How to Love Your Wife (Live)

[Music] thank you for joining us for another power-packed message from dr. Myles Munroe provided by Monroe global incorporated and Monroe global comm we transform followers into leaders and leaders into agents of change we hope that this message is a blessing to you as you advance your life and discover your purpose now let's go into the message how to love your wife Oh glory some of you who are not married you are actually going to be getting a head start a lot of folks who are married again I wish they knew what they about to hear I have discovered something very interesting and that is you cannot do what you don't know and there have been many people making demands on one another to deliver things they don't possess so I go into Kentucky and telling them that you want Kentucky Fried Chicken and you get it but then you go to Burger King and African tucky Fried Chicken you won't get it you can't make demands on people of something they don't have and so many women are demanding their husband loved them but their husband don't know how and many husbands are demanding their wives love them but they don't know how to love them and so we run into problems of people becoming frustrated and you know we've been teaching for the past few weeks on what the Bible has to say about men we're going to talk about women but let's deal with man first Ephesians chapter 5 gives us some very clear indications as to how a man should operate and live as a husband and how he should treat his wife and his children all of them are included in the book of Ephesians and in chapter 5 it starts off in verse 22 by saying wives submit yourselves unto your own husband's Oh blu-ray don't submit yourself to nobody else husband don't commit adultery and don't let no other man rule you a boss you it's matter of fact not even your husband's supposed to boss you I won't talk about someone else's submit yourselves to your own husband's as unto the Lord the first thing we learned is that God wants the husband to act and portray and live like the Lord and only Ben is a wife obligated to submit that's important as long as the husband is in the Lord than the wife submits when he's out of the Lord she doesn't submit she don't have to and whoever teaches any other they are teaching against God's will there are many women who are suffering because of wrong teaching and so random man begins to act unlike God then the woman can bow out when I say Borrowed I don't mean leave the house but I mean as far as his Authority is concerned he has stepped out from under the authority God has placed him in do you notice Jesus says in the book of Matthew chapter 8 that power comes from being under Authority and as long as the man is under the authority of God he has power he has a right to speak and things happen but when he moves from under that authority then he has no right to boss to speak to rule it goes on the same verse 23 for the husband is the head of the wife only as Christ his head of the church just how Christ is head of the church that's how the husband is head of the wife first thing the head of the Church does not boss the church Jesus does not dominate the church Jesus tells the church follow me Jesus laid his life down for the church Jesus does not make the church stay with him it's matter-of-fact he uses words like whosoever will let them come so I am only the head of my wife as much as Christ as head of the church and how is he head of the church it says he gave his body for the salvation of the Church verse 24 now as the church submits to Christ so also wives submit to your husbands in everything only as the church submits to Christ verse 25 husbands love your wives like Christ loved the church and gave up himself for her to make her holy and to cleanse her by the washing of water by the word here we see how Jesus takes you of his church and he says husbands do the same way Jesus loves this church first of all by laying his life down for the church husbands you lay your life down for your wife otherwise don't expect her to submit we talked a little bit about laying lives down what it means it doesn't mean to jump in the front of a train before your wife get is it doesn't mean to take the bullet if someone's going to shoot it because the chances of that happening are very rare so some men will love that explanation but what it means is to deny yourself the personal gratifications and the personal satisfaction in things that are of a selfish nature to you to please you if you like to play baseball before you were married when you get married you got to die at a baseball because you won't be able to play ball as much as you used to you get a lay down baseball for your wife that's dying too to your own self for the sake of the bride that's what Jesus did Jesus could have stayed in heaven on his throne just like the Bible says in his former state he was in all power God but he made himself of no reputation and then took on himself the form of a servant a man and came and died for us Jesus put aside his personal glory so that he could benefit his bride the church the church is called the Bride of Christ he had to put aside his reputation as king of kings and Lord of the universe he put it aside so they could call him bastard like they did in Matthew they called him born out of wedlock they called him demonic and bouncy-ball why he died to that glorified reputation so that he could save his wife the church are you willing to die some men need to die to their jobs some men live for their jobs how often that struggle comes in life when you've got to decide between your work and your wife and they both start with W double you sometime you have to die sometimes when the boys come around who used to go up with you and they say let's go you got to say I'm dead I'm married your wife didn't kill you you killed yourself when you got married Jesus gave himself for his bride now how much does he give himself he says honey cleanses and makes his bride holy men your number one job as a husband is to make your wife holy now this is interesting notice it says husband love your wife just as Christ loved the church and he loves them first of all by dying for it giving his life for it and then making it holy how do you make someone hold he tells you by the washing of water by the word so your responsibility as a husband is to make your wife holy so young man if you're not married yet God's qualification for marriage is not age it's not becoming over 21 God doesn't have an adult age Don doesn't qualify you for marriage if you can work and make money that's not a qualification it's matter of fact we have a lot of broken homes and divorces from people who are making a lot of money [Music] God doesn't guarantee marriages because you say that you are old enough now they carry your own weight God says you qualified for marriage when you can cleanse a woman with the word when you can teach a woman the Word of God then you're ready to get married if that's the case there's a lot of people who got a long wait but start now because the day will come when God is going to do something interesting let's find out why Jesus is constantly cleansing and purifying his bride it tells you why verse 27 so that he can present her to himself meaning to the Father how spotless without wrinkle without blemish but God really after his brother he's not going to ask you how many cars you brought your wife he's not interested how many rooms in the house you bought her he's not going to ask you what kind of education you gave the children he's not concerned about how many dresses you got her for her anniversary or jewelry God's going to ask how clean is this woman are there any wrinkles what about blemishes Sonny your wife this is all wrinkled up I'm not talking about your face [Music] now let's relate washing by the word with wrinkling and blemishing a wrinkle is a temple very Distortion yes that's what a wrinkle is a blemish is a spot that came on the Bible says Jesus cleanses his bride by the washing of water by the word a husband then has to continually keep his eyes open for wrinkles and spots and blemishes in the wife a wrinkle is a temporary doubt for example when something occurs and the wife begins to cry out how are we going to make it we're going under God how are we going to do this the house is going to go up and the mortgage can't be paid they're gonna put it in the papers oh god everything's falling apart that's a wrinkle the husband's supposed to come with some word and I in it out and say honey I've never seen the righteous forsaken nor his seed begging bread for he that is promised is faithful let's pray darlin mr. wrinkles out spots something happens in the job and she begins to feel like she's not going to make it but she's going to get laid off but she's worrying about this thing and getting all kind of ulcers over it her husband's supposed to look out for those spots and get rid of with the Word of God how does Jesus get rid of wrinkles by the washing of water by the word how does the iron out wrinkles by washing it out with the word what have we been hearing mostly of though when a wife has a problem most husbands say yeah that's the way they do it on Dallas you wash it with some other junk adding stains to it we wash by the word that means God's qualification for a husband is not how much he learns from Newsweek or the new year York Stock Exchange God's concern for husbands not how much he knows about the stock market how much investments he has God's concern is how much worry does he have how much word can he give to his wife Jesus is called the word wouldn't it be wonderful if people began to see you men as the word that man is the word in this house Jesus is the word in this house we are his people his bride he is the word in his house whenever anybody wants the word in your house can they come to you will they be able to come to you young men would your wife be able to say don't worry my husband has the answer cashy tell the neighbors that he has the answer he has the word my husband is the word in the neighborhood glory that should be the reputation rather than that man could pass him the Word of God is what God's after something interesting here verse 28 in the same way what way the same way Jesus led the church washes it with the word cleanses it makes it holy sanctifies it let me deal with the would sanctify a minute the word sanctified the Bible says Jesus sanctifies the church at the same way a man should sanctify his wife the word sanctify means to set apart for one special use Jesus sets the bride apart to be the temple of God that's his objective clean the church keep it clean so God could continue to live in it it's a holy temple to sanctify means to make something special and precious because it is we sanctify a lot of things we don't even know it you remember the last time well I shouldn't say the last time some of you never had it yet but remember when you according if you were courting before and your girlfriend or your boyfriend bought you a watch or a ring and they might have gotten it from crackit jack it really doesn't matter you know little puppy love can't be too expensive but they bought you a watch and the watch cost maybe it was a Timex Telmex a good watch you know don't get me wrong it's just that they're cheaper than seco and the mother brothers you get a Timex a man he buys you a Timex that's cost $25 and y'all in love now when you get that time back the first thing you do is kiss it every morning you kiss it you wear that proudly when you take it off you don't throw it in the bathroom anywhere or throw it on the counter you don't take it and throw it on the bed careful now because the value of the watch has nothing to do with the cost and all right the value of the watch is determined by the giver not the price of the watch so here comes your friend walking up to you one day and she looks at he says look what my boyfriend bought me a sicko three hundred and fifty dollars honey he really loves me and you look at her and you go hmm three hundred and fifty dollars did you see what mine bought mica Timex 25 big ones and you kiss it you know something you don't care how much her is cause you're still better because it came from him you know right you know they got they got some guys who you know the girlfriend buy them a tie in 1950 them broad ones [Music] yes go by and the styles get narrow but he doesn't care man he puts that broad thing on and walks around proudly and someone says man that's a big kite you got on it says I know I know who bought it not a shame some of you your chain will be changing color but you're still wearing why not because of the chain because we bought it right it's not the cost you see some people get carried away they believe that I will prove my love by how much I pay for it listen folks in concern but how much it costs you'll be surprised I mean these girls they don't want a million-dollar dress they just want a dress from you that's my wife she tell you oh she wants a dress that buy it man is heaven because the value of something has little to do with how much you cost how much it cost it has to do who gave it so what do you do you take that $25 watch you keep it in the little plastic case with the soft velvet pad every time you take it off you fold it very neatly put it back kiss it put it in a pouch and put it underneath all the clothes in the top drawer and you close it and you dance around the room happy yes along then every few minutes you would go open the drawer take it look at it and smile gross it back put it back and shut the drawer then you wake up in the middle of the night open the drawer again open it up and look at it and smile I know you've done that don't lie to me you've done that it's amazing well what have you done you have sanctified it no it just sister comes to you and says can I borrow the watch see them in know why if it was your watch and you bought it no problem oh but the lover of my soul you began to be very very protective of the gift you don't throw it down like you throw down your old one you don't let it get scratched you try and keep it secure that's scientific ation it's almost as if the thing is becoming holy as a scientific Asian is now the Bible says sanctify your life that's what it says husband so first of all you get to realize where she came from it's taking God and the value of the gift is not determined by the package it's in how big or skinny fat tall doesn't matter it is free it doesn't matter if it comes in tattered rags all of a sudden the gift becomes as important to you as the one who breathing and so when somebody comes to you and says look at my wife and he stands you're right next to his just like putting the twenty five dollar watch to a three hundred dollar watch and no matter how much he talks about his wife and it's all over you say him honey that's mine though she is mine a number one we don't go around competing and comparing gifts the quality and the value of it is determined by the one who gave it sanctify your life second thing that when you sent if I something is you set it apart for one special use you don't want no one to bruise it no one to touch it nobody to fool with it you don't want to lend it to nobody no wife-swapping blu-ray no adultery no borrowing nobody's wife sweet the fired man this is God's property don't touch it be like a like a local cherubim glory God you're right just walk around them and the devil comes put you back to him don't you touch her and people sad gossiping turn you back to them don't you talk about my wife hello that's what the cherubim does in heaven he protects God's glory he loves to do it so much yes seven wings and the Bible says they are for covering you men sanctify your wives new young men who are contemplating marriage you make sure that you you start off your relationship with a protective spirit and secondly you treat her like you treat that watch clean her up you know are you shined out what he gives you always sending it to get serviced no taking them rings and getting them all cleaned up every once in a while and making sure they look good and that's the way you're supposed to sanctify our wives and you wouldn't you wouldn't like it if I mean suppose you bought her a dress the next day you see it all torn up and she walking around with the stuff on you know and everything man how would you feel you saying aborted by this woman nothing else no more yeah you buy her some some some nice jewelry and the next day you ask her where they say my brother took it and sold it for do man I would hurt you wouldn't it how do you think Jesus Vince no wonder why we as husbands and potential husbands need to treat our eyes like Jesus treats the church dress him up man make him look nice clean them up you know some of them need little bit of paint to help them out ice cream blessum blessum bracelet [Music] sanctify means to set apart I'm going to tell you something about God's attitude to what scientific ation in the Old Testament when God commanded most to sanctify all the utensils in the Ark of the Covenant he sprinkled them with blood that's how he sanctified the first work of scientific ation is the salvation of the woman knew was a man you make sure you marry a saint a fired vessel make sure she got the blood on it you know some men they go looking for nice here nice complexion mm-hmm some nice here got the meanest mouth sanctified with the blood that's what we look for some men are looking for women who got good potential earning power they've got education and bas watch it the lot of them floating around with three and four husbands in the pass they can't live with people God's it's fine one that has the blood then secondly those instruments in that holy temple one day David couldn't find anything to drink out of so he went in the temple and drank over the goblets that was sanctified man the Lord got upset in that amazing one time the priest came in there and he had sinned in his life and he touched some of the stuff near the Ark and he was wiped out in seconds sanctified stuff serious stuff and God says sanctify your wife that means you don't slap her the Lord may slap you you don't curse that's fine two five things you don't speak evil at sight five things you don't abuse sanctify things the very nature of scientific ation means to cherish something that belongs to another it's God's property and you treat it special and something else beside the vacation you know when you get something that's real precious see what do you do you talk about it that amazing you wear your short sleeves so you can show off you watch all the time them short dresses you always want to show it off you you know we tell everybody you know my husband bought me that my boyfriend bought me that my girlfriend bought me that chain y'all was talking about it why didn't Jesus always talking about his church Bible says he continually confessing the church before the Father that's my church down there father see that girl that's my bride that church is mine see that that's beautiful isn't it talk about your wife and talk about all the time and talk about it and show off in your body business how much you show up some person talking now I confess it all the time man my wife was the best wife in the world I was up to you to say that but yours but as for me and my house she's the best why she's sanctified she's precious she's special Oh Lord love your wife like Christ loved the church sanctifies the church verse 28 says in the same way husband's ought to love your wife the word art is an imperative which means there's no other way to do it if you try and love your wife any other way then Christ loved the church you do not love your way how many men can buy their wives everything else except peace except joy you ought to do it he tells us why you love her as your own body who loves his wife loves himself after all no one ever hated his own body but he feeds and cares for it cherishes it just as Christ does the church does Christ feed the church yes does he care for it yes he feinted with the word and cares for with his anointing heals it binds up the wounds since the anointing oil continues to care for it all day sought husband to love their wives as their own body now this statement as their own body is a real statement to God God is not talking about some figure of speech this book is written to Christians not to non-christians because non-christians really cannot love as far as God is concerned the Bible says in Romans chapter 6 that the love of God has shared abroad in our hearts by the Holy Spirit the love of God not the love of Hollywood not the love of some movie or some mushy book but the love of God is only found in our hearts through the Holy Spirit tell a man has the Holy Spirit he doesn't have God's kind of love he has every other kind of imitation but not the genuine everlasting love and so this love that God's talking about is one with the body now we are all who believe in Christ we have become one body in Christ yes let's look at Romans chapter first Corinthians rather chapter 12 a minute this is a passage of scripture here that helps us 1st Corinthians chapter 12 let's read verse 12 the body is a unit though it is made up of many parts and though all of its parts are many they form one body so it is with Christ for we are all baptized by one spirit into one body whether we be Jews or Greeks slave or free Haitians or Bohemians black alright tall or skinny sweet or smelly it doesn't matter we've all been baptized into the same body look at verse 27 now you are the body of Christ and each one of you is a part of it now when you get married in the body of Christ you have just married your body hello we are all the same body so if your fingers marry your toes and then decide to slap your toes you're slapping yourself same body but there's something more serious about it than just slapping your body it is the body of Christ so when you mistreat a woman gentlemen you are mistreating Christ when you disown a woman you are disowned in Christ when you speak loudly and roughly at your wife you are talking loudly and roughly to Christ and so what does the Bible say no man never uh never hurts his own body starves his own body but he cherishes it and cares for it how often do people think that they are doing themselves a good thing when they spite each other should be doing Jesus Christ and injustice do you know how seriousness is taken the Bible says that many people take communion well comprehending the body of Christ or understanding the body of Christ and he's referring to the physical body of Christ in the world today which is us you don't understand he says we can go and take part in Communion and hate our brother that's impossible but people do it and he said for this cause many are weak and sick and many have even fallen and died because they did not discern understand the body of Christ let's look at Ephesians chapter 5 again and sales down here verse 34 we are members of his body you know Christians are the only people who marry their sisters and their brothers with only ones who are legally given the right to do that you can marry your sister you can marry your brother and we are the same body and when we love each other we love in Jesus when we care for each other we caring for Jesus verse 31 brings us something very serious it says for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and the two will become one flesh underline the words one flesh please it does not say one spirit Paul is talking about two believers two believers have the same spirit that's why he doesn't talk about becoming one spirit when you were born again you received the spirit of Christ and when the other person is born again they receive the spirit of Christ when you get married you don't become one spirit you had one spirit before you was married but you didn't have was one flesh you were not physically consummated together in sexual intercourse God is saying when two people believers get married that is when they become one flesh only when they get married you understand why the Lord is so much against fornication sex outside of marriage because you're fooling with his body could you imagine sinan with jesus jesus laying in the bed sinning with you god says those who commit adultery Stonem [Music] why because you are attacking God's person never wonder why those who raped was stone instantly in the Old Testament because you're attacking God's person and God doesn't sleep in beds with harlots and vagabonds you commit adultery you are sinning against God's party you were made in God's image and in God's likeness and God's image does not lay in the bed with the devil somebody was all alone understand even he doesn't understand that's his body and when you play foolishness with it you're playing with his body and so the Bible says keep yourself virgins you're God's property become one flesh this statement here forces because they are one for this cause should a man leave his mother and father and cleave unto his wife the word leave doesn't only mean to leave physically because a lot of people leave home physically but they're still home emotionally they still home in their mind and the emotions and their thoughts they still at home with their with their feelings on the sleeve they move to Andrews but they keep crawling on the Nassau mama he says so-and-so what should I do break out your own problems some people never leave them some women never leave on just their bodies go everything else stays on and some men got the same problem Oh glory I heard those men in the auto romance saying praise our Lord both women say Amen and everything but you know it's true this word leave here God notice does not say when you get married your parents should let you go it doesn't say that in the Bible because God knows parents don't let you go think about it you remember those of you are married when you first went to your parents you start talking marriage even and what you went through that parental thing is a strange thing boy they'll say yes praise the Lord then when you get serious and now where you going you know they agree with you as long as they think you ain't quite serious then when you begin to bring someone to the house and talking about engagement hmm parents find it very difficult to let you go so the Bible says leave and this is all true scripture from Genesis to Revelation the Bible repeats it leave mom and father because they won't let you go another reason why don't let you go is because parents have twisted some stuff around parents believe that since they brought you up cleaned your nose pampered you at night fed you that you owe them now hang on parents and we got this funny attitude that now your grown boy go out and work for me I won't you help me pay the bills I want you to help me clean the house I want you to help with the water bill the light bill the mortgage you know and that time you hitting 25 hard you think about your own life but mama said money you can't go yet we said oh the mortgage and then when you start talking about leaving here comes a guilt trip you leaving me sunny all them years I toiled went without guilt trip coming set up parent set up set up I'm talking to you today you you know how much I paid the price for you I sacrificed everything for you now you're talking about leaving me me I'm gonna die when you leave who's gonna pay this who's gonna do that who Charlotte could you do this to your mother by this time now your hearts already broken and you say mama okay I won't leave and God saying you're disobeying me parent you quiet viruses leave I have never met a parent yet in counseling who have said blessed and Lord God Amen tankard Jesus let him go I've never met one yet never they would say bless the Lord God let him go they say it to anger-filled t I want you to turn to second Corinthians chapter 12 2nd Corinthians chapter 12 alright Bahamian parents sit tight get ready this is going to be a revelation parents of the Bahamas and of the world listen to what God says 2nd Corinthians chapter 12 verse 14 says now I am ready to visit you for the third time and I will not be a burden to you because what I want is not your possessions but you after all children should not have to save up for their parents but parents for the children [Applause] don't turn the page out for parents don't get a page out it's rough isn't it don't tear the page out leave it there circle it now paint it into yellow come on sons and daughters circle it take it home and show mama show daddy my parents really good see we have been brought up in a society with this stuff the wrong way and we have children going away from home with twisted concepts on how humans because they are torn between their wives and their mother or their fathers and their husbands and is breaking up families because they leave physically but they don't leave financially or emotionally don't get me wrong now I think he should bless your parents but bless them out of a marriage situation not out of a family situation Wow you know the day I read that I had to swallow a real hard how often have we heard parents take you on a guilt trip so you leaving me son they start off really cool so you're leaving me son yeah well I guess you think he's mine now yes ma'am so here's mine if not a Honda woman eh yes ma'am Vanessa could she cook she can try everything I could she cooked for you sunny you guys she could cook she could clean she trying to find something she can't do so she could keep you so she could do it for you very much you can whenever she says I don't know what I'm gonna do when you leave I guess I'll make it anyhow that's the guilt trip somehow I survived oh mama don't say that well son you leaving parents should store up for the children in the book of Proverbs it says this it says parents provide for your children and your children's children grandchildren yeah when you finish you supposed to have established a foundation that even your grandchildren could eat from so we got it the other way around we got parents calling up children oh honey how your husband fine I need some money to help me you know get them people's family what do you do when your parents call you and want to borrow some money from you and you remarried what do you do you don't give it to them you consult with your spouse first why because marriage does not create to one big family or the two it creates a third family three separate families so the Bible says leave they won't let you go you know so leave when it's time for you to get mad leave as long as you are under their roof you are under their authority and God says don't get carried away now if you read Ephesians chapter 5 let's turn there because some of the kids get carried away sometime and they say here at mommy I'm gonna leave tomorrow no I know first of all the Bible tells the man leave and go with your wife create your own home verse 20 32 says this is a profound mystery but I am talking about Christ in the church however each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself and the wife must see that she honor or respect her husband Circle the word honor or respect notice it does not say obey or worship it's strange you can honor someone would obey them in other words abuse says well it bothers them is honor him doesn't mean you must obey we honor the Queen we don't obey her we are sovereign nation would be honoring her we honor the Primus in this country but we don't obey him he can't tell us how to run our lives we can honor people but not obey them and so you can honor him because he's your husband but don't go buy liquor for him honor him respect him now remember in the books written in the New Testament there are no chapters I got to keep reading get rid of chapter six and keep reading the next sentence goes on children or obey your parents in the Lord now the same way the wife submits is the same way the children should obey your father comes to you young man young woman says to you go buy me some liquor check the Bible sit under the Missy that's in the Lord and if it isn't tell him I'm sorry daddy it's not in the Lord hello that's not disobedience that's obedience to God you obey your parents as long as they are acting like the Lord your parents come home your father brings you some dirty books and and tells you look at him now wait a minute daddy is that in the Lord no then no your dice is but let's go to a disco and buoy down all night come on daughter I won't teach you how to live let me check see if that's in the Lord and if it isn't you tell daddy I'm sorry go buy yourself a lot of parents have been ordering their children to obey when they themselves are out of the Lord Bible says children obey your parents a lot of parents read the first nine children obey your parents you ever read the last part in the Lord so if you in the Lord they'll obey if you order the Lord you cannot demand them so I say to you children young men and women if your mother and father are in the Lord listen to them God says if you don't you are disobeying him not them that's the importance of being under Authority when you are under Authority you're not obeying the person who speak in your being the one whose authority they are under and so but you know your mother father's a Christian born again through the Spirit of God and you know they love God and they trying their best to follow God and they give you some advice listen carefully God's talking and you may not understand every word they're saying it may not agree with your philosophy of life but listen it's God talking and the Bible says you must obey them because they are in the Lord now they are out of the Lord and they command you you don't have to obey we get carried away verse two says honor your father and your mother now notice he used the word honor your fathers and mothers honor means to respect but you can respect someone and still not have to obey them is that right some people believe that if you if you don't obey your parents you disrespect them that is not true we respect people all the time but it doesn't mean they obey everything they say like I said before you may respect your boss but your boss cannot make you do anything he feels like I'm alright your boss can say to you stay back here until twelve o'clock tonight work for me tell you guys when you can work for me I mean you respect him and everything but brother you know that's given between respect and obedience we respect the devil that we don't obey Him we respect the fact that he is a demonic influence that is out to destroy us we respect that do we don't obey Him so we can honor our parents even if they are alcoholics and drunkards even if they aren't lesbians and homosexuals we can honor them respect them as parents but we don't have to agree now obey what they're doing and so don't confuse respect and honor with obedience Jesus said you do what I say because you love me and you love me because I love you first and gave myself for you watch this read this next one he says if you only your father and respect them your mother this is the first commandment with promise God says I made a promise connected to this commandment if you honor your parents says you're gonna live long you want long life honor your parents respect your parents some of you who've been born again recently and your life is turned around your parents are in disagreement with you some of you are going through all kind of struggles you go home and you believe you know and worship in the Lord and you reading the Bible and you distill your tapes and you enjoying the Lord and your parents mad at you you're going up to that place you know he wasn't brought up that way better be careful you're going into a cult now before you came here you probably was an alcoholic a dopey or something and they were still cussing but now you turn your life over to Jesus spending all the time home in the Word of God and they still cussing how do you please these creatures called parents it says do you want to live long honor them respect them he says in verse three then I'll go well with you it will go well with you that you may enjoy long life on the earth and verse five thank God he threw the sin Holy Spirit says father's verse four do not exasperate your children instead bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord the exasperate means to frustrate man to hurt - to abuse his father's don't put pressure unnecessary pressure don't exasperate your children now he's talking about fathers who are out of the Lord we got incest going on in this country fathers laying with their daughters it's sin God hates it that's frustrating we've got fathers abusing their sons sexually it's abusive is damnation from God it's abomination not only do they exhaust we the children physically but they do it mentally parents do it all the time they put kids on guilt trips you didn't give me anything this week sunny man that's frustrating for a child especially a young male just trying to get himself together some of you young folks want to go off to college you've been struggling so hard to save but everything you get mom and daddy wants does exasperation parents stop it your child wants to make something better of him herself and and they want to go and improve their education you said no all you're thinking about is the next meal you're not concerned about their future and so you say to them the water bill come up this week sunny you get a you got a throw out a little bit I have known young people who have saved up money in the bank ready to go to school and one day daddy calls up and says they're gonna take the house what we going to do son what can you do I know you have some money stored away and I don't want to you know bother with that but if you can't do anything else you know you can do not know exasperation frustration yes we are supposed to assist yes we supposed to help yes we supposed to be a blessing to each other but not out of obligation because when you are married you are a separate family now as long as you are not married and you are in your parents home you have an obligation to help them because you are living under the authority and the Bible says a man should manage his home properly in 1st Timothy 3 he should manage and see that his children have right respect for him is that right it's a quiet Amen let's turn to Timothy before we go home we can go home right now but I want you to read this I got Timothy first Timothy chapter 3 you want to repeat this with the scripture verse four a man must manage his own house and family well and see that his children obey him with proper respect that's verse 4 chapter 3 of first Timothy he must manage his home well and see that and then have to see to it no young boy young woman guns you know if you were a man of God in your home and you woman of God they can tell you how they want to live God says you see to it you respect me and you in this house I'm going to manage this house not you you respect me and the Bible says see to it see some children are out of God's will when they don't respect their parents we got this strange idea once I'm over 21 I'm off age which mean by off age women my off age you always own age with God and maturity as little to do with chronological age some people are 60 and still immature God's looking for people who are mature to the point where they understand Authority and they understand his authority and respect it and they know how to listen to God father's you love your wife the way God loves the church she loved Bill you and when you do that your children will have the obligation to obey you because you will be in the Lord but when they leave home let them just let them leave one of the greatest things a parent can do for a child is to prepare them for independence do you understand Dino is a parent who has failed a failing parent or Paras failed as a parent whose child always come back home for help that parent has failed a successful parent is a parent who is not needed when the child creates a new family that's a successful parent but when your children depend on you you probably fail it when your child your daughter your son can come to god for him or herself and be an example to other young people you are successful child a parent when that child can grow up and take a wife or a husband and build a home based on the foundation of God's Word then you can say that's a successful parent prevent a child keeps running back home bringing all the marriage problems to mommy watch it remember great leaders are leaders who make themselves increasingly unnecessary Jesus was the perfect example of that he left the earth he turned it over to eleven man he says take it he was a successful manager a successful leader he made himself unnecessary by being such a superb leader he made them men women who could stand on their feet and take the gospel to the world fathers husbands and young men this is the guard's challenge for you when you are ready to teach a woman the word you're ready to think about marriage and when you're ready to be an example before children you're ready to become a father when you are ready to have them become independent then you're ready to be a grandfather this is God's desire thank you once again for listening to this message as we hope that it has been a blessing to you our goal is to show you new paths and opportunities so that you can discover your purpose it is your love support and partnership that makes Monroe global possible please visit us online at world you

Channel: Myles Munroe - Topic

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Length: 64min 15sec (3855 seconds)

Published: Mon Dec 04 2017