Iyanla Vanzant Speaks On Dealing With Abusive Relationships And Reflecting On Her Journey + More

[Music] what's up it's way up with Angela y I'm Angela Y and Jasmine brand is here with me yes oh and we have the amazing Ayana VanZant here with us and listen listen I know that season two of your podcast um is starting and the first topic is about selfworth yes and we were kind of just talking about that now yeah you know talking about as a public person when people make up that you're rich and that you can come work for them for free and do what they want you to do for free and first of all they don't I have lots of things to do with my money I have 10 grandchildren two great grandchildren and I'm old not old not old yes I'm old I'm older okay I didn't age I just got older you're litter L okay how do you decide how do you decide you know when to say yes when to say no when something is asked of you for free for free well if it if it's a topic or an issue that really matters to me it can't cost me meaning you got to get me there you got to feed me you got to provide me Transportation can't cost me but I won't charge you okay the other thing is if if it's a subject matter that really matters to me uh so okay if it's a thing a subject matter that really matters to me also if it's something near to my heart uh I'll do it and um if it's going to promote something I care about okay right you have the podcast new series so you might say okay this is a good time for me to do this I'll do the jib Kimmel show tonight for free because I can promote my podcast I'll do the Angela show today thank you so much you know but somebody told me um one time they they were reading a book and they said if something you should try this if something uh somebody asked you to do something and you don't automatically think yes then say no and she was like just try to do that for a few months because I feel like I've been just kind of all over the place I just got my real estate license and so I'm like okay I want to focus on this but I also have my coffee company and I have the coffee shop I'm expanding that business there's a lot going on and sometimes that doesn't bring in money so there's a lot of things I end up doing just because I want to promote other things that I have there's a balance but that's your choice right the thing that I learned is it doesn't honor me to give away my time it doesn't honor me right unless I'm supporting you know if you're a nonprofit you're doing something that I care about and me being there is going to bring you in people and that matters to me then I'll do that but it doesn't honor me for you to sell tickets with my name on it or call people for and and I don't make any money right time is money no you're right about that so Angela sometimes you got to say it does not honor me no she thinks I I say yes to too many things that I shouldn't now I want to ask you this cuz you said this new season is going to be focused on men yes right when it comes to relationships I did a podcast last night shout out to math huffa my expert opinion and the guy it was me and it was all guys on this podcast and just hearing people's conversations about relationships and uh the men in the room were saying that sometimes they don't feel safe expressing um themselves around women being able to be vulnerable because there's an expectation that you're supposed to have certain things even that list of restaurants they talked about that that women said that they won't go to on a date on a first date I know I I love the Cheesecake Factory that's what I said I love those little corn things and I like Applebees and the movies because I think the movies was on there and I said that's kind of a go together remember it used to be like you go to the movies and then you get like a coupon for Apple what I've never heard of that and they also said cuz I said I wouldn't have a problem using a coupon on a date but they said guys should not ever we talk bad about it I think they were talking about first date first dat so okay I'd be a little lary of a coupon first date first first kind of early no see in my age he need coupon y get discounts already you don't need no but ay to to Angela's question I know this this is this season is going to talk about men what do you think is the biggest issue you find between men and women in relationships what's one of the bigger ones you you keep hearing about well I don't know if it's between men and women none of us men or women we haven't been trained we don't have the skills and the tools required to really sustain and maintain relationships in the way the world is today so many things have changed but the other thing is men are just not emotionally solid they're not they haven't done the work a lot of them were raised by mothers who were not emotionally solid sorry moms I raised a son too A lot of them have been traumatized and never taught how to process it and so they're not safe and you know women to they are a lot more uh aggressive in our approach to life in general right and and we've done more work than them so we have some things that are solid that they don't and and and they've got to catch up now what do you mean by um we're more aggressive women today and why do you think that is well oh Lord help me this okay listen you know how you get down come on it to us you know say it beloved we we have become what I call men in skirts we are so aggressive so demanding so uh unaware really we think we got it going on but women really aren't aware of their power because our power as women is silent if you really know what you're doing you can work a room [Applause] yeah I you think I'm I've been told I'm bossy yeah in relationship we are we are because I think we've been left alone and up to our own devices for too long I find women to be mean as hell I'm sorry really oh my gosh am I mean oh yes jine are you mean a little bit yeah you might be a little bit we're mean I'm more I'm more straight I mean I'm more you're more passive you'll be mean on the inside and not say and I'll say Hey or uh but see I'm an alpha woman so I'm a I'm I'm straightforward too yeah I'm in your face and on your world but I'm not mean okay are do are you aggressive no I'm assertive I'm not aggressive what's the difference well first of all your intention okay and assertiveness it's about dominion and accomplishing a particular thing and aggressive it's about control and getting what you're going for okay and there's a difference one comes from the head one comes from the heart assertion comes from the heart aggression comes from the head and it's ego in control and women today I find uh certain generations of women today are extremely aggressive unkind unloving and mean as hell oh gosh see I'm very much an empath I think because sometimes there'll be things that I'm thinking but I always give people an excuse I'll be like well maybe they have X Y and Z going on or maybe they didn't mean it that way why is that an excuse as opposed to a broader perspective than somebody's self-centered ego demand why is that an excuse I mean yeah I don't I'm very I always compassionate how about that I an empath though because you have to like I will a lot of times try to understand somebody else's point of view and and look at it that way now I want to before we get too deep into that I do want to bring up one topic you had on your page which is about women proposing to men as we're on was a question I didn't say conversation I know so I want to talk about it now you know we so aggressive uhuh yeah personally if I were in the marrying realm today I wouldn't have a problem asking if he wanted to do that okay I I you know I don't know what the rules are today because all the rules have changed right I don't know if there are any rules I know I feel like there that's the truth no rules no structure No Boundaries okay and I think that's what's getting us in trouble but I just asked the question I know should she ask because here's my I've heard from too many women who've waited 5 seven 10 years and then he goes off with kafada and has six kids and she's sitting there with the dress in the box and he don't ask you know can you see yourself asking no for somebody's hat why not because I just I would feel like I'm I would feel like I am into him more than he is into me what if he just has poor communication skills if he has poor communication skills I feel like we have a conversation like I want to get married what are you thinking about married that's what I'm saying is that I don't think there's anything wrong with that I would say that like are you to to me no not that but like I want to get married do you want to get married like what is's I have a problem with that but you thought I was talking about get down on one present the ring no just bringing up the conversation no just bringing up you talk about anything I feel like but I don't I'm not okay with proposing I always feel like if you're sleeping with somebody you can pretty much have a conversation about anything like I should be able to ask you anything or talk about the future because sleeping with somebody could mean a future together whether or not it's intentional or not that's true well here's what I'm here's the problem that I'm having and again I'm an elder so I have a different perspective I think we're sleeping with these men much too soon I think we're sleeping with the wrong man and then we get upset when they don't honor and respect us but you know for me she who has the Madam rules so I got the Madam is this the mam that's the M oh okay what do you call her um I probably don't want to say it in front of you say no say it Jess I got Grand kid she's heard everything I'm fine I would like to ask a question about the mad no want to hear I want to hear it what do you call it now I call it the Madam okay but let's up in your mind I know there's not a blanket answer what how you know what's the appropriate time frame to give away the Madam like cuz you said we're doing it away giving no M away I'm going to invite you to Worship in her Temple this is church no this is this is sacred life sacred living right pay your ti to the matter what's the appropriate time frame you I say between 90 and 120 days so that's three months three to four months because you're going to see the true colors you're going to identify some things you're going to spend time together now and the other thing is even as an elder I I'm not opposed to a play date I'm not opposed to you just want to you know have a little experience for a moment and send that person packing I'm not opposed to that either okay for relationship you're saying you like the N9 Days 12 okay because that's how a lot of us are getting snapped up and and beat up in two months and see if you wasn't giving them The Madam and he wasn't serious he wouldn't be around what are your thoughts about how things have changed with online dating I'm horrified I am shocked and horrified that's a strong because that could be a lot of great conversations to know somebody before you have to meet in person I'm well it's not so much see me like you I'm an empath I got to feel you I got to feel you we can do we used to do it on the phone so but it with the bad behavior on social media and the tricks and scams and shenanigans that people have shenan that people have developed it's too easy now to con and and and and craft and I don't like it I don't like that happens in real life too you could meet somebody and well it may happen to you it don't happen to me not if you wait 90 days okay that's right all four months because you know I will say it is a busy time for a lot of people and people I feel like just because um back in the day we used have to go outside meet people in person you couldn't see each other unless you saw each other in person it wasn't FaceTime it wasn't all of those things a lot of times we're in the house um and not socializing in the way we could uh so I feel like a lot of times people are when they'll ask when they'll ask you how come I can't find somebody I really want to date I'm trying to get back out there and day I had a woman call me the other day and I would love to get your advice on this she said she was in an abusive relationship for eight years and she's finally ready to go back outside but it's really hard for her to trust anybody well then stay stay home cuz you haven't done your work you've been out for eight years but you haven't done your work because trust it doesn't your Your Capacity and ability to trust has nothing to do with the other person it has to do with what's going on inside of you trust is internal faith is external okay but first you got to have trust trust in faith without works faith is external trust is internal so let her don't date who we you know how to get in touch with her she call you know what I did get her information because she in Detroit I'm actually sending her to go do hot yoga I did tell her I said she I love oh I love yes my girl Amina she's black woman that owns a hot yoga place in Detroit hey Amina and so I told her I was like you do need to maybe love yourself first before you even attempt to if you're not feeling like you're you're you want to go out and date but it doesn't feel like you're ready well also also I feel like what does she want a date for for what well I guess she was in this relationship for eight years it's been two years since she's gone on a date and so she wants to kind of get back out there because there is something also for somebody having that power over you where they've kind I never want somebody to feel like they have the power over me that now I can't move forward well I would never give anybody I spent nine years in an abusive marriage right here in New York City with a man who was 6'4 260 pounds and he didn't take anything from me that I didn't give him so when I finally hurt me bad enough to get out of that relationship and that takes time for everybody I'm not saying it has to be in two years three years four years everybody has to go through the process but everybody has to do their work how long did it take you to to move forward after that being in a that kind of relationship get into another relationship probably about three years three years but and then when I got into the new relationship I was clear about who I was what was acceptable what wasn't acceptable and what I wanted to experience so many of us go into relationships trying to find out what the other person is going to give us with no clarity about what it is that we want so we need to know what we want first absolutely what do you want to feel like what do you want to do what do you wantan to how do you want to be you can't just go in the relationship to see what's going to show up and then when it shows up you say you don't want it and part of that is knowing what you don't want too and I think that's important when a lot of experiences that we go through while sometimes it can be not the best experience it's also good to know I'll never do this again oh this this this doesn't work for me it's just that simple I ain't mad at you I'm not mad at you or you're crazy this just don't work for me bye now you did also sit down with Jay pinky Smith yes why do you think that people are so mad at her cuz they people like drama they're all into her story you know the people who are madest at her are the people who have done or have experienced the very thing she wrote about and they haven't done their work to heal it okay they've either done it or experienced it otherwise why are you invested in her story why are you she did wrote a beautiful book and every chapter presented a page of the process she used for healing and the process you could use and what they worried about is when she moved out what the hell she didn't write the book the story was the demonstration of what propelled her healing process people are into the story and totally blew the healing prop well I like it's it's juicy so I like the juicy Parts I'm the people you are the Jasmine brand I like the juicy part I like the juicy part too but I'm not going to denounce her because of her story and it's like people don't believe things cuz then she'll discuss you know Tupac and these are things that other people have said too it's not just her like you know her people see me today and cannot believe that I Yan Le vanan was in a marriage with somebody that whipped my behind every day people will look at but don't tell me it didn't happen right yeah because a I don't talk about it every day and B you look at me today and you can't imagine that not li no that's right uhuh that girl from Brooklyn yes I did and people always are quick to say if that was me I would have X you know what you would do right yeah so I think you know I it could be you it could be you yeah I welcome your courage do you know the courage it took for her to a sit down and acknowledge that stuff number one yeah acknowledge it is just the first step but then to put it out there cuz there's some stuff even in all my wonderfulness today I don't want to acknowledge about me right how was process how was the um you had that conversation with her was there anything surprising um that you discovered while having that conversation with her but I didn't talk about the story okay I talked about the healing I never her story how how am I going to criticize her story that doesn't even make sense to me when you wrote this book about healing now if she come to me and ask me about her story then we could deal with it but I just and that's the meanness yeah right that is you tell me that what is going on out there with her is not mean no it is I think it's very violent it's violent and most of it is coming towards her from women that's interesting and I also feel like when men tell their stor a different reaction always you know because uh Will Smith has has told different stories in the past I don't feel like people came at him the same way that they're coming at her I agree that's true I agree now I want to ask you this as we're talking about men and relationships on this new season of your podcast here at iHeart um one of the big topics is always about infidelity right and you've discussed this too on your page healing from infidelity but a lot of times men don't equate infidelity with whether or not they love the person yeah who they're with right all right so is it possible to say I love this person I'm in love with this person yet still be cheating it is and it's really a matter of Integrity number one the man's Integrity is this a man who's going to honor his word honor his commitments for me it's not so much the cheating the the physical act of being intimate with someone else what scares me is the fact that you lie and that you can look me in my face and lie now that scares me okay I don't like that part of it because you couldn't take your little weenie and wash it off you know P some peroxide on that sucker peroxide don't do that I never heard that well peroxide cleans up infection I know but yeah pour some peroxide on there you might got to go get some penicillin okay but but the fact that you can look me in my eye and lie to me or make up some story is a betrayal of my heart you're not being care filled with my heart and and that to me is dangerous that's the part about cheating that really makes me crazy right the lack of Integrity the Betrayal of my heart and uh forget the broken commitment of broken agreement that that's how do you live with yourself how does a the person because you know the exciting thing that I've discovered this is really exciting for me women cheat too they be out there doing all I've cheated before have I have so and did you lie about it too uh yeah yeah yeah oh my God too huh you've cheated before I forgot cuz the way she just looked at me she sure looked at me like she ain't never cheated I sure forgot that I had cheated I sure did you sure at me like forgot I did forget I did forget but I didn't lie okay I cheated and told the truth I did I I he said he said where you been I sit with my man the nerve I know that's right yeah I didn't lie I did not lie I didn't Angela have you cheated before yeah absolutely did you tell the truth or did you well no I did not and um I mean I cheated but I will say this when I cheated is because the relationship was already over I just to so why is it called cheating well don't know I end yet they don't know they don't know it's over I CAU him cheating they didn't get the memo and after that I knew I was going to break up and sometimes it takes me a minute to do that like you'll be with somebody still and cuz women will check out way before I done found emails do too we just don't pay attention might be right the men pay they've checked out and and they they but we're so busy doing whatever we're doing yeah but so the whole cheating thing for me is the breach of of trust the Betrayal of trust it's the lack of Integrity for the person and it's the dishonesty th those are the pieces about it how do you heal from that though what are some things that you would tell people maybe they are working on getting things back on track but there's a lot of triggers that can happen there's a lot of where you going a lot of questions that are asked like a hundred times over and over again a lot of explaining that has to be done uh you know and sometimes you have to put that work in and you just have to accept that if you've cheated but then sometimes guys feel like ah I can't do this anymore if this is this is what this is going to be like well you know what even e it takes a moment to get over it but if you're going to stay stay if you're going to stay stay and if you not going to stay then go and this thing about you if he's going to stay you can't beat him up all the time you just can't the human mind you just can't take that yeah and if he's not going to stay or you don't want to stay with him let him go but you can't do a little bit of like you can't see not all time you a little bit I there's two things I don't do in relationship what don't you do what are the two things cheating and don't mess with my money I'm sorry don't mess with my money don't take it out my purse don't be fishing around with my ATM card don't ask me for stocks or BS or nothing cheating and I don't I don't do that have you ever been scammed no never okay I was just asking that cuz I did this um documentary and my friend got scammed by a guy who she was dating and he still did she give him the Madam too early well she probably didn't wait 90 days of course not no he stole her car $4,000 90 days to scam her he got her she got scammed in the first 45 to 60 days yeah and you know well they actually had broken up but he just um never returned her car and it turned out he was a Serial why did he have his her car why did he have her car d man I don't know why did he have her car why he have her car she was going out of town she was getting work done on her house in Atlanta and the garage wasn't accessible so he was like okay if you want you can leave your car here and how long have they been together Jasmine cuz she's empathetic I can't ask her empath she is how long had they been together truthfully when she left the car there they had already broken up but they were still friends and so it was no they wasn't he was a scammer what the heck are you talking about scammer he looked like a scammer though yeah he is a scammer scammers look like sneaky y that look right there cuz you know I mean in relationships sometimes guys will ask you to do certain things like we heard women no no no no no see and this is what happens the old world no no no no no old world no no no I'mma let you be a man you got a three-piece set I want you to work it okay what's the three piece set Mr Man and the purse people down there the three piece set oh my gosh you don't see you young people y'all are so fresh and you don't know nothing you didn't know you had a mad I didn't know I had I know now and I know the Franken Bean right the Franken Bean sorry continue I never heard that before you never heard the three pieces okay a thre piece set okay anyway so man need to be a man okay yeah but you know we want to be the boss and we're out here and we're doing all of these things good credit right bumping up into no good credit Angel we do we do no I I I don't I'm not putting my name on nothing and you can't put your name on none of mine now if we going to do something together okay I'll meet you 5050 okay but that's how we do no now what do you think about if a woman is dating a man and say they've been together for three years and she needs she starting a business and she comes to him and she's like look I have this business and I know you have XY andz You' always said to me if you ever do anything I want to invest and then she ask him and he says no right should that be a concern to a woman that the person that she's been with has asked for this investment that he has but he just tells her no I don't want to do it what would should she be concerned she should be gone wow because you can tell the other person no right if you can but I would want to know and and me because I'm a lawyer this is not about you doing it for me let's make an agreement let's make an arrangement let's put this on paper and I have a very specific request M I wanted you to invest five grand 10 grand whatever it is but he does have a have the right to say no but approach it as a business situation with someone that you're close and intimate with and not as because we're intimate you need to be in my business right that's not going to work out all right now another thing that's been a huge issue I feel like as we're getting older in dating uh co-parenting all right the holidays are coming up yes and co-parenting has been a huge issue where sometimes it could be the parents don't get along with each other and then that means the child ends up being collateral damaged yeah collateral damage and the thing is as co-parents the only thing that is of concern to you is the child but what happens is because there's so there's no closure or completion in the relationship those issues get Blended up together so it's the ex-girlfriend you know striking revenge against the boyfriend and the kids are meshed up in in the middle so you got to don't you're not dealing with your ex you're dealing with your son's father and you want him to behave as a good father towards your son you're not dealing with your ex you're dealing with your daughter's mother and you want her is she a good mother right is she is she um holding up the best uh interest of the child not your ex and people they don't they don't make those distinctions right I have a co-parenting question yes we and we've asked this other guests too so I'm a I have a two-year-old and me and her dad are not together when is the okay time to you know if we're dating someone el else if we're in a relationship when is the appropriate time to introduce them to the child oh to the the the person you're dating you know really all depends on the nature of the relationship but if you've been with someone I would say at least a year and you're you're seeing this going to continue I say then you need to introduce them to the child in a public way you all go out together and then you eat together and then maybe they come over but they leave you know you have to inch this thing in because God forbid it doesn't work out you want this to be more of a social thing than a a committed thing the other thing is here man I don't know if you've done this no I don't my child has never met anybody okay okay but it when you are co-parent or when you are parent you have an outside uh the child has an outside parent and you are in serious relationship with somebody and you can see moving forward you need to introduce your partner to the child's parent yeah and I know people don't like to do that that's a tough thing but you do need to do that because and particularly if you've got daughters and you bringing a man into your life yeah I think that's a good idea you have got to introduce that man to your daughter's father because it has to be a place where those two men meet and the father needs to feel comfortable with your with your man around his daughters yeah that and he should not be alone with your daughter I don't like that at all like I don't I don't I don't like the idea at all like alone with the but that is tough man cuz sometimes when you break also breaking up you know when you break up with somebody you break up with their kids too and that can be hard when you I just talked to uh someone who's going through that she just broke up with her um her significant other and they both have kids and they had like kind of a meshed blended situation and now she's like got to say goodbye to his son why and he because she I don't know I mean if you guys break up is it a good idea how are you going to keep in contact with this person's with the child yeah with the child I I think you should because what that does is that lays a brick of Abandonment see I've heard that if you guys break up you shouldn't still keep in contact and you should cut all ties just because it's confusing and then what if he starts dating somebody else and they or you're dating someone else and you're like why you still keeping in contact do play dates with the kids you can take the kids to the movies M and and and this is who you are why do we have to have such limited relationships you don't have to be up in his world or her world with the new person but the child going to the park to the beach on the play date to dinner to lunch what's the problem what about staying in contact with their family like say I break up with somebody and I'm cool with his mom his sister but we broke up should I still be if you have a relation my ex partner passed away but even before he passed away I had a relationship with his sister that was separate and apart from my relationship with him we did things together we we know we had a relationship so even now that he's gone when my daughter passed away she cooked for me right yeah had a relationship with her that's separate and apart from him okay if the only relationship you've had with his parents his sister whatever is the one where yall were together and yall break up let that go but if you and his mom played Bridge or you and his sister hung out and you and his dad played CS then you should find out how do you want us to continue this relationship ask the question of the person you have the relationship with okay that's fair yeah don't go over there when he's over there with his girlfriend and the two cats now listen I know um and this is the last question but I know the rpot is about relationships but I want to also ask about friendships breaking up same thing because that relationship yes because that can be painful for people too it is and the ending of any relationship or the transition of any relationship the change in nature in any relationship it is all um difficult a Rel relationship is a relationship you know so you should handle it the same way do your forgiveness work do your get your lessons and sometime particularly with friendships you simply evolve right and it doesn't mean the Friendship has to end but it doesn't mean how you interact will be different and if you don't have that conversation that's what creates the problem right because sometimes it's other things like betrayal and you feel like the person closest to you has the biggest ability to betray you more than anybody else they do and that can happen and do you forgive that like that's a difficult thing like why is it difficult it's human cuz how can you trust somebody who was supposed to then it makes you feel like well were they ever really my friend did they ever why would you do all of that why didn't you say this is an act of bad behavior and this is not the kind of behavior that I want in my life you you hurt me you hurt me you betrayed me and that's how I feel and this is going to change our relationship right it really is and then you figure out what that is but you don't have to were you ever e were you ever my friend you don't have to do all that let's deal with what's present right here right now right you make everything sound so simple it is if we don't do the drama with it if we don't if we stay in the moment right here right now so you know you this is bad behavior I don't I don't want this behavior in my life right we make things more complicated I know I do I overthink everything yeah I'm the overthink Queen Jasmine would be like you didn't say bye does that mean you don't like me you're mad at me I'm like first of all you're exaggerating but do you know that human beings are crazy as hell I'm I'm definitely crazy I'm for sure and how many shades of crazy do you have enough I've got about eight I about eight Shades ofra I was thinking three but now I listen I got my Brooklyn C I got my black girl crazy I got my old black lady crazy I got I got my highly professional and accomplished crazy I got my lawyer crazy I got my spiritual crazy I got my you know I I got about eight different kinds of crazy a lot yeah maybe I have more than I thought oh yeah I Jasmine she's like I'm here to tell you um are you enjoying and loving this season of your life now I am so dramatic not only do I do I look good I feel good but I tell you what is so um I don't even know I don't know what the word is that's the word okay what is it I thought I missed it I'm like what okay got it the depth and level of respect and regard that I get in the world from the 38 years of consistent work that I've done I mean I've seen some of the hard hardest hardcore foul mouth beasts yeah you have but when they see me auntie you know missan Miss aan or whatever they calling me we butcher your name yeah we do but um so that is so exciting and y'all excite me like I love you you are a hoot ho you know and how you've evolved I love watching the youngans your all are so inspiring to me well listen you are definitely legendary you deserve all of the accolades that you get because you have moments that are going to live on forever when things happen in people's lives it's like remember when they sat down with a and that happened and they bring that back all the time but to have made such an impact and really help people's lives I think that that's what we should all be striving to do it may not be on the level of what you've done and what you've been able to do for thousands of people firsthand and then the millions you know from that that's my goal for next year Awakening one million okay Awakening one million because that's right what are these what are these called you got names for everything else what are these called what you call those the girls or nelli okay but next year you know next year 2024 they're setting it up to make us think it's going to be so horrible and it's all about the election and this but next year personally 2024 is about a Authority power and money we like that Authority power and money within yourself and I want to awaken one million people to the authority that they have in life the power that they are and the money that they can create and attract I'm me we like the money next year is my year money is power money is power so that's where I'm committed to I got a t-shirt I'm going give you one Awakening one million one mind one heart one life one Spirit at a time and I'm grateful you know you asked me the season of my life I don't take a pill for anything that's great I I you know that's why you got to start worrying about your health from an ear for me yes too honestly like I had high cholesterol I found that out and I was like let me fix this let me fix that because I don't want to later on have to be on medication every day I don't because I got a bad memory so I you know if I need to if a pill would save my life I be dead it's over that's it you how many birth control pills I miss back I know double up and how many kids you got so um just to be able to to be of sound mind and body to be able to you know be loved by so many people to be able to love on so many people uh and to enjoy it all you know I have my things although I need your young to help me understand what is going on with Law and Order they moved it you I love no you don't like that it's moved the time is where is it don't ner it's supposed to be on Sundays I use it I watch it when I iron on demand you can still put it on on demand that's not the funny you know young people don't iron either you know we don't iron like that that's why every once in a while we'll do a little we also don't get dressed up for nothing we this is it I know I iron it's cuz you're a a little older I'm I'm a wise woman a Wise Wise we love it season okay you got a Madam I got one too season it your Madam all right well thank you so much and when can people hear these episodes every Wednesday we have a new episode on the rpot we've got some good guests coming up like who like Ace metaphor okay like Stefan speaks nice you know we did Jada I've got some other people and we're going to be doing some other um just getting one of the things I want people to do is really get out of the ancestral patterns of relationships right you know generational curses of relationships so every Wednesday wherever you listen to uh podcast I'm glad you're here I'm glad that you I'm glad that you're you're stretching learn to say no okay you can say we from Brooklyn you know what I'm saying we from Brooklyn you know how we do in the house without doubt all right well thank you so much we appreciate you for coming through than you for having me I'm going keep you

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Published: Fri Nov 17 2023