Undercover | Dr. Matthew Stevenson | Honor And The Heart

Oh [Music] we're studying Danny Tuesday good Samaritan what a person could who are not necessarily senior than you they're spiritual Brits and that it's very important and initially when we started to hit this very that some of the resistance was because when you here honor many people think agreement when you hear honor you think control found if you know you can honor and disagree you can honor and and be vocal about what is right or wrong you can honor and decide this something is not good for you so there's a lot of people parents spiritual leaders whoever friends who use honor as the guys to control you to exert a will over you to force you to stay in something that is not healthy for you or to cause you to abdicate your right to choose or your will and honor is none of that and so it is important that we learn this if we're to see the type promotion God wants for your life and the people of the Lord city man now I'm gonna teach you something this morning I have another one at 10:30 that's going to help you and there's something at 1:00 but I want to give you this this morning because I think it is very very very very very important very few people have up-to-date news on what's going on in their hearts very few people by the time something is showed up in a life it's been in the heart a long time and it's very easy to ignore to overlook to suppress the activity in so if you're taking knows these are some thoughts that you probably need to write now something can be in your heart unaware there can be things going on in your heart that you not aware of there are a lot of people who also live in denial of what's in the heart who may think adore the Word of God may prick it or a counselor may prick it or a friend may prick it and depending upon how ugly it is people have a tendency to suppress what is in the heart for example many people don't like to admit stuff like their bitter that they're holding unforgiveness and and depending upon how strong the confrontation is um some people will find synonyms for the same issue because it makes them feel better about what's actively there but when a spirit-filled believer starts to move in the journey of honor you're going to notice that it's going to apply pressure to nothing more than it is your heart it is so important to God that you know what's in your heart now there are people who are aware that God knows us in the heart and they use it as the excuse or the escape from measurement or standard God knows my heart God knows my heart and for many people that ought to scare the bejesus out of you that ought to scare the chocolate pudding out of you better than a holy God is aware and the Bible says is measuring and is judging the heart the Bible says weighing the heart and the Bible says that you're supposed to guard the heart for out of it flows the issue every segment every chapter every season every decision every belief can be traced to an activity monitored or not that has gone on in the heart God was so vexed with the heart of Old Testament Israel that he told them until I give you a new heart I'm not even sending you a Messiah because in the old heart with an unring over the Stoney heart you don't have the ability to appreciate what's trying to help you have no consciousness for help you don't know how to receive how to honor how to interact with the inoculant - you're ill so what God told him in the Book of Ezekiel is in order for this company to work before I started making promises I've got to give you a heart that can handle it because if God makes promises to our heart that's not situated in a way to receive the promise when people pervert the thing God promised them it is possible to have God promised something to you and you preferred it because of the type of heart condition you have so I told them I will give you a pure heart say a pure heart come on say if your heart I'll give you a pure heart and then he totally zinc you with pure and with right desires and then he says I'll write my statutes in that heart there'll be things in their codes and alarms that'll give you the signal when you've missed me so God is always paid very close attention not to people's words not to people's attempts not to people's intense what's going on because you can only act in such a way for so long before the real of the hard-surface you know what's going on in a person's heart when they've been hurt you know what's going on in a person's heart in an argument you'll know what's going on in a person's heart with sudden grief or loss so you know one of the things I was sharing with this was somebody yesterday what makes creep so bad is it especially if you're dealing with grief of a parent or if you are a widow or grief of something like that what makes grief like that so bad is that you almost instantly have to face stuff that you had been pacing facing so like if you went without something y'all didn't have the type of time you wanted when a person is alive you have time to cope time to wrestle and you almost clock how you're going to deal with what did or did not happen but when somebody dies you are immediately faced with all of your regrets all of your fears all of your anxieties and so it's a very overwhelming thing so the heart has compartments the heart has dimensions there are things that can hide their memories are there believe system is there I don't think stubbornness is a mind issue I think it's a heart condition rebellion is a heart condition believe it or not fear is a heart condition and common to everybody in this room sin is a heart issue and he prayed out creating me now when a worshipper a psalmist a prophet ackee praise and petitions God for a pure heart it must have meant that however he experienced himself must have given him insight about his heart that he did not realize was there sometimes the Lord will arrange for external circumstances to prove to you what he already knows about your heart see your fall or your dilemma or your flesh issue never shocks God but sometimes the Lord will allow for things to go on around you to show you what you would not believe if it hadn't happened so he'll allow a disappointment you'll allow us setback you'll allow some form of external issue so you can realize man this stuff was in my heart all alone we need to develop a framework for what pure hardness looks like we have no real theology for how we know when we are giving on our whole heart with my whole heart David Prater I have I sought thee let me not wander from your commandment in psalm 119 which means that if there is consistent wandering meandering and roaming around God's directives you can't have a pure heart because a broader pure heart and is a solidarity of focus and consistency of verse we are told in the scriptures to worship the Lord with all of your heart which means the most detestable offering is the one you give have heart fractions David prays into about the heart about the heart the right direction wonder now give you some scriptures but I want you to just get some principles the heart can turn the heart has the ability to turn directions remember when Moses went to fair road the Bible talked about life Pharaoh didn't listen because he hardened his heart and then there's a scripture that is a scripture about favor that says the heart of the king is in the hand of the Lord and he what he turns it so it's not just enough to have a clean heart you need to have a heart turn in the right your heart can take signals from people [Music] and you're going to spin you're going to spin a major part of your life trying to train your heart to staple and stay in the right direction the same way how many of you know the Bible says anger is a heart issue wrath rest in the bosom so there's so much stuff that can happen in the heart and you the carrier of the heart can be the last person to get the notice having no trust is an issue of the heart Courtney the Bible says trust in the Lord with and lean not to your own understanding so that shows that there are times when there's going to be contingent between your understanding and your heart you will understand certain things that are not necessarily has not been conceived to in the heart for life for example let's look at the difference between guilt and conviction if your sin or fall or have an issue in your flesh it is one thing to be guilty it's another thing to be you guys never blend into righteousness are you listening to me you can a little bit I said guilt has never grown righteousness in anybody why because guilt turns to the direction of you and your ability and your capacity and your potential but conviction turns one in the direction of the Word of God in the spirit of God guilt is self-centered conviction is turned towards the law of the Word of God but what happens there there are things that you understand that you don't do pause at all wretched man that I am what is a tension between the heart and the understanding tension between what's going on in the head and what's going on in the heart and so you've got to realize that would out pay attention to your heart pay attention to this honor is impossible honor is going to always be hard to people Roberts 27 and 19 write this down my real text this is amazing how many of you most of you guys city slickers so you didn't grow up in the you ever really went to some clean even the water we got his dirty fan some of them water around here you pull around see a hand floating in the air El Chapo will be swimming in there trying to get to the border how many of you have gone through some clean water and saw reflection here's what the Bible says about the heart and in proverbs 27:19 as water reveals so does one reflect the heart I can look at what's happening in your life and how you are responding to it and tell you where your heart you should be able to look at the details the events the affairs the annoyances the pains the pressures of your life and it will reveal what's going on in the heart and one of the things I know about God is he is ruthless when it comes to getting a clean heart he will stop at nothing for pure heartedness he will allow all kind of stuff and watch you in anguish cry shout he'll care he'll watch you get fire he'll watch you have a duvet here watch your kids go crazy your roof Lincoln he'll watch all of that but if the heart is not positioned right what God does is allow watch this and apply as much pressure is necessary until you are face-to-face with what's really happening now your silence proves that very few of you take the time to examine your heart what do I feel about this and why why do I respond to this and why even in offense it is almost instinctive that we go external I'm offended because you when the person who exams the heart says I'm offended because it did something in me so apparently something ain't healed and closed or reminded me of something that I've not really moved on from that's what offends here's a reminder of what is unclosed that's why Jesus said it should still be now it's okay the heart was to cry at the profits that's why folk don't like me when I cry out repenting I'm not talking about the cars and houses and I don't ask you your birthday before I prophesied to you and I'm not giving you lucky numbers what God shows me is the crap that's going and the reason is offensive yes because when somebody can see what you refuse to look at easily it brings offense and shock and fear and nervousness and anxiety had a passion to mallalieu the Prophet I said if I was you I wouldn't either I understand why you don't like my tire it's easy to have been denial of what's going on to not acknowledge what's going on especially if you know I should be Matthew 15 this is gonna bless you now the reason I'm putting it is a person must get mastered must master positioning your heart it's literally like driving a car when you learn how to try my car does something really weird and the first time it needed my earring was rebellion because he's scared to Jesus out of me I was driving and it's a truck so how was I think my car sensed or felt like I was sleep because it does weird things make sure you don't sleep I was driving and I was on the accelerator and the whole thing locked the break went all the way down in my seatbelt went all the way in and almost choked me come on to happen to you you know I don't know what to do with that and it really it scared the mess out of me I was not really braced for that particular action or pressure but the point is is that my steering is what gave the signal when the first things you learn and with something is not an alignment for exam but when there's pressure in your tires that are uneven the last thing it affects is the tire it affects your ability to steer Wheeler's out of order you start noticing that it's difficult to keep something straight you got this just like you steer your car you've got to steer it when it's time for a turn you got this theory when you're going fast and you know what they teach you is most of us in the summertime I go la I travel a different from how I Drive in the winter to summer jobs you got that like angle but many of you are in the season where you got to be didn't too you need both hands on that wheel if Satan throwing stuff at you if God is throwing stuff at you if your your life if your fears you have got to you can't be riding cool film sit that seat up come on look at some I say 10 into 10 into 10 into come on say steady steady steady steady steady you have got to have a steady heart learn how to steer it and you'll stay out of adultery learn how to steer it and you'll stay away from addiction learn how to steer it and you won't be [Music] a steady heart will keep you out of comparison you know when you're steering some especially if you got eagle pride or prove that your best deal car is the best one on the road somebody zoom up next to you you take your eyes off the road gotta speed up you're focusing and studying your heart you don't care sue me fast you don't care what Lane they're switching you're not looking at comparison is easy have you ever noticed that when you get a car all of a sudden you start to see a lot more [Music] what idea - I got a cheery rear when I'm liking anybody gonna driving around in just to make sure because I just didn't have my same car but what happens when you are in a season and when you're under pressure and when you are under a test you develop a way you start looking at what ain't fair in comparison and contrast and trends and all of that but you've got to keep it steady you've got to keep it turning to worship but this is not my message which is why if you're having trouble training the heart you all not ever have about if the praise and worship leader says lift your hands I don't care how cute you think you are you love carnal rascal you you got to keep them hands lifted an amis bow-wow is how you learn it's driving school you steer the heart and the presence of the Lord it makes it much easier to make decisions when you're in the glory when you're outside of God's presence is harder to steer that thing the right way in Matthew 15 let's go there real quick verse 1 it says and this is NIV then some Pharisees and teachers of the law came to Jesus from Jerusalem and acts why do your disciples break the traditions of the elders so we're having a conversation about tradition now let me give you clarity tradition in and of itself is not evil tradition in and of itself is not evil it is the worship of those traditions that become evil there is a difference between having a tradition and being a traditionalist traditionalism which is my way my approach my belief is better than yours and because you don't see it this way you're not worth as much as I am it's traditionalism we all don't do chameleons on the first sunday in this new school back in the day what is that traditionalism there was no Cal Jesus was not looking for the first Sunday when he had the first the Last Supper mam but what happens when you get used to that everything you understand about God and the word you read through the lens of your personal what tradition so they were coming asking why they were breaking traditions they don't wash their hands before they eat look at what Jesus said in verse 3 jesus said and why do you break the command of God for the sake of your tradition he asks him the same thing inverted you mad at us for breaking tradition and I'm mad at you for not following the law because of for God said verse 4 honor your father and mother and anyone who curses their father or mother is to be put to death but you say that if anyone declares that what might have been used to help their father or mother is devoted to God they are not to honor their father or their mother with it thus you nullify the word of God for the sake of your tradition there is very powerful implication in that statement because it means that if you want to do something a certain way the word of God is not powerful enough to break it when you're stubborn and you are working you are committed to not changing and committed to protecting how you are and your approach and all of that when you develop a cohesive binding to your rights to be untransformed we can protect you teach you the worst people to try to change or train is the ones that don't want to change I had zero trust for people who are unwilling to change because they have no respect for energy no regard for effort had no place for wisdom willingness to change is the sign that one is ready for promotion and unwillingness to change is the sign that they came had no promote look at what Jesus said in verse 7 you hypocrites I say it was right here's where we do our tricks when he prophesied about you look at verse 8 these people y'all get mad at me for saying you people look at what Jesus saying people [Music] but okay see no mo y'all knows good but their heart is far can I give you a word and this season in your life you about to play catch up in the heart what's going on in your life right now cause of your heart distance many of you may be saying the right things some of you may be reading the right things but your heart has not played catch-up and it's possible for God to have moved in a certain direction and you stand you're not in the sentence but in the heart is up your mouth and the position of your heart are the same I always wonder how irritating must be for God to hear a bunch of people say hallelujah thank you Jesus Lord you're holding my soul say yes you're worthy father and he's only worthy in church services no other decision no other sacrifice no other change he's not worthy of that stuff but he's worthy of his singing on a Sunday morning but you see worthy of you giving what you don't want to give is he worthy watch me Zion of your temporary discomfort is he worthy of your reputation is he worthy of your entitlements is he worthy of your orientation your status your calendar he wants to be worthy of more than what you're putting in you he would much rather you shut up on a Sunday morning and obey Him on Monday here's a powerful principle that we're learning we'll be tested in conversation [Music] it's that's a stuff and they say it like several times a day you know I'm starting to think that I'm trying to either discern if it's true or not somebody say you a liar you ain't consistent there's so many JK's they can put at the end of that you want to ask some question I think because out of the abundance of the now fortunately enough most of you don't listen so you missed does it make what they've done or said correct soup in your honor journey it's going to recompete reach a peak if you go to gym and you train real hard right and you train for like six minutes your body's going to get used to it you're going to need a new challenge in the honor journey it is the same way seriously that's how you take the amma journey to the next level we can show you where your honor is about what you do I don't owe you don't oh you dog they do you understand they don't owe you patience now people that because they have experience with you or your story that offers oblige issue to either be their personal atm y'all don't want to say nothing here to make up for their bad decision-making and then what they'll do is they say you change your diapers thank you would you would you like for me to return the favor I'll go to Walgreens right now get your fine and nine pack adapt as if you shut up [Music] people don't owe you forgiveness they don't owe you mercy is it right absolutely but when you live your life behaving and acting like people owe you kindness and oh you consideration then you start to move your life and bring your heart out of proper position and what happens is because of its position people are disgusted by you and repelled the people who you actually need to promote you irritate is one of the attractive components of honor if you steer in the right way praise God Oh see we live in such a cross gendered society that we no longer have a value system we live in a society where the man is up kicking his feet up while a woman is downstairs taking out the trash we live in a generation where where the women is opening the doors for the men and the men is swooshing in when they first I mean it's a shame simile is just completely dead and the reason is dead is because we don't teach [Music] I can't wait for my daughters to get old enough for me to have these discussions somebody actually I wish a daddy with daughters would say something you lazy Kiwi hands you the reason why our society is like it is is because people don't even pay for clear no mo you go and sit into this woman's face her to ruin her life and don't have the common decency to pay to be come on you can afford and you miss Mosby Dayton I mean I won't I am never going to surrender my daughter's two boys who can only do less than what I can oh yeah we all until my honor you gonna have to be a better you have to be able to do more than me or you're not getting mine why because if you can't do more than me they coming back to me in 90 days so why don't you wait until you can do with him what I cannot do is him a holding cell somewhere I'm now the adversive that is really true I don't care if y'all like you get out the adverse of it is very true if men go out of them ways to be honorable even if that won't you even if they put you in the burrows on have the decency to say thank you don't sit at that table with your feet stuffed in them shoes like somebody owe you dinner say thank you glory to God say thank you sir I appreciate you that was so kind of you why that's honorable practice for everything please and thank you and manners are going to take you so far let the pro people call it Brown knows it but you develop some users some no size and it's not a matter I tell my son yes sir and I'm daddy I'm sometime I plug him on GP just so he can know I'm in charge but I still tell him yes sir no ma'am yes ma'am now y'all may think that's that's out there and extra but I'm telling you now it's exactly why not only are you gonna be poor you're gonna raise poor children got the TV and the iPad and the cellphone raised them and they take on the behavior of what they see out there amen and you don't invest in them unless an honorable speech this was Jesus's review y'all honor me with your lips but your heart is not there he wasn't saying don't honor me with your lips he was saying I want to make sure that the right heart is behind the right speech so there are there are listen listen to me a lot listen listen listen listen this a lot of you because of missing conversations told you some of your marriages are going the direct see she's saying the wrong things is damaging but sometimes not having the opportunity to say anything is just as damaging when you position your heart the right way it is so important that you learn how to shut up and it's gonna be a journey right when you reach halftime you know I got this honor thing hey babe you start saying the confession a little louder you got Papa's in his jobs and better job you're gonna reach a halfway point I'm serious where you gonna cut somebody out you wanna ask somebody who you talkin to you don't want to say I got the Holy Ghost but you can catch these hands there's a lot of thing I'm coming my honourable speech honorable speech honorable speech there are many of you that can conceptualize this but we'll lose the handle in a minute or won't say things you know because the only thing just as powerful is rebuke is after is affirmation to make something valid to affirm something in a person is equally as weighty as a rebuke and both happen and made valid there is a such thing as a bastardized to review that means there is a rebuke that's not legitimate because it's more powerful than our relationship if you rebuke beyond your attachment to a person you've wasted your breath because we rebuke without relationship equals rebellion you should only rebuke those that you're in relationship with if you don't rebuke those that you're in relationship with you're just critiquing it's an easy formula rebuked without relationship equals rebellion why because if I should I earned the right to rebuke he was I proven I'm invested in you if I'm not invested in you then my review doesn't really mean anything does this meaning thing you that's why honor is so important if you cannot say it is dishonorable for people to add like you you can't dress what you should say is that's better than most it can't be honorable I'm listen it can't be honorable speech if it's deceptive you're sitting next to people that you call your friends and you know their wig is on crooked it's dishonor and it's a reflection of you I can look at how a person carries himself in making instant conclusion about their friends either your friends are poor you don't listen to him one of the other cuz good friends don't let you let yourself go this is honor culture and earnestly some time is honorable speech now listen let me give you a serious warming if you ever become the type of a person that hates honesty you're going nowhere in life you're going nowhere in life your money potential is limited your influence potential is limited your love potential is limited if you don't develop an appetite for honesty however bad however hard however hurting you know there are people who work hard to build a world of denial they insulate themselves for denial they set up their days for denial and when honesty comes it destabilizes their whole world because they only fund lies but where there is honesty there's going to always be honor and there's going to always be powerful promotion now that's difficult because in the black family we lied to protect we don't tell the truth because of how what it might do to you the truth and let us figure out I healing on an O but don't sometimes honesty can hurt but it's never gonna hurt worse than lying deception is dangerous praise God you fall in love with somebody find out that there was a murderer in there for my life and you see his picture on America's Most Wanted one day Albuquerque ask me why because Liars have to keep changing their story and if you lie about one you have to lie again to cover the initial lie so when somebody lies and lives in one dimension of lying you got like several rounds of this honesty you've got to UM braid to figure out what you're dealing with especially if it's an old life like if people have been living in the losses like their teens or their mid adults they have to continue to protect it but you can't protect the live with truth so you have to lie I believe nothing cuz you have to build the whole thing on deceptive speech [Music] I'll get Howard no need you are and decorating your nest with chicken rings about me God's profit you will sign yourself on up serious as a heart attack you gonna sign yourself off to poverty if you don't work that's tearing your heart until your attitude is okay you are now played at between husbands and wives you are I don't play with much with siblings because that turns into other stuff if your daughter's can treat their brothers well you're creating a Jezebel for a hopeless husband that she's gonna be masculine and make a unit while she's control them you want to tolerate that between if you find your kids showing dishonor that is a reflection of you and it's gonna be somebody else's problem at 18 so it's bigger than just um spiritual authorities you are not play dad you catch your daughter I teach my daughter don't you ever disrespect your brother he's the only man in this house aside from me you will regard that it's dishonor now why am i hitting this so hard there's a lot of people in your family not saved because of family crap mistrust hurt harm same thing with with daughters with sons and daughters I don't care if the son is the middle child now we can do a whole presentation on the challenges of the only child the oldest child the middle child the youngest child they all have different threats in a family's truck on this spectrum of stuff he becomes the carrier and if another man does not teach him how to wear the name I'm not just talking about on a job application a lot of this stuff is male related a man should disciple and see these girls they gonna find somebody else and change a name they gonna become somebody else but that male see is responsible for the continuity of this name which means [Music] I told y'all this is a difficult thing to teach you should never watch your mother okay how much she loved you berate your father look if y'all gotta argue take it to the bathroom wait today sleep I'm gonna read you your civil rights ma'am scientists statistics showed it with his rage in a home those kids have a higher inflammation to pornography because of the fear that they're bred in they run to pen to see yawning uncontrollable emotions has now produced lust in somebody because that's the only place they can find me like it's bad enough that in this help the bird ever Oh women were created for high-level pressures like that they're the weaker vessel for a reason you're not supposed to be flying in and out seven days a week for services you can have a nervous breakdown or you've got to become a man to handle the pressure which is why most women who do it end up rough cuz you have to forego some of your femininity to keep up with the pressures that you were not supposed to keep up with and I believe in women apostles I just think they ought to be a girl at the end of the day I believe in women pastors but they ought to be feminine at the end of the day they should not be trying to keep up with the masculine pressures of our bastardized culture because me and won't fairness if somebody's got to struggle because a house needs provision it should be the one with [Music] we got women up all night waking up in the morning and you see that quickly your toes if she trying to figure out how big oh good you know not a provision is not a woman [Music] we gotta be the one having a conversation what we gonna do baba says if a man does not care for his own home he's worse than an infidel he's a terrorist that's honorable speech I want you to practice your conversation see if it changes the behavior like when you punish your children do so in rage and if you do so an anger - whatever standard you gave them if you correct them by saying you're attacking the same behavior from different damnation the other produces courage so what you're supposed to do is use that correction and that corrective speech them up to a standard without making them feel like they can't reach it so it matters if you adhere it is my final rebuke and I'm going to 10:30 and you win your kids out call them B's your stupid him an F us there is nothing to listen I had a fight years but when I'm in the mall and in the movies and I see parents but get to look tell me over here you must still be mother ever I almost want to put a hockey mask oh and bite the stew out of the arm I mean just take a hunk out of that me you tell me there's gonna be somebody else's pain in 20 years you have chest you have just radically impacted your grandchildren just a moment and there's a way how many I'll tell the truth there's a way to get them to respond a rebuke is to call you up a correction is to call you up it's not to be great you and bury you and make you feel like you're less there so it's about time to align the heart counseling my wife and I always give this example to do marriage counseling like a pass or something but we always talked about you have an honor issue for whatever reason it always comes up in your tone when we first got that first year I'm a very overprotective person almost to a fault it irritates me but it just same went nowhere very overprotective person and I would get in the car because 60s generation hippie so she's like she came in all free-spirited and no Oh I was wearing jogging tresspass the Great America I was dressing up on rollercoaster rides there's power there in the right run seriously but because we came from two different extremes like I would spend hours ironing when she because it was a part of my family's ceremony I just like turned on music you just iron it helps you think that's just what I like to do my wife I Becky iron is Shiva yep first of all help where's the starch second of all you supposed to take ten minutes to just line up the creases move one leg over and then you are you one man you gonna cheat are you listening that's all answer so we were getting cars and if I took off driving and she didn't put on put on her seatbelt I would say somebody this what's wrong with this picture the first couple of times she responded third time she pulled that sister spirit from under you know she found the suburbs who has never really up here she reached down in her roots she she found some ancestral sister in her and she's I don't know why you think it's your job to train me to be a wife see your job is to be a husband my job is to be a wife and if you're concerned about me hurting myself you should probably just say baby put your seat belt on and it was that you a simple but it was a really just say put your seatbelt on it essentially I'm saying the same day but when you are committed to your way I was saying put your seatbelt on I was just saying what's wrong with this picture but you understand the difference in honourable speech one set up the tone for that to be a teacher-student relationship and that's always bad because no good teacher sleeps with a student alright praise the Lord so when I shifted it y'all don't want to have Church into husband-wife then I got more what I needed and the people of the Lord said

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