Your Heart Will Beat Again | Bishop David G. Evans

worship experience and we are out here lifting up the name of Jesus and for those of you who are in your homes or might be in your cars you might even be at work once a day we're praying for you and praying with you believing God for all things we know that the world is talking about the coronavirus but right now we're talking about Jesus Christ our pastor has been telling us over and over again that all we have to do is have faith and use a little common sense and what does that common sense include it includes washing your hands it includes you know making a little social distance from one another for right now you know and just being faithful and just believe in God and so we're praying on this morning that you are gonna be encouraged by what we have prepared for you song and ministry you know you can have your family gather around as we stream into your homes and what I love about the Lord is he's not just here he's not just you know in another country or in another state but the power of God and the Spirit of God is able to be at all places at all times so while we're lifting up our hands here we know that you're gonna be able to lift up your hands where you're at and all of us can collectively lift up the name of Jesus because he's still king of kings he's still Lord of lords and he's still doing great in mighty things so what I want to do right now I wanted to invite all of you who are streaming in for the very first time and let you know we are honored to have you with us feel free to comment down in the stream if you're on our web page also feel free to comment if you're on any of our social media outlets and make sure you just share with somebody else let them know that Bethany is streaming live and there is a word for the Lord for each and every one of us so god bless you right now and we're going to get into this morning's worship experience [Music] but the Lord is good and is worthy to be praised come on let's praise him for life praise it for his support come on bless the Lord with me halleluyah halleluyah help me welcome my internet church family worldwide bless his wonderful name take your seats if you can as we are practicing faith and common sense you all are practicing social distancing Amen here as God meant for us to be here today tell Ricky you're not sitting on the same road with an accident nor are you sitting on the same road with something or someone coincidental she was sitting on the road with someone who God has purpose placed upon their lives and even though their assignment gets difficult from time to time God has proven himself to be faithful faithfulness hallelujah God's faithfulness does not eliminate challenges nor does it eliminate minor what appears to be minor setbacks in the eyes of your adversaries but the power of God rests upon your life at any time you fall into a negative situations all things work out for your good the thing that is aggravating your enemy is over and over again is that every time it appears as though you're out for the count you rise again the whole world is against you and it looks like nothing's going to change God moves once again in your life you are such an irritant to your adversary you aggravate your enemy because you keep making comeback over and over again the big question is not how do you do it because we know the answer is in God God raises us up every time delivers us every time comes to see about us every time when I think about the goodness of Jews [Music] he is worth he is worth take your seats if you can [Music] hallelu halleluya sitting next to someone tried tested and proven try tested and proved hallelujah [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] as many of you that have been with us for some time know every time we approach this time of year especially mother's and Father's Day many people find this time of year extraordinarily testing difficult at times to function when the reality of a loved one passing becomes tender again certain times of year you do a little better but there some times of year it gets a little tight holidays birthdays Mother's Day and Father's Day remember the first time we had free Mother's Day altar call and the altar was so full that I must confess to you that I was shocked at the response second thing that shocked me was the intensity of the emotion of the open wounds that were round the altar that you can be saved be faithful fill what the Holy Ghost and have a broken heart we did it again the second year got a greater response third year got a greater response fourth year got a greater response always intense emotion around the altar because people were still grieving and had that moved to acceptance I didn't say get over the loved one because you're not supposed to get over them you're supposed to get through it so there's this room this gap this place of tenderness in many of God's children God has assigned me for the next two or three weeks to position you to be healed delivered but you don't forget I'm gonna talk to you about when a fool walks up to you and ask you are you over that yet [Music] I'll have conversation with you about somebody talking about you need to rejoin the land of the living you can't put a timetable on my grief gonna talk to you teach you the difference some of you have been said I've been told you were depressed and you've never really been depressed in your whole life gonna show you what that looks like we come out of these two or three weeks the memory will be there but I believe the pain will be gone some of us are going to want to get delivered from the pain because the pain has become a companion [Music] personalities have been permanently altered by what we went through somebody didn't love us anymore someone passed away you worked your whole life for a position and they let you go you can grieve over a lot of stuff but I believe we're going to get delivered this week I believe God's going to do it for I'm gonna need I'm gonna need permission to have a real serious talk with you and I'm telling you in advance so you don't run out the room it's going to be uncomfortable the first 20 minutes amen did you hear what I said you're gonna find a reason to go to the bathroom tell yourself no stay here pat yourself pat your neighbor stay here because you don't want to miss what God is going to say to you sometimes we're not delivered because we don't know what God has promised I'm gonna show you in the Bible and God's gonna heal those wounds over the next two or three weeks amen we're going to go to the Bible that I'm going to pray and we're going to start this conversation turn with me to first Thessalonians chapter 4 and when you get comfortable stand on your feet amen you find your word stand on your feet summer said no disease shall come now your door somebody shall trust God faith and common sense faith and common sense 1st Thessalonians 4 beginning at verse 13 just lift this one verse but I would not have you to be ignorant brethren concerning them which are asleep that ye sorrow not even as others which have no hope and we read that one more time but I would not have you to be ignorant brethren this is for Saints concerning them which are asleep that you brethren sorrow not even as others which have no hope second Samuel 12 2nd Samuel 12 when you get there say Amen beginning at verse 19 but when David saw that his servants whispered David perceived that the child was dead therefore David said unto his servants is the child dead and they said he is then David arose from the earth and washed and anointed himself changed his apparel and came into the house of the Lord and worship then he came to his own house and when he required when he needed it they set bread before him and he did eat then said his servants unto Him what thing is this what in the world is going on with you you fasted and wept for the child while it was alive when the child was dead you got up and ate bread they say what in the world is happening turn to your neighbor and say your heart will beat again [Music] heart will beat again father I bless your name for what we're about to experience in this place I thank you for the two or three that have gathered together for those watching us my stream around the world we come together now in unified faith trusting and believing that what you have to say is for us and it shall accomplish what your word says to me today I thank you that I'm standing with someone who understand what it's like to fight their way through I thank you I'm standing near someone who knows what it's like to get knocked down and yet struggle to get back up on their feet I'm thankful I'm standing against the next to somebody that's not a rookie in this thing Lord but they've been through once or twice already and I thank you that they're standing here not looking close to what they've been through so now Lord in the name of Jesus I asked you once again to allow your spirit that Holy Ghost had Holy Spirit that Spirit of the Living God to open our minds and open our hearts because Lord my people need healing today we need a breakthrough today we've been carrying a burden which should just be a wave sometimes it feels like a hindrance when it should just be a memory Lord I ask now Lord that you give us the assistance of your spirit that our minds might receive what they've never received before our ears must hear what they've never heard before our mind must understand what it's never understood before but most of our Lord mend this heart of our some of us have got not gotten over a loved one that has walked out of our lives deliver us Lord some of us are mothers and our fathers our siblings have gone on to be with you and we're still in the same place that we were when they pass deliver us Lord not from the memory but deliver us from the pain I thank you for every tear that was shed the tears that you created us to shared Lord that shows we still care I ask you for the resuscitation of life help the new normal in us become strong keep us from being ended god I thank you for what you're going to do today now god bless my mind once again that I might see what you've written in my heart understand the words coming out of your mouth into my ear spirit of the Living God fall fresh upon your people fire of the Holy Ghost begin to incinerate anything that binds us today I'm praising you for what's going to happen in my neighborhood today I'm praising you for what's going on in their hearts right now stir us up Lord Jesus stir minds God stop our hearts Jesus thank you in advance we need you in one area of our lives we need you to restart our hearts revive us resuscitate us restore us and resurrect us and I want to thank in advance for what you guarantee but you're going to do don't just heal but save don't just deliver set free I think in advance in Jesus name and everybody said amen repeat after me my heart will beat again take your seat some memories in your life are so vivid there will never be a time that you can't see precisely where you were what you were doing feel what you were feeling and then there are other instances which have suffered the definite addition to your life they made such an impact on your life that there was not one detail that you can forget I can remember distinctly the day that my heart stopped started out a normal day but it ended a day that I will never forget the rest of my life see when your hero died someone that you naively think will never die something happens to you that is unexpected most times as we are children we go through life thinking that once we hit a flow that's going to be our normal but I found as an adult certain things happen from the time that create a new normal in your life could have to do with relationship could have to do with the loss of a loved one but every now and then something happens in your life that creates a brand new normal and it feels so insecure because there's no rulebook and there's no teaching there's nothing anybody can tell you that helps you navigate unnormal you've never experienced before it's a time in life when you begin to feel I felt a little crazy because for someone who was always in control I did not feel like my thoughts were in control I was paying caking every day of my life every hour of my life one hour I was this in the next hour I was that one time I was calm next time I was crying under hysterically it's amazing how you see yourself and all of a sudden someone steady and predictable reliable becomes a contradiction you're still reliable on the outside the inside is just a rocky boo you go through opposites helpful people don't feel like being bothered patient people run out of patience quiet people start raising their voices folk they don't cuss start cussing some kind of new normal that I'm insecure in comes in my life become curious about things that are detrimental to life trying to find some relief all because we really don't know what we're feeling God can heal a broken heart but you have to present him with all the pieces some part of our brokenness for some reason we hold on to it and I believe sometimes the brokenness in us gives us an identity that we didn't have before and sometimes you can become hooked on your own pain because your pain and the way you express it causes people to pay you attention so rather than being delivered from the pain you perfect the presentation of the pain you wear it on your face mention it in your conversation because we don't know what's driving us at this point my heart is broken but I have no experience at my shattered emotion I know I need relief but if I get through this pain will i betray the person that it's attached to if I start feeling normal again and I'm being loyal to mother am I being loyal to father am I good am I staying hurt because to get delivered would feel like a betrayal am I staying depressed purposely manifesting depression because I need people to ask me what's wrong but y'all going with me today I find that my own broken heart caused me to have some unusual symptoms and tell you without equivocation I've been struggling with time ever since mama died somebody who was early to everything I'm either right on time or five minutes late for everything it never was a problem so what happened to me is I stopped being able to manage my time well enough can I talk to somebody don't matter how early I get up I find a reason to have to rush in the last 15 minutes you don't need to fold clothes I have announced before you get there you don't need to watch an episode of Law & Order like you've never seen it before but for some reason this is harder mine doesn't function you walk through the house see paper on the floor listen to them and walk right by it and have to make yourself go back and pick it up you never used to leave dishes in the sink at night now you walk by the singing say that's not too many laundry piles up bills are not paid on time scared to open your mail you can't watch your heroes die in movie on television because something's happened to your heart your tolerance for foolishness and foolish people goes right out the wind stuff that used to be funny is not funny anymore stuff am I talking to anybody we find ourselves adjusting to something we don't need to adjust to because I'm I'm not comfortable with this late date I'm not comfortable with the rushing day I'm not comfortable with the they got it we'll wait till mail piles up and then got to spend two hours trying to do it ain't nobody talking to me I don't care if the beds made or not anymore I can't talk to you oh you didn't know this was attached to your heart did you oh that's why you're looking at me like that you didn't know what it was attached to nobody schools us on how to handle grief same people just for to wake up and get over it and then the Saints accused you of not having enough faith not accessing your anointing I'm so tired of people having calendars on your grief you can't tell me when they get over it but you can tell me that when you don't understand my investment in the pression that now is gone so we find ourselves in an arena that we're not educated in my season changed your season change when someone died or someone departed this happens to all of us giving us a sense that our heart has stopped watch this while my life continues now this broken heart thing is real I don't care what culture you visit everybody understands a broken heart it's accepted as a reality it's a real thing a relationship loss can cause you degree someone dying can cause you degree you getting fired from your dream job can cause you to start grieving so what is grief y'all know about hurricanes right I've always been amazed that hurricanes don't move quickly they say the hurricane is moving at three miles an hour so it's a storm that's destructive that moves very slowly that's what grief is it's a storm within you that will not pass quickly that seems to have its own mind and seems to serve no real purpose so I've got this reality that I try to describe to you but if you've never been through a storm with the same name you can't appreciate what I'm feeling at the time I didn't say been through a storm cuz everybody's been through a storm but in mine was Katrina and yours is not Katrina you can't understand what I'm saying stay with me so grief is a slow-moving storm and internal storm that resists moving quickly because every storm has a job to perform and I'm saying some good stuff you're only saying nothing so grief is a storm in me what's going on in my mind often affects how my heart feel my older relatives have friends that they've known for 50 years been married for 60 years and one of them passes away and the other one is in perfect good health and two weeks after that one dies the other one died and the doctors now call it a broken heart because the stress of my mind starts to mess with the condition of my heart and my heart says give up even though the rest of me seems to be okay broken hearts are real when was 16 and 17 in our little childhood romance breaks up we think our heart is broken now it's just chipped [Applause] it's a chipped see the reason we don't think our heart is broken because your heart has this amazing quality about it works even when it's wounded that's why people take chances with them because even though you throw it into a fight it's not ready to handle it'll still work that's why we let people mess with our mind because our minds work well wounded so our issue is your friends don't know you have a broken heart concerning a relationship concerning a parent concerning a grandparent they don't know cuz you look okay but you know it's coming back from California one day 30,000 feet I decided with my smart self to raise the shade so I raised the shade I look out the window all I can see is clouds next thing I think is heaven after I think heaven I think mom so I began to cry not man cry child cry on the plane I mean this try to stop sitting lady sit next to me tapping flight attendants run over they said oh what's wrong I said just my mother you're coming from the field no she's nineteen years ago you get these spontaneous cries and memory doesn't care where you are and folk that did not make the investment you made in the person that's gone don't understand why you have the tears and the intensity that you had is this making sense to anybody so we've got this this this spontaneous crying thing and then people just believe that's what the lady was nice sitting next to me she was handing me tissues and they would throw me diet cokes and then so lady wanted to know what kind of mother did you have cuz she couldn't understand while ten years later I'm crying like I just came from the field same water different calls my point is that grief changes you but you've been accused of being depressed and you've actually called yourself depressed but you ain't depressed you're just grieving now the thing that gives me hope is that God designed grief so if God designed grief then grief must have a purpose so part of what I've got to get to you is why God designed grief in the first place but then I've got to talk to you about something else I don't know about you I tend to suffer better than I celebrate ain't nobody talking to me I can stay sad as long as I want to my problem is staying happy as long as I should look come on talk to me somebody in here I know how to be down staying up is my issue so I know how to live a persecuted life but what I really need to develop as a skill is leading a blessed life I don't know why maybe you can help me with this you can I know you don't go through this I do why is it easier for you to receive criticism than it is a compliment do I need to ask you again why is it easier for you to receive criticism then it is a compliment why do you believe the criticism is the truth and the compliment is a lie I'm trying to help so watch this now I'm gonna take you somewhere see how much time I have okay we're doing good watch this now so so so so somebody say grief morning now I don't know how it happened abou but somehow I started to identify grief and mourning as the same thing is anybody in here with me because it just felt like the same thing yeah I'm grieving I'm in mourning it's a it's an grief is the internal storm or internal feeling you have mourning is the expression of what's going on inside of you so when the Bible says that we don't grieve like other folk grieve because we have hope is because something different is on the inside of us and we're not seeing it the same way everybody else is seeing it I'm seeing it but not the same way because internally my storm has hope in it nice god how is hope in a storm I'm glad you asked I don't know about you but the older I got the more I disliked snow only people that I know like snow are those that never had to shovel it but if you had to go outside and move tons of snow just to get your car out you're not happy when the flakes come down you'll content to have your snow in a little bottle as you can shake up with a little house in it that's all the snow I need at this point in my life I don't want to hear nothing about a hot killed disease no I don't want to hear that so your perception changes of storms but the Bible says there's a purpose in every storm that visit the earth just like the rain comes down from heaven and causes the earth to do what it's supposed to do so the storm might be inconvenient for us but God has a purpose for it and his purpose is that it produce something out of you so what can proof grief produce grief is designed for you and I to ultimately get to acceptance because when stuff happens we don't want to happen the first thing we throw up is denial have you ever said this can't be happening to me come on talk to me now have you ever said why now I'm in the quietest church in America denial is a shield when the shock is too intense the problem for a soldier is sooner or later you have to put your shield down you can't live the rest of your life in denial are you hearing me but I thought of the nile up when the shield is too intense how this works so grief is what I feel inside mourning is what I show outside are you with me today so morning is the way I express what's going on in my heart grief is watch this here's another one gonna blow your mind grief is me internally searching for the thing I've lost grief is me emotionally reaching for that which I think I've misplaced or has walked away from me so I'm grieving because I want it back and I can't grieve any more intensely then the investment I've made and what I'm grieving over if you don't care you don't grieve much but if you really care most people won't understand your grief I'm taking you somewhere hold on tell you the first twenty was gonna be kind of tight amen so watch how this goes now so I used to think not you know when we're young were crazy I couldn't get I couldn't relate to anxiety I don't know whether the world was too bigger but anxiety doesn't sound like something you would feel well the problem with anxiety is that it builds silently and once it gets to a speak then you start doing things connected to your anxiety so you got this anxiety building up and you look the same you know you know this path that you might be a little off anybody ever been a little off now you look normal but you know you lean in just a tad you know hey y'all hear what I'm saying everybody looks at you think you right but you know if one more thing happened today I'll just tip right on over amen that sentence that paragraph of cuss words is just now right here everybody's leaning one day another so your anxiety bills and your anxiety is fueling your grief you start to audit your memories and for those of you who have lost the person through relationship that you were close to or the death of a parent or someone a grandparent you start having what I call these spectral visitations and watch how this works you ain't you ain't weird listen to me you're not weird listen I'm ERISA you're not weird you're not weird I'm trying to say something you're walking through your house and all of a sudden you can smell the person am I talking to the right people you walk into a room and it feels like they were there you thought you heard them say something hey I'm in your head and I know it and you look around and I swear I smelled that Cologne I thought I felt something brush past me so I counseled a lot of people so every now and then someone has been married 40 50 60 years they don't know how to live without this other person and and invariably the person will come to me prep the survivor will come to me and say look I'm having trouble sleeping and I said him look I'm get ready to tell you something crazy but I need you to trust me and just do it tonight when you go home it's good I tell them three times it's gonna sound crazy it's going to sound crazy when I tell you but I guarantee if you do it it'll be all right so they're so desperate they're like all right go ahead tell me do some crazy I said when you go home tonight and you're getting the bed get in on their side let's say just like you just said what when you get home tonight get in on their side of the bed what you've been ignoring is the presence that was established over the 30 or 40 years and the presence established will embrace you and you will go right to sleep they call me the next day Bishop something wrong with you I got in that bed last night went to sleep so fast [Music] when you've invested a lot of the person you have these experiences smell your mama here your daddy's voice in somebody else's voice my making sense Theo you're not crazy you're grieving you're not depressed you're grieving but Bishop what's the difference between grieving and depression depression takes over your life grief you can still go to work grief you cooking and crying at the same time are you hear what I'm saying to you depression I'm getting in this bed I ain't getting out no more I don't care what happened and getting up again but when I'm grieving I say if I don't wake up it'll be alright but I'm in no danger of hurting myself cuz I'm not depressed I'm grieving tell your neighbor no danger you're trying to help you in here today so watch how this works so so you don't just grieve over folk that died you're grieve over folk that you used to love or you still love and they not around anymore so when you got relationship grief what we're gonna call relationship grief something else happens you you you get obsessive in your thoughts about how and why they broke up come on talk to me and then you become obsessive about how you can get them back somebody say grief cuz grief searches for something that's lost it's just making sense to you I watch how this works now okay well I'm almost done stay with me so if mourning is an expression of my grief it is not that you don't mourn my brothers and my sisters you and your annoying itself is that you don't mourn like everybody else won't grief was designed by God did you hear what I said you didn't create grief God did so if God made it God had a purpose for grief hmm what is that grief is designed to bring you and I to an acceptable level of adjustment after the loss to death or a loved one so my grief gets me to acceptance if I avoid the grief I never get to the acceptance if I take drugs for the grief after they told me it was depression I slowed down my deliverance you didn't hear what I say you every time you drink yourself drunk you slow down God's process because grief is now diagnosed as depression they'll tell you you're depressed so fast and give you so many pills your head will spin when all you're doing is going through the natural process of grief am i helping anybody how this works now listen down you you've been taking pills for listen listen listen listen don't get crazy you've been taking medicine for something for the last five years don't you go home today and throw that stuff in the trash go to your doctor say I think maybe we might have missed the diagnosis I think I've been grieving but you told me I was depressed did you hear me because you take the pills because you believe what the doctor said is this making sense to you I hear we're gonna get to the exciting part in a minute y'all hold on there hold on so so somebody say denial anger bargaining once again denial anger bargaining depression so simple grief is not depression depression is dominating now if you've never been depressed in your life before you need to thank God right now but if you've ever been depressed you need to thinking that you're not depressed anymore because what I found out you can't dig yourself out of your depression it takes the power of God now you know you have to be smart to be depressed you have to be a critical thinker to be depressed you didn't know unintelligent people don't get depressed they can't think enough to be depressed you're not hearing me you have to be smart to be depressed good depression is the fruit of incorrect thinking you got to think to be depressed and I'm a consistent you have to analyze your situation and decide you're down depression is a decision am i helping anybody so intelligent folk don't need a prayer partner to get depressed because intelligent folk talk to themselves real good now you don't have to say anything but this is how intelligent people do it they don't just ask themself a question [Applause] they answer the question that they ask themselves like they ain't talking to themselves what why am I feeling so bad because it is just isn't it so depression is not a sign of a lack of intelligence and press depression a sign of intelligence just thinking the wrong thing why do you think God says think on these because my thoughts can produce a down or an up in my life that's why when you're going through a bad season you can't have a whole lot of negative people around buses because they will feed your wonderful ability to be saved you ever been with somebody going into a brand new house they start finding stuff wrong with how you going to a house you can't afford and go find ten things wrong with it soon as you walk in the door ain't nothing wrong with the house something's wrong with the way you see I'm making sense to you so so I've got to be careful what I think because I can actually depression is you going I taught you all the joy of the Lord is my strength right alright and and and the Bible says blessing to add no sorrow correct y'all remember that all right so so blessing comes with challenge but God says blessing will add no sorrow now I didn't understand what that meant sorrow is a building you build out of stuff God didn't give you the building with because the word sorrow means to fabricate so you're building a structure that does not have godly material in it you use your shame and your guilt and your rejection and your hurt and you build this house called sorrow and then you go into the house turn around lock the door and which all knowing itself you lose the key so you can't get out so you're spending your time looking for a way out and while you're looking you go down down down down that's why he says the righteous running to the Lord he is a strong tower what's this a tall tower that's strong that when you get to the top your perspective changes let me kill something the church mountains are not all bad valleys are not all Bay the church has taught us that mountains and valleys are obstacles am i right I can't be true the way God sees because when you get to the top of a mountain route you can see what you couldn't see before further than you could see before it's just the struggle to get to the different perspective is the difficulty of the mountain y'all didn't hear when I said something better than this valleys are not a problem God deposits weapons in valleys David didn't get his stones for the giant off the mountain he got him after he went into the valley he didn't hear what I said God had been preparing the stones for centuries in the valley waiting for him to find them where they weren't expected to be found because they thought everything was on a mountain the gods put his stones in a valley he had to go down to find them he had to go down to find okay I gotta hurry up I want to show you something just a second all right are you still with me okay now grief is not as recognizable as depression depression watch listen to my words when you're depressed a bunch of stable emotions has moved in depression tries to dominate your life and depression stays it doesn't keep moving it tries to stay so you get a roof of emotions that stay there stable they're just the wrong feelings it's why it's so hard to talk to people that are depressed you try to encourage them it's like throwing rocks against a wall because these emotions that they're having are stable they're not wishy-washy is this making sense so if I'm depressed I feel like I'm getting depressed it's because the stuff I'm feeling has been hanging around too long but I got something good to tell you I decided when I was all depressed that I was going to church and I said if you're gonna be with me you're gonna have to go to prayer meeting with me if you go hang with me you got to go to church with me if you're gonna hang with me you got to go to Bible study with me since you insist on hanging around here's where we're going I'm going to the house of worship cuz when I walk out you're not going home with me if it won't be rebuked pray at the church with you sadness doesn't want to leave you bring your sadness to church put it on the altar with you [Applause] so so so you can tell whether you're grieving or not because you feel tired all the time it's hard to tell by your sleep pattern because if you're grieving you might not be sleeping at all or you might be sleeping too much you know I don't know if you ever ran from your trouble in sleep and I'm not talking drug-induced I mean you just need to get to the house and just cuz cuz your sleep becomes your safety net have you ever been there so so I know when I was younger I used to lose my appetite I didn't got older now I'm grabbing everything in sight gets on my nerves I'm not hungry I think I need a snack already full normally your heartburn so I have to sleep propped up for a little while because my grief is driving I know I'm all in your head I'm sorry grief can cause you to have shortness of breath you can get headaches from grief but this is grief not depression so you're numb at first that leads you to a period of sadness you're not depressed then you get start reorganizing stuff then you start recovering and it varies from person to person and it doesn't happen in order sometimes you know you get mad first and then be in denial you know everybody's different so it's not it's not it's not measurable by other's experience but you're gonna go through all these stages now watch how this works one of the biggest things we can do is have regret now someone you were loving and they decide to walk off you know you can and you know you a good person you know you just know you know you got it going on you know you don't think your presence should be enough for somebody but you bring tools with you I'm making sense to you you can talk trash after they walk off oh I know they're gonna miss me on the day gonna find nobody like me hanging on a tree you can talk to me talk trash amen you better act like you've got some sense [Applause] cuz if you've done all you should do you have no regrets when something not under your control happens to you but when we lose a loved one we start asking myself could I have should I have now I explained to the early church I need to explain to y'all when you've done three or four hundred funerals in life I've probably done more than that thirty you develop death humour death humor you see some I asked you how was the funeral and you say the deceased was there I do funerals for a living okay so my ask me how was a monster and I said she was there Jimmy how was it I said stiff it's my mother and you asking me a foolish question how was it but in every funeral somebody gets a Grammy for howling the loudest and somebody gets an Oscar for acting out the most every home gone and it's usually somebody guilty come on talk to me you to someone watch this who has not filled the well of morning while the person live the well of morning is how you cared for and loved the individual while they were alive and what happens the people that want to Oscar and the Grammy are trying to fill it at the home goal but if you didn't talk to me while I was alive talking to me while I'm dead is not going to do it no guilt won't be relieved that way so the key is fill the well while they're alive here we go here we go alright here we go let me show you something go to second Sam you twelve i Malik tune in now sometimes your feelings can be delayed and they can get jumbled you can actually feel like you've been delivered for a while and then have that 30,000 foot thing I had which was like nine years delay so it can happen anytime so I might say any time you wake up some days and you'll you'll experience what I call pancake in eight o'clock you're good 8:05 you crazy eight ten you calm 8:25 that's when it's real when it's real you have a hard time controlling it you just hope God gives you grace not to break down in the middle of the board but it's unpredictable y'all hearing me so losses can have a delayed impact so you got this shock thing going on which gives you some denial and then you have this guilt and pain thing that happens go to second Samuel let me show it to you real quickly and then we'll we'll pick it up next week amen all right watch how this works now let's go down to verse 15 you ready Nathan departed unto his house and the Lord struck the child that you arise wife bare unto David and it was very sick now the first thing I want you to understand is that was the period of law now its grace God does not do bad things to get back at you God holds you responsible for the stuff you do the issue is the God had forgiven David all right so what the Texas trying to show us not to God is Trump wants to kill the child but there's consequences to sin they all see that what's this 16 and David therefore besought God for the child and David fasted and went in and lay all night upon the earth somebody say bargain so he starts bargaining with God because that's a part of the grieving process now why is he grieving in the child still alive because God's already told him what's going to happen so he's searching for an answer with his grief 17 and the elders of his house arose and went to him to rise him up from the earth some might say depressed but he would not somebody say depressed neither did he eat bread with him somebody say depressed now sometimes you just want to be alone with your sadness but you have to suck if you've got a family you got to wait to you in your car you can't decide to be alone your sadness and for other people in their house they just got to understand no they don't your children don't know anything about your depression all they know is the parent is missing in action but depression will have you neglecting your responsibilities while grief allows you to work while you're paying are you getting this I'm almost done it's 101 here we go so watch what happens now he says and it came to pass the seventh day somebody say seven days the child died and servants of David feared to tell him they didn't know what to tell him because they thought he's acting really strange already they want to tell him the child was dead before they said Behold while a child was yet alive we speak under him and he wouldn't hear our voice have you ever tried to encourage someone who didn't want to be encouraged I think all of us have been that person at one time or another somebody say Amen he would not hearken to our voice how will he then watch the words how will he then vex himself if we tell him that the child is gone not how will we vex him how will he vex himself when bad news comes you must be careful about what you say to yourself because people can't vex you you have to wreck yourself so I take the words they say and use them to harm of me are y'all getting this watch this now hmm but when David saw that his servants whispered you know he said to himself okay what's going on David perceived that his child was dead therefore David sent him to a service instance out there and they said he's dead somebody say my heart's about to beat again say it again my heart is about to beat again now watch how David reacts then David arose from the earth so those that did not know the Lord the way he did expected him to sink further but the bad news cause David to get up because his hope was in the Lord watch what he does David arose from the earth got a washed he hadn't bathed in a week now most of you have never been that sad where you didn't want to wash I'm lying yes you do know about it he hadn't washed he put some lotion on himself because he was trying to be an ashy it's in your Bible he changed his clothes it means he had been wearing the same clothes for seven straight days so he wasn't eating he wasn't bathing hadn't changed his clothes and he was a she all because he was grieving turn you never say you're normal he changed his clothes his fresh reaction was go to church they'll see that he went to the house of the Lord and what did he do not complain not lament he worshiped and then when he worshiped he was fit to go back to his house and carry that delivered spirit back into his own atmosphere and his appetite came back next week tell your neighbor I'm giving my heart permission to beat again giving my heart permission start all over again stand on your feet we got to go I would love to see you all out here on Wednesday night we're in a phenomenal series called safe place our Learning Center is open we got state licensed child care and preschool here faith based approach to learning now a lot of children are going to be out of school for a couple weeks we need you to send an email of children that you know that are losing their lunches the GMA that are losing their lunches while the schools close and families that cannot provide them we need a list of those kids so that we can make up some lunches have them meet us over either at the high school or here at the church and pick up what they need amen so if you know some people in the area whose children are being impacted that way by this shutdown of the schools let us know who they are so we can prepare lunches for them every day that they're out of school so with it it's two weeks or four weeks we're gonna pick it up amen good man if we need anything else we'll tell you all right we need anything else we'll tell you now Thursday the 19th we're supposed to go to Vineland as far as I know that service is still going on apostle Karen Johnson is the pastor and Sunday we go to Bethlehem as far as I know those services are going on I need you to pray for sister Donna Crawford her mother has passed away that service is going to be on the 16th at Temple Church 7th and curling in Chester my old stomping grounds during his at 9 service at 11 with Tony Jones her mother Patricia has passed away that's going to be held on Monday 16th Cain Avenue Church in Camden viewing is at 9:00 services at 11 o'clock it is so important that the Holy Spirit allows me to stimulate your thinking so that the time we spend in church become moments you won't forget moments that impact your life and significantly the first thing that we always want to happen is that you feel led you feel as though God is calling you to give your life to Him I applaud you for your faith and common sense and I'm excited because I've seen my peers begin to adopt that mantra around the country saw one of my guys on CNN I think this morning he was acting like it was his but that's okay just getting out there was getting out a relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ is so vital to being able to overcome the valleys and the mountains of life that I don't know about you but my biggest struggle has never been the devil my biggest struggle has been the emotionalism that I have going on inside of me because you know can anybody agree with that just I get the Bible tells me the enemy is defeated but it has not yet said to Dave is Dave is still alive and kicking they men might win still likes to do things all of us have a twin amen and part of that is God really wants to do a work not only on you as a person but he wants to see your personality become all that it can be so God does not just work on your person he works on your personality because how can we stay the same and exhibit the love of Jesus if we have some dominating emotions that are hindering the Lord being seen by other people in us and his visibility is not just in what we say but people should be able to see it in the way we conduct ourselves are your loving individual are you considerate are you caring are you righteous and the things that you do when the things that you say to people do you react as though you have Jesus it's impossible to do it without that relationship with him it's such a supportive relationship he takes us by the hand like I took you by the hand this morning and walk you through some very rocky ground something that's not talked about much in church and grief and mourning it but it's clear that the saints of God are suffering with these open wounds of relationships and we need God to heal us not so we can forget but so we can function amen somebody so this relationship with Jesus is so wonderful life I cannot overestimate the simplicity and the power of it at the same time it's simple and powerful at the same time he makes this invitation that always confused me because it doesn't seem to have much in it he says whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved the guarantee in it precious is what got me whosoever calls upon the name of the Lord shall be saved I immediately asked myself did he include me then he said I said whosoever so but whosoever blew my mind but the whosoever had to include whatsoever whosoever that is done whatsoever if you call on him you shall be saved that blew my mind you mean no matter what I did in my past he's got enough love to cover all of that and enough blood to take care of all of that enough grace to lift all of that it amazing didn't understand what the song meant until I got older Amazing Grace its grace that doesn't make sense grace that does what you think it won't do you've never given your life to the Lord I want to invite you this afternoon to meet me right here allow us to pray with you and lead you into a relationship with God through Christ Jesus don't wait in two years old as I was 26 to decide it's time to do this thing earlier you do it the less I have to deliver you from but I guarantee you he'll deliver you right where you are you're here with us today you've never given your life to the Lord I want you to come meet me here at the altar you gave your life to the Lord at one time in the past but you got off track and everybody does I want you to come meet me at the altar if you love the Lord but you're just looking for a place to call home you came today didn't know what to expect talking about something you never expected to hear in church teaching you how to move past denial to acceptance so the next chapter of your life can be open this is the kind of place you've been looking for I'm going to ask you to step into the nearest aisle and come meet me right here we believe in God for you today violet come on is there another is there another won't you come here [Applause] come on I know you're here won't you come haven't asked you any background questions we can't change what you've come from didn't ask you where you were this morning can't change where you were but this decision today can change your tomorrow your yesterday is already taking bets it's going to control your tomorrow but if you make that decision today choices always dictate direction make that decision is there your tomorrow we'll get another notice changes come if you're here today won't you come up in the balcony down on the floor hey y'all open the balcony down on the floor won't you come to celebrate our new brother and sister [Applause]

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Published: Sun Mar 15 2020