How People Instantly Lost Interest in Their Crush - AskReddit

that's when I knew he was a psycho and I needed to get out of that relationship what did your crush do that absolutely killed your interest told me that she didn't like me back anymore but maybe if I waited long enough she would like me like that again she told me that I had gotten more critical lately and I changed so she wanted me to change back before she would be with me she invited me over to her place not as a date thing but just to hang out his friends her house was absolutely filthy in the glass of coke she gave me how to hair in it she was really cute had a great personality and was a genuinely nice person but as soon as I saw cat poop on the floor near the front door and just dirty everything my crush disappeared and I left in a hurry his sister actually approached me and let me know that he was once arrested for locking their other pregnant sister in their basement went on a coke binge while she desperately tried to get out and went outside to beat their unsuspecting neighbors man with a golf club that was a big ol nope it was really cool of her to tell me about all of that and she actually continued to warn women about him even if some of the girls wouldn't listen and had to experience firsthand she's really out here for her fellow females kept ranging times to talk and whatnot then always forgot Dora was not available she would always text me and asked if I could chat at a certain time of course I would agree then when I called she would have her phone off or only answer 5% of the time I really liked her too so I was just like what the hell if you say you want to talk it so in so time you know answering the phone might help wanted to look through my phone on our first date to make sure I wasn't talking to anyone else that was our last date I'm not a man and the other party was a woman it's the other way around toxic stuff nonetheless we work together and as I got to know them more I learned he talked badly about everyone nurses that are amazing he'd belittle talk about how certain people don't know what they're doing because they asked for an ultrasound IV as they were struggling getting a vein on a heroin addict the paramedics were worthless doctors don't know what they're doing who he thought was hooking up and it completely turned me off he's in his early 40s and into gossip more than my teenage daughter he picked me up for our first date in his car was disgusting not talking a few trash items the entire back seat and floorboard was completely covered and piled up trash even up front I had to step on empty McDonald's bags old soda bottles wrappers etc to even get in and all he said was just move it around with your feet no sorry or anything made me feel like trash too like dang couldn't even clean up a little talked non-stop about himself and his accomplishments and never asked me one question about myself every word out of his mouth was about how amazing he was at cooking he made this soup this way his spices were awesome never said a word about mine and wouldn't even let me get a word in nope nope nope she asked me if I was good with kids because she was pregnant with her ex and that she's not good with kids it was the first date I told her that I'm not comfortable raising a child that isn't mine and that it's not gonna work out after my response she lost it screaming that I was a heartless piece of poop and that all man are the same she looked at me like she wanted to stab me a hundred times oh also I was 16 at the time she detested cats and insisted that I give up my furry buddy before she'd move in with me it wasn't that she was allergic to cats she issued the ultimatum because according to her my cat received too much of my time and affection and she wasn't going to compete bullied the quiet kid in our class and it's such shame that she stooped to those levels cause she seemed like a sweet girl the moment I saw her do that I lost it with her because the quiet is genuinely a nice guy still friends to this day due to our mutual love of anime and gaming we were teenagers he lived in a different province and we used to chat on skype he wanted me to think he was cool or something and would always talk about his drug use he ended up faking a heroin overdose when we were on chat together I was hysterically crying and freaking out thinking I was watching someone dying and was trying to figure out how to call 9-1-1 in another province when he snapped out of it and told me he was actually okay I didn't talk to him much after that huge crush on a fellow uni student I was invited over for what I expected to be a platonic study date but hey any time spent is better than just being alone or so I thought got there and found another student from class also okay study group turns out her mom and her set us up for a full press MLM pitch video literature the works I stayed a bit not to be rude excused myself shortly and only talked to her in class just in passing from then on huge letdown MLM means multi-level marketing aka a pyramid scheme signing up to both buy and sell something while recruiting other is to sell also you get a percent of all of your recruits sales also all the percentages basically flow upward so the only way to make any significant money is to be high in the tree towards the top of the pyramid it's all bs basically this was years ago on a first date he tried to convince me to quit my job and put all my savings into gold bars then demanded I let him read my tarot cards to see if we'd be a good fit nope nope nope it was such a bizarre combo of all tried talking points and then a ton of whoo you usually don't find both kinds of ridiculous in the same person in the same hour it was back in the period where Alex Jones and his ilk were trying to convince people that the only safe investments were precious metals and just happened to be selling precious metals at the same time dude bought in hook line & sinker attempted to get through a horror movie together and he kept letting the movie run and rewinding the movie so that the horror never came he pretended to be scared and would whine about the scare that was coming I guess he thought this was a cute gesture and would refuse to continue it dragged a five-minute scene into a 45 minutes production of his own oh but I'm scared no I don't want to this is terrifying this was a guy who told me that he loved horror movies he was full of really weird contradictions but this was the straw that broke the camel's back I was 21 and in college he was a classmate of mine he seems so charming and was easy on the eyes one day I overheard him talking to his friends about how he doesn't date engineer women because math is for men it's not that he said he wouldn't want to date an engineer that bothered me it's that he said that women aren't meant for math dude was the perfect epitome of the term douchebag he used to be nice to people only to gain their trust and then betray them he was attractive though and a smooth talker as well we started talking became friends and I developed a crush on him unfortunately I never knew then what type of double-headed snake he was then on one day I witnessed him throwing his best friend under the bus just to save his reputation completely lost interest cut ties with him and he didn't care about it only then did I realize how toxic people can be sometimes girl and car behind him honk - when the light turned green he got out of the car and began screaming and banging on her windshield that's when I knew he was a psycho and I needed to get out of that relationship took me a destroyed home in two restraining orders later but we've been broken up for three years now she stole from a homeless person we were walking together downtown and she saw a bucket of coins in front of a pharmacy she just scooped it all up and kept walking guy comes out as she's 20 feet away or so and yells at her she keeps moving I stood there and just gave him a $20 and didn't hang out with her anymore we were 14 and 15 told me he was only being nice to me because he was interested in a friend of mine I see his facebook posts now he is dumber than a box of rocks on a treadmill I had a girl who wanted to move in with me and start a physical relationship I might have been interested if she weren't moving so fast and if she hadn't already had a boyfriend at the time the final nail in that already well fastened coffin was when she said the sex would only be physical and that she wasn't looking for an emotional connection at all I had been secretly in love with her for five years and that completely destroyed me dumped me after nine months because she wasn't ready for a serious relationship got into a relationship the next day and was married within five months not ready for a serious relationship is just the roundabout way of saying sorry I'm not interested in you anymore this is not the case all the time different relationships all have different dynamics and people sometimes realize they're in way too deep or life kicks you in the balls and you need to recover on your own time before dragging someone else down there was a girl in college who was super hot until I saw her share a lollipop with her dog not like let him have the last lick or two no she'd hold it for awhile then hold it out to let the dog lick it for a bit then put it back in her mouth gross I've been talking to a guy online for a while now in the past few days our conversation has jumped from a dating app to texting to phone calls the last few nights we were really hitting it off on the phone both nights but he was drinking while talking to me and each night he got more repetitive and emotional as the conversation went on the conversation then went off the rails and he seemed angry with me for some unknown reason and hung up the first night had happened I gave him the benefit of the doubt because we've all accidentally drank too much sometimes enacted a fool but two nights in a row yeah any attraction I was developing is gone I'm not interested in dating an abusive drunk in college I was crazy about a girl named Megan she was maybe two years younger than me blonde life of the party type gal took her to dinner and chatted her up about her life got to talking about past partners and realized she had very little experience with meaningful loving relationships romantically it seems she was on autopilot in fact the more we talked the more obvious it became that she wasn't ready to love anyone but herself which you know good for her self-love and self-discovery are kind of big parts of going away to college and growing up but I realized in that moment that what I wanted versus what she wanted were miles apart it was a crystallizing moment and I felt the distance between us widened and watched her shrink away never ask her out again and she never asked why either she felt it too or autopilot just kicked in or she just wasn't interested I had a crush on someone let's call her Amanda for three years I tried to get with her Amanda used me if she needed attention and I was cool with that one night amanda was ringing my doorbell at 2:00 a.m. it was obvious that amanda was drunk and a letter and so we could talk after a few minutes she said she wants me to sleep with her I told her that I never sleep with someone who's drunk but we could do it when she is sober she got angry and the insults came flying she stormed out of my house got in her car backed it up into my motorcycle and drove away I never talked to her again after that night I texted her parents and explained the situation I didn't report her because her parents offered to pay for the damage the cost to fix my motorcycle was about $2,000 she offered to drive and pick me up in her car because we had plans to go out to dinner and get to know each other better I realized after about 20 minutes she was not driving to the restaurant and instead stopped at a gas station to get into someone else's car and buy drugs basically made me accessory to a drug deal under false pretenses filmed me and made snapchat stories of it all while I was in an argument with somebody from our neighborhood just know I am so kind to you why would you do that immediately blocked her on whatsapp and unfollowed everywhere she clearly did not ask me for permission it was an argument where I was being yelled at for parking mistake if she enjoys somebody confronting me for an unintentional error I don't think so she is worth it had a crush on this girl back in high school she seemed like a sweet girl after she rejected me I let it go but still was interested in maintaining some sort of friendship found out she was actually pretty toxic behind my back she made fun of me for a lot of things that really didn't matter like hand motions while talking and I just lost interest in her entirely even in a friendship basically shut me down and made it clear to me that I was being the typical nice guy cliche this is back when I was about 20 after a couple of days of sulking I started examining my behavior and realized she was absolutely right glad it happened my ideas of how a relationship should work were entirely twisted at the time I got my stuff together shortly after addressed my stupid and entitled behavior worked on myself mentally and physically and eventually met an amazing woman who is now my wife scary to look back and think how close I got to becoming one of those insel neckbeard types he didn't believe in dinosaurs one of those super religious types and someone got into a conversation with him about dinosaurs and he was absolutely convinced that dinosaur bones were put there by the devil to trick us as a firm lover of dinosaurs as soon as I heard that any and all attraction disappeared we were in the process of getting together she had called over and we spent an afternoon watching movies and sitting close together by about 8:00 in the evening she was considering staying later and I was casually encouraging her she asked if she could take a shower and I was like yeah sure of course glad that the bathroom was clean and tidy and I had fresh towels anyway about four minutes later she calls me saying she needs help with the shower and I give her a moment to get a towel around herself and knock on the bathroom door she opens it completely naked and shows me that she's having trouble with the shower controls so I'm kind of unsure whether to make the move or start with the control so I go with the flow and show her this is hot and cold this is pressure this is rainforest and this is power jets in the five seconds it takes me to do this she has sat on the toilet which is kinda a weird thing because I need to be able to make the next move and she's well she's sitting on the toilet naked with the lid up looking all disinterested I'm thinking ah I've screwed it up when suddenly her splosh and she takes a dump right in front of me and then another one I was just um I'll leave 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Published: Sun Jun 21 2020