- Serene, how's dating going
for you after the divorce? - Challenging. (laughing) It's very challenging. Just being you know
divorced for six years now is kinda hard because I
have standards and values that I uphold and I'm looking for someone that can stand with me with
those standards and values. You know growing up we
always thought as women, "Oh he has a job. "He's a provider. "That's good enough." But I think it's beyond that. It's more than that entailed. So I wanna know from you, how do us women identify quality men? - Here's the one quality
you want a man to have: Does he do what he says he's going to do? If he says he's goin' to call you, and he don't ever call you
when he say he goin' call you, why are we talking to him? If he say he's coming at a certain time and he repeatedly doesn't show up, why we still talking to him? What are you talking to
a guy who does not do what he says he's going to
do, except occasionally. Because suppose it is the one occasion where you really need him? And it's just one of them occasions, where he just ain't comin'. - Right. - Do you understand how important that is? - I definitely understand
how important that is. That's why I block you when
you don't call me back. When you said you gonna do it, I expect you to do it so if you don't, I'm gonna block you. - Not one time. You gotta at least. - You know I give him a couple of chances but when I see a repeat offender - [Steve] That's a bad pattern. - I block you. - That's a bad pattern. Exactly. (applause) Exactly. - Yeah. - Here's another thing. Ladies let me give you
this one right here. If you in a relationship with a guy, and you're talking about
a problem you might have, you know men by nature, the one thing we are, we fixers. See when we talking to our wife or woman and she tell us a problem, we try to provide a solution right now. You know why we want a solution? So we can quit talking about it. - Yeah, yeah. - Because we know tomorrow's
gonna be some more stuff, so let me just provide a
solution for the problem so we can move on. Here's when you know you have nothing. If every time you mention any
type of problem to this guy, he offers you nothing. There's no solution. There's no assistance. I'm not talking about give you money, but I'm talking about sitting down, try to help you work through the problem. If you have a problem at school, let me help you through school. If you have a problem with your kids, well why don't you try this? Your car break down, hey let me show you how to get that. If you dating a guy and you have a car and your car stay nasty
and he keep gettin' in it. What you datin' him for? - Right! Right! - If you have a problem
and you present it to him and he never offers you a solution, try to solve the problem, what you dating him for? - Right. Right. - If he never does what
he says he's gonna do, why are you dating him? Stop. Take your cookie,
put it back in the box, put the wrapper on it and
go on about your business. - Right. - Because he gonna keep (applause) - [Serene] Right, right, right. I agree.
