Why Do People Commit Suicide After Breakups?

today in the world you have reduced the word relationship to this relationship means between two bodies [Music] [Laughter] [Music] when you make it so body based after some time people will get bored of you [Music] before you make any relationship any kind you must establish this give it a chance [Music] people unfortunately unfortunately are ending their life for various reasons even children have started committed suicide committing suicide children below 13 years of age committing suicide this is not good at all but if people are ending their lives because of a relationship if you're talking about a romeo and juliet who who were in a certain state of romance that they felt it's better to die for each other than to live for each other if they had lived we don't know what all would have happened many things can happen you know unfortunately many great relationships do not always come to a great ending because either by suicide or by natural causes one of them will die but emotions played up to a point where you want to take your own life [Music] which is better than wanting to take the other's life yes when people their emotions flare up some people want to take the other person's life some people want to take their own life taking your own life is not a good thing but little better than taking another life no because you have no business to decide whether others should live or not so leaving the jokes apart it is terrible that people who have known each other for so long people who seem to have understood each other people who have shared many wonderful things between them turn so nasty with each other not everybody may commit suicide but many many people become super bitter about each other this is because fundamentally because you want the other to serve you in some way when that is denied to you you get mad so you want somebody else to share the moment this idea enters you must understand you have sown seeds of conflict when it will flare up it's a question of situations everything needs a situational support but if you are thinking that the other person should be the source of joy for you or whatever else for you then someday it will turn bad whether it goes bad in a outwardly way or it rots inside and continues forever is another thing but it will go bad relationship first of all i don't know when you got so westernized that for you today the word relationship means it must be a body-based relationship why the various kinds of relationship do i hold a relationship with all of you right now not of the body but it's still a relationship isn't it so in this country when we said relationships some time ago except for those of you who come from cities now when we set a relationship we meant our parents our brothers and sisters our friends maybe your husband maybe wife maybe children maybe variety of relationships but today in the world you have reduced the word relationship to this relationship means between two bodies something with the body this is a very poor way of understanding a relationship this is an american import i'm sure mumbai and delhi has taken to this big time the young people on the facebook have taken to this but if you go to chennai or coimbatore city and you say relationship they'll ask which relationship because we have many kinds of relationships we have business relationships we have brothers and sisters we have friends we have parents we have spouse variety of things but in your mind it's become like this relationship is between a man and a woman or maybe today so many other things whatever but essentially body based what this means is you're regressing you think no relationship is worthwhile unless two bodies are in some way connected either by the umbilical cord or otherwise in some way it must be connected only then the relationship is valuable this is a regressive step first i want you to change the meaning of a relationship the variety of relationships we can hold in our lives and let it be so so you are essentially talking 10 15 years means a physical relationship physical is not the only relationship there are many other kinds of relationships a human being is capable of physical relationship only for other creatures they are not able to connect any other way except their body yes yes or no other creatures do not know how to connect with anything unless they connect with their body a human being is capable of connecting in many different ways not just of body now this is not a relationship of body this is not a relationship of blood this is a relationship of light [Music] never in my life do i have to even come and touch you but still there is a profound relationship yes or no [Applause] i don't know how many years you've been here i hope you won't commit suicide because of your relationship with me i'm sure you won't so when you make it so body based the interest in the body will go after some time if you keep body as the forefront of your life initially it may be an attraction after some time it doesn't matter how you are shaped people will get bored of you i want you to know this unless you bring in other dimensions of being human things may go wrong things may go wrong for a million different reasons all right but this bitterness of wanting to kill the other or wanting to kill yourself killing yourself may happen out of helplessness not necessarily out of hatred anger and helplessness can lead to killing ourselves not a pleasant thing so before you make any relationship any kind you must establish this in how many ways can i contribute to the other person if this is the only goal if you oh but guru if i go on contributing if they don't give anything then you don't have a relationship you have taken marketplace into your home how to get more how to give less and get more is a marketplace isn't it in the marketplace it is considered smart if you give less and take more if you want a genuine relationship it must be how you can pour yourself out and it doesn't matter because it's in giving there is fulfillment not in taking if they exploit then you should not be in a relationship with such a person yes now but i can't help what does it mean you have your needs to fulfill your needs you've gotten into it you must be just grateful because somebody's fulfilling your needs no actually you went there to fulfill your needs but now you act magnanimous as if without you they cannot live and things will go bad one day when things go bad you want to either kill them or kill yourself not necessary death will come anyway yes you just have to wait but everything else you have to do something to die you just have to wait everything that you pick up your wealth your home your relationships everything something that you picked up on the way and you will drop on the way either you will drop it or they will drop it there is no need to make it into such a bitter nonsense you can step back and make some compromises but no how can i make a compromise i cannot if you cannot bend you have to break isn't it because relationships were formed to fulfill your needs yes or no if you understand this always you will have gratitude not anger not bitterness all that's happened is change of scenery if you still have so much love for them you must compromise if you have no love for them you must move away and do your own stupid thing isn't it yes or no if you have love for somebody it's worth compromising every damn thing if you have no love first time it's best that you mow away because otherwise it will become obscene being in too much proximity without the necessary lubrication of love will make situations very obscene before it becomes obscene it's better distance happens so if you think you really want to put a world between you and the next person and you want to kill yourself i would say why don't you wait because anyway it will happen towards the russian and you may do great without the other person who knows give it a chance and see 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Length: 15min 0sec (900 seconds)

Published: Wed Jul 28 2021