"Billionaires Use THESE HABITS Everyday To MASTER PRODUCTIVITY"| Jim Kwik & Lewis Howes

because there is no learning without remembering they could have the reasons the purpose they could have the energy unlimited energy but they don't know where to start if knowledge is power learning is a superpower if you can control your mind then you have power over your life and in this video my friend jim quick breaks down the strategies to mastering your mind for your life there's a method that you give or a model for how to become limitless and if we don't follow this model then something's going to be broken in our life and that right yeah does this model really is a framework for learning anything faster so for people who are listening and watching and they want to learn a language they want to learn mandarin music martial arts management marketing any skill i think if there's one skill to master in the 21st century it's our ability to learn faster like if there was a genie and a genie can grant you any one wish but only one wish what would you wish for if there was only one wish what would you wish for you know most people would say money or this or that but you think learning is that exactly i mean i think a lot of people i think being the matrix like downloading the matrix yeah so i could learn jiu-jitsu in a second exactly i can learn a language in a second if i can have this skill so i think the the hack a lot of people would do is if it was any one wish they would wish for more wishes right for infinite wishes so the equivalent if i was your learning genie and i could grant you any one wish to learn any subject or any skill just like become a master at it the equivalent what's the equivalent of the answer of asking for infinite wishes would be learning how to learn because if you can learn how to learn the world is yours especially today because nobody who's listening and watching gets paid for their brute strength it's their brain strength it's not your muscle power it's completely your mind power and the challenge is your brain doesn't come with an owner's manual it's not user friendly and that's the reason why i wrote this book but the limitless model is an explanatory schema a framework for learning anything faster and not only that but really for accessing our human potential because i think if there's one infinite limitless resource on planet earth it's human capability there's no limit on our determination there's no limit to our imagination there's no known limit to our creativity and yet we're not shown how to be able to access that and so this framework is a three-part framework and what i would offer everyone to do is i'd love to turn this into like a little master class make it really engaging and so don't listen passively because we don't learn through the human brain doesn't learn through consumption it learns through creation and creativity and getting involved in things i know a lot of us learn faster when we actually roll up our sleeves and do it so i would encourage everybody as they're working out or cleaning the house or whatever they're doing at the same time to try to get involved in this i think as an athlete i can speak to that because for me in school it's really hard to remember or learn things because i didn't feel like i was participating in a way that worked for me but as an athlete playing basketball yeah when a coach would tell me okay i want you to watch this video and then automatically shoot in a certain way with your hand position this way and follow through this way just by watching a video and not actually implementing and practicing it he would take me out on the court and we would practice it and do it over and over again and he would correct me and i would learn through muscle memory as opposed to just watching something and then thinking i can do it without actually practicing right so putting it into practice quickly for me is how i learned sports and it's how i try to apply it in other areas of my life as opposed to just i'm gonna learn and then okay i know it i feel like i need to work in it i feel you get dirty you know what i mean i do i do i think a lot of people this is the thing it's not how smart you are it's it's not literally not how like how smart you are it's how are you smart it's not how smart you are or how smart your kids are or how smart your business partner is it's how are they smart are you smart what's the difference so you are smart through experiential learning like in the book we talked about are used exactly it's not how smart somebody is like their iq or the intelligent it's how are they smart and it's always context dependent and so some people learn we talk about learning styles in the book it's like if have you ever been interested just like you were saying you're interested in a topic but you're not getting it because because sometimes the way you prefer to learn is different than the way the teacher prefers to teach and it's like you're two ships in the night and you pass each other and you don't even realize there's no connection you don't even realize the other one is there and it feels uncomfortable like if i asked everybody as an exercise to take out a piece of paper i encourage everyone to take notes because i'm going to drop a lot of like practical methods when you're taking if you were to write your name first and last on a piece of paper actually you can do it right now first and last and everyone encourages you to just to do this or imagine you're writing your name first and last on a piece of paper and then when you're done i want you to switch hands and in your opposite hand right below it write your first and last name with your opposition i don't even know if it takes me ten minutes and so while people are doing it you'll notice when you're doing with the opposite hand as we're doing it that's actually pretty good that if i was to ask you which one is the which one was easier first or second and you would say the first was easier which one is is uh more comfortable first or last the first one the first one so not only was it faster it was easier and then which one was higher quality let's check that out this the personally the first one hopefully the person was higher quality also as well and so here's the thing that means the second time it took longer the second time it also was not as comfortable and the second time also the quality wasn't quite as good and here's the thing when i'm saying it's how you learn some people are trying to learn something with the opposite hand so it takes longer it feels weird and the quality is not quite as good as opposed to if you're using your dominant hand how do we know how to learn with our dominant hand as opposed to the opposite hand yeah and that's a metaphor for how we like to take in information some people like to learn by reading some people they just cannot get through a book though they have to listen to that audio or that podcast other people or watch someone lecturing it or talking exactly and so we all have different styles and it's not right or wrong now we can actually improve our ability to read we actually can improve our ability to listen and apply so if there are areas where we feel weak you know this book is a guide guidebook to be able to level up those areas so you can be more of a whole brain learner also as well but really when it comes to accelerated learning it's not again how smart you are it's how are you smart and that honors us and it takes the judgment out sometimes in school it's like the top ten percent get a's another 10 percent get b's and then 80 were like you and i it's like it's like we're it's like we're failing school as opposed to the way school maybe is failing us because school teaches you what to learn what to focus on what to think what to remember but not how to learn and how to think what teaches you how to think and learn in one way exactly exactly and when i talk about in the book i talk about the the four super villains that are holding you back in your work in your schooling in your life is driven by technology but one of them is digital deduction where we're where we're depending on technology to tell us what to think we're not even using the children right now they're finding that their reasoning abilities their ability to analyze critical thinking is not as sharp as where it should be because because of technology because technology is doing the thinking for us and our mind i'm going to say this repeatedly is like a muscle it's use it or lose it and just like when you go you have your personal trainer to make your muscles stronger more energized more flexible more pliable you know more you want your mental muscles to be stronger more energized more pliable more more flexible of course and so many people refer to me as a brain coach because what i do is i train your brain because i think we're in the millennium of the mind and it's really about mental fitness our ability to adapt our ability to think our ability to solve problems and this really is everything when people see me wearing brain shirts all the time or pointing to my brain the reason why i do that is because what you see you take care of you see your hair you take care of your hair you see your skin you take care of your skin you see your clothing take care of your clothing you don't see your brain exactly and that controls everything and so when i point to the brain or how honored with their shirts just like people have their emotions on their sleeve you know i have my brain on my chest because i want to put it forefront to remind people to love their brain to care for their brain yeah i think it's i mean that's why a lot of people uh doctors and nutritionists are talking about gut health it's like we can't see it but we can start to feel rashes or we can start to feel the effects of it it's also heart health is a big thing right now it's just like the emotional health self-care self-love you know mental health and emotional health kind of come together and i love your work because you bring that to to everybody to the world and it's all connected i talk about in the book you know there's this heart intelligence and also your your gut as you mentioned a lot of people call it your second brain it's the second highest concentration of nerve cells and so and there's and it's connected too and then sometimes what you eat affects what how you think we know that because of the guess we've had on our shows and everything else that when you eat junk food which is not it's not really a thing there's junk and then there's there's food there's sugar exactly and what you eat matters especially for your gray matter i remember in our previous episode we did years ago i showed people how to memorize the brain foods and all of the best neuroprotective area of neural nutrition it's really fascinating that your brain has different nutritional requirements than than the rest of the rest of your body but i'm going back to the limitless model there are three keys to reaching your goals and this is my distinction here because originally i remember years ago when you prompted me to write this book you're like jim you know it's been you know over two decades you got to do something put something in this book and um so because you know fundamentally i'm a reading teacher and you know somebody has decades why i love reading if somebody has decades of experience and they put it into a book like you and all of a sudden people could read that book in a few days they could download decades into days and readers are leaders we know that reading is to your mind what exercises your body it's the best mental fitness and so the limitless model as an exercise what i want everyone to do so it's not hypothetical because in part of the book i demystify the three the seven lies of learning there are seven lies that hold you back to learning and one of them is knowledge is power we hear that all the time i've even said it also as well but when we think about it is it really true right is knowledge just knowing something give you power no not unless you act on it not unless you apply it so knowledge times action equals equals power and so i would encourage everybody as you're listening to this to take immediate action and there are three questions i want you to ask as you're listening to this episode to make it very valuable and i would encourage you to write these down three master questions um you know we were talking about some of the um famous actors that i work on before we started filming and uh where will smith did the cover endorsement of the book that says you know jim quick you know it gets the maximum out of me as a human being i've learned so much from this this man just being around so many around around clients and what have you learned from will so one of the things is this this idea of we were in uh toronto and i help actors speed read scripts help them to memorize their lines faster i mean you imagine like 30 pages of scripts there's a lot of different can't remember a sentence because there's a lot right and some of them have their strategies and and no matter how great somebody is you know this because you still you make you know your life about studying and researching greatness it's they always know there's another level and they get really good at the fundamentals and the basics but one of the things when we're when we're there we spent the day together and it was winter time in toronto they were filming from 6 p.m to 6 a.m which can you imagine like so hard like overnight time that's very difficult but during the day i went we went through an exercise and i believe so in there i talk about how we have 50 to 70 000 thoughts a day right and these thoughts are controlling our lives and a lot of those thoughts are questions that we ask ourselves you know thinking is that process of asking and answering questions and if people are asking is that true notice you had to ask a question to define if it's true or not right and there's certain questions we asked more than any other question so so here's the thing i talk about dominant questions that you have one two three questions that you ask a lot and i want everyone to think about what your dominant questions are including you and i'll give you a couple examples to get you started so for example i uh one of my friends we went through this exercise of meditating and writing journaling down we found out her dominant question is how do i get people to like me how do i get people to like me now she asked that question all the time and you don't know anything about her you don't know her age you don't know her background you don't know what she does for a living you know what she looks like you know where she lives you don't know anything about her but you know a lot about her if you ask yourself how do i get people to like me hundreds of times a day what what's her personality what's her personality going to be like what's her life gonna uh well i guess it could be it could be either side of the spectrum she could be super outgoing and super adventurous to try to get people to be more attracted to her or she could be super shy and introverted because she's so worried about what people think about her yeah so that's the first thing i thought of but i'm not sure if that's true and it's absolutely true she actually does both of those things really i mean if you ask yourself how do i get people like me then what are you doing you're people pleasing all the time you're you're a sycophant um just uh saying yes to everything yeah you people take advantage of you because you're martyring yourself because they're always trying to you know they're making themselves less than or or their their personality is never consistent because their personality changes the chameleon the change for people exactly and you know all that about her and you only know one question she asks herself and that's one of her dominant questions i would i would offer everybody who's listening to this what do you think your dominant question is because questions are the answer you know this from the work that you do in high performance and greatness that the questions you ask determine what you focus on you have part of your brain called the reticular activating system ras for short and it's your filtering system so at any given time there's a billion stimuli that we could be paying attention to and primarily your brain is a deletion device it's trying to keep information out otherwise you would go crazy right if you paid attention to everything yeah so what gets in so for example years ago my my little sister started sending me emails and postcards and pictures a photograph of a very specific kind of dog it was a pug dog you know those little dogs exactly black dog yes exactly very smooshy faces they're very compliant you can dress them up as ballerinas and they don't they don't care and and she starts and i didn't know why so my question was like why is she sending me these pictures all the time that became a quite a dominant question of the day and then i realized her birthday was coming up so she's a smart marketer right planting those seeds and here's the magic though i started seeing pug dogs everywhere everywhere i would go to the grocery store i'd be checking out and i swear to you a woman's carrying a pug dog at the register i would be running and jogging in my neighborhood and somebody's walking six pug dogs now my question for everybody is where where did these pug dogs magically appear all the sudden in the world no they were always there but they were not i wasn't paying attention to them because they weren't important because i wasn't asking that question once you ask a question you start to pay attention to those things and that focus determines how you feel determines your behaviors and primarily it's so interesting it's kind of like social media there's an algorithm to your mind like there's an algorithm to facebook and instagram that what you engage with the most you like and you share you comment you start seeing more of those kind of things right and so just like your mind what you start engaging with you start watching all this news about fear and all the things that are going on you start paying attention and your mind just starts focusing automatically it becomes a a reaction a reflex and you start to attract more of the fear and anxiety or worry that's in the world that's being posted very much so you start to subscribe to whatever that is to receive more of it exactly what you're thinking about so just like on social media if you start just liking all the cat stuff and everything else they'll just start feeding you cat stuff and same thing with negativity and same thing with opportunity also as well so the questions make a difference so questions are the answers what are the two questions you've been that are dominant in your mind over the last five years the most yeah so for learning because i grew up with the broken brain many people know my my story from the last episode when they see me do these demonstrations at summit series or you know events you and i remembering a thousand per people's names right 10 minutes all of that kind of stuff i say that i don't do this to impress you i do this express to you what's possible because the truth is we could all do that and a whole lot more we just weren't taught if anything we're taught a lie that somehow our intelligence is fixed like our shoe size but i do it as a demonstration because i grew up with learning difficulties right i had my brain injury when i was five i fell i had a very bad fall when i was in kindergarten rushed to the hospital before i was curious and very energized my parents would say but then i became very shut down and my superpower growing up was being invisible it was shrinking because i didn't want the spotlight i didn't want to be called on so i was literally physiologically i was always trying to look smaller to protect myself so teachers wouldn't call on me or i wouldn't be bullied or something like that and i would do that as well except if i was just a giant in the class right around to do that it was always picked on so for me i would actually be sitting behind you and i would i would i'd be guaranteed no one would be able to see me but going back to my question my question became all the time first of all when i was nine years old i was slowing the class down and the teacher pointed to me and said that's the boy with the broken brain and that label became my limit and so we have they think about when you're listening to this what are the labels that we put on ourselves it's like we're not born we're born with a blank slate right but through experience through expectations of other people through our environment we learned that we are limited and the good news is we can unlearn it and that's that's that's the point of the book but because i was in the broken state i would always ask myself you know you know why am i why am i broken why am i the stupid one i started getting answers of why i'm so stupid right every time i did badly on a test i'd be like oh because i have the broken brain right if i was in pick in sports i'd be like oh cause i'm the broken one and that became my self-talk adults have to be very careful with their external words because they become a child's internal words but later i started to get so frustrated because i started asking getting curious and when you're curious you started to ask different questions i was like why is that person so why are they are they so smart and how come i'm studying three times harder and getting less grades than than them right and i started getting answers my primary question started my dominant question ended up being like how do i make this better but the three questions that i focus on and uh let me tell you first what wills is will smith's one of his dominant questions when we went through this exercise is how do i make this moment even more magical how do i make this moment even more magical it used to be every moment or like an hour this moment any moment like and it shows up right in his in his life because later that night when we're filming it was like two o'clock in the morning and his family we're all outside for the superhero movie that many people know of and it was really cold because it was in toronto and it was it was winter time and we're all just waiting and just waiting and waiting and waiting because people think that and you meet all these people all the time on your show and you they think it's so glamorous they're just gonna wait exactly and i ask him this question because i believe genius leaves clues i was like you know how do you how do you prepare how do you get ready when the director you're just sitting here for hours and then the director calls on you how do you get ready and he was like jim i don't have to get ready i stay ready and i'm like wow that's good to be will smith it's hard to stay ready for six hours yeah exactly but that's just who he is because i believe the life you live are the lessons you teach the life you live are the lessons you teach others going back to his dominant question his family was there also at the same time visiting the set and um you know from west philly you know you know the song yes and we're all outside and shivering and when he wasn't shooting he would he would bring us blankets he would make hot chocolate and bring it to us he would crack jokes he would live that that dominant question because the life he lives he like how do i make this moment even more magical now before it was like how do i make this moment magical then we played with it like even more magical presuming it is already magical and amazing and so these questions we ask are very important now there are three questions when i said there's turning knowledge into power that i want everyone to obsess about i mean this will make you a master okay and if you get a this is it three questions to turn knowledge into power because knowledge alone is potential power number one how can i use this when you're listening to this podcast moving forward uh every time you listen to it i want you to ask yourself how can i use this get obsessed about this like even write it down and this is where your mind can be very creative because i in here i teach the power of uh note taking because people don't realize this when you listen to a podcast or you go to you know a summit or an event or have a great conversation with somebody within two days eighty percent of it is gone we forget it they call it the forgetting curve and one of the ways to retain it is to by taking notes exactly what you're doing now i encourage people to take notes a very specific way is to take put a line right down the page and on the left side of the page i want you to take notes and on the right side i want you to make notes so on the left side of the page you're taking notes you're you're going to list the right you're capturing information yeah you're like this is how jim remembers name this is how jim reads a you know a book a day or whatever it is so you're on the left side you're capturing but on the right side you're creating now that's a subtle difference on the left side your note taking on the right side your note making what's the difference again on the left side you're taking notes you're writing down the quotes and the strategies the processes but on your right side what you're doing the right side creativity instead of your mind being distracted when you're listening have it be distracted on focused on how can i use this on the right side is where you're writing your impressions of what you're learning how can i use this another great question second dominant question i would ask is not only how can i use it can you come up with all these answers just like i see you start seeing pug dogs everywhere it's like oh this is how i could use this in my relationship this is how i could use it you know in my career second question i would ask is why must i use this why must i use this you know we know one of the people that endorsed my book he's on your show is simon cynic and you know one of my favorite books i'm going to mention a lot of books including your own start with you know his star with why yeah right and so why must i use this so once you have all these ideas of how can i use this why must i use this because if you don't have the reasons you won't get the results right you won't care enough about it exactly reasons reap results i'm gonna give a lot of people a lot of quick isms here because it goes from your head to your heart to your hands you could affirm things in your head all day set goals in your head all day but if you're not acting with your hands you're procrastinating putting things off checking with your second age which is your heart which are the emotions right because we are not logical we are biological dopamine oxytocin serotonin endorphins these this chemical soup drives us to act just like people don't buy logically they don't fall in love logically they do these things emotionally so find your emotions and in this book we do we really uncover and i decode motivation not motivation getting hyped up and dancing on chairs and then the next day not changing we figured out this formula of sustainable motivation in in this book but the second question is go back to why must i use this because if you don't have the why you won't do the what and then finally the third question first question how can i use this write all the answers down think about that second question why must i use it gives you the energy and the fuel and the drive to do it and finally when will i use this when will i use this because we know that one of the most important performance productivity tools that we have is our calendar yeah right if it's not in our calendar it just doesn't get done yeah how many people will go you put doctor's appointments there you put you know pta meetings you put meetings with your investor there but are you are you scheduling your real your workout are you scheduling your meditation time are you scheduling your journal or your white space just so you can be a creative thinker and if we don't write it down it comes at the end and then you just you know you never get to it and so those are the three dominant questions that you want to ask to take knowledge and turn them into power so as you're going through this ask those questions you'll get better answers and you'll learn it deeper it'll deepen into your nervous system so much more hey it's lewis here and i would love to connect directly with you text me the word youtube to my number 614-350-3960 to receive weekly inspirational messages from me people when they see me do these demos where i memorize a room full of people's names or numbers like you mentioned or lots of words i tell people i don't do this to impress you i do this more to really express to you what's really possible because anyone could do this because we've been we've been told we've been told a lie that our memory our intelligence our genius is fixed kind of like our shoe size and through my experience of doing this for the past two decades nothing could be further from the truth you know people have unbelievable gifts inside them they're just not shown how i always thought it was interesting that school would teach us like what to learn like those subjects an important math and history and science and spanish the what to learn but not never on how to learn you know how to focus how to concentrate how to be creative how to think for yourself how to read faster how to remember things like maybe it should have been the fourth r remember reading writing arithmetic but also recall because there is no learning without remembering and socrates said that but how i got started on this is i actually grew up with learning challenges and a lot of people don't know that but when i was in kindergarten i had a really bad accident and i had a head injury and it left me feeling like i was broken that my brain didn't work and i had these focus issues i couldn't remember things and it took me extra two years to learn how to read and i struggled you know privately and then also publicly and you know when you're that age you you know you get very self-conscious sure you know you become very introverted very shy you don't want to connect with people because you feel like there's something wrong with you and so that was that was my academic life you know i just worked so much harder and i don't know if people watching this can relate but just you know struggling with overwhelm or overload too much to learn too little time and it stresses you out and you're like why can't i do this why is everyone else succeeding so much faster and i have to do you know all this like not even fair right and that's that's what happened wow so that that's kind of early on made you want to then master it since you were having such articles i mean i think our struggles really could be some strengths and you know this of course you know like you know when challenge you know with these kind of challenges come change you know and problems become you know help you progress and so when i got to college i remember first freshman year in college i wanted to start fresh and i thought that i could really make my family proud because they sacrificed a lot and but i was doing so poorly and i took all these classes and i thought i would do better and have a clean slate but i actually did worse and and i remember i wanted to quit school and at that time you'd appreciate this a friend asked me to uh to come visit him and his family out on the west coast because i was on the east coast and he was like i go out there i was like yeah i'll just take a weekend get a little space from school because i was thinking about quitting and when i get there the family is extremely successful and i don't just mean financial they had an amazing home on the water but they were happy you know they were they were givers they were learning all the time and um and the father before dinner asked me these kind of questions we were walking on his property and he asked the kind of questions you would ask somebody who just started college like how school and you know that kind of stuff right and i was i broke down crying i was like you know and to a stranger i just met like you know 10 minutes ago i said i'm ready to quit school is just not for me i'm not the one who's not smart enough and he's like well why are you in school you know what do you want to be what do you want to do what do you want to share if you will and um it's funny when people when you're not asked a question in life you know it takes a moment to pause to come up with an answer you know what i mean like when you're asking questions and no one's ever asked me those questions before and when i started to answer he paused he said wait and he takes out out of his back pocket i swear to you like a journal and like a diary and i always thought like 12 year old girls carry diaries diaries and he makes me tears out a couple pieces of paper and it makes me write down all the goals like of what i wanted to do in my life and i've never something very powerful about taking pen to paper and just writing like those dreams your aspirations down and after maybe 20 30 minutes he asked me if i'm done and i maybe have 40 50 things there which is like a bucket list it was before i knew what a bucket list was and i start folding the sheets of paper thinking i'm done with the exercise put it back in my pocket and he grabs him from me and i was like i freaked out because like on that was like like everything yeah exactly and i don't even know who this guy is and he's very successful and he starts to just read it and i'm so intimidating no in his mind and i and i feel this small because everything i just i didn't know somebody was going to look at it right and he looks at it and he says jim and i don't know what he was going to say because this guy's very successful he says jim you are this close to everything on that list and i'm just thinking there's no way how could it give me 10 lifetimes i couldn't put a dent on that list and then he goes like this oh yeah and he says like like as if this was you know the key here and he takes me into his home and it's this beautiful home he takes me into a room i've never seen before and it's wall-to-wall ceiling to floor covered in books i mean i've never seen like a library in somebody's house before and he starts grabbing these books you love this he starts grabbing books and starts handing them to me and starts to pile up really really really high and when i start looking at the titles because i'm curious there are these biographies of amazing men and women in history and some really early personal development books like napoleon hill you know thinking we're rich and power positive thinking norman vincent peale and you know psycho-cybernetics and all these but i'm just like and then i kind of get an inkling of what he wants me to do with these books and he asked me to read like one of these books a week and i'm just thinking and i say to them there's just no way i just told you i have all this school work and you're what 19 now i'm 18 years old yeah i'm like there's no way i have all these i can't even finish one book i have these reading challenges and i have these learning challenges and i have all this schoolwork and he was like jim he said he looked at me right now i said jim don't let school get in the way of your education and i didn't even realize that's a mark twain quote but this is like you know a couple days ago i'm just thinking wow and it hit me like that but still i'm like you know what i still can't do this because i have all this work i need to study and then he you know he does he takes out that list which he still has in his possession my dream list my bucket list and then he starts reading it out loud every single thing line by line and i get chills thinking about it because there's something about watching a man who you just met who's you know very one of the most successful people that you've met and he's enchanting and putting it out to universe out loud you know your dreams sure you know and it's very unnerving and honestly it was a lot of stuff that was on that list and i think about it it was things that i wanted to do for my family you know these are all things that my family you know because i mentioned they sacrificed a lot like of a lot of hard-working people do and uh and i want to do things for them that they couldn't do for themselves so with that leverage it commits i commit to reading one book a week and then i go from that i go back to school and now i have all this pile of stuff that i need to learn and then a pile of stuff that i want to learn and that puts me over the edge because in order to keep up i have to sacrifice the things that you know are important to you that your sleep things like eating things like working out things like relationships and so no one sees me i'm just in the library all the time i don't sleep i don't eat and you know that's a recipe for like you know disaster it is and how it came up how it showed up was i was at the library and my body actually it's the scariest time of my life it actually just gave out like like the battery just ran out and i just passed out and i fell down a flight of stairs i hit my head again and i woke up in the hospital two full days later whoa and i was down to i was hooked up to these ivs because i was malnourished dehydrated i was down to 117 pounds wow and i thought i died and uh when i had that thought i was thinking you know what's going on here you know because i was ready to check out like check out a school check out check out check it out and i was just like because i just i was just like i'm total failure i can't do any of this you know and then when i was thinking about it i was just the nurse came in and she had the answer in the form of a mug of tea and this is a true story she gave me a mug of tea of like green tea and it has a picture of a pretty smart guy this is albert einstein and there's a saying on there that you've heard a hundred times it said the same level of thinking that's created the problem won't solve the problem the same level thinking that's created the problem won't solve the problem and it made me think just you know power questions could you bring that to you can say hey here's the answer or was it just it was just part of that yeah yeah and it's funny when you put things out in the universe you know ask a new question you get a new answer and maybe say well what's my problem and i was like you know my problem is i'm a really slow learner that's what i came up with i was just like i'm a really slow learner was that your problem or was that your story that was my that was definitely my story and my perceived problem right and so and i was owning it too because i was fighting no one could tell me different because i was fighting my limp from like limitations right right and so i got to keep them and it became true every day yeah and i was really and you know i had this whole story on this brain injury and everything but i was like well if my problem is i'm a slow learner how do i think differently about it and i was like well you know how do i learn how to be a faster learner and then i thought about school and i was like no school doesn't teach you those things much like you know school doesn't teach you a lot of things like things are the most important right a lot of things that you have in you know in in in your podcast right the things that are just you know move the needle in people's lives in terms of their joy and their health their relationships their success finances everything most important things yeah and so and this is not like a diss on schools i mean i think they're they're my mother's school teacher my aunt's a professor i mean the teachers worked so hard right it's just the system itself is a challenge you know because if you're stress people watching this and they're stressed they're overload there's too much that people keep up with it's not their fault it's because we all grew up with a 20th century education yeah that prepared us for a world that doesn't exist anymore that 20th century world of working in factories and working on farms doing manual labor you know like you know because the school system back then which is now it's like one size fits all assembly line cookie cutter don't talk to your neighbor sit quietly by yourself that doesn't work in the digital age anymore you know so right now like you know when we're talking about the brain how important the brain is you know we're not paid for our brood strength we're paid for our brain strength we're not paid for our muscle power it's really our mind power you know and so the challenge is is where you know your brain is this unbelievable super computer but it doesn't come with an owner's manual you know it's not always user friendly either right and so when i got out of that hospital bed i decided to study this subject called learning like learning how to learn i started to pick up every single book i could on brain science adult learning theory multiple intelligences focus and concentration you know things really works by you know like on flow and stuff like that and in a very short period of time 60 days i swear to you it was like a light switch just went on and i started to understand things for the first time wow i mean i would sit in class and actually because i can't tell you growing up when someone's talking to you and not understanding it doesn't make sense you're not making the connection things there and then also you're focusing also you're remembering things i started reading faster and i started getting like better grades and less time and it started transforming my life and the reason i teach this to this day because it's two decades later is after you have that kind of like awakening you can't help like with what you do share that greatness with other people and one of my very first students i'll never forget she's 18 years old a freshman she i teach a speed reading program to teach anyone to read two or three times faster with better comprehension but she struggled for a few days and then that same light switch went on and she ended up reading 30 books in 30 days whoa yeah i mean can you imagine like what books you would read if you go to amazon right now pick out 30 books and know in 30 days you like you own that information as well as like those authors sure now what is it you know i've always this is my story i've always had a hard time comprehending and staying focused in books now half of it it's probably i'm just not interested in the topic or the book or it's not well written but what are some things that people can do just you know right away uh to increase their comprehension and just speed it up a little bit so that they are able to stay focused long enough throughout the book it's it's amazing what people could do because here's um here's part of it it's like motivation plays a big role first of all like you've mentioned like things that you're interested in like this this girl i wanted to ask not how she did it but i want to know why she read 30 books in 30 days and i find out that she paused and she eventually told me it's because her mother was dying of terminal cancer and was given 60 days to live and the book she was reading were books to be able to save her mother's life wow yeah how about motivation she got chills wow i i i i don't it's hard for me to even talk about because my memory is so clear of these events and not just because i'm a memory expert it's just it takes me back because i at that time i'm 18 i just wished her luck i'll say prayers and said you know but what do you do and then six months later i get a call from this young lady and she's crying and crying crying for minutes and i find out that they're tears of joy and i find out that her mother not only survive but her mother's really starting to improve doctors don't know why or how the doctors actually call it a miracle but her mother attributes it 100 to the great advice she got from her daughter who learned it from all these books i mean whoa and those kind of things that's why i really went into my body that you know the right that learning that if knowledge is power learning is a superpower [Music] life is the sea between the b and the d life is the c between the b and the d and people listening thinking this guy speaks in tongues says he's like okay i'll give you a hint what's the be a d b is birth oh and d is down so what's life is the c choice wow like let that sink in life is a c between the b and the d and c is choice life is all about choices because we are you are sitting here right now the sum total of all the choices you've made that's true that's true and i'm saying like everyone you know who you're gonna who you're gonna date are you gonna break it up yeah where are you gonna live isn't it crazy that you could be you know you could be making all the right choices your entire life and make one wrong choice and set you in a prison or make you go bankrupt or whatever or you don't want to blame the opposite right you can make all the wrong choices and make one right choice to set you on a path of greatness because one step if you're going this way here to here and you take one step in another direction it completely changes your destination and your destiny so the good news is yeah you could make one choice that takes you off of tangent but one choice for the right about who you're gonna spend time with what are you gonna eat today you know whether you're gonna move today if you're gonna listen to this podcast if you're going to look at if you're going to focus on crisis and and all the the terrible things in life are you going to focus on like wow how people are stepping up and how they're doing other things but the second thing i learned besides out of my sleep doubling down on skills and capabilities you know i always tell people don't downgrade your dreams to fit your current reality upgrade your mindset your motivation your methodology to really meet your your your destiny the things that you want most in life how important are skills so important acquiring new skills at any level absolutely critical absolutely critical even coming back to the second gift i got from lack of sleep the second gift besides doubling down on all my skills was protecting my time okay so here's something when you have a finite amount of energy and you only slept two hours or three hours or four hours last night you don't over commit and i find one of the things that drains energy from people that makes them stressed out of their mind is they are saying yes to way too many things and when you lack sleep every single day and you're exhausted you only do the things that you're supposed to do meaning that you don't have the luxury of saying like right now there's nowhere else i'd rather be no one else i'd rather be with than right here with you and there's a power in that so whether i got three hours of sleep last night or got off a plane last night or i'm still doing this with focus with energy it's because i made the decision to do this and everything as you've heard everything is like heaven yes or heaven no right like if you don't feel completely like yes yeah then you say no and here's the thing a lot of people feel they're burnt out because they're doing too much i don't think you're burnt out because most people are burnt out because you're doing too much i think you're doing too little of the things that make you feel alive you're doing too little of the things that really matter in your life and saying you're saying yes to things that don't matter exactly so the second gift i got out of years of not sleeping was you said no to everything yeah exactly and i only do the things that are important because one of the lessons i got from spending time with elderly because i lost my grandmother and i spent all the time in senior centers and nursing homes and training them and helping with them the gift i got back i always get a gift back from working with anybody is i heard stories and so much wisdom of generations that have gone through you know like real hardship right i mean our lives compared to theirs is you know now is it's there's no comparison but one of the things i do hear because i do believe genius leaves clues and when so when somebody asks me what's the definition of genius i don't think it's iq it's not this number that you test at eight years old and that's your number when you're 88 years old you know i demystify you know iq and everything else in this book that everybody can learn to be better in all these areas interpersonally you know with their focus with their memory everything one of the things that i that i've learned is that um with working with these seniors is that you know there's a lot of a regret at that place when you're at when you're taking your final breaths you know my definition of genius is pattern recognition that you could see patterns like you know someone who's you know a genius at greatness you see patterns and what you know everybody who sits across from you you see like they're doing certain similar things certain habits certain mindsets certain certain drives or they're eating a certain way there's a commonality with that so i believe genius leaves clues and geniuses can be built not born and that's a big part of part of my training but the other thing i learned from these these seniors is these regrets they come out and the biggest regret always is that somehow they lessened or limited their life because of other people's expectations because they were fearful of other people's opinions about them they didn't date that person or marry a person because of what society would think or they started a career because their parents wanted them and expected them to do that and and i'm here to remind everyone it's not a pleasant conversation but you know when we're thinking about our mortality and you know one of the things that was the impetus for this book was you know i was i had like a near-death experience like in a car accident and it made me think about legacy and ask a new question like i was like wow i'm gonna get this book out because shame on me if somebody's struggling and suffering the way i was with distraction with memory loss with overload overwhelm not feeling good about themselves and i didn't help them so i feel like what gets me on stage even if i am an introvert and shy is that i'm focusing on on them right right and that's that's my focus but the regret people have when you're taking your final breaths at the end of our life none of other people's opinions and expectations will matter what will matter none of our fears will matter what will matter is how we lived how we laughed how we learned how we loved you know that that's really what's going to matter and one of my mentors dr stephen covey another great book seven habits of highly effective people one of the habits of the most highly effective people is begin with the end in mind you know and then the ultimate end is like when we're you know when we're passing because when you think about being in that box that coffin there's no room in there for possessions and i'm all for people having toys and everything else like that but there's not you can't take that with you and in that coffin there's no room for regret you know one of the things i learned from jim carrey and i'm dropping a number of names and the reason why is because when you see their movies you see you know sonic hedgehog or you watch another will smooth it reminds you of the lessons it triggers so that's how human memory works i was spending the day with him and he was like you know jim i want to get really smart before filming dumb and dumber i'm like that's that's that's ironic but that's really you know to play dumb you have to be really smart to do that right and so i spent the day with him at his home and we take a brain break a long time ago yeah it was when we were at his home we were taking a brain break and we make all these brain foods during lunch and i wanted to know motivation again i want to get into this model about motivation because i'm always curious what drives people and i found out i was like why do you do what you do and he was like jim he was like i act like a complete fool on camera so extreme because i want to give people watching permission to be themselves he's like my religion is to free people from the concern of others because that's what limits us and isn't that interesting how adults what keeps us limited are sometimes the expectation it puts us in a box right we don't want to look bad we don't want to make a mistake and yet children are really they have this limitless mentality right where they can do anything you don't look at a child you know for people who have children they're learning to walk or talk how many times do they fall thousands yeah exactly and never after the 500th time they fall do they say okay sometimes for me yeah exactly i'm not going to walk that's not right but as adults they take a spanish lesson once and we still exactly they take a salsa lesson yeah and they're like okay this is not for me too and i always encourage people to at least you i'm telling you we have one life to be able to figure this out so you try new things the brain thrives on novelty right to build your brain cells two things just like your body novelty and nutrition and obviously rest and sleep novelty you give it stimulus you work it out and then you give it nutrition to feed that muscle same thing with your mental muscles to create neuroplasticity right you all you need to give is novelty you learn something new every single day and then you feed it the right nutrition so it can build but i would recommend everybody try something at least three times if you feel called to it i challenge everyone watching this and even post it on social media tag us both because i'll repost our favorite try things three times number one to get over the fear of it yes right number two like you know karaoke or you know be doing stand-up or something just to get over the fear of it number two just to get a little competent at it get get good at it and then try it a third time to see if you like it or not because we don't really find our passions like we have to put ourselves out there right and give ourselves stimulus just like with kids you know we have a whole we have a bonus chapter on how to be limited raise limitless children but part of it is giving them enough opportunity by giving them stimulus to see what they get drawn to and what they want to be able to develop but my other thing with with sleep is i just got obsessed about you know like how do i honor my time and how do i say no so i could say yes to the great things right good degrade i'm going to recommend a lot of books right because we have a book a week club because we teach you know this three the speed reading program one book a week will change your life 52 books a year leaders leaders are readers but yeah good to great say no to good so you can say yes to great and again i really feel like say yes to great by saying no to a lot of things exactly because here's the thing especially for self-care a lot of people think that self-care is limited to bodywork and meditation part of self-care and self-love is when you say no and when you say yes to somebody or something make sure you're not saying no to yourself i really want this to sink in for people that part of self-care is when you say yes to somebody or something that you're not saying no to yourself right right part of self-care is putting boundaries and borders on your time borders and boundaries on your heart and your emotions and everything because that it's so important and part of self-care is also self-love you talk about this so much right when you and i have conversations about you know about your previous books and everything it's just you know how can we fall in love with that person in the mirror who's been through so much but is still standing right because i feel like no external source of love is going to match what your soul needs from yourself yeah right yeah i this is i mean i've wanted to stop you nonstop for 20 minutes but it's also good i wanted to go back to the choices we make you know you we talk about choices you talk about habits mindset habits physical habits in here with food the way you think all these different things i really believe that habits allow us to make better choices automatically as opposed to should i make this choice today yes or no should i make that choice you know every day we have the opportunity to make different decisions and habits keep us on the right path to making better decisions and choices every day the mindset and you're you know you've got mindset motivation and methods which is your whole limitless mindset process the mindset will keep you on the right path the skills for whatever reason skills i think is one of the most important things more than habits in a sense because when you acquire new skills you become bulletproof limitless to any economic downturn to enemy breakup in a relationship to any career change you become limitless when you have a tool belt of skills at your disposal and it takes courage to create new skills and it takes learning how to learn to get a lot of skills because it takes time to master a skill if you don't know how to learn the right way and i've learned all the wrong ways over the years and found out for me that learning the right way is throwing myself in immersion of it yeah within three months going all in physically tangibly feeling it emotionally connected to it getting messy for me that's what works for me and when you have the skill you have it for life yeah you know it's like you learn how to ride a bike it might take you a few weeks it might take you a month of falling a bunch of times but i haven't been on a bike in years but i know i can go back on it maybe i'm not as fast as i used to be or maybe i don't have as much control or maneuverability but i'm 89 of the way there yeah same thing with salsa dancing i learned it it took me three and a half months of misery of embarrassment of fear anxiety of stepping on girls toes constantly but now i can go anywhere in the world not speak the language of the community but i can speak the language of salsa and i have it and i have that skill set where i feel motivated to put myself out there so yeah same thing with public speaking you know when you mastered it it's like now you can go into a room and even if you're not prepared for the speech you know you can do a pretty good job yeah someone said hey jim come up here and teach us something for 15 minutes and you've got the skill set yeah and i think that gives us confidence that gives us self belief with the more skills we have you speak more into that the power of learning and you know not just having knowledge but being able to learn yeah why is that a superpower i i think that if there's one skill to master in the 21st century it's the ability to learn rapidly it's you know what it is they call it in the military a forced multiplier a force multiplier is like um input goes in but you get exponential output from it it's like optimism being positive as a force multiplier sure right you know and colin powell said that and so certain things like learning how to learn like meta learning or improving your memory improves everything it improves your business improves like you know you can remember people's names you can remember sales presentations you could remember things about it people because like for example it's hard to show somebody for people who are watching this they're entrepreneurs right and they're wearing a business development hat you know it's really hard to show someone you're going to care for their business their future their family their health their fitness whatever you're selling them if you don't care enough just to remember things like their name their name you know or something or their or their kid's name or their birthday you know so that's memories of multiplier there a memories of multiplier in their relationships you know like relationships just remembering those those moments you know like you know not even just remembering anniversaries remembering to take off the garbage that kind of stuff but remembering you know the first time you and your loved one you know took that walk on that beat you know what i mean those kind of moments that make everything worthwhile yeah but it's it's wonderful for every area so yeah i do believe that two of the most costly words in business for example or i forgot you know i forgot to do it i forgot to bring it i forgot the meaning i forgot your name it's the worst like you could you could forgetting someone's name and i've seen this time and time again it could hurt a relationship it could kill deals i've had people call someone by the wrong name and they've lost multiple million dollar deals just on that i've had people email me and use a different name in my email right and it's frustrating i'm just like if you don't even if you're trying to reach out to me and you use mark because you weren't even paying attention you weren't present it leaves a bad taste in people's mouths you know i know i'm not perfect i've forgotten people's names and i've probably said the wrong name at times so uh you know what are some things people can do to remember names yeah okay so there are there are three keys for improving your memory three keys right so if you're ever forgetting something you forget things you feel absent-minded like senior moments are coming a little bit early you're you're in the shower you can't remember if you shampooed your hair you know so you end up doing it twice you misplaced your wallet your phone your keys or your car you know you see the people like where did i park my car yeah you know these kind of and they waste a lot of time too and they take away you know all the treasures and i don't mean just financial treasures i mean just the important things you know in our life but there's three keys and remember mom m-o-m always remember mom so if you're ever forgetting something usually one of those three things you're missing all right so let's take names because when people say i want a better memory i i hear them say like oh i want to be better at sports you know because you're just you're such an athlete but it's like somebody comes like like well what sport specifically do you want to be better at because you they're different techniques and different training for different things so remembering names different than learning languages different pin numbers and passcodes and all the different things everything's different everything's different okay and so there's certain principles that are the same so the m in mom is this let's say someone has horrible names right but let's say that there's a suitcase of a hundred thousand dollars cash if you just remember the name of the next stranger you meet how many people are gonna remember that person's name i don't remember everyone right everyone and so that's the thing the m stands for motivation so it's interesting so all of a sudden everyone's a memory expert but it had nothing to do with their capacity or their potential everyone could do it it's just whether they decided to do or not if they wanted to it's al it's almost like if it's worth it enough or the consequences are uh you know that big or the strengths are that big if you're gonna miss out on i'm not right it's like the motivation exactly because because one of the things to learning we know with human motivation because i did this presentation and bill gates was there like and we're talking about wealthy individuals right and so you know he i afterwards i talked to him and i was talking about the the bridge between education and technology and i was like what's missing with the future of learning and he was like jim you know the key is is human motivation really understanding what drives people i was like wow you know that's really right because you know this people go out there and they can buy courses you know but a lot of people never open it exactly because it has everything to do with drive and reasons because motivation is like you know like what is your motive for acting sure right what's the fuel and i believe there's a success formula called h cubed that it goes from your head to your heart to your hands the people could visualize and affirm and and see things here all the time and think about it but if they're not acting with their hands you know actually doing something about it then usually what's missing is the second age which is the heart the emotion the energy of motion i had a martial arts instructor to tell me years ago you can't steer a parked car you know you need fuel you know where's the energy that's going to do that and so with people's motor fractures so simple when people are remembering people's names ask yourself why do you want to remember this person's name because reasons reap results i've always found that in life reasons reap results because you need a big enough why sure you know like simon sinek's book you know start with why yeah and so you want to get that drive first all right so motivation the o is something interesting you know i i have people do this i have them just kind of shake out their hand like this and i say make a fist and i say put it to her chin and then i go like this and everyone puts it here but i said chin and this is the difference the o stands for observation and i find that a lot of people blame their memory issues and they think it's like a retention issue but i find it's really a attention issue okay it's an attention issue present you mean or it is that that's a big part of it it's like you know let's say everyone uses a search engine like google every single day but a lot of people they use it 10 times a day if i ask them are you willing to bet your life you know what colors the letters are because that's that's an observation sure you know there's a difference between looking at something and seeing it really seeing it there's difference between hearing something and really listening you know like leaders like for example um i had this whole escapade with the x-men which was insane but i had to leave the this set because uh there i had to go to a charity event and one of the people that i think leaders the independent of your political bent who has an incredible memory is president clinton every single time i've met president clinton he's remembered my name no way he does and how many people does he says hey jim how many people does clinton meet on a regular basis right and so that's a leadership skill though right and so fdr was incredible with names also he would walk around the white house and point people out and say hi to them say saying hi to their spouse and using by name i mean that's because think about the sweetest sound of a person's ears right it's their name right inside so anyway i asked him what's memory trick he uses he uses no memory tricks at all and he tells me this you know this amazing story yes and so he tells me this incredible story about how you know his grandfather you know in arkansas he would get all the kids around tell stories to them but then he would quiz them they'd really need to listen and be present and it's funny because i noticed that like he's bill clinton is in regardless of where how you feel politically incredible communicator incredible charisma incredible connector right and he also this memory i find he has his incredible presence this powerful presence but i find that his powerful presence and his memory comes from being powerfully present his powerful presence comes from being powerfully present and here's the thing when people are networking because i know a lot of people there's they're entrepreneurs they're social entrepreneurs and millennials and they're going out there meeting people because really it's it's what you know and it's who you know but that's all memory what you know a lot of people go to a seminar two days later they'll forget everything yeah right 80 they're specific for getting her but also who you know and who knows you right but what the challenge is they'll be networking and how many times do you find yourself talking to somebody and then looking over their shoulder i hate that yeah i hear when people do that it's like annoying because you're distracting yourself all the time or if you're not just dragging yourself externally you're like talking to yourself what am i going to say next exactly so the people aren't even listening now this is so key when people are communicating most of the times you find that they're not even really listening what they are is they're thinking about how they're going to respond oh yeah you know and if you look at the word listen and you scramble the letters it becomes the word silent no yeah isn't that crazy if people would just do that and i'm and we're talking about really fundamental things that's one of the things reasons you know i love your podcast is because some of these basics those are the biggest things that move the needle i mean just understanding why you want to remember something and being present and paying attention and being silent and really listening i mean that's not magic but that's just like going to the gym right we think about the fundamentals we're talking about exercise we're talking about sleep we're talking about you know a good diet yeah that's like that's right yeah the mindset that's that's 95 of it right there yeah that's incredible and then finally the third m is is mechanics okay you know for mom so m is is motivation the o is observation and then the final m is mechanics and these are not the person that's going to fix your car but this is the tips the techniques the the hacks if you will the strategies on how to learn a language how to speed read how to remember that person's name how to give a speech without notes right but the m and the o motivation observation so what's the mechanics then for uh you know say i'm going to an event and there's 10 people that someone's introducing me to and i'm yeah shaking their hand we've all done this before it's like hi hi hi hi what's the mechanics remember i mean we've all the experience so relationship is all proximity and it's all who you know right yeah and who knows you back yeah right and one of the most stand out skills that i know of is walk into a room meeting 20 strangers and leaving saying goodbye to every single one of them with their names can you do that because because who because who are they all going to remember when you walk around that's that's a standout skill that's the thing that because when you remember people's name they feel like that you care because what's the opposite if you forget someone's name how do they feel don't care that you don't care that they're not important and you know this is what i've been uh you know thinking my whole life because i've never felt like i've had the book smarts yeah but i felt like i've cared more than you know 99 of people yeah and uh i feel like that's what's been able to get me to where i want to be by showing people how big my heart is as opposed to how much i know yes and i think that's could be the most powerful thing is like remembering and just being connected to people as opposed to telling them what you know and that's huge too because a lot of people a lot of traditional networking or business advice would be like oh you have to you know when you're going to people tell them all these amazing stories and and really be interesting to them i think there's a difference between interesting and interested do you know what i mean when you meet somebody being interesting and talk about oh i can do this and then also being interested sincerely interested people love every person when they get to share yes and you listen yes when you just allow people to share their story and what they're excited about and you remember their name you don't have to say anything and they feel like you're the best person in the world completely right yeah the late uh stephen covey who had an opportunity to to spend a good amount of time with and share stage with he has that you know seek first to understand then to be understood i mean that that's huge that's huge this is what you want to do every time you want to go you go to a wedding you go to a conference you go to a networking event seven tips you don't even have to use all seven just any part of this will be better than nothing okay all right i want you to remember be suave be suave like you are so i live my life so when you're people are going out and they're they're they're checking the mirror on their makeup and their their their clothing when they say i'm gonna be suave so the b stands for believe because you know this better than anyone you know believe you can or believe you can't either right you're right right and so here's the thing with beliefs what i mean by that is you want to kill the ants you know our friend dr daniel amen the big brain doctor talks about killing ants automatic negative thoughts because here's the thing like um you know with the name like quick i had to be a runner growing up you know like i always tell people my gym quick quick learning how people learn quickly and they're like quick really is my last name yeah it's really my last name because with like a name like quick your life and destiny was pretty much planned out i'd be a runner back in school i have to i have to be careful when i'm driving because the worst name that you pulled over when you're speeding a little quicker yeah it's like you want to have that on your life since you're not going to talk your way on that ticket yeah and i get to teach speed learning you know speed reading speed memory and stuff are you a distance runner or sprinter uh sprinter so so i was i was preparing for a marathon and i was really excited about i was of course reading books on it and stuff like that because i read a book a day and i just have to learn it i was like oh it's like matrix scott style and everything i go to like barnes noble i'll pick up a book and then just read it put it back on the shelf and save a lot of money that way um but i was reading this book on running marathon and there's one chapter on the psychology running a marathon and that's what was really interesting the mindset and it opened up with this paragraph verbatim because i'm a memory expert it said this your mind is like a super computer and your self-talk is the program it will run so if you tell yourself you are not good with names you will not remember the name of next person you meet because you programmed your computer not to i was like wow powerful so b for b suave the b stands for believe believe you can believe you can't either way you're right because here's the thing that i've learned and here's the tweetable if you will is your mind is always eavesdropping on your self-talk your mind is always ease dropping from your power on your self-talk so you want to monitor that so i encourage everyone to spend a week do a 30-day fast no negative thoughts or you have to regroup right so that's the b the e and b swap stands for exercise and i don't mean physical exercise although people who are more physically active will always do better on mental acuity memory exams because anything that's good for your heart is really good for your head right but i mean practice because practice makes progress practice makes progress it always does and so the bad news to remember names it takes effort the good news not as much as people think so bad news takes effort but any what's what's not valuable in your life that does that doesn't take effort sure right and so there's no magic pill like there's no magic memory pill but there is a magic memory process and that's what we're talking about there's no magic memory pill there is a memory process and so the e is exercise and so it takes about 21 to 30 days you know we learned in psychology the law of 21 practicing something for 21 30 days whether it's learning how to type or learning how to drive a car or what have you until you get to be second nature with it so you practice and where can you practice everywhere right just anytime you're flipping through the channels and people get introduced you're meeting people all the time you can practice all the time sure and so it doesn't take that much exactly you could go to the grocery store and see three strangers and just make up their name that's bob that's sue that's mary and then when you leave like you check out and you're at the bottom yeah and then so that's the thing that's the difference right tony robbins talks about what you practice in private you're rewarded for in public you know so that that's what you do you practice so that's the e in b so b e um so b is believe e is exercise now the suave is the actual mechanics all right so the s in suave when you're meeting for this person for the first time the s is you say the name right you say the name so hi my name is jim hey louis louis it's nice to meet you good to meet you good to meet you too man if i was any better my name was my name would be louis house that's the video that's my stupid um so so here so i'll say the name right away and just by hearing the name again helps me so now i heard it twice one from you one for me all of a sudden i'm going to remember it better my retention is going to go up i also want to say it because i want to make sure going back to mom the o i want to make sure i observed it correctly sometimes you're networking a lot of things going on you meet someone named ted you say goodbye ed you know better get corrected up front than later on right so you say the name the u and swabs means use it you want to use the name very simple right you want to use it not abuse it but just you know because louis thanks for coming lewis what do you want to talk about lewis is then it gets creepy right that's like a science salesman right it's like sales exactly it's try hard and it's like a seinfeld episode where like the close talker you know or there was actually a seinfeld episode i haven't thought about this in years wasn't there a seinfeld episode uh like a rerun you might have seen that he was dating somebody and was intimate with her but he actually forgot her name and every single time she would leave you to try to go into her purse and get her driver's license and and meet kramer and try to get the name to come out but here's the thing it rhymed with the part of the female anatomy and that was the famous that was the famous episode uh if you remember people watching us remember what that is um so you want to make sure that you use it three or four times in the conversation the a stands for ask and this is a really big one ask because what's everyone's favorite subject it's like it's not travel it's not entrepreneurship it's not even you know it's not shopping it's themselves right and you ever meet somebody and their name is a little different than you're used to like you've never heard that name before you know probably eighty percent of the people you meet you know lewis and jim they're pretty pretty common names sometimes you meet someone named afsal or ridiger or isis or what have you you know then you ask about a person's name and what can you ask about a person's name you know you could ask like how do you spell it what does it mean what does it mean what does it stand for who you're named after related to this person you know all these questions and you know for the most part everyone gets very complimented because the name and again is a sweetest sound to a person's ears right and think about why though like the psychology of it you know a child what's one of the first words they learned how to write their name how much exactly how much how much love were they given when they did it right you know all that emotion tied into like because i think you know one of the challenges people have like one of the biggest fears people have is not being good enough you know that we're not good enough and if we're not good enough we're not going to be loved if we're not gonna be loved you know we're not gonna be we're gonna die or something you know and so but that name is like our identity right so you always want to be able to refer this you ask about a person's name and they're complimented so like for example i was uh speaking at the country's largest life insurance company about 100 people in the room training director was there and her name was nankita and kita and i was like wow that's a really beautiful name sincerely right yeah and so i was like you know you know how is it where is it from i said what does it mean and she paused and she looked at every all her co-workers and she says it means graceful falling waters and i was like whoa and i got like chills and then you know like half the audience was like making these sounds and it made me just spontaneously ask you know how long have you worked here you know uh she was like about four years i was like with all these people she was like yeah you know like a lot of people my good friends are in my wedding it's like that's nice how many people in this room knew that's what her name meant and i have a hundred people how many people raised their hand zero none none and that was one of my biggest clients because this was refreshing me as a training director and so brought me into all but that name was a bond right so that was sincere interest so you ask about a person's name okay and then finally the v and the e and suave the v is visualize visualize and this is really simple memory tip where we tend to remember more what we see than what we hear right you go to somebody it's like like their face you know i remember your face but i forgot your name you never go to someone say hey i remember your name but i forgot your face i so you remember what you see in fact there's a chinese proverb that goes what i hear i forget what i see i remember and what i do i understand what i hear i forget i heard the name i forgot the name what i see i remember i saw the face i remember the face what i do going back to exercise and practice i understand right and so if you tend to remember what you see then try seeing what you want to remember so this is the trick that uh you meet somebody you take their name and you turn it into a picture so let's say you meet someone named mike and then for a split second you imagine them taking a microphone singing karaoke on the table top right you meet someone named carol and you imagine so you sing christmas carols right you meet someone named mary and imagine she's carrying these little lambs you know around and you do this in the privacy of your own mind right and people say well that's so childish who are the fastest learners on the planet children children how fast can they learn a musical instrument compared to how fast can they learn like languages like that right so children that they do that they're playful they they make fun of people's names right you know they could you know kids could be in therapy for 10 years because their name was maybe fun and they don't even know right so that's what you want to do you want to take someone's name turn into a picture so a person's name is david i use a slingshot for david and goliath you know someone named bob i imagine them bobbing for apples just something very see because here's the thing there's something called i call the six second syndrome the six second syndrome is someone tells you their name you have six seconds to do something with that otherwise it's gone gone it's gone that's it if you don't practice it daily right you've got to lose it exactly and so here at least you're focusing on the person and your focusing name so a person's name is john you could picture whatever do you remember what you used for me when we met when we first met so here's yes so yeah yeah so everybody has their their their own thing like that is so funny is like i use okay so you come up with a picture that works for yourself so when we met i actually use it's a slinky and i don't don't ask why because it doesn't sound like it or anything like that but one of my best friends growing up as a kid was lewis okay and all he would do is play with this slinky like this little toy this iron man all the time so i just think about him every single time i think about that so when i saw that i just picture it and i just remember now after you remember the person then the pictures just disappear but you need something just to hold it for six seconds and then you have it right and it's using the other part of reason why it works is that left print part of your brain does logic and words and sounds and we'll talk about this with speed reading that that's only using part of your brain but your right brain is like pictures and imagination and visualization and emotion that's activating more of your brain people say we use like 10 of our brain's potential we use all our brain but in terms of its potential you know like you know but no one shows us how to activate the rest of it but part of it is just using your imagination his imagination is more powerful than knowledge wow yeah einstein said that and so you want to turn into a picture and finally ian suave stands for end and that's going back to saying saying goodbye using their name going to a room meeting ten strangers leaving saying goodbye to every single one so they all remember wow you okay let me see if i can remember this because i was trying to be present but also remember so be suave uh the b stand for belief please e i mean exercise exercise practice s is say it say it uh what's high suave you is uh use it use the name um a is ask about the name ask about the name b is visualized and e is end nice yeah man yeah i'm picking it up as we go very cool and this is so what i'm saying is when people people they they experience this and they practice this you'll see a big lift and that's what i love about it and then all of a sudden once you have the competence it increases your confidence you show up differently when you're out that with other people yeah you probably don't have to use every one of them of course you can just say i don't want to say it maybe just say it and visualize it and then you're done yeah you know so any part of it is better than most people which is nothing because if i say uh you tell me your name is jim i'm not gonna say that's an interesting name right you know exactly tell me more about who exactly who called you guys if you just imagine like me doing something funny with my you know like barbells or whatever like the magic of gym or whatever yeah and people are motivated they're asked like they're asking like why they want to remember person's name like i would ask myself for motivation why do i remember the person's name maybe it's because i want to i want to get some business or i'll show this person respect or maybe i just want to practice these these tips that i learned you know on this podcast what are some daily habits or rituals that you have to just sharpen your mind every single day that others can apply okay so um so i think here's the thing when it comes to your memory two-thirds of it is so people are concerned that they're growing older but i could say you can improve your memory regardless your age your background your career your diet level education your financial situation your gender your health situation your iq anything it can be improved here's the thing one third of your of your memory is is predetermined by biology and genetics but that's so exciting because that means two-thirds the majority of twice as much is completely in your control that's cool and so the things that move the needle for example are like 10 things that i'm thinking about that's going to move the needle completely of that that two-thirds so it's it's a good diet right so a good diet because you are what you eat right and so there's certain brain foods that we know is it's good for your muscles it's good for your mind dr amon talked about that as well a lot a lot of that you know everything from from from blueberries to walnuts and everything right so there's good diet and number two killing ants killing the automatic negative thoughts which is a big for a lot of people remember your mind is always ease dropping on your self-talk and it's a practice right so you want to be able to eliminate the negative talk and you can't just eliminate something you just you have to replace it with something else right exactly you can't just stop smoking you have to start doing something else so so my because here's the thing that you want to avoid a lot of people start taking pride in how bad certain things are in their life it gives them significance very much so you nailed it you know people start getting pride because they're they're my memory is so bad if i don't write my grocery lists and triplicates i won't remember it and like oh you think you're forgetful that's how forgetful i am right or this is how bad and people also have this with busyness it is so bad nowadays everybody has to be busy because that makes them means oh that person must be so important right and so that we got to get off that cult of being busy congratulations for being the most busy person right exactly like that everybody has to do exactly but if people start taking pride they start designing their life around being busy and they wonder why they're all stressed out all the time so automatic negative thoughts kill those ants number three that's good that you have to do daily is exercise yeah right because you know your body and your brain it's connected and there's actually certain exercises you could do to build your brain power so for example juggling extremely good for your brain it's been shown on oxford last year there was a study saying that jugglers actually have bigger brains you could actually build more white matter it's also a great tip for speed reading because as you're juggling three balls your eyes only have two of them you can't focus on all three so you have to soften your gaze and take in more like your peripheral vision and trains you that way so you can actually take in more words as you're reading but it actually builds more white matter as you're doing it there's certain exercises also we teach people this is a field called educational kinesiology where certain body movements actually helps build your brain power which is these cross laterals and these kind of fun things even something simple like you know like we're always on the computer all the time so it's really important to keep your your hands and your fingers kind of stretched but you know can you do one twice as fast like like literally like this oh that's you know something like that you know or something else yeah or like you're pulling in energy like this but what if you had to do one forward and one back but there's been so many exercises for people like eating with the opposite hand is actually good for your brain brushing your teeth with the opposite hand very very good exercise actually build your brain power so exercise is really good but i mean just being physically fit is good for your brain right for it's good for staving off a lot of brain challenges okay fourth thing that people need to incorporate is uh brain nutrients because a lot of people they're not getting it from their soil or maybe their food so maybe a supplement in certain things right number five this is a big one and i know you're you're big on this a positive peer group because you are what you eat you know and you are but you are also who you spend time with of course right so if you want a bigger brain you want your mind to be active and everything be around people that challenge you that support you that teach you things that that encourage you that are positive because we are the average of the five people as you know that we spend the most time with so positive peer group is good for your brain number six that's good for your brain is clean environment they find that and you know this like when people start cleaning their desk that their external world starts reflecting their internal world and vice versa right so a clean environment helps you be more organized and inside also as well number seven that's good for your brain in terms of lifestyle what i do every single day is things like sleep sleep is so important people that's where you're rebuilding you're rejuvenating restoring but we live there's this whole epidemic of sleeplessness and people aren't getting enough sleep and imagine i'm going through this list people should go through and this is common sense yeah but not common practice yeah that's the difference right people's like like there's a there's some zones here that people like you know i'm not spending time with the right people or maybe you know i'm really not getting that much sleep or maybe my diet or my negative self-talk there's one or two things that if you fix it and you put energy there it'll just your your your business could double yeah because you're you're doubling that's number seven number eight is brain protection so important to protect your brain because you know people who are accident prone or they're doing like a lot of extreme sports you know they're active you want to make sure you wear helmets and just you know make because your brain is resilient but it's you know it's it's this controls if you smash it you're done my father 10 years ago got in a car accident and he's still recovering he's not the same person he yeah he can't work anymore you know he's yeah he forgets a lot yes it's a challenge and see that that that's why i do what i do because i never want people to suffer the way that i was struggling every single day for like 15 years training yeah you know and just because it reflects on you know when i was in that hospital bed going through all that and then it was so funny like not not funny as in haha funny but when this when this young lady who read the 30 books in 30 days and saved her mother's life she gave me one of those books and inside the book was this photograph and it was she was using it as a bookmark and it was her mother in the hospital and it reminded me when i was in the hospital and so yeah take care of your brain yeah number nine is uh new learnings learn something new every single day never let your head hit that pillow being the same as it was when i woke up ever so so listen to podcasts listening to the podcast exactly watch your ted talks you know uh take care of my course or anything new learnings because here's the thing we've learned more about your brain in the past 20 years than the previous 2000 years and you know according to science neurogenesis that your brain can create new brain cells even as it grows older and neuroplasticity is saying you can make new your brains like plastic it's so malleable but just having a new thought creates more connections and so einstein's brain wasn't any bigger than anybody else's but he had more connections than people than most people in certain areas and those connections come from new learnings and that's all learning is is connecting something you don't know to something you know and making new connections like that so always new learnings and always challenge yourself and that's probably the most out of it and then finally number 10 what i try to practice every single day is stress management you know so one if you want to know what the biggest obstacle is for people's brains is stress stress creates cortisol adrenal in your body it's really good for fight or flight it's not really good if you need to take a test it's not really good if you need to study it's not really have to read reports and journals and learn something brand new or learn a language sure because that'll that'll shut down parts of your brain wow so those are the 10 things that i focus on every single day that's what's going to move the needle more than anything what's the process of then learning how to master a new skill when it's challenging when it's scary when it's uncomfortable when it's works i'm excited to learn spanish right now but i've tried to learn for 20 years yeah eight years of classes i you know i've traveled to different spanish-speaking countries it's just like man how do we learn how to learn something that we want but it's really challenging let's deconstruct this okay so this is this is the key um so you mentioned two interesting words with confidence and confidence yes and in psychology there is a competence confidence loop that the more competent and skilled you get at something the more confident you get at it of course and because you're more confident you're more likely to do it and you get better at it and gives you more confidence right yes and so if i could play golf like tiger woods i would be playing a lot more i would get better i'd be more confident of it i remember um years ago i get a call on a friday evening and i don't know the guy's voice i didn't know to see the number and i'll recognize so i pick it up and he's like you got you got to help me we have this mutual friend and this uh my speaker tomorrow in new york city cancelled because of an emergency and i i need i need a speaker please and i'm like well this is not usually how you know the night before exactly it's usually like a six month in advance process but the mutual friend was a very close friend and i was like um you know look i me maybe i could help you but what's the topic and he tells me what the topic is and i'm like i don't know anything about that topic why are you calling me he was like well he wrote a book i'm like so he was like well my friend says you're a speed reader and i'm like okay he's like well can you come a little early and i'll give you his book and then oh my gosh and i was like i was like this is going to completely crazy this is i have to do this but this is going to it's going to cost you but it's going to make a great story and what ended up happening was i show up at 10 o'clock i read his book and i give the keynote that afternoon and humbly it was the highest rated talk of the event wow and i don't take credit for that because i've never you know had training in public speaking but when you understand how people learn you could you know present it and so i read the book i remembered everything that i needed to say because i train a lot of ted speakers how to memorize their speech and i know how to be able to present in a way that that's interesting and and also sticks with people but i say that because that's what i mean about i don't have to you know just like will smith i know i don't have to get ready i i stay ready and that's the power of skill development and there's one skill to master it's our ability to learn it's called meta learning this book fundamentally was going to be called meta learning but people are like oh no they're like a buyer of house learning and you know the title right and um but meta learning is learning how to learn and that's a meta skill and it helps you to learn salsa or spanish or anything else better and so let's deconstruct how to do that confidently the limit we'll start with the limitless model all right so this book used to be a book completely on skill development which was all methodology it was everything that i teach about how to read three times faster how to learn a language how to remember names how to do the things that how to get to inbox zero how to do the things that how to be focused concentrate critical think solve problems all the important things that really is our life right but then when i finished it you know i talked to friends like you and every and everybody else was like this is a really good self-help book but if somebody found it just on the street they still even they know what to do they still wouldn't do it like how come you want to learn spanish or something else and you put it off or it takes longer than you should because method is only one of the three parts and so this is the limitless model and i want everybody to think about a subject or some area of your life where you're feeling held back it could be your relationship it could be you're not making progress in your career it could be maybe in your physical performance or wellness think about one area where you're stuck in a box all right now a box is like a cage 3d box and 3d is three dimensions what keeps you in the box three forces and these are the three m's and i want everyone to draw a circle and in that circle we're going to draw a venn diagram you know what a venn diagram is three interception circles and the first circle is your mindset 3ms and i always alliterate everything because it helps you to be able to remember it better first one is your mindset now your mindset are your assumptions your attitudes about something now let's break that down for me functionally what your mindset is about this subject i want people to make this very personal think about something an area you're held back this is what you believe is possible is your mindset it is what you believe you are capable of it is what you believe you deserve is your part of your mindset because that's a big thing that's your thermostat right if somebody has a mindset of like i could teach someone the method of how to remember names but their mindset is i'm stupid i don't deserve to remember names i'm not capable of it exactly or exactly or i'm too old or whatever it is that's our mindset brain doesn't work that way exactly then the method won't have won't take hold it won't matter exactly so this is this is the formula here how do you learn about how do you learn to believe that you are capable so we'll go into this that's that's exactly what the book does i take people through a new process called unlimiting it's a word that i coined years ago unlimiting is different than unlimited unlimiting is like the process of removing limits limiting beliefs exactly our behaviors or our habits right so unlimiting is an active word where it's you're redrawing the boundaries and borders of your life limitless is not about being perfect limitless is about advancing and progressing beyond what you believe is possible that's what this book is about now i apply that towards accelerated learning so you can learn your languages and you know give speeches without notes and all that stuff but really it's a process of liberating yourself out of that box so one of the dimensions that keep you in that box is your mindset all right and we can go deep into how to change negative beliefs and everything i talk about the seven lies lies for me again is an acronym lie is a limited idea entertained because it's not true it's not true that you don't deserve it it's not necessarily true that you're stupid but it's an idea we're giving energy to we're entertaining that idea in that moment i show people how to unravel it in the three-step process but that's the mindset okay all right now the second m you can have the greatest mindset and believe everything is possible you're capable you deserve it but if you don't have the second m which is motivation you're not getting out of that box right that in your career i believe i can do it but i'm gonna sit here and eat chips on the couch exactly yeah and so your motivation for me is your drive it's your purpose it's the vitality that you bring to something now most people think motivation they'll say motivation is a lie and in some respects it is because the way a lot of people perceive motivation is just rah-rah get excited get hyped up and next day nothing changes so my evidence the evidence of motivation is something is happening there's an action there's a new action taking place and if you're not doing that action you're not motivated no matter what you say if you're not doing it it's better well done than well said even like a lot of people on social media they promise things but prove it right don't say it show it right you take it to action because knowledge is not power it's potential power applying it makes it powerful so motivation for me is a three-step formula and here's the formula and i go deeper in this book because there's a chapter on each part the key to sustainable motivation how to overcome procrastination if you're putting things off this is the key it's this p times e times s3 now this is a formula for sustainable mode not just a surge of motivation right we've all watched the limitless movie where he takes a pill and he can learn languages and and read really fast and remember everything and and dr mark hyman who wrote the the forward of the book his mutual friend of both of ours and i know he's been on your show he says that there is no genius pill but jim gives you the process for a brighter brain right like it's the process and there's no side effects right yeah that's good but going back to this you know when he had a surge of motivation but then when the pill wore off it goes back to no motivation but this is the key there's no pill there's a process and these three things p times e times s3 is sustainable for the rest of your life because i've i've lived on no sleep for over a decade right my sleep has gotten much better since of recent you know um just some some breakthroughs this and um in medicine and everything else like that but you know i had sustainable motivation i was still doing all the conferences still doing my podcast every week still speaking and traveling and doing all this stuff because i had these three things number one so the p stands for purpose now again if you feel not motivated in any area of your life pick now so some people could have motivation now some people are very motivated to sit on the couch and binge watch netflix they're highly motivated to do that right but if you're if you're lacking motivation to work out consistently and now here's the here's the another lie limited idea entertained is that you have to enjoy the activity right like you know it doesn't mean that you have to do that like i was having this conversation with with uh tom bilyeu right and he was like i work out four o'clock five o'clock every morning i was like do you enjoy it he was like no i don't like working out at all you know but he's motivated doesn't miss a day so he has the motivation so motivation doesn't mean you enjoy it like every morning i do my cold showers you know like wim hof right no not fun all the time but exactly i hate i grew up in the northeast i hate the cold right but i do my cold showers or my ice baths you know i post all the time on instagram about doing it because i know i have a purpose yeah right so i don't enjoy it but the p and the formula is purpose reasons reap results and if you get the reason so even if i'm not you know getting my sleep i have a purpose i have a reason to help people every single day i want every single person that comes in contact with me whether it's on my podcast or a video or a book their brain is better off because of it you know and so that's my reason and and really you know my story like my first student three decades ago almost she read 30 books in 30 days and what was her purpose her mother was dying of terminal cancer two months to live 60 days and the book she was reading health wellness energy right and she ended up saving her mom's life wow and that's when i realized that if knowledge is power learning is our superpower and i dedicated my life to make that kind of difference yeah and that's what that's what so i have my reasons to do something so i don't have to pump myself up so p is purpose tap into your reasons and it can't be intellectual you know you have to feel it of course right and even you could even feel the pain like who's counting on you to do this activity you know who's watching you who's role modeling you right who's counting on you to show up today you know it can be painful too but if it gets you to move that's what's important have that reason the purpose this e now i now hear my mind does this thought experiment scientific experimentations right if somebody just has a reason do they are they always motivated are there any cases where they're not motivated and i said yes if they're lacking the e energy so somebody could have a reason to work out or they could have a reason to read you know or learn spanish but if they're trying to do it late at night and they didn't sleep the week before or they had a big processed meal it's hard to have the motivation exactly and they're a food coma they can't be motivated because they lack energy so in the book i talk about 10 keys for brain energy the 10 things that i do to light up my brain and one of them is our brain foods another one is optimizing your sleep so i do a whole area of what i've learned really moves the needle for maximizing your sleep because how's your how's your thought process if you don't sleep how's your focus how's your memory how you know how you're making good decisions right i i heard that that was the advice you know presidents give other presidents is like get it don't make a big decision if you didn't get a good night's sleep right so i talk about sleep so in the book in motivation we do a whole section on finding your purpose and even life purpose and passion and a whole area on optimizing your energy now you have energy to do it i ask myself okay you have a purpose for something to work to work out or whatever you have or started this business you have the energy in what case if you're like doing this critical thinking in what case won't you be motivated you like let's say you want to start a business or whatever you're just procrastinating on starting that business number one you have the motivation you really need it and you know why you have the energy because you're eating the right foods you maximize your sleep with not energy vampires yes there is s3 what the problem is is you're making it too big in your mind that will keep you from being motivated starting a business like where do you even start or getting getting that perfect relationship or having perfect health that's way way too big so what do you do small simple steps that's what will keep people unmotivated they could have the reasons the purpose they could have the energy unlimited energy but they don't know where to start and because they make it too big in their mind or and a confused mind doesn't do anything yeah confused mind doesn't do anything so clarity is power i like that so a small simple step all you have to do is ask a magic question what is the smallest action i could take where i can't fail it allows me give me some progress but i can't fail what's the smallest step and i cite the work in here of the habit experts that you and i have interviewed you know dr bj foggs or the uh the the james clears atomic habits and really my take on how to make sustainable habits because what you do repeatedly becomes that habit but it starts with a small simple step what's an example of that i want people to read a book a week it will change their life i think if there's one thing people could that would change their life immediately long term just read every day reading is to your mind what exercises your body even more than audio and i my podcast and i do everything on audio i still encourage people to read because it activates a different part of your brain also and i listen to audios when i when i drive when i work out but when people are tested in terms of what they read in terms of comprehension what they listen to reading the actual more and they'll understand more you know why is not only does it activate a different part of your brain because it's active because listening can be passive like watching a movie or anything can be very passive you don't get involved but reading forces you get involved but the second reason why is because usually when someone's listening to something they're doing something else and they're trying to multitask they're cleaning their house they're working out they're driving so they're not their attention's not fully on what they're listening to so that's why the comprehension is down but reading every single day is a great activity but i don't tell people you know read an hour a day a small simple step to get someone reading is read one sentence that's a small simple step open up the book that's a small simple step that you can't fail right and nobody's going to stop at one sentence you know the example dr bj fogg talks about with tiny habits is hey we know flossing is good for your longevity still one tooth one tooth and who's gonna stop at one tooth right so how do you break it down and really motivation is energy management it's really about energy management meaning when you have clarity and purpose it gives you energy right when you have energy like if you activate you eat the right foods and everything else vitality you have energy and small simple steps requires very little energy requires very little effort output and there's something in memory called the zygarnic effect it's by a psychologist a woman who in europe noticed that at the cafe she frequents that the wait staff would remember all the orders until they were delivered and once they were delivered they would forget it and the zygarnic effect which is her last name means that the mind doesn't like open loops so like oh and and in all of the the series on that you binge watch knows this because at the end they open up a loop and you're like one more who does that like one more and you end up watching until like 2 a.m 3 a.m because it doesn't like the open loops well starting something like an order remembering someone's order and then it delivered it closes the loop well when you start something anywhere it for your mind still keeps an open loop about it so it's more likely to finish and that's another way to overcome procrastination break it down into small simple steps where you can't fail yeah that's the three step formula so i do a chapter so this is really three books in one it's a whole book on mindset on how to eliminate negative self-talk how to be able to get rid of negative beliefs that you don't deserve it you're not capable of it how to have optimization so a chapter on on on purpose a chapter on energy a chapter on small simple steps and then i added a chapter on habits and flow because the ultimate state and you've had stephen kotler and all these amazing people on here um talking about flow state is when you're in the zone where you lose flow states is you lose your sense of self you lose it's effortless and you lose your sense of time and there's no motivation required because you're just in his own you know that as an athlete when you're in the zone or you're on stage and it's just coming through you right we all have those moments so we debunk and apply this method for a whole chapter on on flow and then finally you could have the mindset and motivation and stills be stuck in that box because again let's say you're you believe everything is possible and that's your mindset and you're capable and you deserve it and you're motivated but if you don't have the last m which are the methods and you're stuck in that box okay you could have be believe that you deserve this income you could you could work your motivation but if you're doing the wrong things then you're not going to get the result if you're doing the wrong marketing tactics or if you're doing the wrong things in a relationship right if you're using bad advice and in here i document the example of learning because we learned very poor antiquated methods of learning in school it was rote repetition to learn something repeat it 100 times in your mind and the problem is it just takes a lot of time that's not the optimal way the brain learns the human brain doesn't learn through consumption it learns through creation right the human brain does not learn by consuming and learns by creating and so we also learned a bad habit a method of reading which was sub vocalization sub vocalization is have you ever noticed when you're reading something you hear that inner voice inside your head reading along with you yeah hopefully it's your own voice it's not like somebody else's voice the reason why it keeps you reading slow is if you have to say all the words in this book you can only read as fast as you could speak that means your reading speed is limited to your talking speed so how do you not your thinking speed how do you limit the conversation in your mind that's interesting right because the question becomes everybody reads about 200 250 words per minute because that's how the average person talks but do you have to say the question becomes do analyze it common sense do you need to say all the words in order to understand what those words mean the truth is no like when you see a stop sign you don't say to yourself stop but do you comprehend what that means of course 95 exactly and just like symbols in the book periods punctuation marks you don't say question mark when you read or comma when you read you know so the and there because of all those are sight words and you don't have to pronounce them by sound you pronounce it you do do them by sight and the fastest readers actually only subvocalize the more difficult words and so i'm not saying you really i know you just kind of skip through and just go through you you read all the words no you read all the words but you don't have to say all the words and so that that sub-vocalization is my example of an old method an antiquated method that will keep you in that box of learning slow so let me let me do an example here's here's a sentence from your book part two about mindset yeah and if i were to read this i would read it slowly just because that's how i'm used to it i would say and i already get nervous reading out loud from my childhood fears of you're not stumbling the deeply held beliefs attitudes and assumptions we create about who we are how the world works what we are capable of and deserve and what is possible yeah mindset so let me let me show you how to actually so so one example and um there's a link in my in my instagram for a free masterclass on reading like a whole like one hour tutorial in real time here when people are reading what i recommend is sub-vocalization the key here is first acknowledge that it's there and don't try to fight it not don't try to not sub-vocalize because if you you know this from your study of the mind you can't not do anything you can't not think of a purple giraffe because you have to do it so the more you try not to say the words the more you're going to do it plus you're going to be talking to yourself and am i really understanding this and you're not going to understand it because you have two things going on right exactly and so the goal here is when you when you read past a certain speed 400 there's a sub-vocalization threshold where you can't possibly talk any faster than that but you can understand it oh perfect example when you listen to your podcasts or audio books many people exactly exactly and you can understand it but you can't speak that fast so that's proof you could think that fast but not understand it and so here one of the hacks that we teach in in the book is to use a visual pacer like when you use your finger while you read most people think this is an old antiquated method they say don't do that because that will slow you down but in actuality i challenge everybody to take that master class on that link and what you'll find is test yourself read without your finger and then read for another minute with your finger count the number of lines just underlining it that second time will be 25 50 faster and just kind of forcing your finger to go a little faster than you would normally you could actually go regular because what happens is you don't regress a lot of people have another bad method going back to limited methods and we want to unlimit their methods of regressing and back skipping you know have you ever found yourself rereading words or rereading 25 of our time could be wasted doing that and that's a bad habit that we learned when we were kids why do we do that why don't we repeat a sense yeah the same reason why we sell vocalized because we were taught that remember back in school we were taught so public speaking when we got in those circles and we had to pass around that book and that book comes closer and closer and closer fear and anxiety exactly and that's where i believe we learned that public speaking was something to be feared and that's where it was imprinted on us and like some for some people and it was a good intention but people can be sincere teachers but be sincerely wrong and i got that i couldn't even read at that time so when i when that book came to me i would just look at it and it would look like higher glitches exactly and i would do that and i would i would like cry like it would be so embarrassing because everyone's looking at you and you have to perform and that's where i think my fear of public speaking why i wouldn't do the book report or speak on it and everything came from but the other thing teachers had you do is once they know you could pronounce and you had to say it out loud to make sure the teacher knows you're pronouncing it phonetically right um but later on your teacher taught you the limit with subvocalization because he or she said all right read quietly to yourself or read silently to yourself and that's where you took that external voice and you're like in order to understand it i have to hear it if not outside then inside and it's been there ever since so this book is about unlimiting those bad habits of learning of rote memorization of bad habits we make about decisions like why are we always why are people dating the same people or making the same financial mistakes and everything else it's not insanity doing the same thing over and over again it's a bad memory and we weren't taught decision making so like in the book i talk about four super villains that hold us back and it's really because i talk about super powers four super villains and i'll go back to the model and make this very like aha to everybody four super villains that are holding you and your team back your children back your team back your employees back your spouse back number one and they're all driven by technology digital deluge digital deluge is this information overwhelm it's like do you feel nowadays like you can't keep up it's like taking a sip of water out of a fire hose yeah and here's the thing people buy a book but they don't read the book right it just sits on their shelf it becomes shelf help not self-help right and here's the thing buying a book is a different skill set than reading them i'm really good at buying yes i can buy books all day long exactly but reading is a different skill set but digital deluge is a real medical condition they call it information fatigue syndrome higher blood pressure compression of leisure time more sleeplessness and this is happening if you own a business or you have managed a team that four or five hours a day on estimate to are we spending processing information just think about your team how much they have to process a lot right that means half of their salary is being paid to process and learn and read so if someone's being paid 80 000 40 000 is just to read something like that so if i could double their reading speed that's like that's a huge that's a huge amount of time like if it normally takes four hours to read something and you read it in half the time two hours what's two hours of the course of a year that's like on that and we can't even do that because that's another one of the digital challenges um but but that's two that's even if you save one hour a day 365 hours a year all right 40 hour work weeks how many 40 hour work weeks nine two months of productivity we get back to saving one hour a day on something ubiquitous like reading that's why this book will help you read every other book okay save you time so digital deluge number two digital distraction with every ring and ping and and ding every app notification social media alert it's training our distraction muscles and we are so good at being distracted that's why so much in my morning routine that's that people do like something simple like brushing your teeth with the opposite hand right because it engages the opposite side of your brain which is good for making new connections neuroplasticity but it's also good for making you present you have to focus right it forces you to be in the moment so it's something you do every day that little things where you get novelty where it focuses you to be here as opposed to about everything else right and how you do anything is how you do everything so if you wake up first thing in the morning and touch your phone i think you should have a to-do list i think you're not to-do list don't touch your phone yeah don't touch your phone first hour a day it rewires your brain to be distracted and also it rewires your brain to be reactive i can't stress this enough when you pick up your phone the first hour of the day and a lot of people talk about this and we have videos my video with simon sinek has 28 million views on just this thing on facebook it literally just says don't touch your phone because it rewires your brain to be distracted and reactive because you're fighting fires you're on the defense like why are you gonna check your email and voicemail and takes you off tangent and you're not even focusing on what's most important like in terms of your win our friend brendan burchard says this exactly and you're like you have a lot of quotes that you remember but he says your inbox is nothing but a convenient organizational system for other people's agenda for your life boom wow brendon burchard your inbox is nothing but a convenient organizational system for other people's agenda for your life so don't don't go on the defense so don't pick up your phone because when you wake up you're in this relaxed state of awareness you're very suggestible so you're training your distraction and your reaction you have to be proactive you want to be a thermostat not a thermometer a thermometer reacts the environment a thermometer sets the environment so digital distraction second third supervillain that's driven by technology that's that's you know potentially holding you back digital dementia digital dementia is where our our phones become an external storage device it keeps our to-do's right it keeps our phone how many phone numbers did you know growing up a lot growing up yeah how many do you know now one like is there's one person my own one is there somebody who married me i know my mom's because i've had to like write it down it's like emergency contact exactly but if you don't if you don't have your phone with you or you you're the phone is battery's dead you can't now here's the thing nobody wants to memorize 200 phone numbers i don't want to do that but isn't it concerning that we've lost the ability to remember one or a pass code or a conversation we just had i believe two of the most costly words in life yeah in life or business i forgot every time you say the words i forgot you lose credibility you lose trust you lose you you don't show you care about the person you lose you lose a sale i can't tell you how many clients come to me saying look i forgot i called this person by the wrong name and he was so offended that he didn't do the deal with me i lost a million dollar commission like like those kind of things right and how are you going to show somebody you're going to care for their future their finances their health their family if you don't care enough just to remember their name right so we do 13 14 tips on just how to remember people's names we covered in the previous episode also as well okay so digital dementia is where it's a real source i mean dr daniel ayman has talked about it other people have talked about don't be over relying on technology to do everything memory is a muscle and it's use it or lose it that's why i'm such an advocate for mental fitness i remember i walked into the office one day i picked up the phone first thing in the morning and a woman's voice was like i love you i love you i love you i'm like whoa who's this she was like i found it she went through our online memory course and she she she was given a family heirloom a necklace by her grandmother it didn't go to her mother or her three sisters it went to her and she hid it somewhere in her house she forgot and she thought for three years she thought it was stolen she felt so much guilt and she got so much shame from like her family and she just you know passed on for generations and after going through this course and she she woke up at 2 a.m in the morning ran down two flights of stairs went behind the boiler in her basement pulls out this crevice the necklace wow and i was like i didn't teach you a method on how to find lost items in this program she was like i don't know what it is but my focus i'm just remembering is without even using a method it's just he was like thank you for giving my brain back because she felt like her brain was 20 years younger because it was fit and that's what i'm talking about mental intelligence is very important facts figures foreign languages you learn how to do that in the methods of the book mental fitness and mental health you know that's also very important yeah where if you're you're you're physically fit right so if you're going to go up runyon canyon or wherever if somebody is not physically fit they're going to have to use more effort more energy because they're not trained and so if you're an athlete you could train you could help them as a coach in two ways you could show them the strategies like how to do a forehand or a backhand or hit up golf ball and you can take them in the gym and optimize their fitness you know their heart rate variability their their foods and everything so get people mentally fit digital dementia and finally the last one that we talk about in the book digital deduction right i always iterate so digital deduction is where we're our phones and our smart devices are doing the thinking for us because it just it literally because it's just spoon feeding you and i'm not just talking about fake news i'm talking about algorithms everything but you don't have to think anymore and we've lost our thinking abilities to the point where you look at a menu and you're like i don't even know what to eat because normally an app tells me what to eat or what what to watch next or what to do everything they're seeing kids they have lower ability to critical think critical thinking abilities analysis ability reasoning ability because of phones because our smart devices are making us stupid and so in the book to overcome these four digital super villains we teach for digital deluge speed reading and study like how to study anything whether you're a student or not students absolutely technical material will help you overcome digital deluge digital distraction we able to do a whole chapter on focus and concentration literally how to functionally improve focus digital dementia the biggest chapter in the book is memory training like how to learn languages how to remember names and then finally digital deduction we do a whole pro chapter on how to think clearly how to make good decisions how to really solve problems step by step how to solve problems how to make a decisions because as we talked about you know your life is the c between the b and the d how do you make those choices who taught you how to make choices right like and how to see it from different angles right and so we we teach that to alleviate those so you can not only catch up but you could actually get ahead and that that's really the goal if you want to learn more about how to master your mind check out this next video right here so when people begin to disengage and get beyond themselves you are at your absolute best when you get beyond yourself and getting the person to that point how does someone get to that point yeah so we teach them that formula we teach them

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