How To Make Your Marriage Work | Sex In Marriage ❃Myles Munroe❃

when the problems want you to follow me now see the problem is its he needs it but the problem is he doesn't want to feel like he's raping his wife most men feel that way they won't tell you that's what I feel they always got to be the one to initiate relationship and most of the time they rejected you ejected man the first time no problem check the second time he stops trying Kevin the third time he's no longer interested in you it's that serious so he comes to bed turns his back to you watch TV for a while goes to bed and he's angry because he has to fight for something that is natural we taste something listen to me carefully it's like a it's like a car you see brother very it's like a car okay your car ladies listen to me now your car needs what yesterday gigabyte gasoline no do you drink gasoline no is it good for you no but it's good for who the car and you want the car to what function so even though you don't like the gasoline you got to give the car what it needs if you don't personally like it you should rant now I'm gonna tell you something because if you come up to a gas station you need gasoline and the station is closed what do you do you could look for another station let me tell you or something this is serious business [Music] [Music] I want admonish human born again full of the Holy Ghost put a sign on your station always open I'm full of an Exercise premium octane [Music] on the men's a man a man don't want to fight for this thing I've talked to some man I mean literally counts of hundreds of them who say you know my wife and I have a born-again with deacons in the church but boy with it I'm having a tough time pastor sure why I got a fight every time for sex he's I'm tired fighting man and right away I know the marriages in danger [Music] initiated he want a happy husband initiate intercourse Jasmine set it up I give you my wife's secret on my wife's secret 24 years of wonderful bliss she's a sharp woman would anyone smart I give the secret you get asked about it later my wife has a little thing she does she bought a blue bulb a little nap with a blue ball in the bedroom do like special go home they're visible make it off girl make it move right there and I'm coming home from a long day traveling from Japan never tired walking that wrong and there's that blue light [Applause] wise woman it says a foolish woman tears our house down with our own town but a wise woman builds it up it's a joy to go home most men don't go home they go to another home what a tragedy okay men get enough fun now it's your time the number one need of a woman is completely opposite here it is it's affection the no.1 need of a woman is what affection very important a woman doesn't need sex as much as she needs affection and love affection is not love affection is not sex rather most men believe that when they are completed with their sexual experience the woman is happy it's not necessarily true matter of fact many times most women are angry after their husband climaxes because she's not fulfilled because her need everybody need a woman doesn't want affection she needs it just like a car needs gasoline a female needs affection affection is not sex having sex with your wife is not an expression of affection is usually the results of it affection let me define it for you affection is the application of defects to produce an effect again affection is what the application of an effect to produce an effect in other words to show affection you got to apply something to the person and it has an impact and affects them cheap you give an effect that's why a woman needs to be told everyday by her husband I love you it's an effect every day 10 times a day you tell I love you she needs that as affection affection is sending her flowers for no reason at all affection is holding hands with her in public walking through the mall as an application of effect affection is telling her come sit near me again while we drive it you did it when you accordin what happened now affection is kissing in public in front of your old girlfriend come on let's talk about it it's affection affection is taken up for lunch for no reason any day the week affections are taken for lunch I ain't gotta be no big lunch take it in McDonald's by one sandwich cut it in half that's affection can you share this image affection is on your way home stomping on the side of the road pull on the side pick some bush put him in a coke bottle walking us a baby I thought about you on the way home here she'll keep that bush for 10 weeks come on lady talk to me that's affection affection is not expensive it just takes [Music] not man listen to me carefully do you drink gasoline no does your car need yesterday yes do you take it to the gas station yes do you drink gasoline would you drive to the gas station don't you guys why cuz the car needs and you need the car a function for who you so you take it real to get what do you like gas a man but why you take it there because the car needs it see you may say you're not affectionate we ain't talking about you you know what she needs you don't feel like stopping to buy flowers but you do it because after the car needs section affection begins in the morning guys rolling over into bed kissing answer honey there are many women in the world but ain't none coming their year and you wake up no sex just kissing you go to bed you run out of water for her in the tub it's affection affection is putting the bubbles and thing in the tough for her it's affection while the waters running you you go in the kitchen you make a little breakfast for her that's affection you bring it in the room before she gets up that's honey for all the years you cook for me this one's for you it's affection Kevin brothers to crying out now it's affection they need that affection is so paying her back for her affection is drying off of the tub section he's taking it to the car open the door for a wonderful woman better in the class affection especially kissing up before she leaves for work and before you leave affection is calling every 10 minutes I just called to say I love you hang the phone up you ain't gonna talk long only takes 3 seconds Navin o'clock call her again I just called to say how much I can't find the phone 1 o'clock I just called to say I love you before 4 o'clock and I mean it from a woman doesn't want that she pees it's a need she needs it that's why marriages don't work your station is closed and he ain't applying effects affection buy a card for another world reason no way for birthdays I'd write little notes to my wife it's a habit I get for the last 20 years I read notes little notes you are the most beautiful woman in the world you are the most lovely blessing in my life he was such a gift from God you're the greatest wife you're the wonderful mother of my children little notes doesn't leave piece of paper and I put it in their shoes on for shoes it's premiership so she had got a pickup a shooter where I'm not even home and then she opens the box to put the shoe on there's this note and I'm in somewhere else you know she called me up wait can you come boom I'll be right there baby [ __ ] me right there come on get your hand up good stuff in it night [Music] affection affection affection that's why the church has 50% divorces the church it's just about as the world why they don't get this kind of teaching in the church ii need of a male is what say love or you'd know you in trouble on this money now no as I said he needs this what does this mean God designed a meal to be very aggressive why it's found in the book of Genesis chapter 2 verse 15 God told the mill to protect the garden so God designed the meal to be a protective spirit which means he has to be aggressive now aggression is good you need to be aggressive to protect things that protective aggressiveness is supposed to be to defend the woman and the children should meal pass that's why males are naturally competitive they like to compete is this spirit of aggression and it's very natural and God understands it that's why a male likes to get involved in recreational things now a woman doesn't understand this a female loves right I mean a male's Val recreation a woman does it but a man needs it there's a difference a man needs recreation so you need to study your husband's recreation study it and it might not be something what you like remember to gasoline you don't drink gasoline but you want to count a function so here's your husband he likes recreation maybe in sports or maybe a music or maybe in reading or maybe in traveling whatever whatever he likes you gotta join in with him that's important he needs what recreational come he wants you to be with him in it now this is especially Christian women the 2spooky you wonder why most men will drop you off to church and then go to the ball game on Sunday [Music] study your your husband's recreations and join a minute if he likes a job good job and with it he likes to work out go to gym with it work on you begin to work out - if he likes to read you buy books read when he reads or tell him read to you me whatever he likes to do he likes music sit down ask him for his music ask him but why he likes it you talk to you very interesting when you join a - recreation you talk to you matter of fact look at the second leader of a female what is it see that's the problem a woman needs a man to talk to her the problem is she wouldn't put her 7 position for the man to talk my wife is so sharp man I keep talking because she's it she's a smart woman that's why she got a good husband my wife knows I left a job in the morning I go jogging along the beach job keep your shape I leave my wife my wife mother said wait a minute so she bought on a foggy rosy jog with me for years and were each other's she smacked me jogging ain't nowhere to go nothing to do so we talking but she gets a conversation I get my companionship she gets to come since I get my companionship I'm eatin uneasy meeting any I'm by the time for the jargon for hi for 20 minutes or whatever 30 30 minutes or an hour we don't talk for everything for the day average Christian woman you still watching this dumb game you've got this big man running us a little boy killing themselves you need away that's why you divorced that's why you divorced you didn't understand his need for that if you're smart what you'll do is sit with it and say no honey I don't understand what they do it why does he run there and stop there and do that and he's not talking to you average woman I need to see you now turn this game off now I want to see you now leave your needs and come to me so he leaves but he's angry third deed of a man is what well now let me explain this remember this is Russell research and Dib local principles the mail was designed by God to be motivated by his eyes our woman is motivated by her air about this proverb proverbs 31 woman now my wife and I are gonna be writing a book next year both of us wear this book the book would be titled the proverbs 31 man you just study that man that is also about that man and you study that woman she understood that man it says that she dressed in tapestry fine you know I mean she was chin she knows how to put a something he was proud to sit in the gate of judgment in other words he went to work Braga's and that's my wife man look at that woman whoa that's my wife he was proud to take her into public some men I do I stay on baby stay on stage a man needs an attractive wife so he can present her to himself so ladies it's not for pressure if you know that it needs that then supply that need look good all the time if you will rollers in your hair let your rollers look dignified I'm serious about this I've seen them in man God have mercy they go out to now go to the store slippers dirty clothes he and rollers personal don't even walk with dignity you know fella comes home from a hard day's work wife what was the dog she's a frying pan in the hand knife and working piece all over here come on baby tractive why you know the Bible said listen the Bible says are we okay is everybody okay can I go a little bit long Lebanon okay listen watch this in the book of Genesis very interesting it says about a woman and a man it says for this cause and a man leave his mother and father and cling to his wife now the word claimed there when I studied it it blessed me the word cling is the Hebrew word which means to chase after now this is very interesting the Bible says for this cause shall a man leave his mother and father and chase after his wife now it says chase your wife not normally you chased the woman you want to marry don't you guys you chase her and when you catch her you stop running why she stopped that's the problem she's addressing before you got married she always smelled good before you get married she's on the best that's why you wanted to be around her you couldn't be you chased her and then when you caught her she stopped doing what made you chaser [Music] my wife is a smart woman I'm gonna talk about my I got no mind's eye top of mine all the time my wife's look better now after you get married make him look at no one but you [Music] but most women Charlie don't got him what I gonna go die it for I already got him but I gotta go do go to stuffing [Applause] and you're wondering why the guy is coming home late because the view is not too interesting [Music] have mercy what is the woman's third name she needs this honesty and openness what does she need honesty man listen carefully women don't want this they need this it's fuel if you want a woman to function for you be honest with her all the time and be open tell her everything that you need to tell her and don't ever tell any other woman something you didn't tell your wife I said heavy advice no woman should know anything more than would you know be open with your wife she needs it a woman will glow when she feels she got your intimate secrets the owners are there if you get a plan for business tell you what don't L know what a woman be honest a lot of women living in marriages and they feel locked up the husbands talk to everybody else except them and they feel locked up and they are malfunctioning he'll be honest with your wife my wife and I have Thursdays that I belongs to us Thursday belongs to us in our marriage Thursdays Thursdays you don't see nobody be gonna date every Thursday 24 years Thursday we talk as we take I give up all that's in my heart all my plans for the future everything I'm thinking about some of the problems I'm going through difficulties and challenges I go through she gets to know this what and be honest and open with her I know she needs that Jesus is the man the church is the woman huh you know he says to the woman cast all your cares upon me he says what I will keep no secrets from you I've told you everything he says she needs that and before whom a man needs what the message support means when he comes home he don't want to start over again with a busy day's work homes supposed to be a refuge for a man a hiding place a cave to hide in a place where you can be away from the world that's so hard on him in his domestic support ladies he doesn't want this he needs it that means you need to go home right now and study your home and see if it's a good place to come home to how's it look physically how does it feel psychologically how's it looking motional II study your home is it a place where a man would love to stay and hide from the world most women make their house a war zone the guy works all day I mean all kind of stress on the job on the darker you know in the factory or whatever he comes on walks and she goes why are they babe in place not like this wait a minute lady I'm trying to get away from that my boss was shouting at me all day I want to find somewhere to hide for what she's looking for I didn't cook your food Wow I might as well to stop the restaurant on the way home it's not support here [ __ ] they're running everywhere not safe - come on Mia children are still alive [Applause] my wife is smart but when I come over she know I work hard at something like work 16-hour days easy to meet 16 that was easy for me how you went double day is easy when I come home sure than the kids now give me daddy some time y'all go watch TV or go do homework maybe there she knows kids named bother me what basic older house always looks nice always looks for his class have to go go home to me is a joy every day I can't wait to go home guys go straight home from work straight I love it stop what it's safe to come to my wife stops she makes it enjoy the bill no the Bible says a woman who's like a dripping faucet makes her husband sleep on the roof [Music] and the Bible says he sleeps on the roof because his wife is like a dripping faucet how does a woman destroy our home the Bible says with her you know the man needs when he comes home support you know honey you're the best husband anyone we could have I'm so glad you're my husband boy that's a good place place to be a you know honey you don't pray every day but I thank God for the times you do pray God hears your prayer you'd encourage them to pray instead of saying you don't pray enough see that's the wrong thing to say that's not encouragement he knows it okay human brain that were you talking about hey boys the support say it now ladies to mystic support when he runs away from the world the home should be his hiding place so you go home and think about it what does she need big one financial support even if she's working and I'm explain how this works okay yes that is works in many cases sometimes you find a woman makes more money than a man that has nothing to do with who's the head of the home he is the head by God's design no problem with that so you must understand that a marriage and a family is like a business a business operates on partnership you and I are partners we go into a business we both what was put in what equal shares the shares go well into the general account what happens to the resources the dispersed Austin are distributed based on the priorities of the company that's the way your home's supposed to run also it doesn't matter who brings in more money it all goes into the general account and the man is responsible for setting the priorities based on God's instruction to be the headed at home now here's what I mean that so I didn't buy my furnished support and your wife should never have to be under pressure to have to supply it should be at her choice a woman shouldn't have to have to work now see good nothing wrong with that but there shouldn't be that pressure she's not designed for that by God secondly there should always be in the family now listen carefully brothers this is very good advice when you set up your accounts there should be an account that is specifically for her only that's wisdom and you make deposits on that account it need not be a lot of money but she knows that's hers she can do what she wants to buy give her her own checkbook for that account that's hers and every month he put something there for her she needs that she needs to know that there's financial support that she can control then secondly you need to give her the financial resources to do what you are asking her to do you tell you how to cook then you gotta make sure this food you don't clean the house and make sure that there is some cleaning materials there whatever you're demanding you must supply brothers you should see this moving face from what I see right now they're gonna keep on going past am i right ladies it's not what makes the money it's how it is distributed [Music] she needs financial support a man needs what admiration and respect a woman needs what family commitment these are needs now a man doesn't want respect he needs it I'm going to give you something write down as we close and I want your ladies to write it down and in capital letters here it is a man does not need love very important nowhere in the bible does it ever say a woman should love a man it doesn't exist in scripture because a man does not need love why because a man needs respect write that down a man interprets respect as love when a woman tells you she loves you it doesn't mean anything do you think about it but when she respects you you know she loves you Ephesians chapter 5 says this husband loved your wife it has a mantle of the woman never tell them to love the man but it does say wise respect your husband same chapter cuz God knows what he made okay so the first problem you got right now ladies is what is respect see if he defined and had it wrong that's why she still ain't married she headed back would don't sing that song anymore she headed back would know she needed love [Music] she changed my how to write respect okay listen to me how do you respect a man I guess here's a secret the word respect ladies ladies down come on break it up respect means to speak highly of Wow respect means to hold in high regard keep writing respect means to praise the average man in this room gets zero praise zero it's not funny it's very dangerous it's very dangerous okay let me tell you what hurts a husband in this church hey Ezra hurts the husband in this church you respect pastor Larry more than him [Music] [Music] you are not married to your pastor I [Music] know and I'm not naive I know it's tough to find something in him to brace I know that but the Bible says to do it what God knows how the car works a lady came to me years ago she's not Church no husband one of our there but one of our deacons and elders when they first came she was but come to church by herself for years and I kept noticing she keeps coming to church husband wouldn't Emma tree I asked her one day sir where's your husband he's home I said why don't I sit he never even believed in God he'd never come to church and say he ain't at church I said why he said and churches for pastors nothing hit me hard so she was an infirmity I went over to her I wrote a note to her husband we were just about to start prayer meeting I wouldn't know to her husband as a sir I apologize for keeping your wife away from you I'm sending your wife home cuz you are high priority I signed it I says go home now go away from prayer meeting your husband is more important than prayer meeting go home she said pastor what you're doing I said you go home give your husband this right now she went home give no tell husband around Thursday I got a phone call from home from her she said my husband is talking strange I said what happened said her husband for the whole week kept saying I don't understand that man I don't understand that pastor no pastor does this no pastor sends people home and say he was been confused all week so next Sunday he came to church that way in the back she was up front she was growing smiley Oh for the service I didn't know he was there at the end of the service I was shaking hands with all these people and she came up she said I said what's the problem she said I said I said I said I'm coming she says hey go girl I said you tell them I want to meet him okay she ran back where in the lobby where he was bought her man he was dressed you know t-shirt you know just checking things out and I walked down to meet him we met halfway I said man it's good to see you welcome and he said yes he said he said you all right you know you all right man I said man I'm all right Jesus I like you he's a man you're all right I said well hey man he said never say the pastor send people home I said but that's your way she should be home to cook for you and take care of you he said that's what I mean you see I've been in many churches my wife in me may have been a church where the pastor saw me as being more important than him [Music] changed my life I said of course you are man she's married to you she should respect you he said you know I like this church next Sunday he was back sitting halfway in the church how do on a shirt this time main altar call came up gives my three Jesus [Music] Griese not a lady came to me pass the mouse that's it I said what happened that's it divorce come on the man's crazy calm down calm down sit down that's what happened got him again see you around he doesn't come home for the last six months my husband may coming home 1 2 3 a.m. in the morning sometimes he comes home 4 a.m. every night I can't take it he's coming home I don't know where he is receiving me and she's going on as his calm down I said your husband it's been sleeping late out every night and he comes home I say here I said why don't you praise him she said what I said the Bible says to respect your husband he deserves no respect that's a no good man similar women say on the night I said lady the Bible says respect your husband chicken giving women to understand God knows everything so you said how can I respect him that's okay if you follow my instructions you'll be okay yes pastor whatever you say I said tell you what I want you to go home to your husband go to bed tonight when he comes in I want you to wake up go to him and tell him thank you for coming home she says what I said see you thought there was nothing to praise in for I said lady I got women in this church whose husbands never come at least this one comes I said and that's enough to thank you for eraser geez I never thought about that that's why I'm the pastor and you're the member see you at home did exactly what I said he came around three o'clock she says she woke up she went to him she said you know I don't agree with everything you're doing but I want to thank you at least you come home to me in the children thank you for coming home I appreciate you coming home I should lend a bit good every night third night the guy came home 12 o'clock

Channel: Marriage Sermons Myles Munroe

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Length: 44min 5sec (2645 seconds)

Published: Wed May 06 2015