Dharius Daniels Part 1 | First Love 2019

see that what's up everybody I'm excited to be here with you I'm honored to be here on behalf of my natural family my beautiful wife was in San Antonio Texas speaking tonight and my my two incredible boys Seth and Gabriel I greet you on behalf of my natural family and my spiritual family changed church and multi-site Church in New Jersey there so if you know anybody in New Jersey send them my way and if they're if they're not planted anywhere we love to serve them and a few weeks ago we launched a campus on Sunday nights in Orlando and so if you know anybody in Central Florida send them my way amen yeah as long as they all right if they not all right we're gonna send them back I'm that kind of leader we that kind of church we'll send them right on back but I'm joking but I'm so serious super excited to be here it is my honor pastor Jerry so great to connect with you again not in the airport and to be able to spend time with you and to meet just your incredible spiritual family your church your partner in life and ministry I'm honored to be here and it's a privilege to just add value hopefully and contribute to what God is doing here there's something on my heart and I want to share it I just kind of me I'm in so many different types of environments it's weird so I just liked I'm at the point now I'm too old to try to read a room so I just asked I like y'all gonna talk back to me or nah what kind of which I just what I just asked I just need to know how to prepare I'm good either way I just need to know you got me okay that good all right so um there's a brief part of a story I want to read in Exodus chapter 13 Exodus chapter 13 and I'm gonna read verses 17 through 18 I'm reading from the new international version of the scriptures Exodus 13 verse 17 so turn there click there meet me there it reached like this it says then it came to pass when Pharaoh had let the people go that God did not lead them by way of the land of the Philistines although that was near for God said less perhaps the people changed their mind when they see war and return to Egypt so God led the people around everybody say around around by way of the wilderness of the Red Sea and the children of Israel went up in orderly ranks out of the land of Egypt I want to in the reading of God's Word right there and I want to use for a subject for our time together tonight one word I want you to say it with me and and we're gonna leap into our lesson tonight everybody say surprise yeah I wanna what was the thinking around that thought tonight there are a number of appropriate words that are often used to describe the nature and character of God but in our time together tonight I want to broach I want to lift up I want to present one that I think is extremely important and often overlooked and that word is unpredictable our peace would increase our stress would decrease if we would embrace and accept the revelation that God is full of surprises a failure to accept that reality is a set up for stress stress and and and an equation for frustration because frustration is always the result of failed expectations you aren't frustrated by what you don't expect to happen and when your expectations are out of alignment you will constantly and consistently be frustrated and if you expect God to move in ways you plan and predict I am Telling You right now you can prepare yourself to be frustrated because God is unpredictable I'm in no way suggesting that there is any inconsistency in his character he is consistent the Scriptures call him the right of Hebrews calls him immutable he is the same yesterday today and forever more he exists with what dr. Kenneth Alma calls and eternal isness he just is he never was was and he already is what he will be he was a healer he is a healer he will be a healer he was away maker he is away maker he will be away maker he was a heart fixer he is a heart fixer he will be a heart fixer he was a door opener he is a door opener and he will be a door opener is there anybody here that's honest enough to admit he's consistent yeah the only reason many of us are still saying in the membrane is because he's consistent but although there is no inconsistency in his character there is unpredictability in his activity you can predict who he will be but you can't what he'll do we see examples of this all throughout scripture from the old to the new testament we see it in the activity of our Messiah Jesus were in one instance in mark chapter five he's going to Jairus his house to visit Jairus his daughter and a woman with an issue of blood hears that he's passing by she says to herself if I could touch the hem of His garment I'll be made whole she said I just need to touch the hem of what's touching him I don't even have to touch him I just need to touch what's touching him and if I can touch what's touching him I'll be made whole and she presses her way and she touches what touches him that's why church is important that's why community is important that's why groups are important that's why I just can't sit on the couch at bedside Baptist and watch streaming because there are times when I need to get to him and I feel like I can't and when I can't touch him I need to touch somebody that's touching him I need to be around somebody that's touching him when I can't get a prayer through and my faith is weak and my faith is fragile and my faith is fatigued I need somebody that can get a prayer through for me when I am dead like Lazarus I need a Mary and Martha to go to Jesus on my behalf and help me experience a resurrection I need to be close to something as touching him so she gets healed with a touch but then there's another instance where a Roman military official who was over 100 soldiers this man was called a Centurion had a servant that was ill and this man comes to Jesus and and and explains to Jesus his predicament in Jesus Jesus says okay well let's go to the house of this man says wait I got this kind of faith you don't even have to come he says I'm a man in authority and I understand how I thought it works because I'm in an in authority things move and I speak when I say come people come when I say go people go and the same authority I have over Roman soldiers it's the same Authority you have over the human body so you don't even have to come to the house you can just speak the word and the Bible says Jesus spoke the word and there was no touching involved and that person got healed because He healed one person one way and healed another person another way he is a healer but he didn't heal the same way consistency in character but unpredictability in his activity and I don't know how God's gonna do it this year but I believe for somebody this is your year I don't know if he's gonna open the door I'll close the door but he's gonna put you in the right rooms I don't know if he's gonna send somebody into your life or pull somebody out but he's gonna increase your joy I don't know if he's gonna open some things you want it to be open or closed some things you wanted to stay closed but all I know is he knows how to get you where you're supposed to be when you're supposed to be there but he's gonna surprise you on the route and this passage here in Exodus is a powerful picture powerful picture of what I'm attempting to articulate the it's it's it it says to us and if you leave you leave with nothing else please don't miss this this text teaches us that the course and the quality of your life and your year it's going to be largely determined by how you handle what you don't see coming [Music] I am telling you right now something's coming in 2019 you didn't see coming it is illogical it is unreasonable to expect to live through 2019 and not see something you didn't see coming it happened in 2018 it happened in 2017 it happened in 2016 it happened in 2015 am i making sense the text teaches us this this is so interesting because this this part of the story is situated contextual in a book of a Bible called Exodus the word Exodus means exit this this is the content this is the claim of this book it this book isn't about just God's people it's about God it's revealing to us that your God is the god of the exit that where there are no exits he creates them when red seas seem to limit your mobility and inhibit your advancement he makes ways just because you don't see an exit doesn't mean there isn't an exit because your God is the god of the exit so if he has to make Jericho walls fall he'll get you out if he's got to part red seas he'll get you out if he's got to split Jordan rivers he'll get you out if he's got to drown was chasing you in the thing you walk through he will catch you out because he is the god of exits and when you get this revelation that your God is the God of X's then you will also get a revelation that you are never trapped and people who feel trapped always become people who get desperate and people who get desperate are people who make desperate decisions because the desperate feel like they don't have options and so God is revealing himself as a God of exit to people who had experience over 400 years of Egyptian captivity and God comes to them that comes to them through a representative in the person of a man named Moses and announces to them that they have been settling in this space and in this season called Egypt long enough Moses has to convince them to want to leave that's a whole nother sermon there and he has right because you can be in love it was killing you and and he has to convince Pharaoh to let them go he has to convince them to want to leave and has it convinced Pharaoh to let them go because if all you've ever been exposed to its dysfunction the only thing you have an appetite for is what you've been exposed to right this is the danger of exposure some of you're wondering why God has allowed you to see some of the things he's allowed you to see he's not teasing you or torturing you why would he show you something he don't want to do there are some things he's letting you see to expose you because once you've been exposed you can't be unexposed once you've been exposed you've been ruined and it awakens in you and appetite for something you didn't even want until you saw it and now that you see it's possible you have an appetite for it and you will not settle for a light that is less than God's best for you somebody should put a praise on that real quick so God announces to Israel I'm gonna move you from I'm gonna move you from Egypt and I have a place that I've prepared called Canaan it's a Promised Land so they're excited as they make their exit they're anticipating that they're gonna go to Canaan but the text says something we read it in Exodus chapter 13 it says in verse 17 when Pharaoh finally let the people go God did not lead them by the way of the land of the Philistines even though that was shorter I wish I had a map so I could show you this they I mean it was shorter it was a straight shot but the text says God didn't lead him that way they think they're thinking they're going from Egypt to Canaan but it says God didn't lead them that way it says he takes them around by way of the wilderness toward the Red Sea this is not where I'm going tonight but I want to throw this out if you're familiar with this story because part of what the proclamation of truth is supposed to do is to help you see old things in new ways they don't even end up about a rare scene unless they following God's leadership what you do when following God put you in a trap have you ever felt like obeying God put you in the by it sometimes that's why some people don't give because they feel like if I obey God this is gonna put me in the back the whole red seas miracle wouldn't even be necessary if they did follow God's leadership it's in the text they didn't have to go that way if they went through the land of the Philistines but God took them all wrong have you ever felt like he was going to get you there faster if it felt like things were taking much longer than they should it says he takes them around and this is why this is scary are you all ready for this it says if they face war they might change their minds and return to Egypt I want to talk about that part tomorrow because God knew what battles they were not mentally prepared for cuz some battles that you aren't ready for will send you backwards I'm trying to feel the room and see if I can say it like I will say it in Jersey okay right yeah there's some trouble that will make you text people you swore you never text again I feel realness on this side so I'm gonna come back over here it says it says unless they see war and return back to Egypt because you see there are some things that we think we're ready for that we're not ready for because God knows for everything you do see there's something you don't see you see I call it the back side to every blessing to whom much is given much is required and sometimes we're ready for the part of the thing we do see and gods like there's another part of this that you don't see and although you're ready for the front part you're not prepared for the back part part of you is ready for promotion but you're not ready for the pressure so it's like you gifted enough to handle the responsibility but you're not strong enough to stand under the weight of that pressure without going back to some self-medicating self sabotaging dysfunctional habits that would be destructive that pressure will send you back to Egypt what's up with the growth gods like the proverb says an empty stable has no mess it's not can you handle the horses it's what it's can you handle what comes with that and sometimes we're frustrated and gods like you're ready for the front part but you're not ready for the back part it's like I won't expose I want exposure of my gifts and I what gives the big spells like okay but more fans equals more haters and he says are you mentally strong enough to handle a hundred positive reviews and not have your whole day ruined he says now you're gonna go back to each empty she says let me let me take you the long way because to go the short way oh I'm gonna talk about this tomorrow means you must be not learn something you haven't learned but become someone you haven't been because you can't defeat the Philistines if you if you're still thinking like slaves okay you out of Egypt Egypt not out of you so I did you think like soldiers and I hadn't had time to make you into that yet so he takes them in a long way and he calls it the wilderness and when I first saw this I said to myself well man this is negative and then I thought I think though I believe the host would prompt me say no this is necessary I'm like no this is negative no it's necessary this is negative no it's necessary and then this is the thought the Holy Spirit put in my mind Darius this wilderness season is only negative when you stay there longer than you have to it's not- is necessary it only becomes negative when you make a state out of what I intended to be a stage it represents transitional seasons it represents when God pumps the brakes presses the pause button it represents seasons where you're not in Egypt but you're not in Canaan you're out of what you were in but you're not you haven't arrived to where you're going things are not as bad as they used to be but they're not as good as they're going to be it is a season that God I believe takes us through prior to every impending and upcoming opportunity for elevation and exposure when you're in the wilderness season that is the time to prepare and praise because it is an indication that God is readying me for something that I cannot handle without this season it's just Paul's not stopped he just pumped the brakes he hadn't put it in park he's just slowing things down but when you get there he's gonna accelerate the process and speed things up but every time he's getting ready to take your life to another chapter of his story he's gonna drop you in a transitional season every time he gets ready to take a church to another chapter and his story for his life he's gonna drop it in a wilderness season every time he gets ready take a company - from one chapter to another chapter of his story for it's life he's gonna drop it in a transitional season we think is negative and gods like is necessary because the wilderness season is a season of preparation through purging that point doesn't doesn't normally get a lot of emails I get it when we think about preparation we think about the development of new skills and the honing of our craft and the acquiring of new acquisition and new information what if I told you that some preparation comes in the form of purging that some preparation is a divine stripping where God strips and removes things from our life our circle our teams that we don't know don't need to be there but the door we're getting ready to walk through itself is so small we can't get through it with that baggage am I making sense here yeah we we see it we see it we see it right here with Israel there are few things god purged in Israel as they went through this season first of all he purged issues everybody say issues you cannot go through that kind of trauma and that trauma not wound you psychologically and emotionally you cannot grow up Israel in generational dysfunction and come out of that with a proper perception of yourself and your Worth the boundaries that they would have to live by in the land of Canaan would not be boundaries they wouldn't be able to live by if they did not see themselves properly they were going to intermingle in places the spaces with people that God did not want them to intermingle with they were going to develop customs and practices God did not want them to develop and there is no way you can live with that kind of restriction without a proper perception of your Worth and your values you they were out of Egypt but Egypt was not out of them they were still seeing themselves as slaves when they needed to see themselves as sons and daughters they were still thinking like they belonged to pharaoh when they belong to god they had a new king who was in a new kingdom they were still thinking they were victims and not victors they needed to develop the attitude of soldiers but they couldn't because they didn't see themselves properly pastor Darris how can you make that assessment it's in the Bible if you follow their story to numbers chapter 13 when they had an opportunity to go into Canaan land after the land was assessed a report was brought back and this is what the leader said this wasn't even this wasn't even the team's it was the leaders of the team should have been the most visionary the most mature people who had the most insight the leaders came back and said it's just everything God said is there is there but Giants are there God did not tell me that part and this is what they said and we were like grasshoppers in our eyes and in there's also how do you know what they think of you you don't you are projecting your view of yourself on someone else's and they didn't step into Canaan land because they weren't willing to fight a fight that was fixed it was fixed all they had to do was fight and they would win all they had to do was to pick up their weapons and the Jehovah Nissi the one who brings me victory in battle would fight for them the same one that parted the Red Sea would fight for them and the devil won because they wouldn't try what could you have done if you were to try they they didn't view themselves accurately they kept labeling them themselves by their past season the last three months in 2018 I was sensing this and in our church this is I think it's just kind of an epidemic period and I was sensing this in our churches and I spent the last three months of 2018 talking about this I talked from one scripture for three months I did a series called water walkers and it was based on the principle of exception because this is what I started seeing people started gauging what God could do for them based off of what they had seen him not do for others so they start so we you understand churches filled with people who don't believe it can be done because they hadn't seen it done so 12 people could walk on water but only one does cuz he got enough courage to get out of the boat mama consents but they didn't they didn't see themselves right see it's not just a matter of how God sees you it's a matter of how you see yourself can I have 10 more minutes so God had to purge he had to purge issues inferiority complex see just because you're not thinking low of yourself doesn't mean you thinking right about yourself just because a person doesn't have low self-esteem doesn't mean they have an accurate view of their identity and their worth I can hear what you believe about your worth by listening to you pray your prayer life will always tell not just what you think about God but what you think about you because it is not if god the question isn't whether or not God is willing sometimes the question is whether or not he's willing for me mm-hmm people who don't see themselves in a way that is consistent with the way God describes them or people who pray tane prayers domesticated prayers yeah president mr. Cate there tape not realizing Jay bass teaches us that God is honored by the largeness of your requests that your request is an expression of your view of his ability to perform what could not be performed by anyone else large prayers our worship when you pray being you praising when you pray big you said I know you able yeah will you say will you will you say God blow my mind is that that is a reflection of your view your mind blowing God did you hear what I just said [Applause] sometimes God wants to take time to align that properly oh gosh okay so much so it's so much yeah he has to align that and to address that what if I told you that was one of the first things he had to fix what a lot of people he use greatly that's the first thing he had to fix what Gideon I'm the weakest in my clan my clan is the smallest and when that when that angel addressed him Gideon was behaving like who he said he was as a man thinketh in his heart so is he you always behave in a way that is consistent with the way you see yourself he was hiding we buy threshing and threshing wheat in a place you're supposed to be pressing wine he was afraid but his behavior was lying about him because the angel came and said the Lord is with you you mighty man of Valor and there was nothing mighty about the way Gideon was acting when he came to Jeremiah Jeremiah said I'm but of you and he said don't say that he didn't say it's not true but he saying don't speak your limitations you are young but that's not a barrier to what I want to do in your life since you're bringing up what a non-issues for me you don't think I know that Jeremiah Wright same thing with Moses Moses right Moses said you got the wrong dude I'm a background god number one number two this you you you're calling me to do something that requires me operating in the area I'm most uncomfortable I mean the nature of the calling is the go to Pharaoh and to tell him let my people know you want me to come to the forefront and now you want me to talk in front of people Moses thought that insecurity was an excuse that would exempt him from the assignment and and God didn't see that insecurity as an excuse to exempt them from the assignment God saw that is insurance Moses is like I shouldn't do this because I'm sick insecure gods like no you should because you're insecure that's like most like I can't do this unless you help me and gods like I know you know that that's why I want you because you know you can't do it without me I never have to worry about you trying to do it without me but I have to fix that just cuz we're gonna get to a season when I instruct you to do something you're not gonna have time to argue you're gonna hit a season where I'll tell you to do something you have to be convinced I'm not gonna have time to do convincing because while I'm trying to convince you the door is gonna close so let's deal with this let me take you the long way so I can deal with this let me take you this the long way I got five minutes okay listen listen to me listen let me take you the long way so that when you get there you can stay see it's it's it's amazing it's a it's amazing to me on how we don't learn from people who get there and don't stay most people who get there fast don't stay and we're like I want to be like them and gods like no you don't take the long way it may take you longer to get there but you'll stay there longer and you'll enjoy it longer and you'll benefit from it longer if you let me expose the people-pleasing tendencies in you let me take you to long way so I can deal cuz see when I take you the long way see dealing with issues isn't just about dealing with sin the Bible says sin and wait can easily beset us sin is immoral wait is unproductive right and this is dangerous when a church only when a branch a brand of Christianity only deals with the immoral and not the unproductive that that brand of Christianity will produce saved but stuck people you say but you're stuck saved you're gonna go to heaven but not gonna do much here on earth I'm right as I guess we right and we holy but we don't show up where we're supposed to show up on time and our yes isn't yes it's quiet in this yes the Bible says that you yes me yes and you know me no guys like okay now wait a minute if you all over the place now what kind of what kind of first law of conference message is this oh gods like if you if you're all over the place now you want me to give you more work I said let me deal with that he says it's still too hard for you to tell people no and sleep you still hadn't discerned yet that every need isn't your responsibility give me time let me help you deal with this messianic complex because you still believe that if you don't do it I won't [Applause] I can get it done to somebody other than you he says let me deal with that cuz that's what's robbing your joy sometimes not just saying sometimes it's not a life full of saying that's robbing people's joy sometimes it's a calendar full of stuff that shouldn't be on it this is let me move on is this alright for Friday night [Applause] this is why I love God's Word because the light of the gospel starts shining on dark places where the enemy has been wreaking havoc the enemy is called the Prince of Darkness because he works in the dark but when God exposes him he puts him in position for us to be dealt with and before there's elevation there has to be exposure and if this is coming down your street pulling up into your driveway going on your front porch ringing your doorbell coming in your living room and sitting down it must mean that elevation is coming soon and God is exposing some of the unaddressed places and areas of our life that need to be addressed and God is showing us this is what I'm trying to get you to see while I'm taking you the long way and the sooner you see it the sooner we break this holding pattern I promise I'm at a season in my life I'm just like what you want me to do go and show me taking the long way not just to deal with sin but wait wait purge inner issues number two only have three points number two purging of individuals listen to me family you cannot out pray bad influences proverbs 13:20 says walk with the wise and become wise for a companion of fools suffers harm Israel stop short of God's best because of the influence of others are y'all ready for this in numbers 13 they miss Canaan land because they listen to the majority 10 out of the 12 spies said we can't do it and the majority was wrong bad counsel the wrong kind of confirmation just because it's confirmation doesn't mean is right they were all confirming the wrong thing do you have a kid do circle or do you have a can do circle do you have a circle filled with cynicism or do you have a circle filled with pessimism I am Telling You you hit a season in your life where your circle has to do more than provide you company I'm telling you right now if you're not 17 you need to be able to do more than go to the mall with your friends when you're 17 that's different but when you 27 and 37 and 47 and on up you need people in your circle that can do more than keep you company and do more than reminisce about Egypt you're not going back to we gotta have more in common than my dysfunction if all of our conversations are about things I don't want to do anymore [Music] why is my circle important they've got to be able to give me counsel why not just future parents not just mentors and advisors why because you are not going to be as initially authentic with your mentors advisors and spiritual parents as you would your circle your friends get you it take a minute for me to get the real member y'all are talking to me yes it takes a minute for me to get the real member but the friend gets the real them and the question is it doesn't mean any bad people but the question is this can they give me more than company can can it give me counsel do I have such an emotional attachment to people because of our days in Egypt together that I can't see that them being out of Egypt is enough for them the job catch what I just said just being out of Egypt was enough for the 10 it wasn't enough for Joshua and Caleb they say so we went through this red sea just for this and we endured these plagues just for this and we killed Lambs and put the blood on the doorpost and the angel def jumped over and passed over our house for this you mean I cried for this you mean no harm the devil is a liar if I'm gonna go through all of this I want absolutely unequivocally undeniably everything God has for me I want every opportunity I want every door you said if I sow in tears shall reap in joy I want it all I want it all and I'm telling you sometimes for people in your circle Egypt isn't being out of Egypt is enough and you can be spending time trying to drag people to a place they don't want to go y'all ready for something scary and I would point three and sit down this is exactly what happened to Moses Egypt was enough for a lot of Israel so God says to Moses I'm a replace I'm a purge your circle and raise up a generation that will obey me and Moses interceded didn't Moses prayed didn't he and we talked about that prayer and how admirable that prayer was he interceded for Israel did he not and we look at how at no the prayer was because we only read one part of God's response what God says now Moses because you pray I will relent but keep reading he says but after all I've done the miracles are performed if these people are still not convinced they are unconvincing so he says they're going to wonder 40 years that wasn't punishment it was prophecy so what God says Moses Lord is too much is too much for me not Pat this is Moses big because of your abandonment issues that dealt what you being dropped off when you were a baby you're compensating in adulthood for a stronghold that's been holding you hostage your whole life and so you can't let people go cuz you need to be needed so the very people that he wouldn't let God purge were the very people that frustrated him to the degree that when God says speak to the rock he hit the rock now and God says now that's why I told you see sometimes God has to teach us things through experience that he wanted us to learn through instruction he says you want to know why I pulled them out your life he says but you really don't want to know why I pulled them out your life because I pulled them out your life before you saw what was getting ready to happen so you just got to trust if they takes you back it's because I supernaturally sabotage that thing because I didn't want you to have to see why so this is what's scary so God now has to take Moses to the mountain and he says you see that land he says now you'll see it but you won't go in this is what I planned for you but my plans require your participation because my prophecy is a proclamation of my preferred future for you that's all it is I'm proclaiming what I prefer but it still requires your participation and your participation determines whether or not my preference becomes your reality that's how everything works as our salvation works God prefers everybody receives it but only those who participate by faith get to experience his preference not willing that any should perish but that all right so this is what's scary all he sees the land don't go in and he dies for people who still didn't go when he died he missed it in vain he died and they still didn't go in who are you dying for they're still not going because of your sacrifice I'm done the what's the keyboard gotta come please please I'm sorry I just gotta quit it's just lesson number three okay number three he purges issues he purchased individuals and he purges attitudes God always takes you and me to the next level headfirst since I get your mind out before you get out I take your mind there before you get there I take your mind higher before I take your life higher I take your mind to the next level before I take you to the next level do you know what Deuteronomy is with you when you look at Deuteronomy it is the it is the the reiteration of the law to a group of people who've been born in the wilderness this is all amazing they were born in the wilderness not in Egypt and they're in the middle of the wilderness and God spends a whole book you see God uses Moses to write a whole book to reiterate the law and to prepare them for something they hadn't even stepped into yet now they're in the wilderness still the manna hadn't cease yet and God writes through Moses in Deuteronomy 8 now when you get into the land where I'm taking you you're gonna have houses you didn't build Wells you didn't dig vineyards you didn't plant and when you get there you shall remember the Lord your God for this he that gives you the power to get well they had nothing but he's talking to them about how to handle everything God never has premature conversations his conversations a conversation of preparation if he's talking to you about it he's getting you ready for it hallelujah he is shifting them from a wilderness mentality to a Cana land mentality he is purging that attitude of settling and moving them into an attitude of the supernatural we have to think the next level before we become it and God purchase I'm done he purchase those attitudes don't be conformed Paul says to this world but be transformed how by the renewal of your man be transformed but have your mind washed by the water of the word your mind is a field and the field of your of your mind has a harvest that is a result of the seeds that have been sowed and before God transitions he comes through and he begins to pull up the wheat I mean the tears from the wheat of your mind because where the mind goes the life follows you you know you know this is you know if we were to use carrots charismatic emphasis it's the pulling down of strongholds you do know strongholds exists in the soulish realm right in the mind the emotions right it's it's it's a fortress it's a wall and you know you know what what forms a lot of those walls strong holes these these fortresses right that's what stronghold is this it's not like in a the strongholds strongholds not in addiction the stronghold stronghold in Scripture they will go too strong it's a wall the addiction is behind the stronghold it's a Wallis of fortress and this is why people can sit in church and hear the word preached on whatever air in whatever area they got a stronghold and walk out and still stay bound because the word can't get through the Strom ho am I making sense that that's the Stoney heart Jesus talks about when he talks about the word not being able to take root because of stones a stony heart is a hard heart a heart would a scab it's not hurting but it's not healed you know just because you're not hurting don't mean you're not hurt it's heartwood a scam hard I made it through now realizing the Bible says the thief comes to steal kill and destroy right steal kill and destroy but not just destroy steal and there are times when we come through something and we survived and we're celebrating a survival and and the devil is like yeah but I didn't send that to kill you I got survived there's like yeah I just send that to kill you you came out of it but you came out of it without something you needed to keep I stole something from you some trials don't come to kill you they come to steal it's like you came out of that but you know you came out of that but you bitter I stole your joy you came out of it but that betrayal made you so cynical you don't trust anybody that that wall is up said that trust is gone you survived but I stole that from you I stolen it I took it from you around you you came out but that faith and that hope that you had for what I was gonna do for your life I took that from you you don't even think that's possible now you think you too oh you think you missed too many opportunities you forgot I'm the God that redeems time that I open one door and I open one door and make up a ten [Applause] stronghold and the greatest strongholds are in the places where you had the greatest pain gosh especially charismatic circles passive we don't read we read pass job so we don't have a healthy theology when it comes to grief and we just think we just shout stuff away I'll put all on that I so pain is not processed properly so we have people who are moral but me to something stole their innocence and we have pastors who are gifted but so unhealthy and competitive and they need this too much and they you can't really help people you need too much if I need your approval I can't really say to you tonight what God puts on my heart to say if I need your approval a lot I'm not gonna say the hard sayings I'm gonna say the wild things not the owl things if I need you if I need your a man's to feel okay about me because they're integrated strongholds in the area of our greatest pain and you can't go through Egypt and not come out I know you survived but is it is it a stronghold air what if I told you that when the heart gets healed there are some cages that the heart outgrows what if I told you some stuff can't keep you hostage anymore when you grow up and when that heart gets better there are some walls that come down and I making sense y'all so tonight before I leave I'm gonna finish this tomorrow but tonight before I leave could you just give me the privilege a pram for that heart yeah you can't go through a divorce and then not affect you you can't give your whole self to somebody and you found out they were giving half and himself to you and that not affect you you can't be a child and have to raise your parent and that not affect you you lost your whole childhood some of you you can't see some of the stuff you saw in church and that not affect you brother you can act like it don't matter that I don't know my father but every but Jesus even came coming out of baptism gets get something every man needs the public affirmation of daddy this is my beloved Son in whom I'm well pleased and because he got that affirmation he did ministry out of it not for it that's what we're seeing in church and that's what we're seeing from platforms that's what we're seeing in ministry that's what we're dealing with our staff gifted anointed people who don't know who they are because daddy and said this is my beloved Son in whom I'm well pleased and I'm telling you right now the one who broke you ain't coming back to fix you [Music] what they did was not your fault it was them they were wrong they were immature they were unhealthy god bless them they were wrong what they did is not your fault your condition is not your fault your stronghold is not your fault but your healing is your responsibility [Applause] and it begins see some people just want to quit hurting and then they call that healing I saw my father too earlier today and I was looking at his left hand his left pinky fingers cricket like this that was because gosh over 20 years ago we were playing basketball in the backyard and I came down and I heard him pop his finger broke my dad old school he and go to the doctors it's all right no it's not all right and so his fingers it grew back but it didn't grow back straight and so one time I saw him I asked him I said well what's up what the thing he said well I went to the doctor and they told me that they would have to break it again to reset it and I don't want to go through that so I'm just gonna live with it this way and I'm looking and I'm saying he's got mobility of his finger but he doesn't have full mobility because he doesn't want to go through the pain of letting the doctor break it one more time so he could set it right his finger not hurting but it's still not right [Music] and for some of us it's not hurting but it's still not right but if you just let the doctor touch it one more time he says I'll set it right and healing will take time but when it heals it'll heal right this time and some of our hearts healed but it didn't heal right and tonight before I leave I want to pray for you that the doctor just you just let him touch it one more time cuz this time I must set it right and when you heal you're gonna have the full use of your heart strong holes will come down you won't be hypersensitive it won't kill you to say no to people anymore and that that pain that resetting sometimes means going back into the closet of your mind and dragging something out that you push deep back in there because it hurt to think about it and das like I want to pull it out of the closet so I can throw it out the house says you've been hiding it I want to get rid of it I want to evict it I want to set you free but it begins tonight with forgiveness forgiveness is the prerequisite for healing [Music] it means that you pardon the offender it means that you realize they owe you a debt they can never repay I have to write off what you did is bad debt because I don't care if you come back and apologize you can't give me what you took from me you can't give me that but you can say I'm sorry but you can't give me back the night's asleep I lost you can't give me back all the days that could have been good days that I'll never get again that were bad days because of the trauma I had to live through because of what you did can't give me my childhood back you can give me money but you can't repay me so I write it off as bad debt and I say do you accept the blood of Jesus as full and satisfactory payment for what they did to you yeah I'm watching and he says you get to a point where you know you're growing as a communicator when you're preaching your story using the words of the Bible it's a different kind of preaching it's a preaching that comes from a different place because you live through what you're talking about I'm preaching you what I know and I'm done but this is my question do you accept the blood of Jesus as full as satisfactory payment for what they did for you I became I whip here and preach this long up but before I leave can I pray if if God is talking to you and this is your moment as a sign of you getting close to him is it okay if could you if I want to pray for you at the altar so that's you very quickly wherever you are in this room you're like this is my part of the message God is speaking of me I want you to get here [Music] - I won't permit me to deal with this but yep pastors and ministry leaders here these spiritual father wounds of so deep [Music] you bet wanted [Music] and when you're in a fight you got to press through or die we're gonna fight Adrenaline's flowing and sometimes you don't even know you been stabbed and bleeding until after the fights over there's got a fight to survive and these spiritual father wounds are so deep because leaders are so unhealthy competitive insecure territorial and God would not be a just God if he allowed pastor no pastor if he allowed your destiny to be in the hands of somebody else's dysfunction you are not and you will not be enslaved to what they did to you there's no way there's a crowd this size and they're not Tamar's in this room [Music] family secrets mother was blind wouldn't acknowledge it family silence [Music] your innocence taken we just shout it out God wants to heal it it's just I just I just want to set the bone right and so before I pray for you I need to give you a moment to follow the pattern of scriptures that we see in the Psalms where you got to have a real moment with God David's heart was pure because his heart stayed empty when he was mad he say was mad he was ready to leave everybody say oh if I had wings like a dove I fly away and I want you in this moment to block out all distractions I want you to have a real moment with God I'm mad I'm hurt they stole for me they abused me it hurt me hurt me so bad I can't feel no more unknown [Music] I'm tired of stuff in all this pain in the closet of my heart where was my daddy why didn't he fight for me I had to do stuff I shouldn't have had to do by myself I made it without you but I'm mad Jesus let it out [Music] let it out [Music] you'll turn your mourning into dancing if you let it out if you sow in tears you'll reap in joy you'll give you the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness Jesus yes I believe you my healer Jesus you're old I believe you're my healer I believe

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