Kristene DiMarco - Overcoming Destiny Killers | Teaching Moment

I've been looking forward to this for a really long time not because I like public speaking or anything but just cuz I feel I feel this urgency about what I'm gonna say and I feel I feel all fiery I call it I call it the fury mmm-hmm yay um I was just sitting back there listening to Amanda and it was absolutely amazing about song writing just bloop I'm just getting my mind blown over and over and over again um anyway today um let's just open up in prayer why not let's let's talk to Jesus for a second god I thank you so much for every single soul every single human being in this room I thank you for the the intense amount of destiny that sits in these seats god I just pray for the full realization full realization of of destiny God nothing would be taken nothing would be left that at the end of our lives we will put it all out on the table it would be all out there in Jesus name Amen so just briefly a little bit about Who I am um I moved to Redding California about seven years ago and I can't believe that much time is Pastore it's crazy and I probably within about six months found myself leading worship from the stage and it is my favorite place sleep worship I think because it's my home it's my favorite place to sleep worship not because oh it's Bethel Church you know this is my home this is where this is where God is growing me this is where God is using me this is where my voice is is being heard and so it's my favorite place I get to pastor an amazing group of students every single year at the Bethel school supernational minister I work with some of the most amazing staff possible my boss is in the back he's great gay Venezuela he's famous um it's just when I'm living a dream I live in this dream come true here and I get to pour into people which is my favorite thing in the world because sometimes I think about so what am I going to be doing when I'm 40 you know what I'm not gay I'm 30 now 30 Wow yep I'm 30 but what am I going to do when I'm 40 am I going to be a Jesus Culture worship leader and what am I want me to do but I'm starting to focus on the things that are actually sustainable so what can I sustain for the future what is going to be sustainable in my life and that I've come to inclusion is this it's pouring into people it's reproducing Who I am is Who I am what God's given to me so that's one of my favorite things to do is to pour out what I have received and give away my own personal breakthrough so that's what I intend to do today in a short 25 minutes all right so when I was going around what do you want to talk about and I'm thinking about I want to talk about overcoming that's one of my favorite things in the world and I just sometimes in worship I wish that I tell people this sometimes that a punching bag would drop from the ceiling and I just start punching it start jabbing I don't know it's just this thing that runs through me some of your like I just like to sing sweet songs to Jesus like that's great but I just want to just punch something break things and just give me some sticks I can break him over my knee that's what I want to do just it's in me and so um this whole teaching is just too for us to become aware of the tools we have to overcome and fulfill God's dreams for us because sometimes I don't know this is how I was I don't know if this is how you guys are but um when I was younger I thought that I was standing this is how I pictured my destiny and my life I was standing at the edge of a cliff at all times and at any moment I could fall off and be lost forever so I had to be really careful I had to make sure that I did everything right I couldn't be wrong no failure was permitted I was constantly in fear that I was about to fall off the edge and that's just not true the thing is is that he has brought us to this high place to this broad place through Jesus Christ he's brought us this place where we can be successful he's given us every tool in the book that we could possibly need to fulfill our destiny and his dreams for our lives so no one wants to live an insignificant life anybody anybody want to be insignificant nobody yes that's good all right so nobody wants being significant so that's great so this message is for you who loves Jesus yeah okay great so definitely gonna definitely gonna relate okay okay so if you have your Bible can you turn to you second Corinthians 10 verse 5 give a minute this is one of my favorites because yes I love the punching bag okay it says we are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ yes yes we are okay so one of the if you look around and you see people that seem to be successful and they're following the Lord and the they're fulfilling their destiny and their dreams are coming true I remember thinking god what is what is that that factor that runs through all those people what is that what is the plumb line what is that that thing that runs to the people that I see successful in Jesus what is that thing and this is it there it's saying yes they said yes and they're continuing to say us over the course their lives they've made a commitment in their heart to get rid of every no there's more than one way to say no you guys know that so there's more than one way to say no you guys just be like my daughter and just flat out saying no no and then there's like the subtle ways to say no and that's kind of what I want to talk about today I don't want to be too heavy or anything but I want to make you feel the weight and the seriousness of it but I also want you to know that you are so powerful and you're so in control of this okay you're not out of control nobody's saying no for you so the first one well this is called death overcoming destiny killers like I just like to be dramatic destiny killers so my first destiny killer is self-pity let's just talk about it let's just go there let's just talk about it okay um okay this one is so funny to me because for the longest time in my life this was something that it was like a one of those if you walk through a field and you have all those like briars and barbed things that stick to you it's like one of those things that I just couldn't shake felt like I just couldn't shake it I knew I had a feeling it was there just couldn't shake it from the first time I got grounded when I was like 6 years old to the time I was 21 just this thing called self-pity was just hanging on to me this is what it is self-pity is a self-indulgent attitude concerning your hardships so just to clarify grief is an entirely different thing and an incredibly important process most of us may walk through self-pity is not one of the five steps of grief not it's not one of those so when I'm talking about so funny I'm not talking about grief or loss or anything like that so all right so I'm 21 years old this is when God gave me my breakthrough when I took ahold of my breakthrough I'm living in the city of San Francisco yes I love San Francisco who has been to San Francisco most do you guys have been there it's a beautiful city the city is gorgeous there's really no place you can look without being like whoa it's just beautiful let me take a picture and I was a part of a prayer movement called the call do you guys know what the call is with Lou Engel I love Lou Engel this man is the man so I'm living in San Francisco with a group of seven seven people probably average age about 21 years old and we're all kind of introverted who's introverted yes introverts are awesome people we just need to learn how to function at a high level right so I'm living with a bunch of introverts we are living in a flat okay so we're living in a building above a coffee shop at a tobacco store and there's nine bedrooms so you have seven introverts do you think anybody's sharing a room no probably not okay so pick your bigger bedroom and I'm like I'm already in this place in my life or I don't want to be there you know I don't care how beautiful San Francisco is this is was not on my five-year plan I don't know why I'm here I'm in that part of life I'm actually saying yes but not really saying yes to what God has for me okay so that's what I'm doing at this point so I decide you know what I'm just gonna take the room off the dining room with no windows that's what I'm gonna do I'm in a really good spot in my life to take a room with no windows I'm just gonna take it you guys all take the rooms No all these windows and I'll be in the cave so I picked the room with no windows none and I just I'm clearly in this in a bad place clearly in a bad place feeling very very very sorry for myself and nothing that I had to give up really warrants this to be honest and a lot of maybe even some of you in this room actually have gone through tremendously hard things it's true some of you have gone through tremendously hard things I thought I had gone through tremendously hard things and so I was curled up in a little baby ball in my little cave thinking that this is it self-pity is the quickest way I know to consume yourself with hopelessness it's the quickest way because you you're all your entirety of your focus is is on you okay I think that's what separates it from from the process of grieving and so separates it from from process in general because self-pity is in a process it's its stagnation you're staying where you are because you're not focused forward you're focused inward you're not focused upward you're focused inward I'm just extremely passionate about this because this this will rob you blind sometimes okay don't let it don't let self-pity rob you of the perspective of heaven Jesus died to see you in heavenly places so don't focus on whatever sacrifice whatever pain that's in the process you focus on Jesus we focus on Jesus so in the midst of my dark dark room I am I'm the worship leader okay so I'm the worship leader for this group of seven people how many people want to be led in worship by a hopeless worship leader yeah oh you ever go god there's no hope you know who wants to ever be like a worship by hopeless worship leader that's like the worst thing possible but that's that's what I was for a little while and I remember running up Twin Peaks and the my back basically in my back yard I was just running up to him Peaks I was mad I was just mad because self-pity it's it's pretty close to a fence so it opens doors for a fence and I have a right kind of like I have a right to feel this way and so I'm running as I'm running down the hill I just remember the sweet voice of Jesus you know how I'm gonna you his kindness leads us to repentance right that's amazing just a sweet sweet powerful voice of Jesus just breaking through all of that and saying am i worthy and I just started crying started bawling like a baby cuz I forgot every realize that I actually had lost my heavenly perspective that he died to give me and I all of a sudden it was like the blinders just came off my eyes and I realized that yeah he's worthy he'll always be worthy none like nothing that I'll ever face would ever compare to his worth he's worth it he's worth it and he's not in the business of signing us up for misery that is just not his deal most of the misery that I experienced was a self-inflicted I realized again very different than grief the solution to self-pity accepting rescue choosing to walk in your identity as an overcomer so I just I didn't want to just give you destiny killers wanted to give you solutions accept your rescue lift your eyes lift your eyes lift your eyes there's something I'm so passionate about that when I got free from self-pity and it broke off of me I remember I remember pointing it out and all my friends I was like all you have self ready yourself video so and it wasn't because I I thought I was better or anything I just I knew how destructive it was and I just started pointed out wherever I wherever I saw it and luckily those people are still my friends cuz I have very teachable friends it's great so but once you get victory over something you want to give that victory away and it's intended to be given away okay James 4:7 it says submit to God resist the devil and he will flee from you the first part sometimes we forget we're like resist the devil hopefully just resist them and we're forgetting the first part of where our power actually comes from it's the submission to God a submission to God submit to God and resist the devil and he will flee from you our power comes in submission and the letting go like I let go of my right god I let go of that alright next one this one's a big one self doubt self doubt I just kind of put fear in there because doubt and fear go very very closely hand-in-hand self doubt definition of self doubt is lack of confidence and one's own ability motives and personality that's pretty intense that was something that I struggled with for a really long time how many of you have amazing prophetic words spoken over your life of where you're gonna go pretty much everybody even if you don't have one prophetic word spoken over your life you have a Bible full of promises that are yours full full of it but if you if you let self doubt cover soft doubts like this cloud that likes to just likes to rest all over those promises and kind of blind us to them you will live out what you believe to be true about yourself you will be as significant as you believe yourself to be and so for the longest time I I was I was really comfortable believing that I could lead worship for seven people and that I could impact these seven people and probably my three sisters I was super comfortable believing that but there was this thing telling me that I was destined for something bigger something a little bit bigger I'm like oh okay so I don't know what that means but we'll see how it goes so God gave me this dream I shared this last year but God gave me this dream and in the dream I'm being given a grand piano and there's no way to get it into my house no way and I'm like send it back send it back there's no room there's no room for this grand piano there's no room you're gonna break my doors and I going to have to cut a hole in the ceiling there's just no room for this grand piano and God spoke to me in the dream and said this is your destiny this is what I'm giving you and I need you to believe that you can be big enough for it I need you to believe that you can be big enough for it there was this prayer that we used to pray over ourselves and when I was part of the call God don't let me confine myself to a life of insignificance and the way we do that is by choosing to believe less of ourselves than what God has called us to what God says about us so just make that a prayer that you say every day God don't let me confine myself to the life of insignificance I choose going back to 2nd Corinthians 10:5 I choose to tear down I'm destroying speculations every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God and I'm taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ so I am taking every thought about myself captive to the obedience of Christ what he says about me rules what he says about me will reign in my head not my own thoughts what he says um so just a little story based on that there was this timeline I felt like I was drowning in fear and I was drowning in doubt I felt completely powerless and I was sitting in my little cave in San Francisco and and all the introverts emerged from their bedrooms so like time to go out time to go out I really did have human interaction but you know some days but um we all you know all kind of like gathered to the the dining room with it was really funny because there was this neon light bulb just kind of in the in the dining room it was kind of creepy would flicker all the time and there was this blue wall with this painting of a racially ambiguous grandmother just like my face hi I love you welcome to Grandma's house because that was the ministry those before us anyway so we're gathering into this blue room neon blue room and we're like we're gonna go out to the Castro district you guys know what the Castro district is in San Francisco it's a it's basically basically just the homosexual area in San Francisco I honestly wasn't super stoked about going there and wasn't like yeah let's go let's let's go I'm just drowning in fear and ow let's just go let's just go that's just so I was planning on staying home that night and I remember God in his really kind voice just speaking to me and says just go I want to show you something I just want to show you something so I grabbed my my Takamine guitar really really terrible thing I'm not really good at playing guitar but I'm really not good at playing this guitar that you know the action is terrible and there's just big rut right through it but I grabbed it and we're off to the Castro district and we end up just parking on the corner I think of this corner of Castro and 18th for this Bank of America we're just sitting there we're not there to confront anybody but sometimes churches would join us because they wanted to and they would do crazy things but we were just like we're just there to worship and pray but people you could do whatever crazy thing you want and so on that night it was it was a little bit more charge than normal and we're just sitting there worshiping and there was this church group that was that was with us and they're yelling so they're standing on a street corner they're just yelling yelling the gospel you know and not a very nice way we're more like a fire brimstone kind of way and so what happened was these these people come out of bars and everything and they start to surround us and yell at us and start throwing things at us and it was it was just ridiculous it was just Christians yelling and then people yelling just yelling back and forth it was nobody's getting anywhere and I was terrified I was remember I'm drowning and fear and doubt and I be I'm having glitter thrown at me and just black shawls with curses written out of everything I'm just like a ahhh drowning it's the end and I'm dramatic so yeah it's definitely the end so I start I start singing I start singing Amazing Grace I just oh my god this has worked for me before you know so I start singing Amazing Grace how sweet the sound that saved a wretch like me I was his loss now I'm found was blind but now I see and no joke just everything stopped on a street corner because there's a power that supersedes our stupidity you know and there's a power that supersedes our fear and our doubt of this little girl who's just shaken to her core just saying about the power of Jesus and some and as people are walking away and dispersing somebody says well we can't really compete with that and then no joke the next day the entire street corner where I was sitting was jack-hammered like just like looks like just blew up and I'm and being a part of the call everything's prophetic so that was Jesus hey man so let's just pause there for a second it's not about my lack of ability it's about the expanse of his ability just the infinite ability of God and that's where my self-doubt should stop that's where it stops that word that's where it's no longer relevant no longer relevant self-doubt can be so so subtle there's this lie that I believed as long as I can remember it was this I don't write corporate worship songs okay so I'm sitting I'm standing in the back I'm um Brian and Katie tour waltz their new album had just come out love them good friends and I'm standing the back and I'm like man I wish I could write corporate worship songs and it had spent something that I had told myself repeatedly for years Oh Christine you write stories you're real good at it and you probably will just be a singer/songwriter your whole life and you know there's nothing wrong with being that but that was just something I told myself constantly um you know I feel called to the church but I'll never write a song for the church you know all a step weird stuff and then as I'm standing back there and they're singing gods like whoever told you that did I tell you that cuz I remembered underneath that hey root hey remember that song he just wrote to call it is well I'm gonna show you something I'm gonna show you something it's gonna be sung in churches it was just this tiny little lie this tiny little lie that was the rudder of a ship that I was on and it was determining whether or not I was gonna go this direction or this direction it's crazy right so just ask God say God what what are the lies that are that are steering my ship are there lives that are steering my ship because I want him gone I want to fulfill a hundred percent of my destiny Who I am and what I'm called to do I want to fulfill a hundred percent I don't want something as small as I don't write corporate worship songs to steal anything from me and it'll be it'll be different for every individual take an offensive posture we take offensive posture make a decision to tear down the smallest lie I'll just share this story I thought it would be a little humorous but I recently got a tooth pulled how many of you have gotten an adult tooth pulled yeah not super fun so I'm like I thought that I could it would just be like in and out and and you know just pop there we go so cuz I cuz I had a tooth pulled when I was ten little baby tooth and that was super easy so let's just skip the root canal and let's just yank to this baby out yes okay so I'm just trying to give a little story to make a comparison between some little lies and some some big lies okay so I'm sitting in the dentist's chair and I'm I'm in my second trimester you know so that doesn't that's not super fun laying back anyway okay can we just get this done just pop it out like you did before and the dentist says well this this tooth has like three roots and when we might have to break it in pieces to get it out like what about that sounds totally terrible and unpleasant and so I'm sitting there and I don't I'm not feeling pain okay so don't feel super sorry for me I'm not feeling a lot of pain oh wow let's just turn purple okay I'll wrap that um I'm not feeling a ton of pain or anything he'll just end on this really great know about tooth bullying uh but I he's like you're gonna feel a lot of pressure so he's yanking it like yanking my mouth back and forth I'm like armored jaws gonna break it out anyway my point my point is that there's some lies that literally just take a second to reverse like that little one that I was believing for years it didn't have a ton of roots so it was immediately like boom gone and then there's some why's that we need to mean to get you know we can get in there and get all those whiny to break it apart you know but we don't leave it there to rot right we get it we break it apart we pull it out we get it hey Eric see you um but my point is just don't be passive when it comes to lives don't be afraid just let the dentist do is mark the ger sometimes the greatest battle will be in your head but it's your choice who gets rulership your choice is in your hands as your choice there's nothing you will face in your process that hasn't already tasted defeat yay such a great great news so good and I'll leave you with this Philippians 1:6 best verse being confident of this very thing that he who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ amen thanks guys

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Length: 32min 6sec (1926 seconds)

Published: Wed Sep 21 2016