Does Sex Own You? :: Relationship Goals (Part 7)

we're in a series that most of you have probably heard about relationship goals and when we started this series it was six weeks long and then God extended it to eight weeks as I've been studying I wanted to go fifteen weeks but we're not gonna do that okay I feel like God is is is closing what he wants to say right now in this series and and and we started talking about sex last week and um no matter if we accept it or not it's something that touches all of our lives um sex sexuality the images that we're dealing with in our heart in our mind what has happened to us what was taken from us what we were exposed to in a manner that was not godly whatever it is you know what it is I don't know what it is you act like it don't happen but it's affecting you it's all over your life and the church usually doesn't talk about it we just say things like God will use it for good but I've not given it to the father for real I haven't totally surrendered all of it and so usually what ends up happening is I'm walking around with issues problems burdens thoughts hurts pains that I'm kind of made to feel as a believer I should have already dealt with and that should already be come and we say um scriptures like you know any man that be in Christ he is a new creation and and and the old things have passed away behold all things are new but what happens that that we don't realize many times at that moment your spirit becomes new but you're a three-part being so your spirit automatically at that moment is brand-new but your body didn't get the memo so there's fleshly desires and things that are happening that you like I know but why am i wanting to do this old thing and so that's why we have to get into this place and the name of this church is transformation Church because Romans tells us that that we are supposed to continually be renewed in our mind like as we continually renewed in our mind we can end up doing be transformed not not by what the world is doing but the renewing of our mind through God's Word and then we'll be able to know the good and acceptable will of God for us so what we are in right now is we get a spiritual transformation but then you have to have an emotional and a and a Body Transformation and one of the huge things that happens to us is that we never are able as believers Christians to manage this area of sexuality and sex and and and honestly it's because we don't do enough talking about it your education is coming from people places and things that aren't connected to the Savior and so what ends up happening is we're trying to manage something that God has has all the answers to but we're not going to him for it and I just decided that transformation church was going to be a church that deals with what people are dealing with and sees what God is saying about it so that we can get free so today as we continue we're gonna kind of pick up where we left off I'm sorry for everybody who did not hear last week's message but I'm gonna try to run us through just the bullet points so that you can be in the know and then you can go back and watch all of the messages from this entire series on our app or the website and we want you to do that but last week we talked about how sex was God's idea sex was not trey songz idea talking about he invented sex no he didn't okay sex was God's idea okay and and and and that's where our fundamental problem is because most things that we think about sex even how it's presented for parents and all this other stuff it's a nasty thing I was yesterday my father-in-law he's a big man he serves in the parking lot y'all see him out there big Craig and and we were outside and I was doing something and I almost hurt myself at my little daughter's birthday party I said oh oh pastor might get off with her he said I want to hear my message about SCX tomorrow I'll see you 58 years old you could have sex but I want you to see how it's branded into our psyche that is something we don't talk about it's something we don't really go right for we gotta spell it instead of say it and it's because I believe that we got it perverted somewhere that sex was a bad thing and it's God's idea okay but then so the second point we talked about last week sex has been perverted and that's the enemy's plan to take anything that God calls is good and to make it bad like I want you to understand that the Bible tells us in John 10:10 that this the enemy only comes to steal kill and destroy and a lot of us read it like this the enemy comes to steal kill it's Troy the Bible says he doesn't come unless he can steal kill and destroy and and I want you to see that that that's what he wants to do in the area of your sexuality in your area of purity in the area of you reaching purpose so sex has been preferred can we be honest that in our society is the most sexually charged generation that has ever been I was look I was watching a burger commercial for Carl's jr. and this woman was eating a burger in the most sensual I never seen nobody eat a burger like that she's in a bikini on top of a car the ketchup dripping off for her I said this is regular death day but it wasn't about the burger it was about appealing to my flesh so that I become desensitized and that's the enemy's plan for you is if you can see enough images and you can hear enough okay stories and you can be okay with enough abuse and you can be okay that you will be desensitized so when it comes to your house you'll be more willing to let it in can I help you that's why the enemy started bombarding most of us in this room by age three or four because he knew if he had twenty years to break down your walls by the time you were 24 he could take your life and this is the great thing that our four that I found um the enemy is not omnipresent he can't be everywhere at the same time so what he does is set up systems to keep us entangled so the sexual sins that you're in is you spinning a web that you can't get off and he says oh yeah leave tray right there he'll be fine for the next thirty years leave Sarah right there she's so broken in her mess that I don't even gotta mess with her she's gonna keep herself occupied she's gonna keep inviting that bad boy into her life she's gonna keep because she is now has a perverted image of what God wants for her life and so sex has been perverted and and we we found out last week that because sex has been perverted God had to create a container for it because it's so powerful and so amazing and what God wants and it's good when it's done in his time he created a container because we know that power with no container can destroy all kinds of things we've seen what's happening with the floods and all this other thing that's happening that's power that's water without a container but power under control or content and can produce light for an entire city and that's what sex is in your life if you put sex in the container that God built forward marriage between one man and one woman then it produces a life-giving force and so because now we have this container of sex last week we ended service by surrendering our sexuality I mean and I don't know if y'all staged for everything that was happening but we was here for an hour after service and people were up here getting delivered healed set free saying I've never told anybody this at my whole life but this is what happened to me this is where it started for me this has been the cycle and they were just laying it all out there saying Adi I even forgot I didn't even know this was affecting me and we're Alaina and listen it gets to continue today and it gets to continue tonight listen you do not want to miss tonight I'm not saying that because we're just trying to have a event tonight we'll be the picture of God cutting you loose from everything that has held you down and as I go through this this message there are many of us that have have things that have been holding us back from God's best and so today I want to pick up there turn to first Corinthians chapter 6 verse 9 and this is where we're gonna pick up we read a story last week about Paul trying to talk to believers who have come to the faith and they believe in Jesus their eternity is secure but they're living in the sexually charged generation like we are today I mean you scroll through Facebook and Instagram we're having to under without having to unfollow at least one person at least for me if I'm on therefore I got him like did you post that like I can't look at you no more get out of here and some of you leave it up there cuz they post some good stuff but all the enemy needs is one entrance one you find yourself doing things at times when nobody knows God's saying that's not what I want for you if you would allow me to come in and heal these areas of your life I can make you free and free indeed so this is what Paul's talking about he's talking a bunch of dudes who are coming out of this sexually charged area and I told y'all last week it's kind of like the equivalent of the Las Vegas strip today it caters to sex like if you go to Las Vegas right now you want a prostitute it's legal like you can actually get a prostitute and I get arrested all these different things that are happening in brothels and all this other stuff if you greedy and you want to gamble and all that stuff you cannot go to the restroom in Las Vegas I don't know how many of y'all been there but if you go to the restroom there's a slot machine in the bathroom do you understand what I'm saying it's catering to your sinful desires and that's where these people are and Paul's trying to help them deal with their faith and their sexuality and I think this is gonna help us today look first Corinthians 6:9 it says don't you realize that those who do wrong will not inherit the kingdom of God don't fool yourself and I stopped and talked about this last week but I need to say it one more time is that some of us like me before I really got a revelation I was fooling myself see my eternity and my salvation was secure I was going to heaven but that's the lowest level of blessing that God wants for your life most of us just want to make it to heaven and God I want you just make it to heaven I want you to dominate on earth I want you to subdue right here I want you to walk in the fullness of my kingdom right now and most of us settle for just making it to heaven I want to see the streets painted we'll go now after you see them and and after you get there and and you don't have any responsibility in heaven cuz you didn't steward over what you had in earth God Singh I learnt that for you and I was fooling myself I had made myself believe that God was blessing stuff that he was not even a part of and I don't know if you're in this room like that but I was thinking God God I thank you that your blessing my my relationship we was doing all kind of dumb stuff he can't bless that because God only can bless what he is in the middle of and I want to be very frank if you look at your life evaluated if God's not in the middle of it he can't bless it because it has to be sustained and supported oh he'll save you there they go again okay come on baby get back up ride it again no let me help you no I can do it myself that's the struggle I'm having with my four-year-old right now trying to teach her how to learn her by ride her bike but she's so independent and wants to do it herself that she won't allow me to teach her to do something she's never done some of y'all are out here acting like you've been married before and some of y'all have and still didn't learn how to do you got what I'm saying and you won't allow God to be in the middle to teach you how to do what you don't know how to do and I'm just saying don't fool yourself like my daughter can a lot of y'all and be like I can ride my bike don't fool yourself baby you can't ride it yet because you haven't allowed the teacher the leader the one who's supposed to sustain it be in the center of it and I want you to know that because that's what Paul's telling these people said don't fool yourself those who indulge in sexual sin who worship idols commit adultery or male prostitutes practice homosexuality are thieves greedy people drunkards or abusive or cheat people none of these people are gonna inherit the kingdom of God but thank God for grace because some of you once were like that I remember when I read this list for the first time just being like dang that's me that's me Oh Lord that's me that's me and then it came to this part and it said and you once were like that can anybody thank God for His grace okay now watch but you were cleansed you were made holy which means just separate you were made right or righteous with God by calling on the name of the Lord Jesus Christ you made one simple action of your vocal cords in your heart and you called on the name of Jesus Christ by the Spirit of God and these guys in here like okay yeah I know but that not that not really you know there's a monster on the inside of me Paul and you saying all of that I know Jesus in me we good you understand what I'm saying but this thing is roaring on the inside and these sexual desires and these urges and these longings are there what I'm supposed to do with this and Paul says to him verse 12 he says you say I'm allowed to do anything but everything is not good for you don't that sound like people I'm grown I don't need accountability I don't need nobody telling me what I've been handling this for 36 years and I'll keep handling it but you don't say like they get they get like I'm grown and that's what these guys were telling Paul like I'm grown I can handle myself I know I know how much is enough for me I know that we can just chill on the bed and ain't nothing gonna have I know I can go to the bar but I'm just gonna get water you judging this is coke Young's and this is coca-cola you judging me I know come on how many of us have said to ourselves into others I know and when enough is enough for me except when enough overtakes us and our lustful desires begin to put us in positions I don't know if you've ever said this but I have multiple times I never thought I'd be here I never thought I would be feeling or acting like this okay so so that's what he's saying anything I know y'all y'all say I'm allowed to do anything where it's still in verse 12 but I must not become a slave to anything what are you slave to this morning what controls you what tells you to go and you have to go what what tells you to move and you have to move what makes you miss opportunities because it's telling you to do something contrary what are you a slave to and then this is where we pick up there was it says you say food was made for the stomach and the stomach was made for food this is true though someday God will do away with both of them but you can't say that our bodies were made for sexual immorality now let me stop here cuz I'm gonna give them a pastor and so I like to teach okay so I'm gonna teach you how I study the Bible and my greatest desire for every one of you is that you would learn to study the Bible not just read the Bible but actually get in it and try to figure out what it's saying because if you just read that that's confusing than a mug it's like okay like and when I'm on my Bible reading that would be the thing six years ago I just keep skip over and just keep reading and be looking for something real simple and plain but there's so much truth packed in this one statement and I'm gonna try to break it down to you how I study and maybe this will help you so when I looked at this verse 13 I was like what is he talking about he said you say the food was made for the stomach and the stomach was for food nothing okay he's eating he's hungry okay then Paul says this is true though someday God will do away with both of them but you can't say that our bodies were made for sexual immorality I am so utterly confused Holy Spirit you say that you're a teacher so I'm asking me to asking you to illuminate to me what you're trying to say through your word you say this is Paul talking that's how I do it right here Paul's talking and he's talking to these people who are dealing with sexual sins and they're trying to do okay food was made for the stomach and the stomach for food this is true oh okay I get it he's saying to these people who are used to satisfying their appetites he's like you think that eating food like what are you doing yo you're hungry when your stomach tells you you're hungry what do you do you eat food so food was made for the stomach and that's true he tells them it's true but don't compare food and you satisfying your desire by just eating it because you're hungry don't compare that to what you're supposed to do with your bodies because your bodies look what it says but you can't say that about your bodies cuz when you're hungry what do you do you've got a quick trip you go to chick-fil-a somebody I'll be a chick-fil-a everyday wherever you go you go I'm hungry I'm gonna eat and God says but when you're horny you can't have the same response [Music] I'm hungry so I'm gonna satisfy that desire eat I'm horny so I'm gonna satisfy that desire no no but you can't do that because your bodies were not made for sexual immorality look I don't want everybody to see this many of us have been fulfilling our sexual appetite because we feel it's natural and God's saying is you can't look at your the same way you looked at getting yourself food when you're hungry because that is not my plan for it look down as it goes a little further it says you can't say that our bodies were made for sexual immorality because they were made for the Lord and the Lord cares about your body and let me help you understand what sexual immorality does this begin to change me cuz that's how I used to be if I was filling something I called it hot and bothered if I was hot and bothered I was gonna figure out a way to not be hot and bothered no more whether that was calling somebody but whether that was pleasing myself whether that was doing I was gonna figure out and some of y'all just got so tense in like so but I'm gonna be real I'm coming to your house right now because when when we are faced with natural desires we try to handle them naturally but God's saying if you would allow me to be the one in the center of your situation I can give you a better way that will not leave you with the consequences of your own actions if you would give it to me so don't treat your body like you treat chick-fil-a don't just go get what's gonna please you for a moment because it wasn't made for that God saying to everybody that your body's made for me and I love you and I care for your bodies and some of y'all's like okay don't be sexual moral you don't even understand what that means that comes from the Greek word porneia which we get the word pornography from and what it means basically is selling off something very valuable for cheap so that's why you can see young ladies and young men exposing the secret places of themselves for a dollar and selling off the thing that God calls so pure and so valuable that it's so special you're only supposed to give it to one person that that we're selling it off for cheap and he says that's not what your bodies were made for they were made to give me glory when I look at marriage and I see a woman and a man coming and committing to each other inside of the container and mirrors and when they get in that bed he said I guard that bid yeah they doing that and I let him he said the marriage bed is undefiled you better hit that you better make that right you creativity give my presence to you know see y'all don't get it he says that this is supposed to be an act of worship see y'all wanna sing a song I want my worship to happen right here do you hear me are you ready this is what I'm saying to you see because it's been perverted and we can't talk about this but God says when two people come in my covenant that's why I don't want you to pornea sell it off for cheap that's why if somebody's saying can we Netflix and chill you supposed to say heaven no and you can use the other one you have for Mystica friend yo pastor do you hear what I'm saying because what you have is too valuable and wasn't made for that that would be like me taking an iPhone 8 or an iPhone 7 or this iPad and using it as a paperweight I have just sold the value of this equipment for cheap and God says when you don't invite me into this situation to handle these sexual urges and what you do is you sell off what I call the valuable you sell it off for cheek and Paul's trying to help these guys understand he tells them he says man you were made for the Lord and the Lord cares about your body and some of y'all be like Yeah right he cares about my body so why did he give me all of this rage before I could be married before I could do this because he wants you depending on him see most of you miss the story of the Bible the story the story that God is really trying to paint is that his love covers every one of your scene but you can't live this life without him and so we need God in every area of our lives well Pastor Mike that's great he created container for the merry people but I'm single or I'm divorced or the pain of the thing my purity was stolen from me I didn't give it to somebody they took it away from me when I was helpless and I was young and I didn't know so what I do with that pastor might what what I do if is if I'm feeling stuck right now I have great news for you is that whatever pain whatever hurt whatever problem that you are going through right now point number one for today is God has power over sex I want you to understand this because most of us don't realize this that God has all power over everything that's going on your life and if good intentions could have changed you it would have already changed you by now if your self-will was good know yourself will is worthless I can prove it to you you wouldn't be 300 pounds if your cells wheel was it was good how many of us have started a diet and quit you was eating quinoa and green tea and all this stuff for three weeks and it fell off because my good intentions will not hold me through I need you need we need the power of God the sexual addictions problems hurts you're going through it's not gonna be solved by wanting to do better just really how you're just trying to do my best is really just trying to go after God just for just to to just talking alone just really trying to go after God you need the power of God you need the Dunamis the explosive power of God to come into your life and change you but he can't do it if you don't allow him to and that's what Paul was saying to these people because they got frustrated you gonna say we came to fulfill our own desire Paul you don't know what we're going through you don't know how this feels he said first off yes I do I'm single too and what y'all don't know is I'm not gonna get married so I'm been called by God to literally give a playbook to people for things that I won't even get to fully experience because it would take away from my ministry to help people for the next thousands of years so don't tell me I don't know what it's like to sacrifice but can I tell you that the same thing that gets me through is the same thing that gets you through verse 14 look what he says he said and God will raise us from the dead by his power just as he raised our Lord from the dead now when I read that the first time I'm confused again because I'm going back and I'm sitting here like I picture movies in my head when I read the Bible and so I'm picturing paul standing here and there's 15 dudes over here and they were like man we horny man I knew he ain't never had no bra no he didn't cuz if he was talking wouldn't be talking like and Paul's over here trying to explain to them how they need to control their sexual urges I was like well I'm leaving and then he goes head and says this statement he says and God will raise us from the dead by his power just as he raised our Lord from the dead and I begin to ponder on that why would Paul say that right there and I want us to dig just a little deeper what he was saying is that y'all know y'all was there when the word came back that Jesus literally was raised from the dead yo yeah like y'all was there and y'all believe that one day he's coming back or when we die he is gonna raise us from the dead and we're gonna live forever with them in heaven this is what you believe so you're telling me that an all-powerful God has the power to raise a dead body but not manage a living y'all I need you to hear this one more time cuz this mess me up why did he say God has all power he he is kin raised Jesus from the dead and he's gonna raise you from the I'm telling you like he's telling you I don't care what your problem is right now if God can raise Jesus and raise you from the dead how can he raise a dead body and not manage a living now listen well okay so what I'm supposed to do now God can manage God can manage he can get this in under control what you have to realize is we're first Peter 5:10 says it says in his kindness God called you to share in his eternal glory by means of Jesus Christ so your eternity is secure like you're going to heaven when you put your faith in Jesus Jesus your eternity is secure but we still have to leave in these earth suits on this body so now he's trying to give us a history he says so after you've suffered a little while that's what some of y'all have been in right now just a little bit of suffering a little uncomfortableness a little dealing with this flesh a little mess-up a little thick he said but after you've dealt with it a little while God he will restore support and strengthen you and I came to tell somebody today that as we give our sexuality to God what he's going to do is not just leave you there and be like all right and figure it out for yourself he said no no no no I'm the God with all power what I came to do is support restore and strengthen you and some of you need to believe that because you've tried and you've tried and you've tried and you tried but you haven't really tried Jesus you haven't really given it all to him and followed in what he wants because this is what his desire is for you in this area that she would have Veit him in and he could restore support and strengthen you and the verse goes on to say and he will place you on a firm foundation which first Corinthians 3:11 tells us that there is no foundation except Jesus Christ and so he is going to set you on a firm foundation and then verse 11 is my favorite part it says and all power is his forever why are you so excited about that because sex has power but my God has more power y'all missed it because depression has power but my God has all power because fear has power but our God has o if you believe that what you were dealing with is bigger than God stop serving him but if you believe the God that raised Jesus Christ from the dead that when he went down in snatch death's keys and he rose with all cousin like what are you trying to say that your situation is not too big I know you've been with tons of people and things have happened to you and you've seen images you can't get out of your mind sexually and emotionally and all this it has no match for the power of God in your life so look at verse 15 because if God has all power and through my confession of faith in Jesus Christ he lives on the inside of me we must be missing something because he got all power he own is out of me but I feel powerless can we be honest there's some times that we feel completely powerless Paul says it like this when I want to do right wrong is right there like why do I feel like this and then first Corinthians chapter 6 verse 15 says this other this three words is that they keep saying it says don't you realize that your body you may not know this but your bodies are actually parts of Christ what oh don't stop now did you just tell me that my body is a part of Christ so what that means is God is not watching what we're doing from a camera like Big Brother and watching what we're doing evaluating he's right here with us doing it with us and Paul's telling these guys I don't think y'all realize this and I didn't realize this until God gave me revelation see is that you should a man take his body which is a part of Christ and join it to a prostitute never let me give you some context of the day where they were there were a thousand prostitutes in the temple like in they charge ready to do whatever they wanted at any moment that was common practice that would be like you coming to church trying to live sexually pure and there's a thousand prostitutes in here worshipping just ready for you just just like do understand what I'm saying like like this is this is what they lived in but he's telling him because you have been changed even though that temptation is there your response has to be different he's letting them know do you realize because Christ is a part of you he is not away from you judging what you're doing and saying come he is in you he is with you you are a part let me say it slow Christ is a part of you a part you are joined you are connected so what are you really trying to say pass the mic every time you have sex Christ is having it with you it is it's it's one of the things that you have to realize because Paul said you they didn't realize it and you don't realize it every time you're watching pornography Christ is not somewhere often but he's right there with you my question is when you're joining to something that is not like God is God having as much fun as you are is he as comfortable in that position as you are because we are joined what I want you to get how emphatic this language is and Paul is saying maybe you didn't realize it maybe you didn't understand that when you were just having sex with your boyfriend premarital in pre marriage relations that Jesus Christ where you invited him in cannot be separated from you and so now you're making Christ not enjoy what you do in your life but endure what you're doing in your life and I want us to see how powerful this is go to UM Romans Romans chapter 8 verse 35 cuz after I read this scripture it changed the perspective on a verse that I've seen for so long Christ and me are connected when I'm cussing somebody out Christ is cussing somebody out so you don't think about that's just me that's how I do it that's what I'm doing that's what I know no baby you now have the God of the universe connected to you and whatever you were doing he does it and watches it with you so when I looked at Romans 8:35 it says can anything ever separate us from Christ love does it mean he no longer loves us if we have trouble or calamity are persecuted or hungry or destitute or in danger if we have sex with somebody watch pornography masturbate are threatened with death look at verse 37 no despite all these things overwhelming victory is ours not because of our own good works but through Christ who loves us what I want you to realize is that your relationship with Christ doesn't or your connection with Christ has nothing to do with our love for him it has everything to do with his love and it's a good thing that nothing can separate us from the love of God he goes on to say in verse 38 and I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from the love of God neither death nor life neither Angels nor demons neither our fears for today our worries about tomorrow not even the powers of Hell can separate us from God's love no power in the sky above or above or in the earth below indeed nothing in all creation is sex created by God so even sexual addictions pains fears all of that nothing in all of creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord I don't know about you but I am overwhelmed I'm thankful that my mistakes and my mishaps my missteps aka sin has not separated me from the love of God but now that we know that we have to steward over that differently it's a good thing that we can never be separated from the love of God but that means when we do bad things we can't be separated from the love of God so Christ is there with us and God gave me the most impactful revelation that I want to give to you sex and Savior can't be separated I want you to remember this for the rest of your life the next time you get ready to send pictures to somebody or the next time you get ready to slide into the DMS or the next time you get ready to lay in somebody's bed who's not your husband and wife who you have not married and you bring covenant I want you to realize that you cannot separate sex and Savior that they will be there and be an action that have to go together because God's love and going nowhere for us and so that means Christ has to stay in us and we do not want to be separated for one moment because I Know Who I am without Christ and he said there's nothing you can do so now it's a stewardship issue how are you going to handle the God in you now that you know because I'm saying we're connected how are you gonna handle the Christ in you because when we look at this Paul goes on to continue to tell them he goes on to try to get them to understand verse 16 because they still wasn't getting it like some of y'all still ain't getting in y'all I present like you just going way too deep right now it is not that hard it is not that easy if I have sex with somebody okay I broke up with him it's over it's done leave me alone I have finished that chapter of my life book clothes I am finished with that No and Paul knows that we were gonna be sitting here and so he said don't you realize there that phrase is again because maybe you didn't get it don't you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute he becomes one body with her y'all I want you to hear me he didn't say if he married a prostitute he said if he joins if he has sex with that prostitute if he if he um um allows himself to to be able to be in an intimate relation with that person they become one for the scripture say the two are united into one but the person who is joined that same word to the lord is one spirit with him we talked about it last week in mark chapter 10 verse 7 this explains why a man leaves his mother and father and they are joined that word joined is much more emphatic than what we think joined is not just all we're holding hands and we're having a good time when you're joined they're talking about sexual relationship or deep emotional ties when you're joined it happens on three levels it happens on a physical level I want you to write this down because this will change the way you look at things when you're joined to a man drawn to a woman it happens physically through sex then it happens emotionally through intimacy or closeness mind wheel body it happens in that man and then it happens in Covenant through the spirit it's a body emotion and a spiritual act when you have sex with somebody I talked about it in a greater detail and I don't have the time today but every time that you have sex with somebody you are making a covenant with them there is blood that is shed and there is blood that is exchanged in that moment and if you study the Scriptures all the way from the Old Testament to the new they're always had to be bloodshed to be able to submit a covenant or cement a covenant and so the marriage day it's not the day when you guys become one the day you become one according to the Bible is when you have sex with them my question is how many people are you one with and I'm not coming to judge and I'm not coming because these are the same things that come is had to deal with my heart'll but he said maybe you don't know this maybe you didn't realize that when you joined with somebody you are making a covenant with that person to be able to be there but you're not submitting yourself to that covenant and what forms is something that is probably one of the most destructive things in the body of Christ and in our world is called a soul tie and many people are in here are tied emotionally physically and thoughts you hear you hear a song and you go back to a place you smell a certain smell they used to wear Sweet Pea from Bath & Body where you smell that smell no I mean I am not playing and it's time I want you to understand what an ungodly soul tie is a sultan is the joining of one's essential self mind will emotions thoughts memories in connection to someone or something else most of us have soul ties from relationships emotional Affairs all kinds of stuff you can be so tied to almost anything you can anything that takes the place of God you can create a soul tie with and there are godly soul ties marriage is a godly soul tie he wants you and your husband are you and your wife to be connected on that level there's even friendship soul ties um the Bible talks about in 1st Samuel 18 I believe it is where David and Jonathan they werenít to the soles of each other and they were they had a bond that was unbreakable but can I help you just a free nugget that a sure sign of a soul tie that is good is that thing is helping you live can I prove it to you Jonathan whose dad was saw who was trying to kill David said you know what I'm gonna turn my back on my allegiance to my father cuz I have a soul tie with you and I want to let you know if you go to this dinner tonight they're gonna try to kill you I'm putting everything on the line for you but I want you to live and David lived because he had an unbreakable relationship with the friend named Jonathan my question is are the people around you helping you live or are they taking from you are they sucking from you are they taking you to a place of death there are godly soul ties but then there are ungodly soul ties one of them most I'm gonna tell you just two ungodly soul ties because like I said he can be tied to almost anything but but their soul ties to substances that people try to find the peace relief healing that they need in man-made objects and things last night my daughter had a birthday party and so I went to go get some Chinese food from the little spot I go around here and it's right next door to the liquor store and I don't drink so I don't know like what it is to go and get stuff from the store and stuff it was 7:45 y'all and it looked like Black Friday at the liquor store now I don't judge anybody for what you're doing I'm just praying that that thing does not own you but but but this is the thing I had never seen so many people if it didn't this substance didn't care about how much money you made there were people driving up in outies and Mercedes and people walking with all the clothes they had on their back going in here trying to get relief from this world and I sit there and I begin to almost cry and pray for those people because they have a soul tied to a substance but I think we serve the God of all power like I think that's why the first point was that God has all power over sets over substance over anything but we got to break that soul tie another one of the biggest things is people have sexual soul ties so I brought this bed up here because this is one of the greatest places of the enemy destroying purposes because what happens in this bed is people many times they're not committing their lives to a person they are committing their lives to pleasing themselves and what they don't know is every time they get up out of this bed not married to that person they are joined to that person and it would be like if I had sexual relations with the whole front row men and women because that's the type of world we live in and now I'm trying to go after God go after purpose but I have 15 ties that are connected to me and I'm trying to run and I want to get away but somehow it just won't let me go and somehow I keep trying to go after it and I'm trying with all my might but that's why we need the God of all paths to come in and disconnect this and there's many of you the same as Mike I just don't have any of those things I don't have asked God to show you if there's anything that you're tied to that is keeping you from what he's called you to be because just like this piece of paper right here this is a perfectly good piece of paper but last night in the dark this paper was connected to another piece of paper and they were joined together and now I'm done with it I don't want to be joined to you anymore I don't want to be joined to you anymore well fine we won't see each other no more well we got a kid well I'll see the kid but I won't see you and I'll just keep moving and all that and we try to disconnect but when we try to disconnect what we don't realize is that we're still connected to each other and I've been trying to get away from this and I can't even find the option to be able to do it but even when I do I find it a piece of me is always left with a piece of them and what ends up happening is we try to self-medicate and try to figure out but I just can't get you off of me I just can't find a way to tear you away from me and what ends up happening is we leave our lives connected broken battered because we're trying to get away from something that has been connected to us on a spiritual level and God's the only one that can change so fast Mike what you want so hard on this cuz I want you free and like Paul said maybe you didn't realize now after you know this and you go out and do whatever you want to do but I didn't know and I want you to know so what I'm supposed to do pass the light I've been living like this for twenty years I've been living like this for five months I've been living like this is all I know what Paul knew that these people have been doing the same thing and they really loved God and wanted to change so he gave them probably the most emphatic instruction that could ever be given to anybody when it comes to getting free from sexual addiction sexual soul ties all of this I want you to see it in verse 18 and you might want to underline this run not walk not skip not intellectually digest and then be able to ponder until it becomes a fruit of spiritual awakening and run run from sexual sin listen if I thought somebody was coming in here to shoot us or I seen somebody from the audience that you didn't see I said Ron and I went like this everybody over here would start running then why are we moving why are we why well because in the threat of something that can damage your entire life you ask questions later in the threat of something that can ravage your whole family for generations to come that iniquity and that transgression being passed down you are not worth baby my entire family lineage being destroyed our purpose not being reached so what am I have to do right now Ron I got to go and some of us have been casually walking away I'm sorry I'm gonna miss you too I really want to be with you and that's why we get lured back in it's not enough distance between us and what kept us not run from all sexual sin and I want you to understand the why right here it just says cuz no other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does for sexual immorality is a sin against your own body y'all hear me in God's eyes homosexuality liar greedy all of that's the same but so he's not judging you like they're good they're bad they're it's just sin and he said I sent my son for all of that except me I got you but there are consequences that differ for us for the sins we choose to do and the worst sin to do to yourself the devil out to get me no boo you're out to get you because the greatest sin against your own body is sexual immorality and again I say it maybe you didn't know do you not realize he said do you not realize that your body is the temple the house the place of the Holy Spirit who lives in you and was given to you by God more than this church and this parking lot is the temple of God this is the temple that houses God if this whole thing burned down God say what what happened what happened oh my church is fine because it wasn't the building it's us and he said maybe you didn't get it I mean in this just few passages of Scripture he says do you not realize four times like don't don't y'all did it you're the temple so when I lay in this bed and I get tied to everything I tie the Holy Spirit now when I when I when I when I move in my ceilings and try to get my own sexual urges I'm fulfilled and all that other stuff what I do I'm damaging the temple that houses God and just maybe you didn't maybe you didn't know but today God wants to bring clarity to it he said you don't belong to yourself I want you to see that put the scripture up there verse 19 says you don't belong to yourself for you were bought with a high price see when God sent Jesus that was the payment the eternal payment for God to own us for him to come in and be able to change and have power over our situations and he said I didn't send one of my sons I sit the only one who had cuz you were that important and I'll take care of this debt forever and when you receive my grace he says I need you to realize that you were bought with the high price so now you have a response I need you to honor God with your body put that back up there they need to see that I need to see description this is not me just talking for you are bought with the high price so your reach your only response it's not to connect yourself or watch things or do things that would take you from the purpose that God has for you it's to disconnect from all of those ungodly soul ties and honor God with your body so if as I'm like what are you trying to say the problem is that you still own you see you were bought with the high price any time you buy something you own it but we're walking around like we own ourselves this is my body this is my life this is what I want to do I'm growing on this if I if I need to do that imma do that this is me and God said no baby you were bought with a higher price but if you still own you you manage you and if you still manage you you have to deal with you and you don't have the power to deal with you you've been trying to do it for 15 years and it still ain't worth so what are you trying to say Pastor Mike our last point God only can manage what he owns if anybody's ever had an apartment or a house that they rented from somebody the key to doing that is having good ownership because if something breaks in the house or something gets damaged in the house you're not responsible because you don't own it the owner comes in to manage that property and so if you're dealing with sexual problems and issues and urges you're dealing with anything fears um soul ties to all kinds of stuff if you own you you're doomed but if God owns you he can bring management to the areas of your life that you have allowed him to own so my question today as we leave who owns you the sex on you does fear on you because you are bought with the high price and your only proper response is to honor God with your body but you won't do that if you think you own you does the approval of other people on you do soul dies on you and God says hey I'm a good good father so if you would give me back what I gave you I promise you I'll bring management to what I own there is nothing too big for our God to bring under subsection of his power but he's not gonna take it from you have to give it to him

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Published: Mon Sep 18 2017