Black Men Don’t Cheat

meet me at first john chapter one first john chapter one this is our custom would you stand for the reading of god's word first john chapter one i want us to illuminate and critically examine just one verse and that's verse nine first john chapter one verse nine you'd have thought me and the psalmist had uh a conversation but his selection lead you to write us into our scripture today first john 1 verse 9. once you've found what you say i got it if you can't find it say lord help me amen first john 1 verse 9. we're going to read it together with uplifted voices everybody come on let's declare it together if we confess our sins amen i want you to personalize it and put if i come on everybody if i confess my sins he is faithful and just and will forgive me of my sins and purify me from all unrighteousness i want you to point to somebody around you tell them if you confess your sins he is faithful and just to forgive you and purify you from all unrighteousness you may be seated arm yourself with a writing instrument there are some points and principles that i want to share with you on today that i believe are going to serve you long after this ministry moment would have concluded if we confess our sins he is faithful and just to forgive us of all of our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness look at that first john chapter 1 verse number 9 clause a if you confess your sins he is faithful i want you to underline that if that's your bible if i confess my sins he is faithful i want to preach for a little while today using as a subject black men don't cheat i feel tomatoes coming at me right through here give me time for my argument now black men don't cheat lord we need prayer at the altar all over again comrades i am uh clearly outright biased about my preference for iphones however i have to concede that androids while an inferior device has a much stronger battery life most most owners of iphones are caught dragging around a white cord just recently i was flying when i landed i noted that my iphone was about to die as soon as i got in the car that was a sign to pick me up i immediately requested of the driver did they have a charger he passed the charge accord back to where i was seated i immediately plugged it into my phone and across the screen of my phone was plastered do you trust this device a trusted device has access to your photos to your videos to your contacts your content and not to mention your text messages and your call history immediately appear on the dashboard i quickly push the option do not trust i didn't know this driver had never been in this car and i saw my last five phone calls right on his dashboard far too many of us have plugged into people before finding out whether they could be trusted or not because you allowed them to plug in they were able to glean some of your vision read some of your thoughts download pieces of your heart and after they proved not to be trustworthy they corrupted your emotional files before life's experiences you had a laundry list of what you wanted from somebody but at this point you really just want to know can i trust you not since minister farrakhan called for a million brothers to come to the nation's capital in 1992 has there been such a euphoric adulation when the summer anthem for brothers was released by comedian little duvall charlemagne the god entitled black men don't you under syncopated tones the lyrics rumbled no matter what they say or what you heard in the streets everybody knows black men don't cheat followed up by the line a lot of tlc but we don't ever creep black men don't you basketball courts to barber shops and bmws the song was left on repeat while the brothers were trying to harmonize and get into the vibe many of the women in our lives were rolling their eyes kiara kelly writer for madame noire.com put ink behind the sentiment when she pinned hearing black men sing that song black men don't cheat leaves me incensed she wrote because it reeks of irresponsibility an absence of accountability for a trail of tears that lend empirical evidence that the statement is inaccurate a one-on-one interview with keira charlemagne the god on the breakfast club gave redress immediately on the air responding to her concerns that the song is a way to speak positivity into existence while that sounds good it cannot manifest until men are prepared to do the work of dismantling the main reasons why people cheat many of the reasons that people cheat is loss of interest insecurity over compensation lust and a lack of discipline former president william jefferson clinton was probed in an interview and i asked why he participated in a fling with intern monica lewinsky and his response was because he could the real strength of your manhood is when you can but don't i want to put on record i want to put on record i want to put on record i'm going to put an exclamation point and change the font size i want to say it out loud so the people in the back can hear me it's not just men that chick but it's women also there are a lot of side chicks and side slicks who are keeping their position and don't even know it dr keith battle wrote a book called uh side chickology why it is that men and women elect for infidelity all this week social media was a blaze about nicole murphy and antoine fuqua according to a series of photographs the question was asked of nicole denigrating her womanhood why how could she do this when she knew the wife all of the conversations was about the lapse of moral judgment of nicole but none of the conversations was about the absence of responsibility of the husband who took the covenant in the first place in the book the cheating culture why more americans are doing wrong to get ahead the author argues that the current state of society is marred with inequality in every area of life from matrimony to business to law to even athleticism everybody is cheating looking for a quick come up when sears instituted a production quota for its auto repair staff in the 80s mechanics begin performing unnecessary and costly maintenance just so that they could meet their quota because they were meeting their quota they didn't see it as cheating over billing is now a common practice for many law firms just for them to take the call you are charged for an hour's worth of service for five minutes of direction in hospitals you should be embarrassed and ashamed of how many people have gone through unnecessary surgeries because they have found a way to get kickbacks that has in fact been funneled from pharmaceutical companies that don't really want to see you cured but want to see you addicted i want us to be clear on one thing and that one thing i want us to be clear on and i want you to write it down cheating is a decision cheating is a decision in the book leading with a limp to decide hear this to decide requires a death when i decide i am killing every other option when i decide i'm pushing aside every possibility for one thing decide means to cut off so from that word decide that root word you still get the word homicide from the side you get the word suicide from decide you get the word patricide every time i make a decision something else dies once you decide you are saying everything else that comes will be killed first corinthians chapter 13 verse number 11 it says when i was a child i spake as a child understood as a child i acted as a child but when i became grown i put away childish things many of you should be cast as extras for the show grownish because you really are not adults you are just grown children because as adults you understand that there are consequences and repercussions to my decisions and i have to be held accountable for what it is i decide you cannot hide under the monologue of flip wilson that the devil made you do it at some point you've got to decide there are some things in me that are broken that i've got to redress that i've got to change that i've got to confront that i've got to deal with or else i will spend the rest of my life looking for a feeling of a void that another person cannot fill but i've got to deal with my own deep seated inadequacy in order for me to mature into who god wants me to be one of the greatest barriers to becoming pastor of this church was the swirling question do we want to risk hiring a divorced pastor not because of irreconcilable differences but according to open court records due to infidelity i told the committee please hear me you're gonna hear a lot of stuff about me and half of it i did [Applause] but the difference is i own my stuff i don't lease it [Applause] the worst mistake you can ever make is not learning from your mistakes but when you're able to live and learn from your mistakes nobody can hold your mistakes over your head you can now place it under your feet please whatever you do don't let these church people fool you and act like they never fell short of his glory like they never made a mistake like they have never doubted all their eyes and crossed all their teeth and even if they want to be phony let me talk for everybody look at me i'm i'm a testimony i didn't make it on my own but somebody prayed for me they had me on their mind they took the time and i'm so glad that they pray be seated please you you gotta get to a place that the first step to recovery is admitting you got a problem many of you will never be healed because you don't claim your deficiency but if i can't be honest in church where can i be honest i need 500 of y'all who understand that there are some things in my life where i tried to take a shortcut but i realized it was the long route to where it is that god was trying to get me i need some of you who are not in witness protection but realize that i went through some stuff and if i had to do it all over again i realized it made me better stronger and wiser and otherwise i never would have made it i can't hear nobody i need 500 of y'all that can be honest to say i didn't always make good decisions i always didn't make right choices i always didn't operate with my higher self but i thank god he looks beyond all of my faults and meet me at my needs i know y'all are perfect sanctified filled with the holy ghost speaking in tongues fire baptized but for the rest of us that are saved and still sometimes stupid to the rest of us that sometimes i didn't do what god would have wanted from my life i didn't come to church because i'm perfect i came cause i'm forgiven and i'm grateful that wow we were yet sinners [Applause] he he died for us in it amazing how many people only apologize about cheating when they get caught and if it takes you get in court to apologize is it sincere and that's what god is saying today is that you know that every day you sin by thought word and deed but i can't ever get you to the altar to cry out to me until you get caught y'all ain't saying nothing so you you didn't feel bad while you were in the hotel you didn't feel bad when you were creating emotional ties with your work husband work white didn't feel bad when you were watching pornography y'all ain't saying nothing you didn't feel bad when you were meeting up but when your spot began to blow up now you want to cry and hold yourself and say god if you ever get me out of this i promise i ain't ever gon oh dude god is saying don't wait and pray and cry only after your period is late don't wait and cry only when you waiting on the blood test to come back don't wait and cry only when you got a court case but when your conscience kicks in you are to be crying out to god god you should have killed me because the wages of sin is death but the gift of god is eternal life you want to know why i shout in the sanctuary i shout in the sanctuary cause i could have been in the mortuary he could have let me die last night but he woke me up another day so i could be better than what i was yesterday [Applause] he says and first john chapter one watch what he says he says if you confess i'm telling you i don't expect too many of y'all to shout right through here if you confess my ex-wife told me when she filed for divorce it wasn't the cheating that made me foul it was the lying oh y'all ain't saying nothing to me i i i could handle the cheating it's the line i can't handle my grandmother used to say if you lie you're still and if you're still oh y'all got the same grandmother [Applause] and god is saying in no uncertain terms just don't lie to me confession is good for the soul something is wrong because now we are living in an hour where the 21st century church no longer believes in deliverance we only believe in discretion so we really don't want to be changed we really don't want to be delivered we just don't want to be exposed and god is saying i'm looking for a church that will cry out to me saying lord i want to be like you create in me a clean heart oh god and renew a right spirit within me i don't know who i'm talking to when i'm confessing i ain't looking at my neighbor cause it ain't none of your business but i will look to the heels from which cometh my health my help cometh from the lord some stuff you gotta get off your chest he he didn't say confess it to your neighbor he said confess it to him and i'm talking to those of us who have fallen short of his glory and you come in church with your arms folded in your legs crossed as if you doing god a favor knowing that you were in some trifling stuff this week that if god put your business on the screen of this church you would be running out of here with your head between your legs but i need those of y'all who are in this room that can say lord give me one more chance i i want to be better this week than i was last week i want to be more disciplined this week than i was last week [Applause] it says if you confess your sins it ain't always about extramarital affairs sometimes will you confess you lied on that application confess you know you are not qualified for the position confess you know you ain't ready for no real relationship confess that stuff ain't yours you showing on social media [Applause] he said if you confess your sins i need you to look at clause b first john chapter one verse number nine clause b watch how they describe god it messes me up we always hear about god being merciful and gracious and being in the blessing business but john does something peculiar he says if you confess your sins you get another dimension of his personality and his characteristics he is faithful i i know i didn't jump to you from the back in it amazing that many of us claim to be christian and if we claim to be christian if we break it down in an etymological understanding christian means to be christlike so now if i am a christian man i am a christian woman then it ought to be reflective in my relationships that i am faithful hallelujah i'm i'm faithful watch this i'm faithful why because god's been faithful to me hallelujah and you ought to want to be like god in everything that you do that you are loyal and consistent i i'll never forget it y'all please don't judge me don't judge me please don't judge me i i try to be a scholar i try to read i try to do appropriate research please don't judge me but but but i fell back i fell back and i and last week i watched jerry springer don't judge me don't judge me i'm i know i shouldn't have i i know it's bad and i i know it's a mockery of who we are i had no business watching jerry springer i'm in my hotel room i'm i'm watching jerry springer y'all ain't gonna believe it and uh woman is in there and crying on the stage 24 million viewers around the world she she dating luke she said i got a suspicion he cheating on me luke said no nine cheating on you i promise you you know me i ain't cheating on you jerry said luke you gonna take the latest luke said yeah i'm a tanker they took luke in the back after the commercial break luke is back jerry got his flash cards so luke i'm gonna ask you again before i read the results have you been faithful luke look with a straight face yeah i've been faithful that's that's my ride or die that's my soul mate she always got my back what i look like cheating on her jerry said i'm glad you're so adamant that you ain't cheap the results from the lie detector test are back and according to the lie detector test you have been unfaithful several times you cheated with her cousin next-door neighbor and her sister girlfriends look like a fool sitting on that couch she crying uncontrollably shaking losing everything humiliated embarrassed all of the crowd is chim boo they boo and luke jerry springer messed me up he asked his sister what you gonna do said i'm i'm gonna stay with them [Applause] whole crowd and jerry springer start doing with the crowd that new birth does boo don't keep with them i'm looking at it for entertainment purposes only i'm laughing to myself my sermon i'm thinking is almost finished while i'm sitting on the edge of the bed god tapped me on my shoulder and said jamal do you see me on this show i said no i don't see you on this show he said i'm the one just cheating on i'm the one that's been lied on i'm the one that's been taken for granted and the angels keep asking me what are you gonna do with them now and god said i'm still going to keep them and he want to know why are you going to steal people cause i still love him and i need somebody who's in this place then those gods should have threw me away a long time ago but he still loves me [Applause] be seated i'm coming he says if you hallelujah you got to be like me and be faithful because if you are faithful over a few things i'm going to make you ruler over many y'all i got to get out of here but i got to give you the last clause of this verse it says not only will he forgive me of my sins but the bible says in the new international version he'll purify me from all unrighteousness the original word of purify is not purified the original word you'll see it is cleanse me from all unrighteousness i'm telling y'all some of y'all better shout right through here he said in no uncertain terms when i forgive you i start cleaning off of you the residue of whoever touched you because i don't want any trace of them on your life i'm getting them out of your memories i'm getting them out of your spirit and i'm purging them out of your system that's why a lot of people can't hang with you it's cause you are faithful unto god it's hot outside but you're still in church because you're faithful folk are looking at you crazy but you still give him glory because you're faithful you ain't got a lot of money but you're tired of your resources cause you're faithful look at the person besides you and tell them if you ain't shout you cheating on god you'll shout for the falcons you'll shout for the hunks yourself for beyonce yourself but amigos but when you get in god's house you won't say a word but i came to tell somebody can nobody do me like jesus can nobody do me like the lord he picked me up he turned me around he placed my feet on solid ground lord lift me up and let me stand grab somebody shake him by the head and tell him i made some mistakes i dropped the ball i failed i fell short of his glory but i came to give him praise i came to magnify him i came to shout his name praise him praise him [Music] [Applause] lift up that ham [Applause] [Music] i cheated on god this week lift up that hand softly mentions i cheated on god this week i checked instagram before i prayed i read more facebook than i did the scripture i cheated on god this week ate a couple of meals before saying grace i cheated on god this week he made some ways for me and i forgot to tell him thank you but i'm thankful that he's faithful that even when other folk didn't forgive me god forgave me he's faithful and he's just to cleanse me from all unrighteousness lift that hand for me he said all i need you to do is confess and if you confess it i'll fix it i want that hand lifted please sir please ma'am i'm asking you to turn to your neighbor because i ain't talking to them i'm talking to you we send by thought by word and by deed and you've only asked for forgiveness for deeds but not for your thoughts as a man as a woman thinketh so is he so is she first step to sin is in your thought process and your thought pattern talking to black men and black women talking to men and women that today i want you to begin your week of faithfulness you don't stick with nothing you don't stick with the gym you don't stick with the eating program you don't say with the book you should've had finished two summers ago with the grant proposal y'all ain't saying nothing to me with the business you're supposed to save no wonder your kids don't stick with nothing they haven't seen you model faithfulness come on lift up that hand i'm praying that god will give you the discipline to cut off some stuff it's going to hurt some people's hearts but it's going to help you heal i needed to begin praying not for cars not for money not for clothes not for a house god show me who i need to cut off it ain't healthy for me that ain't where i'm supposed to be show me here it is what part of me needs to be cut off you 47 still blaming your childhood well part of you needs to grow up blaming other people lord i pray over every lifted hand that you'll grace them for hard decisions stuff that they don't know how to do give them the wisdom to do i pray to your lord that even if they gotta hurt other people's feelings in order to help their destiny i pray dear lord that you'll anoint them afresh and anew thank you god because today we've lifted hands we're giving you a sign we want to be like you we want to be faithful to whatever we agreed to say we're going to be a member of the church we ain't coming once a month every time the door's open soon as bible study is available i'm walking down the door god i want to talk to you every day not just when i'm in trouble god i trust you for it i believe you for it thank you for being faithful in the face of my unfaithfulness and those of you who lend your heart your mind and your spirit unto god did you do me a favor would you just give god the sound of glory right now come on give him the sound come on you owe him more than that i said you owe him more than that [Applause] [Music] [Applause] i'm gonna open the doors of the church softly mitchells i'm gonna open the doors of the church hear me because i'm telling you if you confess your sins he's faithful he's just cleanse you all unrighteousness five foot three james baldwin from a one bedroom apartment on linux avenue said you can't fix it till you face it some stuff you're gonna have to deal with head on you're in this room listen to me very carefully i want you to stop cheating on god he deserves all of you you don't move to atlanta still ain't found a church but you found a supermarket found a gas station i need you to get right with god i want you to do it right now i know you got a church back home but you don't go back home to go to the market you don't go back home to get gas this your new reality you're here in this room and you know god has been unwaveringly faithful to you now you need to get right with god you're in this room i need you to come meet me at this altar please i'm talking to you i ain't talking to your neighbor i need you to come i want to be faithful come on come on come on new birth come on make some noise they coming god is saying i'm tired of you treating me like you only want me in your spare time i'm saying i don't want you to be in a place where you treat me like i'm your sugar daddy you only call me when you need rent only look for me when the car break down only reach for me when your children need something i want to be an integral part of your life i don't want to date you i want to lock you down i want you and i to be in covenant if you're in this room come on quickly please i've done my part and i need you to help me i need you to be a faithful believer faithful believer wherever it is that you are faithful believer i want you please come on clap for this young man that's coming you making my day brother you're gonna change the world that's what i need you to do every person in the room i want you to go find somebody who you don't know find somebody who you don't recognize somebody whose name you don't know walk right up on them and ask them are they faithful to a ministry are they faithful to a church if they're not i want you to please bring them to me i'm not looking for membership i'm looking for discipleship wherever it is that you are please come y'all they coming all the way from the back would you give god glory form our dear friends who are watching online i want you to become a part of what it is that god is doing here at new birth go to new birth org right now i want you to join i want you to be a part of what it is that god is doing give god some praise i don't care if you live in kentucky you live in connecticut live in canada live in kenya you can still be a part of the new birth family new birth make some noise for those that are coming [Applause] all right let me go get my five and then i'm done five of y'all i'm waiting on i need you to come i'm grateful that you're here in the middle of july middle of a heat wave you still came to church but i want you to know if you think it's hot out there lord knows if you don't get saved if you don't find jesus christ for the partner of your sins global warming will be a breeze for you i want you to help me there are five other people who need to be clut rescued from the clutches of a destiny that would be inflamed i want you to please would you just do a spin 360. ask the people beside you in front of you behind you ask them are they saved ask them do they have a church home ask them have they given their lives over to god i need you to do that for me please sir please ma'am yes hallelujah stretch your right hand to faith would you clap for this whole family coming y'all ain't clapping good come on give god praise for him shut your right hand to faith those of you who've been members of new birth but you done gone awol today god is calling you back home he wants you to be faithful to your assignment you didn't tried other places ain't nowhere in the world like new birth you just playing yourself today you renewing your covenant to your church into this ministry i want you to come i want you to come give us your hand but i want you to give god your heart come on back home come back where you belong there's a place for you give god some praise [Applause] [Music] here they come come on come on y'all to chill like they coming back home y'all bless his name we're grateful for you all right stretch your right hand to faith search your right hand to faith repeat after me you're in the right place at the right time joining the right church serving only god and i know that's right show you right come on if you know i'm right big ups to the savior come on would you give it to him new birthday came as friends but they leavin as family would you give god a shout for all of our new family members [Applause] i want to ask those of you who are here if you'll follow us out this way and some information i need to get from you is only going to take you a few moments new birth come on make some noise for him real quick come on give him a big chill come on give him a big chill [Music] foreign [Music] [Applause] is [Music] my heart [Music] [Music] come on if you were blessed would you give god a shout of thanksgiving i'm finished i'm just not through i i want to say just a couple of things how many of you were blessed by the word of god on today i'm gonna be dealing with it more intensely uh on next week but god dropped something in my spirit just now that malachi asked a critical question can a man can a woman rob god the answer came back yes every sunday at 9 30 at new birth video tithes and offerings i want to do this very quickly it's not a part of our program but those of you who know you have cheated god in your giving not been responsible and reflective as to how it is that he's been a blessing to you that you have been raised better but you ain't doing better i'm going to stretch the elasticity of your faith very quickly even at the risk of people ogling you with judgmental eyes but those of you who know you didn't give in accordance to what it is that god has given to you i ain't giving you on the mount because you know what it is that you owe him all i know is that the tithe opens up the blessing of god and those that steal from god are under a shroud of a curse and i don't want any curse to fall over your life i want those of you who know that i owe god more than what i just gave him today real quick it's unscripted even for those of you watching online i want you to balance things out right in god's face i can't cheat god as good as god's been to me and i want to say to you all of your blessings are not tangible you ought to thank god he kept you healthy today you forgot your medication i want those of you who know you oh god you oh god very quickly it's only going to take me 90 seconds those of you who need to give a supplemental seed to add on to what it is that you did earlier this morning i want you to bring it to the altar as quickly as you can as quickly as you can don't worry about the people around you they don't need from god what it is that you need those of you are saying god i owe you for all that you've done for me i owe you for what it is that you've done for my child i owe you here it is for what you didn't give me i owe you for the doors that you shut that i tried to open i owe you the doctor was wrong the school was wrong the lawyer was wrong the real estate agent was wrong the banker was wrong i owe you the guidance counselor was wrong i owe you the test was wrong for that god i'm giving you thanksgiving because i didn't have to receive as much as i did but god you have exhibited for me unfailing love for that i'm grateful for that i'm appreciative hallelujah i want you right where it is that you are right where it is that you are would you just give god thanksgiving for every good every perfect gift i'm thankful i i need to uh really express to you uh with all of the shoes that we have collected up this far would you clap your hands for every person that donated come on clap your hands for every person that gave the largest demographic of those who have registered for saturday uh are elementary school children a lot of the sizes that we've brought in are high school but we are really running derelict of smaller sizes for elementary age children and half sizes we could collect another 300 this week either by mail or for those who come in person you can drop it off at the church at any time monday through friday during business hours our staff will warmly receive them i would ask that you will please please please we need another 300 or so of small sizes and half sizes because i don't want one child turned away on saturday hallelujah how many of you all excited about what we're getting ready to do all of our volunteers ask that you'll make way to the chapel uh we need to share some critical information uh with you again we need uh some 400 volunteers on saturday uh you ought to thank god that you can serve and you don't have to receive amen did y'all hear what i just said i said you ought to be grateful you can serve and you don't have to receive when i tithe it is not always my treasure it is my time and my talent and you've got to give all three of those to the inner working of the body of christ called the church as if you'll please stand to your feet stand on your feet please hallelujah i'm thankful take that neighbor by the hand tiffany old song reach out and touch somebody's hand come on everybody [Music] come and make this work yes you can yes you can come on everybody [Music] [Music] come on one more time [Music] is going to be a historic and a monumental day you know the child or a family who is in need of shoes ask that you'll direct them to newbirth.org so that they can register i want to underscore that the recipients don't have to be members of our church did y'all hear what i just said they do not have to be members of our church they just need to have a need do not bring your children here if you can afford to buy shoes that's greed amen i ask that you will make space for those who really are in need as we leave this place but never from god's presence we learn from the olympics you only lift your hands when you won i want you to lift that neighbor's hand why because your whole team is going to win this week everybody connected to you is going to have supernatural success as we leave this place but never from god's presence repeat after me walk with god and he'll walk with me talk with god and he'll talk with me listen to god and he'll listen to me love god because he first loved me lift that neighbor's hand as high as you can now unto him who's absolutely able to do anything but fail may god make you sleepless until you help somebody may god make you restless until you help yourself may god irritate you until you have enough sense to worship him and may god bless you until you have to give stuff away henceforth now and forevermore the blessed people of god said amen if nobody told you today at least your pastor loves you have a great day in the lord you

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