The Truth About Being Pregnant | Sex Ed

[Music] did you poop during labor so i was so scared that i was gonna poop during labor i literally told my boyfriend i was like if i poop please don't tell me because i will be so embarrassed [Music] was your pregnancy planned absolutely not it was actually kinda did we sit down and say hey you want to have a baby because i want to have a baby no were we having sex unprotected yeah even though i took a plan b literally like five hours later i still got pregnant and i asked the doctor i was like how she was like you were ovulating and basically the plan b can't stop ovulation it can only prevent ovulation we were using condoms every time and i don't know what happened anytime anyone says like just get on birth control like i was on birth control and it still happened so were you and your partner still sexually active while you're pregnant yes no because i was single i personally did not notice a difference except for when i was like really big because you have to navigate that but it was good it's so weird because naturally i'm not a like over sexual person and during pregnancy i was very sexual like all the time and definitely after pregnancy it vanished i don't know if i'll ever be pregnant again to find out if it could be good but it was not it's not pleasant what was labor like um i cried a lot i cried for like 20 hours straight my labor was unexpectedly long it was 48 hours they had to induce me because my water was leaking but i wasn't getting contractions and then when i actually pushed that wasn't bad at all because he came out in like 10 minutes the bad part was after like having to pee and use the bathroom and stuff i tore inside when i gave when i had him so they had to stitch up inside and it hurt for literally a month as a black woman it's scary to go into the hospital my biggest fear was that i wasn't going to have a natural or a vaginal birth i didn't a c-section is major surgery your body is being cut open they're moving your organs around in this society the average woman doesn't even have the ability to sit at home for six weeks and be like all right i'ma heal from major surgery i did have an emergency c-section i barely remember it i felt like i was so hopped up on drugs yes you might be kind of numb but i definitely felt like i could feel my doctor's hands so deep inside of my stomach cavity then they pulled her out and she cried and it is true what they say like it's one of the most beautiful sounds ever after that not so much the first cry the best did you poop during labor so i was so scared that i was gonna poop during labor i literally told my boyfriend i was like if i poop please don't tell me because i will be so embarrassed i luckily didn't i don't know they didn't tell me no i did not poop during labor because i didn't have to push what happens is when you have a c-section they have to make sure that you actually you know use the restroom before you leave the hospital because the whole process of pulling a baby out via c-section is kind of hard on your bowels did you have any difficulties during your pregnancy um i had high blood pressure usually a woman's blood pressure goes down when she's pregnant mine stayed at what they call a high normal up until i was induced at 37 weeks pregnant i fainted a couple of times just due to like low blood sugar i've never fainted before in my life during my pregnancy i didn't really have any difficulties it was mostly during childbirth that i did so my son's heart rate had dropped like really bad while he was in my belly they had to use like this little suction thing to get to help help me push him out because he wasn't coming out fast enough but my pregnancy actually was super like a breeze i loved like having the belly and everything it was so cute by month two i'm like okay i'm into this and uh miscarried at 15 and a half weeks it was definitely like a very like traumatic experience i was at home and started cramping really bad and i was like well something's definitely wrong and then started spotting and then just like really really bloody and i got myself into the shower because i couldn't walk and um i think it was just more sad than anything the physical side of it it was really painful like it literally felt like somebody was just like stabbing my uterus like over and over and like my like just the whole the whole area i called 9-1-1 and i was like i think something's wrong i think it might be miscarrying and they're like do you need us to send somebody no no like don't send anybody like i can't afford an ambulance drive right now i was like don't send anybody and she's like okay you just see me on the phone with you and i was like yeah she was really nice little southern lady she was super sweet and just kind of talked me through and like you're gonna be okay like everything's fine like and she told me she's like okay it's gonna be really weird but like go to your gynecologist and so i called and like made an emergency appointment for the next day and like had to go in and get the rest of everything like scraped out and i just laid there the whole time like embarrassed and sad and like i just really wanted my mom i think leaving the relationship i was in at the time that i did was probably the healthiest thing i've done for myself in a really long time and i have so much love for him like very much still involved in his life we're still really close friends i think knowing that like we both kind of get to like move on and like live our best lives in like the healthiest manner has been what's like getting me through it did you consider having an abortion would you have gotten an abortion when i told my mom she was like okay let me schedule your abortion appointment and she did the morning of the abortion appointment i told her like i can't do it we did think about it we thought about all of our options no and that's because i was 26. girl you you did this be a woman and have the baby i made a decision to have an abortion before i was even pregnant i texted him i was like hey we need to talk i'm pregnant and i'm getting an abortion and he started crying which is totally fine but i remember being like hey like i'm the pregnant one here like i want to cry can you comfort me it's different for different people like i didn't feel ashamed of the decision but it's an emotional thing nonetheless the worst part about it were the just insane amount of adults that were outside of the clinic screaming in my face telling me to go to hell and that i was a murderer when i was 17 years old it really like stands out as like a huge part of the experience which is crazy i went to planned parenthood in the morning i remember they gave me the pill like a little cup like hey are you sure like once you take this you can't go like you cannot go back and i was like yeah i'm sure and then i had to go get a prescription for the second pills because it's two pills medication abortion i think it was like eight hours nausea and then vomiting cramping bleeding diarrhea sometimes all happening at the same time i do want to be a mom and i had an abortion because i want to be a good mom when i'm ready i considered it i did it and i do not regret it at all this is a gonna be a hard one how was your perception of your body image and how has it changed i wanted to look pregnant i didn't want to be a fat person who was pregnant and nobody knew it's definitely hard to look at my stomach and see like the loose skin and the weird weight gain that happens in different areas that's super hard to get rid of throughout my adolescence i struggled with an eating disorder i was hospitalized for it multiple times it was just really hard to watch my body create something so beautiful and so magical to me and to shame myself for it and to feel out of control and because that's what an eating disorder is all about is managing and controlling everything in your life after my pregnancy it was even more challenging it was my job and my duty to make sure that my daughter was fed from me and to not let like the physical self get in the way of making sure that i'm taking care and nurturing my child do you regret getting pregnant not even a little bit i never regretted it like even when i found out it wasn't something where i was like this is a mistake i regret the partner i don't regret the pregnancy i feel like that's like weird because i would like expect to be like did you regret getting an abortion but do you get getting pregnant i feel like no one's ever asked me that question before i love my son like i think it's the best thing that ever happened to me and i think that being a young mom was for me i honestly wouldn't have it any other way i love it i had all those emotions and then i had all the opposite emotions i'm like oh my gosh what am i gonna do none of my friends are gonna like me anymore because they're all like super like jesusy which sounds terrible because i am too but then as soon as i told them that i miscarried they're like why didn't you tell us that you were pregnant we would have done baby showers and all the clothes and all the things i feel like maybe yeah back in the day i would have been like oh my god absolutely like i wish i would have never [ __ ] got pregnant but now like i'm very aware that i am kind of put here to be able to better empathize and be compassionate towards people and i think i went through it for a reason and i don't regret it what is something you wish you had learned sooner i definitely wish i learned just a lot more about like birth control options and how easy it is to get pregnant i wish that i'd learn about sex period sooner and i wish that it was more of an everyday conversation like we talk about food instead of oh my god sex like it's like you know like it's just so such a bad thing what i learned from my teenage years is that regardless of what my mom said i was gonna find a way to do what i wanted to do anyway and it was just behind her back which was just making it more dangerous for me my goal is for my kids to be able to trust me when it comes to things like that i don't know exactly how i'm going to do that yet i just know that i want my household to be very open conversation wise [Music] you

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Published: Fri May 07 2021