[Music] Hello everyone and welcome to my YouTube
channel. my name is Lana Savchuk and I am so honored that you're here. I would like to
talk about 5 roles of a Biblical wife. Now, that does not make me an expert on marriage
or anything of that sort, but I have a little bit of experience and I'm just gonna dive
into the word of God and we're gonna see where it takes us. So, number 1 role of a
Biblical wife is, a wife is a partner who rules over the creation with her husband.
let's go to Genesis 1:27-28. So God created man in his own image, in the image
of God he created him; male and female he created them. And God blessed them and God said to them, "Be
fruitful and multiply fill the Earth and subdue it have dominion over the fish of the sea over the
birds of the air and over every living thing that moves on the earth." Now, from this verse we can see
that both male and female God created them equally and he gave them Dominion to rule and subdue
the Earth and to rule over the creatures the animals. We have to notice that God
did not tell Adam to rule over his wife just because he was created first, no He gave
both of them dominion to rule us partners. Women were created from the rib of a man to be
beside him, not from his head to top him, not from his feet, to be trampled upon him, but from under
his side to be protected by him, near his heart to be loved by him. So, first role of a wife
is to be a partner in ruling over the creation. Number 2, wife is a helper
to her husband. Let's go to Genesis 2:20. "So Adam gave names to all cattle, to all birds of the air,
and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper compatible to him." When the Lord created Eve from the rib of Adam, he created her as a helper. When Adam was looking
for that helper it was not found a helper to him. The word helper means,
a person who provides needed help and assistance. it's used 21 times in Old Testament and
16 of those times it refers to God. Now, being a helper to your husband does not
make you less than, it does not diminish your calling as a wife. Bible refers to God as a
helper, it's an honor, because God is our Helper. And it's an honor to be a helper and an assistant.
Number 3, wife is a crown of her husband. the husband is the head, but the wife is the
crown not the neck. In our culture people say that a wife is the neck, she turns the head. This obviously is not scriptural, it's just cultural reference which is against the
word of God because it speaks of manipulation. We know that manipulation is not from God,
manipulation is literally part of witchcraft. God created a woman to be in a place of
honor, in a place as a crown not as a neck to be manipulative turning this way,
that way. In Proverbs 12:4 it says, "An excellent wife is a crown of her husband, but
she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones." That is a pretty strong word a rottenness in his
bones? The wife who causes shame to her husband. What is shame, causing shame to your husband? I
would say it's constant criticism, it's like cancer to your husband, constant negativity, putting him
down, nagging constantly, you might say, "yeah because he is not a good man or he doesn't deserve to be
honored." You know that you honor someone not because someone deserves
it, but because you're honorable wife, that's why you should honor your husband. Even if he's not perfect.
I like how Ruth uh Graham said and I quote, "it is your job to love your husband,
and it's God's job to make him good." When we give that trust to the Lord and we play our part
of what God expects of us as wives, to honor our husbands, to be his crown, not to embarrass him,
not to talk down on him in front of children, disrespecting him in public, that's huge! And as
women we have to understand that the primary need of a man is honor and respect, and if you give
that to your husband something is gonna start changing something's gonna start happening in his
heart towards you. When you speak and you feed that primary need of your husband, things can shift and change in your marriage. Number 4.Wife is to submit to her husband. I know this one is tough to swallow, maybe it sounds so contrary to our culture. How? I'm not
going to submit to men, you might say. I want you to notice, that in the Bible it says,
1-Peter 3:1 "Wives, likewise, submit to your own husbands that even if some do not obey the word ,
they, without a word, maybe won't buy your conduct by the conduct of their wives." and also Ephesians
5:22-24 "Wives submit to your husbands, as to the Lord, for the husband is the head of his
wife, as also Christ is the head of the church; and he is the savior of the body. Therefore,
just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands
in everything." Now we must understand that in the Bible we see this submission it's mainly
presented towards a husband not necessarily women in general submit to men. Although I
believe that women in general should honor and respect men. Because this is how
God wired both of us differently. Part of submission to Authority and especially
to a husband, because God has placed him in the family in a place of authority, according
to the word of God, and we see the submission of a wife to her husband not necessarily women to
men. A woman can have a very strong character which is absolutely fine, she can run a huge
business and be a CEO of that business, she can have employees that are men, and they submit to her. This
is absolutely fine, but when it comes to the family order, when it comes to being a wife, in the
family that powerful woman becomes more powerful if she obeys the word of God and submits to her
husband. Submission does not make you less than, we're not talking about submission as your worth and value.
Wife you're not less than and a husband is better than you, and now you are to submit to him..
None of that! I want you to hear me out. Submission in the Bible is voluntary, you should voluntarily
give that place of honor to your husband. We're talking about
rank, we're not talking about worth okay? The husband and wife they're both worth the same,
they are qual in the eyes of God in their worth. But we're talking about the
rank.You know how in the military, in the Army we have soldiers, we have sergeants, we have commanders, and it goes up the chain, right? And because of that order the Army can function .
Well, guess what? The Lord in His wisdom created this beautiful order in the family that
a husband is placed as a head of the household, which means he carries more responsibility and
more weight. The Lord will ask of him more, he's responsible for his family. But you as a wife,
he placed you underneath of him, to honor him as the Lord, to respect him and to give him that
place, almost like a pedestal. I know it might sound completely contrary
to our culture, but we are here talking about the word of God, which we believe that the Word
of God is our standard, and if we trust the Lord, He created us and He created this beautiful
institution, marriage, and if we follow His example, if we follow this beautiful institution that
God created, we will be blessed in our marriage. If you choose to follow the culture, you're
gonna see very fast that it actually does not work. The word submission from Greek
(huppotasso) means to place or arrange under, often used as a military term, meaning to place
oneself under the command of a leadership, so you're pretty much voluntarily placing yourself under
your leader, your husband, who is the head of a wife and a family. When you're giving
him that place you're submitting yourself under his authority. And of course husband is
submitting himself under the authority of Christ. Martin Mouser said, "Submission is a humble
attitude where obedience is rendered within a relationship." Submission doesn't make a wife less
than her husband otherwise Jesus would not be fully God because he submitted to the father. Think
about it, Jesus being fully God on this Earth and even now He submits himself to the father. We
see this beautiful order in the Trinity how the Son is submitting to the Father yet they have such
a perfect harmony. How it works is absolutely beautiful. And the last one is, a wife is a builder
of her home. A wife, a wise woman, she builds her home not just her career! Proverbs 14:1
it says, "The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her own hands." I
encourage you wives, let's build our homes, let's create this beautiful harmony. I believe that
God gave a woman this natural ability to be a homemaker, to build her home. Titus 2:4-5
it says, "This then they can urge the younger woman to love their husbands and children,
to be self-controlled and pure to be busy at home to be kind and to be subject to their husbands
so that no one can maling the word of God." The Bible teaches wives to be
homemakers to create and to build their homes. A 2018 study conducted by Welsh
foundation reveals, a stay at home mom's work on average 98 hours per week. Think about
that that's about the same as working two and a half full-time jobs and that is crazy!
Our culture right now is trying to say it's okay, you don't need to stay at
home, you need to climb the ladder of success, you need to do business. They're trying to pull a wife out of the home, not to raise her own children. And guess what, someone else will be raising your kids. I understand that there are
single moms and there are circumstances where both, a wife and a husband must work.
And you know what, we must do what we must do to take care of our families. But if you can stay
at home to raise your own children it's better not to make an extra buck, and to live on less if possible and to raise your kids at home.
Daycares are so overcrowded in America, they are so expensive,
and guess what, you you're going to work and you still have to pay for the daycare. Many times it's not even worth it. If your husband works, if he brings
the money, dedicate the season to raise your children! And after that season you can resume your career, there's nothing wrong with a woman building her career. But if you
can, dedicate this time, it would be the best. The study
also found that stay-at-home moms Their kids have increased in school
performance, child has less stress and aggression, greater involvement in child's day-to-day life,
and then wives they feel good about their choices to stay at home and has less stress about the
job. I actually just recently talked to one of my young moms who have five kids and she said
when she made a decision to stay at home to raise her children, her stress level
decreased dramatically. Even though she has five kids and staying at home,
being a full-time mom, it is literally a full-time job, her stress level is a lot less. Because she is in her lane, and she's dedicating
this time to raise her kids. I would like to encourage you moms if it's possible for
you to stay at home and raise your kids, it would be the best. Now if you cannot, if you are a single
mom and you're just trying to make it. You're trying to provide for your kids you're trying to meet the needs, there is absolutely no condemnation to you! I just pray that the Lord
will give you the strength, financial provision and blessings. Also that He blesses your
motherhood and gives you the ability to raise those kids without a father. I just pray
for your family to be whole in Jesus name! Thank you so much for watching.
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