New Tony & Sage video: What's the secret to lasting love and passion?

happy Valentine's week everybody in stonee Happy Valentine's week everybody we love love and we're here to just share some insights and tipet's with you for this week listen you know Valentine's week is such a beautiful time because it makes people think about the one they love instead of all the busyness of their life and we all know what's most important to us in life is love and passion and aliveness but unfortunately that stuff gets set aside trying to schedule everything else in we're people working here to do this little video in there in the background here waiting to continue some construction from the building next door just life keeps happening so our hope for you this week is that you decide to make it not just Valentine's Day or Valentine's week but you decide there's gonna be a part of you and a part of your partner in life whether you found them or the one you're pursuing or the one you're already with that you're gonna start to cherish at a different level now while that may sound corny we've got some skills we just spent some time in Hawaii for seven days with our Platinum partners and we went deep we were couples that were absolutely gone how would you describe some of them some of them totally in love some of them over the top but how would you describe the experience it was it was it's amazing to be able to take a relationship that truly doesn't feel that passion and doesn't feel that intimacy in that love and in a moment to be able to decide something new and that's what happened over and over and over again in Hawaii and so you're gonna be able to experience a taste of that and we're just here to say that this weekend Valentine's week remember it's about waking up it's about waking up to adoring your partner it's such a different level and celebrating your partner and you know it's crazy because on Valentine's Day you know we do so much it's romantic and that's thoughtful and that's creative and go out of our way and it's about bringing that magic and that love and that thoughtfulness and that's sincerity and and waking up to your partner's needs it's such a different level because it really is and the little things that uh you know just create that depth of love it's also just deciding to set a stake in the ground as standard for going forward that this is not just Valentine's Day but your life you know people get what they accept people get what they tolerate in themselves and each other and most people in relationship are thinking about where they're gonna tolerate the other person but it relationship I think the beauty and the passion and all the juices I've gotten experienced our relationship my girl is because I hold myself to a higher standard that she could ever expect of me and I think when your standard and focus is about yourself instead of about your partner about how do I show up more what am I here to give in the beginning of a relationship people's whole focus is how do I light them up I want to do anything lights them up and it makes you feel incredible like your partner up and you know relationship is aging not based on years but based on one you could be with somebody a week but if you start thinking about what are they doing for me and I'm doing it all you start measuring what you're giving instead of just giving from your heart in your soul things drop off so maybe this week is a chance for you to really create some relationship breakthroughs and we think that takes three things any kind of breakthrough sometimes it's having the right strategy because frankly you know as a guy we say and do things that girls interpret very differently they come up with very different meanings and vice versa you know for men for example problems are not things you talk about problems of things you solve right now or you make them small and move on for ladies sharing that problem digging in feeling it not solving it understanding understand peace we are such different species and I think having an understanding of each other and each other's needs and knowing that we are not the same you know our own reality of how we think and feel and process life isn't the same for your partner so having that not just understanding but truthfully appreciation for how they view and experience the world is a game changer is it games her there's so many things in our relationship and it's like oh my goodness you know what it's not me because sometimes you take things person it's just knowing that that's how they process reality and process life well there's a bad it's not meant for Mars when you beam is John Grey's a friend of mine that's a wonderful approach but all men have a feminine side in the masculine side all women have a feminine side of the masculine side it's really just understanding how this species their different species interpret the world and if you don't understand the strategy not interpret that you'll be upset or angry or frustrated so perhaps this week and you know you'll be able to dig in and get some new understandings that'll take some of the weight off and make you laugh and stuff that you used to get upset about it's one thing your strategies to know how to fix things but oftentimes you don't apply what you know because you got a story about your relation a story about your part but they don't really care you know you've got frustrations or pains or disappointments that got interpreted in the past and now you're generalizing about your partner whenever we generalize about anybody we do them a disservice in ourselves as well so maybe this week during Valentine's week it's maybe discover what are the empowering stories about your relationship if you ask a couple how did you meet and they talk about it with such passion excitement you know the relationships still alive it's like oh yeah we met you know this is what happened and we bumped into each other there's no energy for it even the story of how you met affects you so probably this week might you might want to take a look at the stories that you tell about your partner to yourself to your friends to your partner because we we start to believe our stories and I always tell people want to change your life change your story divorce the story of how your partner is not enough or you'll never find the partner you want if you're single or the good ones are gone whatever stopping you from getting what you want in a relationship there's a story about it you can uncover it you can get rid of it divorce your story and marry the truth the truth is always something it will empower you much more and that truth of that magnification remembering it's like one of the gifts that we give each other especially actually the time like this like Valentine's week is actually reliving those moments you know reliving the magic and appreciating the magic and it's just I don't know it infuses into your life rather than looking and letting those stacking stack up for you become frustrations and the story knowing that this man I was born to love this man God gifted me for all that a good with millions of people the good I've done this has been the gift of my life I've gotten so now I believe that's my positive karma that's the core story I believe about this woman and that produces a love and a commitment and a devotion to each other that gets through any of the other BS that shows up when you get caught up in the daily stresses of things so rewrite your story what is your love affair and who are you for the one that you love and if you're single it's time to rewrite the story of who you are and the one that you're gonna attract because whatever we focus on wherever we all know whatever energy go wherever focus goes energy flows so your story controls the energy of your life if you think all the good ones are gone its self-fulfilling you know if you're overweight and hungers wait the strategies are there but you're not doing it cuz you go I've tried everything you haven't tried everything not all the good ones are gone and your partner who's right with you if there was ever a passion that passion can be brought back to life with the right strategies but first you got to have the story that says I can the last one real fast will go is the most important part of relationship is the state you're in we always call it the State of the Union you know what's the state of the union if two people independent each other are in pink states about things in their business their life their career and they need together it's a great relationship if they're both in kind of a soso state eventually the relationships are so if they're both in a crappy state prison it's a crappy relationship what people want is when we meet somebody we could attracted them because they change our state that change the way we feel we get excited want to be with them are you being are you putting yourself in a state when you're with the partner of your life or the person you want to attract are you really in the state that would want them make them want to be with you like they would be in the beginning you know most people are noticing what the other person isn't doing but the most important thing is you're gonna interpret your partner and really negative ways when you're in a lousy state never been mad at somebody about something and you found out later on you were wrong we just the state you're in so we have so many tools for changing state and we work at it my husband always says are the most loving human being on the planet until I don't eat then he calls me Godzilla uh-huh so food from a state perspective be aware sometimes truthfully we will even if there's a stacking or we have a frustration we will literally it's like you know whether we need to change our state we'll go drink some water we'll eat something just taking a breath from what's happening in that moment so it allows your physiology to change so you're not like bringing that to the table in that moment because that can just cause if you're both frustrated and those two fresh strangers is going together it's like literally I mean we will physically just it's like let's do something physical jump in the pool it sounds crazy but it actually like you know you come out and you feel different and feel your physiology you experience different reality when you're stuck in a relationship you're stuck because you're stuck in a state people get stuck in the future as futures not the way they want it to be in their head or something gonna happen in the past the best thing is to change something in the present physically change it drink some water have something to eat jump in the river do whatever you got to do because in the right State you and I both know if this if there's any love there you will transform and come back and solve the problem but in the wrong state good people the right people in the wrong state will mess up the relationship so if you want have a breakthrough this week look at some of the strategies for understanding appreciating and changing look at what triggers you to feel attractive because this week's not just about love it's love and passion cuz if all you have is love you have a friendship nothing wrong with that but feeling an intimate relationship then there's passion there so what are the strategies to trigger that the masculine and feminine energy the dance of it take a look at some of those this week take a look at this week as your own story take a look at your state and we're gonna introduce some little videos this week for you just our gift to you and then at some point they'll be an offering for you to continue your education with us we have our ultimate relationship program and I'll have some kind of special offer for you Mets if you want to continue this journey with us and really expand things please take advantage of that but the first thing we want to do in the next day or two maybe they'll put it on this video I don't know how they'll do it is what we call the eight to be great which is what are the laws of love and lust they're different love and passion what makes you love somebody doesn't always make you excited by them somebody just want to snuggle what makes you excited doesn't always bring out love how do you trigger both of these in the same relationship ignite that passion ignite that love Mike that attraction you can turn on in an instant and that's what we really share you know for us we are each other's best friends I mean there's literally I'm we share everything together and yet to have that and to have that intimacy alive to have that and to have that level of attraction that's where it's just it's a game-changer changer of a level of love and excitement and anticipation to really share your life together I'm fun and fun we call each other Godzilla happy Valentine's week we hope you enjoy some of the stuff we're sending you I hope it's helpful for you we know will be if you take the time and and hopefully we get a chance to meet you in person someday an event or hear the story of how you've changed your life and change your relationship either created the one you really want or taking the one that you're in to a new level god bless to you happy Valentine's Day you

Channel: Tony Robbins

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Length: 11min 20sec (680 seconds)

Published: Wed Feb 12 2014