakup, break up, feeling worthless, how to get out of bed, he left me, she left me, sad after breakup, feeling suicidal, suicide, voices, god help, life is worth it, self esteem, self love, girl talk, girl chat, single mom, divorce, depression after divorce, wendy williams, kevin hunter, trending, message to single moms, reality after divorce, tasha k, lovelyti, how to get over someone, how to get over him

Id: Y-MrJZe410Q

Length: 25min 26sec (1526 seconds)

Published: Sun Jun 02 2019