I Found Engagement Ring While Cleaning Home But Boyfriend Took It And Proposed To My BEST FRIEND

people who cut contact with their former best friend what happened i was putting away my ex-boyfriend's laundry two days ago and found a ring in one of the drawers don x has always been a bit of an introvert i travel a lot for work and am gone at least one week a month sometimes more i thought this was good because dawn likes to have time to himself he had a lot of hobbies and spent a lot of time with his friends playing games while i was gone he worked but his hours and pay were better i got a managerial position and almost didn't take it because i would be gone even more he told me to do it we needed to save for our future and our kids in the last six months he has been pushing to move out of the cousin's house and start our lives he talked a lot about marriage and what he wanted he had me look at engagement rings online the one i liked is the one he bought i thought it was for me and got so excited about it i was stupid and let it slip to my best friend jane i found the ring she told dawn and he told me the truth he gave her the ring jane ex-best friend told me she had been sleeping with him for three years like she was proud of it he said he was in love with her she was there for him more i didn't understand it first because he told me to take the position and yet he made dumb excuses like that then in what had to be the stupidest thing i have ever heard they asked mary and i to move out they said they wanted to make it their home mary jane's cousin told them to leave and they took their clothes and left they were cheating behind my back for three years i was an idiot and because i love him i overlooked a lot of the problems that might have been there i have been going between numb okay and angry right now i feel like i am in charge better off without them but then i become so numb and break down crying i guess i just want to know how i can get through this what do i do what do i say i 24 years old female met my best friend 24 years old female on the first day of our freshman year of college and we've been super close ever since she's the platonic love of my life she met her boyfriend 25 years old male 2 years ago after she and i moved to new york together her boyfriend's a great guy they're super cute together and i know they want to get married a few months ago my friend asked me if i might be willing to participate in a threesome with her and her boyfriend i was a little surprised at first but it honestly didn't phase me that much my friend and i made out a few times in college so this wasn't a huge leap i said i'd be down and the event happened not long after that of course i found out i was pregnant i immediately told my friend and she was super there for me came over to my house ate a bunch of ice cream made sure i was okay etc the problem came however when i realized i couldn't get a procedure obviously i'm pro-choice but when it came down to it the idea of terminating horrified me when i told her i was going to keep the baby my friend totally freaked out at me she told me she couldn't believe i actually wanted to raise her boyfriend's baby and that it was disgusting of me to want to start a family with the man she loves we didn't talk to each other for a few weeks we slowly started talking to each other again mostly over text not in person but she was definitely still mad she told me it was going to take her a long time to be able to move past it but that she was working on it then we got brunch together one of our first times really hanging out since i told her i wasn't getting the termination over the course of the meal i asked her if she would be the baby's godmother since she's my best friend in the world she absolutely freaked out she told me that she couldn't believe i would ask something so insensitive she told me that she couldn't bear to be the godmother to a child who's probably going to be the bane of her existence for the rest of her life edit a few people have mentioned wondering how the father boyfriend reacted and while he's obviously not thrilled about the situation he said that he'll support whatever choice i want to make about the baby and he'll pay child support though he doesn't want to take on a huge role in its life so when my wife and i got married i was probably 40 pounds overweight i gained weight for a couple years until i finally got sick of being a fat and started exercising and dieting since then i've lost 50 pounds and i'd say i'm within a healthy weight range now when i first married my wife i would say looks wise she was out of my league i think she's very pretty and i was definitely not good looking i'd say now we're more equal as physical attractiveness goes not to be a brag anyway i was talking to a friend about how i'd finally lost weight and it felt good he congratulated me then said that i should upgrade my wife i figured it was a joke and chuckled a little but he kept going with it said that we've only been married a few years four not nothing and that i shouldn't spend the rest of my life with someone ugly that i married because i was fat i said yes i do in fact want to spend the rest of my life with someone i married that tends to be how it works and that i'm not a piece of crap so i'm not going to upgrade my wife he got a divorce a few years ago and talked a bit about how good it felt to be out there again but never really said it was because he thought she was ugly he got annoyed and said that he divorced his wife for looks and he isn't a piece of crap at which point i said that i disagreed and he hung up he messaged me later that we exchanged some harsh words and should just move past it but then followed it up with he wants an apology i don't know what is wrong with him but a mutual friend also messaged me that calling him a piece of crap wasn't cool i don't know i'm annoyed off right now so it's hard to tell if i went too far adam was never that good with money growing up i worked all my summers in high school and worked on weekends during the school year to just have money to do things with and not borrow from my parents all the time adam did not he was that guy who would always say i forgot my wallet i'll pay you back so throughout high school i would try to be a nice guy and help him out it wouldn't be anything major just for god money for taco bell 10 or 20 dollars here and there i am not a very organized person unless it comes to my money so i kept every receipt that i ever covered for him all in the hopes of i'll pay you back years and years went on every once in a while he would need some cash for a video game or some food or whatever and i would just say okay because i'm trying to be a nice guy to him since we have mutual friends we will need to get along since we see each other enough i would try to remind him to pay me back but i would always just get a next time or i don't have cash on me then after high school he buys a new car in cash and then i realize i'm not getting my money i thought about it and decided to let it go if that was the cost of never having to see this guy again it was worth it until our mutual friend is getting married and adam is the best man he decided we are going to vegas everyone was on board he said that he can get a deal on airline tickets if he bought everyone's together but we would just pay him back then i get an email from him saying i owe him 320 dollars and i'm thinking i could have found cheaper tickets myself he tells me i got them for 220 through work he works for the airline as a baggage handler but they sell to you guys for 340 so you're really saving money i just say okay i'll send you some money so i found up all the receipts i had from over the years and it turns out he owes me 475 dollars so i sent him an email of dates and an itemized bill basically of everything i ever bought for him he just went silent a week later he just sends me an email with the confirmation number for the ticket so i'm good to go i end up going on the trip for free but the entire trip was super awkward for him and he wouldn't look at me he still owes me 155 bucks but it was well worth it my husband has a cabin he inherited in west virginia with hundreds of acres of beautiful and some not beautiful land he and his family would usually go there during the summer my husband and i are both blessed with large amounts of vacation time so we also usually go during the summer he's a big outdoors type loves being outside in any capacity loves fishing etc he's also really generous especially when it comes to the outdoors he loves helping his friends with their gardens and he even taught one of his friends son to fish so one of my close friends asks me if she could use the cabin for a little getaway for her and her husband during the lockdown they're both furloughed and bored at home with nothing to do my husband and i are both still working so i figured it wouldn't be a big deal and he might say yes i asked him and made sure that there wasn't any pressure on him to say yes i wouldn't want him to feel like he was loaning out his family's cabin because i told him to but he said that it would be fine well apparently my friend isn't a big fan of my husband's despite him letting her use the cabin because today i got a call from another friend who told me that my friend was trash talking my husband behind our backs she said that he's annoying and that he didn't deserve his job she applied for a job that my husband ended up getting mere coincidence but apparently she's still bitter about it and that all he's good for is his cabin my friend that told me said she felt like she was obligated to since we were letting her use the cabin but that she said this stuff before now it was pretty surprising to me that she said all of these things because she's never seemed to be that kind of person and i've known her for a long time so i called her and asked her about it and she owned up to it and then started saying how i wasn't ever supposed to hear well then i got pretty annoyed off and told her that she couldn't use the cabin and that if she had anything to say about my husband she could say it to his face she then got mad at me and said it's not fair to punish her for something that she thought she was saying in confidentiality i don't know why she thought she would be saying it in confidentiality my other friend called me and said that she wasn't supposed to tell me what my friend said and that she's just bitter about not getting the job and didn't really mean it and that i shouldn't punish her for it my friend a little later then called me and apologized for what she said but it still feels wrong letting her use something of my husband's after she said those things also being bitter about a job she didn't get two years ago isn't a reason to go trash-talking people behind their backs i've been with my girlfriend coming up to one year now her best friend has been having a three-month affair with a married man she knows he is married she found out she was pregnant a month back and he has completely disappeared into thin air he has blocked or deleted her from tinder and she never got his real name they both went by aliases and now she is desperately searching for him on facebook but nothing even in the ballpark has come up the guy offered her termination money and offered to go with her she refused because she has a three-year-old and she wants a sibling for her baby i can't say i didn't see him disappearing he's a piece of crap coward for having an affair in the first place and so of course he's gonna abscond from a pregnancy from his side chick too from my perspective it's fairly obvious he was using my girlfriend's friend and she should have either known that or have been prepared to deal with the consequences my girlfriend is very worried about her friend and keeps talking to me about it and asking what i think even though i've made it clear i don't approve of either of their trashy behavior i told her well what did she expect she keeps asking me if i think as a man it is possible he will come back i said no sometimes especially within the context of a couple talking let's be frank we won't always be correct she flipped her crap and said that my attitude towards her pregnant friend is misogynistic and i'm being heartless i don't think i am and i feel i'm allowed to have an obvious opinion such as that i own my house outright and my friend lana rented a room for me full furnished with attached bathroom shared kitchen living space laundry backyard garage etc she will be moving out in a few months as she is relocating and has contacted a friend of hers abby to take over the rent we have not signed any papers and had a verbal discussion when she visited my house we recently found a week ago that abby is one month pregnant and did not want anyone to know before she moved in her boyfriend is in the picture and would like to live with her and her baby her roommates are forcing her to quit her lease as they do not want to live with a baby the thing is she did not mention the baby or that her boyfriend would be moving in when she came to discuss living in my house i do not want to live with a baby or her boyfriend no matter what my house is not baby friendly and i do not want the hassle of a little person in my space babies take up a lot of space and make noise too and i value my privacy and lifestyle i called abby yesterday and told her that i was rescinding my offer and will be looking for another renter she started crying and said that i can't do that and now she doesn't have a place to live i'm making her homeless a few of her other friends have called and asked me to reconsider lana still has a few more months to go and she's as flabbergasted as i am as i am not throwing abby out of her housing and she has plenty of time to look for a new place i'm here because a close friend of mine just called me and asked me to reconsider and called me an idiot as i was not willing she said i should help someone who clearly needs help and with a baby on the way is vulnerable so this just happened me 35 female and my husband 35 male have been having a lot of difficulty in our marriage it's been going on for years and we've been in therapy on and off over that time but my husband either doesn't like the therapist or doesn't put in any effort i've told him i want it out multiple times and meant it but he keeps reeling me back in somehow with promises to change and work on things i've told him time and time again he doesn't respect me and all i want is to feel loved but he either can't slash won't change if i'm being honest the only reason i'm still here is because of my kids he's going to get nasty in the divorce and i don't want to only see my kids half the time i'm a stay-at-home mom and i can't bear the thought of going from seeing them 24 7 to split custody he just came in from a walk and jumped in the shower and left his fitbit on the counter it was going crazy i know i shouldn't have looked but i did and saw my best friend of 30 years sending texts and the last one was wish i was jumping in there with you my stomach hit the floor i've been confiding in her all along and she just came for a visit with her two kids to play with my kids i'm lost what do i do do i confront him her leave things quiet and just start planning my out clearly they can have each other i would never do that to my best friend i'm just lost i had even confided in her a few months back that i was sure he had found someone else and was interested how could she come here and stare me right in the eye and have a playdate while texting that crap to my husband my whole body is shaking and i don't know where to go from here update when he got home from work tonight i met him outside and told him i know about him and kelly and that i want him to pack a bag and leave for a few days i said i needed at least until friday then he could come back and we'll talk about how to go forward he denied everything said he had no idea what i was talking about what was i accusing him of he played the innocent indignant spouse part so well i started questioning myself but i kept pushing and saying don't lie i have proof but wouldn't tell him what it was he started to yell where is my phone so i walked out of the bathroom and showed him his phone open to her chat and said haven't been able to use a bed yet he grabbed me and took the phone back but at that point he couldn't deny it i felt like the world turned to jelly i told him how dare you look me in the face and tell me i'm crazy well you're my former best friend i kicked him out and he left i called her husband and broke the news to him he was sitting beside her on the couch and just turned to her and said you and dan ay she said yes she was in love with him and wanted a divorce to go and be with him she can have him i've blocked and deleted her from everything and don't want to ever see her face again to start things off i'm not pregnant nor am i anywhere near close to being pregnant however my best friend is pregnant and i couldn't be more happy for her as best friends do we started discussing baby names she asked me if i had any baby names picked out for my future children and i told her my mother had suggested a name years ago for my future daughter that i absolutely fell in love with it's super unique and it's a name that originates from the country she was born in my mother is no longer alive so this is something i really wanted to do in the future so my potential daughter could have a connection to her grandmother a few days ago i saw on facebook that my best friend posted a picture of those 3d sonograms and in the post she revealed the name that she had picked for her daughter it was the name i told her that i had picked out for my future daughter i am absolutely devastated that she would do this to me she knows what the name meant to me and she decided to use it anyway she says it's just a name and since she's pregnant before me she gets to use whichever name she wants i told her that she's being heartless and asked her how can she do this to someone she sees as a sister she is not going to change her mind about this so i want to end all communication with her since i can't even imagine calling her daughter by the name i wanted for mine

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Length: 18min 25sec (1105 seconds)

Published: Mon Nov 09 2020