Kevin Hart ON: The SECRET To Success & Happiness NOBODY TALKS ABOUT (Do This In 2023) | Jay Shetty

the biggest drug it's not cocaine it's not heroin it's Fame anything you want everything you want it's a thing and if you can't handle this thing the consequences attached are severe do you know you and are you okay with you if you are not it'll break the best-selling author and host the number one Health and Wellness podcast on purpose with Jay Shetty hey everyone welcome back to on purpose the number one Health podcast in the world thanks to each and every one of you that come back every week to become happier healthier and more healed and I'm so grateful for this community that we have here because I get to sit down with some of the most incredible Minds in the world people that I find fascinating not just personally and professionally but because of the potential and the purpose that they have today's guest is someone who has been on my list to interview from day one so it's a very special moment for me I'm very excited I'm speaking about someone the one and only Kevin Hart Hollywood's box office Powerhouse opening 11 films at number one at the box office and grossing more than 4.23 billion dollars in global Revenue Kevin has also become a successful entrepreneur he's a chairman of heartbeat a global multimedia platform company creating entertainment at the intersection of comedy and culture with a mission to keep the world laughing together I love that Kevin is also the founder of heartbeat Ventures Kevin is in New York Times best-selling author twice over and his first audible original the decision was nominated for an Audi Award for best original audiobook and I I spent my last five hikes listening to his new audiobook monsters and how to tame them and I have to tell you and I'm gonna tell Kevin right now because he's sitting in front of me dude I have not been that into something for a long long time and I'll tell you why I have not stopped talking about the different Monsters the different personalities to my wife to my team to my colleagues you've made it so relevant and accessible to talk about your flaws in a way that I've never seen before so thank you so much for being here man and thank you so grateful to be sitting with you thank you and you know uh you know when flowers are thrown out I believe that they should uh they should sometimes be returned and in this case man I'm here for a reason the work that you've done the success that you've had is groundbreaking uh so major congrats to you I just want to say there's a there's an equal level of appreciation and excitement for the moment man you've done some uh some groundbreaking podcast uh your guests to how you've got people to open up the conversations that you've had more importantly you know um the lives that you're saving by just being transparent authentic and true to who you are I think it's it's dope as hell so uh it's an honor to sit across from you I'm excited about the conversation um and it's one that's been on my my list as well so I'm glad that you know we finally got it worked out it's where we can make this happen yeah thank you man that's that's very kind and it's really beautiful hearing that from you honestly so let's dive in before we keep going back and forth with roses let's go let's get it uh you know one of the things I want to start off and this is going to take us anywhere and everywhere is how does it feel when you're winning and then you discover you got monsters because that's kind of the journey you've been on and I want to go back and forth in this journey but I want to start there like what does it feel like when you're winning you're succeeding but then you all of a sudden go I've still got monsters in there you know when you say and and use the the word Monsters Just for for clarity so people can understand of course we're talking about um the the different levels to you right and um within the levels that I've discovered in myself uh of myself you know you got your good versions and your bad versions and the bad versions I refer to as monsters but just because they're bad doesn't mean they don't have good quality and when you're winning and you're succeeding there's this idea that everything is right there's this idea that Perfection is now presenting itself in life moving forward is going to be just an easy Road um and it's not until you're in that position where you expect perfection and you think that that you start to see the true problems and flaws really present themselves and you know my monsters have been um masked in Disguise and in various different ways but I've been able to to pinpoint them throughout the years um because some of those monsters uh grew it got stronger um developed you're talking about the world of an ego the the the idea of of who you think you are versus what you are or um the idea of expectations and needs as to what you feel you need and what you have to have that's a that's a monster that's feeding that right that that engine of well now that I'm making money this is what I should have this is how I should look this is how I'm supposed to be that's a monster that you're feeding because ultimately you're buying in to something that you're creating you're you're enhancing this world of thought and it's not till you sit down and you take a breather and you start to really kind of you start to really figure out the true definition of happiness for you you start to really understand uh the adult that you have grown into and the level of maturity that has now I guess you can say have been banked inside the the the the human that you are it's you're banking so much over the years and ultimately you're shaping and molding yourself into this this grounded hopefully this grounded individual that you're proud to look at in the mirror at the end of the day I had to start to I had to get to a place to where I was looking in the mirror and I was proud of what I was looking at and I was okay with checking myself I was okay with um pointing out my flaws I was okay with knowing would I do well and what I do wrong and at the end of the day there's no consequence to always improving there's no consequence to Growing you're in a time now where people almost frown upon the world of growth I embraced that I embraced the world of Correction so the monsters in the world of how to tame them came from me understanding the different levels of monsters that presented themselves to me over the years and me getting them to a point to where I put them in a place where I could control them they're still there they can rear their heads but I can say sit down that's not necessary that's not needed and I can tell when one is trying to take me back to a place of old but at the age 43 it's exciting to know that I've grown from so much and and you know the the world of want is significantly different than what it once was it's really interesting you use the analogy of like looking in the mirror and being okay with yourself and when you said that I was thinking yeah when you look in the mirror there's no Trophies the reflection doesn't show the trophies the wins the money the whatever else it just shows you you and the fact that you've had the courage to look at that where do you think when you track back I've always been fascinated by memories that we hold from our childhood that have left an imprint that's really strong in our lives whether it be positive challenging whatever it may be what's a what's a difficult memory from childhood do you think that has been the Catalyst for so many things in your life is there anything that you go back to that you're like I can see how that and I had to turn that into a positive I think the biggest memory for me is the the one of being complacent you know as a child I I wasn't really a kid that embrace the world of challenge right I was very complacent I was okay with being a subpar to low average student right I was okay with not trying I was okay with not giving my all and I was kind of okay with getting over right so the biggest memory that I have in my childhood is like when I got to that early teen years that 12 that 13 at 14 being sneaky and thinking that you're constantly one-upping someone was the the that's what I was embracing at the highest level do your homework I did it did you really do your homework I did it and you taking my word for it and not checking my homework oh I didn't do it but you think I did I got over uh ultimately you're you're slowly cheating yourself over the course of years and it's not until you get a reality check as to why that work was necessary that you realize you're just not doing what you're supposed to do with your life right you're not you're not giving your all I had a lot of different examples of that I truly had a mom that made sure that I had and I didn't take advantage or Embrace um the real work that she put in until I got to an older age of true understanding but to be honest I really threw a lot of those things to the side the extracurricular activities the swim teams the the football teams the basketball teams the track and field the baseball all of these things as a kid you don't understand your parents are doing to try to provide you with a world of opportunity they're trying to keep you occupied they're trying to embrace this idea of hard work effort activity engage they're doing all those things or all of these things to their kids or hopefully right for their kids to put their kids in a position to just want right want the best compete study learn be excited about their future that light bulb went off late thankfully when it went off it went off at the the right time and I was able to identify a lot of stuff that I couldn't then and also thankfully that a lot of the lessons that my mom constantly embedded in me about you don't start things that you're not going to finish you don't quit apply your all do this or don't do it you're not cheating anybody but yourself all of these things that I heard over the course of time there was a moment when I got older it it it all hit at the same time but the real memory for me now looking back is I'm glad that I do see that that I am aware of that because not being aware of that is the hugest loss thinking that I took full advantage thinking that I really applied or tried myself thinking that that was a hundred percent would be the real loss so one of my best memories is knowing that at one point I was a slagger you know I was the guy that wanted to look like he was doing but never truly was unless it was something that I loved and embraced and you know that was basketball but the chances of me making that were very slow but you know that's to answer your question it's a ballpark of those memories that I now look back on that I appreciate but it also act as the fuel for the hard work and the hundred percent that you see that I put in everything I do today yeah that's such a great reframe around what you saw as a bigger loss I think that's so powerful for you to sit here and say actually I'm really happy that I can see that I wasn't putting my best foot forward because that helps me be grateful to my mom it helps me understand it from a different perspective and the one thing that came to mind for me when I'm listening to you say that is there's this quote that says the day you realize your parents were right your kids are telling you that you're wrong wow and and that's always been one of those statements that I think about that in my own self I thought my parents were wrong my entire Teenage life and I think most teenagers do and then all of a sudden I hit my mid-20s and I'm like oh wait a minute my mom's been through a lot you know my parents put in a lot of sacrifice and so I I love that you brought that up I mean one of the reasons we pushed this show back was you lost your father recently and when I heard the news obviously you know my love and condolences to your family and I was I was looking at what you were sharing and and commenting about and there was this one thing that you said that that really stuck with me uh and you said that my kids actually think I'm the coolest dad on the planet I know why I am the way I am my dad has a lot to do with that the mistakes that my dad made you know the decisions to do drugs being in and out of jail in and out of your lives I saw firsthand what not being present did because of that I now know what being present means I know what I can do I know what effect it can have when your child coming up but it sounded like obviously when you lost your father recently it sounds like you've you'd reconcile like you'd feel somewhat of a connection you know me and my dad we we weren't the closest um but we weren't not close my dad I at the end of the day I I'm gonna love my dad for simply being my dad now my dad's life you know had several different versions of of drastic Downs right a small amount of ups but a lot of downs I can easily sit here and ridicule or judge my dad for the mistakes that he made or for his past but that does nothing it I don't I don't like to focus on probably my focus on solution yes so with me and my dad in our relationship it was always one of solution like you can't go back and fix the years that you weren't present there's there was nothing that we can do about that time we can have a conversation about it we can talk about it and then me and my dad talking my biggest thing was you don't have to focus on what you can't change the fact that you're here now and that you made a decision to uh get clean to turn your life around it's never too late my dad was you know 50 plus at the time when he said I'm gonna go ahead and figure it out and I'm a I'm gonna close that door and I'm gonna work on this other door this door over here was like I said jail drugs um in and out of his kids life uh to the point where you know there was a there's a time when we didn't know where my dad was and I I bumped into my dad on the train I tell a story um I bumped into my dad on a public transportation in Philadelphia like not seeing him in years I've randomly saw my dad and my dad was so embarrassed he got on the train and ran but it's like that's that's where wow that world in that relationship was and what I do very well I don't hold on to grudges or gripes it takes too much time it takes too much energy things will work themselves out they never not have it always work itself out I mean my dad worked it out right like it's about the grandkids and our relationship got better as he embraced the opportunity to be a great grandpa and seeing him try to do that right was his way of saying I wish I could have done this right for you I can't like I know what you're saying without saying it sometimes you don't you don't need words although some people do need them sometimes your actions are a little better and my dad's actions um and trying his best to be an unbelievable grandfather made our father-son relationship that much better and you know there was a lot of conflict between my brother and my dad and seeing that men over the time and just saying look I'm I'm not supposed to be here Dad look at what your son has done look at where I am being that I can I want to make sure that you get to see some dope things in life here let's do this and take that and live like this and do so things work themselves out his reward for giving his energy to something positive and life-changing was his son becoming successful in his son saying Dad huh it's not expected that wasn't the plan you got a great piece of light at the end of that dark tunnel that you didn't expect that I didn't expect because I didn't expect to be here so everything kind of it works itself out yeah and you know and losing my dad is when you look back and you go yo he was all right right like my my reflection my conversation my words when I speak on behalf of my father they're so positive and dope because he did good I'm all right it came out okay mom dad you did good like how whatever whatever you did to to put whatever recipe in this pot the food came out all right I'm a good person I got a good heart I treat people with respect ultimately I want the most that I can't possibly get out of life I love to love I'm a good dude am I perfect no I got some of them imperfections over there I got some of the ones from over here for my man Dad okay that's life of course I'ma figure it out but I I figure it out without the want or need for problem that's real man I mean I I listening to you say that what I appreciate so much is about how you're changing our perspective again that often we feel to heal what was broken needs to be fixed and actually what you've just said is seeing him try with the grandkids that's not even the area that needed fixing or was broken but seeing that starts to create some healing that's the best example that I can ask for yeah because it's not about it's not about us right like me and my ex-wife got to a point of realization you know after having a significant amount of ups and downs you know after our divorce we got to a point where you realize it's not about us like we we did it we had our opportunity and we're now adults how we choose to live as adults well that's the choice that we make but we're trying to make the best choices so that they have a better life so it's about them when I see somebody making the efforts to make life for them better well then we're on the same page we have the same vision we got the same vision yeah yeah it's not it's not about us at this point it's not about us as a generation at this point it's about us trying our best to do things to create change to move ground shift the gears so that they have a much better opportunity than what we did yeah that's that's the world of the Baton being passed correctly and if you understand that and you have that mindset you approach your day-to-day differently and I do I do have that mindset and it's one thing that I'm very thankful for and through the things that should be problems that were supposed to be problems I've never held on to them long enough and by the way just bringing it back full circle that's a monster that Grudge monster that's a monster that I'm gonna get you back I'm gonna wait you just watch I'ma hold on to that and I'm gonna prove to you or imma show you or I'm not talking to nobody over here that's a monster so you can feel that monster or that monster doesn't have to have an existence in me it's really really interesting hearing that perspective again because you know one one of my favorite lessons that I've learned is that often the thing that's holding you back is something you're holding on to yes it's one of my favorite lessons the idea that something you're that's holding you back is you're holding on to it so whether it's a grudge like you're saying The Grudge monster or a feeling or an emotion or an idea that you're not allowing it to let go when it no longer serves you and being able to walk away from that requires real strength and courage but one of the things that you said about you and your partner your ex-wife that I think is really powerful is that when it's just about us whoever that may be you're either looking at each other or you're looking past each other and what you just said is now we're looking in the same direction when it's the kids and so that switch if you think about any relationship in our life when we think it's just about us when it's not about anyone else you're always going to be against each other but as soon as there's a higher purpose or there's a commitment or there's a value that supersedes that and understanding and understanding yeah an understanding that comes with the world of communication and great dialogue I can you know and having this conversation I can point to so many examples of how it's so hard to see the good if you're only seeing the bad like there's so many people that struggle with with their version of successes because they're looking at someone else's there's so many people that struggle with their world or relationship because they're judging theirs based off of someone else's right and when you're constantly in the space of not realizing or noticing your world your reality because you're living in what appears to be someone else's well your [ __ ] is never gonna be right it's never gonna be right right like if I'm if I'm looking at everybody's relationship with their father and I'm going I want that yeah well I'm not embracing the world of good that came from my dad I could have went down the road that my dad did I could have easily been wrapped into the same world of you know drugs gangs violence stick up boys right like the embracing The Hood At the highest level not that I don't because I do that's where I'm from but I could have I could have embraced it at a much higher level and followed in the footsteps of my father because that's what he did um but I was able to realized the mistakes he made I was able to go I don't want to go down that street because I see the consequences of it that's a choice that I made right some don't make that choice by the way no disrespect to those that haven't it's to each his own um you do what you want based off of who you've seen or what you want to be true too live your life ultimately we get one live it for you live it to the best to the best space in place that you feel you can win at that's my motto I'm not here to tell you right for wrong I'm saying I identify things differently and I make decisions based off of examples that I can look at as not bad but ones that if I didn't have I'm I could have made that mistake yeah so without a lesson that was intentional my dad's giving me lessons yeah right it's not intentional my dad never said I went to jail so he didn't have to yeah you never said that but hey man see you in jail that's my wisdom yeah well that just made me realize I don't want to go there yeah hearing how you talk about it hearing how many times you went well I don't want to go there seeing what drugs did to you and you talking and telling the stories what you lost what you had what you don't well I don't want to do that okay you know I'm gonna embrace my father I'm going to embrace this imperfect human being because I'll be damned if he's not if he's not positioning me for personal success and just understanding what I should and shouldn't do and it seems so logical it seems like common sense but sometimes it's it's not that easy for the son it's not it's not that easy yeah and sometimes what I'm hearing is sometimes the greatest wisdom is unsaid and unintentional right like some sometimes the greatest wisdom is not what someone said to you and sometimes the greatest wisdom is knowing what not to do I think we think of it as like knowledge or learning means someone's telling me what to do and they told me the right thing sometimes it's looking and saying well I know what not to do now and what I'm fascinated doing I think you're going to give people a lot of Hope listening to you today because when you say that you were complacent growing up and I consider you today to probably be one of the hottest working people in entertainment from what I see and observe and when I've watched your interviews or listened to you you work super hard you give it your all you're invested from a mission purpose point of view but hey wait a minute this person says I was complacent growing up and it's never one moment it's never one thing so I don't even want to simplify it with that kind of a question what were the shifts that needed to take place in order for you to go from being complacent to being one of the hottest working people who's committed to something I'm big on just like um logic right and there's this there's this like moment that I had where I I just kept saying why not like why right and uh Russell Westbrook is a good friend of mine I tease him all the time because the the one saying that he has that I I wish I would have had or I wish I I got to First is why not right and it's so genius it's so genius it's so simple but yet so profound you don't just have to have one job and working any job and whether a job is a nine or five or whether it's a you know half a day full day whatever it is you don't just have to do one thing you can do a lot of different things but there's this weird this is weird mindset that a lot of people have that you can only do one thing and when I realized I don't have to just do one thing I can do a lot of different things you can be good at a lot of different things but you don't know that you're good at a lot of different things unless you try a lot of different things and when I looked around and I kind of just realized how the world goes around it's all based off of creativity it's all based off of ideas it's all based off of thought-provoking then groundbreaking opportunities but the simplest things have come from an idea from your chair to your table to your will to your light bulb to your car to your plane to your helicopter to the idea of a hotel from hotels going to a place of people renting out houses and airbnbs to taxis to then people driving their own cars and these are all ideas and the groundbreaking thought that I had in realizing all these ideas is that these ideas have the potential to touch the sky if a person believes that they can if a person believes that they can well your world of idea changes your reason for getting up your reason for putting your feet on the ground every morning it can change if you believe that the purpose that you now have and that you're working towards based off of an idea it's something that you can succeed in I grasp that understanding and I attached it to everything that I tried to do I did not set out to be the actor the director the writer the producer the CEO the chairman the advise I did not set out to do anything things and I'm going to make it very clear I don't have the educational background for any of these things what I had was an idea to try and after you get an idea to try what I had was the patience to sit and listen be a sponge learn figure it out um and figuring it out there was another side of not being okay with the incomplete version of figuring out the thing that I didn't do well why did I go ask all these questions if I'm not going to try it now that I know how yeah all right let me let me try it the only consequence is failure um by the way not trying is failing yeah well I'm gonna make that very clear here not trying it's failing there's a lot of things that people can't do simply because you've never tried to do it and I'm not saying that you should try everything I'm not saying that you're supposed to do everything I'm saying that for me when someone says something and I go now I never did that hmm I have to have a reason for why I've never done it and a justification if you ask me something I go no and you just say why and I go um that's not good enough for me yeah yeah I like to have a reason why and that's that's the foundation that I stand on that's how I built this mindset this this level of energy to go ahead um rhyming reason within my why hmm why not yeah it's the Russ again I love you to death my brother it's the one that got away from me and you're a genius for saying it because it's so simple yeah but yet so profound yeah so everything that I'm doing or that I'm attempting to do is because I started so much and I'm just trying to finish it yeah and I like the fact that I'm 43 and I still got energy behind what it is that I'm trying to do yeah it sounds like it's like where you're going is not as important as who you're growing into for that direction oh my God like the person that you're evolving into the things you have to learn the things you have to be surrounded by and I think that's the part that I get excited about it's like yeah like you said whether you get there whatever there is or not and it's not just the journey and the destination because I think that's the old cliche but what what I'm really hearing from you is the person you grow into the people you surround yourself by in order to reach this big goal that is so fulfilling and that Pursuit is worthy right the pursuit is the happiness it's everything yeah as I have said this before and and you'll hear so many people say it that come from where I've come from the bottom or what's considered to be the bottom we are not stereotypically supposed to be in the rooms that we're in and when we say that there's a there's a level of comfort right we're not supposed to be in these rooms and it's kind of cliche when you say it when you start to get in these rooms you go wow why are we not supposed right like it's it's so amazing when you get to the other side you see the other side and you look back and you just look at what you've grown from the conversations that I'm able to have the knowledge that I'm able to speak with and the understanding I understand not because I'm a trained machine and I spent all of this time prepping for and you know this is this is what the the idea of Education was all based off of no the idea of Discovery enhanced the muscle that made me want for so much more information in the space of life that I chose to love so an entertainment and business the level of failures that I have had that I'm still having in some regard the world of fixing cleaning up making better understanding growing uh relationships building it's there there is nothing more intriguing to me than being able to turn around and look at Kevin at the age 22 and then looking at Kevin at the age 43. this was not the plan what are you talking every day is a new day and every day I found another thing to be excited about every day I found another goal that I decided to attach to my tree and that tree got so many branches on it right now and so many people say you're doing so much or why do you do so much how do you do so much what is the what's the end game what's the goal the game is being in the game right like it's it's being in the game the foundation that I'm trying my best to create I hope and pray that with these four kids that I have that they look at it they see that they understand we just got a shot at something different we got a shot at generational wealth we got a shot a changing the quote-unquote trajectory within our culture of opportunity we got a shot to make this normal once again I'm looking past me I'm looking at I'm looking at the bigger piece of the plan my kids got a bigger shot at breaking ground in making this normal because other kids that looked like us that came from where we come from and that grew up how I grew up we'll now have a different level of Association for what can be achieved if it's based off of what I was able to do I'm igniting a different level of thought a different level of want a different level of motivation and inspiration I'm inspiring at a different level absolutely but I get there and at the last second I miss it and I fall I got there I got there and all that does is show them that they can get there they're not gonna miss and they can go further they can go further they're not gonna miss yeah they're equipped with too much of the weapons I've equipped you along the way with so much so you're prepared for all this war that's coming up here you're not gonna miss that might miss that might fall you're not I love that and the kids coming up from under them they're not gonna miss but you have to have this energy yeah it's bigger than me what's that what's that one mindset that you're trying to pass on to that next generation your kids the kids that come off to that because it sounds like while you were honest and saying look I didn't know I was going to be a writer director or entrepreneur or a CEO I didn't have these I didn't have the education as you said but it sounds like you have some you have the mindset that's very clear we know that but there's some core skills here that it sounds like you've invested in very deeply and that you're trying to pass on if you could narrow them down to one two or three for us what would you say are the skills that you're like this is how I want my kids to be able to operate in this world and that's what they need the best skill that I have developed is the skill of noticing and understanding that nothing is done by one individual no level of success is reached by one person right like this there is a team effort that goes into the smallest moment of success to the largest yeah and the person that wants the rewards and it accolades for it all and it doesn't embrace the world of team and the foundation that stands underneath whatever that thing is is a person that won't last long the thing that I am most thankful for and the thing that I that I'm glad that it has just improved over the course of time is the world of inclusion with the Wii there's no I and and I hope that that's what I'm passing down to my kids is that you know nothing is given everything is earned and for things to be earned correctly you know you you have to surround yourself with people that you can not only earn with but that will support and embrace along the way right I have an amazing team out to my team grows to be the stars of tomorrow from execs to creatives to talent to writers producers directors everybody that's underneath this umbrella of heartbeat of heartbeat ventures of the brands and the brand Partnerships and the space of entertainment and this ecosystem within media that we've created we've flourish because they flourish and knowing that identifying that and trying my best to support that that's the thing that I have had to work on and when we talk about monsters Jay there was a it was an eye monster yeah there was a I need to do it yeah I'm gonna make the call me first I gotta I'm a boat I'm I know everybody move watch out I'm gonna show y'all how to do it I'm gonna take the meeting hit we're not listening to that we're gonna do it my way it was this heavy thing of me I I I I got the way Kevin get out the way and let other people be great they're only going to make this thing greater you're prohibiting that by trying to stand in a moment of of great so that people can look and point at you let other people do the thing that they were brought here to do and while they do it align yourself with them embrace them support them and as they grow we grow yeah that's the thing that I flourish in the most which is why the first thing that I asked you yeah think about it the first thing that I asked you when we're hearing was setting up I said how long have you guys been together yeah that's just me asking because I want to see what the world of your team is yeah and when you say what you say well there's no coincidence that the level of success comes with a relationships that's evolved from day to set date yes it comes with an understanding that comes with a level of community more importantly a want for successful we have it together because we're embracing the world it's not just one I love that you went there man like that there could have been so many ways to answer that question and the fact that you brought it back to being bigger than you I mean that mindset I mean that mind says everything but it's so easily missed because we grow up in a doggy dog Society we grow up in a you versus me I feel like when I speak to people in the entertainment industry as well for years especially if you were a minority or a person of color you were put against the only other person of color absolutely and so it's like there can be only one person of color comedian they can only be one person of color actor right like it's all divided and so you talked about this I already talked about this it was oh wow it's you know Dave Chris myself we're very close yeah and I love seeing that that makes me happy the reason why I was so close is because you know there is no competition we're not we're not competing with one another and you know we all have different level of success that makes sense for for us right like one success has nothing to do with the other yeah and the support the love that we give each other that we Embrace each other with it's it's all done with the understanding that we can all exist at the same time yeah and the conversation of there can only be one is one that we've created as a culture like you know we really do Pit our own against our own right we we really have done it throughout the time and by the way there's nothing wrong with competition there's nothing wrong absolutely with wanting to be the best there's nothing wrong with that conversation but it's it's a conversation that can be had and should be had without the malicious intent behind it right because um ultimately success is success and that's what you're that's what you're in the game for yeah to have some type of level of success that checks the box for you yeah and you know once again if you get to looking across the street and you're looking at what the others are doing over there or you're missing what you've done over here and I I just it's something that I think over the course of time has developed uh it didn't start off like this I definitely was once again and being transparent I was a young comic that was like man when am I gonna get my turn yeah I'm funny I'm funnier than I need that I don't understand oh my God nobody want like you do go through that and rightfully so there's frustration in not knowing or not understanding why my opportunity hasn't or isn't there's frustration in that but there's also a sense of calm that comes in confidence of knowing that you're putting the work in for a reason and that it will pay off yeah and I had to make that change yeah I had to make the change of saying I'm doing work am I showing up every day and am I prepared and if this opportunity does come am I ready for it because there's nothing worse than it comes and I don't have a set I don't have a tight five minutes I don't have a tight 10. I didn't have a 25 minute set oh my God they wanted to clean material I didn't have no clean material there's nothing worse than not being ready oh my God so you know what I'm gonna do I'ma do the work and make sure I'm ready let me go take these acting classes before I even got an acting role I'm sitting a damn acting class I'm spending a little bit of money I got doing one-on-one sessions because I wasn't comfortable being in the class I had to get the space of comfort I don't have any roles I didn't have any auditions yet I'm doing the work so that when I get there I don't have to go backwards and do it yeah I love that mindset I think that is so underrated of are you even ready if the opportunity came knocking are you even ready and two things that I took away from that the first was something you said about you Chris and Dave which and I love hearing about that friendship it's so beautiful to hear about that uh I read something from Bob Iger where he was talking about how at one point Spielberg George Lucas and I think it was Tarantino they would show each other their movies before it went anywhere so they'd sit in this tiny little theater or whatever they'd show each other their movies give each other feedback and then they'd all launch their movies and of course all of those people are you know I mean icons and it's unbelievable because you think they were so confident in who they were and what their style was I mean a Spielberg movie doesn't look like Lucas movie and a Lucas movie doesn't look like a Tarantino movie they were so confident in who they were and what they brought to the table that they could even show their best work I I trust your level of understanding opinion and story in the highest regard that even though we don't share the same love for genre material whatever whatever you want to call it right like uh whether it's sci-fi to drama to action like these are all like you said different people but you know story you know character I trust that you'll be able to watch my project tell me if my characters are easy to track and if you care and if you don't care I also trust that you'll be able to tell me why you felt you didn't I also feel that in the space of solution you're not going to throw things at me that are not doable you're gonna know the context of what I have that I'm working with what's left on The Cutting Room floor what I can possibly do to do reshoots everything that you're going to tell me is within regards of having my best interest that's confidence that's also a strong relationship and a friendship that along the Journey of success as we've all gotten to the top of this mountain we understand that your stance on your Mountain has nothing to do with mines Dave Chappelle has made me and Chris Rock feel stupid at times when it comes to our choice of material we have watched Dave in our earlier uh stages of just working on our set and we would spend time with the seller and one would come and we would all go and Dave would go up and me and Chris just went up and we're happy about our material we're giving each other notes we watched Dave there's been times we have looked at each other and we balled our papers up and said we got to start over we got to start over yeah not because of of jealousy or Envy no because we challenge each other and we we we spark and amp the world of like we want the best for not only each other but for ourselves yeah and and you inspire me and you encourage me and I love the report that we have because we do exactly the same thing yeah I think my hour is ready I want you to come see me Kristen what you think yeah Kev I like it but I still think you can Kev come see me I'm doing an hour and 40 right now hour 40. yeah yeah tell me what you think I'm probably gonna trim 20 out of it I like where it is all right I'm coming Dave what's up come to Ohio you don't like what I'm working on I want your eyes all right like this that's a that's a strong relationship and it's one that I embrace um and I celebrate it often man I celebrated often I think it's very important for people to see other entertainers at this level just simply celebrate each other's success I love it whether it's rappers singers actors actresses comedians writers directors whoever I love to see a room where people are in it and they're celebrating one another mm-hmm we're all a part of a fraternity and you know if we treat it right that fraternity will have an amazing stance forever yeah right like you don't want to attach bad stories to it if we don't have to yeah and I think that's the most inspiring thing for the kids because when I think about younger Generations if you grew up watching your favorite people and you knew they were all friends how does that change the game now because if you're seeing your favorite people fight each other and battle it out for the crown what are you going to do with the person sitting right next to you at school and I think that's I saw that so much growing up where I've always wanted to connect with people regardless of what we do in this space but you saw so many people who are coming at it from the perspective of let's see who does better let's see who does more and again I love what you said competition's not a bad thing let's not give it a bad name but the idea that we've got to be able to hold two truths we can compete and still be friends still be friends and and I think people would be friends yeah you have to choose but yeah you know there was a time um where the uh the USA men's swim team the Olympic team this team was just so Elite and this is in phelps's like yeah Phelps was Phelps a human fish right but when you look at a lot and you look at the other men that were competing on that team and he looked at the world of competition between them themselves those practices were more than just practices the the world of training before the Olympics and the battles that took place in those pools where they got ready and they were by each other's side every single day when I tell you that atmosphere is one that nobody else can understand except the ones that are competing to be great by the way at the end of every practice they would get out and shake each other's hands without me being here I'm willing to bet and say good when you push me today you kick my ass today hey tomorrow man I'ma see if I can lower my time I'm not happy with my 200. I'll go I'll do it with you I'll push you hey my back stroke is whatever hey you know what today uh on those 50s we did the Reps you seemed like you got stronger along the way well I saw you next to me that motivation that motivation that you're pulling from being alongside of somebody that's quote unquote the best or or the quote-unquote greatest you're using that as fuel that's not bad but not in one interview did you ever see them have any type of Rapport that looked as if there was animosity or anger towards one's success the happiest people for Michael Phelps were the people on this team the happiest people were the people that that got the silver that were on his team yeah that to me feet that's the mold in the making of real champions right yeah that's the mold in the making like if if you're in it and you have said this is what I'm destined to do and I'm gonna give my all and every day I show up with a hundred percent regardless of the outcome I'm showing up with a hundred percent that day Gonna Come whenever it comes I'm Gonna Be Ready It's Gonna Come I'm gonna get my just doing my fulfilling my fulfilling like need and energy and want for knowing that I have just delivered for myself that's what I compete with that's why I look at the mirror yeah sometimes I let myself down because the thing that I'm trying to do I should know I can't redo yeah sometimes I'm chasing the thing that can't be redone again sometimes the lightning in the bottle strikes once you're not going to get that again there's times where I'm so hard on myself that I miss the moments of success that I should realize that I'm having yeah because I'm chasing this thing yeah it's a time where I was doing two shows and Arenas a night four shows in the city and arenas as a comedian go back on tour the next one I only do two shows oh my God I'm falling off what's happening no sold out six seven shows Madison Square Garden what I feel bad cause I didn't do it again that ain't gonna happen again that was lightning in the bottle you gotta get to a place of understanding and realization but once again it's the monsters man yeah it's the monsters it's uh it's the monsters yeah you talk about this in the audiobook and I loved it it was all about the addiction to number one yeah it's this this idea and you'll love this there was a study that I saw that said because you brought up the Olympics it spot my brain there's a study that I saw that said people who win bronze are happier than people who win silver because the people who came second were this close to First oh my God yeah but the person who came third they they were happy they were like we weren't gonna get first but we got in we got on the podium and it's that Podium syndrome of at least we got on but the second the person in silver they are mad at themselves yeah because they didn't get number one yeah and so that addiction to number one is so strong it's a bigger addiction when there's multiple versions of it yeah I'm guilty of the multiple like okay I need it got a movie coming out moving on the box so I need it I need number one I don't get number one I'm gonna fail like it failed you flop I don't get number one over five it's a flop I gotta get him one yeah it's one or a floor there's no in between yeah it's one or five like I've always kind of one it's got to be number one yeah what happens is you're you're so you're so unrealistic in expectations and you're missing real success now I've been fortunate and blessed enough to have a uh a ton of them but I got to a place where the the wind was attached to the project the wind was attached to me finishing a movie and being happy about the movie that I did union workers are happy and a director coming out with the finished piece of the product going you're gonna like this and we see it we actually like it and then we screen it for fans and fans go we loved that's the win yeah that's the win this this other thing and I'm trying to control Kev stop you can't control that and and if you keep on going in the direction that you're going in if and when that thing changes you're going to be so hurt that the world of recovery might not be easy for you your logic and what you're now deeming as like reality for you it's not reality yeah if you don't grasp the real concept of what it should be now it doesn't mean that you're saying that you are ready to fail it's saying be prepared for the world of real to present itself at any point in time don't get caught up in the world of fake and me acting as if I control these numbers is if I can navigate and direct and and and make it happen when and how I want all the time I'm setting myself up so you know what I'm gonna do I'm gonna check myself now yeah let me balance it out now huge what are you doing I love what I do all right well then let's be happy in what we do I talked to David Letterman on uh my my comedy podcast so I come to gold mines and Letterman said he was so dark at one point because all he did was show up and he looked at the numbers between him and the other shows every day God that's painful every day my Instagram numbers he said every day I got there and I looked at it and and I would my team you're not working hard enough and I was so hard he said I'm so hard on people and when you hear them talk love David by the way I don't know the Lettermen of old that some people ran into I know the Lettermen of now and he's so transparent the information and how he talks and what he's overcome his stories were just it was so good to hear because when you hear people that are openly telling you you can't do this you can't operate like this because it eats away at you it eats away it made me realize I did go through a piece of that I just was able to catch mine early and in the worry of like we might fail we risk being open to being broken right like that's the risk like you don't want to go down but you don't realize that if you're not prepared for that down the down is going to be far worse it's gonna be far worse man yeah we have had a live example of a lot of those Downs right like with in real time we're watching I called The Truman Show uh and for everybody listening to your podcast if you're not familiar with The Truman Show it's a it's a Jim Carrey movie but basically you know people's lives it's the movie yeah right we're watching we're watching real live movies every single day and you're watching people make mistakes recover from mistakes not recover from mistakes make rights instead of lefts lefts instead of Rights and seeing that we choose to ignore it as if it's not real life yeah yeah yeah we choose to ignore it because it feels like it's TV and the biggest drug the biggest drug it's not cocaine it's not heroin it's not uh Molly or opioids and the biggest drug is Fame and now it's more accessible and different doses it's the biggest drug and the reason why it's the biggest drug because it's a drug that makes you feel like you are powerful and like everywhere you go anything you want everything you want it's it's a thing and if you can't handle this thing the consequence is attached yeah to when that thing is removed are severe nobody prepares you for the world of Fame there is no handbook there is no outline there is no guide by guide step one to step ten there's nothing you get it and yesterday you weren't and today you are and tomorrow you're not what no we're done people get shell shocked that to me has always been the point of no return yeah at the end of the day this can wear off if and when however sees or decides in if that were to happen well what am I where am I it's all gonna it's all going to send it back to are you happy with who you are and what you did are you at a point where you are okay do you know you and are you okay with you if you are not it'll break you your energy is incredible and and just the depth what I love about this and this was my vision with the show and you're helping me achieve that which I'm very grateful for is I don't think and I love that you've been doing this more and more with the audible with hot to hot like we're getting to see your depth we're getting to see the Mind behind you again as we said earlier we like to limit people we like to limit people into like you just be a comedian or you just be a race car driver or you just be a actor and it's like we're starting to realize that like you said you're not just watching someone's life on TV there's a human here there's there's a story here and we're getting that with you do you think it was was this something was this an epiphany that you had before the accident or was it that this really because in your audible when you talk about like how when it's just silent you figure out what really matters like when I heard that I was just thinking like our near-death experiences you were told when you came out of it you should be dead and you're like well I don't remember anything does that feel like that was a moment that there is a massive Awakening or were you already kind of working with some of this no I I had a I was always a transparent and authentic person but yeah you definitely change that's what right you you definitely changed and by the way still changing I'm not sitting in front of us yes to flawed man like I I am my dad's child and my my mother's child as well there's nothing more humbling than a quiet room there's nothing more humbling than the realization of what is really like necessary what you take for granted and what we don't think twice about is not until that's compromised that the true appreciation for life I feel like can sometimes be had I don't want to speak for everybody because I think there are some people that truly do get it and that truly do think whatever their space um or version of a higher power is daily for life and for what they do you know I believe in God so I'm I'm not as spiritual as some may be but I'm very thankful for the life that God has allowed me to to live and the opportunities that I've been able to Embark upon but I got a lot more appreciation after life was almost gone right like do you really appreciate your toes do you really appreciates your fingers like you really think about your movement your joints Vision smell you really think about how fortunate and and lucky you are it's the only time where I get a little where I slow up right and when when I'm slowing up is because the reality of that was significant I really almost died my kids and all that like what as I'm moving so fast I didn't even have everything dialed up for if said thing were to happen what what oh cause I'm I'm out here I'm just roaming I'm out here aimlessly living and I'm moving so fast I've yet to grasp the true Concept in reality a responsibility immediately let me get my responsibilities in order because if that had have been it would have been a lot of people with their hands up as to what how when Fame is great the lights are great have a heart can my heart give a heart number one one of one that was in that room with my goddamn wife my brother my kids you look around you got a lot of friends you got a lot of people that love you but then you start well what really matters that's when my mindset started to change that's when you go okay my approach to just me and working on me it needs to be different I've contradicted myself a lot since you know I want to slow down I'm gonna make sure I get my family more time I have that doesn't mean that there can't be more [Music] the day-to-day Battle of am I giving enough am I that's you know how much dad loves you I'm here I'm like you know always working to make sure do more but is it enough my workaholic okay but that's not a bad thing because I'm you love the word yes you do that's a passion you get you got something that you go after every day that is a driving source for me I'm not in the business of letting that go but boy you better put your hands on these people and make sure you better make sure that you are giving the time that you said you would when you were in that time of Silence okay all right I'm constantly talking to myself I have these conversations all the time that's the beauty of taking my little runs the beauty of working out being in the gym you talk to yourself you better talk to yourself you better have conversations figure out a yin and yang of good and bad for me it was about personal involvement after that accident and still trying man it's the biggest battle it's the big the biggest battle is just doing right all the time that's a battle and knowing you're gonna get it wrong that's a battle man when I go to a restaurant and they bring out a plate the waiters say it all the time don't touch that plate to play Hot you know what I do Jay you know what I say after I touch it it wasn't hot yeah they told me not to touch the plate yeah he said it's hot yeah but I still gotta I still gotta go untouch the plate anyway it's a battle so being okay with understanding that I'm going to lose and win in this battle and this battle is not over until the day I'm in the ground because you're not gonna get it right nope you're not gonna get it right and there's people with this idea and his mindset and mentality they're going to get it right and everything's gonna be perfect it's not don't play that perfect game because all you will do is get let down because Perfection does not exist I do firmly stand on that and believe that it doesn't exist man you should try your hardest to get things right in moments where you got them wrong figure out how to never get them wrong again that's the that's the world of compromise that's the world of growth that's the world of evolvement um I mean I got a teenage daughter nobody prepared me for the world of you know like you talking about gotta get it right are we talking enough am I loving enough am I present am I listening am I just delegating am I parenting am I your friend am I there's so much yes so much teenage son little ones I mean my wife it's a constant battle of energy and as a guy who is an output right and I don't complain about that output but those that I'm taking in from I just gotta I gotta make sure that I'm receiving that and that I'm not moving too fast I'm not making the most of those moments and that's this level of Consciousness I did not have before the accident I was I was a thousand miles per hour and not that I'm not still moving fast but I look at my peripheral yeah I'm looking at my rear view mirrors slowing down I'm stopping I'm sleeping you know what I mean like I'm there is a difference I know there's a difference but it's still a battle yeah it's still a battle it's still a battle Yeah I love that you describe it like a battle because what you just described is exactly the practice we have to have every day which is you have to revisit how do I get it right today there isn't a day where now you just get it right from now till the end of time it's revisiting that every day saying I'm recommitting to this I'm going to be a good dad today right you don't get to make a decision to be a good dad in 10 years you have to do today and then you do tomorrow and and I think that what's what's really interesting the reason why I asked that question too was because I think memory is such an interesting thing sometimes when something big happens to us we feel the shift that this is going to change how I think and then all of a sudden when things go back to normality it can sometimes feel as if it never happened but it sounds like for you you've really used it as an anchor well I did yeah you've used it it's even when you say like you said like I'm going to be a good dad today yeah right you can only try your best try your best yeah to do that ultimately just because you say you're a good dad don't make you a good dad no of course not don't you say you're a good boss to me you're a good boss I can say it every day I can think I'm doing it but if on the opposite side if I'm viewed differently well that will be because I'm doing something wrong and I'm not aware what I now do is make sure that I'm looking at things through both lenses it's not a one-sided POV I love that it's not it's not just my perception of what I'm doing and how everybody else should see it yeah and doing that the the way that I try my best to back up the the hope of me be being perceived as that is about putting a true work in to be that yeah yeah making sure that I'm really engaged with the other people making sure there's a rapport that there's energy um and you know the wife and kids the same thing making sure that there's a rapport that there's you know I'm asking the questions and I'm getting the answers but I'm I'm asking for things so I can get the proper feedback so that if I do need to adjust or if I do need to fix at least I'm aware um operating um with the assumption that you are or that you're doing it can be a a crutch like it can be it can be a bad thing if I'm operating with the Assumption because one day you'll wake up and they'll go you know I never liked win or we're acting as a problem for me for all these years was when you and then you just go I never knew you never said nothing yeah and sometimes people don't want to say anything sometimes people don't know how to say anything so the world of dialogue communication and just openness is what I think I've gotten better at yeah over the time but once again what it's a it's a constant space of Improvement yeah you're constantly trying to improve yeah and that's and that's that is the only way it can be there is no other alternative and there's a beautiful conversation between the Buddha and a student that I love and the student approaches the Buddha and says what's the difference between I like you and I love you and the Buddha says when you like a flower you simply pluck it but when you love a flower you water it every day and I'm like that to me is what you're describing that when I love my kids I have to be trying every day to understand from their point of view the flower is going to show you whether you're watering or not it's gonna die it's gonna will it's gonna not bloom or whatever it may be and I feel like you've got to be so in tune with yourself and someone else in order to sense that but I I know what you're saying is true true and I really do recommend this to anyone who's a big fan of Kevin's as I am please do go listen to the audiobook because monsters and how to tame them I mean I have never heard someone be as open and transparent as you are in it and you're so open about all your flaws and there's one thing that you say here that again just I was like I have to talk to you about this because it was just it stuck with me and you talk about it and you say you know and you're just talking about the fame and that's that's where the idea came for you just talk about how Fame makes you feel invincible and then when you talk about getting caught cheating and you're like I was in that frame of mind where I was like it can't happen to me right it's not possible and then you open about it so raw and in my head I'm thinking what is it about the monster that gets you to do things even that are against your own values right like the monster gets so strong that you go as far as that and when you get caught you go that was an Awakening but it still doesn't wake you up fully right there's there's a limitation so walk us through that well I mean look you're talking about Fame you're talking about power right and that idea of invincible once again this is a this is a thing that a very small percentage of people are going to be able to experience or understand right and it's very easy from the outside looking in to go or how or I don't believe or how can right um but from the other side not that it's right first of all wrong is wrong you're never gonna hear me try to justify or excuse wrong is wrong but in being wrong sometimes comes with a world of situation the world of opportunity right if you constantly around bad apples and you hungry and people keep saying don't eat these apples some people are going to be able to hold off but you have some people that are going to pick up that apple and bite it it's not right it's not something that's justifiable to some what's the worst is going to happen I'ma eat it and then what I'll probably be sick for a second and I'll throw up and then I'll be fine well that Apple killed you but your way of looking at it in that moment I'll be fine the idea that comes with that level of success and that comes with opportunity based on situation is one that you look at is I'd be fine it's easy it's nothing but um it's not to your hand is in the pot and you get burned or caught or whatever you know that you got to sit down and then you got to think about it you gotta you gotta look at it and then you realize the layers that are attached to it and that's when the life-changing side of thought happens right and then it becomes about you or how you look at yourself how do you view yourself and what do you expect from yourself right it's not it's bigger than just the partner of course that you want to respect it's also about you and how you want to be viewed at that point like what what's important where where are you at where are you at with with you in that mirror you get to look into that mirror you know if you all right but what you're looking at and you're fine flawed and all and all right yeah getting older put you in a position to where you just start to look at yourself and you're talking about the complete finished product that is and will be you those are the moments that you just got to do your best to not only overcome but just get by yeah and and you know once again it's a battle Yeah right marriage love you got to learn it and at a young age when you're embedded into it you're not going to get it right you got to learn it it's unfortunate how the lessons come from whichever side however it happens but when learned or when taken as serious as it can be of course you reap the benefits and you see how amazing it is but you know I I wasn't that smart and I'm not going to act as if I was and that's from my first marriage to that it's is it is it hard to forgiving yourself or is it harder asking for forgiveness I think it's I can be hard on myself I can stand in the fire having another person do it that's where it gets tough right like you throw rocks at me all day when the other person is in there I think that's that's a different level and the mistakes that I've made in my life the biggest side of consequence has always been the effect that it's had on others I'll figure it out and do my best to evolve and grow and however that has to happen with me but I can't dictate hmm how you would receive and how you would handle or how you would do so you know watching other people hurt that's never good I think that would be ever the toughest side of it yeah right that's a really thoughtful on somebody yeah I I feel like that's that genuine Compassionate Heart saying I know I can figure my way out but why would I put someone in a situation where they have to figure it out for themselves it was someone was reading me a quote the other day and it was like saying how I think it was Nietzsche who was saying I wish pain and suffering on anyone because that's what helps them grow and I was like hold up a second yeah I was like I was like I would not wish Jesus I was like yeah it was someone really out to me and I was like I was like I can't subscribe to that I was like that's a lot it was a lot I was like I can't you can't wish pain and suffering on anyone because even though we know you grow through tough things and you've grown through so many tough things that were not your choice and then some things that were your choice but we shouldn't expect that other people can navigate those situations it's good when you say like you know the choices that you make right yeah um and because of our times today the world of what one does or has done is Amplified because we're in a position where everybody can have an opinion and there's a space to voice set a pen right I'm going to dumb it down and I'm going to go to the lowest level right now when people do some of the dumbest mistakes from crime death and Fidelity cheating all of the gold go all around who has vetted out the consequences nobody has sat in vetted out the consequences right everybody just robbed a bank as attempted to rob a bank because they found it to be a very easy thing because I'm going here 12 o'clock that man go on break but he gonna break I'm gonna go in there and while he on break I'm gonna get the money and we're gonna come out all we gotta do is get back before he get back from lunch yeah and we we got it and they go in we're out of the bank the alarms go off ain't blow up on the money they don't know nothing they get locked up and they say something crazy like yo I ain't wanna I mean to do this and the world goes what you mean I mean to do it you rob the bank no some people are that some thoughts yeah are that simplistic yes yes some actions are just that stupid and they're not thought out but everything is not that deep everything did not have that many layers to the mistake when a mistake happened yeah yeah yeah I'm grounded in the world of reality everything that I have done in my mind I attached a piece of logic and made it made sense to me yeah that's it you can make anything make sense to you if you wanted to sometimes it's not until consequences present themselves that you realize the idiotic way to thinking or the idiotic approach to what you feel you can do the bigger than a world like mentality humbling is something that has to happen yeah you can either welcome it or not but we're all privy to it mines is Cam and and different doses shapes and sizes man uh but I just don't I don't want to say I don't like I think the thing that like it just you have to shake your head it's not even worth the battle in conversation it's simple yeah it's not yeah it's not deeply thought through it's just not deeply thought through I was watching Biden there's a clip of Biden what Byron says and this is I've probably watched this clip I'm not into politics at all Biden goes I got something important I want to say in the whole world needs to hear it I need everybody to listen right now and he takes a beat he goes I forget it the president of the United States nobody didn't mean to do that yeah if I didn't even go up there and say I'm gonna set up I've got the best joke in the world and and in the middle of it goes yeah it's something later that he went and watched God I'm sorry and he apologized yeah I'm sorry I know I know yeah I know guys I don't know yeah I'm sorry like he didn't mean it yeah yeah he didn't plan it I hope I hope my way of making my point make sense yeah it makes sense I hope I hope that I'm uh articulating you right correctly I'm saying that I'm related there's no excuses there there should never be any excuses yeah wrong is wrong problems are forever I'm saying that I don't like it when people tell you how you thought about something and you go wasn't that I didn't even it wasn't that yeah nope I just I kind of just I just walked down there I didn't even know that it was yeah do you think you just walked yeah did you get out the bed did you put on those boots on purpose yeah nope I just there's actually no I didn't that's not what I did it's like yeah I don't like that yeah some thoughts are not that deep in that layer yeah that's that's the difference I found between being critical and being a critical thinker everyone's critical today where it's just we try and find the floor and what you're encouraging through this book through your work and what we're encouraging here on this platform is critical thinking let's be open to the fact it could be really basic it could be really deep it could be somewhere in between and most likely you have no idea because you're not that person right you didn't do that you didn't have to live through that it's a very slippery slope to go down when you talk about it because like I said you're in a time yeah everybody knows everything everybody's the smartest person in the room today yeah and I said that's an amazing thing to me like yeah everybody's right all the time yeah you're telling me nobody's wrong today two three four six XYZ yeah everybody do you understand we're in a time where everybody's right everybody knows everything everybody is the smartest person in the world I call them the best coaches that have never won a championship people don't think about that enough yeah the coaches understand I mean it's something that we're eventually going to have to get out of yeah the world of anxiety and mental health is at the highest level just that it's ever been it's on the front page I wasn't aware of mental health at the at the level that it is uh pre-pandemic I had no idea that existed at the level and that so many people suffered I had no idea about the battles of real depression or real day-to-day I had no idea but what that time did it put it on the Forefront and you get to see how people are truly battling battling on a day-to-day based off of perception doubt and how they feel based off of what I think you think like yeah yeah yeah that's a scary thing scary thing it's a scary thing and you know I can I can only be transparent and authentic in hopes that people will find it is what it is man yeah be you unapologetically and as you are correcting or fixing or evolving in you understanding you got a dope thing to look back at and that's the old you versus the new attempt in who you are trying to be that to me is beautiful every piece of art that I look at that I love that I embrace there's nothing better than looking at it from the start yeah yeah yeah what does it start out as yeah every house that gets built what did it start out as yeah every Carter gets built what does it start out as clothes that we wear what was the design in the beginning everything has stages of growth why in today's time are we forgetting that why are we forgetting that and expecting an immediate space of perfection I didn't know the babies come out the womb and know it all off the back I thought they have to be taught the way that we're talking today that's tough yeah it's tough yeah so I try my best to remove myself from as much as I can I try myself to act as a aid for laughter Happiness joy and I can only hope that the conversation attached to my name will be one of good I can't control it if it is great man if it isn't I tried that's where I'm at yeah that's what my mind said today well when I when I listened to your audiobook which I felt was a very intimate take on you as a human not as an Entertainer I can honestly say that I walked away from it saying to my friends and people that I speak to going you know what Kevin didn't have to do that that's how I felt when I listened to you I was like Kevin didn't have to do that like he's successful he's winning he's great what he does he didn't have to create anything to talk about his flaws like you just didn't have to do that and to me that's why I was respect and admire you because when I heard that I was like well if he's happy to go then he's happy to talk about how these monsters never die and he's happy to talk about how he's still dealing with them I find it to be some of your most meaningful work at least in the work I do of course and I don't want to feed your approval months to read them but you know like I I really feel that way like what I really feel that way there's a place that you get to in life right when you start to you started like what did I do yeah hey what did I do right like what's and it doesn't mean like you healed the world or you you know changed World created this you have something like this I'm not I'm not saying it for those answers but for you like the question of like what did I do and I'm at a place where okay outside of the success in the fame was like what am I what do I want what am I doing right and the information that I now have the opportunity to give like the information if nothing else the information if you really want to have impact and you want to try to position yourself to help create the opportunities for change uh financial literacy in the black community not understanding banking haven't known it my alignment would Chase and and well JP Morgan my but my why there's a y attached to it okay I'm this is a reason I got I got something bigger than my famous success I okay this is a passion yes and something that we're trying to correct okay in the space of inspiration motivation there's a passion attached to me trying to Simply Inspire and motivate those that just simply aren't getting motivating messages on a day-to-day because some households just don't do it some may not have the households that do it I didn't grow up in a mom and dad the dinner every night the uh family prayer at the table I didn't have that I don't that's not my life there's other people that do have it there's some people that just this diminary mom them and their dad some people don't have anybody whatever that thing is you don't know who's pulling from what to try to get to where like you we have no idea so if I can now act as a Aid that is giving you nothing but verbal Warfare attached to truth and authenticity if I'm giving you an adults and gems that are attached to a real life concept like this isn't it's not made up I'm giving you simple information based off of me and my battles I just told you there's no handbook for fame yet still I'm giving you in some way shape or form yeah something that can be camouflaged as an example of how I had to handle a just deal I have an opportunity to have an on season and off season yeah my on season is movies maybe a stand-up comedy tour maybe not my off season I can go and I can I can be a speaker at I can talk to companies about I can go to uh said conventions and give X Y and Z uh that's used to Simply amplify motivate Inspire whatever those things are once again I'm creating another door attached to a piece of passion that I discovered I discovered this I didn't set out to do it I discovered it and those that I see doing it you know when will right now Will Smith good friend of mine you know Will's book had a tremendous amount of success will sold a million books it's not just because of the Will Smith Factor Will Smith is telling you the truth hey man you guys got the glitz and glamor of gold from the perception that I gave you without ever really pulling the veil back to show you everything else that was back here I can't hold it no more I was in this business for 30 years or whatever I cannot I don't want to get to that point so I do it all the time it's still going you're still working but I promise you there's a person that will listen to this that will understand it and that will go you know what man shouldn't be afraid to be who you are if I can embody and embed the space of confidence for others to make people understand how dope it is to Simply believe that you can do whatever you put your mind to if I can help and just giving you that push I did my part self-confidence and belief that's how dreams get met self-confidence and belief that's how you check off goals that's how you march towards whatever your versions of success are where the sprinkle of that humility that's it yeah Kevin it has been such a joy talking to you today man we end with five fast questions these have to be answered in one sentence 143 pounds sorry sorry one sentence one sentence only for each answer all right Kevin Hart these are your final five question one what is the best advice you've ever received don't be local Chris Rock yeah do not be a local comedian love that make the world laugh uh second question what is the worst advice you've ever received or heard worst advice I've ever received or heard is sometimes you got to make a studio respect you you said don't give long answers after so I'll summarize I I want to know yeah it was based on what I know it was based off of you know after you get to a place in acting when you become number one on the call sheet if a studio isn't doing things to your liking well you know sometimes you gotta not show up and the reason why I say that's the worst advice that I've ever received I'm a straightforward businessman and always have been and the world of negotiation can be simplified it doesn't have to be the game of back and forth from True War right so being in a room and having a face-to-face conversation with Foundation of understanding of what you want versus what I want you can succeed a lot more and I've never not done that yeah all opportunities all business all relationships have flourished because of an understanding of communication that I've done in the room uh whether it be my team studio studio me my team um that that to me has has allowed me to achieve much more success than allowing other people to talk for me and other things to be elongated and go on and on and you end up with a perceptionist not of you yeah that's created based off of the idea of what people think you are because of the way that you've handled business and what's great about that is it breaks the pattern so that other Talent don't get that same advice absolutely then it keeps perpetuating the pattern and now 25 years from now your kids having to deal with it because that was the patent that you continued and set so yeah I love that uh question number three how would you define your current purpose my current purpose is about embracing the world of we and making the we bigger than the idea of me um and that's that's for anybody in the position of you know whatever your version of star or success is it's it's embracing the world of we making other people feel like they can uh creating opportunities you know changing the economy by by uh broadening your businesses and and more jobs more opportunities Etc we right more further how do we have more success more wins question number four what's something you used to value that you don't value anymore the world of approval that you can't control I can't control what the world thinks or what people thinks and I thought that I could I thought that I could do everything to show you that I'm a good guy nice guy trying to do that because that's naturally what you are who you are and you want people to know that but you can't control that like yeah you can't control it so uh one thing that I do not need is the idea or understanding that everybody loves you yeah right I don't I don't need that and and once upon a time I thought that I did there was a fear of what people don't like me why would I do I didn't do it yeah and that's not that's not the case anymore that's incredible all right Fifth and final question we asked this to every guest if you could create one law that everyone in the world had to follow what would it be Practice What You Preach that's a great look pretty simple yeah practice be a definition of what you preach right it's easy it's easy to have words it's easy to say it's harder to do yeah I would love to to see a world of more doers and Sayers everyone Kevin Hart I know you already watched the movies already watched the specials keep doing that but please do not miss out on what's going on Inside the Mind of of this human and don't miss out on everything else that's happening around building this mindset of we I want you to show Kevin a lot of love from our on-purpose community please tag us on whatever social media platform you use sharing the greatest moments insights nuggets of wisdom from Kevin there was so many great gems that he dropped today I want to make sure that you screenshot the episode share it everywhere that you share and make sure that we see that because I love seeing the ideas that resonate with you that stick with you but most importantly the ones you apply the ones you practice the ones you put into your own reality and start seeing changes in your life Uh Kevin thank you for being such a generous guest such a present guest I felt every question I've asked you have felt your presence have felt your energy and you've just brought it tonight man and I'm so grateful to you and that was so special and beautiful I hope you'll come back hey man I want to say thank you and that you've created such an amazing environment of comfort uh community and you just speaking to your community the way that you do you build something amazing and you know when I'm talking about being in a space of trying to motivate Inspire or or push however I can you know you do it now on a daily people come here and they're leaving with a sense of feel good so congrats again man but I hope you truly understand like the real work that you're doing and that you've done and the guess that you get here they're coming here for a reason because we too are listening to you and we're we're taking away antidotes like um your mindset your perspective as a man watching you uh as a husband with your kids like you as men we pull from that right you find energy and motivation to seeing people do it correctly so uh please continue to be the example that you are and and put your life on display at the level you do man um the right people are watching and I hope that you continue to get the response that you're doing well I'm Gonna Keep coming to you and I need help too so just just know that but I appreciate it coming from you man very empowering honestly very empowering I mean it I mean everywhere man if you want this one make sure you subscribe and click on the boxes over here I'm also excited to let you know that you can now get my book think like a monk from think like a monkbook.com check Below in the description to make sure you order today

Channel: Jay Shetty Podcast

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Length: 96min 12sec (5772 seconds)

Published: Mon Jan 09 2023