I'm Trying To Keep It Together

[Music] [Music] come on if you really love him this morning let's sing it to him [Music] and i just want to tell you [Music] lord we really love you for real this [Music] morning [Music] oh [Music] you jesus we give you adoration [Music] yes [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Music] is [Music] foreign come on wave that hand if you love him [Music] would you stand to your feet get your bibles in your hands sound give me just a little bit more on the monitor romans chapter 8. i want us to look at verses 38 and 39 romans chapter 8 verses 38 and 39. i want us collectively corporately can we read those verses together for i am convinced for i am convinced that neither death nor life neither angels nor demons neither the present nor the future nor any powers neither height nor depth nor anything else in all creation will be able to separate us from the love of god that is in christ jesus who is our lord if you believe that shalt amen you may be seated you arm yourself with a writing instrument i uh want to download some things into your intellectual hard drive that i do not want you to trust to your memory i want to preach for a little while today using as a subject i'm trying to keep it together i'm trying to keep it together would you look at the person besides and just tell them pray for me please i'm really trying to keep it together my dear comrades um worthy of critical examination is how two sacred ceremonies can cause you to re-evaluate your entire life more than anything else attending somebody's funeral forces you to look ahead on your own life how it will end and what will be the legacy that you leave behind outside of a revival and incarceration homegoing services can probably take the most credit for conversions coming in at a close second would probably be wedding celebrations which makes you put your choice of companions under the high power objective with a striking contrast a funeral is where you come to let somebody go and a wedding is where you bear witness to two people coming together admittedly and transparently i was struck with a thunderbolt of introspection when recently i shared in my parents 50th wedding celebration [Applause] i stood there proudly as a son and as a groomsman and ashamedly as a divorcee with on admiration i realized that it could be done but with a tinge of embarrassment i had to ask how come i couldn't do it the dismissive resolve that you begin to hear muttering from people they don't make them how they used to but to say that they don't make them how they used to calls into question is it at fault with the manufacturer or have we become too lazy to read the fine print which states assembly is required and batteries are not included [Applause] data has divulged that people are generally getting married later getting it dissolved quicker the barna group blared on every media outlet that 50 of all marriages in america will now end in divorce but take heart because the book entitled the good news about marriage i want every married couple to get this book the good news about marriage says that believers who put god first and actively practice their faith are able to sustain for those who practice their faith the divorce rate drops from 50 percent to 27 be not deceived marriage is not disney world but if you are committed to work through it you can stop it from becoming a haunted house there will be problems and it's interesting in school that you only hear about problems in math class and when it is that the math instructor talks about the problems uh she or he would in fact make the mandate you have to in order to solve the problem discover what is the missing integer what's missing in that marriage you all make love but don't make time to pray finding the problem you have to know what to divide how to multiply and figuring out what is the common denominator a lot of our marriages fail simply because we keep forgetting to carry the one [Applause] when you forget to carry the one it's gonna mess up the entire equation and you're always going to come up with the wrong answer i want to give you if i can three areas that are primarily responsible for breaking up marriages three areas i think you think you know them but i want you to write them down anyway three areas that are primarily responsible for ruining marriages the very first one you've already guessed it the very first one is income don't look at your neighbor just write it down income the lead cause of demise is bills debt and spending number one cause for divorce in america is bills debt and spending you can't have chanel taste on a michael kors budget it just got quiet right through here i want you to write this down in caps if you're typing change the font i need you to have it income does not equate to authority income does not equate to authority many men are feeling emasculated if their woman makes more the bible says that if you're on the same team you're not in competition being the priest of the home doesn't mean you bring the biggest paycheck it means you carry the cost of the anointing of the house if you marry for money your emotions will end up in bankruptcy there are those who are living in 20 000 square foot homes who are living on opposite ends of the house who don't speak but if you're really in love you can be in a one-bedroom roach-infested apartment and y'all can't get enough of each other y'all ain't saying nothing dealing with income you've got to ask yourself how do we expect god to bless the marriage when we're not tithing god says if you don't give to me i will cut holes in your pockets god is getting ready to bless the finances i don't know where they are but god has given me to bless the finances of married couples who are connected in this ministry [Applause] i thought the married people would shout right there since y'all won't shout let me say something to the singles who are here i speak over every single person's life that god will send somebody into your life who is financially independent who has a house of their own that has business and two to three streams of income here's your shout and is a tither i want god to bless you in the area of your income the second one second area that disrupts marriages in america what's the first one come on talk back to your pastor what's the first one the second one i need you all to buckle up is gonna get tight three people getting ready to fall out right now ushers beyond standby second area that breaks up marriages after income is intimacy there's a problem with frequency quality [Applause] i ain't even saying nothing yet it's a problem with frequency quality quantity and infidelity all of those areas can plant disharmony and be the seeds for distress you cannot here it is trust god for your marriage that you are so spiritual that you don't know how to be sexual i know you love god i know you feel with the holy ghost but at night your husband does not want to hear james cleveland or james fortune the bible says that the bedroom i'm talking to married people [Applause] i'm talking to married people tap the person in front of you tell them this is for married people the bedroom is undefiled god is giving you permission to get it in [Applause] try whatever [Applause] some of you are losing your spouses you're losing your spouses while you love god because you keep coming to the bedroom looking like quaker oats you don't got too comfortable coming to bed with noxzema on your face rollers in your head a cotton bathrobe by victoria secret take a shower before you come to the bedroom spray on some perfume and if you've been in a couple of years buy yourself a couple of wigs wednesday be barbara friday be jennifer i'm trying to tell you how to keep them now be a saint in the sanctuary and be a porn star at home if y'all ain't gonna say nothing to husbands y'all better back me up right [Applause] here [Applause] you have to bring back the room romance so that you don't become roommates i do not want us to shift all of that responsibility on our sisters [Applause] you can't complain that she don't look the same and you've got to be a belly [Applause] you don't ate all of that red meat [Applause] all that liquor years you were smoking weed you were not ashamed you were married go get you a little blue pill i'm talking to married people if it ain't working right we can find something to make it work and if you too prideful to go get a subscription find other ways to please your wife i'm looking down i'm not even looking at you i thought the wives would help me out right through here [Applause] initiate role play read some books why you gonna go to a hotel to do the same two positions five of y'all just high-fived me somewhere i'm i'm trying to help you lord huh i was hoping lady long wasn't going to be here today she done i can't even look over there all right she gonna pull me aside after church first his income second is intimacy the third one write this down is imagination third area that breaks up marriages after income after intimacy is imagination pastor what is that that is undiscussed expectations so you have in your mind what you expected marriage to be without any discussion because your mama cooked every night you expected your wife to but your mama didn't have two jobs and you got to come to the realization 50 y'all if you don't shout right now i'm going to leave the stage you got to come to the realization you didn't marry your mama discuss what are the realistic expectations um realistic expectations men you have to begin to articulate what you feel you've not um really considered that men have a cave not a one not women men have man caves women don't have women caves why because men men are designed here made to be alone so men will sit in the dark room in a lazy boy chair watch the game for three hours then go in the room and go to bed and the wife is coming right behind them thinking something is wrong we need to talk what's going on with you because that man has not articulated i'm okay but sometimes i deconnect disconnect or decompress differently women are built for relationships and exchange the average woman speaks 20 000 words a day [Applause] y'all are so mad right now i don't average man only speaks 5 000 words a day says there's a fifteen thousand word gap so the wife wants to go on and on about the same issue and he's saying all right okay i thought we dealt with this already the most unnerving word you can ever say to a man is we need to talk don't make that announcement just have the conversation if you make that announcement he's gonna shut down you have to articulate that for some men men i'm trying to help you all out is that the man doesn't mind being your best friend he just don't want to be your only friend i'm gonna let that marinade right through there men on behalf of your wife your significant other your boy your girlfriend the most unsexy thing a grown man can do is be insecure [Applause] you knew i was hot when you met me that's why you wanted me so you can't have an attitude because other people find me attractive if you do your job and compliment me it doesn't matter what other people say because i don't want strangers to always tell me how nice i look y'all ain't saying nothing but the man in my house don't even look up when i come out the room something has got to be recalibrated so i'm trying to keep it trying to keep it together and one of the things that the church does is the church applies prayer applies scripture but never applies strategy what you're not realizing is that we are now a part of a generation that does not have role models for marriage so part of the allure of barack and michelle obama it was the first time for many that they were able to see a married couple function in public space with no side chicks no baby mamas y'all ain't saying nothing but operating with integrity and with character i don't know how y'all feel about it but i speak a blessing over every married couple in this sanctuary and watching that god this summer is gonna help you fall back in love again i speak over every single person that you got too much gift anointing and passion to be a girlfriend a side chick or a secret but that god is getting ready to elevate you to where you are supposed to be i don't know where you are i need every wife here's your shout and every future wife to open up your mouth and thank god for who god is going to sin [Applause] reason why this is so critical and so important me and i'm trying to help you is that every man who does not have a wife or does not have a saved wife only is functioning by grace you just missed it let me give it to you again every man who was not married or is not married to a saved woman is only functioning by grace men to hear me and hear me well what i am giving you is not opinion or theory it's scripture that you will never have the favor of god until you got a woman of god [Applause] so i don't care how much money you make how many businesses you have how many houses you own you ain't ever going to the next level until you've got a god-fearing proverbs 31 woman who is able to cover you in prayer and push you to where you getting ready to go do me a favor please all the men in the room would you give god glory for your favor agent whoever is the favor agent that brings the grace of god [Applause] consistency consistency is the key consistency is the key it's hard staying together in a culture that promotes independence it's ironic that we live in a culture that now promotes i iphone ipad god is saying your power is in the spirit of unity it is only in our culture no other culture in the world will you hear a community of women say i don't need a man never hear that from a german woman never hear it from a jewish woman never hear from an italian woman but the culture has tried to do a job on our women our sisters and our daughters to act as if men are negotiable god says if you want to get to your optimum capacity and level in me then you've got to operate in the spirit of unity it is the mind and the design of god that you are not going to go through this thing called life by yourself let me add an addendum but i don't want you to go through it settling just so you got somebody [Applause] the old blue singer said i can do bad by myself i need somebody that's going to improve my life and help me get to a better place in god i don't dated enough people to argue with i need somebody to pray with and i need somebody to pray for me when i don't feel like praying i i need somebody that can shout when i'm fighting through depression it's ironic that i glean relationship notes from paul a single apostle who have vowed never to get married reality is if your relationship with christ isn't thick nothing will stick everything you do with god becomes reflective in your other earthly relationships if you don't know how to talk to him you won't know how to talk to her it then got quiet out of saying how do you expect for somebody who you are in a relationship with to have intimacy if they are not comfortable being intimate with me can have sex oh y'all ain't saying nothing to me zebras can have sex but can you operate in a level of mature intimacy of just being able to hold my hand y'all ain't saying nothing speaking to me and speaking the parts of me i didn't even know existed and challenging me to get to the next level in areas i have never explored and complementing me without being in competition with me i need you to operate in every role of my life some days i need you to be the coach other days i need you to be a defensive end other days i need you to be a quarterback other days i need you to be my cheerleader and some days i need you to be my fan 2 4 6 8. who do we appreciate [Applause] corinthians corinthians 11 and 1 says follow me as i follow christ if you're following somebody who is not following him you're going to go over the cliff paul amazingly doesn't give us any answers per se he just raises questions i'm in romans chapter eight watch where paul raises in verse 35 and many of us have misquoted the scripture while being in church romans 8 verse 35 for years those of us who have matriculated through the sanctuary we have heard this scripture misquoted how pastor all we kept hearing romans 8 verse 35 is what shall separate me from the love of god that is not what the text is saying the text says who shall separate me from the love of god because what will separate you from god is not a car not a house not a job it's a person it doesn't got quiet here and i don't want anybody coming into my life sharing my space who gonna get in between my relationship with god you mad because i keep going to church you got an attitude cause i'm shouting and giving god glory you don't know god will replace you before thursday god i can't hear nobody in here cause i made up in my mind can nobody do me like jesus care nobody who shall separate me from the love of god i'm telling you i ain't gonna let nobody nobody is gonna get in between my relationship with god you can be six foot three with wavy hair hazel eyes y'all lay a bow leg a dimple on the left cheek driving a bmw and i will leave you for a negro in a gmc trump that loves jesus with their whole heart who shall separate me [Applause] he said paul did will famine or sword separate me from the love of god in other words when i'm going through attack when it is that my name is being scandalized when people set me up for failure i'm not going to sit in the bed and throw myself a pity party but i'ma come to church after the breakup i'm gonna come to church after the divorce i'ma come to church after you took your stuff back because god is a provider and i will look to the hills from whence cometh my help my help he said shall hardship shall trouble or shall persecution separate me from the love of god he said shall famine separate me some of y'all only love god when you got money in the back when you got a car in the driveway when you're sitting in a gated house but there are 500 of you in the room that made up in your mind i will bless the lord at all times and his praise shall continually be in my mouth look at your neighbor and say neighbor i'm not tripping over this because this ain't my first time being broke i've been to paris and i've seen the eiffel tower i've been to south africa and i've seen table mountain i've been to new york and i've seen the statue of liberty but i've never seen the righteous forsaken or his seed begging for bread is there anybody here that can thank him he's been better than me than i've been to myself and i gotta give him glory [Music] i gotta get out of here we just shake that neighbor's head and say neighbor i've had some good days and i've had some bad days but when i think things over my good days they outweigh my bad day and i won't complain i have decided to follow jesus grab that neighbor's hand and say the road is rough the going gets tough and the heels are hard to cry but i i i decided to follow jesus do you love him will you follow him will you stick with him open up your mouth and shout right now give him glory give him praise give him on [Applause] give somebody a high five and tell them we gotta stick through this we gotta stick through this we gotta stick to this [Applause] lift up that hand please [Applause] i want to say something i hope you'll you'll shout over it hope you'll rejoice over it lift up that hand god told me to announce today that new birth is going to be a divorce free church god i can't hear nobody i need you to shout i said newberry it's gonna be a divorced preacher i speak of every lifted hand that god will bless every relationship i pray that god will separate you from whoever he don't want you with i knew y'all wasn't gonna shout about that i say he'll separate you [Applause] that if it is not in the will of god they will not be able to get close to you [Applause] i speak of every lifted hand for people who have become frustrated who are battling depression loneliness isolation i want to release over your life that god hadn't forgotten about you he's saving the best for less [Applause] i heard somebody's prayer while i was coming in church i heard somebody's praying i want to answer it lift up that hand you'll know when i'm talking to you god told me to tell you you are not going to die by yourself god i can't hear nobody i said you are not going to die by yourself i pray that god will usher into your presence somebody that loves you as much as james loved bianca that's on life i'm telling y'all somebody that will defend you in public somebody that's got your back in private somebody that is not ashamed of who you are i pray that god will pull it together i pray that god will break the cycle of divorce that runs in your family hope you'll lift up your hand i want you to receive this i pray that even right now god is preparing mates for your children [Applause] oh y'all ain't saying nothing to me i said he's preparing a husband for your daughter he's preparing a godly wife for your son i release over this sanctuary that over the next 12 months will be a season of surprise proposals oh god i can't hear nobody in here did y'all hear what i just said i said it's going to be a season of surprise proposals i don't care nothing about the ceremony i want the marriage to last y'all ain't saying nothing to me y'all get married in the backyard on paper plates i pray that god will bless your marriage bless your family that today begins a new chapter in your bloodline y'all ain't saying i said today begins a new chapter in your bloodline and those of you believe that marriage is possible and that god can do it for you would you clap your hands and give god thanksgiving for it i'm going to do this quickly please i want to do this i'm going to open the doors of the church and it ain't even going to take me long some of y'all sitting around looking crazy your friend and drag you to church your family man you're like lord i never been in no church crazy like this i want those of you who are physically able i want you to please stay and those of you are physically able i need you to stand even in the balcony come on stand for me please [Applause] you're in this room hear me i want you to come to this altar and i need you to hear my faith hear my expectation i want you to meet me at this altar you're not saved you don't have a church home not saved you don't have a church home i want you to come shake my hand come meet me at this altar i'm telling you next time i see you [Applause] i want to be saying dearly beloved we have gathered today come on clap your hands [Applause] pastor this the kind of church i need to join kind of ministry i need to be under god bless you excuse my hand bless you bless you come on god bless you come on clap your hands god bless you sir [Applause] god bless you no way all right tiffany hold on let me show you how god has sealed this word tell me your name daniel daryl and pamela you all coming to join you members yes this is so crazy today they're celebrating 29 years of marriage [Applause] [Music] and they was coming to confirm my word because they got married 29 years ago in the backyard with paper plates are y'all are some haters [Applause] they came to let you know if god could keep them together god can keep y'all together please i'm looking for you come on come on 29 of you 29 of you i want you to get saved i want you to join the church you playing hard to get come on don't make me come get you i need you to come quickly i need you to come right away [Applause] some of my ministers i want you to go on that balcony help me witness evangelize come on clap your hands for this young man coming thank you i only need 26 to go i only need 26 to go i need you to come would you do a road check for me real quick do a road check would you ask the people on your road hey are you saved hey you got a church home [Music] that's 25 that's 24. that's 23 that's 22. that's 21 that's 20. that's 19. [Applause] that's 18. that's 17 that's 16. here comes 15 14. 13. we almost there y'all come on that's 12 that's 11. that's 10 there's nine y'all thought i was playing come on here they come with y'all shout for this whole family here come eight seven six five here they come four three two would y'all shout for this [Music] [Applause] [Music] brother all right [Applause] would y'all pull in for me just pull in just a little bit thank you [Applause] new birth i don't know what's wrong with y'all would y'all shout like y'all excited [Applause] [Music] all right i need y'all to shout for this beautiful family coming right here shout for all right come on shout for this mother and son come on [Applause] i'm telling you families are getting ready to be fortified they're coming from the balcony come on [Applause] listen i'm waiting on five more people to come then we can roll here come two right now y'all gonna shout about it [Applause] here come two more from the balcony y'all gonna praise god for him [Applause] all right we almost there i only need two more to come can i get two more to come [Applause] where y'all at bring them out bring them out i'm waiting on two more new birth when these two come i need y'all to go cuckoo for cocoa puffs here come one come on give god glory are y'all gonna shout here they come here they come all right we about finished i need y'all to shout for this young family coming [Music] god is going to use our church to fortify families did y'all hear what i just said i said god is going to use our church to fortify families and to strengthen marriages how many of you believe god is going to do it stretch your right hand to faith search your right hand to faith i'm getting ready to go uh but there's one person holding up the service put your hands down is one person holding up the service i need you to come i'm not too proud to beg but i need you to come come on give god some praise would you [Music] [Music] here come two more y'all thought i was playing with it all right would you look at your neighbor ask him you sure you don't belong down there come on here come somebody else shout real quick [Music] i'm telling you my heart is doing somersaults right now all right let's try come on give god some glory for this beautiful family coming mother and daughter [Applause] lord y'all still coming come on [Music] stretch your right hand to faith here comes somebody else come on clap your hands [Applause] stretch your right hand to faith repeat after me you're in the right place at the right time joining the right church serving only god and i know that's right sure you're right if you know i'm right come on big ups to the savior would you give god some praise new birth they came as friends but they're leaving as family would you make some noise for the new members of new birth those of you who are here if you'll please follow me out this way i need to get some information from you come on if you'll follow us out this way new birth clap your hands this evening it's all right [Music] hallelujah new birth y'all not excited about this [Applause] harvest you

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Published: Wed Jun 16 2021