Death of a Loved One - Omar Suleiman - Quran Weekly

audhu billahi mina sh-shaytani r-rajim Farah Hina Bhima to Amin bubbly I established a Runa bin Laden allah miyan Huckabee him in qualifing him Allah - Allah in him wanna oonh Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato quran weekly this is your brother omar suleiman mallanna raheem alhamdulillahi rabbil alameen wa sallahu wa salam o allah rasool e kareem ala aalihi wa sahbihi wa seldom to semen kathira so one of the most difficult things that a person would deal with in his life and it's almost inevitable is that a person would have to see his own mother his own father sometimes his own spouse sometimes his own child sometimes the uncle that was always around sometimes the aunt that was always around sometimes grandpa sometimes grandma being buried six feet under and would witness that and most of the time would be at a complete loss of words and subhanAllah had it not been for Islam in truth many of us at those moments would wish to be in their places and many of us had those moments would wish that we could just die in that our lives could end at that moment because of the intense grief that we're feeling and you know there is really no way of getting around it but Wanda Brogdon Malik one of the Haditha he once had a dream that he saw all of his teeth fall out so he called the dream interpreter to try to explain to him what this dream was so the dream interpret interpreter said to him he said that that means that you all of your family members are going to die because in dream interpretation if you see your teeth falling out that means that your that means a family member will die so he says that means all of your all your family members are going to die so he had that man punished and he and he had him taken away and then he brought another dream interpreter because he didn't like that interpretation so another dream interpreter comes and he tells him up yeah I mean a little minion you know this is good news glad tidings Oh a meeting with Menino commander of the believers you are going to outlive everyone in your family so he got all happy and he started to go get some sweets and he said treat this man with some generosity treat this man with some benevolence because he gave him the interpretation that he wanted but in essence they were the exact same thing and what that means is that unless you know there unless you die first you are going to live to see each and every single one of your family members pass away and how do you deal with those moments and how do you deal with that grief and how do you deal with that sadness and somehow a lot you know I truly wanted to reflect on an incident of one of the greats aha bla bla bla Bosco low tide under the scholar of this Ummah when his father al-abbas of the allahu ta'ala anhu passed away and you know usually at those moments whenever you lose someone that you love you really don't feel like hearing anything from anybody you really don't feel like attending any gatherings you really don't feel like having people come and give you their advice unless they've been through something similar recently because otherwise you're like you know inside you're saying to yourself you really don't know what I'm going through right now as much as you insist upon it you know and and so you really just kind of want to be left alone but sometimes there are a few words having experienced this myself when my mother passed away Don Milani huh when someone came to me and I know that and I knew that or I was aware that his parent had passed away or one of his parents had passed away you know in recent times I truly valued their advice now I'm the lobna ambassador Lowe I know has a Bedouin come to Minato Bement so he's not a scholar he's not one of the eloquent Sahaba he's just some arabe man some Bedouin man and he says these beautiful words table bla bla bla so delano and he says hi Rowena ever see a guru cavada wallah who Heineman kalila best luck but he says it is better for you then Allah best the reward that you will have for the patients that you're showing at the time of his death and Allah is better for Allah best than you think about that for a moment the reward is better for you than having your father and Allah is better for your father than you so especially when a person dies in their righteous and of course a lost man Owen sada has the final call we can't make that judgment allah subhanallah de will decide what will happen to them and what will be their fate but especially when a righteous person dies of course you would take you would take some you know some form of comfort you would have some form of comfort and contentment knowing that in sha allah allah things are you know they're in a better place right now I know that sounds taboo because we say that all the time in a better place they're in a better place but usually when people say that it's it's just lip service but truly when you see a righteous person dying especially if it was someone that's close to you what is the situation not there and what is the situation that you're in and many times when people pass away we we try to do things that are actually very selfish in their nature you know we try to fulfill all of our cultural obligations regardless of you know regardless of whether or not they're based in the Sunnah we try to do you know we try to have all these gatherings we try to make sure that everyone else is satisfied with the proceedings we try to make sure we fulfill all the formalities we try to make sure that we build you know nice nice monuments or nice tombstones on top of the graves we try to make sure that we you know we have the best food at whatever it is that we're doing we try to do things that in reality aren't good for the person that passed away but they actually make us feel a little bit better about the tragedy right and it's as if we're trying to do new fi death you know and one of the most terrific things I've ever seen in my life I remember there was a young girl that passed away one of her parents was Muslim she was a four year old one of her parents was Muslim and another of her parents was not Muslim so the ceremony actually was was very honest Lamech in its nature and they took her and they embalmed her right and she cheap she passed away in a car accident they tried to they tried to make her look full you know they tried to cover up the wounds they put her in a pretty just they even put makeup on her and they put forced a smile on her face and it was one of the most disturbing things that I had ever seen in my life why because subhanAllah is it really benefiting her or is this just to make you feel better about it right so and many times we're very selfish with these things because instead of thinking about what benefits the dead and what is going to benefit me what lesson can I take from this and what can I do to make things better for that person and better for me it's all about making ourselves feel better about the whole situation making you know dignifying the whole the whole you know period of death and everything that surrounds all the rituals and so on so forth so allah subhanaw taala tells us about the righteous 30 hey Nabila at Imola home and foley alhasan you know the loss of a note Allah has given them their bounty they've seen their share and they're pleased with what Allah subhana Allah has given them from his bounty why establish your own I've been ladina let me attack will be him in Hell fee him and they're rejoicing they're rejoicing at the names of the people that will soon join them subhanAllah they're having their party they're coming together allah subhanaw taala allows the souls the righteous souls to meet with one another in alberta to meet with one another and to congratulate one another and to visit each other's graves and you know what they're waiting for the righteous that have not yet followed and somehow think about what Islam gives us here you know when I think about someone that I've loved and someone that I know is a righteous person if I ever thought to myself that there was no chance that I would ever see my mother again then that would be something that would truly kill me on the inside but because Allah gives me some hope the sudden that gives me some hope here that you know what if I died tonight I love the prophet sallallaahu I do something if I'm righteous and charlotta I might see the Prophet slicing him tonight I might see my mother again tonight there's a chance of being reunited in Alberta and the prophets lie still and he gives us this hope and in a narration from above right oh it's an authentic narration and Sunnah and si talking about how the believers received the soul after he passes away if it was a righteous soul and the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says ya tuna be he r wa helmet manin that the souls of the believers come to receive him well ahem I said do Farahan bohemian aheh Deacon be law to be beautiful narration and they are more pleased at receiving him the reception that they're giving that that righteous soul is more than the reception that you would give to your closest family member after they've been gone for a long time you know when you're at the airport and you're at the departures and you're at the arrivals it's a totally different atmosphere at the arrivals when the people are coming back and the love that's being shown and you can see people hugging and laughing in such joy after seeing their loved ones then you go right downstairs or rather you go upstairs to departures and you see the complete opposite people crying because people are leaving each other and people are departing from one another so in reality I want to be with the righteous that passed away and I have to take a lesson from that death and the way that I condolence myself is by doing the things that I know will benefit them and it happened it allowed once again Islam gives us hope we can give Sabich acharya we can give a continuous charity on their behalf we can we can make their art for them we can spread beneficial knowledge for them right now soon lhasa Allah Harding Misenum gave us these methods and he gave us things to do that could benefit them and at the same time we could know that we're actually contributing in sha Allah to Allah to their success in the hereafter inshallah whenever we do these things and this is the way we need to think when a person passes away when sattell the Aloha ask the prophet sallallaahu said i'm for advice when the prophets Lysanne I'm aside what do you think your mother would want what do you think your mother would want if she could talk and listen to what Sartre said well alone no ha low-tech element metal some thought but I and I think had she been able to speak she would have given charity and so we have to look at the things that the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did and the Companions did when they lost their loved ones to grant them self to give themselves comfort and at the same time at the same time contribute towards the comfort of their loved ones and if we do anything else and if we start going through all these different traditions so that we can fulfill certain formalities and we can fulfill certain cultural things whether or not their innovations or not whether or not you know or you know and we start trying to find loopholes here and there and we start trying to do things that that make the grave look nice rather than putting that money towards charity in reality we're dignifying that death and at the same time when we do things other than what the prophet sallallaahu Hardy was some did other with and what the Companions did then we're actually saying that we love our spouses when they pass away more than the prophet sallallaahu deeds all the alone on him because he did not do half the things that we see being done in Muslim cultures today that we love our Father is more than I'm the love our best love that is all the alot I know that we love you know our children more than rasoolullah sallallahu love rebellion on the consumer audio lost panettone be pleased with them right we're we're making that statement with our actions instead let's do the things that benefit them and let's do let's take a reminder let's heed the reminder and let's try to let's seek the help from a loss of Hanna Tata and make dua to a lost panatar that Allah can reunite us with them and once we have that reassurance in Charlotte Allah you know dealing with that death although it will never be easy will be much easier in Charlotte Salah the zakah malahide analysis next American Ikuo Cody had obstacle alaykum wa salaam alaikum warahmatullahi with a cat assalamu alaikum when i go to library council quran weekly so do yourself a favor if you benefited from this video go ahead and like it and share it on your facebook and twitter because the prophet sallallaahu re wa salem said as an area in Sahih Muslim and Santa Fe Islamic sooner 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Published: Fri Feb 10 2012