Emotional Intelligence - Amazed by the Quran w/ Nouman Ali Khan

[Music] [Music] salamualikum' everyone welcome to amazed by the quran a series in which i love sharing with you guys things i find amazing about the quran and today just a couple of insights that i read about from the story of Yusuf Ali Saddam and when Yusuf had seen a dream about his you know the the 11 stars the Sun in the moon and he told his dad his dad responded Holly abhinaya he said my beloved child Dada salut ayuk ayuk Latika don't narrate your dream on to your brother's fiery Luca Caden because immediately they are going to scheme against you pretty badly they're going to make a pretty elaborate scheme against you okay now in in saying these words there's a couple of things that come forward just because you said a dream and that dream is even hard to interpret right it's not an easy dream to interpret clearly his brothers don't know how to interpret dreams so even if he tells in the dream they might not know what it means so why is it that they would hear this dream I said you got to get this kid what would that be this is actually a pretty insightful way of the Quran telling us that there are some people who are psychologically so insecure there so on the edge that they may not even understand what you've said to them what you've shared with them but if there's even the slightest hint that in what you shared with them there is something praiseworthy of you some good came to you such that was done towards you or because of you if that much is there even if they don't get it they're gonna go crazy they're just on the edge they're just waiting to hear something to snap and their dad knows they're on the edge he understands they're on you know a kid won't know that a kid will say something to his brothers and not think twice about it actually even adults we don't think twice about it in this ayah we are learning to be conscious until you have emotional intelligence and be conscious of the people around us especially even within our family who are on the verge of snapping they're holding on by a thread don't say a word forget saying all of it don't even give a hint that you're happy or something good came your way because they don't want to hear you being happy or some good coming your way that is going to be enough for them and they are going to be capable of very bad the other thing that we're learning in this ayah is yes family something we'll have to be close to we have to love and there are so many teachings in our religion that we have to be we have to have a bond with family and be forgiving with family and you know close to family and yet the quran is also telling us sometimes family can be pretty damaging family can be pretty harmful and when they are you have to be careful and you have to you have to have the sense to know that you need to keep a distance qur'an is not calling you to fight with your family but dr. Aden is also not asking you to be naive it's not idealistic just be good to your brother no matter what they do to you no no don't tell them stuff sometimes you know your brother has a major temper problem your uncle has a serious issue and you feel guilty that you're not opening up to them even though their family actually quad is relieving you of that and it's saying no you have to be sensible and you have to know that some people even within your family just don't have the best intentions for you and they're not capable of having a healthy relationship and when they're not capable of healthy having a healthy relationship and you're taking steps back you're not the one that's supposed to be held accountable you're supposed to take your precaution he didn't say don't trust your brothers or you know don't do this or that but and that's the next thing that I want to bring to your attention is when he did tell his son this he says lattaker sauce in the Arabic language you can say that akasa don't narrate nautical sea don't narrate Latta sauce is the most elaborate clearly spelled out way when you're going to tell a child to take precaution you should spell it out you should not speak in code we should be clear and communicating listen I need you to be clear don't tell any of this to your brothers because they were and he didn't just say why not dad why shouldn't I tell him well just don't tell him just trust me okay or they didn't sugarcoat it they might not like it or I don't know they might get confused they in sugarcoat it he was actually clear in communicating they will make a scheme against you they'll scheme against you why would you tell a child is this is like isn't that true traumatic maybe we should kind of hold back and kind of maybe gloss it over a little bit and hold the truth back no no even for children it's good too and by the way it's not like he told them in a hurtful or harsh or angry way because the ayah began yeah Bonet yeah my beloved child my little boy it's like this hug and is holding I need you to understand something don't tell your brothers this because they will make a plan against you okay just just don't tell trust me okay dad he gets it you can't hide family problems from your children you have to prepare them for them when you shield them from it they didn't have the sense to seed anyway on their own they have the sense they would rather be able to have an open channel of communication with you so they can talk about those family problems pretending that everything is perfect doesn't help them it just creates a block and they just know we don't talk about that stuff and they keep it pent up inside and it makes things worse it just makes things worse and so in just this one little phrase we're learning so much about how we're supposed to communicate with our children and how we're supposed to deal with sometimes harsh realities in our families may allow so we'll help our family situations and milosevic especially make us the parents and the elders in our families good at communicating in a healthy clear and transparent way with our children barukh allahu dhu-l accommo Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa grant Oh Salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah if you enjoyed this video please do share it with friends and family if you want to see more videos from this series click on the box at the top if you want to see other videos click on the box at the bottom and don't forget to hit the subscribe button thanks

Channel: Bayyinah Institute

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Keywords: Nouman Ali Khan, Arabic, Quran, Islam, Bayyinah, Bayyinah TV, Bayyinah Institute, Koran, Islamic, Education, Muslim, islam, muhammad, muslim, omar, suleiman

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Length: 6min 17sec (377 seconds)

Published: Mon Sep 19 2016