We're going to take a look at the, what it means
to have a role of a wife in a marriage. When it comes to a Biblical teaching, and why the
Lord created a woman, and how did she come about. So, something that's been trending on TikTok
called TRAD wife, traditional wife, which stands for traditional wife is actually becoming
popular now on TikTok, and not that we take cues from TikTok, but I find it interesting
that the role of a traditional wife is becoming more trending, and a lot of traditional type of
wives, who take the role, begin to go online, and share their experience, that is actually not as
bad as the culture makes it to seem. So, we will look at five roles in the Bible, concerning wives
in marriage. Now, remember this is different than women in the marketplace, in school, or in business.
We're dealing specifically with marriage. Now, for those of you who are single, or you are not married,
you're like, man wrong Sunday I came to church. No no no no. I want you to listen, and pay attention
closely, so that you will know what is the Biblical role of a wife, and if you are a woman, so that you
know, what you're getting yourself into, what does the Bible expect that. One of the biggest things
that marriages fight about is these unconscious roles, or unconscious rules that exist, that people
bring into a relationship, that a lot of times do not conform to the scripture. So the first one
is this. A wife is a partner with her husband to rule over creation. Now, what I did not say is,
the wife is a partner to rule over her husband, nor, I didn't say also that the wife is to be ruled
by her husband. I want us to look at the scripture, and so, we have a scripture at the back, and for
those of you who are watching, there are scriptures that are going to be dropped the link where you
can follow the notes. In Genesis 1:27 through 28, it says the following, so God created man in
his own image, in the image of God he created him. Okay. Male and female He created them. Let me just
pause it for a second. God created in the beginning distinctions between a male and a female. Our
culture, today, tries to wash and blur the lines between the male and female. Also, in our culture,
there has been very common thing, this transgender ideology, where you can transition from the
male into a female or from the female into a male. Now, I do respect the struggle that some
teenagers can experience called gender dysphoria. A lot of teenagers struggle with their identity,
and some fall into that, and the culture instead of helping teenagers to navigate this struggle
simply yield to it, and provide hormonal blockers or puberty blockers, and surgeries to try to
cave into these struggles. As the scripture teaches us, the Bible tells us, Christians are
renewed, transformed by the renewing of their mind. So, what is a gender dysphoria is, when
you don't feel or in your mind you don't feel what your body, biological sex was given to you at
your birth. As a Christian you go to Christ, you go to God's word and God helps us to change this,
not to change that. So, it's completely different. The culture says, let's go, and mutilate parts
of the body that are actually functioning well because you have confusion here, we come to the
scripture, and the Bible says, no actually let's work with this, let's work with our thoughts,
let's work with our minds, let's work with our emotions, let's bring them into God's kingdom. And
so, that's just the difference, and the Bible says, this that God blessed them. Let me say something,
God blesses your biological sex. God created you and He designed for you to be born this way.
Now, you may say, but I don't like it, like that. We submit to God, and we believe that He created
us, And God blessed them, the Bible says, and then He said to them this, be fruitful and multiply. Now,
be fruitful doesn't mean grow apple trees, be fruitful, God doesn't mean like, hey, go garden.
That's not what this means. The God isn't against gardening. Be fruitful means, and I'm just
going to speak in plain language, means, husband and wife have sex, and make babies, and multiply,
meaning make sure that you have more babies than two because when both of you die, so there is at
least more than two that continue on the Earth. So, like four, my grandma has 16. God bless her heart,
took this verse literally. But, by the way, there's nothing wrong with having just two children. Oh
yeah, we just want to make it clear. Okay, because husband's like, yeah honey, I've been telling
you man, I want a soccer team, Pastor is speaking the truth right now. So, we're not
telling how many people, how many kids y'all should have. Each person should have as much as they want
to have and as much as they feel in their heart where God gives them for, but the clear assignment
is that, be fruitful and multiply, fill the Earth, meaning God says, this is, I find it interesting, God
makes everything on this Earth, and then He makes only one human being, then He makes a second human
being out of that one human being, and then God stops making human beings, God stops making people,
and He says, now, you guys go make more people. You're like, God, that's Your planet, You go make
more people. God's like, no I'm gonna make you need each other to populate this planet, and then not
only to populate the planet, but I want you to populate heaven for me, and I'll give you this assignment,
and the way you're gonna make more human beings is going to be really fun. We won't describe that,
you can Google that, and so, but you're gonna make these human beings through physical intimacy, and
then you're gonna make a lot of human beings, you know more human beings on this Earth, and then God
says this, have dominion. Now, at first you're like yeah, that's right, I'm gonna have dominion over my
children. Nah, that's not what the Bible says, have dominion over the fish, over the birds. So, meaning
we have dominion over God's creation. We were given authority not to have dominion over each other, but
over God's creation, and we're partners. Husband and wife are Partners, in what, in dominion over the
planet, and we are partners in the fact that we are supposed to multiply the human race, and fill and
populate heaven. Now, someone's like, man the Earth is already overpopulated, not really, oh, like, but
heaven isn't overpopulated and God wants us to have children. Children are a gift from God, the
culture kills children, the culture disregards children. God loves children. All of us, one day, were
children, and so we have to have a high regard for children. And a husband and wife should partner
together for that. Now, when a woman was made, the Bible says, that a woman came out of a rib of a man.
Could you read that statement of what that means? Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from
man, He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. Women were created from the rib of a man
to be beside him, not from his head to top him, nor from his feet to be trampled upon, but
from under his arm to be protected by him, near to his heart, to be loved by him. I
love this quote because that's how the Lord made a woman, to be beside the man and be
Partners, partnering in life together not above him, beneath him, but partners, and to
be protected by him. Come on, Partners For Life. The second role. Number two role, wife is a helper
to her husband. Now, this is interesting because God created a wife to be helping her husband. It's not
diminishing role, that simply indicates my husband needs help. Can you imagine? At first, I did not
realize that, but then I realized, he actually needs my help. Okay, and this is a very, maybe silly to you,
an example, that I'm going to bring up from our marriage, but look at Pastor Vlad, he's so clean,
his T-shirt is ironed, very handsome, taking care of his hair, is calm like, looks nice. Right? Come on, yes,
but yes, I was the one that helped him to iron his shirt, to match his outfit, simply because he has
no sense of style, he cannot put clothes together, and that's just him. Some guys do, okay, but why is
it important in our marriage, and we were just such a wonderful match, because I have style, okay, at
least, I think I do. Yes, you do. Because, now it's important to us, because this guy is literally in
front of the camera 24 7, and he needed a wife, he needed my help in this area, to help him to like,
put all of those things together, and I'm just so happy, he kind of like allows me to do that. Okay,
it's his job, it's his calling to speak in front of thousands of people, and he has to look good, okay,
and wives your man needs help, maybe, in a different area. Do not disregard yourself as a helper, this
is a very serious role. When you recognize that, and men allow your wives to actually help you, don't
be stubborn, don't think you're old much, or you don't need help. Even God thinks you
do need help. Right, and tell us tell us about what helper actually is? So, the word helper, in
Hebrew, that's used for a wife is the word ezer. Ezer, is the word that is used 21 times in the
Old Testament, 16 out of which is used for God. So, think about it. Wives, your role of a helper is
really the role that God took in the Old Testament to help his people. The Lord is my helper, you
know we use that phrase, and so that's the same word. So, the idea that, you know, I'm gonna
live only for his happiness, I'm gonna live, he has a purpose, I don't have any purpose, my only
purpose is in helping my husband. That has nothing to do with that. What it has to do with is that
your husband needs help, and God fills you with gifts and abilities to be able to contribute to
him, as well as, a person. And so, I think this helps us as husbands as well to realize, that we
need help. yYou know, when I was getting married like, I knew I needed help, but not like a lot
of help. I was thinking more my wife needs help, and I was like I'm gonna be there, I'm gonna
help her, I'm gonna help her to be a woman of God, I'm gonna help her to love Jesus, and
in that regard I am helping her, and so but, in few things, and one of them is definitely
matching my clothes, the other one is in the area of generosity, and the other one, and then there's
many. We can go down the list, but those things that I thought, when she was bringing me help, I was like,
God I can live without those things. I lived without those things. I will be fine. And so, on one trip,
I went by myself, you know, and I'm like, man I can iron my own clothes, and I can. Every guy, probably,
should iron his own clothes, and I don't know if it was I was mothered too much, or something but
I never ended up ironing most of my clothes. So, I go to one of my trips, and you know I take the
ironer and get the stuff ready, I didn't have to YouTube it, because I was like, I mean I knew you'd
turn it on, you just flip it upside down, then just iron it. And so, this shirt, I get one particular
shirt, the problem with it is, it should have not been ironed. I think it's supposed to be steamed. I
burned the whole thing to the ground. So, it got on fire, and so I ended up not having a shirt to wear for my preaching trip, and so, I had to use like one of the shirts and I texted
my wife, and I was like man and she's like, well, you don't iron that, and I said well how was I supposed
to know. And, bought him shirts specifically so when he goes on a trip he doesn't have to iron them. So,
I want to prove that, you know, like, I don't need a woman, you know, I can iron myself. Turns
out, that thing didn't need to be ironed. And so, I made a mess. And yes, I've learned that in
some regards I need help, and my wife has been a great helper, but what I found out a lot of times
is very difficult to receive help from a woman or to receive help from a man because in the areas we
need help are the areas of our differences and those are the areas, we are usually opposites
in, and we typically end up chewing each other out, because we don't want to accept that help. We want
to prove that we don't need help in that area. So, for example, sometimes I know that it was in the
area of finances. I always bought cheap things because they were not expensive. So, in my mind, I
always look at the price, I look at their budget, and you know I do everything logically. My
wife is the opposite. She buys nice things because she wants quality, and she wants to buy it once
in three years, and I buy once in three months, and end up buying it many times. Why? Because it
keeps breaking apart or it keeps being worn, and so, when we got married, and my wife would go, and
trying to buy, we're not talking about some brand clothes, We're talking about just better quality,
and I was like that's so expensive, and she's like yeah but you're gonna buy once, and you buy it for
a few years, and or you're gonna do like, you've been doing, buying it every few months, because you
keep buying cheap. And so, we would fight over that until I had to, honestly, in this regard, allow
her to help me, in this regard, to say hey, you know what, let's do it this way, and let's just buy
less, but buy a better quality instead of buying many times because I'm cheap. And our differences,
they are meant to complement each other's spouses, not to bring the conflict. Now, in the beginning, we
all know that opposites, obviously men and women, are so opposite, and that attracts. Right? But, later
on, opposites begin to attack each other, because of the difference. And, there is a process
of learning, that those differences are not there to separate you but they are there to compliment
you, and if we are humble enough to learn that, yeah, to embrace the differences of each other, to
complement each other, with those differences, it will just, it will take your marriage to
another level. That's right! Learn to complement each other. A wife is a partner, a wife is a helper
to her husband. Again, it does not mean she's less than, in absolutely any way, because that would
mean that, God is less than humans if He's helping humans. It's absolutely not the truth. And, number
three is, a wife is a crown to her husband. Now, the culture says, a man is the head, a wife is the
neck. And some wives take pride in, I am the neck, that indicates control, because a neck really
controls the head, decides where the head goes and so some wives have adopted that role, and
they say, I'm the neck, I am gonna control him. That's a Jezebel spirit. The Bible does not give
a wife a role of a neck. The Bible gives a wife a role of a crown on the head. So, wives, the scripture
elevates you higher than the culture. This should be a good place to say Amen, but it's okay. Wives, the scripture elevates you to a crown, meaning it's a place of Glory, it's a place of honor, it's a
place of recognition. Do not stoop down to the view of culture, I am the neck, I'm going to control him,
and everything. No no, that stuff is not good. That's the culture. The scripture says, you are
a crown on your husband's head. Let's read that verse. Proverbs 12:4, an excellent wife is the crown
of her husband, but she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones. Wow! that's pretty strong
language. Right? It's almost like, it's either a crown or a cancer. Yes, and this is what cancer
equals to, in this concept that we're talking about. Criticism, a woman criticizes her husband all
the time. Another one is, making fun of him, comparing him to other men. You know, could you
be a little bit more like my dad? Could you be a little bit more? Man, I wish you could be
making as much money as this person is making, I wish you could be more spiritual. That's a
big one. Wake up a little bit earlier, lead the whole family in devotions, because look
that's what the Bible calls you to be, a priest in the house, you're not a priest in the house.
Then, disrespecting him publicly. That's huge. Belittling him in front of the kids, shaming
him for not being spiritual enough, always lecturing and nagging at him, always complaining
and being negative, controlling, manipulating with tears, and withholding sex. Now, wife when you
withhold sex from your husband, you are making him feel humiliated on the inside. He might not
show you, but that crushes your husband's, like inner being. That's how serious it is. We're not in
here, I don't think the Bible encourages, we're not talking about abuse, or that you become a doormat.
What we're simply advocating for is, this is that a wife, we will deal with husbands next week, but a
wife, to be the one to understand you have so much power. Think about it. Eve influenced her husband
Adam to bluntly disobey God, and the guy followed. Abigail influenced David from bloodshed, the
guy was about to go kill the whole family, and he was, in his mind he justified it, and Abigail
didn't come and say you bloodthirsty murderer, what are you about to do? Are you crazy? David, you crazy man. No that's
not what she did. Abigail came and says, David you're a man of destiny, the prophetic words
were spoken over your life. I mean you are a man of integrity, you're such
a great man about to do such a stupid thing. You don't need to do that, God is going to
exalt you, and that weirdo was actually her husband, who disrespected you, that guy is not
gonna make it, but you don't have to do that, and David spoke back to Abigail he says, God has send you
and your advice and your wisdom has kept me back from making a mistake. If your husband is in the
wrong, you can guide him into the right, but not by criticizing, shaming, belittling, embarrassing. And, I
know sometimes, that's how a woman would feel, you know feel a little bit disrespected or feel like
you know she's not loved, man, I'm gonna get him, I'm gonna let him have it, I'm gonna correct him, I'm
gonna change him, but even the Holy Spirit, think about it the Holy Spirit doesn't even do that to
us. Holy Spirit, when He changes us, He convicts us of one particular behavior, but in a way that
actually wants us to change, instead of coming in and saying you [__], you terrible human
heathen, and horrible person. Holy Spirit doesn't do that. The devil does that. And so, when we do
that what happens is, we actually, partner with the devil, and we can destroy a marriage. How
do you go about, if your spouse is unbelieving? So, 1 Peter chapter 3 verse 1, and this is very
important, wives likewise be submissive to your own husbands that even if some who do not obey the
word, they, the husbands without a word may be one by the constant nagging of their wives, no that's
not what it says, by the conduct of their wives, that means, these women, in this verse, were having
husbands who are not Christians, they didn't go with them to church, instead they just watch
football in the morning, or went to play golf, and the wives were like, man, how do I
get my husband to come to church? How do I get my husband to love Jesus? And Peter doesn't say,
just go and anoint the house with virgin oil, and you know like, and spray hose him with oil, and like
get the demon out of your husband, because someone should be like that's the solution, I need to get
my husband delivered, and maybe that's true, your husband probably needs deliverance, 100 percent, nobody's
doubting that, but the way you get to the point, where your husband actually comes to deliverance
is one, you don't leave your husband just because he's not a Christian, number two, is stop lecturing
him. After you've told him about Jesus, after you've told him about your testimony, after you've told
him that, and after that, the Bible says, maybe without even a word, but with your conduct, you can
win your husband. A husband is usually not an idiot. When he knows that the wife is changed, and the
wife has an encounter with God, who he does not like at this moment, or doesn't believe in. At first,
he's like, you know what, that's cool. I'm glad you found religion, good, but that's not for me. You
really want to get his attention? Be different, be honoring, when he is wrong be loving, be
prayerful, that changes, that gets anybody's attention, that really will and can transform
it. That's what the Holy Bible says. One woman was trying to divorce her husband. Went to a lawyer
and said, I'm divorcing my husband. and he said, okay. How do you want to go about it> She's like, well, I'm
ready to divorce him today. Create the paperwork, I'm going to submit the paperwork, and give him the
paperwork so he signs it. I'm done with him, that joker, he's horrible. I made a mistake marrying
him. The lawyer says, I have a proposal for you, what if, you would, for the next three months,
don't nag, don't complain, don't fight, be nice, be kind, compliment your husband. respect him on the
good things that he does, leave the bad things he does alone, and do all of that for three months, and
after three months shock him with the divorce news. He will not know what hit him, because he will
get used to you being nice, and then you're like, I'm divorcing you, it's gonna hurt him so bad, and
he says, that will hurt him more. The wife's like, I like that, because I want to hurt him more. So, if
this could help me to hurt him more, let's do it. So, they both agreed. In three months, you hurt him more,
by being nice first, and then throw the divorce paper at him. So she goes home. One month passes,
the second month passes, she does exactly what they agreed with the attorney, in the third third month
she actually doesn't call the attorney. So, the attorney follows up with the phone call and says,
hey, with a divorce, I mean when are you coming, so that we can finalize that the divorce, and the wife
says, what divorce, we are on our second honeymoon, and she changed her husband, by being respectful,
and being kind. Now, does this mean that every single marriage is going to be fixed like that?
No, but I do believe more marriages could benefit, if we will stop being a rottenness in the bones.
That's really what the Bible describes. These are not my words. I wouldn't have the audacity to say
that, but the scripture says, and we become the crown. It was Ruth Graham said, it is not your job
to change your husband, it is God's job to make him good, it is your job to love your husband. And
again, we might ask but why, why is this conduct of a wife can possibly change my husband? You have
to understand one thing that the primary need of a man is honor, and respect, and if you don't give
that to him, it's very hard to function for him as a man. But, if you start to kind of like, feed that,
and actually give him honor, and respect, you know, you can give honor and respect without saying a
word, a man will feel it from his wife. And when you do that, this is one man's like, you know what,
I don't want to lose this kind of woman because they need that honor and respect. Just like us
woman needs security and love, this is how men need honor and respect. And it's huge, it's huge.
Like, I remember, you know, I get compliments from people, but from my wife I get affirmation, you
know. A thousand people can say, a great sermon, but my wife, when my wife says that, like, that's my
bread. When y'all say that that's a gum, I chew it, I'm like this tastes good, and I gotta spit it
out, I can't swallow this, but when my wife says that it's different. And so, and a lot of times
after the sermon, I'm gonna ask her, how did I do, and you know, she if she's, and I know when she's lying, I know when she's trying to be nice, and sometimes
she just tries to fake it, you know, fake it, till she makes it, you know, and or, when she gives
me a flattery. Flattery is not the same thing, but when she genuinely, you know begins to say, hey,
this was really impactful, there were sermons that after I preached them, I wanted to quit Ministry.
I was like, I ain't preaching again for the rest of my life, I'm not called to do this, I can't
put my words together, I don't even know why I'm doing this and everything, and so like, I just
I got so discouraged because I'm normal a human being who sometimes gets bombarded with all kinds
of lies of the enemy. And so, and then I would, you know, get in the car, and I was saying man, I felt
like I was pushing a semi truck up the hill, and then I didn't have the energy to put it over the
hill so the semi truck run me over and I'm dead. She's like, wow, that's an interesting illustration,
and she's like, why are you describing your sermon as a semi truck, and it ran you over? I was
like, that's exactly how I feel, and she'd be like, you kidding me, she's like, that was the one of the
best messages I've heard, this was so incredible, it touched so many people's lives, like, I felt
the anointing of the Holy Spirit, and I was like, you did, and I'm literally like a kid in a candy
store, and I was like tell me more woman of God. I am like deliver this heathen right now,
I'm like, lay your hands on me right now, like, I mean, I'm like, save me, heal me, deliver
me, you know, I'm just, talk to me, just and so, she would, you know take a few minutes, and she
would, you know, say those words. And, next thing that next thing, I would be like, you know
what, I actually think I'm called to preach. I'm gonna do it again next Sunday. I'm gonna show
up again next Sunday, and this is it. There's some of you are laughing, and you think I'm exaggerating,
I'm actually not exaggerating. This is huge, and if my wife, after that message, would come around
and say, honestly, I don't even know what you're doing there, you're terrible, you're horrible,
like those things, they will hurt way deeply. A critic can do a video, I have critics
right now, who actually have nothing else to do with their life, but devote their whole Channel
to trying to destroy me. They can do that I absolutely do not lose sleep. That doesn't touch
me because I don't know them, but when the person I am this close with, who will not honor and respect
that, and some of you may say, well, you know, it's easier for Lana to do that because look, you're
changing people's lives. It has nothing, she's not doing that because I'm changing people's lives,
she's doing it because she's an honorable woman. Wives, the reason why you honor your husband is not
because always your husband is the honorable man, it's because you're an honorable woman. And again,
we have to be fixing toilets, yeah, it makes no difference. Your attitude is what changes that man.
And we had to learn that. You're not born with this amazing wife, you're right away this amazing
woman of God, no, you learn, we learn, and this is why we're here, we're learning to be Godly wives and
Godly women. Did it come easy for you to honor me in that regard? Yes, yes, I would say so. I was
remembering, I was remembering. Yeah, I am a daughter of a pastor ,so, I kind of already knew, I had
respect for my father, and it kind of transferred but there were moments that I had to learn. I
did mistakes, I said wrong things, I disrespected him a few times, like not on purpose, but then I
caught myself. I'm like, oh my gosh, I cannot do that to my man. Okay, he's a man. So, yeah. Alright,
alright, thank you baby, thank you. Praise Jesus. Amen. Number four, now, let's go a little bit deeper.
A wife is to submit to her husband. Now, this is hard for some people to swallow. We live
in a culture today, where first of all American culture, you know, is not necessarily very honoring
of submission. I mean we rebelled against the Great Britain, and praise God we did that because we got
our own independence on 4th of July, you know, 1960s, says, hold Jesus hippie, not Jesus the
hippie movement, Jesus movement, came out of that honestly was really made a rebellion a virtue.
As humans we're just rebels. We follow the dark one the devil, and he rebelled against God, and then
he turned us to rebel against God. So we, rebellion is kind of like our second nature. It's so much
easier to do that. So, the idea of submitting, just the idea of submitting, it sounds scary, it sounds
like, oh my goodness, you're gonna make me to do something I don't want to do. I'm going to be less
than, I'm making, I'm being made a doormat, heck, no that's not gonna happen. And so, we have this very
huge fear when it comes to submission, but few things that I want to remind each one of us, is the
Bible does say, 1 Peter, chapter 3 verse 1, wives like was be submissive to your own husbands. Now,
some of you may say, well Vlad, you know this part of the scripture, probably should be updated, but
is it? Maybe, it's our lives that should be changed, not the scripture. And, I understand maybe you're
the woman in here, and you're like man, but this is the part, that is difficult. But, in Ephesians
chapter 5 this is what the scripture says, wives submit to your own husbands as to the Lord, for the
husband is the head of the wife, and then the Bible gives us an example, as also Christ is the head of
the church, he is the savior of the body. Therefore, just as church is subject to Christ, so let the
wives also be to their own husbands in everything. And the word submission, in the Greek is, hypotasso,
which means to be placed under, or to be arranged under. It's often used in military, when one person
puts himself under the command of a leader, and is presented as something that is of a voluntary
choice you do, so, it's not forced, Submission is not something that a husband can demand.
Guys, listen very carefully. Submission is not something that a husband demands of his wife. The
moment you have to tell, submit to me you're wrong. Submission is something a wife gives to her
husband of her own decision. Husband doesn't take it and husband doesn't demand it. It's Christ
who commands that submission. Now, before we get a little bit, you know, sensitive about this, I
want you to see something. In Godhead, we as Christians, believe there are three persons, God
the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit. Now, many of us think is that in the Trinity, as
we see now, we see that in the Trinity, many of us think that, what's happening in the Trinity is,
they just simply vote, because they're all equal, God the Father, God the Son and the Spirit, they're
all equal. God the Father is not greater than God the Son, God the Son is not greater than God the
Spirit, they're all equal, yet Jesus submitted to the Father, yet he was one with the Father. The
spirit glorifies Jesus, yet he is one with Jesus, so they're equal, yet they submit to one another,
Jesus submits to the father, and we see the Spirit glorifies Jesus. So, God, who created the humans,
He created us kind of like the Father Son and the Holy Spirit. We have a husband, a wife and we
have children. We're all equal in the family, but God tells us to have a chain of command, not to
belittle us, and not to make us less than, and He's giving us His own example, and He says, guys watch
this, I the Father, we have Jesus, we have the Spirit, we're in unity. we love each other, we are equal, but
in the Trinity, there is a like a chain of command. It's, from the Father, through the son by the Spirit.
It's not rock, paper, scissors. The Trinity doesn't have majority rule. It works in a conjunction with
unity, and on some decisions the Father calls for the action, the Sons submits to the Father,
and then the Father gives all the glory, and all the honor to the Son, and He says, the Son's name
is above every name on the earth. If you reject the Son, you're gone. You're gonna
go to hell, if you reject the Son. And so, Father glorifies the Son, and then the Spirit comes and
glorifies the Son, and Jesus and the Father says, you say something against the Holy Ghost, We're not
going to forgive you. You see the persons keep glorifying each other, yet there is a
chain of command in the Trinity, as it's revealed to us in the plan of redemption. So, then the Father
comes to us, and says, guys, you really want to get along, while you're equal? Here is how, learn from
Us. So good. Well, most of us say, no, I know better, but see you've lived here for 50 60 70 years.
We don't know better. They've existed for eternity, they don't have fights, they don't have
arguments, and yet they have a chain of command, it seems like, and there's equality there. So,
I want us to learn from our Father, how He relates with the Son, and the Spirit to relate in
a similar way in our relationships. Now, some of you'll say, I don't need the head in
marriage. Anything without a head is a dead corpse. Others of you are like, no, we have two
heads. Anything with two heads is a monster. We need a head, and the Bible makes it very
clear, who is the head, it's not somebody who has more degrees, well my wife has a PHD and I have
a GED, therefore in our marriage the one with the PHD is the head. That's not what the scripture
teaches, but she's smarter, that doesn't matter. When you're on the road, let me ask you a question,
and you have a yield sign, let's say, I'm driving a semi truck, alright? And you're driving a
Hyundai or Kia, okay, Honda. Let's give Corolla a little tiny, nice, little or a Bug, you know that
Volkswagen, or whatever you're driving, Mercedes. I'm driving a 18-wheeler. Yield sign is on my road,
to yield to you. What if I was saying, nope, I'm not, I'm not yielding to you. Why? Because I have 18
wheels, and you have 4. My car can crush yours. My car is bigger than yours, plus, I don't like rules.
What's gonna happen? We're gonna have an accident, So, God sets these rules in relationship not
to limit us, and control us, but to empower women, empower men, to live being equal partners,
have a chain of command, and God says, the same way We have it there, I want you guys to have
it here, and live in that perfect Community. We overthrow God a lot of times, overthrow
God's rules, and we're like, we know better, we're going to do it our way, and next thing you
know those marriages don't last, and if they do those people are like hyenas in the zoo. They are
attacking each other, hurting each other, cursing each other. Why? Because God doesn't bless mess,
God blesses order. And God outlines this order not to belittle women, absolutely not. When I yield
to another car, it's not because my car is trash. Sometimes, I can drive a nice car and I'm yielding
to another one, because there are rules on the road, and that is the way we avoid accidents, when we
learn to yield, when we have a yield sign, and God gives us those yield signs, for church members
to do that with their leaders, for people to do that to the government, when the government obeys
God, it's like paying taxes, you know, following the rules, as long as those rules obey God, and
same thing in marriage. Now, let's say that your husband wants you to do something immoral,
illegal or wrong. Do you obey him? Absolutely not. You respectfully say, I cannot do
that, it's a contrary to the scripture, but when it's things that are more of like house chores
and other stuff we come to mutual agreement and when we cannot come to mutual agreement then
wife says, hey, the final word is going to rest with you, but keep in mind, if your husband
makes a wrong decision, God's going to get him. God's going to judge him. When he is
responsible, he carries responsibility. So, it's not necessarily that he's better, he's
actually more responsible. I believe this is what's going to happen. When we die, I think
all the wives, and the children are gonna go in one lane to heaven, and there's going to be a
separate lane for all the men, and God's going to judge him way heavier. Remember when Eve ate of
the fruit, gave it to her husband, guess who God came first to? You would think, He would come to
Eve because she was the one that ate first. No, God came to Adam, and said, hey, what did you do? And
Adam, like a lot of guys do, not my fault, she. A lot of men, guess what they do, is they shift
responsibility instead of taking responsibility. But, if you think that a man being the head simply
means a woman is less than and a man is greater than, absolutely not. The only thing that's greater
with men, in this regard, is greater responsibility, which means that God's gonna hold every man
responsible for his family. I believe every father that left his kids, abused his wife, is going to
face severe severe judgment before God. Why? Because all the tears that those kids had to go through,
all of the stuff, guess who that goes on? I know this is not a popular message because a lot of us
love Daddy God, Jesus, Santa Claus kind of like, He just loves us, and I can do whatever I want, destroy
people's lives, and not carry any responsibility. No Christian message is this, a wife submits to her
husband, a husband lays his life for his family, and for his wife, and takes care of his family. Yeah, but
more is to come for men next Sunday. Okay? So, make sure your husband comes next Sunday. Alright? Now,
it's important to point out again the order that God set up, as a husband as the head of his wife, is for marriage it's not for outside. That woman must obey men, no, it's the wife that
must obey and honor her husband because a woman can be a CEO of a huge company, and men submits
to her, that is absolutely normal, but when it comes to the family unit, when it comes to the
husband and wife, God created a specific order, and He blesses that order. Okay? And so, one thing
I would like to read for you guys to just kind of go off of what we were saying. Martha Montgomery
in her series, The Godly woman shared, submission does not imply on an inferiority of a person, but
only subordination in rank. As a person you will be no more inferior to your husband,
than the citizen is to his government or Christ is to God, yet the citizen is subordinate and
ranked to the governor, Christ in His humanity was subordinate to God the Father. Okay? We're
talking about the rank, not necessarily submission, as the worth. Some of us know wives who do not
obey, I'm sorry, who do obey their husbands, but they're not truly submissive. A wife who obeys without respect is not in submission. You are to reverence and fear your husband. Now,
fear and reverence in this is shown as respect as we fear God, not that we're afraid God or afraid
of our husbands. We respect, we give them honor that they deserve. Okay? And so, the church's reverence
for Christ is our pattern. You may not agree with the decision in his position as a head, the mother
who enforces her husband's rules and disciplines but lets her children know that she does not agree
with her husband is not respecting her husband before her children. Does this topic, and does this
idea of wife submitting to your husband, and for you, how do you take that? Does that make you feel
less than? Absolutely not, it actually makes me feel secure, knowing that the honor, and respect that
I would give him, placing him above myself, makes me feel secure, more secure than, not because as a
woman I am wired to be secure, I am wired to have a protector, emotional and physical protection
from my husband, and for me personally, it just makes me feel more secure. And, when I obey the word
of God, I can see the blessing upon our marriage. You know, I am not obeying my husband because he's
God. Okay? I am obeying my husband in giving him the final decision, if we disagree, I give him the final
word, and final decision, and this is how I honor him as ahead of me, as a head of of our family, and
that does not make me less than in any way. That makes him more responsible, and if this is how, if
this is the order that God placed, I trust God that he knows better. I do not know better, and this
is the attitude that I carry. I walk under, you know, under God, we all do, and I try to obey Him,
and trust that the Lord knows better, and the rules and things that He told us to do, and showed
us an example, they actually work, they actually work. But, in the in our marriage, this doesn't mean, you know, a wife submitting to her husband, does not mean that I make all the decisions. In fact,
a lot of times, you make a lot of decisions, and I'm asking you to make those decisions. I mean you
always consult with me, and especially, if it's a big decision, husbands do not, you know, disregard,
you need your wife's help. Trust me. She has senses, she has intuition, that men many
times don't, and this is how we partner, and work together. But, if there is an issue that we strongly
disagree on, okay, that means a wife must yield to her husband's final decision, but it's actually
it's very rare. We've had, we were trying to find a decision where we struggled because I also have
developed huge respect for your intuition, for your your contribution to our marriage, where
sometimes I feel very strongly about something, and I come to you, and you're like that's dumb. I
don't think that, I don't think that she you know pokes holes at all of my brilliant spiritual
ideas, and stuff. And so, and before you know I'll be like, no girl you don't understand, you didn't talk
to God, I've been fasting for the last 20 days. So I I know better, and then you know sometimes what I
would find out is actually my 21 day fasting did not do as much as, you know, her getting 21 minute
nap, you know because she would wake up and she's like, God, you know, gave me a vision, and I was
like, no He doesn't speak to people who don't fast, you know like, I would say that, but I kind
of had those very self righteous thoughts, and so we were trying to figure out yesterday, there
was one decision where I felt very strong to give almost all the proceeds away from one real estate property, and my wife wanted to give, but not all of them. And so, she pretty much said, hey, I'm
going to leave that decision with you, which that scared me by the way, because I'm like man, if I'm
wrong. And I just simply trusted that He heard from God. If I didn't, it didn't feel like it, you know, if
you have intuition, and you walk with the Lord, that does not mean God doesn't speak to your husband.
Yeah. And this is where you yield. And this is where I had to trust him that the Lord spoke to him,
and I'm gonna trust Him. But, I do remember, you mentioned, and you said, you know, I don't mind, us giving all the
money, and you being very generous with the kingdom of God, but I remember something that my wife said,
she said, I just want to know that I will not be forsaken, abandoned, or that you
will be generous with me as you are generous with the kingdom of God, and that just kind of hit me
because in the Bible it says, husband love your wives as Christ loved the church. The Bible doesn't
say, husbands love the church, as Christ loved the church. Yeah, that that is big because we can be so
generous with certain things, and yet a husband is not generous with his own wife. That's a big No-No.
Yeah. And so, and I think with time also submission, you know, a lot of times, you know, in small
areas, like, hey, we're going to eat you're like, Mexican, I like Italian. That's not how it is. In our
marriage, I don't even know what I like. And so, and like, hey, so where you want to go? You
know, and my wife would say something, and I'm like, I'm not really interested, but hey, let's let's go
there, and so, to really prefer to honor the wife in preferring what she would want, so this doesn't
mean a wife to submitted her husband, doesn't mean that husband always gets what he wants,
because then the Bible tells the husband to lay his life on his wife. So, technically it's really
one person saying, hey, I'm gonna submit to your leadership, and the other person says, hey, I'm gonna
lay my life for you. It's like this beautiful cycle You know, how sometimes people have very bad
cycles, they attack each other, and nobody can just be mature enough to stop the cycle, humble
themselves, but this is a beautiful cycle, where a wife honors, and gives the husband that
almost like a pedestal. Okay? And then, a husband, he lays his life down and lives for his
wife for the good of his wife, provides for her being generous with her. It's just beautiful. Lives for Jesus but,
yeah, lays his life for his family, and for his wife. Yes, because husbands we live for Jesus, and a
wife honors the Lord. Assuming that we all live for Jesus. You know, when the feminist movement started
in the beginning in Europe, and the United States, it actually started really good, in a sense, in a
positive way, that a woman deserve to have equal rights of voting opportunities, to have equal pay,
if they do exactly the same job, they shouldn't be getting paid less than a man, and it's very very
good. But, what has happened with the feminist movement, and I do want to address that, because
a lot of women, unfortunately, have become pawns in the politically correct, a lot of that
even that cultural thing, that's been happening, is this, is the feminist movement
today, has morphed into, women don't need men. It has really pushed into promoting lesbianism,
promoting homosexuality, promoting abortion, and blurring gender lines. Now, if you're not a
Christian, the Bible is not God's word for you. God is not your authority, honestly, you're your own
God, you make rules as you go. I wish you good luck, but you will stand before God, and give an account
for your life. If you are a Christian, you cannot take the cues from culture, just because they make
you look more tolerable, and because you're afraid of the cancel culture, and so you adopt the cues
of the culture, say, no, I just don't want to sound like those weirdos, or like those people, who
just, they seem to hate women, they seem to, you know, transphobic, and they are homophobic. I just want to be like the world, but I also want to be a Christian. Like
you have to choose. Being a Christian doesn't mean that you're hateful. It just means that you love
God, you love God's truth, but you also understand that sometimes that truth stands in contrast
with the culture. Like for example, the Bible clearly states, you know, that human life has
value. In our culture, life doesn't have value. We protect dolphins, and kill babies. That's
our culture. So, we can't simply say, well, we're just going to embrace the culture. We're going
to embrace God's word, and sometimes some truth in the Bible is not super comfortable. Like, I
went to the doctor, I go to the doctor regularly, you know, once in six months or something, and
the kind of doctor, I do not like is a dentist. No offense, I just do not like dentists, and
they're good people, amazing people and those nurses as well because like they always tell me
about the problems that I have, and I don't want to hear, I want to have compliments not problems,
and so I would go up and I would go and I am blessed with good good teeth, and so, I would go
to this dentist that I still go to, and he might be listening, so, and I might be going to his office
in two weeks, so, I need to be careful what I say. I would go, and you know, he would say man, you have
no you don't need to have any fillings, but your wisdom teeth, we need to pull out your wisdom teeth.
And I said, I oppose that, I am against getting wisdom out of my life. I want wisdom. I don't want
you to take wisdom. I rebuked that in Jesus name. He's like, no, I don't want to get wisdom out of
your life, I want to get wisdom teeth. I was like you know, my dad still has his wisdom teeth. So,
I am not going to let you take my wisdom teeth. So, six months, and he's like, man you gotta
get those wisdom teeth. I was like, nope, I knew you're gonna say that, no. I come back next
time, and he said, there's a little infection beginning to build by one of your wisdom teeth.
I said, nope, the lie of the enemy, I reject that. Literally, I didn't say that to him, but I
was like, nope absolutely, I'm not moving my wisdom teeth. It doesn't hurt there. It's
my policy, if it doesn't hurt, don't touch it. I come back next time, the nurse who's there,
she's cleaning my teeth, and she's like oh yeah the infection is spreading. She's like,
oh, it's just you know, we've seen people develop cancer in their bones, in their mouth, and
we've seen stuff where they have to completely remove a lot of teeth, not only wisdom teeth, and
she's talking like we're having a conversation. And I was like, woman you're scaring me, she's
like, no I'm telling you the facts, and I was like, no these are not, these are intimidation
tactics. I said, okay I got it, I will remove those wisdom teeth. Can you stop scaring me? And so,
you know, I did not want to get those wisdom teeth, but when I started to see the reports, that it
started to build up an infection, only in one side I was like, you know what, it is what it is, I got
an appointment, they had to surgically remove two of the wisdom teeth here, and and they're like do
you want to remove the ones on the top? I was like like do they have infection? They're like, no, but
once they do, we'll have to do another surgery to remove, and I was like remove all of them. If I have them somewhere
in my toes as well remove them as well. I'm like, just let's get all of this stuff out.
Was it comfortable? Absolutely not, but I trust my doctor, and I trust that nurse, of course, after
two years. I'm stubborn like everybody else, and and I got those wisdom teeth removed, they put
me on the under anesthesia, and then you know, they had to sow stuff up, and then they put certain
things where I couldn't touch with my tongue you know, those corners of my teeth, and it was not
comfortable, and for a few first three four days, I had to drink everything, and eat everything, through
a straw, and it was not comfortable, but I am glad that, that infection did not spread, and that was
prevented. When you have certain truths in the Bible, that you absolutely, is like this doesn't
make me feel good, please understand, God is not always interested in your immediate happiness,
sometimes, in your well-being, God is so much more interested that he will take you through a
surgery, by saying, hey, this is not right, this is culture, but it's not in the Scripture. Do not
conform to culture, conform to the Scripture. Amen. Are you guys still with me? Are you gonna
still come to church next week? Some are like, wives, they're like, oh yeah, I'm bringing my
husband, that's for sure, because this is hard for me, I can only imagine how bad it's gonna
be for him. I'm just kidding, okay. Number five, wife is a builder of home. And, I would like to
talk about this one actually. Wise woman builds her house, not just her career. Now, I understand
that we have single moms that have to work. They have no other option. They have to support
their family for both, for husband and wife. And I am sorry that you are in this situation,
and for you, if there's no way around it, you must do what you must do. Okay? But the
ideal is, for a wife to stay home, and raise her children. And what is the statistic, when
a mother actually doesn't send her kids to daycares, and just goes to work, but actually
stays at home and raises her children. And we don't have any problem with daycare. Daycare is a great thing.
We do have daycares overcrowded in the United States, and we see, statistically, that if a child is raised by a stay-home parent, there is an increase in child school performance, there's
less stress and aggression in the child's life, the parents feel greater involvement
in the child's day-to-day life, usually the mothers would feel good about the
choice that they made to stay home because they see the fulfillment of this child's life growing,
and they have less stress about job. A lot of women they have this pressure, now, we're talking about
right now women who can afford to stay home, and whose husbands actually encourage them to stay
home, and to raise the children. Some people even homeschool their children, but some women are
pressured by the culture, and they feel like no, but I want to go, and I want to compete, I want
to win, I want to, you know, fulfill my career. And sometimes I had these people, who would come
up and they're like, no, you know, I want to be in a marketplace. I'll rather put my kids in a
daycare. You know, when I find out the kind of work they do, where they're just literally stuck
in a cubicle for eight hours, and I'm like, listen you're not building your career, you're building
your boss's career. You're literally there from nine to five, but at the same time, you're
not the one that's that's receiving a raise. You could have been raising the next generation,
and temporarily putting a pause on your career. Nothing wrong with building your career. That has
its place, but at the same time when you have an opportunity to have three little human beings that
can be raised or two little human beings that need that attention, and need that care, this is so
much greater and lasting effect than just simply punching in numbers in a spreadsheet, and then
having your kids being taken care of by daycares. And we know stuff that happens sometimes there,
and we have people in our church who own daycare so we don't have a beef with daycares, or anything
but there are stuff that happens there with some parents are like, man, I don't want, and I'm not
sure I want my kids to be there. I want my kids to be raised by, you know, by me, I want to have the
care and that attention. Yeah, and that way you're actually instilling the values and faith into
your child, since, they are little, instead of having someone do that for you. Okay? And the culture, they
want you to leave your children for the government, for them to teach your children, and not you, and
you go and you compete, you go and you work and and then there's the husband, that you want to want to
split the bills, and things like that, but honestly, guys, it's worth it for your wife to stay home, and
build her home if it's possible. I would say even, it's it's better, if you don't have a lot
of money, but you invest in your children, then you make an extra buck, and then your children lose
at the end of the day. Yeah. Okay? And so, what does the Bible say? I would like to read Titus 2:4.
Okay? Then they can urge the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled
and pure, to stay busy at home, to be kind and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will
malign the word of God. Okay? And I want to read a comparison between the word of God and the culture
right now. The Bible teaches young wives to love their husbands, the culture teaches them, you don't
need a husband, you can do it by yourself. The Bible teaches to love your children, culture says, my body
my choice, abort the children. The Bible teaches, to be self-controlled, culture says, be wild. The
Bible tells us to be pure, culture, sexual autonomy. The Bible tells us to build your home, culture
says, get out of the bondage of homemaking. Bible says, be kind, culture, woman be
mean, rude and bitter. Bible teaches us to submit to your husbands, culture tells us to rebel against
authority. You know, my grandma had 16 kids. She still, is alive, comes to our church, and she's
a powerful woman of God, and she grew up during communism. She grew up when the socialism that
was in communism, you know, and a lot of our young people today think that socialism is a cute idea.
You should ask my grandma, they had no food. The socialism, it made people not have
food, basic necessities. My grandma, she raised 16 children, who are all healthy, who are all doing
well, her doctors and people in her village, said, you won't make it. Why you keep having these
children? You don't have nothing to provide for them, and even people called her irresponsible. And
so, she, and my grandpa, you know, this is what the Lord put on their heart, and they had this
many children, they provided, God provided, God helped them, and they raised them, you know, and my
mom, who, when I was growing up, you know, I was very fortunate, we didn't have a lot of money. My dad had
to work outside, and go to another country to work for a few months because the times were very
difficult in the Ukraine, but my dad, you know, did whatever he could so that we could be provided
for, so that my mom could stay, and teach us the Bible, teach us those things, and you know, I'm so
grateful today, you know, she's able to work, you know, once we went to school, she started to work
and everything and stuff. And so, I really just want to kind of encourage that, in our team, we encourage
our team members, that if you can temporarily, even you know, maybe, not have as much finances, but
the daycares are so expensive now, that you are able to raise your family. It's very important. Our
children are important. Just kind of saying, hey, we give birth to them, but we abandon them, that
is not a Biblical way. I know it goes contrary to the culture where everybody's trying to climb
the corporate ladder, but at the same time God wants us to build our homes. God wants us to build
our families. God wants us to raise Godly families. If you are here today, and you are a single mom or if you're a single mom, you're juggling two jobs, probably, and you know raising your
kids, I want to say, man, we're praying for you, we're standing in the gap with you, and I also want
you to believe that God will send you a husband, because it's not an easy
work to do, and I pray that God will send you a good man in Jesus name. If you are here, and
you are a stay-home mom, a statistic, somebody did a statistic and they said that technically a
stay-home mom is doing 10 jobs at the same time, and she should be getting paid
115 thousand Dollars a year from her husband. So husbands, I know you can't pay that, but just say
thank you. Just be grateful. I know sometimes husbands will be like, man, what you do all
day? You know, I you know, I still see a mess in the kitchen, or anything and stuff, so because you know
we measure everything by, you know, spreadsheets and but statistically, it says, that they actually
are juggling about 10 jobs, and a lot of them are working average of 98 hours per week/ It's the same
thing as working 2.5 full-time jobs, and so if you are a stay-home mom, we love you, we appreciate
you, we we thank you formaking contribution to your children, and to your family,
and that God will bless you, especially those of you who are homeschooling, God bless you, God
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