Happily Ever Before // Relationship Goals Reloaded (Part 5)

TC nation thank you for joining thank you for clicking on this sermon and guess what this is specifically my husband wrote a book I'm so proud of you and you're welcome and we're so happy that you joined and I want you to know that the reason we wrote is the relationship goal is to help you win in relationships and today we do believe this message is going to help you all the content in this series relationship grows we loaded it's going to help you because we believe that you can win in relationships no matter where you are there is a brighter future for you maybe you just need to learn something so go get the book today at I am like God calm and enjoy this message transformation church men I am so glad that you are here with us today and I know some of y'all are steel on high from last week when we had what I'm calling now the relationship goes revival is what it was it was a revival and if you're just joining us um and you saw that clip you like what are they doing basically we were about to preach and then God came in and we worship for two and a half hours and but it was just what people's souls needed we've seen the messages in the the emails and the DM saying that I needed that time to be able to get my perspective right and God spoke to me and he healed our relationships and I'm so excited that we are a part of a church that really follows God and today we're doing the same thing and if worship has been your weapon all week I need you to type it in the chat right now come on somebody needs to type in worship is my weapon I'm seeing people all over the world right now tuned in from almost every state worship is our weapon but this is the thing we have to know about our weapons is that God is so good that he doesn't just give us one the word is our weapon to see this is the thing that I need everybody to know because some people would love to just stay laid out and prostrate for six years but then you have to get up and live something you have to get up and come brought some things and so today even though everything in me wants to just go back into this is how I fight my battles and I want to be trunk I think it would be um it would be wise for us to figure out the what what the word says about our relationships and a brand new way because I want you to win in relationships that's what this whole series is about and somebody asked me are you just doing that because it's popular I said no I counseled a bunch of people and when I counsel every issue in their life whether it's financial whether it's emotional whether it's something that they're dealing with anger it always stems back to a relational issue an issue with a parent an issue with a first boyfriend an issue with um um somebody that they work with and and and if we can get relationships right we can be able to get the life that God wants us to live and I just feel this by the spirit some of us are living a lower life than God intended for us because of the people that we are bringing into our life the relationships that we are allowing to be a part of our life I didn't mean to start off right like this all the way but somebody needs to hear this if we would get the right aim in our relationships then we would be able to hit a goal you cannot have a goal and then not aim and this is what this entire series is and I'm declaring over your life all of your relationships as you allow this to sit in your heart all your relationships are getting better somebody needs to believe that you need to type it by faith all my relationships are getting better all the relationships that I have and the ones that I shouldn't have they're exiting right now come on somebody needs to have the faith to say it all my relationships are getting better and everything that's not like God to the left to the left I think that was saw miss Beyonce in the name of Jesus well today we are starting week five of a series we're calling relationships goals reloaded y'all now I didn't even some I need a sound effect put me a sound effect in here right now when I do this again because everybody needs to do this we're starting a series called relationshipgoals reloaded oh that sounds good no nice and the reason I say we're reloaded because I think if if we really do look at what God wants for us we would be loaded for every relationship that we come in contact with that's why in Week one of this relationship hey we said we're gonna make the principles of God not what culture says not what everybody else says not what our big momma taught us about relationship our uncle Jerry taught us we're gonna say all that is our experience but we're gonna go back to the Creator in the manufacture of a product because until you go and get the makers mind on what the product is you will always abuse it so we made the principles of God the first thing and then y'all know what we started doing we started ripping up lists and we didn't rip up lists for one week we had to rip up lists for two weeks and then last week y'all you already know what happened we went into a relationship girls revival I say all of this to say that when I created these resources y'all know about the book but I wanted to talk about this study guide and I'm not trying to sell anything I'm trying to help you win if you answer the questions that are in this book about your relationship and you should even do it with a group of people it's one of those things that's going to start unfolding what's in you and allowing God to define what he wants to bring out of you and this is why are you telling us all this paestum like if you look the same next year relationally as you do this year it's your fault i'ma say it one more time all of these resources all of this word all of this other stuff if you look the same relation he just can't ain't on me you stayed there well they just don't understand my value and disadvantage that and God says I'm trying to give you light right now revelation that's what God wants he wants you to have revelation for your relationships somebody put that in the chat I want revelation for my related relationships what is revelation me just revealed truth that me if it's there and it's covered I need to see it III want God to uncover the things that are wrong somebody needs to hear that if the relationship is there but it's covered up and it's actually something that's not good or it's actually something that's not good give me revelation god I want you to reveal I want you to uncover the people who are not for me I want you to uncover the issues that I have in my heart I want you to uncover where I'm still walking in Pride and I won't forgive give me revelation for my relationships and when we get revelations for our relationship it changes everything and so on today's message was was sparked by a conversation I had with a young lady and she said Pastor Mike I love your relationship girl series I don't watch the foot the last one three times and this one I always keep on repenting send it to all my fish friends she said I'm just ready to find my person and I said what she said I'm prepared and ready to find my person you know your person the person who's made just right for you the person that is supposed to get you and understands you and be able I don't know why I talk like that when I do that but it's just the house she was talking but she was like my person and I started to ask her I was like okay so what what is this person like and she begin to list some things out and I could obviously see she ain't watch part 1 & 2 she says she was following the series but she would but she started to list out all these things and I was like okay that's awesome and I was like what happens when you find this person do you change do you become something else do you start doing something now because you have a person and she begin to look at me and she was like what are you trying to say pass the mic cuz you know everybody's thinking I'm trying to preach to him and I kind of am but at the end of the day I said do you know that God has purpose for you before a person and it was almost like our cusp and she was like and I was like she was like no but I'm telling you my life really is gonna take off when I get with my person cuz I got plans and we got and I was like baby girl before the person you have purpose and I came to tell somebody right now cuz I believe there's many people all around the world that are watching this that are waiting on somebody to press go on what God's already called you to do and God wants you to know that before a person you have a purpose and and I just want you to say that somebody say I have a purpose you may not fully know what it is right now you may be still discovering what it is you may be in a place where you're asking God what it is but I want you to know you got it you got one and nothing is supposed to be hinged on somebody else before you start taking steps in faith towards your purpose just say it one more time I have a purpose so I want you to write that down as a point before the person you have a purpose because I really think Charles there's some extremes that that people err on one side or the other and I'm not telling you which camp you're in right now but you might be in one of them see a lot of people that don't have a person yet all my single people if you're single in the house put yeah in the tag you might find your husband stop putting you in the chance somebody just kept putting yeah a hundred times stop that but but um a lot of people that don't have a person yet they feel like their purpose is on pause until they find the person and I meet these people all the time and inversely people who do have a person they are married they're in the relationship a lot of times they make the relationship the reason why they cannot fully pursue their purpose when we had kids and we got a business and we did this and God said I factored all of that in when I called you I made provision and I still want something from you I told the woman this the other day or not a woman a couple this the other day I said God didn't mean for your kids to be the blessing that replaced your purpose I didn't give you kids to now stop for 18 years to be able to cater to every he said those 18 years I still need something from you that whole time that you're going to soccer tournaments and that's part of the purpose and part of the purpose is to raise them in the way that they should go so that when they're all they don't depart but that does not sum up who you were created to be I need to tell some parents right now who put their purpose on pause that it's time to push play on your purpose somebody needs to hear me right now I'm getting excited it's time for you to push play on your purpose because God is not waiting for a a time when everything is just right can I tell you this there will never be a right time where you are never ever needed somewhere else to start doing what God's called you to do so you might as well start today and because people aren't finding the person or they do have the person they feel like either I can't do my purpose and it needs to be a pause or I have too much to do that I can't make my persons my my purpose a priority and today I'm coming to unlock both of those extremes I'm coming to say if you're breathing you have a purpose and if you have for purpose it's time for you to push play somebody put it in the chat it's time to press play some of you have books on the inside of you some of you I didn't know this book was inside of me but at the moment that I press play on what God had put in me he already started a plan that was going to transform other people's life people are waiting on you to press play there's a there's a there's a wall in somebody's house that's gonna be bare until you paint the picture see come on do y'all see there's there's a playlist right now that needs your song on it but until you press play I don't know who this is for but I'm telling somebody has pushed pause on their purpose and God said you don't need not another person so press play honey before you get one more friend one more connection one more good networking tip god says press play he says because when you press play that means you trust me and when you trust me I'm better than any connection that you could ever have I'm the best PR agent you've ever had I'm the best book publisher you could ever want I am the best manager in the world but you have to have faith enough to press play it's time for purpose to start one and ramp it I don't know how I just feel that things so hard justice press play on your purpose and when you press play on your purpose things begin to move in your life but all of this happens before a person and I understand why because everybody has this idea in this image that they want the happily ever after and let's let's be honest like like put it on the screen cuz somebody needs to see that happily-ever-after then that sound nice now I don't know what your happily ever after looks like and but usually and your happily ever after there's a person come on listen let's be honest some of y'all got fantasies you you see some big swole nine abs that ain't even even number got another one on his belly button like nine abs and big swole can sing long hair and and no matter what it's doing it usually has a person attached to it and I don't know but what are some of the characteristics maybe you can help somebody what are some of the characteristics you think are essential for your person come on somebody I know in the chat they saying right now that they tall somebody else is saying you I'm saying that they got a little drunk in the trunk I know somebody else is saying that they're they're funny I know somebody else is saying that the character races I needed my person is they they got a couple coins they they got a little money huh I ain't saying she a gold digger but she ain't messing with no anyway but no matter what you're heavily happily ever after looks like in your mind I think that we need to really look at the happily ever before because many people never get the happily ever after because they weren't intentional in the happily ever before oh I'm about to preach this today I don't know who this is for but many of us are looking to another season that will be cut short or sabotaged by the lack of intentionality in the season before II and that's why God is saying to us today I feel it so strong that if you want to happily ever after you need to be focused on the happily ever before if you want the happily ever after for your marriage for your kids for your business you need to hunker down right now and get intentional about the happily ever before I never heard nobody preach about that before huh yeah yeah because before the money before the kids before the titles before the relationships before the person God says I have a purpose for you so let's go back to the beginning I need everybody to open your Bible because we can't find the happily ever before from just somebody who's older than us we got to go to something to outlast everybody on the earth right now and that's the Word of God and some of you like that's just a book written by me and listen to me this is the only thing that has some withstood every transition every war every every racist attack every economy downturn the Word of God is the Bible says it like this the grass withers in the flower fades but the Word of God remains forever so we're gonna go to the beginning we're gonna go to before man ever got another person Genesis chapter 2 verse 8 it says then the Lord God planted a garden in Eden in the east and there he placed the man right underline circle place put a law highlight on that there he placed the man he had made the Lord God made all sorts of trees grow up from the ground trees that were beautiful and trees that produced the line produced delicious fruit in the middle of the garden he placed the Tree of Life and the tree of knowledge of good and evil drop down to Genesis 2:15 it says then the Lord God placed the man in the garden so somebody's there ok you're in the garden and he said he placed him in the garden to tend circle and highlight tind and watch over it but the Lord God warned him you may freely eat the fruit of every tree in the garden except somebody underlined except about the priestess the tree of the knowledge of good and evil if you eat its fruit you were surely dying look at verse 18 it says Genesis 2:18 did the Lord God said after he did all of that you know what I've done a lot of work in these past few days like like Genesis 1 if you go back and watch it he was like uh you know what it's too dark in here let there be light and then he says it was good and then he says you know what I don't like it all being one type of thing water land split it was good vegetation he then made cabbage and mustard greens and turnip greens and kale for all the people who are trying to watch their weight it was good he says then he says Sun and Moon and calls it good sea creatures Nemo Willy it was good wild animals Timon and Pumbaa it was good and the first time he says it's not good is this Genesis 2:18 then the Lord said you know what after all I've done it's not good for the man to be alone I will make a helper who is just right for him so I got good news for everybody God wants you to have a person so that's the first thing I need everybody to realize right now is that God said it ain't good for you to be alone and however you are and with all your courts and all your things it ain't good for you to be alone so imma give you a person but I want to not focus on the person today I want to focus on all the other things God gave to Adam before he gave him the person C because everybody read that and you heard the end that then he made a helper suitable for him and that's what you waiting on like will you just please go ahead and make me the helper but that was the seventh thing God gave to man did you find all six of them see that's what we have to read the word and ask God to illuminate to us because there were six things that God gave to a man and a woman before he gave them their person and today I want to help you see this because God's plan is for you to have relationship and I understand some people say well everybody don't get married yeah yeah everybody has the ability to make a choice and if you don't want to get married it's all good but even if it's not in ain't a marriage relationship God wants relationship for everybody I don't care if you're introverted I don't care if you're somebody who's been hurt in the past he heals us through relationship he delivers us through relationship he cultivates us through relationship you looking at me but I don't see me if I don't have relationship with somebody I could have something on my face and would never know and many of us who are isolated I feel this right now that there are people that have been living isolated like I ain't gonna be hurting no more I ain't I don't mess with nobody I do my own thing and God says what you're doing is stunting your growth cuz you won't let any other person in your life but God wants relationship for you the I hear him saying it right now cuz he wanted it for Adam and you don't think that he wants it for you if he wanted for the first person on the earth I'm gonna give you scripture for it Ecclesiastes 49 it says two people are better than one i won look two people are better than one for they can help each other watch this succeed so this you got to read in between the lines of the Bible like so so there is a qualification of the relationships you should have is that if you're in a relationship with somebody and be like well that's my person the way you know it's something that is good for you and God for you is - or better than one only if they help you succeed are the relationships you are in right now helping you succeed or do they make you more like how you don't want to be do they make you do things that you vowed never to do do you gossip with those people and you're trying to change your language are those the people that discourage you instead of encourage you are those the people that you stay around because of time served [Music] you don't want no new best friends no new friends but you are staying the same and the reason you're staying the same is because you are not getting people around you who are helping you succeed if you're always living in the glory days that means you're not making new memories if you're always talking about what we did in college and remember last summer and I can't wait to turn up again God is saying is that what you're living for I need you to get around some people that will help you succeed so I want relationship for you but help make sure that people that will help you succeed because you're better than one for they can help each other to succeed and this is the reason if one person falls the other can reach out and help man I didn't mean to just preach this that much but that means if you fall and your friend is down there with you the whole reason of having relationship is for when when one Falls the others at another level that they can reach down with grace and help them up the problem is most of us are tripping with the people we call friends so what ends up happening is all the stuff I deal with is the stuff they deal with and we made a relationship based on dysfunction I got a run I got a run I got a run why because many of us will not do the work on the inside to be in a relationship with somebody who actually calls more out of us the Bible says iron sharpens iron but what we usually do is get with people who make us comfortable and we develop relationships out of dysfunction and then we start to stay in the place I'll call this the falling place for so long that we think is normal some of us think it's normal to talk about people some of us think it's normal to steal some of us think it's normal like and the only reason we think is normal with those people around us is because they do the same thing but look what God says he says if one person falls the other can reach out and help the other one but someone who falls alone is in real trouble let me give you a point God wants a relationship with you and God wants relationship for you those are two of the main reasons that God sent Jesus because he wants a relationship with you he sent Jesus he said cuz they busted and disgusted it after Adam and Eve did what they gonna do in a few chapters they I got a make a way for them so I sent Jesus so that I can have a relationship with you and I don't know if there's somebody watching right now who feel like you've done too much and you're so far away from God I did too and I want to say me too but that's what the love and the grace of God does is it makes a way for you to have a relationship with God but he doesn't just want relationship with you he wants a relationship for you so I say it like this because he wants a relationship with you he sent Jesus because he wants relationship for you he sent Jerome and it can be Jerry or Jeannie or whoever else is named it but he wants relationship for you somebody just say that God wants relationship for me come on some that is a faith statement for somebody because some of you have been so hurt that you said I don't want relationship with anybody else I'll be good I'll keep people y'all know I call them Heisman friends like but they always have this because I'm trying to protect myself from whatever you might do and God saying no no I want relationship for you but before the person before we get to the happily ever after I gave you six things that I desire for you and the happily ever before let me give me to you because some of y'all like tell us Pastor Mike the first thing that God is giving to every person in the happily ever before is his presence God wants you to have his presence before you have a person now everybody is like oh snap I thought already dear God's presence I thought I thought it was everywhere at all times you know one of the craziest thing about something if something can be there but you don't acknowledge it like like it's one of those things that that that somebody could be in the room oh I love this analogy like right now if there was a millionaire in a crowd of people and somebody was like a Millionaire is here it wouldn't make a difference because we don't know which millionaire is where they are but if the millionaire stood up and said hey I'm the millionaire and he made his presence known then we would have the opportunity to either ignore or acknowledge that he was in the room many people right now no God is around but you have ignored him and God is saying today I need you to acknowledge me and acknowledge my presence can I can I break it to you Genesis chapter 2 verse 7 it says then the Lord God formed man from the dust of the ground and he breathed into his nostrils the breath of life and the man became a living get a picture right now he's he's dust forms him up breathes into him what's the first thing he's going to do what's the first thing that every baby does when they come into the earth to figure out their new surrounding they open their eyes and when they open their eyes they're going to be in the presence of whoever is there when Adam opened his eyes for the very first time he was in the presence of God what God told me he said is before you ever get a person I painted this picture so that you would know that every time you get breath remember he breathed his breath into him every time you would get a breath for another 24 hours and you open your eyes I want you to spend time in my presence he literally said from my presence everything else is gonna flow from my presence everything else is gonna be taken care of but he literally gives us the ability you'll know we if God wanted to we could just stay up 24 hours like if he wanted to see y'all don't think like this a lot of times but like if God wanted us to we don't never have to sleep I think he put sleep in there to remind us of how he formed Adam that he took him from nothing he gave him breath he opened his eyes and he was in the presence of God so every time you go to sleep and God gives you another night of breath when you open it I feel the presence of God right now when you open up your eyes you should make it a point to spend time in the presence of God that's why the first thing I say when I wake up is thank you Lord you are so good thank you for what you're doing I spend time creating a time for me and him to be in the presence that's my Adam walked in the cool of the day he wasn't worried about nothing because he spent time with them do you know that must most of your worry comes from not spending time with God when we talk about making God big nur or o magnify the Lord with me the only way you can magnify something is if you see it and if you see it and you get closer to it that's what magnification is it's making something that looks far look closer because either something is making it a closer or you're getting closer to it and what I'm telling you as God is saying today I feel it so strong is that he needs you to acknowledge his presence before your person oh this works even if you're married because some of y'all barely talked to your spouse and God really ain't getting talked to and he's saying I need you to come back to the heart of why I created you is to spend time with me and I believe that even in this moment right now even though we're on the first thing that God is saying he's saying that I want your presence because I've already given you my presence and this week I believe somebody's gonna take that for real what if we did a challenge and for seven days before you got on Instagram before you called anybody before you did anything else you carved out a time to get in God's presence oh you don't want to be challenged huh I told you I was reloaded I don't want you to listen to this I want you to transform through this and today God saying I got a person but before the person you need my presence and can I talk to the ladies for a second um ladies I said ladies don't ever date a man who doesn't know how to get in God's presence why Pastor Mike cuz if God's not speaking to him he will not know how to handle you the only way that I know how to do everything in my life is I go to the one who created the one I'm supposed to be with and many ladies are trying to find a man man outside of the presence and drag him to the presence and you will never be able to get a man to go where he wasn't already found you will never be able to make him what you hope he is and that's why you need to be praying for him but you need to be standing with him but you can't pull him and that's why I'm begging you young ladies who are single stop going after him and he got a good heart he doing good all right and stop trying to pick up a project find a man in his presence cuz if you find a man in his presence then he'll be able to lead you he'll be able to stay ok I gotta get off of that because somebody's offended into my married women who have already picked up a project and you sitting next to him calm down don't this is not the time where you divorced them because the Bible tells you the faith of one woman can save an entire household you keep believing you keep speaking life over him and over them and fellas let me help you understand this don't date her cuz she look good dater cuz she can get lost in God when she can get lost in God do you know there are many arguments that me and my beautiful wife have Oh we'll just call them heated discussions that me and Natalie have that neither one of us win cuz we go back to our corners and God deals with both of us and when he deals with you because we're in his presence I come back in I apologize no no I apologize I'm like no no no let me apologize first and then we arguing about who's apologizing pray for us okay what I'm saying to you is a relationship without a goal it's pointless but a relationship without God is senseless and many of us are having relationships without God's presence I could stay there all day but I need to keep moving okay so the second thing that you need to understand number one is to get a happily ever after God's presence is before the person number two what does God desire for you is He desires for you to have a place let me prove it to you right now Genesis 2:8 somebody bring me that charger my iPad about to die and I got to give this word a full-throttle right now it says then the Lord God planted a garden in Eden in the east and there he placed the man this means that the place you hate but you seem to be in maybe God's place for you not your preference Adam did not get a brochure and say hey can you pick out of all of these locations of where you would like to be do you want to be eating in the West or do you want to be at this place all God said was hey um this is your place and he had to be content with where God everybody say placed him uh-huh and the problem is your family yeah they're crazy but God placed you there your job you hate it cuz they don't pay you enough but God placed you there the city you're in maybe God place you there I get people all the time asking so when you're moving from Tulsa bro you you big time bro when you move from Tulsa I'll tell them never until God moves me I said yeah Tulsa has a little airport yes Tulsa is not no no near any beach or any real water yes every restaurant closes at about 10 o'clock in Tulsa and yes these people crazy but at the end of the day this is my place and a lot of people go down a checklist of what they don't like I'm about to move to LA I'm about to move to New York you better not move away from your place the place that God puts you because your favor is not in where you would like to be your favor is in where God left you so if I move from Tulsa trying to go to a bigger market on my own and try to get transformation church to blow up other all the favored relief and many of us are living in places right now where there is no favor we're living in a place where there is no provision we're living in a place because we've got out of the place that God had for us before God gives you a person he wants you to have his presence and he wants you to be content in the place because to like I hate this place but maybe there's something at that place that you don't know you need that you can't go to the next place until you get it I think about my life in so many different facets at the time when I was serving in youth ministry and not getting paid let me say it again mom did you ever pay me for that spirit and truth for doing youth ministry not a dime she said for three years every week I was planning preparing we took them kids on trips all and Beibei kids we did all of this other stuff and not one dollar increased in my account but God had placed me there I didn't do it cuz I had to I did it because I was placed and I don't know who I'm talking to but somebody who was about to make a move that God said I'm not in that it's like the same moment where right before me and Natalie were about to get married I got an offer as a music producer to move to New York for one year to make over $100,000 at the age of 22 and I don't know if you've ever been 22 and broke but for your Bowie that was like God has answered my prayer and I had the presence of mind to pray about it Oh what did I do I went to his presence and I asked God if I moved to New York just from one year Lord that ain't really that bad right like I mean I leave town so I'll move to New York I'll make some cheese and he said that's not your place this was his exact words to me and I've told this to several people he said if you go you'll be successful but I'll take my hand off of everything you do and it scared me I knew I wasn't that good so I just jumped back right in broke Tulsa and I stayed there now what would have happened because God saw this when I was trying to get out of place and I wonder what God sees for you right now while you're trying to maneuver and move God says I see something up ahead that is a part of your purpose that is a part of my plan but you can't get out of place I'd say stay in place put that in the chat stay in place because before the person God wants you to have his presence and he wants you to be in the place that he's called you to be so to get a happily ever after God's place is before the person let me tell you the third thing this is what God desires for you before the person he desires for you to have provision but let me prove it to you verse 9 then the Lord God made all sorts of trees grow up from the ground trees that were beautiful and that produced that gave provision God never would put his child in a situation that there is no provision from him in here's another qualification if you know you're outside of the will of God if the place you're in has no provision from God you may be in the wrong place I just want to be very clear because so many people come up to me I'm just going to step out on faith no you're stepping out on dumb because a lot of people crazy faith no that's stupid you didn't find that plan out in its presence and so before the person you're trying to connect with and all that stuff God says go to my presence and I'll tell you where the place is and my place will be confirmed by provision I'll provide for you in that place you'll be able to see very clearly if it's me or not even when it's a hard season can I prove it to you let's just go back to the children of Israel when they were coming out of slavery the Bible says that God took them to the wilderness because he was trying to get something out of them that was in them he said they were slaves but I'm trying to make them sons so I gotta take them through an 11 day hard season so that they can be able to get this and while they were in that season there was a new food group that formed from the earth it dropped every morning like do and it was called manna which translated means what is it that means every morning they woke up and was like I'm hungry and they went out signing those like Oh what is it and it was provision your provision may not be your taste it might not be provided like you want it but it will sustain you in the season you're in and what happens when you do not have the right attitude in the place that you're supposed to be in as you end up eating what was supposed to last you 11 days for 40 years they were only supposed to eat manna that provision for 11 days and because they complained and they didn't get into the presence of God and they didn't appreciate the place and they didn't appreciate even their pastor Moses they turned an eleven-day journey into a 40 year death and what I'm saying to you is yeah if you get in God's presence before a person and you get in the place no matter how dry the season is God will provide no matter how somebody needs to hear that right now because your business is your you're trying to figure out during corona how is this gonna happen and God says this ain't the time to move this is not the time to start acting it's time to get in my presence before you go seek another person and get another loan and do all this other get in my presence get back to the basics and I'll tell you the place to go and I will provide somebody say God will provide say it with faith God will provide somebody needs to hear that for your wedding that you're planning God will provide for the thing that you're believing for for your children God will provide for those student loans that need to be paid back God will provide somebody say it again God will provide when you walk with God in his presence and you're in the right place you walk around knowing that I ain't got it but he does God will provide imagine how a gangster it was every day for Adam to wake up and not worry what up god yeah man there's some good fruit I love this place on me I know that some other places out here but you put me here so this must be the best place for me right now and I don't know maybe I missing something maybe I'd like to have a person but your presence your place and your provision it's doing all right right now you got anything else for me God say yeah see if you want the happily ever after God's provision is before the person but also God wants to shape your personality before you get with the person that word personality literally means the combination of characteristics or quality that form an individual's distinct character it's an identity God wants to give you an identity in him before you ever get with the person this is where so many people mess up because they think they think how they all right now is their identity no that's what culture the world in your family put on you but what God is saying is I gave you an identity because I made you in my image can I prove it to you Genesis chapter 126 20s not 26 this is the relationship gold series we good don't edit it out 26 Natalie I'm coming all right we'll get to that at the end of this series - I'm gonna talk about sex I'm gonna talk about all of it because I don't want anybody to come and get these things defined by people who don't go to the presence of God when I was raised all they said was don't have sex before you get married well I messed that up several times and I had no playbook of how to live my life and I want us to define things as a church I'm getting mad now I want the church to be the one to talk about things and not let culture be the one that defines it for our kids and then we're trying to undo stuff and the stuff that you dealt with that nobody still u52 and nobody ever talked to you about how to have a relationship we're breaking that in the church we're gonna stand up and we're gonna talk about everything that God talked about calm down Michael but God wants you to have a personality and the reason it says that in Genesis 1:26 he said then God said to the Father Son and Holy Spirit sitting and having a conference they said hey let us make human beings in our what's this next word image to be like themselves to be an individual to be what nobody's ever seen before look what the Bible says let us make them in our image or our identity to be like us and that's why God says the reason you need some time before you get with the person or the reason even if you are with the person is you need to allow God into your heart to be able to work on some things it's because I want to give you a personality that looks like me and a personality that that that reflects or has my ID in it and that's what God is saying and I want to give you an example of a practical example can you put the picture of my kids up here real quick um these are my three babies they're so scrumptious my daughter Isabella just graduated from kindergarten last week I'm emotional and I have Ava she's 2 and MJ he's 4 now if you look very closely at my children and you can go to Instagram and look at all my children all my children are very different they have different personalities because somebody's like I ain't gonna be like nobody else no no you can have different personalities but all of my children when I look at them I see me in them this is what God is saying to us he said the reason that before a person I want to help shape and cultivate your personality is cuz when I look at a picture of you I need to be able to see me we may not have the same exact features all my kids is lighter than me cuz of a mama have an Indian in her family they got better hair than your boy I got to put a thousand products they just put water and it just blew what I'm saying is but when I look into MJ's eyes though he has different hair different personality I see myself when I look at Bella I see myself when I look at Ava I see myself and the question God is asking you is can he see you in you in the way you handle situations in the way you love your kids in the way that you think of yourself do you know he calls you a masterpiece do you see huh do you see yourself how God sees you and God's saying that's why you got to give me some time before a person or even if you are with a person I need you to go back around and get this one because I need to get your identity to be an image of me on the earth I want you to walk in love before a person I want you to be able to forgive before a person I want you to be able to be I'm humble before a person I want you to be able to think of others and many of us the sad truth about it is when God looks at looks at us looks like a Maury Povich episode you ever seen them people up there he don't even look like me and people are out here defending but then there's always that one kid that look exactly like the daddy that y'all know what I'm talking about like they both cross-eyed and the one I go to the laugh and have like a mole right here and both of them at ease like you don't even look like me what God is saying to us is I never want to have to show up and defend if you look like me or not I don't want to have to come to entertainment into government into the education and say no for real that's my kid he said would you allow me before the person to not just give you a happily ever after but give you a happily ever before I will cultivate the things in your life that you don't even like right now and make them into the things and this is the thing about it in Genesis 2 8 he said he placed the man in the garden that he had made he was proud of us he claimed us with all of our flaws with all of our mess I don't care about what my kids look like because other people's kids is ugly to me but not my oh y'all gonna be faith just gonna be faith like that y'all know y'all don't look at other little babies and be like hey little alien babies yo baby looks like a alien too but they didn't because they were yours and God says the same thing about you everybody else can think you're ugly everybody else can think you're worthless but you're my kid and when you're my kid I'm proud of you and God says that's the thing I need you to know that's that you're mine and I want to give you my personality cuz that's what God gives before he gives a person the fifth thing he gives his purpose yep and I know this is that big question how do I know my parents because they're mic I've been fasting for 98 days trying to find my charity I get this question all the time in the truth is I'm not God and number two is that I've discovered a little secret about purpose because when we see it in verse 15 it said the glory God place the man in the Garden of Eden to tend and watch over him he had a purpose to tend which means to work to be passionate about one's calling to cultivate to look after and I begin to look at this 10 means literally to pay attention and apply oneself so when you think about your purpose I don't think your purpose is a destination like I've reached my purpose I think purpose is revealed as you tend to what's in front of you right now it literally makes me think of Colossians 3:23 that says whatever you do even if it's not what you think you're gonna be doing whatever you do work everybody say work that means before you have a person you need a job we'll talk about that later work add it with your whole being whatever you do for the Lord not for men my question to you is maybe your purpose is less about what you're doing and more about how you're doing it maybe if the season you're in and I don't like it but it's part of my Purdue you know now that I look back hindsight is 2020 when we talked about this thing like when I look back it's like all that was created I was created to do that do y'all know when I was in high school that for some reason they asked me to lead all the pep rallies at my school I hated it I didn't want to do it they didn't give me a pass to not do the class work that I missed to prepare for the pep rally but now every Friday I would get in front of thousands of students black white young old faculty staff and I would have to keep their attention and present to them every Friday for an hour and a half I didn't want to do it at the time but when they asked me I was gonna give it everything I had I dressed up I remember this one time I look like a hot fool I'm a posting on Instagram this week I had on like a baseball sock that I cut on my arm I had on like that glow-in-the-dark paint stuff I was posing with my friend I look dumb but I was tending to what was in front of me who would have thought 20 years later that my profession that other people would recognize as my purpose oh your cousin like you have a purpose boy you just get up on that platform and all no no my purpose was when I was in high school leading those pep rallies I was in my purpose and I don't know but some of you are discounting what God's counting on some of us are saying I need to find my purpose and God is like if you would just do that one thing and keep doing that Bible study and keep going to that place and keep drawing that art and keep talking to those people he was like you do it as you're doing it unto me not unto them he said that is going to be the thing that reveals what God has called you to do and that's why every day Adam woke up before a person before Eve's fine tail came through their strolling so bad that he was like whoa man like that's why he's called well you'll get it later but but that's what he was doing Adam before the person was what in God's presence he was in the place that God called him he had provision there he had a personality that was formed in the image of God and he was working his purpose and my question to you is what do you need to do this week to start working your purpose again let me give you the last thing cuz I believe that these truths are about to make some of y'all go back this week and write all of this stuff down and start asking God go back to his presence saying God I need you to show me I need you to show me what I need to do and how I need to do it and what I need to let go of and what I need to go for and and literally he says the last thing that he gives him before the happily ever after he gives him parameters can I prove it to you Genesis 2:16 but the Lord God warned him you may freely eat of the fruit of every tree in the garden except everybody say except except the tree of the knowledge of good and evil if you eat that fruit you will surely die now this is the part where people get bothered like this is the part where people stop like listening and try to get frustrated at what's happening because why would a loving God give us parameters why would God not just let us you know do what our hearts desire it's the same reason that any parent doesn't let their child do anything that they want to do even if it seems fun to them it's for their protection somebody needs to write this down parameters are for protection everything that God has not allowed you to do and everything that has not worked was not a punishment it was for protection God knew how much you could handle God saw you in your position and he just gave us and accept and men of many of us go ask the accept of God he's saying you can have a relationship with them but except you can't take it to that level and gods saying is when you pass that you step outside of my parameters for you before I give you a person that's why God says and this is so so much revelation right now because nobody explained it to me that's why God says don't have sex before you get married it was for protection it wasn't a punishment he was trying to give you parameters so by the time you found your person you weren't used up he was trying to give you protection so that those things that now you're praying for healing from you never had to experience in the first place that's the God we serve and if my daughter Isabella right now I know I'm using my kids a lot but I want you to get an image of a loving God when my daughter Isabella was like Daddy can I have a car when I get 16 and I was like yeah matter of fact I love you so much you're six right I'm gonna give you your car now here's the kid cuz your daddy loves you here's the keys to your new car girl go out there and drive it your daddy loves you I would be an irresponsible father because I did not set parameters for my daughter I gave her what was hers but prematurely and she would go out and be unprotected and the very thought of losing my daughter because of something I gave her I wonder how God must feel when he gives you the answer to your prayer and then he loses his relationship with you he gave you the house and then you stopped talking to him he blessed your business and you only come to church on Easter I wonder what it feels like for us to be in a place where God saying yo all of these things that I wanted for Adam I wanted for you so you can live a happily ever after but if you're gonna live a happily ever after you're gonna have to get content with working and a happily ever before and that's why I 1st Corinthians 10 23 there were some people like many of y'all that about the law right now you feel like I'm grown I'm grown I'm a grown person I've been through life and these people say you say I'm allowed to do anything but not everything is good for you and you say I'm allowed to do anything but not everything is beneficial can I tell you what the benefit of maturing and God is is when you can do stuff that's not sin and you're so mature now that you're not even trying to figure out if it's a sin or not like how many beers cannot have before I'm drunk because the Bible says like I don't I can see but I ain't like let's go to the reason why you're sipping is it for peace because if you need peace there's an alternate and you can still set a good example for your kids because do you want your kids to be acknowledged when they're going through pressure do you want them to run the peels in a bottle or are you doing that to cope and God says I can trade you trade me your yoke give me your burden I'll do something different for you but all of us many times never mature to the place where it's like is that the line and God's saying is I'm trying to set parameters for you that may not even be for your neighbor what happens when God says something for you that doesn't apply for everybody oh you want to talk about spiritual maturity you want to talk about when God tells people to give 10% in the word but he tells you to give 15 what happens when God says you fast every Thursday even though the church is not on a fast what happens when God says you go pick up your sister's kids and love on them because they don't have a father and he didn't tell nobody else to do that God's saying I'm giving you parameters cuz I'm trying to build something in you got saying this I'll do all of that I'm so good that I'll do all of it before a person and that's that's what I want everybody to hear me say we think that our our presence with another person would make us feel better and if we're in the right place with the right person everything will be good and if we get the right person maybe we can have provision and like hold up let me conform my personality to theirs you ever met those people in relationships now whoever they're dating they start acting like like are you see walking right now like Sally you were just doing cheer practice you're on the pom squad and now you like see walking cuz you datin Devante stop stop it why but this is the key to that thing that if you don't allow your personality to be defined by God it will be defined by others that's why some of y'all this week we're looking on Instagram at celebrities and trying to pick your outfit to get a personality like somebody you were never created to be like I'm in your business and I know it but what I'm saying is before a person he wants to give you a personality and he wants you to start walking in your purpose purpose it's a journey it's not a destination you don't get to purpose you walk in purpose that's the answer somebody needed hand guy before a person gives you parameters can I show you why this is so important okay so God gives you his presence it gives you a place he gives you provision he says yeah I want them the Hat is right here and then he says i'ma give him a personality made in my image I'm gonna start letting them walk in their purpose and then I'm gonna give them parameters it's not to keep something from them it's trying to keep them for something and then I'll give them another person because the other person I'm gonna give them is valuable the other person has purpose too the other person is delicate and needs to be handled with care so I need whoever the person is that they're dealing with to have a sure foundation because this person is going to carry my anointing and the person I'm allowing you to be in relationship with is gonna be filled with things that need to be nurtured and taken care of by somebody who has a sturdy foundation and so why God wants us to have all of these things before a person is because when the two come together they should be able to support each other and this is what a good relationship should look like but what would happen if I took away the presence of God the place of God the provision of God what would happen if I thought I don't really need all of that I only need a couple of these things like I don't really need to be getting my purpose in walking in my purpose and let my personality be defined by pop culture or I'll I don't really have no parameters if you take away any of the six things that God gave before a person which one should we take away y'all tell me put it in the chat which one cuz some of y'all have different ones everybody's not the same oh come on let's be honest some of y'all are in the wrong place you're in a city right now that God never called you - some of you haven't been in the presence of God in years some of you right now are providing for yourself and you feel drained some of you your personality you used to say I'd never be this and now you're doing that every week your purpose you don't even know what it is anymore your parameters anybody can run up in you and run through you and run with you because you have no parameters and God said which one you want me to take and the enemy would love for every person in here to be deficient in what God wants to supply before a person and what happens is why we see so many failed relationships and broken things after broken things after broken things is because people stop getting in his presence now what has happened now what has happened that we just took away one ingredient of the plan of God the things that are valuable are now broken and what we do is spend the rest of our life trying to pick up the pieces of relationships that we should have never been in with people who are never built on God's foundation so what do we do we try again relationship after relationship no no it's gonna work this time they different they're different than the last guy they're different than they're different than what what happened no no no I I'm gonna try again I started I'm gonna try again the problem initially is because you haven't been healed when God tries to pour into you you can't even hold nothing and this is what many of our lives look like today and then we try to raise kids out of this this is this is where we try to do business from this is how we try to love the world broken and God says hey this is the reason what a person is not where you're supposed to go if you would give me your pieces if you would bring your pieces to me I'll trade you and I'll give you a new life I will take everything that's the enemy meant for evil and I will turn it any man that be in Christ he is a new creation the old has passed away behold I'm making everything I feel the presence of God in here and then he says that's why I fill you up again this is the grace of God by the way see the grace of God and looks at your broken pieces said I'll give you another chance the grace of God looks at everything that you messed up and you squandered over he said I'll give you another chance the problem is we go stupid after God heals us and instead of going back to the person again that is filled with the foundation of God we keep finding all of these people who are missing an element that God wanted to give all of us before the person everybody say before the person when you get married young man young woman old man old woman know your identity and God have your personality in him if you pray pray out loud don't let your husband or your wife at a person you think oh that's too much sorry I'm sorry this is who I am and I will not be ashamed by the person I'm supposed to love I won't let my person but if you do if you do let them define you you take the personality that God intended for you to have and change life you take it away but no no no no let's do it quickly let's hope that if we do it fast if it's not that noticeable if it's not if everybody can't see it empty poured out broken trying to figure out our way through life and what happens all of us go through this life oh no oh God didn't break this time so let me try again but this time I'm gonna settle God fill me up he said I can't I can't do nothing at that level I intended for this to be something way greater and way bigger and many of us live our whole life in relationship that settles for less than God's best and it's crazy that everybody now has to walk through your mess like now people who didn't even have nothing to do with it have stains on them cuz you wouldn't you wouldn't get a happily ever before today all I'm saying to you is I don't know where you are in your relationship and you may be saying I'm married and I thought that don't mean you ain't missing some of these things and don't mean that your personality may need to go back to the presence and this is the great thing he built in the answer to everything if you're missing any one of these you can go back to his presence if you're missing the place if you're missing provision if you don't know your personality if you're searching for purpose if you've gone over the parameters God is saying today get back in my presence [Music] and today off the Holy Spirit saying that it's time for you to come back home because you've been looking for a person to do this and they'll never be able to feel the place that I was made to feel what are you trying to say peso Mike if God isn't enough no person ever will be you can keep searching you can keep running you can try it a hundred more times I gotta pick up all of these relationship pieces come on I'm gonna do it again second third fourth marriage and God so good that he says they want to try again they want to do it again they wanna they want to come at it again they want to be one that that does it again and God says hold on I don't even I can't even find my other cup it's gone right now but but God saying can we do it again can we make it happen do y'all see oh there it is right there I need everybody to know right here God's saying right here in this moment in this place in this time I'll give you the opportunity to try to but will you come back to my presence so I can feel you all the way up and this is thing about God he never runs out today of year you're watching this message I know it's taken us a moment to get here but I just feel like somebody really needs this and you need to go back to God's presence right now and ask him to clarify your place ask him to clarify the parameter is the provision before the person god I need you to clarify these things for me I want to pray for you if that's you right now in any area of your life in any relationship I want you to lift your hands in your home right now I feel the presence of God he's here father in the name of Jesus come on I'm praying for you right now lift your hands ah god I thank you that in this moment right now father God before the person we know we know it's good for for us not to be alone in that you want relationship for us but father before the person you want something for us you want us to be in your presence you want us to be in the place you called us to be you want us father God to be provided for you want us to have a personality that looks like you father God you want us father God to be able to live with a purpose and be in parameters and God I'm praying that over my brothers and sisters right now come on all over this place all over the world God is right now giving a deep conviction is what I feel right now to be able to stop moving from the place right now and get in his presence God we trust you and believe you I declared that this will be a discovery that people will have a relationship revelation right now father that you will uncover things about them father before anybody else father god I thank you that you are revealing a playbook right now - why and how our relationships are gonna succeed and for every person of God who's frustrated and has been broken and hurt several times God I'm thanking you right now that you would you would be the one to heal deliver and set them free even in this moment if you're here and you want to accept Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior this is where you get to trade your broken pieces and become new so what I had to do cuz I was addicted to pornography a liar a manipulator had horrible things in my heart and in my mind and God says if you just believe in me that I've already sent the payment for this I'll give you a new container and today God wants that to happen for you all over the world there are people that are about to make this decision last week over 550 people gave their life to Christ in a moment just like this and right now is your moment today is the day of salvation and a transformation church we don't pray alone if you're saying Pastor Mike I want you to include me in that prayer today I want to give my life to Christ on the count of three I just want you to slip your hand up you don't have to confess everything you don't have to change it you can belong with God and belong a transformation church before you behave God wants to get your heart and then he'll help you change your habits but today is the first step you have to believe in him by faith if that's you one you're making the greatest decision of your life - I am proud of you but more than that God is so proud of you three shoot your hand up right now listen I can't see you but God can and it doesn't matter who's around you right now you could put your hand down we're about to pray and your life is about to transform in this moment right now transformation nation will can all of us pray this prayer out loud for the benefit of our brothers and sisters that are coming to God everybody say God thank you for sending Jesus just for me thank you that you want a relationship with me before any person today I believe you lived and you died just for me change me renew me transform me I'm yours in Jesus name Amen hey all over the world can we give God some praise for the hundreds and thousands of people that just made that decision y'all I'm so proud of you coz God just replaced some people's vases he just took broken pieces and gave masterpieces hey listen we want to walk with you so this is what I need you to do I need you to text the number on the screen right now just take save to that number and we're gonna send you some resources and I do I want everybody to make a challenge this week everybody whether this is your first time coming to Christ oh you're watching this with somebody sent it to you for the next 7 days when you open your eyes get in his presence pray read your word put on some worship music sing unto the Lord a new song and I believe that your place your provision personality purpose and parameters will come out of the presence of God that is a lot of peace but it's very practical another favor I love y'all so much transformation church next week part six that's the Mike how long is this series it's gonna last till I'm done I hope it's helping you and if you want to take this thing further you can get the resources I talked to you about the relationship goes the book or the study guide for more than even those resources man open the Word of God and you can find a revelation for your relationship right there I declare this will be the best week of your life that everything that you touch you're gonna do and tend to it on purpose as unto the Lord I pray over your families your relationships and your life that you are called by God you are his masterpiece and more than that you are loved thank you Father for everything that you said and did today and we will be careful to give you glory honor and praise in Jesus name we agree amen thank you so much for watching this message and if this has impacted you in any way I'm asking you to do a couple of things number one join transformation nation join us right here every Sunday gather your friends and your family and be a part of not just this moment but this movement the second thing I would ask you to do is share share this with your friends your co-workers people that are around you because transformation is just one click away the last thing I would ask you to do is partner with us financially if this ministry is impacting your life transforming you I would ask you to consider pray about what you could give to help us take this message to the whole world I want you to know that we love you and your best days are right in front of you this week I 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Published: Sun May 24 2020