Dr Myles Munroe How To Love Your Partner

it's great to be back here and I'm standing next to my lovely darling wonderful fantastic exquisite lovely beautiful breathtaking knee jerking baby this is my wife Ruth and I love her with all my heart and my liver and my pancreas and all that is within me [Applause] she is the essence of the quintessence of true love and I looked in a dictionary one day for the word beauty and I saw her face so Fox forgotten right praise God we've been married for 26 years and she is my precious loving darling wife and the mother of my only two children on the planet only two kids I have and she is the mother praise God she took away my virginity some years ago 26 years ago and it was a joy well you laugh all right you don't know about that yet you ain't married yet praise God but please give a warm hand to my wife Ruth Munroe thank you very much it's really a privilege to be back with you tonight and you know dr. Monroe is such an obedient man I always tell him it's in his best interest to continue to love me how many of you are single and satisfied tonight you know the level that you are at is the level or above that God will bring someone to you that's right so I want you to concentrate on preparing you so that God will bring someone to you not 50% like I said this money but 100% amen and in Ephesians 5:22 it says husbands love your wife but I didn't see where it says for a wife to love the husband so men your biggest responsibility is to know how to love your wife and keep her fully satisfied with Yolo [Applause] I always tell dr. Monroe there's only one woman in the world I can satisfy him and it's me [Music] so we both have a responsibility his responsibility is to love him and my responsibility is to keep him satisfied amen so when we take care of each other we give Satan no place so until you are ready to do that enjoy your singleness god bless you tonight it's really a joy for us we have our daughter Teresa here with us son our son Shiro is still in university she will be graduating at the end of the month and Chara will be graduating next year isn't she lovely isn't she isn't she wonderful [Applause] we're two-faced singles conference 2005 I tell ya this is a wild place now I noticed that the number of people off on the right and left sides of this auditorium who will not be able to appreciate if I stay down here so I am Not sure that they will be able to have eye contact with me I don't know and so I might consider moving back up there but in the meantime I want to say that it's a real privilege for me to be a part of this conference I want to give you and I think you might have received some invitation to the Bahamas this morning how many of you got an invitation to the Bahamas let me see your hands you got an invitation to the Bahamas okay what we'd like to do is to make sure that everybody comes to the Bahamas and one of the ways you want to do that is to make sure that you come and visit us twice this year because God lives in the Bahamas and the ocean is crystal clear all the time in the Bahamas and our weather is average temperatures 85 degrees and we go snorkeling every day even on Christmas Day so we have a great time and I want to at least take 60 seconds to give you an invitation to the Bahamas so if you'd allow me to do that I'm gonna ask my wonderful my wonderful tech guys to give me a little signal can you shoot me to the screen is that possible oh good my you're so smart where'd you get such an education from Warren volitans worship as a singer dancer musician mr. t or to simply desire his presence don't miss these five days of pure passionate and praise filled Kingdom Russia registration is 175 dollars per person with special rates for groups of gentleman come and learn how to restore the kingdom concepts of worship an ASA 2005 for further information call two four two three four one six four or visit our website at bf mmm calm this year you can take advantage of new training opportunities as the international leadership training institute presents three courses each worth three semester credits marsuits roof it has an elliptical knowledge taught by dr. Jerry Horner a mentor of dr. Myles Munroe and a world-renowned Hebrew and Greek scholar August 9 through 12 basic issues in leadership and biblical principles of leadership taught by our very own dr. Myles Munroe president and founder of ilt I November 1st through 4th models of leadership and biblical philosophy of leadership also taught by dr. Munro deadline for application is February 18th for the March class July 20th for the August module and October 10th for the November module for further information contact the Office of Admissions at two four two three four one six four four four extension two nine four or two three six or email alt I at Paul wave dot-com well I think that that sound is completely I mean the visual here is not coming through and so I just wanted to personally invite you to come to the Bahamas to our conferences and also to our Leadership Institute which lasts about three days three days of training and three days on the beach swimming that's how we do it so when you come you get you get revelation and relaxation in one place you like that combination and some of y'all look tired you need a vacation anyhow so so you need to come but if you are interested in coming to our conferences and also to our Leadership Institute you are more than happy to be happy to entertain that and we do have in the lobby at the book table some brochures took in you can pick them up and they're all free of charge and go home and pray about it and then if you want to come on a vacation if you've never been out of America I think you need to take some time and get away and and the Bahamas is a good place to come there's a direct flight from there here too so make sure you come on down to where the action is amen before we get started someone said to me that we didn't have our singles main book here I was very sorry to hear that because I know many of you wanted to get that that book in your hand today I spoke at my office and there was some misunderstanding as to file shipment and so we do have however six of our major best-selling books on singleness and relationships here and I want to remind you of our newest book entitled waiting and dating when I was writing this book the title I gave the publisher was waiting dating and not mating and the book is a very practical book if you are 16 or 61 this book will help you this book contains about 28 years of study and research in it and the book looks like this it it's a simple cover but it is actually a book that I believe will also help you to bring up your kids if you got teenagers in your home and don't know what to do with them don't know how to talk to them about sex and relationships and sometimes as a parent you are intimidated by that this book is what I call your other parent okay and what I did with my son and daughter who is my daughter's here today is that we would encourage them to read books but also to read even pay them in the past to read them you know it's a we just book I give you 50 dollars and that's a good thing to do is say cuz young people like money so they read it and they gotta come and tell you about it and give him 50 bucks now the $50 is worth it because you just saved them a lifetime of problems okay so you might want to get this book especially if you are unmarried and if you have young people in your home who you want to help live a very disciplined life this book will help you with that some of you I think we almost sold out of these books already so if you are interested in getting these books you might want to rush to the center and get them at the end of the meeting one book is called the purpose and power of the mail the other one the purpose and power of the woman and I tell you these are our best-selling books for the men or women now here's how you read these books if you are a man you read this book but you also read this book because you see most men don't know who they are and for heaven's sake they don't know what a woman is either if you are a woman you should read this book first but then you should read this book because most women don't understand men also and that's why we have an in training we tell both couples or both sexes to read both books this book talks about the five unique needs of a woman and most men don't know what they are this book deals with the five needs of a man and for heaven's sake most women still trying to figure them out so to save yourself the drama under trauma make sure you get this information that you married you definitely want to get these two books right away because much of your marriage if you're not aware of these needs are experimentation and that's why there's so much frustration and hurt all the time in your marriage because even though you love your spouse sometimes you're not aware of what their needs really are and understand it's amazing to understand that a woman's needs are completely opposite to a man's needs and a man's is opposite to a woman's needs so sometimes what we do is we try to - we try to meet the need of our spouse based on what we need and that is not the way it works okay for example a man does not need love and most women think men need love now women need love but men don't need luck that's why the Bible says husband's love your wives but it never says wives love your husband's because men don't need love what men need more important than love is respect as I meant spell love dispel it resp ect this is serious is very important and most women think of you know if you buy a guy some roses or you send him a car that he's happy he's not he doesn't need a fraction a woman needs roses and cards and phone calls but a man doesn't he needs something different okay so it's important to know the difference and men is very important that women don't need sex they like it now but they don't need it are y'all ready tonight at you know women need affection not sex and so sometimes men believe that once they had sex and they're happy one must be happy not necessarily true because that's not what she needed she needed affection and so uh you guys know the difference so that you don't make mistakes you married praise God you need this book badly there save your wife all kind of frustration so I want to recommend that this set of books to both of you if you not married get the information now so you'll know how to look and how to understand the persons will be interested in you and also out of council people these books are good for you to become a good counselor even as you are unmarried you can help people knowledgeable makes a good counselor good counsel are not experienced but knowledge does ok the last item I want to mention is very important that latest book on relationship is called the purpose and power of love and marriage and in this book we talk about the 15 differences between a male and a female and if you are unmarried after you read them you're gonna be glad you ain't married I'm telling you if you knew how opposite a male is to a female you prefer revelation every day completely different but they equal but different and so it's important to get that information and I want to recommend that you get those I autographed about maybe three four hundred books this morning maybe at more than that maybe eight hundred or so and I did that because I wanted to give you a personal encouragement from me plus my signature is worth fifty two thousand fifty six thousand dollars so if you're smart you keep that signature with you amen these are the secret weapons we have here one is called the secrets of the heart the other one is called marriage is still a good idea these two books are loaded with counseling information for individuals and couples so you want to get a give and take advantage of those and bleh we got some tapes and CDs are there on straight talk to men and women and sex etc they'll help you now what I'm gonna do tonight is very very practical and we're gonna get down to some heavy stuff this morning was part one all right so will you bless this morning oh we had a good time I tell you okay someone asks my technical friends to pull me up on the screen please write in your notes this is our topic tonight part two the myth of singleness the what the myth of singleness singleness is a myth what you've been taught about singleness is the source of your problem because what you've been taught is that singleness is something negative or bad or something that you want to get rid of we confuse singleness with unmarried singleness is not the same as unmarried write that down please is a very important point of making we believe that if you are unmarried you are automatically single that is not so and I'm going to prove that tonight from scriptures the reason why your relationships don't work and some of you have been trying for years to make relationships work you keep going in and out of them or maybe you wonder why you can't even enter one and the reason why people avoid you even the opposite sex avoid you you're going to see some reasons why tonight this statement I have of here is important it's okay to be single but it's not good to be alone God is not against you being single so we're going to talk about this myth of singleness and we want to capture the advantage of being single my marriage of 26 years happy wonderful marriage is a result of my still being single in fact it is my singleness and my wife's singleness that makes our marriage so successful could you imagine 26 years living with somebody no stress no fights no hassle never was a harsh word spoken in our house against each other for 26 years my daughter blessed me last week touched me so deeply she said daddy I want to marry a man just like you you know your british testimony are those who live with you I was not born this way I had to get knowledge and the greatest discovery I ever captured about relationships is understanding the advantage of being single take these notes down couple of thoughts first there's a book that I want to recommend to you called the purpose and power vision we talked this morning and we end it on the subject that the first thing God created was a single not a couple and that single was a male and God gave that male some specific instructions one of them related to a vision and that's important the word work in Genesis 2 verse 15 is the Hebrew word which means to become and God commanded the first single become yourself don't look for someone first and the only way to become yourself is to discover yourself first the problem in most relationships is that we meet people with no vision don't know who they are where they're going don't know their purpose and we marry them and if the blind leads the blind a couple falls into the ditch and the children follow them tragic we must get this single concept correct all right let's move quickly now and I want to give you a couple of principles the first press were to write down is this singleness is the most important state of human development what is singleness you are running away from the most important state of human development why do we know that simply because singleness is the foundation of God's design for Humanity God created one human from the soil he never went back today we got six billion of them on the earth and God only made one women did not come from the soil they came out of the man so God built the human family on one single human not on a couple we've been taught that the foundation of a society is marriage that is not what the Bible teaches the Bible teaches that the foundation of the human family is a single person marriage is the second phase not the first phase do you know that all the instructions that God gave to man were only given to a single person God never told Eve above the tree can read your Bible carefully he never told Eve to work he never told Eve to cultivate he never told Eve to protect his presence called Eden all instructions were given only to one why because the single is the key to the marriage your marriage is only as good as your singleness write it down if you were here this morning no matter how much you want a good marriage it will never be better than you so if you don't like your relationship at the moment you change write this down please number three God began the human family with one single human being and not a couple number four God forever settled and established the foundation of the human relationship when he created the single individual first that means that the key to any relationship on earth is the single state now the problem is we confuse singleness with marriage or not being married if I if I am able to express and communicate to you this one point and that one point is that being unmarried does not equal singleness I would have been successful here tonight most of you came to this conference because you are suffering from a disease okay don't get afraid nice all right the disease is a personal one it shows up in different ways like a sense of loneliness a sense of being unworthy a spirit of self depression self-pity it even manifests in jealousy it's a disease called loneliness and being a born again doesn't get rid of it we gonna deal with this disease tonight write this down please very important God created singles chances 127 it says and the Lord God created man in his own image in His image created them male and female see God didn't make a couple he made singles he made the male first and then he made the female he didn't make husband and wife God did not choose Adams spouse I was born just like you very religious and some of you are very spooky I come from some spooky people in my life I tell you and then you we walk around believing that God has chosen one person for us we got to find them or that's a tough old six billion people a needle in a haystack and you gotta find him find her that ain't fair God God does not choose your meat God created Eve credit Eve now I did my Hebrew studies in college and I was shocked when I read the Bible in Hebrew and the meanings were so different from your Western Bible and in this verse it says and the Lord God created Eve founder he built her and then it says he presented her to Adam the word means to parade before in other words he gave Adam a power of choice and if God chose your mate he would have robbed you of the power of choice and you could blame him for your problems God will never violate your will that's why going to hell he cannot stop if you choose God doesn't even save you without you accepting it first he did everything necessary to save you and redeem you but he cannot choose for you he says choose you this day whom so ever will now if God doesn't choose your salvation why would he choose your spouse I'm gonna use your brain you smart people gone ain't that stupid he gonna take responsibility for your bad choices so God gave you a brain with 500 billion cells he gave you a mind in that brain that can calculate analyze and investigate and explore and test He gave His Word for a standard of measure gave you the Holy Ghost for guidance and wisdom how dare you blame God for your bad choice so stop saying dumb things like I had a word from the Lord last night you supposed to be my wife the Lord told me that tonight you will wear pink some of the dumbest things I've heard I am lady to her own town she says I had a dream last night and the Lord said when I come to church today the first man that walks in with a green coat shall be my husband guess what it was me and I'm married so you know was the demon talking to her stupid stuff some of y'all look guilty already look at that write this down please this is very important we don't deal with this point the priority of singleness singleness is the first building block of the human society not marriage sync therefore God began the human race with a singer not a couple so God's focus is not marriage first its singleness first let's deal with in a deep way hey singleness is God's idea it is God's concept it is God's foundation therefore God's principle of success are interesting in Genesis 2:18 and I want you to write fast now because you know they gave me a limit here the first thing God said that this man after he gave me instructions and please get the setter for the morning was that good this morning I hope you get that one this morning now if you get the morning session this is where we pick up from that right here because the last thing we spoke about was that God created the one single male first and God gave this one single all the instructions for life then when God had finished God then said it is not good for this man to be alone most of you confused alone with lonely that is not that Hebrew word God said it is not good for man to be one alone I did my research that's why the books are important because they'll save you from a lot of research I've done the work for you and it's important to get those books for your unborn grandchildren even a married yet because you cannot teach what you do not know and you repeat what you learned and your name true none of it what you learn ain't right the right alone here's what it means powerful word the right alone is two words put together Hebrew and the English tried to get it right it's the word alone look at the word carefully it is the word al and oh and II that's exactly what it means in the Hebrew it means all one it is not good for this man to be all in one body it has nothing to do with loneliness it has to do with composition let me explain something deep but you got to follow me cuz this gets very heavy here I need can you come and help me yeah just stand here cook man you gotta walk fast my times going don't waste my time praise God tenor Oh Adam okay so this is Adam now when God created Adam and by the way that down means dark earth it was not a name it was a description so use your you figured out early yeah I don't when God created man now now the reason why I want to show you this because if you don't understand this principle you can't understand genesis here's the principle god never begins anything until he has finished it this is very important so god Isaiah 46 verse 9 says I am God there's none like me verse 10 says I always said the end before I begin and I make known from ancient times what is yet to come I say my purpose will stand it's a powerful verse when you study that in Hebrew it actually means God says I always end things first and then I back up when I finished and I begin them this is amazing God that's why he says there's none like me I finish things first then I back up and I start them that means whenever God begins something that is evidence that it's already finished that ought to make you scream do you know why because you began [Applause] the fact that you are here is proof that there's something already finished that you were born to stop I'm talking to myself please go follow this principle now therefore when God began the human race with one human he had to have had already finished every body I can't teach this so God finished every body first then God took everybody billions of spirits and put them all one body and he called it a down [Applause] you get it after I'm gone you get it so when God began Adam he had already finished you so God took everybody and put him in one body and put the one body with everybody in the garden so now we got one body with everybody in the presence of God and God begins to talk to the one body with everybody because everybody was in the one body and whatever God said to the one body he was saying it too so whatever this one body does everybody does so if you slapped this one body you'd be slapping everybody if you curse this one body in the garden you'll be cussing everybody if this one body sinned then by one man sin entered into the world on sin and death was passed upon come on clap your hands it's the truth one body so now God has one body with everybody and the first body he put everybody in was a male and a single so after God had given the male body with everybody in it instructions then in verse 18 of Genesis 2 God says now it's not good for you to be all in if you read that chapter it says for every bird there was a bird for every car there was a car for every fish there was a fish for every dollar there was a dog but for man there was none like him so God when he wanted another body didn't need to go and start from zero he went inside the one body pulled out another body uncalled it man with a womb the wind man [Applause] are you getting this let me show you what the word alone means in the practical Hebrew write this down now God never said it was not good for man to be single that's important god never said it was not good for man to be single God is not against your singleness he created it it's a matter of fact if there was ever time that you should pursue and never want to cease being single it's now let me explain you see we got defined singleness first yes singleness am I going too fast good just by the tape all right the word singleness here's what the definition is and it's what it means stare at the atom to move atom we can talk you in a minute as Adam earlier all right the word singleness first of all means separate secondly it means unique and thirdly the word single means whole now look at those words that is what single means to be single means to be separate separate means to be apart and detached and to be different from others the word unique is important here's what it means it means to be original to be distinctive to be special look at those words and the word home means to be complete in yourself the way at home means to be unified to be won in yourself to be one with yourself what a powerful concept to be homies I am one with myself I am in love with myself and I am in in love with my value I don't need you to be somebody I am somebody all by myself who I look at that list is there anything on that list you would like to stop being it is that list that makes you attractive and that's why people are avoiding you look at that first of all are you separate let me talk about it for a minute what does it mean to be separate or pod it means that your best friend is you separate means that you don't imitate anybody else separate means that you don't need to cut your hair like the latest fashion or to wear the same clothes that go come on somebody you are so separate you decide your own style but that ain't you you are in FUBU Sean John Nike you don't separate separate means that you don't need to be around people all the time to feel important [Applause] are you single yet is the question are you afraid of a quiet house always kind of have the TV on or some music going are you afraid of silence don't answer just think about it can you go to a four-star restaurant by yourself and other lobster by yourself and even a smile on your face [Music] are you single yet I got number two unique are you an original don't say yes yet because you're emotional right now [Applause] are you do you have a sense that you are original that there's no one else like you that your volume is so high they gotta climb a ladder to reach you I mean are you are you so aware of how distinctive you are that it's a pleasure for people to come in your circle or are you bribing people to come around you because you need them so badly do you need people's approval so badly that you would do anything to get it you are not unique are you hold think about it the reason why marriages don't work on this list right now that's why marriages don't work at the list we married people who are not whole we married folks who are not distinctive and unique we married people who were never separate from their parents we get fifty year old children still looking for someone to like them getting mad when people don't approve of them they are sick it's gonna get better in a minute or still write this down please very important here's the real problem the real problem is being or one not single matter of fact God's ever good for man to be alone and here's why because the B alone needs to be all one or all in one and it is not good for man to be all one now here's the word alone needs and I studied this word and please write these down the word alone means number one to be exclusive number two to be isolated and number three it means to be solitary or to be in a solitary state now God told Adam it is not good for you to be isolated that means the only one of your kind to be exclusive that means there's nothing else in the garden like you anywhere and you are a solitary being you are the sole one of your kind Gaza this is not good now I want to get into some deep stuff but I gotta come back and teach that because there's a deep side that just you gotta understand oh I wish I had time now are in that time now it's too deep you know I need couple days to deal with that but is that you see if you don't understand that deep side you can't understand why it's not good for you to be exclusive let me give you one point that may help you I got 12 but I'll give you one all right here it is god is love God doesn't have love he is love that's important God doesn't give love he is the stuff not a problem with that is love has to love so none of her love to exist it must love so God himself must love otherwise God will not be fulfilled so God created himself so God could love himself so God created his own image so he could love it I'm trying to help you here so God created man in his own image because God needed something to love and God is a spirit and he has to love one like him oh let me give you a principle love can only be complete when the receiver is just like the giver I repeat this love can only be complete when the what receiver is just like the giver Jesus made this point when he said these words he said you cannot give pearls to swine why if you give a diamond ring to a pig he will mash it in the mud roll it and forget it because he is not like you he cannot appreciate the value of your gift stay with me now if you give your cat a golden cup to drink milk the cat doesn't care that's why it's a lie to ever say again that a dog is a man's best friend but that ain't true God and give you no dog he gave you a lady am i talking good so you see in order for the giver to be fulfilled the receiver have to be exactly like the giver that's why the Bible never says that God loves his angels never because they are not in His image so God created you God is a spirit so you are a spirit you came out of God's Spirit so whatever God consists of you have God is love so you are loved and then God loved you so much that when you love so much but when you love someone the next natural response is to give so God got so excited when he created the first spirit being God got excited and I believe he did because the Bible's kind of sorta shows that he got excited you see when you're in love with someone you do crazy things yeah I mean you go temporarily insane promising that woman the moon you can't even get to the roof but when you're in love you say dumb things man and what God did when Adam was created the Bible says and the Lord God created man in his own image in his own likeness verse 26 and the way 27 it says and the Lord God said to the man be fruitful multiply now the first thing God gave the man after he produced him God says let them have let them have he gave them the whole world he gave them the earth the whole thing and then God realized oops they are spirits the earth is physical and spirits cannot appreciate physical things so I gotta take them out of the spirit world put him in the physical world so that I could receive the gift and enjoy the gift when two men dominate to give so then God did a second operations in chapter 2 verse 7 God went to the soil and formed an earth suit and then God blew into the that suit the man and now the man is on earth in a body called male the man is a spirit but the body is male dirt follow me carefully please so God now has the man who is his spirit his new nature his image in a dead body but all of that man is in one dead body so the man who is one dead body is low so god looked at the man in the mail and realized that the man has the same problem he had only a few will get this one so God says oops that's why when you read the Bible in verse 18 it says and the Lord God says this is not good don't you get it God says oops I produce the same problem I had he cannot dwell all in one like I was all in one and I need someone exactly like him he doesn't need another spirit because he got me come on so he needs another body because love has to give and love has to love so God went inside the mail and pulled out another mail I need him come can you stand right there stand behind her please so God pull another one mail but you see he is the mail God designed the mail to be like him the mail is a giver so if you look at the male's body there's nothing to receive [Applause] is that real is it Claire this is an exit Claire it is illegal to enter an exit oh sorry man church [Applause] your country is now facing the challenge of people attempting to legalize and exit that's all but no legislation can change this exit into an entrance sorry [Applause] no come on singles of 2005 [Applause] so God produced a give up I mean all the mail is designed to do 24 hours anywhere any day in the kitchen in the car on the floor missed again you know it's true built to give come on brother sated me built to give alright brothers you know I'm talking about some of you married people know what I'm talking about because you think the guy had a demon that ain't no demon he's a locomotive he's a generator on all the time ready everybody every day [Applause] am i right about it one time a lady came to me and she's a pastor miles my husband got a demon I said really she said here he's a nymphomaniac and passive he's one of your elders you got to pray for him I said what's the problem he wants it all the time in the morning in the night in the midday at lunchtime dinnertime suppertime even when I'm sleeping he wakes me up and I watch it he's got a demon pastor Myles you gotta play and help me he need deliverance I say honey I can't help you because I got the same give me five everybody said born to give a male is created by God to be a given so when God took the fee the male the male out of the male he did some reconstruction so that she could become a receiver so if you study a woman there's no place for her to give she was created old ladies listen to me this is so good a woman was created for no other reason than just to proceed we see we see we see get along give them are get along more level one money my attention more Kia more concern more attention one loving more clothing more houses more shoes Marcia No for receiver I finish with you hallelujah I say hallelujah now remember in order for the giver to be complete the receiver has to be exactly like the giver that's why God could not go back to the soil do you know that they've proven scientifically that every cell in your body contains the chromosomes and the DNA for an exact clone of you the hebrew word that you'd and translate group is not rip it simply means peace god produced the first clone because she had to be exactly like the giver so a woman is only designed to be loved she's only built to receive that is why when you take from a woman she malfunctions come on men write that down in capital letters that's why the Bible never tells a woman to love a man but it commands a man to love his wife very important and so God did something beautiful he said it's not good for this man to be all-in-one so he went inside the man and took out one and put that one in a body just like his except he made a few adjustments and made it a receiver now God is complete spiritual spirit and now man is complete flesh to flesh so he says we become one spirit already we already that but you will become now one fresh by the way this is very important to you spiritually you see spiritually you don't need a man because spirits have no gender write it down please you already have God you don't need a man or a woman to worship God because they that worship God must worship Him how in spirit and you are already a spirit you and God are complete so God created a perfect receiver for the giver the secret to my life with my wife is that I know this stuff see and I put it in this book in these two books I'm telling you that's why we have no fights for 26 years I figured it out from God we got the happiest marriage in the world why it ain't because we got some magic I understand where she is hundred percent receiver matter of fact that's why I give her own bank account and say look and every month we put stuff on it why she is a receiver [Applause] [Music] everything a woman sees she wants a new Mendel understand why he said but baby you just bought these shoes last week yes that was so brother listen to me if you ain't married me tell you something and you can't give to her leave [Applause] see I'm brothers here's how it works even though she has her own job ha only bank account on our own paycheck in under do it you [Applause] some of you men saying oh please have mercy on me God now I'm going to teach you the truth it sure gonna set you free praise God so God made for him a help suitable the word suitable means to fit he fits she fits him perfectly he's a giver she's a receiver and that is why two males cannot function in God's program and two females cannot function in God's program when to give us try to give it's called an abomination to God when to receive us try to receive it's called an abomination to God malfunction so if you got those tendencies I pray for you tonight come back to your senses [Applause] now the reason why I did this this way it because you see this morning I want to show you that the woman did not come from his back she came from the front of him so the woman is in front of the male this is what God's image looks like right here so stop saying and don't you ever say again that behind every good man is a good woman that's not true in front of every good man there is a good woman so when the devil pushes on her [Music] see the problem is in this city we got women carrying the load and no one carrying the woman so they have stress high blood pressure diabetes sis fibroids cancer why because the stress is killing them and that's what's wrong and when the children come they come here when the devil attacks the children they fall on mama and my mama falls Papa catches everybody come step down one step Reiss step down one step please stand behind him praise God brother Daryl can you come here please give a good hand to my assistant faster here Daryl stand behind him I want y'all to watch how God works all right singles remember this all your life that's the picture of God's program you see when you attack the children and you attack the woman and she falls the man falls and Jesus catches him and the father catch of Jesus listen to the scriptures the head of every woman is man the head of every man is Christ on the head of Christ is clap your hands dr. Graham men that is the most beautiful picture for you to remember you men because when you take on a wife you are not alone God has made you a personal promise that if you cover her he railed kaga you and Christ will be covered by him so he gonna pay the bills he gonna make you debt-free he gonna keep you healthy he gonna take care of your children all the men shouting yes all the men stand up and scream quick quick quick quick quick [Applause] praise God Thank You Adam and Eve Thank You Lord Jesus thank you Father get a big hand praise God write this down please the blessing of singleness God said it's not good for the man to be only one of his kind so he made him another kind like him and made that kind a receiver there for singleness is a state to be pursued not avoided because when you are perfectly single then God provides the opportunity for you to give yourself away very important to be single should be the goal of every married person even because you need to be separate unique and whole to offer value to your husband or your wife see when you are whole you're not a burden to your spouse oh I'm going to talk about this for two minutes you should get married because you got so much excess you need someone to give it to you shouldn't get mad because you starving for something you become a burden you're looking for attention looking for approval looking for someone to make you feel important that's why you get married you are writing to me see if you ain't nobody and you marry someone who ain't nobody nobody got married [Applause] am i right about it and so you got to people all the time trying to use each other to get to be somebody and ain't nobody in the house serious reality very important write this down please some of the loneliest people in the world I'm married people so marriage does not solve loneliness it just exposes it if you feel lonely tonight you don't need marriage you need to meet yourself let me give you some thoughts that blow your mind loneliness is magnified by marriage it magnifies and exposes the fact that you are not unique you are not separate you are not home singleness is an amazing thing Adam did not know he needed a mate did you realize that God was the one who said it is not that Adam didn't care wasn't interested why he was so complete so whole so fulfilled fulfilling his purpose namely animals ruling the garden bringing order to the place he was so busy he didn't know he needed to make here's the key you are ready for marriage when you don't need to be oh I said something deep this time when you don't need to be married then you are ready for marriage he has a statement you want to write down you are not ready to live with someone else until you can live it yourself why because your relationship can only be as successful as your singleness with yourself and I promise you that no human can meet your ego needs they can omit your soul needs and so we get married for folks to build our ego and give us a sense of pro approval and value you are sick you don't you don't become a spouse when you are in that condition you become a patient where you go in how long you gonna be why you're being away so long why you gotta work later yeah you are sick see when you are home you don't need nobody to be somebody and it's a privilege for somebody to have your body in the presence of their body when you are somebody if someone says to you I love you I need you oh I need you run bad problems you never heard this some of the songs are amazing they just show how corrupt beyond our minds sounds like if you leave me now you take away the biggest part of me baby please don't go now wait a minute if she leave she can take what was she doing with that part how about this run [Music] [Applause] help me somebody help me I'll be in trouble at you [Applause] y'all ain't say [Applause] you mean people have that much control over your life how about that one another one you are the sunshine of my life yeah that's a dangerous song cuz I just told you that you are my son which means when you go away I'm in darkness ain't no one supposed to be that kind of light to you God's will is simple I am a son all by myself and when I meet you you are another son and when we get together we have a constellation hallelujah somebody unjust in case you don't appreciate how valuable this sunshine is and decide to leave me and go somewhere else just remember you don't take my light away o light so go away and let me shine on come on shower immense I love getting this single means that if I invite you into my life you should be so happy to get something as good a lot of things and you would be a fool to leave something as good as write this down please marriage is not the solution nor the answer to being alone or single or lonely rather secondly marriage does not solve aloneness or loneliness in manifests it it is possible to be unmarried and not be alone marriage was not instituted to solve the problem of being alone with regard to dissolve aloneness he made another human to solve aloneness he didn't give out him a wife he gave him another human that's why you can live the rest of your life and never get married and be happier than married people because you don't need to be married to be fulfilled all you need is other human beings in your life and give them your love and your compassion and your care and that's what Jesus did and that's what Paul did and that's what Mother Teresa did Corrie ten Boom did and those who change the role they did it with our spouse [Music] some of you are so busy looking for someone else you ain't got time to be yourself and when you do find someone who you're looking for you ain't got no one to give them I got one minute and 25 seconds I gotta go all right let me just close with this until you are separate unique and hold you are not ready for marriage it is that simple so don't pursue marriage that's not your priority right now Percy what singleness don't fall in love with people first fall in love with yourself the greatest commandment in the law is to love God and then to love yourself and you'll love your neighbor as much as you love yourself very important until you are totally single marriage will be difficult because you try to use marriage to compensate for your lack of singleness but you become a burden to the other person I thought I would close with this statement when you get married you don't marry a person you marry a history marriage is the collision of two histories so when you go down to the altar in your white dress on your tuxedo you are not going toward a person you are going toward a history on two legs and that's serious because of you 30 years old and he's 30 years old that's not a person you are marrying 30 years and then one night 60 years in a house and half of them you know nothing about this is serious business and the older you are the more years you don't know so view 50 tonight and you meet someone who's 50 and decide to get married you are walking down the aisles to 50 years of unknown and then one night a hundred years is in the bed serious business and how much of those years you know nothing about including the AIDS virus they carryin including the three children in Alabama and I'm lovin about so don't rush into marriage I have 15 more slides but I gotta go I want to pray for you did you enjoy tonight there's an anointing here don't disobey my instructions first of all if you have been religious but not in first relationship with the king Jesus Christ the Lord he sent me to Detroit for a few minutes to invite you back home you cannot be yourself unless you meet him because only he can introduce you to yourself again and you don't need to seek no one else until you've discovered yourself and if you would like to do that tonight I want you to stand up on your feet the Holy Spirit is going to work a miracle he's going to begin a journey of self-discovery bow your heads everyone father in Jesus name you know every heart you know where they at those who have been backsliding those have been dabbling in secrets in those who have been away straying away from you slowly you caught them tonight you loved them tonight they are your image I pray that they will respond correctly right now may no one leave this room without reconnection to their sauce for they came out of you Father and Jesus Christ can bring them back in you for he said if you abide in him and his words abide in you you can accent and you bear much fruit that tonight be the night that singleness returns and the journey to singleness begins for many here who have been straying away who have never had a serious relationship with you just churchianity but no relationship Lord let it begin tonight give them the kingdom of God heads bowed eyes closed no one disturbing anyone if you would like to make a decision I'm leaving in the morning I'm gone and I'd hate to think that I was here you were here with me he spoke to you and you didn't respond and I'm back in my country tomorrow he sent me just to get you thank you Father if you want to respond to his voice right now to make it right with him stand up on your feet right where you are just stand up quietly I want to see you others are praying around you don't be ashamed of this his love for you is too important for you to be ashamed god bless you god bless you god bless you ma'am anyone else god bless you God bless you God bless you God bless you god bless you sir god bless you man god bless you man god bless you sir god bless you anyone else please god bless you stand up quickly because I'm getting ready to go out of here god bless you ma'am god bless you sir god bless you God bless you God bless you God bless you God bless you God bless you anyone else quickly restoration of your relationship to God is the most important act of singleness god bless you back there I see you yes god bless you god bless you god bless you man god bless you god bless you oh man I'm so excited about you because you are God's concern tonight you're going back home on a single journey to come back to yourself anyone else quickly I'm going to close this opportunity now when I count to five one get up on your feet right now you want to make sure that you get a part of this invitation to come back home to do it now and let no one stop you three I closed the invitation in Jesus name for opportunities come and they never come back five god shoo

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Published: Sat Aug 26 2017