- [Amanda] Hey, Psych2Goers! Sometimes we can't help but fall for that attractive
barista at our coffee shop or that good-looking classmate in biology. But what about those
deep emotional crushes, where our attraction goes
beyond simply good looks. There are a few common traits and habits that can make someone more
emotionally attractive. Do you have any of them? You may not be aware you
are magnetic in this way, which some might see as an
additional attractive quality. Here are a few signs you
are emotionally attractive. You just don't realize it. Number one, you express your true self. You don't like to shy away from expressing your true thoughts and feelings on a subject,
you express who you truly are. This could be verbally or maybe
you use your sense of style as a means of expressing yourself. Perhaps you're an artist or musician, and don't shy away from expressing
your true feelings there. Those who tend to be
emotionally attractive aren't afraid of showing
the world who they are. They're at peace with themselves and love sharing their ideas. You don't express your opinions
or create art to show off or simply impress others. You often don't have a desire to, because you're happy with who you are. Number two, you like it to get
to know someone emotionally, rather than just superficially. You enjoy getting to
know people on the inside rather than the outside,
and people take notice. It's this kindness and
curiosity towards others, true selves that can set
you apart from the rest. Deep conversations run abound with you and you don't stray away from intriguing and thoughtful topics of discussion. Time to theorize! Number three, you remember
the little details about someone or some things. Do you actively listen to others? Do you pay attention to the little details
of your conversations? The intriguing facts that others subtly
reveal about themselves? Well, this can set you apart from others, and people will often take notice of this attractive quality. Emotionally attractive people are the ones who actually pay
attention to your emotions. They can pay attention to
trivial things as well, but it's the deeper moments
that stick with them. They'll take time to
notice the little details about your conversation and share them back with
you at a later time. Do you pay attention to
your friends in this way? Show them that you care by mentioning those interesting details in the stories they told you. Number four, you're comfortable saying no
to uncomfortable requests. Are you afraid of saying no to
frequent favors and requests? If so, there's no need to. It's healthy for your mental wellbeing to respect yourself and your needs. Others will take notice of
this attractive quality too. According to clinical director
and professional counselor, Stephanie Camins, setting
good personal boundaries is critical to creating
healthy relationships, increasing self esteem, reducing stress, anxiety, and depression. "Boundaries protect your personal self "by setting a clear line "between what is me and what
is not me," she explains. People will see that you respect yourself and aren't afraid to create
your own personal boundaries. This is a quality that others admire. They may look up to you because of this. Number five, you're open-minded. Quick question. Who's more approachable, someone who listens and is open-minded or someone who is closed-minded? I'm guessing you'll approach
the open-minded individual. This isn't to say, we
wouldn't know where we stand with our values and opinions, but an emotionally attractive individual listens to everyone's perspective and makes their decision based on that. They want to understand others more, so they aren't always so
quick to make judgements. They're open to new ideas, new strategies, and new perspectives. And number six, you are passionate. Are you passionate? Do you take pleasure in
your favorite hobbies, express plenty of joy in
conversations about your interests? Are you vocal about your passions? This can be a beautiful quality, and it cheer up someone's day hearing another person
express their excitement for something. Being a passionate person can bring up the mood of those around you. You know what it is you want, and you aren't afraid to chase it. You're focused and delighted at the idea of what the future holds. You have dreams, and you're
not afraid of pursuing them. Will you passionately pursue yours? Not only will make you a bit
more emotionally attractive, but it's likely to bring out
a lot more of your true self. Expressing who you are
through your passions is bound to bring some happiness. So do you have any the signs? If so, which ones? Have you ever been emotionally
attracted to someone? Feel free to share with us
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