Caroline Myss - It is up to you to figure out what causes you to lose power

it is up to you to figure out what causes you to lose power how fast you lose it why you lose it and to decide this is going to end now in your second level i want you to look at you're in a building and and your second level you can see more what are you looking at in the second level of your psyche you're looking at what you can own you're looking at the world of stuff but how you look at stuff is what stuff will protect me what stuff will enhance me what stuff will keep me safe what stuff will give me more i need stuff that's the lens you're looking through because you're looking through the archetype of survival i need to survive how much stuff do i need how much stuff do i need i need more more and more more so in this win you're going to encounter your addict every one of you is an addict don't ever tell yourself you're not you are so the first thing you're going to put down is identify what you are addicted to if you put down chocolate you're going to make me gag put down what you are seriously addicted to and where your addictions cause you to compromise your character to lie to yourself to compromise your strength addicted to for example procrastination putting off to do you ever read the doldrums do you ever read that book oh my god one of the funniest things i ever read in my life where this guy gets up in the morning and the first thing he does is postpone what he's supposed to do and then that's so exhausting he takes a nap and then the schedule is so hilarious i i thought i would i thought i would die laughing from this book it's called the doldrums and then of course because he postpones his life he goes into the doldrums and that causes him to have to take a nap i mean this this book is this book is one of the best did you ever read um confederacy of dunces i mean one of the great classics of all times confederacy of dunces ignatius jay reilly writes the history of the world on a big yellow pad okay so you are going to identify your addictions if you don't have 30 of them you're not out of the room but i am talking about you recognizing that the what buddha would call an illusion i want you to really get something here that everything that you actually have identified things in the world that you've decided i must have that i must have that not that but this and that it's totally subjective there's no truth to it and just as an aside when when we talk about the pursuit of truth this is it there is no truth to the the fact that you actually need that it's just that it's subjective i've decided that i need that i must have when people say things to me like i must have quiet and i must have this and i must have this diet and i must have this and i must have this this is all made up in their head this is all made up in their head as my father would always say there's no such thing as an atheist and a foxhole if you're starving you will eat anything and your list of what you must have goes right out the window and that's really who you are as the options of life go up so does your ego and your fussiness oh now i get to choose and your choice gets more out of control and that's what you have to reel in here do you understand what i'm saying to you you have to reel it in and you have to take a look at what is it you actually need what is it you want and it's at this level you have to become and here's your operative word discerning discerning if you're a diabetic you actually do need to avoid this discerning so i want you to list five things you really are addicted to including things like attention the need to be right addicted to control i want you to identify and when you identify your addict your addictions make sure you pinpoint like i'm addicted to controlling who not everybody and i want you to pinpoint because come over here here's your body when it comes to pinpointing how you lose power in your cell tissue you have to become pinpoint accurate it's not enough and this is what i learned in my years as a medical intuitive it's not enough to say i have control issues and your biography becomes your biology it's i have control issues when it comes to this person so when this person walks in the room and this person says that to me my blood pressure goes up if i walked in the room and said that to you nothing would happen if a stranger walked in and said i am like this but when that person when my niece comes in the room and says oh i'm da da da da da da da i go okay this is the difference i have an investment now you know what i'm talking about so i don't have control issues with everyone i don't give a damn what most people ever do and so when you are dealing with control issues pinpoint what you're talking about pinpoint when you're talking about your addictions pinpoint them you don't need everybody's attention and if you do that is an issue but undo itself whose attention and what are you willing to do and why do i want to pin you to pinpoint this because let me play this out as we get up here as we will proceed today and tomorrow life is about going from external chaos to internal guidance from you taking your clues as to what to do with your life from the external confusion like i've got to get out of this job it's just so crazy and i don't like these people you will start when you're when you're a baby human taking your clues as to what you should do based on the chaos in your outside world but eventually with any luck with any luck you will begin to develop inner senses and regardless of whether the outside world is calm or chaotic you will take your clues from your inside world and when your inside world says i feel empty i've got to get going i need to move to my next step i need to i need to go i i need this i'm done with this i need to move on to my next step i have finished and completed this cycle of my life i've completed a cycle so it doesn't matter if this level is calm or if this level is abundant or if this level is full of resources i'm done with this cycle i'm done with this field i've got to move on i'm getting inner signals and you begin to respect your internal signals over your external this is a big huge difference and now you're beginning to realize this upper what i cannot see with my eye what i can see with my inner world is much more valuable than anything on the outside so how do i navigate my inside okay so it is important for me to direct you to sensing to recognizing how well do i sense when i'm hemorrhaging on the outside and if you recognize i have addictions and i'm anchored here and here and here oftentimes your anchors will block you from listening to your upper deck this is my point that you are so anchored and and i really i really i don't like using myself as an example but in this case i'm going i really when i was in new hampshire i my wiring is just a little unusual when i was in no no i recognize that really i do when i lived in new hampshire i and i had a i had a publishing company and blah blah blah um i came home one day i was teaching in england came home flew down landing in boston look out the window and i realized this isn't my home this isn't my home all right that's my first clue and i was actually aware why am i feeling this why am i suddenly feeling after 10 years that i don't belong here all right i get to my farm i walk in i have a coat on it it's february i have my luggage i open the farm door i walk in and i hear go home now when heaven talks to you when you get guidance heaven does not speak in paragraphs i'm telling this isn't funny i'm telling you the way it is heaven never speaks in paragraphs it never uses any words it doesn't need to use it never repeats itself you are supposed to act on the guidance you don't say what because there's something about guidance that is so clear and so not you you do not get to say oh but what's going to happen to me you never do that this is not how you respond to heaven you never ever ever ever do that this is what you do i put down my luggage i had my coat on i went to the phone i picked it up i thought to myself where can i move immediately immediately i've just been told to move what were my immediate resources the only place i could move in the immediate was chicago back with my mother and my aunt like they could they would take me in it would be one place to go i wanted to move to england i thought well okay i will do one thing at a time but i had to go immediately so i said can i move back home with you my mom said of course done i called my brother i said will you come out here and drive me back i need a van da da da next i still didn't take my coat off i then called what do you call that u-haul and i rented a u-haul and then i called the um airline to fly my brother out and a friend who would drive along with me in my car i got my airline tickets then still had my coat on i walked to the other side of the farmhouse this is a big 1820 farmhouse i had the original half very cold and then there was the half they added on i lived with them nine years i love these people so very much and i walked in and i said it's time for me to go i'll be gone on friday i had a cat named mousetrap i said will you keep mouse trapped she can't come home she's not a city cat and friday i was gone i was gone and it and i and it was as simple as that this is how guidance works for me it has always worked with that for me always now if i had said but what about this but what about that guidance i'm telling this is the way it is for all of you this is how intuition works this is the speed of light this is data at the speed of light this is how your internet works it works like the internet it works exactly like that at the speed of light when i do a reading on you i get your data at the speed of light your biology your health everything comes in at the speed of light it doesn't come in like that for you because you're anchored in your illusions you're anchored in your addictions you are anchored in the way you want to see your life and the speed at which you want your life to change i don't have any problem with how fast i want your life to change i have a speed of how i want my life to change are you with me okay so i'm asking you to identify what your anchors are and how much you hold on to them and one and the second one i want you to you have your addiction but cravings one of the ways you lose yourself is in cravings that you have cravings now here's a craving it's very subtle but it controls you and it's the cravings to tell your story but what stories do you tell about yourself we all tell our stories we all tell our stories but what stories do you keep alive in yourself now i for example i love the stories of the miraculous that are in my life i think they're incredible they are incredible and they inspire others and they sparkle others with grace and think maybe life is full of miracles and saints and healing because it is and i want you to sparkle with that grace and and when i tell it i hope you can see i'm not kidding you i'm not but some people tell their narratives of suffering again and again and again and again and again i'm not someone you want to ever tell that to the moment you start telling me about your suffering i'm going to shut you down i will shut you down for your sake and say stop it you've told that story a thousand times has it helped you no because you are hemorrhaging and i'm not sure what you want me to say poor you oh my how much you've suffered what do you want me to say to you do you want me to cuddle you like a child because that ain't gonna happen do you want me to not expect adult behavior out of you because that ain't gonna happen so the gift i'm going to give you is a dealt up and recognize that telling your story as a wounded human is causing you to hemorrhage and you have to make a decision that says why am i sharing this what am i trying to get every time you tell a wounded story i want you to to recognize that you are taking a cord of your life force and draining it like this you're draining it you're draining yourself and you're draining someone else and it is not serving you now you can tell your story but give it a different ending give it a different ending what does a power ending look like and when you can tell your story in a way that empowers you you will tell the story in a way that shares power both with you and the recipient so for this exercise i want you to identify a story that you've told a wounded story that you tell but change the ending so that it empowers you and it empowers someone else and watch how hard it is for you to do that because there's power in your wound and if you struggle with this identify why you don't want to change the story why you don't want to change it what kind of power have you gotten out of this this is that toxic power this is why people don't heal i know i am the one who wrote the book on it yeah maybe depends it's always time for me to have coffee when someone asks a question it's wonderful this is a wonderful exercise you may sound like you may think i'm putting you guys on the rack but i'm not go so if if someone's had a difficult childhood if someone if someone's had a difficult childhood and they have not been found i can't be you is it on yes might that be you yes so you get to say since i've had a difficult childhood yes since i've had a difficult childhood and was not validated for many many decades actually like they say there's who was supposed to validate that parents okay they say that it is somewhat healing to get validation yes from somebody like a therapist you have to get validation let me be very clear you have to get validation keep going yeah so therefore it is a certain repetition of of stories of the past that were difficult and this person says yes your parents didn't see it they didn't support you but i see it and and that can be viewed as somewhat helpful yes and that is a bit of repetitive you know getting it out of your system the crap that happened to you yes so where do you go with that when you say like i see what you're saying is you don't want to hear that right okay there's something in the middle you get to tell your story but how many times right and at some point your story becomes a lifestyle right and when your story becomes a lifestyle you are now wound self-wounding you always excuse me of technical difficulties what healing requires is that what life requires is every human being every one of us needs to be witnessed we need witnesses that we're here period we need witnesses one of the reasons isolation is so traumatic is nobody's witnessing you every one of you that's what friends and family are for you're witnessing beth is one of my closest friends in the universe but she's also one of my life witnesses so she she knows me as well as anybody david's one of my life witnesses we've been together 20 some years so he's not just a business partner he's a friend and a witness and how often he will say to me i know you you're going to da da da da but that's that's hilarious to me now because it's absolutely true we need witnesses and part of that category is that's first is the role of the holy witness which is an archetype it's an archetype and the holy witness is what you're called upon to do when someone says i've been wounded and i want to share my wound and when someone is wounded that wound must be shared and your role as a holy witness is to simply listen not jump in there and say my god who did that to you no you're adding to it your job is to witness as they pour their wound out just pour it out and you may need to witness three times three that's what you get three times for your body then your mind releases and then your soul three times now the hardest part of this and the most challenging is that one of i am convinced i'm convinced no one will ever change my mind on this that our absence of holy language and our common parlance is one of the reasons why we have lost the capacity to serve each other in healing and the reason is you there is an inability in all of you to use the language required to pinpoint the depth of the wound the depth the psycho spiritual depth of the wound what i mean by that is this oftentimes in seeking a healing you are looking for someone to acknowledge it to witness it but in the witnessing what are you actually looking to hear what are you actually looking to hear that someone would say to you i'm sorry i didn't mean to do this but in that your soul needs something your mind different than your mind because your mind might hear someone say i didn't mean to hear you but you don't trust that why don't you trust that because your soul knows something different than what your mind is hearing please turn your phone off i really resent that when your mind hears i'm sorry your soul hears uh-uh it was deliberate it was deliberate you deliberately knew you were going to hurt me and you made a choice and you knew ahead of time that this choice was going to damage me and you made it anyway and further and follow me here i know and you know that at the spiritual level you were warned by an angel not to make this choice because that's how we're wired and that's how the system works that before you make a choice that qualifies for the word sin an angel always comes in and says are you sure you want to do this because you're about to use your precious life force to harm another life and that heaven records and that's why there is the word karma that is what karma counts for there's no karma about you know like you're late for dinner this is where karma is incurred when you consciously use your life force to harm the life of another person and it is which is why there's always that micro second of intervention where you get a feeling that says do you want to do do you really want to do this and you get that micro second holy pause it says think again and then the choice is even more conscious when you say yeah i do as a matter of fact and so that apology doesn't work because what's really required is the person says it was conscious and i sinned against you it was a sin now we're pulling out the language that's required what i did was a sin it wasn't just a boo-boo it wasn't a bummer it wasn't just one of those things it was a sin it was conscious and i chose to harm your life journey so that my journey could temporarily or whatever benefit it was conscious and i'm asking for forgiveness that's now that'll clean out the wound got it does that work johnson well i'll tell you what there's only so much a human being can do let us be clear here there's only so much a human being can do to repair what a human being has done there's only so much and if you look upon that human being and say it's not enough i want you have reached the level in which you want to say to the human being i want you to suffer now i want you to suffer and when you reach that stage of saying now i want you to suffer because i suffered i want you to be humiliated because i was humiliated when you reached this level of being a perpetrator you have to ask yourself what am i becoming how much has that wound deformed me i was as you were talking i was thinking about this situation i need that microphone closer oh i was thinking about a situation with a very good friend of mine that i've known for many many years that's almost like a sister um and she used to say things to me that that i would always think how how could you say something so hurtful to someone that you purport to love and while you were talking i was thinking about that she used to do a lot of cocaine and i wonder if the cocaine just interfered with her brain her ability to hear the angels you think never mind angels how about you don't even go to angels yeah okay moving on all right thank you dear all right does that help you when it comes to levels of this and why it's it it's you know your capacity to learn discernment what a wonderful word to learn discernment to realize this person that i am dealing with doesn't have the capacity to recognize the level of my wound in the soul i can't keep beating them up for that it's like beating up a four-year-old and i can't stay wounded until they do i can't stay wounded until they do what am i doing to myself there are decisions you have to so that i can't keep standing in front of them and saying i'm still wounded i'm still wounded so that i can because this is like preposterous and further they don't care get it through your head they will not care they will never care and that's something you have to get through your head because they weren't on the receiving end and so you have to stop telling them you have to stop wasting your life that is your anchor and this is where you have to say here at this level why are you doing that to yourself answer that question why are you doing that to yourself why are you self-inflicting this is like being a cutter this is being a cutter this is being a psychic cutter you're being a psychic cutter just know that why are you doing that okay all right so you're craving some kind of something and you're never going to get it you will never get it it is never going to happen now from a symbolic point of view everybody is given this kind of wound to recover from everybody you're just not doing a good job of it yet but you will because you've been living in the idea that it's only you you got to get out of that it's not just you you got to get out of the idea that you want to punish them make them pay make them see what they've done nobody cares it's an amazing truth but nobody cares and it's like i got to get out of here and once you're out and gone the light comes on because this is the archetypal journey and that's this is this is where the healing comes and you think it's like popping out of this dark tunnel and seeing all these other people saying wow i thought it was just me in there and everybody's saying no no no no no and then you realize is this what that awful self-wounded i've been in there all these years for what for what so this is what it feels like to take a deep breath and stand on my own and get going okay but you have to identify how much you're hemorrhaging and why you're staying there an answer to yourself not to a therapist but why you're anchored there and i want to repeat that when you have guidance and the guidance says get going you will pull out that wound even to god and say no not until you tell me why i was wounded i am so upset and i have to tell you you will never ever ever ever get an answer to that heaven doesn't answer that question heaven never answers that prayer because what you're saying is you so screwed up and you owe me an explanation and i am not playing this game of life until you you explain yourself to me and that will never happen never it will never happen so you you have to say i you must have a reason i thought i was special i guess i'm not this is really humbling for me this is humbling so i guess i don't have any special protections i guess i have to get on with the business of my life and you hold on to your wound because you think you're special you're not okay um i'm gonna really finish this and then i'll take questions okay i need you to identify at this level one thing and that's that this is also the level at which you are forming your identity so this is a really interesting question which is how much of your identity and in what way is your identity woven into your wounds into your past into what you've experienced and i and i i mean this when you think about yourself when you think about who you are how much of it comes from woundedness now tell you something very strange maybe strange maybe a gift i have no idea i think it's a gift i've had seizures i had seizures when i was in the um when i was in my early 40s grandma's seizures and the result is that i don't have the magnificent memory i once did i have half the memory i had in some regards and my wondrous vocabulary that i i used to go to sleep at night reading the dictionary and eating vocabulary eating it eating words and so my short-term memory is is pretty dysfunctional so if you came into my house you're going to see post-it notes everywhere and i have to put things back in exactly the same spot or i really won't remember where it is i have notes everywhere now here's the wonder of it i can't recall a thing in the negative world in the funniest way it's as if heaven wiped out my capacity to remember negative things i remember all the positive but i can't remember negative it is so joyful it's like it pulled out the most interesting wires and i thought well if if that's what it takes you know but i really can't recall i actually don't have the wires so it was like you know you know caesars are called seizures are called the mystics disorder there's nothing disorderly about it and i really i can't recall like if someone said what are the negative things from your past i don't know because they're not negative to me they're just not negative it's simply not there in the negative way and i can remember i mean i have not lost my capacity to remember anyone or any relation none of that none of that it's just that nothing looks negative to me now isn't that the damnedest thing in the world i think so i have to tell you it pays off to take those wires out unplug them you are not served by seeing things negatively it is a choice not a it is a choice it is a choice and you are hemorrhaging you are hemorrhaging for no reason you actually think there's going to be a payoff and there's not there's not there is no payoff it is self-inflicted wound and you think oh it shouldn't have happened there's a lot of things that shouldn't have happened trump shouldn't have happened lot of things shouldn't have happened but in some other scheme we don't know why things happen as they do and it takes a lot to get to the place like like the dalai lama like buddha things happen and all and life is the law of balance and we have to choose to work on the side of the light to balance the dark and that's the choice we have so what i'm asking you to do is identify how much of you how much of your identity in yourself is based on your past and in your woundedness and how you think to yourself about your own identity and this is a very important question and describe that part because that's how you will that's the narrative you will tell to someone and it's about how you see yourself as weak or strong vibrant resilient or fragile and and and here's something that i find very curious i've been in the business now for years and years and years although i don't look it but when i started out in the 80s doesn't time go fast bloody hell anyway you know when i started in the 80s there was this enthusiasm about holistic health and people still talked about the new age and the language that you know and in the a in in when i first started out as a baby medical intuitive mind you i i cannot emphasize how much i didn't know anything there was no there were no other medical intuit i was it right and i never even heard about the very skill that i was good at and i never wanted to do what i did i had a genius for something i had no interest in and no talent for the thing i wanted to do which is be a great fiction author so anyway and that is brilliant too because when you are given a genius for something you have no interest in you don't fantasize about what you could be and i was very blessed because i was all alone in the mountains of new hampshire before google no no before the internet today kids wake up and they plug themselves into themselves and they damaged their egos and their competition and where am i and how much and they did it i was all isolated i didn't have a computer i didn't have tv i simply had my inner life and norm and patience and quiet for 10 years how about that how weird is that anyway but in the early years when i was doing these readings the attitude in people was that illness came from negativity that illness was like this that it was one negative attitude and and that's what broke down your whole body there was a simplicity to the way we operated and that everything could be healed with a positive attitude there was an enthusiasm right now it's so many years later and in fact we are more fragile than we were we are more medicated more drugged more easily broken more psychologically and emotionally fragile we break down as soon as someone goes we can't hold ourselves together you tell me why you think every single opinion needs to be processed heard what is that about this is this third level this is the third level and this has to do with your identity and this is subjective and this is about you describing how important you think you are so i'm going to make you articulate that because this is where you lose your power the most is how you describe yourself in the center of your universe and the in significant place here is am i running you need okay is what you see yourself as entitled to and how your universe should run around you because from this from this description you have determined how all relationships should operate how the world should revolve around you how people should talk to you what you expect in the world what your expectations are and what you think you're entitled to so one of the words that you put up there is entitlements and please put down five things you see yourself as entitled to when someone puts down things like respect you better put down who from whom because i assure you if you walk down the world and you think everybody's going to respect you you're crazy you think everyone says now there's someone i want to respect this is all in your mind and that's the point you need to look at is nobody else is walking around thinking now there's someone i'm going to respect you got it nobody else is looking at you thinking now there's someone who should be first in line these are all things you have created in your own mind but you have created them and these are all narratives that organize your world so it's really important because on the third level when you get to this floor this is how you create the structure of your love of power and when you make decisions you make decisions to support these narratives and this is how you use your power this is how you create your reality you're not doing this yes no oh you're just doing it here okay i'll tell you why i prefer that you write things down okay i prefer that you write things down what i've learned in healing is that if you don't bring things the full measure from your mind into the physical world you can't change anything in your biology it won't change because all you're doing is keeping things at a mental level but you don't just know that and when you're done with this i'll let you take a break you have no idea how much your life is run on your entitlements it's not until you actually articulate them that you get oh my god i really think i'm entitled to get this fresh water when you turn on your sink i i put that down you kidding me you totally think you're entitled to that you're not you have to pay for it you're not entitled to it you have to pay for it one of the things theresa mavilis said you're not entitled to anything you have to live your life as though you're not entitled to anything so that you are able to recognize that when the most wondrous things happen there is a force behind that and it's not you you have to start appreciating that there are forces in the universe that are providing blessings to you one of her great examples i just adore her one of her great examples is one of the experiments just one of the things you should do is when someone you love and you know loves you loves you a lot big huge go look at them when they're not looking at you go look at them when they're not looking at you and think that person loves me a lot that person loves me great big huge that is just amazing you cannot make someone love you there is nothing you can do to make a person love you nothing absolutely nothing love either happens or it doesn't so now look at someone who loves you great big huge loves you a lot and then think how come they love me so much and then think you know if i if god called me home they would be so sad because their world would be incomplete if i was not here and i know that and their heart would break that's big how is it that they have come to love me so much and that's what teresa of avila would say because god set that up god set that up and that is a blessing and that is how heaven provides for you that you cannot make anyone love you but suddenly love appears bingo and this is how life is like suddenly something wondrous appears it's and if you want a good prayer here's here's a good prayer the quietness just say to god i am in the mood for something wondrous why don't you pray like that i do dialogue with god like that say i am in the mood for something wondrous i could use something wondrous today get busy okay stop thinking that heaven is just there to rescue you out of hell stop it you have to think you have to and sometimes and sometimes when i see things that are a crisis i'll say why don't you show off and do something go rescue this person send them a really tough ass angel learn how to pray with faith and just say sometimes i'm on my porch and i'll say i need i'm bored i need something wondrous send me someone someone who's interesting someone i could help do something and i'm going to work and i'm going to go make my dinner pray like that pray as though you're always talking to an angel one time all right one more story and i'll let you go i i developed mononucleosis big huge bad big huge not little i never do anything little this big huge big huge bed and i could hardly and i had a friend named sally sally had gotten involved with this filipino healer and she brought this healer to new hampshire and she kept insisting i go and see this healer and i said i am not going to a healer are you out of your mind and i actually got to the point with this mono case well i don't know if you know how mono goes but i had breakout in sweating and just i was so weak that by 2 30 3 in the afternoon i couldn't get out of bed and i it was it was horrible so i finally called her up and i said i can't move i i need help so all the way she's driving me to see this healer way in the back of beyond in the mountains of new hampshire and she says oh he's just wonderful and i began to feel like i was going to find a way out of this nightmare so i walk in and it's in one of these old new hampshire little cottages and i see all these people enthusiastic with their session the healing session with this filipino healer and not unlike john of god yes so i walk in and i sit down in a small a chair you know a lower a regular chair and we are knee to knee and he says how can i help you and i'm looking at him and he's looking at me and i said just jump start me just give me some energy just jump start me and this is exactly what he did he went and he looks up and he looks at me and he looks up and he looks at me and he says i can't help you go and i looked at him he says go i can't help you and i and so i walk out and in my prayer i say oh thanks and i really did say i get what that's a prayer too and and so sally and i get in the car and she said how was it and i said he refused to help me he refused to help me and she brought me back to the farm and i just you know was you know wrapped with self-pity and you know you know after all i do compensate anyway weeks go by she finally says to him why don't you help her and he said who is she he's a good friend of mine he said you know she has this angel and the angel stood between and said don't you touch her yeah and and he said my angel said don't you touch her you let her go and then it turns out that he had he was molesting people he was molesting women and this my angel said don't you touch her really but my point is there i was feeling sorry and doubting and and honest to god from that point on i thought god bless it you kick ass and and you know you never know you never know and really from that i i honest to god i'm always standing around saying do something come on do something don't don't just stand there i'm i am in constant prayer i would not give up my life for anything i cannot in i can't i want to i want to ignite this in you i want to ignite it in you you have to identify how you lose power and why and how how easy it is for you to say that's it i'm not hemorrhaging because the moment you get that is the moment you start choosing where to put your power where to put your power it's not just about you deciding i'm not going to lose my power here once you decide where you're not hemorrhaging then you decide how to shine your light and now you know what power is how to direct your power but first you have to learn how not to lose your power how not to let someone command your power how if someone walks up to you and says i would never have a glass like that and you find yourself depleted of your power because someone said something you like that are you crazy are you nuts is that all it takes for you to lose power you cannot be that fragile you must not be that fragile you cannot allow anyone to command you anyone you cannot allow anyone's opinion to matter do you understand you cannot you allow someone's counsel to matter but not someone's opinion counsel is grace opinion is trash i'll explain that to you when we come back you remember that i ask for how often i've said to david i want your counsel it's a matter of regard do you think i asked for everybody's opinion never don't you ever if you draw the psychic boundary when someone says well you go like that but you learn to be discerning whose counsel matters that's what you invite in because an opinion i mean it's it's like it's like here bite like a net all right i'll let you have a break

Channel: Caroline Myss

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Id: X3T96cf74NQ

Length: 60min 32sec (3632 seconds)

Published: Sat Jul 23 2022