- I am a single mother, I
have a six-year-old son. My son's father and I, we've
tried but he just doesn't ... It didn't work out because
he just hasn't given me the respect that I deserve
in the relationship. Because me and my father, our relationship at this
point is nonexistent, it is havin' an impact on my dating life. The guys that I'm attracting, it's all ending in the same thing. They're liars, they're cheaters. They are disrespectful. I don't know what to do moving forward as to getting back out there. - Look, I'm not tryin' to simplify anything that anybody is sayin'. But you have to understand
how the mind works. You can't stop stuff
from happenin' to you. - Absolutely. - Life is 10% what happens to you, it's 90% what you do about it. You can't prevent things
from happenin' to you, but you can sure determine
what you do about each and every one of those things. You cannot put the energy out there of everything your father did to you. Do you understand that
when you emit that signal, do you know that that's what bounces back to the tower? It's how a cellphone works,
it's how a remote control works, it's how your mind works. God said a man is as he thinkin'. Nothing more, nothing less. So now, guess what? If you live your life
with the expectations that your father did this to you, your father did that to you, your father never offered you this view, your father was not there for you, guess what you're doin'? You're emitting that signal. The only thing can come
back is the same thing you put out. I cannot stress enough the
importance of your mind. (audience applaud) But listen to me, that energy is the attracted. If a woman says all men are dogs, dog gone it, here they come. Here they come. You fittin' to meet all of 'em. (audience laugh) I keep meeting cheaters,
liars, non-committers. You tryin' to have a
relationship with your father that he couldn't have with your mother, and now you end up emitting that signal and that's what comes back. That's the first thing I
wanna get across to you. You are looking for something ... Can I teach you this right here? Stop lookin' for a man
for what he'll give to you and look for a man for what
he will sacrifice for you. - [Audience Member] Right? - That's a huge difference. (audience applaud) That's the difference. Chelsea, go ahead, how you feel, go ahead? - I guess in order for
me to start somewhere, I have to start repairing the
relationship with my father. - But let me ask you ask you somethin'. Let me ask you a question. When God put your mother
and father together, he put them two people
together to produce you. You may have been a mistake
to your mother and father. They may not have even
intended for you to be here. But God did. See God don't make mistakes. The whole purpose for
your mother and father was to produce you. (audience applaud) God wanted you. Let me give you the best
example I like to use. When Barack Obama's mother met his father, this man of African descent
and this white woman, and they met together, and they joined together, and they had this baby
named Barack Hussein Obama, I bet you didn't ne'er one of 'em know what God had in store, because God needed him. He wanted him in this world 'cause he was gonna turn
him into the first black man to ever be in charge of
this country right here. (audience cheer and applaud) That was his purpose. Now look, the fact that Barack
ain't got no relationship with his daddy, that didn't stop the show. - [Audience] Yeah. - Do not let your father stop your show. (audience applaud) Your father is not the
architect of your story. Your father is not the author
of none of your chapters. So suppose your father never come around. Your Heavenly Father's always there. (audience cheer and applaud) We got to meet and keep
this conversation goin'. We'll be right back. (funk music)
