How To Make Your Marriage Work | mildred kingsley-okonkwo

[Music] hi everyone so um it has come to my attention that a lot of fake pages have been created for me on different social media platforms asking people to give money requesting some kind of support to some orphanage somewhere and they ask you to call i just wanted to do this disclaimer because i don't want you to be scammed by these people i do not ask for money in your dm or send you a message asking for money or asking you to give any kind of money to any orphanage or anything i would not do that secondly i have only one page on every social media platform so on instagram i have one page at pastelmildred on youtube um it's mildred kingsley and on facebook is mildred kingston i do not have any other backup page or fan page or any of that sort of page so please be careful when you're dealing with people on social media be very careful my other handles do not have plastered and i have my surname is king sukango and not to conquer so just be careful out there i also wanted to take this opportunity to say thank you for being a part of my tribe and the community on every platform because of you i get to do what i do every day and i love doing it thank you everyone for being such a huge support to everything that i do god bless you please let me lay foundation first of all i come in peace so anything that i said this night that offends you just take it the one that is your own ticket the one that is for your neighbor put in your pocket when you get home give it to your neighbor nicely and as peacefully as i give it to you praise god okay so let me start um i just want to tonight i'm just going to share a few of my own personal experiences um laced with the word and what i'm trying to do tonight is to get you to go back to the word of god a lot of times when we do marriage seminars relationship meetings people just want to come and laugh and have fun and hear motivational teaching and then go home to the usual same old same old thing let me tell you the truth the only thing that will make your marriage work is revelation if you have a revelation of the word it will make your marriage work so a lot of times people want the five steps to 10 steps to 12 steps i'm giving you the one step the one step is the word if you can go back to the word everything that you are looking for is in the world i'm going to start by building on what pastor k um said this afternoon he said something about being you know if you're going to have a good mind you have to be and this is so important because if you look through the bible in fact let's start with jesus so jesus was on earth and he was doing great things he was doing miracles he was you know raising doing a lot of things and then one of the pharisees came to him by night maybe because he was afraid that if i come in the afternoon what people will judge me or the other pharisees will because they had questions should we follow this guy should we not so he was afraid but he came to jesus by night and he said something very interesting he said rabbi no man can do the things you do except god be with him and jesus laughed i said that's how you people are always missing the point jesus said it's not about doing he's except a man be born again he has to first be before he can do so you always have it backwards so we always want these steps but we are not you have to first be the right person before you can marry the right person you have to first be the right person before you can recognize the right person so a lot of times people ask me questions um there's a lot of pretenders in church a lot of fake brothers in church how will you know the one that is fake and one that is real if you are real you will recognize real he's like when you travel i mean maybe to white people to white people if you see black people we all look alike abby you may not know that but so you can i can travel with my sister's passport you may not know the difference but if you're a black man you will know who is kenyan who is nigerian who is cameroonian once you see a niger person deep will call too deep we were in paris some years ago and you know at the airport they have these trains that move every to two minutes you know to take you to terminals two minutes without fail you know we both do tensions now every two minutes without fail a new train will come so we're just we just are one moving so we just stood waiting for the next one one guy flew down the escalator run our flu and jump you know use one hand plugged into it jumped inside you almost died where do you think that which country do you think is from without asking questions we all knew that in his mind he was in lagos jumping mullubus so you don't even need so it's the same ways the same principle you see natural things are sometimes a representation of spiritual things so if you if the same way you will recognize in nigerian because you are nigerian is the same way you will recognize a true believer because you are a true believer if your own believing is shaking you too you will not recognize if you are a pretender too you too you will not recognize a real person so jesus said you first have to be and so the very first secret to having a good marriage is being a christian i know that sounds simple at this office but i'm telling you if you can be a christian not the one that just comes together and says give me my letter that you ask you're going to collect it back i'm going to sit down not that type i'm talking about really being a christian that's your nature is reborn your nature is now like the nature of god and so the things that appeal to you are the things that appeal to god you hate iniquity you love righteousness there's just something that stands up when you hear the word there's something inside you that will be sweet you'll be salivating over bible that somebody's reading by with you i say which version is that is it tpt or a message is sweeting you do you understand and you are living there something inside you that just stand up every time you hear worship because they are worshipping your king yoga there's just something that comes alive in you that's the kind of christianity i'm talking about the kind of christianity that you are not afraid to speak the truth irrespective of who does not agree with you and it is so important because of the generation we live in social media generation most people are getting their marriage counseling advice from motivational speakers online and half the time their own marriages are horrible they are sending us okay dm to help their marriage and they are coming out to tell you rubbish who started marriage god if god started marriage he had a plan for marriage and he has an instructional manual for marriage that's okay ready yes i don't want to go back there he had a plan he has the prototype of how the church had the body and the head you know yesterday when he was preaching he said something he was talking and he was saying that you know if you meet a guy and the guy says he loves jesus but he does not believe in the church he does not love the church and i just couldn't shake in my head i was just sitting down there and i was thinking about how people complain about the body of christ and they say they love jesus but they complain about the body of christ in a human being's body which part of the body do needs walk most times it's not your body your head is usually fine if you want to lose weight it's in the head you lose weight now your belly going to disgrace you your head will be all right it's the same way is your leg that we became your head is never key leg so it's the same way the head is all right jesus is very all right it is the rest of us that are the problem we're the ones that need to lose weight we need lipo we need tummy tuck we need all kinds of things to make the body look good so since when people was complaining about the church i'm just laughing you cannot love jesus and not love the church it doesn't it doesn't it doesn't add up it just doesn't work it just doesn't work so a lot of times people just go to social media you need to remember who you are and who you are where do you get your information from we have to go back to the word i'm not i mean i may not put you happy tonight but i need to tell you the truth you need to go back to the word the word is your sustenance the word is where your instruction comes from the word is what guides you the word god has given us everything we need to make marriage work in the word everything it will amaze you i want to share my own experience with the word the word of god has always been what has saved me in everything maybe that's why i'm so passionate about the word of god today is jesus i'll give you jesus plenty just once the edges see them open to revelation i got to read bible so a couple of years ago i was dating in fact i wasn't living in potato at that time i was dating a doctor so no before that we started dating my final year in the fair then i came to porter court we continued long-distance relationship was a doctor before that at 16 at the age of 16 they told me i never have children i was diagnosed with pcos and explained to drama plenty literally i was the woman with usual blood so i was always bleeding i need to take medicine not to bleed so it was just a lot of a lot so i literally had planned my life so if they tell you will not have children you are bleeding all the time if you see a doctor that wants to marry you and he's not doing his master's in the abroad are you not substituted for life and wisdom is profitable to direct so i planned my life i said go my doctor will go london if one do i have here for good i'm there so halfway down the line girls these masters i was doing my master's in lagos one morning i was just praying and then i was after praying i just studied in the word and then i was reading about where jesus was at the well with the woman at the well and then he was talking to her and said she said he said if you know the person is asking you for water you ask him to give you water and give you blah blah blah you were just going back and forth like that justine at the world and then the woman i said my dream like so far goku gave me the water now so i wanted to come back and fetch with it again and then jesus said to her go and call your husband and she said i don't have any husband and jesus said you rightfully said it because the man you are with you've had five husbands but the man you're with is not your husband and that part of the scripture just jumped at me now let me say this disclaimer this is not the way to find husband because now after i've said this neighborhood we're going to be looking for what's jumping at me i'm just sharing my experiences with the world and this is how the world has been on every issue of my life on staying in the affair or going to unilak on you know should i do this question i know god always speaks to me to the world so you must know how god speaks to you and what's not your journey so please don't don't make this a principle but i'm just sharing this because i want you to fall back in love with the world and so when i saw that thing the man i'm with is not my own i said holy spirit this rough play the man that i'm with is not my what am i going to tell my parents by this time i forgot to mention where i don't introduction five years introduction and then god says the man that you are with is not your own he took all the strength in me now did i will be immediately i was gonna say yes but no i didn't i told god the guy was born again was everything great guy romantic you know those pull out chairs kind of guy send you mixed tapes now you know my age you know all those kind of extra romantic things and god says indeed the guy didn't do anything to me offend me and then what you tell me not sin but i would believe in somebody and so i told god the only way we're going to do this lord is that you have to end it he has to break up with me and so long as thought i was going through long story long and so there was some back comfort during that period i met past okay but as a friend nothing i couldn't have people liked him and i will tell you why and this may help some people you know how we have eye dolls ladies there are idols in your head keeping you from meeting the man that you're supposed to marry you have some setting things in your head there's a way the man should be tall dark handsome so short yellow ugly who is going to marry him so anyhow i had all these things in my head number one i told god i will do anything for you but not my pastor i'm not my pastor i'm not my little minister i'm not my deacon i'm not my anybody that even carries pastor's bible because that's how it starts you start by carrying by passes by the one the pastor is not around then do nothing if you just help pastor and stay here we're coming that's larry that was for you i said i don't want anything like that i told god no i wanna do that one number two i don't want ibu man i don't do village oh my god i am such a city girl i don't do village i don't i don't like mosquitoes i don't go to village meetings i don't like to greet everybody i don't want to go and visit aunties and uncles and i definitely don't want to go to the stream i don't like to sit outside and dance and sing are in a circle no i apologize that's just not me so i said i'm not my able man and secondly i feel i felt that evil men were just arrogant they're having a conversation in the room and they just suddenly think that all of us want to be a part of that conversation well i'm like sir do you know that if you step outside you would be able to have this conversation better and i just said no you know lord i can't do that very proud people i can't third thing i said lord i will not marry a harry man i didn't want to have a gorilla as a son my son is five he has serious side burns that are coming all the way down some days he goes to his dad and says that's in my beard i'm like my dear you're five years old so if you if i want to buff my son now i have to open his back to scrub it no i said god i'm not going to do that with you that's the thing i would not take and then the fourth thing yes i was of the school of tordak and hanson i don't like yellow men i don't want yellow boy yellow and then god now decided that you know what because i am god and you are not i'm going to bundle all these things wrap them together and that's exactly what i'm going to give you and so when i met person okay of course i was not attracted to him because he was all the things i did not want and on top of it he wasn't earning a salary he was a we live by faith and not by sight i said no lord no no doctor uk yes yes i'm not doing this with you lord i can't i can't i don't particularly use my faith for things lord i use it to get people saved and believe for the intimacy no lord no but when it was now time i told god you know what the same way you told me who it's not it's the same way you're going to tell me who it is so i was studying the word not that i was looking for husbando inside the bible i was just studying the word and then i was reading about how somewhere went to anoint um one of jesse's sons and then he got there and they brought out the fragment and he said don't you have another one and then jesse ansel says oh there's yet one he's the youngest and is taking care of the sheep and then when they brought him in the lord said to him arise anoint him for he's the one and that same thing that happened that scripture jumped at me again i said i don't understand and then the lord asked me he said what position is kingsley i say it's the last one say what do pastors do i said they take care of the sheep he said i rise anointing for is the one i say lord why do you like to play like this i know it's who somebody that i was telling remember where i'm coming from they open doors for me you know mixtapes love letters i told this man one day we're going out i said you can't open door for somebody say you underpin you so do you see where the lord was taking me from and why i didn't think it was the lord and the more i was binding the more god will say this is he so we started we got married when we got married in fact it's a long story because when we go when we're about to get married i said to him i said this when you're talking lavo doctor said i won't be able to have children he said who is doctors i said those people that were white and stethoscope like because i don't understand this question and he said none shall be buried in the land that's what the bible says so if that's the reason why i don't want to mine we go unrest we're going to have our children it's in fact i've named them so we've continued so when i got mine i asked god one question i said god i don't like to struggle i'm not one of those people that like to figure things out there's no points he's already there so i asked god i said god give me this secret to a great marriage and god said ephesians 5 33 and that's what i'm going to start sharing from ephesians 5 33 the amplified version now i'm going to read the amplified classic then i'll read the amplified because when i asked god for the secret god gave me the amplified classic but along the line over the years when i started studying that scripture then god opened my eyes to the amplified so the amplified classic talks to the women the amplified talks to the men it says however 533 amplified classic however let each man of you without exception love his wife as being in a sense his very own self and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband now see the work involved in submission and respect he says that she notices him that she regards him that she honors him she prefers him she venerates him if you have catholic background you know what the meaning of that word veneration is veneration of the cross that's worship literal worship and esteems him and that she defends to him praises him and loves and admires him exceedingly i say god ah you should have just told me that you're just in my father's house this is what you pledge to do when you say i do because a lot of times people come to the altar in fact what even annoys me these days is that they have the most romantic vows i will worship the ground you walk on when your feet rises my heart beats there's six months down the line pastor i just can't i can't take it anymore i can't handle this you know pastor i'm done and my question is always how are you done something whenever i enter fire they don't was not even started how we never watched beans my mother smell we have not even started how in god's name are you done no stamina no so when you are about to enter into marriage you must first understand what you are pledging to do that's what i'm reading it to you this night so it's not just you know and i get the video personal i was talking about i got a lot of backlash on it how dare you if someone sent me one this thing god will punish you for the homes you are ruining you are teaching men out of visiting i'm not teaching men anything that the bible did not say the real problem is that unbelievers are talking about things that were addressed to christians if you marry another believer i'm going to show you the man's part me this is what god said i should do i should honor him i should prefer him i should venerate him i should literally worship him he's my king i should treat i should notice him god is saying i should do all these things those are the explanations for submission i should do all these things but only because god knows that i would have chosen someone who knows he should love me so you will now go marry rubbish then come and be sending me hate message i hate dm that i'm preaching rubbish because you married rubbish this scripture was not for you god expected that you would pick right you will pick a man that is submitted to christ there's an order there's an order to these things so the woman is submitted to the husband the husband is submitted to christ and christ is submitted to god now you want to take the man out of the question you don't want a man submitted to christ then you want to submit to him you go die so you are fighting fight that was not that was your was your own was your own did he concern you no that's why i should not be fighting unnecessary fights what are you fighting about something that does not consider i'm not talking to you i'm talking to you narrate your king you say no then go now why are you hungry why so upset take bullying fish and some cold water and be okay but you would think that do you see what the men were supposed to do the man is expected to love you like christ how did christ love you he died our own is to worship with that god never should die for him you're the best let's be the best for that if i cook i should serve him to meat and god says if there's no he should give me the complete food who should be angry the men i never hear men complain about it never never it's always the women they're fighting why would you say we mentioned you're treating me the one i preached to the men you won't push it though because god forbid make another woman blue why go share her message she go conde trent god forbid but the men are pushing it and they're sending it to their wives the one i preach for men that they should treat their wives you won't send that one out you're going to be attacking me but i have preached men are free to women when you look at you because my blood is jesus episode 33 amplified he says however each man among you without exception is to love his wife as his very own self let me tell you why god said you should love us by yourself because men are naturally selfish a natural man will not do anything that won't favor him oh look at when god wanted to deal with man he said if you don't love your wives or deal with your wives with understanding he says your prayers will be hindered because god knows that i have to do something that will affect the man of the tinker is a woman that will think about oh my children for example if there's if you come home now and there's one plate of food in the house if a man gets home first what will he do if we eat it if a woman gets home first what would she do she would keep it or she would start thinking about what other people eat so she'll keep down first then start making something else a man will just move on with his life he doesn't want to remember that there are people in this world i'm i mean my mom tried to explain to me many times that maybe because adam was alone for a while that we don't know how long he was alone so he wasn't really thinking about other people but that's just the truth god praise god god said love your wife the way you will love yourself because even when they say love has christ remember to say christ i don't know i don't really know lawyer love whenever the love of christ loved the way you will love yourself you don't beat yourself do you you don't lie to yourself do you you don't cheat on yourself do you so you know how to love yourself god now say don't even be too deep just love the way you can love yourself like this i've never seen a man that is the way my head is paining me i'm thinking making stupid decisions in fact i'm a fool it's not slapping himself i've never seen it but if your wife doesn't do well like you just descend on her because you are the alpha and the omega of your home you say love her the way you you love yourself and cc says with behavior that is worthy of respect and esteem in other words behave yourself so she can submit to you make it easy for her because okay talk to the woman yesterday and i hope we heard because whether i like it or not these two things are what makes my age work if you say i'm good my name is love me before i say no it doesn't work that way your own obedience must first be complete before you can avenge this obedience let me tell you one little story before i continue when pascal and i first got married first year i can't remember what basket did but i wasn't very i wasn't very happy about it so i was soaking you know scaring my face around the house you want to eat okay i can't bring your food nonsense no sense you know that that's new wife behavior that's doing nonsense i said you want you said you okay yes there's anything wrong no nothing are you saying okay yes okay so i was scaring my face thinking this man will be asking me what's wrong you know petting me he will not i'll bring food he will eat suck the bun cracker ah that one in open mio might as well wake up in the morning you will hear his worship whether the song is off key or not he will sing loud pray don't smile i see how can this man be praying in tongues even the bible says that if somebody has something against you you first as they quote scripture leave me by myself my room so after two days and i called my said you know you're wicked ah you say wicked from where to where like i said yes you know i've been upset with you you'd even my husband said upset with me i said yes he said oh is that what that was that he thought i was being and i was meditating and being spiritual so that he was challenged that i see the way was praying more and reading the bible more that this woman will not come to my house and with me in the things of god that was the day that i knew let me say it i don't know i'm trying to combine the english and the pigeon that was the day that i knew that men didn't date do you understand men they did not date that was the day that i discovered that you are not married to another woman you're married to a man and men and women are so different listen you cannot miss tomorrow morning is going to take time to break down the differences between men and women listen you are not married to another woman so you cannot expect your husband to understand you from that day we made up our minds we agreed if something is wrong with you you talk so we have a slogan in my house you don't suck you talk what did i say you don't suck you so what does what's wrong with you nothing you know a penny buddy you'll just suffer for nothing you will bring food we eat if you lie down there with nearly sleep with you every nothing the man don't know nothing is happening so it says behavior that is worthy of respect and esteem always not sometimes always seeking the best for her with an attitude of loving kindness so you are not seeking the best for her with an attitude of bullying you're not seeking the best for her with an attitude of malice or so that you can brag about it it is with loving kindness in other words you are doing it for her own good and you are showing her that you are doing it for our own good and you are doing it with kindness you are doing it with love so in other words you are to lovingly lead her and love her the way you love yourself even god did not as that of us women men that is what is required of you men you have to love the wake up so if there's one car in the house and both of you need to go out guess what jesus would do so what they are saying is that you are you have to be you have to reorientate yourself so your your response to your wife can never be selfishness and that is so hard for men easy for women which is why we don't understand if i love you why can't you give me car if i love you why can't i leave everything for you if i as much as i'll be saying my mother's giving money oh ah our money if i if we travel what is what is saying that we don't share money we don't share money equally but if he's psycho give him but he's if you are if you ask man that please come and give me your money for what now we share this money equal even if it's it can never so god is saying you have to change the way you think and that's why it still goes back to you have to be born again which means you have to have the nature of god to succeed at what god is asking you to do in marriage without having the nature of god you cannot be successful in marriage see everywhere i tell people marriage is not a reward marriage is an assignment so a lot of times people enter thank you that my brother is clapping for me you marry well listen if you treat marriage like ah thank god god wants to bless me wants to reward me you will be so miserable in marriage so miserable because you are depending on someone else for your joy depending on someone else for your peace depending on someone else for your supply and that can listen the only person that can meet all your needs is our lord jesus christ and even he had to die first so how can you expect a human being a mere mother like you to be able to carry all your load when you are getting too much what you are saying to god when you are taking your vows ah why didn't they they don't tell us the truth i'm telling you you know this all these all these aunties those aunties are always asking you well we come and eat rice now when we come i eat rice now do you want saturday more because nobody really tells you what you're getting into and that's what we're trying to do that's why i bless god for your pastor for organizing meetings like this so you are entering with knowledge because you think that when you enter now he's oh i'm getting married that's why when they give ring i see all these girls also they give you a ring you'll be jumping i say somebody i said that's in my video somebody you've lived for 17 years he gives you ring you're saying oh my god i can't believe it oh my god and then your friends are doing video hey what what what can't you believe exactly i'm trying to understand and figure out what we're not believing is it that one day we marry you or that finally after 17 years or which part of it don't you believe or that you're about to sign up for work because marriage is work marriage is work even though we shouldn't make it like work it should still be fun but marriage is work when does anybody lie to you yes there's the lovey-dovey part but there's also the part that will pay bills we go cook every day ah that's one of the major shockers for most women when they get married that you have to cook every day and in case you don't know let me tell you when you get married to a man suddenly i don't know becomes their favorite food honey what are you going to eat i don't know okay okay let me behave myself i'm actually behaving extra because okay it's in the room okay it says the man is to treat with an attitude of loving kindness so marriage really it's not like i said it's not a reward it's god sending you an assignment you're partnering with god to make sure that the person that you're joining with will fulfill his destiny and be everything that god has called him to be or that you're partnering with god that this woman will be everything that god has called her to be when when we now got married first three years i was a mess children's looking for my mom saying no i've i've had my children see my brother the way they do you know obviously they do me they told me i would have children this is the third day i've not seen children are you telling me i started going from doctor to doctor ah there's no way i didn't go hey there's this doctor in worry i don't go does this specialist in abuja i'm i went everywhere looking for a child god now started dealing with me still goes back to the world see if you can go if you can if you can go see the word the word is everything everything so remember the reason why i told you how i got married is because i wanted to show you how god speaks to me through the word very literal so when it was time to now have children now so my my mom was in panic mode oh this is doctor here come on go here everything she was running right now at some point i'm giving it a very abridged version at some point god now gave me this scripture isaiah 8 19-22 messy translation he says when people tell you try out the fortune tellers consult the spiritualist why not tap into the spirit world get in touch with the dead he said tell them no we're going to study the scriptures people who try the other ways get nowhere a dead end so i knew that god wanted me to stay on the word there's nothing wrong with going the medical route but god did not want me to do that because i've been running from doctors to doctor in fact i went to one hospital one day they told me go to one specialist something when i entered there i was the last person on the queue they did the ultrasound for everybody i just put this into my tomatoes everything in the hospital went bish lights went off everything then when i apologize it's not possible those machines just came from the uk last tuesday this will say jonah stand up for me i'll be going i just carry my bag as i was going they said ma come and take your refund i said at least jonah no carry anything i see colleen my phone i called my phone i was going as i go downside god dropped the scripture in my heart isaiah 30 verse 15 to 17. so i opened my bible when i got into the car he said god the master the holy of israel has this solemn counsel holy spirit's advising me now your salvation requires you to turn back to me and stop your silly efforts to save yourself your strength will come from settling down in complete dependence on me the very thing you've been unwilling to do so i knew that ah what's your happen in fact the final straw was there was one particular doctor my friend came to me i said this guy he's a world man man of faith blah blah blah let's go to his hospital he won't give you confessions to do everything don't worry he's a christian i know when they want to justify things that's why some of the things that you're hearing on social media you need to be careful they will cover it with the word satan never comes later he told jesus he quoted the scripture even though he was misquoting it but he quoted the scripture so he can come as an angel of light but we know who he truly is so they came and told me after god had told me god has said something somebody else is saying something god said submit it was the same don't submit because they love your wife and what they say is okay now nobody men men can't control themselves men can't control themselves you see do you understand how a man sexually video is you put don't get men lies all lies what did god say what did god say let me read you one scripture bless me absolutely blessed me first corinthians 7 verse 3 the message translation you know when people always say things like oh you know men can't handle themselves men sexual sometimes something sees here he says sexual drives are strong but marriage is strong enough to content contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder so marge is strong enough to call anything you want to if you want your wife to sum assault on the the what's that emphasis to say ahead to spin on the fan teach him now teacher you have liberty if you want to hunger by her toe it's okay it's your wife do as occasion serves you i'm supposed to be behaving myself today that's what they said because i should give myself that's coming i saw god i saw this friend told me that oh there's this doctor that i should go so i went to the doctor the manner told me okay we'll do some tests uh it's supposed to be ovulation on 14 they come on the 12th day we'll do some tests blah blah blah so on the 12th day before i came i went on fourteen day i went to my friend's house again i met one woman one day and so the mum was talking about david and david i said oh those are my children's names so she now said oh really i said yes she said those are children's names i said well i'm coming to sow into your life i'm trusting god for david and davida the man said okay we laughed as i was going my friend asked me you don't know that woman she was walking into my car i said no no he said that's your doctor's wife now i said you serious hey my doctor has twins david and davida she said which twins the woman never begin after they talk i entered my car and i heard the holy spirit say to me why won't you let me help you why are you running to a man that is looking for the exact same thing you're looking for i cried after crying clean my eyes went to the office and told my husband mr romantic guess what he did he fell down the floor laughing is that you know the award i like the way i got this with you fell on the phone after me and then i made up my mind that i was going to go back to the word i saw the scripture i just read the scripture i'm almost done john 6 63 the message translation he says the spirit can make life ah something came alive in me the spirit can make life he said sheer muscle and willpower don't make anything happen every word i've spoken to you is a spirit word so it is life making so i knew i got pregnant i knew every word so i started going to the scriptures i cried my husband's old dick's bible his conquer dance his nursing something or does he study something put everything down sat down but journals i said writing every scripture it's not now google is your friend now every scripture i could find on infertility child bearing everything i wrote them down i confessed morning afternoon night the way i would take medicine the way i took it i consistently did this for the next five years and in eight years i had my my i had two children about eight years but by by time ten years in marriage i had three children and now because i had been confessed it's a long story everyone's going to i've been confessing that there are two nations in my womb two people will be separated from my body one would be physically stronger than the other i knew one would be a boy and the other would be girl i knew that the boy would the last one i knew know how you have built his life seed now is life making the word had used the word to create what i wanted to see so i confess this thing so much and people every time people ask me i say i'm having twins i'm having twins i had my children davida it was on august 22nd 2013 david was on august 22nd 2015. two years apart but they're still twins as far as i'm concerned because now i'm particularly doing one baby same friends and that's really the ebook girl in me i didn't want to waste money and to be honest there is nothing you cannot build without with the word the marriage you want is with the word the marriage that you want you can write down every scripture that you want and start to confess it i'm believing meditate on it when you meditate on you see this scripture james 1 25 he says who so looked into the perfect love of liberty and continuation he being not a forgetful hero but a dua of the work there's work so as you're looking into the word it's telling you be patient be kind so every time when i read first corinthians 13 i don't read it like i love it i say mildred is patient with kingsley and i confess it because i'm not naturally a patient person it keeps no records of wrongdoing to her by kingsley i am a record keeper so every day when i say i literally say it every day i say what i want to see in him the kind of man that he will become listen i did it so much i haven't there's a book here prayer journal praying for your husband scripture as i said praying for my dad volume 2 is coming out but this one the scriptures i prayed i prayed so much i even prayed that my husband would learn to deal with me with understanding so that his prayers will not be hindered at first when i said praying that prayer sit down come and see how kind of selfish prayer is that i say no i said why you caught me that if he doesn't love me right his prayers will be in there so he favor both of us he will love me you get his answer everybody is good you can literally use this principle in any way praying for your spouse a lot of women always say they say why do women why women always pray let me let me let me help somebody let me help somebody because that's what i want to say and i'll leave this place i want to help one woman here you've been hearing all these funny feminists yes they come for me so i'm coming for them all these funny families are not a fear i know if my face is a flint i fear nobody the day you die for me they will have a conversation but what god said is what i'm going to say i don't care what they say feminism in marriage is rubbish yeah i said it i'm going to say it again feminism in mind is not god's word you can be doing your feminism in the office because yes if you're a woman and you walk like a man you should be paid like a man but in mind there's only one head and you have the first right of choice so if you choose the mandate you submit to him so what you really should do is you should choose well not choose rubbish and not be fighting and drinking medicine after death so when god's word says something do it god's word says to me submits god's word says respect respect god's word says love love love don't be carried away by what's happening out there the word of god will change anything it will change anything your marriage will alter anything if you put it to work he says a doer of the work a lot of times people say do have the word he said do have the work this work starting the scriptures finding the right everything is work so women complaining about why we are always the ones praying once i start praying with you praying for your husband they will not enter my dm and they don't have chests if you want to say rubbish may seem like see i say my own publicly why are you coming to my dm i dare you i dare you come and tell me they're gonna say we should pray for our husband i'm not praying for your husband praying for my why are you angry don't pray for your own now see why you it's always women why is always women praying is the only woman in the marriage it's only you that you are not praying how's your marriage how is your marriage and then because of that we that should be grounded in the world and know what god's will say we are moved by everything that is moving our day and you say it's true safe why is why don't they have prayer meeting for men to pray for their wives let me explain something to you you and somebody are living in a room and the room is dirty the person refuses to clean up you would rather be sick than clean up really is that what you would do you would rather be sick than clean up how does that make any sense so you will stop praying for him till he knows that i just pray the world could make me safe they pray for her but still let me tell you god said men should love their wives the way they even love themselves some of them don't even pray for themselves may their best pray for themselves then they will not be able to pray for you but if you are fighting that lost battle is a waste of time so you if you know that god has called you to pray for your spouse whether you are male or female prayer because i hear some mental is true um it's a woman's job to pray where where is it in the bible please where who said because we're living our lives based on what social media is saying be careful who you allow speak into your marriage and your home and your family the word of god should be your first your last and the final authority in your life praise god so this principle of the word if you can take the word look for what god says about any situation in your life marriage children parenting the results are the same once you just have the formula the results are the same if you use it for children you have to have three today three they are jumping on the van exactly what i wanted even down to their temperament even down to how i wanted i wanted david to be like his dad boy a little more emotionally in touch just saying and david is one of the sweeter he'll just come mommy i just came to tell you you are so beautiful come and see him when i hold man take me to mirror say i don't really need you anymore sir tell me again my darling son everything the first one i said that's how you'll be a leader she's a leader leader now i said you'll see you've got no booking you'll be calling me harvard because of you when i get no booking so it works tell your neighbor it works it works so work the word if you want the world to work for you what did i say work the world what to work for you god bless you hey people so if i have never invited you to be a part of praying pastor m let me apologize officially and let me take this opportunity to invite you to be a part of a very growing family on instagram so if you're on instagram please follow me at pascal mildred and join me 3pm every day west african time to be a part of what we do it's just a time where we get to learn about the word of god have fun talk about real life issues and just connect with each other so please be a part of it every day of the week monday to 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Published: Sun May 30 2021