The Art Of War | Dr. Matthew Stevenson | 5 Essentials For Victory

I want to my story all I see is ways follow around the camera alright hicas shoot I know I'm the winner I know all right we've been in a series of strategy called the art of war the art of war it has it is technically my absolute favorite book I've been reading it every year for several years at the top of the year honestly because updating revisiting and determining strategy is needful for everybody scream yes I was blessed today with an actual physical copy of the illustrated version of this and this is important art of war was written BC and war master son zu was 30 when he conquered from the smallest place in Asia the largest place so it's a very very palpable if you've never read it again I told 8 o'clock this morning I need this church to have a value for scholarship a value for scholarship because scholarship saves lives and what I mentioned to them is that somebody around the world it's dying because of somebody else's willful ignorance either at how the gospel is appropriated a preach or present it connected to school systemic ignorance is the root of systemic poverty so scholarship really does save lives so you don't have to be some person with a lot of degrees and all of that but you do need to be a life long student if nobody challenges you you should challenge yourself all the time and we need not be the type of people that only study when it's time for a test you need to throw yourself in a life of study say yes all right let's give me my PowerPoint I'm going to give you this is the conclusion of the matter and this is the most important component of the art how many of you have been challenged in this whole issue of strategy okay how many of you don't care about strategy okay so the issue of strategy is vitally important for anything you're building in life if you're starting something if you're finishing something I think there's even a way you disagree with me and you allowed to do that I think some of these principles are also appropriate for relationships understanding how to move and how to maneuver in relational landscapes and rooms so this is very important to develop strategic thought to develop strategic appropriation there's a scripture I believe in proverbs 21 let me give that to you hold on that was really good all to say hold on like I'm on the phone yeah let's before I go there I want you to pull up proverbs 21 and 31 in the NIV proverbs 21 and 31 in the NIV if you've engaged in material you've already found out that this book is very much proverbial in the sense that it's designed is very line upon line precept upon precept it's not a huge poetic book it's written a very principled in its style and there's a scripture that I want to start with that I think is going to help you with this proverbs 21 and 31 if you're there say I'm there if you're not there say wait on me in the NIV thank you it says this the horse is made ready for the day of battle but victory rests with the Lord let's read it again the horse is made ready for the day of battle but y'all sounds so lost that's it again the horse is made ready for the day of battle but turn the light back on where is victory where is victory where is victory so here is where we're going to go today the objective of all warfare is victory please write it down the objective of all warfare is victory we do not want to engage in conflict and challenge in conflict or or any of that just to remain there if I'm fighting I'm fighting to win so the objective of warfare is victory does that make sense to you you may as well not even fight if you are expecting to lose if you do not want to win don't go into war it is a waste of your time and I really believe that what the purpose of this installment is you need a fresh definition for what victory is when it comes to what you're building when it comes to how you're appropriating it victory is one of those words that get so lost in Christian jargon that we don't understand exactly what it is or how to pursue it but if you have been in a battle you need to know when you've won if you planning something if you are designing something what does a win look like for us before I give you the principles let me give an example of what that looks like if you're designing a team for a project if you are building a conversation for a product it is always a misuse of resources to not begin with the win you have to design the team and in order to correct to give wisdom to appropriate money you need to know what is a win look like for us for example if I'm gonna start uh everybody's a consultant now so let's say I'm gonna start a seminar what is a win is a win for us that people come is a win for us that I can use this event or this discussion as the pre loo to something else in my book this doesn't have to be for you if we're going to have an event the real success of the event is what I'm able to do after it it's not just creating something that people enjoy listen we don't pay money for experiences alone if I can't leverage some momentum some profitability from the event then no matter how many people enjoyed it it was a failure that's me it doesn't have to be you so when we do conferences when we do gatherings I'm not looking at how many times people fell out or how many times the lights work or I'm looking or did this moment create momentum did what we do allow for us to do more when nobody's looking pay attention if you get unter into event based living event based bid this event based all of that stuff then those who in between spots where there's nothing to do is going to be a loss of momentum and when you don't have momentum there is very little you can do momentum is like the wind behind the sail you set up something and the breath of God the favor of God the conversations of God come to blow to move you in the direction of victory does this make sense to you so you need to identify what is a win in strategy if I've had a conversation with my child what is the outcome of this do I want to use listen a moment of Correction to punish them for bad behavior or do I want to use this moment of correction to further scope the heart it may feel the same but it's different if I beat you or forgive me for mandated reporters if I if I Muffy let's say month if I come over here boy is the real fruit or is the real reward of that that you stopped doing it or that you learned why not doing it is good it's different you may stop doing it now but all you're doing is postponing your desire to do it at some point if I use this conversation to instruct you about why this is not good for you then even though you stop doing it now what I've also done is I've got a hold of your understanding about why this is not good for you this makes sense as a parent the part of what you're supposed to be doing is making your kids profitable to society and if you're not strategic and how your parenting you're putting your problems on the world that makes sense a lot of criminal behavior not all but a lot of credible criminal behavior started with not strategic parenting okay so this matters to everything you do in life God has been dealing with me about how I'm ready I am for the coming responsibilities about how unprepared I want you to hear this if God starts to show you what's coming next he is not trying to encourage you he's trying to educate you about the lifestyle changes you to make to stand under new pressure you don't like this sometimes when God says this is coming that is coming we go immediately into gratitude and not education while I'm grateful about what the Lord is doing I'm sober about how unprepared I am for it so then the space between announcement and readiness is called regiment there is a strategy ok let me make let me bring it to all nations level even deliverance is a strategy once we've unseated come out come out go once we've done all that now you literally have got to design the type of life that supports the freedom you just got if we pass the devil out and you keep the same friends [Applause] particularly ones that host what just left you then in your non strategic movement you will find a place of plateau and your freedom so strategy is everything strategy is everywhere when I went to this scripture about victory right above that there was a proverb that said anybody would rather live in a desert with scorching Sun than in a room with an angry woman I know you see that one how would you appreciate at a women's conference nobody wants to be bothered with that right but there is a way listen for a female to use her influence to be heard strategically now there are some people who are extremely valid at how they see things what they see what's important but if they present it wrong they may as well have been wrong with the information there's a lot of people that's right that can't be heard cuz how they talk I'm saying that to you because sometimes even your presentation needs to be strategic listen it need not be manipulative now what manipulation is I'm going in my god with the intention to get you to agree and I'm gonna control this discussion in such a way where I'm gonna get my way anyway that's manipulative strategy is I'm going to present this in the most palatable way possible use another phrase palatable synonym and the easiest way to digest for the person to hear does this make sense to you am i boring you so you need a life of strategy I think you need a strategy for every decade of your life in my 20s I want to in my 30s I need to in my 40s I'm doing this and you need to look at it like a life ladder of what you're gonna be involved in yourself in two sons who masterfully gave five principles for victory or how to get it one of the most phenomenal things that he says and this is the best Wars of ones that don't have to get physical I can I can fight by weaken you so that we don't have to fight that make sense so these are wisdom keys that you need to appropriate for your career for your calling for your marriage for your movement and for the next hand you put your resume in am I talking Portuguese if you're strategic it doesn't matter what's wrong with the system a strategist can escape the plight of the system you got to know your way in and out the name Deborah means weasel and I believe God named that prophet there because a part of her calling would be to be invisible when necessary and to be visible when necessary and if you don't learn how to go in and out among and around the people you'll get trapped of being good at something but you'll never be great at anything scream victory that is our objective we're going to excel you will never be seen older and not better than your former self there are people right now in your life may I minister to you there are people around you right now that's offended with the old you that's because they don't have access to your updated version so they're still reliving watch me and incarcerated somebody you used to be because you've created parameters around your evolution now if you allow that conversation to confine you you will be so busy being sad about people's judgments that you won't make Swift movements listen I'm about to say some heavy death - coming soon stop prematurely telling people what you're working on before it's done we don't have to know that you build it and you hustle it and you can't let anybody know what you did hey you just actually did say that there you got to know how to protect it when it's vulnerable so that people don't know what to sabotage every real strategist needs to develop an eye for the spirit of sabotage and when the devil sees that you are about to make some progress if he can't stop it he'll stall it jesus said it this way your left hand does not have to know what your right hand is doing you should have 20 projects you working on that you ain't letting nobody but your intercessors and your teachers know I'm walking in here you let the people that are your advocates know and your instructors know to create room for wisdom let's go through these principles but give me the first one I want to read this together let's do this listen to this quote if you don't remember anything from this book cause I know most you probably read it but but if you don't remember anything from this remember this if you know the enemy if you know yourself you need not fear the result of a hundred battles if you know yourself but not the enemy for every victory you've gained you will suffer a defeat if you know neither the enemy or yourself you will succumb in every battle the meat that is in that number one you must recognize your opponent first of all repeat after me I have no competition said again I have no competition there are people that may be competing with you that you don't have to return the favor to you know who I compete with my last version of myself I am not in competition with you I'm not gonna hurry up and write a book cause you write one I'm not gonna hurry up and try to have a Facebook live because I look at you say well what about me I got something to offer there's a lot of people who live their life and productive competition and the bad thing is most people don't realize Oh nan wonderful it is if it's mediocre it's probably because it's competing with something outside of its sphere I have no competition that is a life model of mine it's a pillar I compete with myself I think it's interesting especially when you're dealing with digital media and social media that the people who don't like you follow you the most I've always found it intriguing how your enemies always have updates interesting always have it you have to know your opponent now let me make you uncommon may or may not be a person it may be a statistic for example when it comes to what we do in the context of transformational churches my enemy is not other churches they're amazing churches in Chicago I love them I bless them I feel bad for every pastor if I'm honest I think we all suffering together okay so I don't have competition that I am competing against a statistic a statistic that says in 20 years the local church will be on the phone I'm fighting up against a trend where people are no longer seeing the necessity of church life and community that's my opponent so I'm teaching you how to broaden your ideas of what an opponent is if you think physical you're gonna miss the battle does this make sense to you you're gonna miss the battle you got to know your enemy now let's bring this to deliverance it is vitally important that you know what's after you now know that that one person is said a man thank you but if you are so busy being condemned about what's on your blood what what grew up in your family that you've not acts necessary questions of yourself or the people around you first of all you gotta admit that you are the product of the thing you were born into now that does not have to determine your outcome or end result but you still need to know necessary stuff to find out why you get triggered by stuff very few adult triggers have adult roots I'm gonna say that again cuz Wonka very few adult responses have adult triggers you have got to find what in the world does this hit in my old self that is not all the way matured or developed so that I can conquer through Victor does this make me make sense to you I was praying in tongues yesterday I love to speak in a heavenly language and a part of what came out as I prayed I guess it was an interpretation with my spirit was praying helped me to react better help me to react better not in the natural I would never pray that because I want to react how I want to react particularly if I feel vindicated but what the Lord showed me was for the level hey the way the influence that I'm taking you into you have to be able to have specific reactions they they don't need listen when you get bigger in whatever you do you have to be less impulsive will you be how do you have impulsive reaction sometime be honest y'all some y'all be telling them to spit if we tested it sometime let's say a family member yours woke up and accidentally smack the spit out your mouth most of us would struggle now it would just be like us like yeah so you need to train your reactions now listen this is not in my point but a part of knowing your enemy is understanding your meditation understanding how you're thinking about what you're in what's after you what's around you know your enemy this morning we landed up on this and know your self it is dangerous to be ally in 2020 when there is a spirit of lunacy on our nation and be not self-aware people are literally losing their minds away there are so many narcissists in this room [Applause] and they got that way because they only spend time thinking about them and the way people see them so when you live your life like that you are two years away from a nervous breakdown is pending and it's pending because you've not paid attention to your meditation life this is my scriptures like that the words of my mouth the meditation of my heart be acceptable why I don't just throw myself in the scripture to prove that I'm smart I'm playing for my sanity I'm fighting for my reaction I'm fighting for my responses so I don't let what you do make me miss my future say help me react better your reactions to everything is an opportunity to everything have the right reaction have the right reaction it should be said of you this is a part of knowing yourself it should be said of you that your old boss would welcome you back any time if you get fired if you walk away to a new job if you for whatever reason move it should be said of you that your supervisor would welcome you back at all if your superior says to you woo you behaved in such a way that you were not as self-aware and I'm hammering this because I don't want you to think you are exempt strong personality people are not always self-aware sometime you in Traverse and with as much as y'all like to brag on that y'all are dysfunctional you have major issues now why we understand that you like your time of your personal time you have the greater risk of not being self-aware cuz you've grown up in such a way where you're most at home by yourself that's fine but it gives you limited sight now some extroverts are equally as crazy cuz they don't respect boundaries so what they do is they want things on their time and adventure and go here and do this and what happens with an extrovert listen you gotta teach them the power of stillness extroverts make a lot of mistakes because they're so impulsive introverts tend to be calculated if they not say they sneaky the bottom line is know yourself and learn to have emotionally detached conversations about how you show up if I say you have a really bad mouth be immature says I know you ain't talking where here's the deal it may be true of you but it don't mean it's not true of me you've got to develop a value for the criticism even if you don't like the person giving it at the end of the day this person may not be in your life but this still may be something that can enrich how you show up they know yourself when you know yourself you know when to talk to who when you know yourself you know when you need to be up around four I know if I'm sleepy most conversations are not going to go well if I've not had some eggs god be praised some salmon croquettes hallelujah in the morning it's probably not best to give me bad news I had a situation a few years ago I woke up at about 6:00 to come to church and preach and somebody who I guess had learned my pattern immediately texted me like 20 pages of disgruntled stuff and I had to get up and preach and like an owl I was in the barber chair Liv I call it boy I say if you ever compromise the quality of the words of the people I serve for this foolishness on a Sunday morning you will never have access to me again it was an unwise handling of your access you got to know when to show up with what level of information listen but the Sailfish are also the non self-aware anybody here know some selfish people you have to be self-aware you have to be self-aware all right now so you have to know yourself good and you have to know your enemy and if you know both of those it is impossible to loose cream yes now if you know yourself but you're naive about your enemy then what's going to happen is you win and lose all the time that there'll be instability and consistency in what you do for example how are you going to excel in a market you steal casually dating most of us create mark or products for markets we still trying to flirt with and learn you have to immerse yourself in the world of the thing you want there is a reason why when you deal with military I love military life because a part of what it reveals is you're not gonna learn this on your terms you have to literally depart your reality your environment what you know and be thrown in literally baptized into another world so you can't be detached from a specific world and send your ideas and your products in that way you know you've got to learn the markets you want to excel in that make sense to you now if you don't know nothing then you will succumb in every battle my burden for that go to the next slide I'm gonna process this but my burden for that I want you to hear this with the love of God one of the things I think grieves the Lord is when women become wives and by virtue of necessity they bury every aspiration they ever had for the security of that relationship so you notice what they do with they'll start getting depressed and they'll throw themselves into the stuff that has to do with the house the proud of what that is these children or this kid is going to turn 18 and when that child is no longer the reason for your connection then you're going to be brutally awakened with the fact that we have grown so far apart that neither one of us are here and God not what I thought God does not want you in a relationship by necessity he wants you to want to be with your spouse he wants you to want to be with your wife he wants you to want to be there and he does not want you feeling imprisoned by romance see real love real love I'm sorry I had to get out I'm searching for listen a real love will set you free it's not going to make you reduce you and strip you and make you less than a real love should make you come alive you should feel flourished ghost in your worst days where you don't feel like nothing a real spouse is watering the seeds of greatness now there's still some more in you that still listen my wife loved me so good there are moments when I'm at my lowest and she's not you still got more in you she's and I don't be wanting to hear it but the accountability that love provide my heart I said the accountability real love provides accountability something to live up to and answer number one let's go fast principle number one a victory he will win who knows when to fight and when not to fight this is a extremely important battle principle because what sons are saying is in any war are you ready for this one of your most important weapons is your energy now there are people places things conversations whose whole purpose is to gradually deplete you of energy to make sure you don't have the stamina listen how many of you have had a phone conversation with somebody that just felt like it was going from everlasting to everlasting God's freeing you right now how many bees is on the phone and and and there are some people I'm sure councils understand this that are not looking for a solution they honestly just want to continue to go and then what happens is you get off their phone out their meeting feeling drag I should not need a nap after talking to you if you're going to hate for whatever God is going to do in your life in March you have a priority and a responsibility to protect your energy you got to decide when you're going to bed you got to decide when you're waking up you got to decide if I got to fake smile to be there I'm not going a preservation of energy I know when to fight and I know when not to fight the wisdom in that is knowing what's worth the fight there are certain things that are worth the fight one of the hardest lessons I've had to learn in my entire life is that I'm not the Holy Ghost now that sounds simple to you but when you get close to him sometimes you run the risk of trying to act like you are him one of the most devastating realities I came to is I can't change people oh my god it sounds easy but think about how much you do how much you say how bad you hurt when people don't change you have to realize you are not God people will change when they're ready to change and what you can do is advocate for the change but you need to keep your peace as if they never go change does this make sense and then if you want to have a mature discussion find out why you attract so many people that don't like change because it may be a mirror for something that's looking at you I know when to fight I know when not to fight the Bible turn aaron is going in and out among the people next principle he will win who knows how to handle these our victory principles both superior and inferior forces listen to me CEOs cooc apples HR administrators type assistance whatever your issue or your role is if you're the visionary if you're the support whatever your role is you should treat your superiors with the exact same respect now I know I know and somebody's a man's gonna be alive I didn't watch y'all be nasty at these altars I didn't watch I'll be nasty over seats parking spaces and you know what's crazy is y'all to be mean to park your people out there until you find out they know the people at the top and then you'll change their behavior when you see that you can move on in it here's why this is important if you're faking it to the people at the top and you are your real self to the people at the bottom at some point you gonna slip you're not gonna be able to maintain that all the time you don't let your real self show and I've been trying to tell y'all for years folk talk I'm telling you everything you say that no verbal you got to know how to keep it consistent if I say it behind your back I'll said in front [Applause] you have to know how to treat this there is an entire teaching I think every business owner every leader needs to establish around the power of delegated authority what you can learn when you learn people put how they treat others see if you're the person at the top y'all don't like this if you've had anything and there are people around you with intention to get up you might not be learning the real person the real person is how they show up listen when they're forced to act with people who can do nothing for them if your character is only stellar around the people that have the power to promote you you still fake and I don't know about you I'm about to clown I'm so sick of fake Christians I don't know what to do just fake hey girl I can't stand there be I love my church this is an awful place no one long hold it hold it phony baloney [Applause] [Applause] how do you listen how do you lay your head on somebody who scandal you celebrated well in the Bible do we celebrate scandal that is not New Testament it's carnal but people do it when they're trying to move into by organizational currency we're bashing you or knowing about you makes me worth more you have to know how to interact with now this is also true with God and man you can't be cracker so useless like yourself before God and then have a such a Curtis in your mouth when your soul so disrespectful in your tone that people don't even think you're worth conversation superior and inferior forces my son my my only natural son I call him yes sir because I want to be referred to by him as sir I don't accept myself from what I'm telling him to do there are those of you that expect submission and you're rebellious [Applause] and the thing about submission is you don't get to customize your definition of it say superior and inferior now it's a growth margin no condemnation you just got to grow until you are the same and God can do so much with consistency consistency and character consistency and temperament in Jesus name I'm praying for y'all that y'all are not emotionally disturbed and turbulent where you allow a hard season to shape your character does this make sense alright next he will win now this is a powerful one if you had a team let me read it first sick of this he will win whose Army is innovated by oh come on yelling at me throughout if you run a anything you should be able to look at the success of tears of those that work you and discern a pure DNA if you look at your team and can't see you if you look at the pure employees or your work the people on you and the same spirit see that absence of sameness and the presence of that strife is behind on a staggering have you ever tried to move when it does that is because something probably is not the same you should be able to look at those that father even see yourself there's it makes sense if you're the visionary the progenitor of everything number one issue is your responsibility to set the tone and it's your responsibility to expect the DNA no matter what you built in life somebody is going to come with the hopes that you gonna put them on and I'm gonna tell you how they do in church bases can you mentor me or they start doing it like hey my now some people are just naive but there are some people who have a motive that's behalf flattery the same spirit you are now I pray that none of you have to live through looking at your ranks sing a strange DNA it's an awful thing to look at that and be like that's not me huh that is not like me it's awful I don't want to see that because if you do you may be losing and not know why and it could be that there's a device of DNA and a theme that what you build if you are the head of anything at the top division is your responsibility and it's people's jobs to add and contribute and execute it but not to alter it had a guy counseled a couple of weeks ago he was in a situation where he was like involved in like a multi-site thing and there's a guy at the top and there was another guy in like a smaller situation that was connected to the same thing and in my travels he said hey you're doing this multi-site thing and you're really doing it how do I get my leader to see my vision that was like visa problem means you've entered into a storyline already been written and you are an easily replaceable piece you ought not ever go to somebody under a mandate from God bringing your agenda to a vision I call the past I said get rid of oboi I'm that friend a fire help please immediately because what's gonna happen is when they should be pointing people to the broader vision they're building people to themselves right next he will win who prepared himself who waits to take the enemy unprepared the consistency in this is that you can never be too prepared the key to this on a personal level is you should be always evolving if you're always changing one of the things you got to realize listen to me enemy is not he's not changing so if you evolve the way he learns or that when your adversary learns your evolutions by your reactions and your responses to stuff what it looks like is that in every season of promotion the devil will try to pinch something to see if it still hurts why why listen to me sugar nothing restricts promotion like fear of pain so if the enemy knows it still hurts he's going to allow similar occurrences to see if is healed or just closed why because you're not going to move if you're looking at a scenario or even what I'm hearing in my spirit is even opportunity if you're looking at an opportunity trying to discern do I going this or not if something in there looks like it's going to hurt you're going to be unhealthily cautioned about taking advantage to seize a moment this makes sense so preparation is I don't use the last pain to teach me what I can and cannot do next I use the last pain to teach me the power of recovery and if I've recovered well I'll throw myself into any opportunity that is of God if I'm not recovered well that I'm going to stagger in my obedience and subsequently I'll be defeated this makes sense you now here is the wisdom if it still hurts don't beat yourself up be honest honesty is a powerful medicine if you're honest about it then we got a premise to heal does this make sense that's honesty you need honest and you need to create an environment where honesty is welcome in your marriage it needs to be welcomed and your friendships it needs to be welcomed yet I had to lie to be connected to you then the truth is we're not really connected because the real truth is you'll connect it with the version of me that accommodates you even if that ain't me alright so you need honest that you need to be prepared let me ask you a rhetorical question because I want you to be alive really meditate on how ready you are and what you do for preparation what are your preparation practices now in your mind you may say I don't exactly know what all I'm preparing for will prepare for what you do know and then the more prepared you are the more clear you're going to become this year essentially I'm responsible for a lot of churches but directly with this staff is inseminating five churches 501 so you got man you got South you got West you got New York and then you got DC and none of them are minor churches our new church plants are bigger than the average Church in America I'm not ready yet I'm trying hard but I know I've got about eight to nine weeks to change some regiment issues to adjust it now how many of you are prophetic you hear God you design the voice of the Lord all right listen use that ability to ask God what your days need to now look like I have been throwing myself on the altar how do I approach this this light what do I do when you're tired from a flight what I do when I got a class I've got to finish and a meeting I'm supposed to have how do i navigate this and here's a problem it's not gonna ever stop if you intend to be successful you're just gonna be organizing chaos for the rest of your life because growth comes like that does this make sense and then what I'm sensing prophetically is some of you are going to experience spontaneous momentum where it drops on you out of nowhere but if you're not prepared even that momentum will overwhelm you listen to me you have to prepare for everything success fast pace slow pace you got to prepare for all of that if you do not you will not get the victory come on I'm finishing this up he will win this is the final one that has military capacity that is not interrupted with or interfered with by the sovereign in this case he's talking about an emperor or a ruler but in our case we're talking about situations beyond our control life happens to everybody but leaders handle life differently we don't have the privilege to handle life like people that don't have responsibilities this makes sense to you so he will win who has military capacity a part of what that means is that you need to finally finally accept your training your drills your orders you literally have to leader we've been saying for you I'm a soldier in the army how about just a line cuz we're 90 very militant people we don't militantly pursue things we don't militantly or aggressively study we don't militantly practice there is a drill that's necessary for people that live like they're in a war now I'm not trying to give you organizational or congregational or personal or interpersonal PTSD what I'm trying to do is help you realize that everything in life that's worth having is worth fighting for but if you don't know how to fight you're not gonna make it in life period so I'm not teaching this like everybody's an entrepreneur or everybody's gonna start something but you need a strategy for something you need to be smaller than the moment you are in you need a strategy for winning souls you need a strategy I even think when for those of you that right there is a strategy for when to write certain things I have seen people that have had write revelation but it was the wrong moment and because it was the wrong moment it didn't bear the weight that it should have had to make the impact there is a whole wing who I'll say the success of the song is the season the success of the song is the season have you ever heard a great song that didn't do as much as it could have done a part of the effectiveness and I'm not a songwriter but a part of the effectiveness is that you've got to discern what's going on in the life of a thing to develop the lyric that people will grab to navigate through that season so you got to have the eyes to understand what's going on in the world around us and create an anthem a melody a poem something to grab ahold of the heart it can be beautifully written and poorly timed so think about that with every angle of your life Solomon said it would love Solomon said do not wake her up before you're ready cuz it's hard what's that lady get up it's difficult putting her back to sleep and then if you have like a life cabinet that have varying perspectives about what you need then you're gonna be under several pressures about when you shoot it when you should not now I'm gonna be honest I know that dating as a Christian is different and it's that way for men and women honestly you sisters have it bad and you have it bad because we have a culture that's been preparing women for wifehood for years and their idea preparing me and is tailgate parties and then old noir can't say that so are casual the French term is lays a fair approach to men got a bunch of quote unquote ready women for a bunch of men that are not necessarily ready for the responsibility the other crisis if I'm honest is that we have a bad definition of life we hear wife and thing woman but wife is a behavior it is a character it is a discipline I know you don't think it but it's also a demeanor wife is a language god be praised wipe is ass way it really is wipe is a habit of showing up as a support of something now if I'm fair a wife can't be a good wife and she ain't got nothing to support [Applause] that's why I need to meet with these brothers Tuesday y'all get y'all vision together so you could have something to activate the helpmate in that woman you can activate it and the same is true if a woman is serene and supportive enough and becomes your personal oasis she can activate the King in you that is my physical permanent vacation and when I'm around it I'm rested enough to be better that's the whole objective of marriage and whiteboy does that make sense to you so so don't allow especially what you call that thing the need for or the desire for companionship which is natural to determine whether or not you're ready to start doing it or not everybody needs companions right but you need to have an honest SWOT analysis of your life where you are what you can handle and where your emotional expenditures are all right I want men who can't express themselves to stop dating [Applause] but what you do is you make women figure out and you help them become schizophrenic because because you want them to learn your movements where you can just have a conversation about what you need and what you desire it's about readiness say it's about readiness all right so that's all I've got for you and that five [Applause] let me pray for you and we're going home they got barbecue downstairs and escape rooms and all that stuff but I want to pray for you and what's about to happen all right give me some music real quick

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Published: Tue Feb 25 2020