7EVEN QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF BEFORE YOU GO INTO ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP - Are You Really Ready?

everybody's doing great and hope my signal holds up pretty good i don't know what's been going on with um internet service here lately but it's been a problem um i wanted to pop in tonight to kind of discuss something that um i was invited invited into a room the other day on the clubhouse app uh where they were asking the question you know am i emotionally ready for another relationship and you know i kind of um outlined the things that i'm going to share with you at length tonight um because this subject is relevant and you know in our thing i think i put um you know seven questions that you should ask yourself before you entertain another relationship this is you know this subject matter is relevant to all of us it's it's relevant to those of us who may be um [Music] single it's it's relevant to those of us who may be widowed doesn't matter what your age is you know people of all ages desire relationship um and so these these seven things that i'm going to share with you tonight are at least seven things that all right let's see let's see let's see let's see i took it off of the wi-fi hopefully my um my my service my cellular service will pull us through i don't know what's going on with the wi-fi we pay a lot of money for it let's make sure i'm good before i start again uh let me know let me know if i'm good let me know if i'm good let me know if i'm good let me know if i'm good all right is it um it's all good because if i'm not good i'll just record this and upload it if i'm not good i don't want to um i don't want to put y'all through this and and i don't want to go through this again tonight but i'll try to continue so as i was saying you know these are these are seven things that all of us should ask ourselves before we entertain another relationship we move from one relationship to another without properly debriefing and when you've you know especially when you've gone through something how's my signal how's my signal my signal good when you've gone through something um signal's good thank you okay y'all keep letting me know because i want to you know make sure i'm coming through when you've gone through something you should not just go through it you should grow through it right and so a lot of times the the psychology of one that struggles with broken consciousness is um to swiftly move out of one relationship when it's disappointed you and to swiftly move into another before you've debriefed before you've you know taken the wisdom in from the experience we take the shame and we take the pain but very few of us take the wisdom so stopping for a minute and asking yourself these seven questions will help you number one if you're writing write this down number one am i conscious enough this is how i originally wrote it and this is how i delivered it to them the other day in clubhouse but i'm gonna change it a little for years i've thought about it number one am i conscious enough to know what i want that's the that's the first thing you have to ask yourself but now let me shift it a little bit you need to bring it deeper than am i conscious enough to know what i want and i think we need to shift it to am i conscious enough to know what i need because the reality is you keep getting what you want but you never get what you need and see your wants are quite often stimulated from a lower part of your being your flesh your lust you know your carnal desires but when you start asking yourself the question am i conscious enough to know what i need now you have to go deeper you have to go into your spirit and you have to you have to honestly weigh the things that you that you want next to what you what you're now conscious enough to know that you need is this making sense to you all um there's a lot of things that you know okay let me see something so am i conscious enough to know what i need how many of you can testify that you have you have constantly gotten what you wanted but you always discovered that it was never what you needed and if you look back over the last three or four relationships you've had or maybe even more all of those people were the same person just in a different body because you kept choosing what you wanted but you never really sought god for what you needed and this is where i kind of you know get into a rift with a lot of you because you kind of you know indignant about the fact that there's a certain physical type you i want you know there's a certain height i want and i mean i get all of that but you have to you have to understand that those ideals those ideals come from a part of you that is deceptive the bible says the heart is is is wicked and it is you know i'm paraphrasing it is massively deceitful and it can you you can deceive and fool yourself within yourself and so if you're making all of your choices based on your wants well i don't want salad i don't want salad there's nothing about a salad that says oh i gotta have that i want french fries i want hot dogs and hamburgers that's what i want you know what i mean i want fried chicken i don't want no baked chicken or no fish i want fresh i want fried chicken french fries hamburgers a lot of salt a lot of ketchup i want kool-aid with a lot of sugar in it but now i've grown to a point as a man that i realize i'm conscious enough now to understand not only what i want and even the dangers in some of the things i want but now i'm mature enough to to to understand what i need and before you move forward into another relationship you have to ask yourself number one am i conscious enough to know what i need and if if the answer if if the answer is no if the answer is no i'm not time out and pause and pray and reflect contemplate meditate until you get clear on what's right for you and for those of you that are in this spot where you don't want a relationship right now there's that's nothing to feel bad about there's nothing wrong with wanting to be single don't don't you know that's a that's a lie the world has sewn into the minds of people especially women that there's something wrong with you if you just don't want a relationship there's nothing wrong with wanting to be single but if or when you get to a point that you you want or desire another relationship these are some of the things that you need to go through am i conscious enough to know what i need when i made a decision to marry lisa blakes i was not thinking on i want this it wasn't a flesh thing though i was very attracted to to my wife i knew that lisa blakes was what i needed that's why marriage is great you know what i mean when i say great people tell me the marriage is perfect no marriage is perfect get out of here with that but our marriage is great in the sense that we are literally happily married but i have the woman i need so 25 years later married was still good because i married i was conscious enough to know what i needed in my life and i was thinking watch this i was not thinking about momentary gratifi momentary gratification i was thinking long term i was thinking about my future what kind of woman do i need to fit into my future you're like the father i never had thank you so much that's always such an honor to hear that so number one am i conscious enough to know what i need if you don't know what you need be honest about that if you keep choosing the wrong stuff and you know you want the wrong stuff you you need some counseling because you have to you have to process that you don't want to just keep um you know making the same error over and over again you see you was attracted to her at least well see now yeah i'm not saying that you should marry somebody that you're not attracted to all i'm saying is watch this and i don't know why you pulled me over but i got to go there since you raised that issue everybody wants a 10 in in looks or nine or eight you know but when you really start living life you realize that the looks thing is not really that important and sometimes you can you know sometimes a person that maybe a five on your on your scale is a person you should consider maybe even a four because you can take a you know and this is all of that stuff is vanity in my opinion you know beauty is an eye to beholder so whatever you view as i'm saying rather than making looks the highest you know thing on your list the character of the person the energy of the person does the person support you does the person fit into your future is this somebody you need because there are a whole lot of folk who fit the bill in terms of looks tens nines and eights who are horrible individuals and are exactly what you do not need that's that's my point yes i was very attracted to my wife very attracted to my wife but i was at a point where it was no it was not about looks for me it had always been looks and it always been what i wanted when when lisa and i got together it was about what i needed and so my my point is uh if if lisa did not if she was not as physically attractive to me as she was uh she would have still been my candidate because i knew she had all of the other stuff i needed not saying that you go out there and find somebody that just you can't look at i'm that's not what i'm saying but i am saying you got to be conscious enough to understand that the looks thing is not it's really not the most important thing because think about it we're all aging lisa and i in our 50s now so neither one of us looked like we looked back then you know what i'm saying and the looks thing fades and dissipates in a very short span of time and now it's the internals of the of the individual that you live a lifetime with hope that makes sense you get a 10 you know you can get a 10 but uh 10 15 years 20 years 25 years they ain't going to be a 10 no more you ain't either so now you gotta what now you gotta you have to go inwardly but a lot of times you you you married all you married the wrapping paper with no content you you you made a lifetime decision based on the wrappings without investigating the content so when you needed what's what's supposed to have been in the box the content wasn't there because you jumped out and and made a a lifetime commitment to rapping okay so so that's the first question am i conscious enough to know what i need number two here's the second question you need to ask yourself before you engage or think about another relationship am i secure enough to serve because we got a lot of struggle now between this masculine feminine energy you know men want to prove that you know i'm the i think i'm here i'm saying now men say i'm the prize which is the lie ain't no man no prize the woman is the prize god gave the woman to the man as a gift ain't no man no prize ain't never go for that the woman is a gift to the man but we got all of this stuff going on with everybody jostling for who going to be the boss who going to be on top and that's not what relationship is about relationship is about being secure enough to serve as a man and you know some say alpha male or whatever i i don't i don't use that kind of language too much but as as a man and i mean a real man in my house and wherever else i go i'm secure enough to serve my wife i'm scared i'm secure enough to ask my wife babe you need some help you know i'm secure enough uh for my wife to say uh she she sometimes she tells me what to do and i listen and and i listen you know she's secure enough in her womanhood and her role in this marriage that uh she serves me you know i mean literally serves me you know i sit in my bed in the morning my wife brings me breakfast in bed and i hear some of these cats come out of alpha male and all that ain't got they don't even have a woman you you shouldn't you shouldn't be uh doing all that for no they don't even have a woman you gotta you gotta be secure enough to serve one another without feeling like it's taking something off of you if you still fighting in your mind with feminism and you know i'm not gonna let no man make a fool out of me or i'm you know i'm too much man i ain't gonna let no woman boss me around you you don't need no relationship you don't need no relationship because relationships are about service me and my wife serve one another we serve one another i you know i listen to my wife she can counsel me um my wife handles most of our business you know what i'm saying i i asked her well how how do we do this how to help and she tells me i don't have to be i don't have to be in control to be the man we don't we're not we're not trying to manipulate each other we're flowing together we're harmonizing it's ying and yang you know what i'm saying when it's my strength she she submits when it's her strength i submit submission ain't no issue in our house because both of us are secure enough in our individuality to submit to the other and if you're not at that level if you're not at that level where you you secure enough to serve a man or you secure enough to serve a woman you ain't ready for no relationship if if y'all entering in trying to figure out who won't get over on the other that's some more that's the most street stuff both of y'all need to just hang it up hang it up just you know go go home and listen to what the bible says i don't have my actual bible in front of me but if you look in ephesians ephesians chapter 5 verses 22 through 25 it starts off in the in that block of verses talking about wives submitting to your husbands submission is the is the is the new curse word women don't hear anything about submission but if you have a husband if you have a husband you should be in a position where hey lily i'm on the thing babe what you doing god bless you if you have a husband you should be in a position where you're conditioned to serve but then if you go on down and you know men like for me to talk about it here perhaps you need to teach about submission well if you read all the way down through that block of verses it talks about how men ought to love their wives as christ loved the church and died for her died for her when the bible tells the man to honor the woman it's just different language to honor the woman means you have to be in a position where you secure enough to put the woman on a pedestal and make yourself vulnerable and esteem her the honor of the man comes before the submission of the woman submission is the fruit honor is the seed when the man honors the woman the natural fruit of honor is submission we don't get women to submit because we flunk in honor so if you're a woman and you still struggling in your mind i ain't gonna serve no man you don't need a man if you're a man and you're struggling in your mind i ain't gonna serve no woman i'm gonna be the boss at any cost you don't need a woman you need to stay home both of y'all need to go to your neutral corners and stay there the bell don't need to ring y'all ready to come back out no more because neither one of y'all are secure enough you you neither one of you all are secure enough for a relationship and if you still out here taking advice from your your miserable girlfriends who never had a man other than one for sex you know i mean you know it is what it is if you still going to the barber shop letting dudes that don't have no woman at home tell you how to handle yours you get what you get but if you're going to really be if you're going to really be qualified for a relationship you have to ask yourself and be honest with yourself am i secure enough to serve to serve we got to put all of this masculine feminine stuff to bed and the energy thing is real you know it is real but this this this toxic masculinity toxic femininity that seeks to manage and manipulate and control the other is of the devil am i secure enough to serve number three the third question you should you should ask yourself this is a big one here y'all this is a big one y'all pray that this signal works good am i healed enough to trust oh that's big right there am i healed enough to trust if you cannot trust it it if you can't trust jesus christ himself can come back here and try to develop a relationship with you and it won't work if if you're still so damaged from what he did or she did or they did and you can't trust anybody that is an indication to you you are not ready for a relationship you should stay to yourself and you should simultaneously get counseling or therapy because you know i hear i hear women use this language no man is good all men are dogs and i don't know how you can say that you keep coming back to this platform listening to me what y'all think i am you think i'm a a crossdresser or something i'm a man i'm a man but and you you talk about how you blessed by but then you say all men are dogs no no that's that's the language of that's the language of pain and trauma that has not healed and if you are not healed enough to trust you're not ready for a relationship you see because the bible says in proverbs 13 12 that hope deferred makes the heart sick in other words when you've been disappointed over and over and over again it makes the heart sick and see when you start talking about a relationship relationships are based on risks r-i-s-k-s that's hard for me to say risk and you should watch this you have to you have to engage relationships like you invest your money you know when you when you when you um [Music] when you when you're getting ready to invest money the person that's um you know um taking your money to invest it will ask you a question what's your what's what's your risk tolerance in other words watch this when they ask you that what they're really asking you is how much can you afford to lose without losing your mind jumping off the building what's your risk tolerance and then when you figure out what what you can afford to lose or not then they know if they should put you in a in a an aggressive plan a moderate plan or a conservative plan well see you have to in terms of your relationships you have to ask yourself am i healed enough to trust and you have to ask yourself how much can i afford to lose if i'm at a place where if i'm still at a place where i'm saying if if this relationship doesn't work i'm gonna lose my mind i don't need to go i don't need a relationship when you get to a point where you can say okay people are human relationships are always a risk this looks good i've done my due diligence i'm gonna try this to see if this works but if it doesn't work i can pick myself up and dust myself off and i can keep going and keep living my life now you're ready now you're ready because okay so number one we said am i conscious enough to know what i need number two am i secure enough to serve number three am i healed enough to trust watch this number four which is another big one am i mature enough to listen am i mature enough to listen you know why most relationships fail people don't listen man people don't listen and i'm telling you man this this is true in marriages let me tell you something you can love a person and they can love you back but if y'all don't listen to one another that that that relationship is going to break down and you'll find yourself on the opposite sides of a courtroom divorcing a person that you love with all of your heart but you didn't listen to them see if you don't listen to me you don't you don't know you don't know when i'm changing you don't know my new my new needs oh that's good right there if i don't listen to you i don't know your new needs and i'm still dealing with you based on the original um based on the original script when when the when the the series has evolved am i mature enough to listen now what does it take to listen number one it takes this it takes empathy it takes selflessness it takes patience and when we talk about listening watch this am i mature enough to listen it means that you have to divorce yourself from the need to be right see a lot of you even in terms of your relationships now this is going to save some of you uh your partner is frustrated and you may be frustrated with them because maybe both of you all are doing it so many people don't know how to listen it's like while you're making your point or they're making their point you're like listening but you're listening to respond and you're listening to respond in a way that makes them wrong and makes you right when you when you're really mature enough to listen what happens is you step outside of your own personal needs and you lose the need to be right which goes back to number two because you secure enough to serve and you want to watch this you want to hear the heart of the person that's that's important to you see in listening you don't have to understand oh that's good boy i hope you all know what i'm giving you some stuff here tonight in listening you don't have to understand you just have to acknowledge there's a lot of stuff i don't understand about you know how lisa feels about things she's a woman i'm a man there's a lot of stuff about being a woman i just don't get i don't have to understand it but i gotta acknowledge it and when i acknowledge it there's a there's a freedom that comes over my wife she doesn't have to understand everything i feel a need as a man she just gotta acknowledge it she gotta be mature enough and love me enough to listen to me listen to what uh in philippians two and four it talks there about how look don't look on you know your own things but look on the things of the other you know going back to that that serving thing where your stuff is is is more important to me than my stuff and my stuff is more important to you than your stuff you see list am i mature enough to listen popping all of that gum hands all on your hip rolling your neck and all that kind of thing and screaming and hollering and clowning that that ain't [Music] that it if you if you have not learned to listen you need to be by yourself there's a there's a season in see if you if if if you had understood this point right here there are a lot of relationships that would have been uh saved were actually salvageable but because nobody listen see when you don't listen here's what happens when you don't listen to one another see you you come together and you become you know but you see if you don't listen to if if you're not listening to one another it's like it's like two people in space it's like you're drifting the only way to maintain this is to listen and to hear and understand you've got to connect with the soul of the other person and you gotta you gotta listen to them to know where they are to know what they need you don't even know your job in the in terms of the person's life if you can't listen if you you just gotta be able to be quiet and take the focus off of being right and and and view the moment and see when it's when it's my turn listen to what i'm saying now when it's my turn to talk about my issues i don't need you bringing up something that you had on your mind six months ago i need you to listen to what's what i'm saying right now and if you're not mature enough to do that if you're not mature enough to listen you don't need a relationship okay number one two three four number five listen to this you gotta be flexible enough to change if you're not am i flexible that's the question am i flexible this is number question number five am i flexible enough to change i was listening to some somebody have a conversation today about um uh changing for a person and they were saying if you change if you change for a person it means that you're not um you're no longer authentic and i agree with that to an extent you're not supposed to fundament you're not supposed to change who you are fundamentally you know at your core your values and what have you are not to change unless your values were off in the beginning and this person enlightened you you're not supposed to change who you are fundamentally but watch this when you come into relationship with a person um sometimes that person comes to um impress upon you a more excellent way and sometimes there are things in your life that need to change not to change you but to improve you you know if a man meets a woman man meets the right woman and a man has a life full of potential but he doesn't have a corresponding work ethic and this woman sits down with him and she gets him to see that his his work ethic is off and that's why he's not getting the results he deserves should that man change for that woman absolutely he should absolutely he should um when my wife came into my life my credit was shot just i'm just not an organized person like that paying bills and all i'm just not you got to know what you are and what you ain't i ain't i ain't i i know your hain is not right but y'all i'm from the ghetto so just let me do what i do it was my wife who said it's ridiculous ridiculous for you to be the kind of man you are and have credit bad as yours is unnecessarily just because you on you disorganize you ain't paying no bills on time did i change absolutely i did do i have excellent credit now absolutely i do so if you're not flexible enough to change if you're just sitting there saying well i ain't changing for nobody well you ain't ready for nobody you you there's some things about you that need to change there's some things about all of us that need to change and watch this you cannot expect to be in a relationship with somebody and think that they're not going to tell you about the things in your life that you need to change to improve who you are because people want the best version of you and if you're not if you are not flexible enough to change if there's no wiggle room that what you are now is what you plan on being you think about how crazy that sounds you don't need anybody else in your life because when you come into a relationship people are gonna ask you to change uh when my wife and i got together um i think i was sharing this with you all recently and she'll come in and tell yourself she's right over the other room um she's got the exercise i'm sure she ain't gonna get on this camera right now but you know lisa loves sweatshirts and jeans and tennis shoes and wrapping her hair up in in a ponytail that's the way she if she had a way that's the way she dressed every day no makeup just and i'm like oh no oh no we can't do this here we can't do this i said now let's go we're gonna go to the store i'm gonna buy you some clothes see i don't i don't uh tell my wife why i need you to look like this i go and i buy the stuff for now she's willing to say okay you know i'll change now watch this if she doesn't like certain things i don't like that and i said okay well let's work what do you like and she figure out what she likes but she changed i'm trying to give you some examples i changed if you're not flexible enough to change if you so if you're so locked in on your present persona that you don't have room enough to change for a person you ain't ready you ain't ready all right one two three four five the fifth question was am i flexible enough to change here's the sixth question am i stable enough to commit beyond infatuation am i stable enough to commit beyond infatuation let's go back to um the discussion we had when we first started relative to looks see looks are based in infatuation oh i love the way you look oh he's so fine that's infatuation that's going to dissipate that's going that's going to go away and when the infatuation is over because you know honestly you know okay i find you think a man is and i'm saying that most of y'all on here women i don't care i find you think a man is how fine you think a woman is uh after a certain amount of time that you all been together and you get a chance to realize that this fine man leaves his dirty clothes in the middle of the floor uh he he he uh drinks straight out the carton uh you know what i mean he leaves a ring around the tub he never cleans it he spends more money than he then he makes and he's his all his credit cards are loaded up and now he's impacting the i don't care how fine you think he is once you realize all of this other stuff is going to impact your so-called attraction to him and so now you have to ask yourself the question before you go into another relationship am i stable enough to commit beyond infatuation when i get a chance to see the real person not not the advertised version because we all advertising our best selves while we're dating think about it now you know we advertise our best selves while while we're dating at the wedding there's no greater form of false advertisement than at the wedding most husbands are never going to see their wife look like that again she ain't gonna put that kind of energy into looking like that no more most women are never gonna see that man look that good again he ain't gonna he ain't gonna get no he's gonna get a haircut for that wedding and he ain't getting no haircut for the next three four years he's not gonna have no manicure no more he gonna have motor oil all under his fingernails it's the biggest display of false advertisement so am i stable enough am i stable enough to commit beyond infatuation when life gets real am i able to love a person for who they really are and not just the parts of them that appeal to my eye or stir me sexually am i going to be able to love you when your body starts to wrinkle huh when that big old chest homeboy got dropped and he get him some man boobs you gonna be able to love that are you gonna be able to love that are you just you know still a person that's driven by by infatuations okey-dokey one two three four five six that was six right am i stable enough to commit beyond infatuation and the bible talks in genesis 2 24 about how man should leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife see if you're not able to commit beyond infatuation when a person turns you on in other words you're not going to be able to cleave and so once you realize that this what you thought was a perfect person because all you were looking at was the physical once you realize that this person is flawed now you know there's the the more weightier aspects of your being are lacking or in need of something and now you're entertaining other people even as a woman you're listening to you got other men in your ear now because your man um you say oh he doesn't he doesn't stimulate my mind while i was trying to get you to understand that you needed that before you married the man but all you was telling me about was how fine he was and you want somebody you can look at and all this kind of stuff i was trying to get you to see that i was trying to get you to understand that you're going to have to have a man that has some rape relationship with god how are you going to be a a christian a spiritual woman out here got a man that's not connected at all spiritually now you won't talk about he he don't love god well you knew that before you married him are you are you stable enough to commit beyond infatuation and cleave which means to stick like glue through the good and the bad the happy and the sad are you able to do that if you're not able to stay your happy self to yourself and then number seven and finally now here's a big one right here y'all and this is it i'm done here's number seven and i'm done need to ask yourself am i the reflection of what i think i want you want you want you wanna attend but are you a 10 you want a man that or a woman that has um 800 credit score what's yours you want somebody that has a six-pack where's yours you have to ask yourself am i the reflection of what it is i think i want because if if you don't ask yourself this question and answer it honestly you will you will desire something that you don't qualify for because the person that you want has to desire or want you and sometimes you reaching for people who've reached a standard in life that you've not even aspired to now that's that's that's some tough medicine but it's real you gotta ask yourself am i the reflection of what it is i say i want because sometimes rather than watch this sometimes rather than settling and just taking whatever's available sometimes when you ask yourself number seven sometimes it just simply means i need a season of aloneness to do some self work because if you have a desire for that it means that that's in you you know what i mean you you can reach that standard or get somewhere in that orbit but sometimes it just simply means that i don't need to date right now i don't need a relationship right now i need a long time to work on me and the thing that i the standard that i'm setting for the person that would be with me is the same standard that i need to set for me and i need to work on that right the bible talks about um this is why it's so important to be the reflection of what you say you want in uh proverbs 27 and 17 it talks about how iron sharpeneth iron if if you are not the reflection of what it is you think you want when you see what you want they won't recognize you because it takes iron to sharpen iron you have to be of the same kind don't be on what equally yoked together so there's a principle there so you have to make certain that you are you are of like kind relative to the the person you say you want how many of you all have girlfriends or even homeboys that want a person that's in a certain bracket and this and this and this and this and this and this and then that and they don't fall into none of those categories but they say that's that's what i'm i'm waiting on god to bring this but okay how do you measure up to that how do you measure up to that you think somebody that uh has a 800 850 900 credit score uh is just searching for somebody who who's disregarded their financial responsibilities you need to get that together huh you think somebody who's who's achieved in their goals and in their career and in business is looking for somebody who's still around here just twitter any thumbs don't don't have a clue where they're going they haven't figured it out yet huh no no they if you got somebody up here that's doing all of this they're looking for somebody that's suitable somebody that's comparable to that and don't let nobody get you hung up on you know a certain kind of man only want a certain kind of woman physically that's a lie that's a lie i know men that are millionaires and some of them uh love women that are plus-sized don't know nothing different some of them want a little skinny woman look just like that right there some of them want a black woman some of them want a light-skinned woman some of them want a white woman some of them want an asian woman hispanic woman it ain't the physicality but it's the mentality you have to you have to ask yourself am i the reflection of what i want see you can be plus size and still have a health consciousness so you can have a man that you know got a six-pack and he and he's you know he's a health nut and he he he appreciate he loves your body the way it is but he has to have a woman who's health conscious am i the reflection of what i say i want oh that's it joe i'm done i hope you got something out of this um literally that's my notes that's that's my notes right there literally that's my notes i may take and put this in i may actually type this out and i may send this out as an email blast to my email to my email group sometime either this week or next week because i think it'll be good for you to have i think it'll be good for you to have so if you've not joined my mailing list go to rcblix.com and join my mailing list now and uh don't forget to stop by the website and look at all of my online programs all of my online programs are i mean they're really a blessing and none of them are more than 49.99 that's that's been intentional to make them available to the masses so if you're struggling with some things like soul ties or father wounds um yeah check out those online programs don't forget to go by amazon pick up all of my books or any of my books and let me pray for you before i let you go father i thank you for this time and that i've had to share with my family father i thank you for the wisdom that you've given to us tonight because certainly it was breathe out of your spirit now god i ask you to take this wisdom and allow this wisdom dear god to set up residence in them that it will be more than just something they've heard but it will become something or principles whereby they will live i thank you now god where there's been hopelessness there is now hope i thank you for strength i thank you for faith i thank you for clarity in the name of jesus i give you praise and honor amen listen i love you all thank you for hanging out with me tonight i know this was impromptu uh but we got to get it in where we can fit it in right i may talk to you all again tomorrow um i think i don't think i'm missing anything just know i love you so much now those of you that may need counseling there will be in in the description the link for better help counseling um you can get a counsel on the phone every day talk to him by phone by email text message uh just kind of discussing the things that you're dealing with these are these are real counselors i tell you all the time i'm not a counsel i'm not a therapist uh i'm just a pastor and a man and i share out of my experiences so if you go then you use the link that's in the description it'll they'll take 10 off of the cost of that counseling and they in turn will make a deposit into into the ministry for the referral so i love you all i thank god for you i think i got everything listen keep your head up make this an amazing year make this an amazing year don't forget to go by the website and sign up for my mailing list because i think i'm going to have this typed out and i'm gonna send you the seven questions you should ask yourself before a new relationship i think i'm gonna send that to you all right but you got to be on the mailing list i love you all man have a good night share this share this share this share this please share this please share this everywhere you can share it and and thank you the channel is growing in an amazing at an amazing rate and it's all because of y'all and thank you all of you that have sewn into my life tonight um thank you so much those of you that go to my cash app my venmo and those of you that do what is it super chat they call it on here uh just amazing to me i you know i'm always kind of left in awe at um at the love you show for for lisa and i yeah now listen i got uh still got 1300 people in here and i ain't got 733 likes did i do that bad of a job that i don't even have a thousand likes did i do that bad of a job can y'all get me a thousand likes before i get off here all right y'all look like y'all not gonna do it for me did i just see my lights go down okay there we go maybe it's just this connection all right i'm at 809. was it 827. 866. all right all right i'm i'm 7 16 i don't know what's going on with this all right now this is 900 so i'm almost there i'm i'm not says 865. okay i feel like an auctioneer here 9 32 i know y'all gonna get me there i love y'all i love y'all have a great night and uh no lisa and i are praying for you all right know that lisa and i are praying for you and everything will be all right god bless you all love you now

Channel: RC Blakes, Jr

Views: 82,667

Rating: 4.9619513 out of 5

Keywords: Dating Advice, Relationships, Christian, Narcissist, R.C. BLAKES, R.C. BLAKES JR, RELATIONSHIP GOALS

Id: 07spCfKLAOQ

Length: 52min 52sec (3172 seconds)

Published: Tue Jan 12 2021