What should a married couple do after a spouse has cheated?

if a husband or wife has cheated but then they've decided to stay together where do they go from here I think it's going to be incredibly important that they confess what they've done they'll hide it a man who commits adultery or a woman who commits adultery and then hates what they've done renounces it might think maybe maybe they never know maybe they never have to know and doubt it plenty and resist that temptation and I would deeply renounce and repent towards God and then I would go to her or him in some moment where there's enough time to deal with neatly and confess the whole situation and plead with them for forgiveness and ask them to trust again and then be willing and able to deal with the distrust that's gonna last a long time she or he may forgive quickly trust and forgiveness are not the same she thought you were faithful he thought you were faithful and you weren't and so how does she know you're not now pulling the wool over her eyes and so a man needs to settle it I have wrecked this marriage for probably several years to come I've got to win her again I've got to establish again what has been so wounded when a wound that deep has been delivered to a woman's heart or a man's heart you just let's just stitch this up and go on as usual that doesn't happen and so I would say where do we go from here we go to confession to the Lord receiving profound deep cleansing of the blood of Christ you go to the wife of your husband you lay it out with brokenhearted confession and then you with deep confidence in God expect that there will be distrust for a long time and you humbly win her back you don't say well though she was supposed to forgive me you're acting like you don't even trust me well that attitude is the attitude that caused the sin in the first place humility doesn't talk like that it just returns good for evil hair and loves and loves and loves until the thing is we built fully and that time come it can really come I've seen it come for couples you

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Published: Wed May 22 2013