Going Inside a Man's Mind With Steve Harvey

now we go inside the minds of men and yes GM a special contributor Steve Harvey whose book act like a lady think like a man has now spent 35 weeks and counting on the New York Times best seller list is here with some advice for the men of America but first we went straight to the source to find some well brave souls who dared to confess the secrets they would never tell the women in their lives call it self-preservation whether it's getting out of housework or just dodging an uncomfortable situation like in that Twix commercial do I look fat in these you always tell them what they want to hear how's my hair they've already chose the hairdo in the clothes so why even why even put yourself in the dog so sometimes some men feel it's better or at least easier to live pretending to be clueless I don't know how to clean the bathroom I don't clean that so I have it's very difficult for me I have lots of questions so it might as well just be that maybe if she does it it probably makes save everybody time and men told us that crying I have to work can get them out of just about anything I remember once when my mother-in-law was here I told her that I couldn't do something because I had to work and she said oh yeah definitely what comes first work is top priority have you been to Florida to visit a mate's family and you say I really don't want to go this time that that's like yeah I think she takes it as an insult and one man spoke to us only in shadow my wife thinks I'm at work today so that's why I am disguised he tells his wife he's working to hide his deepest darkest secret I happen to be a fantasy football junkie I might tell her that I'm actually on the computer researching different apartments for clients of mine when in fact I'm probably just looking up some roster changes that I need to make for this coming Sunday I feigned a headache here and there maybe sometimes when I just need a free pass I would come up with an excuse like that excuse not a lie an excuse like that joining us now is Steve Harvey now we have women up here they're going and you're not even flinching no hearing this I understand exactly what's going on and what is going on well I mean you know women actually think that men are afraid of them but what I want to let women know is men are not afraid of you we're just afraid of your reaction is that it see we don't want our entire summer ruined impossible upcoming holidays because of something we said when we could have just said something else and that's what it is it's the reaction that men are concerned it's the reaction so the guy that was in shadow he wasn't scared I mean even though he was in shadow and wouldn't show his face he's not afraid well if you tell your wife you're working then it's gonna have to show up on the check you know all these overtime I was got to show up in the form of a new dress a purse or something you can't be playing fantasy football with it he's got to pretty much stay in shell place for you well we went out on the street to ask some fellas and you're gonna give them a little bit of advice we have a 24 year old it's 24 year old Gabe and this is a question we heard a lot Steve okay take a listen well my girlfriend's wearing something I really don't like it's kind of hard to tell her about it what do I do first of all you don't tell her that you don't like something she's wearing especially if you've already left the house you can't do that you gotta ride this one out so what you do is you wait until the next time when she's wearing something that you really really like then you give her this these amazing compliments oh that is amazing that is hot you look oh you this is what I like now you know the outfit you had on the other day that didn't do you any justice it's what do it this is what's really Wow but that outfit there that you you that that didn't do you justice yeah but that work ladies that would that would be something you'd want to hear would you you all just got on TV don't lie you know that works right down me to have to work that's the best way to do it all right let's hear from another another guy named Steve he's married and he's 49 years old this is Steve Steve when your wife calls you and asks you you know Steve I'm having a nervous breakdown I'm losing it what do you do what do you do okay this is this guy has a problem because it's not the first time he's heard this it is a deal when a woman calls you with something like that and it's kind of in a panic first you got it address it you got to go see what's going on because something could actually be very serious yeah you know you got to go see it if my wife would have called me like that I know right well I got address it cuz that's not an mo now if your wife is calling you every Friday right before happy hour then this is a diversionary tactic and then you can just gonna go to happy hour and come back and deal with it later but mostly when a woman goes to an extreme like that she wants your attention she's trying to get you just to listen the problem that guys have is in our DNA we always try to fix a problem why do you do that sometimes we just want to talk we don't want you to fix anything we just need to talk right we gotta fix it because we know we can't let them stack up see we got to address this fix it solve it because we know tomorrow here comes some more so that's why I got eyes to fix it but what we got to learn to do is sometimes I the good woman in our life just wants to talk it out and you got to become a good listener because what what really may look to be wrong on the surface it could be different you just got to spend some time this you actually learned a lot from you a little detective work okay let's hear from Dewayne he's single and he's 34 years old this is the Wayne why is it that you would like to know what we're doing we tell you you have a fit about it and then it's like wow maybe I should not have said anything that's the big one right there no see his deal it's women always say tell me the truth a guy doesn't understand what she's really saying when she's asking for the truth it's been my experience that they're actually asking you for the truth as they see it they really want your truth to match the truth well because see we don't think alike so women have to understand that we're on two different planets here so this guy's what he's really thinking and his truth could be the actual truth but if it doesn't match up to the one you want to hear we have a problem so what we end up doing is what truth does she want to hear and then that's the one that we try to conjure up and provide and it's not really that the guys lying or just a liar he's just trying to keep peace at the house he really really is do you want to hear the truth okay easy for you to say well okay well it ain't your weekend you know just this guy's trying to keep peace because we do say that but then there are times you're like you know there wasn't such a rage behind the truth we tell it to you all the time fun with that Big C but so much venom so much thank you so much ladies thank you for coming up and continue continue with your questions for Steve he'll give the tips and let you let us know what you're thinking on our website at abcnews.com mr. Harvey always a pleasure love the back edge

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Length: 8min 10sec (490 seconds)

Published: Wed Oct 07 2009