Khloe Kardashian's EYE OPENING Speech On How To MANIFEST ABUNDANCE! | Jay Shetty

[Music] they want to tell you when to stop hurting and that's not anybody's place to tell you when to stop hurting it's and everybody has a different lifespan of pain one of the things you said to me that stood out in one of our dm conversations was you said imagine if everyone in the world was five percent kinder and and that stuck with me i was just like wow like yeah imagine if everyone was just five percent kinder like you weren't talking about oh let's make everyone in the world super kind and you know tell me what that means to you and like what made you say that and where that came from well i feel i don't know if it's the older i get or the more accessible i am to so many people because of social media nowadays and just that technology's in our hand it just feels really heavy the world feels really heavy and depressing and if you read statistics um from mental health bullying violence everything is escalated and i think we're too exposed to too many avenues of people and too many ways for people to connect with us and we are all made up of energy and when people either take too much from you it is a ripple effect and sometimes if someone projected negativity onto you you just instinctively will project it back to them or as a defense mechanism to somebody else and it's also not fair to misdirect that energy because it is a ripple effect and it goes to other people but if we were to be a little more self-aware and when someone is mean or negative to us instead of us being combative back if we were just like why are you hurting or just even like okay and just took it instead of having your ego involved where you have to shout louder if you just took it that's even just being kind i'm not saying people have to go buy roses for everyone or whatever but even opening a door um smiling at someone you don't even have to talk it's a universal language that everybody understands that would give a ripple effect or even the karma back to you that you're going to receive a little bit more kindness that day i think it's highly naive of me to say 50 or let's oh i want everyone to you know think that they're surrounded by glitter and unicorns like that's just not reality it is and it's also cool when life gets heavy too to see how you can manage and filter through it but that doesn't mean we still have to be horrible people to one another yeah no i love that i love what you're saying because i think we also and you touched on this we think being kind means these big gestures or like having to save the world or you know doing something really colossal like it has to be big and expansive but you're right that we forget and we underestimate how much just a smile a kind word a kind message or thinking of someone can just change someone's day and i love those simple things because i think that those are things anyone can do and those are things everyone can appreciate whenever i have like a waitress or someone they are busting their butts to work and they're cleaning tables and they're serving you it's a beautiful thing and instead of just like you don't even look up at them if you just look at them stare them in their eyes and say thank you or you can tell that people are so rude to people in any service industry because they almost get like shocked like that someone's staring directly at me and as a human you never want to feel that you're invisible or that people are looking past you you want people to look at you yes and even just that alone that makes someone's day and if someone was having a bad day or feeling like man i can't get by i'm working my ass off and i'm still people are just mean to me it depresses them more like it's like just look at someone hey how are you thank you so much like that's it a busboy anything i think we all take for granted how hard everybody works no matter what your job is it's still a job and just a little smile or a little hope you're having a nice day like something so simple it does nothing for you like why does that hurt you just do it and it could really change their entire day i remember a huge mistake that i used to make like this was something that i wish i never did but i did and i is i literally used to walk into ubers and or lifts and i'd be on my phone and i wouldn't say anything because you know you've already programmed where you want to go right so you don't need to talk to the person if you don't want to and i would just walk in i won't even say hello and i wouldn't say hello i wouldn't say how's your day i wouldn't greet them and it took one driver to actually not start driving for like three minutes and he was like hello how are you oh wow and i probably even missed it the first time and the second one was like hello how are you and he kept asking me it was something like the third or the fourth time that i registered because i was so busy wow and i was just like oh wait a minute he was just like yeah i just wanted to have a just ask how you were and it just took me to that where i was like i can even just just saying hello now i'm not saying you need to get into a big life story conversation with your lyft driver but the point being that i think they're still humans correct right and i think because of our phones and we're so busy but remember we all operated before our phones somehow so life goes on do you remember that though i do and i miss that time i do feel bad for like my little sisters who i don't think will ever i don't think they ever knew that time because they were too young they didn't they wouldn't have a phone at that age anyway but we forget that we're all humans and i also yes of course we don't want to have like sometimes we're just tired and we don't want to talk i get it but i also just most people can be room readers so if you go in the car like hey how are you like and that's kind of it if you even just if they keep engaging you're not being rude you could still kind of just give short answers and hopefully they'll kind of get the clue yeah and stop talking to you and if not you know maybe they just need someone to talk yeah definitely not encouraging anyone to get into a life story conversation just be human i think you put it best yeah be human we talk a lot about self-care self-worth in our conversations i see you post these amazing stories and that's how i actually found out i remember once you posted one of my videos and i was just like oh wow like i just felt very humbled and touched and but you share so many other people's and i think you do such a great job of encouraging creators like myself as well in sharing that and and not just me and i know you share plenty of other creators as well which is so beautiful and when i started to see that and i see that on your stories all the time like is either true or a true statement right see the true or true statement and and i love that and i've commented back so many times and said i'm really glad you pushed that whatever when did you kind of get to that space in your life where that became a priority like when did you come to that you were just like my self-care and this journey of self-reflection are important to me now like when did you get to this space of everything you're sharing now well i've always been a writer i write a lot and i journal um i write a lot mainly for myself and then i love it it's so therapeutic um i did a lot when i especially when i was going through my divorce specifically and it was so therapeutic for me um you're just even able it's like a release and sometimes when you write something you either see how important it is or how silly it is to you at the same time but it's out of your system and you could burn it do whatever and then i used to write um i would post a quote and then write a large caption and it's before i had as many followers and it some people would tear it apart so much that they took out like the real meaning of it and they would make it into whatever they were feeling and it wasn't what i was feeling so i just chose to stop doing that as much because it kind of ruined it or like the blogs would create things i'm like but that you took the beauty out of it that wasn't what it meant right um but not everybody is as deep or as they just want it to be salacious and something way worse than it is but i also started seeing how much people were craving some sort of guidance if you will and not that i'm that person to go to because i'm still figuring out my life we all are we're still just human beings and we're going to make mistakes and live our life but that's i'm okay with sharing my failures because i'm secure enough and just me being a person i'm still figuring it out i don't know what i'm doing every day but some i just realized how much what a positive reaction i would get when i would post something encouraging to other people or i would go on someone i would go on strangers pages and just like oh my gosh i love your freckles and like what that would do i'm like that's crazy that just being kind gets so much positive feedback like that should just be normal i think we're just used to people bullying each other and if someone like i would never go to someone's page to criticize them that's just not who i am i wouldn't waste my time if i felt something i'm like oh why don't i even think that about the stranger who am i i would go to someone's page to encourage an uplift so but i think in today's day we're so used to people going to pages to be these uh you know computer bullies and let's just talk about people but i mean they're really struggling in their own life and that's the only reason why they're acting out like that is because they're feeling that about themselves or whatever and they're just trying to project it to somebody else yeah and i love how that what you just said now it's almost like it transforms your feeling towards them into kindness too because you start recognizing where they're coming from right what they're going through to make them that way i think it's just created it's interesting in the world that we are in it's either the more you're exposed to you see a lot more negativity and it's disturbing and disgusting to me but instead of me becoming bitter and evil about it i've chosen to become more self-aware and i have more empathy for people and i never want to change that i think if anything it's given me more empathy because i'm like oh i feel really bad for you yes and i feel bad that you can't also understand that i'm just living my life i'm not perfect i am doing what you're doing every single we're just trying to figure it all out but if we're all a little more understanding and kind to one another it would make our trials tribulations ups and downs that much easier yeah i love that you've always been journaling i think that's such a it's such a great practice and and i love that because i've recommended to so many people that i've worked with to to journal and read it back themselves and you're so right that sometimes you read your feelings back to yourself and you cry and there are sometimes you read your feelings back to yourself and you laugh because you're just like what really right you're like that's what i'm upset about yeah like that is so petty in today's world or but and we all have to also be kind to ourselves and realize that like i hate when people say like what do you have to worry about you have all this money or whatever oh so money means you don't have problems and i don't care who you are problems are problems um in your world i might you might walk a day in my shoes and be like i don't want those issues or i might walk a day in your shoes and be like wow everything's beautiful but you might see what i thought was beauty as you're not happy and satisfied with that and you still want more or maybe you want less those are all okay feelings that's why we each have our own lives but to attack somebody else for what is considered their problems i just find really counterproductive and that's not motivating yourself if you want a lot of money go out there and get it i believe in you i'm applauding you but when people i think journaling is so good especially when it's private because for me personally it's something i get to write down and i don't feel judged but i'm allowed to criticize myself because it's my journey and i know the day one to the last day that i've taken those steps so i'm allowed to critique and be like you know what khloe you're you're way past this you don't need to harp on things like this i think it's healthy and even if you read it back and you just laugh at yourself i think that's also a great form of therapy yeah 100 what's the most powerful or meaningful journal entry you ever wrote that was that was really like transformative for you fascinated that's a good question you know i sometimes i write and i don't even know what i'm saying right like sometimes i'm just like it's like words and then it turns into something and i never even knew that was a thing but i i was like you know i'm just compelled to write and i would just start scribbling and it might be literally talking about my day and then it goes into maybe like something to do with like why did this happen like you just said because your mind wanders i know you meditate i'm not i pray i'm not great at meditating and sitting and my mind wanders too much so i when i pray my prayers are very conversational and i realize it's kind of how i journal as well it's more of a conversation but i'm talking almost to myself which might be a little insane but i think the most important meeting we have is with ourselves i guess so i think it's great yeah no it makes sense i i love that because for me meditation's a prayer too and and i think that's what's so beautiful about it that it is a conversation it is an exchange and often one of the things that i would do is i would in my meditation or prayer i would ask a question and it's not about trying to find the answer it's about sincerely asking the question like can you really ask a question with sincere intent with with a genuine feeling of like i really want to understand this and when you ask it with that then of course it becomes a conversation because there's a response and you're right sometimes it's from within sometimes it's from someone you have a conversation with that day it comes from absolutely anywhere and i i love that i think prayer is so important and and like you said even if it's just a conversation with yourself god the universe whatever you work with it's it's a beautiful practice to have i don't care what anybody else believes i believe in god i'm not judging whoever believes in i do believe everybody should have a faith in something it centers us it holds us accountable for our actions every day um and so my faith is in god i'm christian and i wake up every morning early intentionally so i can i have a beautiful view and i open my windows and i just look and i pray of but i always start my day with gratitude because i think that transcends through the rest of my day and not that we can control every emotion but i like to even if i sometimes you just wake up and you're either melancholy or you're just kind of grumpy but even if i am i try to convince myself this is a great day look how blessed you are like everything's beautiful we take our health for granted like we're healthy like i just try to have a conversation with myself and if i am having a grumpy day it normally turns it around yeah normally we all have those moments where it doesn't yeah we've intersected some of our mornings i think some of our conversations have been in the morning and what do you have is that gratitude practice that you have is just talking to yourself like that's what it is for you just almost like guiding yourself to be grateful in the morning right yeah i just it's um and that's new i've always prayed but it used to be just at night and over the past couple years i've decided like you know what i want to start my day like this too i think because it's i used to just be so busy i'm still busy but like i would never take that time and yes i have to wake up earlier but it changes my whole just the momentum of my day um so i wake up earlier i make it an effort you make time for the things you want to do and you know i make that's something i want to do it gives me such a better lighter energy throughout the day and i just it's important i think we all have ups and downs and we're all going through rough patches so not every day i've felt compelled to do it but i've started doing it maybe like four years ago and i i love it it's more it's increased over the past year significantly where you probably would do it every now and then and now i do it religiously i would say for the past year that's beautiful thanks for sharing that as well i love finding out about these things because i think so many of us don't get a space to share this and that's one of the reasons why i wanted to do this was i'm happy that we're learning this about you but and i'm learning this about you uh what's something i i love what you said about figuring things out because i actually think when we're sharing when we're figuring things out they're more relevant it's almost like when you figure something out perfectly and then you teach it right it kind of doesn't feel as real to everyone who's learning but like you said like when you're when you're trying to navigate life and you're making mistakes you're failing and that's the same with me like i'm always sharing that everything i'm sharing in my videos is stuff that i've been through and i'm working through and figuring out what's something you're trying to figure out right now like what's something that you've been reflecting on right now goodness my life no um you know i there's nothing specifically i can pinpoint um i absolutely love being a mom it's one of my favorite things and you know i've read well about under a year i would say about eight months ago i went into i've had a breakup and so figuring out i think people are so good at distracting um and i've really chosen to not distract myself or to try to not distract myself maybe people can say true would be a distraction but if anything she's a healthy distraction and i love like i haven't jumped into dating i don't care to date right now i'm not in a rush for it i feel so good in my life and i i don't really need much else um and so something that i'm focusing on is just making sure that i process everything i think especially in my family we're good at moving on like we're we we have very big forgiving hearts we just move on but we don't really talk about things that happened and i don't really know if that's healthy or not and so for what i went through with my breakup i forgive tristan i don't think he's a bad person i think we all make mistakes we're humans but it's only going to hurt me if i'm holding on to this anger and playing this victim role i don't believe in being a victim i believe in okay this happened to me let's figure it out let's push through it and maybe if i'm open and honest about it it can help other people feel like it's okay we're all human we're all gonna get through things but you also can't condemn somebody else for just either sinning differently than you did or i just feel like we're all we're all so quick to you know uh exile people and it's just so heavy to me and so something i'm just focusing on is making sure i'm healed from that or as much as i can and try to understand it as much as i can and then don't distract myself right now and so i just try to have a lot of me time in the mornings and that's where i kind of filter through that i think hearing that's beautiful i don't think yeah no just listening to you say that i was like wow like how what a beautiful place to be in thank you i feel really good like i feel that i do i'm proud of myself because i think so many people it's natural to almost be the victim it's natural when like especially when you're on this platform and the whole world is like oh i feel so bad for you it's like okay thank you but this has also happened to i'm sure hundreds of other people before not saying it's right i'm just saying i'm not going to die we're all fine and i want to show my daughter that it's okay and it's a beautiful thing to also forgive her dad he's a great person it's you know maybe him and i weren't compatible or whatever on that way but that's okay like nobody's going to die here and i always want true to be surrounded by love and i know babies feel energy we feel energy and i just want her to always feel just bliss as much as i can that's so incredible i know it's not realistic every day but as much as i can control it i feel like it's my mama bear job to control it i think so yeah well well when i'm when i'm hearing you say that i'm feeling the energy of what you're saying and to me it sounds like the you know i don't think i don't think what you're presenting is an ideal impossible i think what you're presenting is a very real opportunity to say it's my child i want her to have this environment and i'm going to work really hard for her to have this environment whatever that means oh it's hard yeah it's not easy for me it's you know it would be easier for me to keep my daughter away and be like no because you hurt me but he never hurt true like you know what i mean like him and i have our own relationship and then tristan and true have theirs and i will never come in between that i don't believe in that but i attest that to my parents were incredible co-parenters from what i know they brought my mom and my dad i'm sure fought all the time not around us i would never know um my sister courtney and my i like he's like my brother scott they're incredible co-parenters and as long as it's not hurting you in any way like if this was hindering courtney's growth or if it hinders my growth then you have to also put yourself first because you are in fact taking care of your children but if it's not hindering you or hurting you in any way i think it's important to work on all relationships yeah i read something the other day that kind of i feel really articulates what you're saying it said letting go is hard but holding on is harder and and that's the choice almost that we have in these tough situations and the way you're sharing it is just amazing by the way like i'm just thank you yeah i mean i mean or i think it's incredible with that gosh thank you you and all of me i mean it i'm not just saying it no that's something i mean it because i i think i'm sure there's so many people listening right now who can relate to circumstances in your life situations in your life that you've been through you know we we all know that these are these things happen you know out there and and i think so many of us hold on for so long and as we know like you said it's hard work it's not easy it's it's not just going to be plain sailing but the fact is that you can move in that direction you can and i've i've been through a lot of things in my past that i think have put me here i'm not saying oh it's so easy and no it's hard work it definitely is but i think with every relationship i've been in i've always learned kindness is really kindness and understanding and also i've like one reason why i stopped sharing my journaling or my long captions if you will is because people only understand from their level of perception as well and it would infuriate me when my beautiful notes i'm sure you could understand because you share so much would be taken in a way that i'm like that's not at all how i meant for that to be and so i can't explain something to someone when this is only the level of their understanding and the their want to understand yeah people also have to have the desire to want to learn more and want to open up their mind to un like if i'm closed up and if i'm just some bitter person where i live my life like the world is unjust and why do bad things happen to me it's like to me there's no good there's no bad things happen it's the energy of the world how you handle it is then again another ripple effect from how i think more things are going to happen to you but if i'm sitting here like life sucks life is so unjust unfair all these bad things are happening then oh my gosh you're just going to attract all this heavy stuff but if i'm like okay that was not the best but i'm going to figure out why and let me try to move on and still let me not misdirect my energy let me try to be happy let me try to still be kind to others as much as you can and you can still hurt but you should also heal and then be responsible for your hurting and not channel it to other people yeah i just feel like sometimes we're really irresponsible with our feelings and we have to be responsible as adults especially adults that are supposed to be guiding kids and like our youth you have to be a lot more responsible and how we do things yeah that that's so true i love that about being irresponsible with our feelings let's explore that a bit because i think that's such a powerful statement in and of itself and this morning literally this morning i was sharing this uh reflection that i was having on social media and it was about how it's it's tough to start communicating with children but sometimes it's even more tough to communicate with our inner child right and like while we're trying to grow up and everything and it's like well you're saying that we're irresponsible with all the feelings that were there and we just move on and we think when we move on you've dealt with it right but but that healing that you're talking about it's just for me as well like i always felt like i was someone who moved on and i was always felt like i was someone who like i didn't get affected by that and then i started to see that actually i had behaviors in me that were complete reflections of a past pain right like there were there were behaviors in me that were reflections of a past guilt right and then i realized that it's not that they just disappeared it's that they were going to come out in a different way that was going to hurt future relationships it was going to hurt present relationships and and for me that's where i started to work through that where i started see actually what i saw in whatever it was i'm now reflecting that let me look at that behavior and see how that behavior can be healed and transformed right and what's the root of that does that make sense completely and also i think people get confused even when you're like no i'm i'm totally over that i'm healed you can still talk about things and be healed you can still draw back on those things and say it hurt me when it did hurt you when but i think sometimes people like oh you're done with that euro like why are you talking about this for so long or whatever and it's like that's also a form of my healing i hate when other people who have not been through the trauma you have been through any of us because we've all gone through traumas they want to tell you when to stop hurting and that's not anybody's place to tell you when to stop hurting it's and everybody has a different lifespan of pain i think everybody will deal with things in different what might be traumatizing to me might be nothing to you and vice versa we can't invalidate people's feelings that's only going to traumatize them more and also shame them i'm so over like the emotional shaming of what people do to other people people can have their feelings and do what they want as long as they're realistic you also have to step outside of your own self and be self aware and say okay am i completely delusional am i making these because you could also your mind you can play tricks on and you could start creating a false reality as long as you're being i think really authentic and genuine about your feelings i think it's okay to talk about your pains and traumas i think especially if you're doing it in a way that's beneficial to other people i think that's being responsible um but i think if you're just talking about negative stuff to talk about negative stuff you're like oh my gosh shut up already yeah you know there's like there's it's i think you just again you just have to be responsible yeah you can't you i love what you said but you can't put a deadline on someone else's pain right you can't be the one to invalidate or validate how long someone needs to dissect something or break something down and and i think that's such a great point and and you're right that i think but as long as it's realistic do you know what i mean like some people just care they just are negative they just have like a dark cloud over them because they've created that cloud but that's realistically not their reality you look at them and you're like what are you talking about and if it was something from five or ten years ago you're like okay babe we gotta not that we're putting a deadline on it but let's start working through it let's not sit in the beginning stages of whatever's holding you back so it's the balance that you're talking about it's a balance it's it's it's not either raw correct because you can't just talk about it forever and you're not doing anything about it right at the same time you can't say oh get over it today right it's that balance like i can't stand people that are like eating a bucket of like haagen-dazs ice cream look i'm so fat and like they won't work out they won't change their diet they won't drink more water they want whatever but they're complaining complaining complaining i'm like well you're always going to be in this victimized state because you're literally not doing any you're not being self-aware you're not even looking at your own reflections saying okay what can i do to change things about myself it's everybody else's fault and what would you say to someone who's in that situation whether it's whatever is whether it's their physical their emotional their mental how do we then talk to that person or coach them with compassion out of that like you've done a lot of that work how do you do that with someone else in the same way as we do with ourselves like what would you say to them it's uh it's it really does come from within i think whenever people do things for other people it's always you're setting yourself up for failure i think you really genuinely have to want to change areas of your life and if you don't just be happy with who you are um it doesn't i don't care physically what you look like your weight whatever as long as you're healthy and happy do you but i know for me i was overweight for like i was unhealthy for a lot of my life and then when i was like i just i started going to the gym during my divorce like a significant and consistent amount for my mental i needed a release and i needed to feel strong and i just needed to get rid of all of these thoughts and i wanted to be alone and the only place to really be alone was being on an elliptical with headphones in my ears and kind of just vibing out and as a side effect i started losing weight and i was like oh i kind of like this like you know losing weight and then became like just some competitive weird streak in me that it was like i want to see if i can get arm muscles i want to see like it started that but that was never my goal was never i want to look good in a bikini that was never my goal it was i just wanted to feel good mentally and i think when you start putting yourself first you start feeling so much better there's not a size close that that you have to fit into it's just then you start exploring things like wow i like how i feel when i drink more water i like how i feel when i pray in the morning and because of that you start to become happier and lighter and then you start to want to do more things be more active socialize more whatever it is and so many studies now show that even a small amount of exercise a day is so great for the mind and the brain and i think that's been underestimated for so long and i know i underestimated that in my life for so long where you know i was always someone who focused on the mind and kind of neglected the body and like pushed the body to limits and then i was just like oh wait a minute they're all interconnected right you can't just say oh i'm going to deal with this i'm not going to deal with this actually when you take care of mind body and soul then it starts then you feel the best version of yourself correct and and even if and that's what i love that even if your first intention for going to the gym or doing anything is wrong as you do it more you'll probably come to the right conclusion right right if you stay consistent with something you can usually raise your intentions completely i have a tv show called revenge buddy and all the people it's a show and all these people are from different walks of life and they start with some trauma and they all come on the show like i want revenge on and it's like it's a play on words revenge body it's not i don't think the best revenge is a good body i choose to play on words but they come on the show i want revenge on my ex-boyfriend or on my dad or whoever and i'm always like okay and like the first interview and then towards the show they're feeling so because they think this good body is going to want this person's going to treat them good it's like how superficial and narcissistic are we but we are that's the world we live in and so towards the end they never want revenge on the person it starts out with they want compassion and they're like i and or i don't want that boyfriend because i deserve better because i feel better and the show they think it's all physical but what we do we kind of break them down mentally to self-reflect and look at themselves and figure out what got them here to this place because you can't always blame somebody else for why you are the way that you are you have to be accountable too and that's something that it means it's means so much to me that through that show people get to see that a little bit that you might it might start off one way but that's it's all about internal at the end of the day yeah whatever gets you started is usually a good thing because at least it gets you in there but but what i love about what you've just said is that it's just anything that anything that gets us started is a good place to start but when you're giving someone the power to make you feel beautiful you've also just given them the power to make you feel ugly right and so completely you're just always giving away your power if you don't upgrade that intention and i think we see that in every part whether it's our body our mind our intellect our academics whatever all these expectations of others the more we're looking for someone to say yes you're amazing now yeah it's like you're waiting for that statement you could wait your whole life for it it could never come right and it also almost could become an addiction like people they might not it might not be good enough for one from one person they need it from thousands and this or whatever but it's not that it's because they need to hear it from within you need to tell yourself you're beautiful you're dope you're so smart whatever it is but they don't feel it they don't believe it so when people keep telling them you're such a good person they don't believe it at all that's why they keep trying to find validation in empty things i love that that's amazing you've you've talked about things that you do like gratitude journaling prayer what else do you do on a daily basis that you don't negotiate with you're like i have to obviously exercise too yeah working out yeah that one too what else is there in your day that you just like i can't negotiate with this like this has to be something that i must do every day every week um are those those are pretty much the core i mean it's praying and working out or like my two that i do basically every single day and like yesterday i did my schedule wrong or no the day before i did my schedule wrong so i missed my workout and i was like oh like i felt no i felt fine i went along my day but i just when i realized that i did my schedule wrong i was like oh my god i'm so bummed because what it does i'm not like it just clears my head i feel so good afterwards so whatever that is for people it doesn't have to be what your non-negotiables are or mine it's just i think everybody has to have those there are like i think they they fuel me yeah you talked about working with your family which i think is fascinating in in the first sense because it's an amazing thing that you're constantly surrounded by working with uh you know just you're just in that environment all the time and you said that you're good at moving on and forgiving each other which i think is an incredible quality as well like what's that like to to deal with every day and how are you how are you learning more from that experience like what are you learning from that i think it's one of the best blessings in the world that i get to say that my job is being with my family every day um when this first started we were much younger i think it was 23 or 24. i'm still 23 or 24. i don't know how that works but yeah we're in the same day yeah i'm like what um but it you know norm when you get older you all have your own families and kids and not that anything happens but you normally see your family holiday is not as frequently we see each other every single day and i'm honored to be able to do that yes there causes more fighting or tension but the thing that i've learned about my family is we are loyal and we no matter what disagreement we have or whatever we'll always figure it out we're not a family that's like i haven't spoke to my sister in seven years like i don't know how people do that and we are very understanding of each other um and i just think it's a really great dynamic like we're understanding of if we're all going through something or whatever we really try to be there for one another and support them through that and i just think it's i think it's important to show our kids about family unity or to show that you know two heads are better than one three are better than two we're not competitive with one another and whatever we each want to do we support each other until the end and i i think today's world everyone's like in a battle to who's the best and who's this and who's that and when we first started i remember like interviewers would always say so like do you guys go after the same men or do you like they would always like our questions would be more they would almost want us to fight they didn't they couldn't stand that we it was just really like no we just love each other and i don't know why people love something salacious and twisted rather than beautiful and just kind right no but i mean it's true and it's interesting but that's you know i guess good stories don't sell that's why yeah and i think we can change that like the reason why i do what i do and what i really believe in and why we've connected and what i love about our connection is i genuinely believe that if we keep giving people if we if we keep shooting for the lowest common denominator for people then they'll settle for that right like if you only put junk food in front of someone yeah they're gonna take that and eat that right but if you put healthy food that maybe looks and tastes like junk food but that's you know really amazing then most people will switch right and i feel the same is true of media i feel the same is true of stories i feel the same is true of everything i i believe that people are more beautiful deeper and smarter than we believe and we don't give we don't always give everyone an opportunity to live to that and therefore people with influence people with responsibility people with power can either choose to sell something that shoots at the lowest common easy thing to shoot at and it's easier to sell garbage quite frankly it's so much easier but we are the ones with the influence of the power to say no actually let's let's make people right aspire for the higher that we know that's inside of them right yeah it's interesting i get so many people will comment negatively when i post almost positive things i have i have ups and downs i have a handful of supportive handful of oh my gosh get over yourself or whatever and i'm like you need this the most like it's so you can tell the people that are really suffering the most because they're so quick to condemn and to just take the junk food they just want the bad stuff they can't handle the good things and especially when it's consistent because that's just i post for me i don't post for other people like i'm like this is for me i need to hear those messages and if i need to hear it i'm hoping at least one other person does and but it's interesting that you can see right off like the people that are resistant to it because some people don't they also don't want to open their mind up to becoming better people because sometimes your own comfort will restrict you from your own happiness though because they're too afraid to step away from their comfort zone they would rather just be complacent instead of actually finding like something that really makes them happy and excited about life yeah and i think i remember being there sometimes too and and so like what you were saying earlier of like having empathy towards that person and then praying for them and hopefully opening the door for them one day or having you know wherever they're gonna find that because i do believe that the more we have these conversations publicly openly the more these kind of messages circulate and go viral and get shared the more people feel the permission and the reflection to look within themselves it's almost like if it's not out there if you've never heard it from your parents if you've never heard it from your teachers right you've never heard it from your best friend growing up or the person you looked up to it's kind of a lot of this stuff we expect people to have self-taught but it's not it's something you have to hear from someone that you look up to or inspired by that kind of gets you going it's interesting you said give yourself permission to look inside yourself and it's it blows my mind that so many people do feel like they need the permission yeah when you're in control of your own self but so many people they want to be like sheep they just want to be told what to do and let me follow the herd and that's just it's mind-blowing to me yeah yeah it is it is tell me something that you've learned from true and something you're trying to teach her because so many of us because her energy on hi felika malika that's my best friend so nice to see you thanks for being here yeah nice to meet you i'll give you a big hug in a moment yeah yeah later definitely uh but but i i i know that you post so much about her we've we've spoken about her i think her energy radiates straight off the page you know my team was speaking about her earlier as well like yeah what what has she taught you and what are you trying to teach her i'm asking this because i haven't had kids yet oh my god no she's and it's interesting i never like you can feel your child's personality and like she's a really good person she's has empathy already for other people and it's it sounds crazy that you can know that but you can i never really understood that until i had a child and i've always had patience i'm i'm good with patient i've always loved kids but she gives you a different kind of patience and when you feel that like you're exhausted and you can't go on with your day when you're around your own child you get this surge of energy and you're just like oh i got to keep going like you you just figure it out and so she just gives me i think more of a drive and to stay fit to stay healthy because i want to be an active mom with her i want to be here as long as i can um but i would say it's a different type of patience i think it's a softer patience and i mean i've always been goofy i've always been silly so my inner child is there and i will be the first one to play and be wild and i don't care how i look like i'm like i'll be an animal it doesn't matter but i mean you're just like reliving your childhood again it's fun yeah oh that's awesome yeah so that's what she's teaching you she's and she's also she's taught me so much more understanding from my mom and you just realized that i think when you're a kid you'd think your parents are superheroes and they are but you still have to understand they're just humans they're still like i'm just a person doctors are just people we give everybody so much power and they're allowed to make mistakes they're allowed to not know what they're doing my mom didn't have google how the hell did she figure things out like now me i'm like i don't know can kids have honey i have no idea i ask my phone and i get the answer back then it's like i have so much more compassion i think for my mom and if when i was a teenager and i'm like oh why'd you do this to me when i was a kid and whatever and i'm like because she didn't know yeah she had like you know i feel like you just i have more understanding and compassion for my mom yeah absolutely i love that we did a part i did a podcast about three weeks ago and it was called six reasons why we need to develop the emotional skills our parents didn't have and one of them was to recognize how hard it is yeah and and the second one was to build compassion because of how hard it is and to recognize what you just said like the the ease at which we have information the more conversations about parenting now and like more research that's been done right and you look at parents before all they had was just what their parents told them and then that was passed down and passed down and passed right so yeah that's a beautiful lesson i'm excited to see what i learned when when i have children yeah but those are definitely beautiful ones yeah it is the best yeah those are definitely beautiful ones that i can i can take forward what is it that's on your mind right now that when we were talking and we decided to do this what was there that was in your heart that you were like yeah i really want to share this i want to talk about this that we haven't kind of dived into right now you're like there's something on my mind that no i feel like i mean i was so excited just to sit with you and to have this natural conversation i feel like we've touched a lot of topics and i love that i didn't want it to be too contrived and about promoting something i just wanted it to be like a beautiful conversation so i appreciate that and i feel like i don't know is there anything else thinking no that was the same for me my intention was to just i wanted to hold space to just hear you and let you talk and share because like i said at the start from any conversation we've had i just think that your journey of figuring it out sharing this positive message that energy is so awesome and i want everyone to experience that thank you and and that's what my intention was and and i think i've had that today i'm sitting here listening to you going i've just learned so many things today oh my gosh and that's the thing i think i our show is our show and that's a that's a piece of me i don't blame anything like on editing that's who i am that's one but that's one layer of who i am and i don't really get to divulge in this layer of who i am i mean i do little bits here or there on instagram yeah but sometimes like i said it's hard because people tear it apart from what they ever what their level is to perceive something and sometimes that discourages me from wanting to share because that's not at all what i meant but when you're able to really vocalize something and have a natural dialogue it's sometimes it's easier to share how you feel so thank you for giving me this platform to do so no of course that's i mean that's what i love about podcast in the first place but also just like yeah just being able to dissect the topic for like 30 minutes 40 minutes like that's we need more of that to also understand people better and give people an opportunity but i'm hoping that we're going to continue seeing you share your work i'm hoping that we're going to see more of your journals i'm hoping and praying that we're going to see more of that expression thank you because i truly believe it's helping people and the the percentages are always going to be in your favor because i think the amount of people that are good and seeking good and are starting with good intentions are so much more powerful and stronger and i want you to feel that so thank you well you're definitely a huge like motivation i know for so many people that i know and it's i know it's scary and sometimes really daunting and heavy because so many people do someone like you turn to you because i know the little amount that people turn to me and i'm not some self-help retired monk are you a retired monk yeah i don't know who am i former monk i don't know what the proper term is no no but like i could only imagine how draining it gets for you because people are requiring so much of your energy but you know keep going because you've helped me in so many ways and just by remember the first time i ever heard about you someone sent me a youtube video of you was before i found you on instagram and i i was like who is this man he is you're so moving you're so genuine and kind with what you're saying and from what i feel non-judgmental and it's just a really amazing trait that you have and i know you're helping a lot of people and you've made me feel like it's okay to share more things and that's why i like to share more other people's stuff because i feel like people sometimes they get too critical if they think it's just mine and they need to know that it's okay to share love and kindness the way that you do so thank you yeah and thank you for encouraging people like me i'm humbled by hearing that from you and it means the world it it really does because there's a beautiful statement that was said by martin luther king and he was talking about how like those who love peace need to learn to organize themselves as well as those who love war and and i think that those of us who are in this mission and purpose of wanting to spread kindness and and not just in like this positive movement sort of way like i think like real work real healing real transformation not just like let's be happy not that kind of stuff but let's really do the work let's really heal right i think it's it's really encouraging when we work together and we encourage each other and and help to build stuff together and sometimes people find it so like oh you guys are just so happy it's like i'm not happy all the time yeah i you know i have my moments and i'm still very like there's things i'm like oh really i have to do that or whatever but then i have to also be like okay no i get to do that like i have to change my thinking i have to talk to myself sometimes so it's not like once you have this mentality you're always in it it's just a great reminder for ourselves and also just to change your wording from i have to to i get to like little things like that if you just try if you're just aware it would help you i think people think it's all so too overwhelming to just be kind or and like you said it's a little two percent not even after five percent you know like it could just be a little bit and what that shift will do for yourself yeah yeah that's awesome well i'm hoping that anyone who listens to or watches this conversation uh feels the energy that i'm feeling right now from you and from being in this space and hearing everything you've been saying i hope that they get to feel that too and i hope that they carry that throughout their day and their year and we all continue to heal and grow together because we're all figuring it out together we are thank you so much for watching that video if you enjoyed it here's another one i think you'll love someone making someone like your possession like you have to keep them or don't do this or you're going to lose them that's really bad advice

Channel: Jay Shetty Podcast

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Keywords: Jay Shetty, Jay Shetty Podcast, Jay Shetty Interview, On Purpose Podcast, Jay Shetty Inspiration, Jay Shetty Motivation, Jay Shetty Video, Self help, Self improvement, Self development, entrepreneur, success habits, purpose podcast, Jay Shetty relationships

Id: 9KaFEI62ZeI

Length: 49min 51sec (2991 seconds)

Published: Fri Jun 17 2022