Tony Robbins on Being Ready for a Relationship

I would say the most important thing that anybody has to do man or woman but I think you're right men in the past have been conditioned to associate more of their work than what they do you women have over the over time more to the relationships I think it may even go beyond conditioning the biochemistry is obviously very different every man and every woman has both male and female energy in themselves every you know every woman but most people out of tens you have one that's stronger and so the answer to that is you have to become a creator instead of just one hunter if you're a hunter and you get what you want rarely are you happy anyway that's what most men do and what I think athlete instead is attract what you want and the way you attract what you want is not just thinking positively or thinking good thoughts it's getting really specific about what it is you want like anything in life almost anything you've ever achieved in your life you got really clear something you got excited about you can obsess I thought about it all sorted relate to something I want it so bad I couldn't stop thinking about it and you because you kept thinking about it and if you didn't come to a place of fear you hear things you notice things you started making distinctions ideas came to you put together a plan you took some action something didn't work you tried something else but you eventually got there because you're so driven so hungry and so clear but if you got a general goal like I want to have a relationship so I can be worthwhile I want to lose some weight I want to make some money we'll find here's a dollar fine here's a guy you know fine lose a pound and you just achieved your goals I think people have to get really specific and what I did in my own life it transformed my own life I sit down I wrote down everything you could possibly want in a relationship everything and I was ridiculous in the level of precision I like six pages and I wrote spiritually mentally emotionally physically sense of humor you know how we'd interact what kind of things we'd laugh about dearly that level of insanity and then some people make less like that before then I went through it I cross that everything I wasn't really much that wasn't really really I was passionate about right and I trim the list now then as I'm a Regas every day I'm gonna feed my mind but I got to understand something just cuz I want something I'm not a believer I didn't participate the secret for a very good reason I don't believe in the secret I think there's many secrets I believe the law of attraction is one of them I've taught it for years but it isn't to make it like that's all of life is absurd if all you have to do is think positively and cold it clearly and then the secret is you'll attract your own thoughts there are dozens and dozens and dozens of the laws and lights are also equally important and who's to say you're supposed to think of something and get it it everything you thought about you got you'd be bored out of your mind because not getting what you want is some God's most valuable thing that could ever happen to you because out of that you become deeper rich or stronger you open up in a different level now you have more to give to other people as well as to get to yourself you know somebody who says I had a friend that was us mention this for the day who would the secret first came out it's good friend of mine as hell you know some stuff you teach the more complex this is so simple that's like it's really simple eyes well if you want simple just go do it tell me how it's working he's why I focused on green lights all the way here and I got green lights all the way here nice and what are you gonna do when you get red lights you gotta find yourself here they are not thinking possibly enough I said you don't say I messed up I said that's a stupid I said you know it is it's like are you saying the purpose people that were - wits were there because they just weren't thinking positive and they tracked it all this negativity to their life that's absurd they all have different life paths and different stages of our path and each stage open some different possibilities for us so I'm a big believer that you have to put yourself in a position where you decide not only what you want but who you have to become to attract them not just think positive so it's like I made a list of all the things that what kind of man would I have to be for a woman of that caliber to want to be with me not just for a day a week a month or a year but the rest of my life and that was the powerful list and that's what I want to work on instead of going after the woman you know matches lemon lemon well I was always a nice guy so I love the love Nate I was a big pleaser and they loved me for a while maybe like he's just so nice and then some badass guy together okay but when I own myself I didn't have to be a badass guy that wasn't a nice guy was it everyone wants to be pleased but no one wants a pleaser if I think they wanted well together they'll be bored silly before so when I own myself and I know who I was as a man and I have these qualities then you know tracking the one my dreams is my wife for 12 years now since I'm out of my mind for skellige is out of mind for me that came about so then I do is read those every day for several months and then the graduates to really like once every week or two and I was in a train between what the Swiss Alps between Paris and Venice with my wife saying she's my girlfriend at the time but actually one of my help it's the done I was very modest man about that I've said I'm not look at me tied down I've been in that situation and we were doing things were so in sync as it wait a second I said I pulled out I used to you know I'm like a full-time planner in those days and I read I rent doing everything emili´s that one she wants everything I didn't want I was the one I didn't want also I should mention that because sometimes you gather do you want and he a few things you don't want they mess up everything else earlier what everything I did what that was a must and she was everything on it the kind of guy that I'd said that would give it to being as who I was that's everything she wanted

Channel: The Passionistas Project Pop Culture Passionistas

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Keywords: Tony Robbins, Breakthrough with Tony Robbins, motivational speaker, relationships, Oprah's Lifeclass, The Tour, OWN, Oprah Winfrey, Spiritual, Pop Culture Passionistas, PCPassionistas, Interview

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Length: 5min 7sec (307 seconds)

Published: Thu Apr 05 2012