Siblings rivalry will drive Supernanny insane! | The Moy Family | FULL EPISODE

hi yeah how's your morning been it's been kind of Rocky yeah what's happened when we were playing the board game earlier Haley was a part of it and then she started talking rudely and talking back and at that stage mom became very overwhelmed and at that point I just really wanted to just say what's going on here oh just let it out let it out and quietly out what's going on here everything turns into a battle but you're expecting something that's not going to happen you're expecting no confrontation you're going to get confrontation you're going to get it you've made a conscious decision to say I need to stop all of this now so let's take a look at my next family in Chile Nebraska I'm Michelle I'm Harding and we have three children Haley Who's 11. ah Cameron who's eight oh and Matthew who's four I am a computer consultant I travel yeah it's home and Michelle is a single parent during those times he's usually gone Monday through Thursday night I'm not real happy with his work situation right now I feel that the issues that we're facing with the children started when Harding had to start traveling so much and being gone don't pick her and don't let the door slam in her face when Haley's in a good mood then things are peaceful as Haley's attitude goes so goes the rest of the family hey you're the worst person you know so dummy don't know how Haley just stop it Cameron is a big fat poop I don't like the way you're speaking right now oh well when Haley is being rude and disrespectful it's really hard for me because I don't know how to handle that [Applause] this one is not really working in our house because I think I'm I'm confused about when to apply it and what is an appropriate punishment for them that's why I struggle can't do anything about it because you're useless to us this is ridiculous I can't believe you're taking this it's really her way or it's no way go to bed [Music] there's a lot of sibling rivalry going on between Haley and Cameron they're only two and a half years apart and they compete for our attention oh just kidding yourself then you kill yourself well there you have it sisterly love or not hey Cameron did I ask you not to get on that thing anymore I am concerned about Cameron starting to do some of the same behaviors as Haley give it to me now Matthew is starting to exhibit defiant Behavior as well he will throw Tantrums when he doesn't get what he wants he doesn't like being told no nice we need to find something before it gets any worse and I don't know what to do to stop it we do not throw things in the car no stop I feel like I should be doing a better job I feel like I should know how to be a better mother um she can't do anything about it things aren't quite right I need to get to the bottom of this I'm on my way [Music] thank you [Music] hello hi nice to meet you I'm Joe I'm Michelle come on in thank you wait oh you're here you're home today nice to meet you hello Joe nice to meet you hi off we went to meet the children and little did I know they were hiding in the closet they didn't want to meet Supernanny I think they were a little bit worried about what they might get Harold is your Young Brother here [Music] as soon as I arrived I wanted to see exactly how bad this sibling rivalry was and it wasn't great you girls hang out together no we don't like each other I don't like Cameron you don't like it why bothers me all the time and she lies about me what did she say like Haley's is stupid or whatever I wish Cameron was out of the house because I wouldn't have to cope with her bothering me and starting fights I don't really love Cameron that much so why don't you like your sister she pulls on my hair so you mean to each other Haley is mean and not very nice to me she's just very plain mean I don't like living with Haley she messed up my stuff and I pull on her head because she won't get out of my room I barely got [Music] very very hard towards one another they're disrespectful and they say things to hurt each other how do you know what's clean and what's not like there's some stuff that needs to go in the trash as well you just throw it on the floor then yeah because I can't find the trash can I don't really like doing things by myself I like cleaning my room I think that it's too much of a job I'd rather have people do things for me and do things myself because I don't like having to take care of myself I like to get what I want whenever I want I want to be Queen of the world not only do these girls have no respect for each other but they've got no respect for their things either [Music] later on in the afternoon we went to Haley's fence in practice and on the way home she refused to listen to her mom and turn off her MP3 player are you listening to your mp3 player Haley do you have your headphones on Haley you need to take them out because I told you not to put them in did you hear me Haley you need to take the earphones out Haley started to slap her hand to tell her to get off and leave her alone that the mere fact that these kids think it's okay to hit their mother is is beyond me when we get home I am taking them away [Music] don't scratch me [Music] ouch do not scratch me when Haley scratched at me I felt frustrated in the car I didn't feel like I could effectively discipline her so why do you choose not to do anything about your daughter hitting you well not for the hitting obviously then what do you do then because she's just done it I guess I didn't do anything mom doesn't put her foot down and discipline the kids when she needs to and so there's no rope in these kids in when they become out of hand I mean when I punish Haley I try to take away her things I have unplugged her TV I have also tried it to tie it to their allowance a dollar a day for good behavior I thought this was silly if you pay the girls to be good then they're only going to be good for a price she thought well maybe if we tie the behavior to their spending money then it would be more of an incentive for them to treat each other kindly because they're always wanting me to buy them things so now they only perform if they're paid yeah [Music] I realized at dinner time it's not just the girls that argue but there's a lot of underlying tension between Hayley and her dad as well you sit at the end like usual I'm ready I'm not you can wait I started traveling for work about a year and a half ago I don't have the deeper relationship with the children that I should have with each one of them had I stayed at home Cameron can never be cool because she's just not hey hey what did you just call her I never said I never called her anything leave your sister out of that you leave me out of it we're not even talking to you hey hey what finish your sentence please don't do that to his stuff [Music] I wondered that if they'd been gone so much affected Haley's Behavior so I decided to talk to him more about it in detail and you speak to the children every evening uh no just just my Mondays when I uh when I arrived I can't like around 10 o'clock at night you know you know parents have jobs that demand travel but for this father and husband to go away and to only call his family once seems crazy to me it really does live after speaking to Dad I then went and spoke to mum because I noticed earlier that she had been crying in the car and the question was why what makes you cry when you get into an argument with the kids when they are being defiant and rude and I've lost my patience I hate being in the conflict so I just want to get past it why is she so angry with you why she's so angry with that when she doesn't get time with me or Harding she gets jealous of the time we spent with Cameron or with Matthew because they're competing for a limited attention their relationship is my volatile you're unhappy the kid's Behavior not having that quality time when dad is home how how that's a little bit of priority I mean what happened how did it get lost I don't know I hadn't thought of that going into the parent meeting with Joe I felt a lot of trepidation she saw us being ineffective with discipline and so I knew that she would have a lot to say thank you [Music] let's talk about these issues you've chose not to address that's led us into the place that we're in now Michelle emotionally you're recognizing that it's taken its toll with not having hardening around you're feeling like a single parent when I watch you with the kids you're very passive no backbone and you allow the kids to do what they want when they want you don't follow through with anything you say when I watch your girls I see their attitude I see their disrespect your kids are rude to you they smart mouth they've got attitude they punch they kick we were in a car yesterday where you were turning your head as Hayley was slapping you and that was okay no said you pull that car over to actually turn around and address your child for the way they were behaving so you need to start thinking about the kind of mother that you want to be I want to be different I want to make the change and I want my children to see me make that change let's talk about your relationship with Hayley okay it's strained yes it is it's hostile you've got to reach out to her because she's slipping she's slipping pull her back in let me talk about the next Point here I'm quite astounded that you can actually go away and not even pick up the phone to speak to Michelle during the week or speak to your kids you please five minutes so just pick up the phone and say goodnight sweeties where's the contact there is none so why would you expect your kids to even think that you give a damn when you can't even pick up the phone to call them during the week Kim I wasn't you know a lot of families have a parent that does have to travel before business I think we Face some common struggles that all that a lot of families face correct but they resolve them let's talk about Hayley and Cameron I know every child every sibling has their bicker in their ups and downs but primarily these two sisters are not enjoying each other's company sad to say I mean you know when you when you've got Hayley turn around saying you know I wish camera would die I don't want her around and she's saying words to to make an impact to her they both actually do want to connect with one another you can see it you can see it's just their hurt Behavior which means you've got to get them involved in doing things together instead of keeping them apart because at the moment there's been a lot of work focusing on keeping them apart so that they don't argue throw them in doing things together so they learn how to work things out together so they team work together I think we've fallen into the Habit over time of just letting things happen instead of sitting down and taking stock and saying is this really working that's why we're glad to have you here is so that we can see with an objective eye what we don't notice every day we want things to be different and we we're committed to making the changes so it's about recognizing what we do as parents so that we make the most of what we got right now are we ready for that change absolutely change okay good fantastic all right let's go because that was due to leave town I knew I only had one day to really connect Hayley and her dad together so I had a little surprise waiting for them when they got home wow look at that this dragon is in the living room because it's a metaphor for really what is going on here with regards to your relationship together what do you say about Hayley I feel like she doesn't respect me yeah we're falling apart we don't spend enough time together you say about that he is not listening to what I say and he's overreacting we're gonna write those things down and what we're going to do is Sly that dragon and defeat it today so that we can start to build our relationship together when they were given the chance to write down the things that they were really annoyed about one another with they were very forthcoming I think I do love my dad but sometimes I really just I'm really mad at him which is what gets in the way of that so that when you read out what's in the balloon yeah puppet this allows you to be able to express how you feel I thought it'd be really cool to have Hayley teach her dad some of her fencing moves so they could pop the balloons together on guard not listen all right overreacting angry swing the dragon was the first step to my dad and I talking more then that would really help with our relationship a lot two severe about punishments oh that one hit home it served really well for Hardin and Hayley because they were able to do this and have fun doing it at the same time it's correct my feelings are clear in the air with hay that you felt felt great I felt like a burden's lip and lifted off my shoulder [Music] after both dad and Hayley had vented their negative feelings it was really important to concentrate on the positive dad as a young child used to love to do sumiere which is Eastern brush painting with his own father so I thought it would be a really pleasant experience for them both to do that together [Music] my dad was here he does Chinese characters he could do all this I could see that Dad really enjoyed doing this with Haley as to do it when he was her careful I don't know if this will stain your hands we'll get it on you it was nice to do that with my dad because it was one of the steps to my dad and I talking more but did she'll say highly no peace and tranquility and yours family and love doing the the sumiere with Haley I thought was very refreshing and I think seeing those four symbols uh together I'm like wow she's giving me an opportunity a chance to make it right with her foreign had to leave to go off to work but it's just made a dramatic difference to this family and I'm sure he's reaped the benefits of that as well okay how you feeling I feel like uh a weight has been lifted off my shoulders I made progress trying to reach out to Haley I feel like she's going to give me a chance to make things right it's going to be a long process but I'm willing to to put the time and energy into it it was sort of nice to give my dad a hug but I still have some doubts that he'll go back on his word and not fulfill the promises that he made it I will be putting my family first from now on I'm a man of my word I'm committed and I will come through hi sweetie bye bye kids behave all right safe travels all right thank you when I was left by myself and like oh no how do I handle this now Harding's not here and it's all me it was very overwhelming [Music] the next day when Dad went off to work things were back to normal and Mum and Haley were arguing before I even arrived I didn't move your stupid little stupid Mouse do not use this language or you will not get to play this game okay you're done not playing anymore you need to go to your room right now [Music] go to your room now Dad no you listen dad told you not to slam any doors removed [Music] hi how's your morning been it's been kind of Rocky yeah what's happened when we were playing the board game earlier Haley was a part of it and then she started talking rudely and talking back and at that stage mom became very overwhelmed and at that point I just really wanted to just say what's going on here uh just let it out let it out and quiet let out what's going on here everything turns into a battle but you're expecting something that's not going to happen you're expecting no confrontation you're going to get confrontation you're going to get it you've made a conscious decision to say I need to stop all of this now it doesn't mean that the kids are just going to step in and now make the effort you know one of the reasons why mum feels so badly overwhelmed is because she doesn't add a discipline properly and that certainly was the next step to teacher if these rules get broken there's discipline Matthew you break these rules and you're going to end up doing time out on the naughty step you girls will have reflection in the downstairs area where all your games and your TV is however the TV will remain off the board games will stay on the shelves you girls are old enough and you fully know what's expected of you when it comes to behavior okay if you choose to be defiant with that discipline then you will end up losing the things that you have now that you take for granted are we clear on that so now we have discipline in place however Haley isn't appreciative so I took the whole family to a homeless shelter so she could see that there are people that are less fortunate than her and more grateful hello oh how are you very well yourself good good nice to meet you this is my family hello pleasure Michelle you're glad to be I feel my children have been a little bit spoiled where they don't think about others so I was excited to go down there and show a different place to them but guys can you use some help you ready we got we got got a couple good workers here for you [Music] I don't want to do it I was surprised to see that it was Cameron that kicked off and not Haley but I knew mum was going to put that discipline in place that I taught her you are lucky to have a home and hot food every day this is food provided for people who need it this is your last warning when Cameron continued to be disrespectful right there and then Mom gave her a Timeout on a chair you sit on this chair I will be back in eight minutes and I expect an apology and I expect a change in your behavior Cameron did a timeout but she still continued to be disrespectful you were placed here because you were being rude and disrespectful and disrespecting their food I want you to apologize I said fine say I'm sorry for being rude and disrespectful kitchen and let's make some salad look at me Cameron I'm talking to you no don't pull me that face you look at me now your behavior right now is very spoiled and I do not like it stop pulling those faces at me right now Joe came and stepped in she gave Cameron the kind of talk that I wish I would have known how to give her now you need to think about your behavior you really do need to think about your behavior we are here to help many many people who are on a less fortunate position than yourself now you listen to me I want you to get into that kitchen and be a part of everybody else that's selflessly here Works to help everybody else and then let's go let's do that all those words to Cameron sunken they really did and then she just decided to lighten up and she joined in with the rest of us here that's good yeah there you go wiggle it around a little bit that's away good see you already know what to do another one look at that yeah you like serving the cake it was a really rewarding experience to be working on the food line at the mission to see the faces of the little children that were there who are the same ages as Haley and Cameron I think was very eye-opening for them can I just say thank thank you very much for giving us the honor to be able to serve you lunch today and I just like to say God bless you all and have a really fantastic day today thank you very much it's given us a wonderful opportunity here with the Moy family it felt really good swimming pool to people made me feel grateful for the family I do have Cameron and Haley are making progress I mean it's not perfect however before I leave what I do want them to do is to complete a task I've given them together you have two days two days to create a garden on that deck plant pots herbs plants okay I want to see a deck decorated like an Old English garden we don't even know what an English garden looks like and they looked at me like I was mad you know well we don't know where we're gonna get the stuff I mean how will we get the pots we don't know what colors we want how we're going to find the English garden I'm like you'll find it I don't like being around Cameron now like her personality should be as mean to me so it's not even correct grammar together you are creatively going to paint pots and create a garden on that deck in and put your hand on top come on let's go right let's go are you ready for me to leave for a few days no no we'd prefer that you stay but I know we have to try it on our own I'm leaving this family for several days and I am really looking forward to coming back and seeing some wonderful progress how are we gonna do when I'm gone great yeah exactly thumbs up exactly now that Joe is leaving for a few days I was nervous about seeing her go because it's so easy to fall back into Old patterns and old habits bye-bye Darlings bye-bye mum [Music] say hi do good do good keep your spirit's High okay I'll see you in a few days bye-bye bye-bye bye after leaving the Moy family for three days I was quite excited to see exactly how they would have got on without me you know with her dad just kept in contact with the family and particularly whether the girls have completed their English garden right let's get straight to this okay it says hi sweetie how are you today I miss you and the chitlins the Italian restaurant that we ate at last night was fabulous the day today was fun we went to the um people City Mission and volunteered to serve food there it was fun I got to help make a salad and serve food to the residents Daddy [Music] [Applause] Matt are you on speaker we're having four friends come over and have join them for our little dinner party well we better get get on with our party prep and we'll let you get back to work all right so but we're really glad you called that's absolutely fantastic I mean you know a dad is away and you know he's really remained consistent and look at the results when he would call home before Matthew would run away screaming saying no no I don't want to talk to Daddy and now we can't wait to talk to him you know and he's made a huge effort to send each child their own individual email not just write a generic family email it's true it's all good yes we're loving this it's all good do you remember with the garden I am not doing it no no no and I said what that's what we're gonna do let's take a look and see so how's your purple pot coming okay another big joke good morning good morning good morning it's Morning Glory morning wonderful girl this is so cool but it's wonderful to see them at the table now and how they're coming together to work as a team I mean they're communicating they're talking to one another absolutely fantastic and they really look like they was enjoying themselves as well what we're going to take a look at here is yourself and Hayley all right so let's take a look at that I just don't want them to sit by them because they don't want to it's not my fault their attitude make assumptions for my friends because you don't even know right there that is disrespectful and rude this is a warning stop right now I'm not gonna even help you Haley look at me right now I am trying to speak with you barely and understand where you're coming from all right what was wrong with this conversation this is just very typical of the way that Haley and I have fought in the past and just to see it makes me realize that you know I definitely haven't been handling it right you know even though I was trying you know it still wasn't working so it's still mentally this thing of you feeling like you're you know winning or losing winning or losing but it's not really a win or lose because nobody's winning nobody's losing here I mean it's right we both lost right here the buttons that are being pushed and how we can diffuse all of that situation you don't need to engage in this when you do you make them out in Upper molehill because you feed into it and we'll see that when we're going to take a look at the next clip here giving you a warning and you stormed off at this point you will be going downstairs to the reflection room to think about how you are speaking and the tone of voice you are using to me no right now up and move [Music] you have been placed here I know because of no that is why you have been placed here your rudeness and your disrespect I expect better from you now you will stay here for 11 minutes and I will come back and expect an apology no [Music] I feel like this is what happens all the time and I don't know how to change it and I don't I thought I was doing better but I'm not let's look at what you have done here in a very positive way you have started to do something here with regards to discipline it's not there yet but you started I walked into a house where you weren't doing it at all I don't call a mother a failure who recognizes the things that they're not doing that's not failure that's a mother who's courageous and brave in recognizing hello I'm not perfect there's not perfect mum out there there's a mum who does the best that she can and we'll work on how we can Elevate that level to a point where you're communicating a lot better with your girls and understanding them more and I really especially want to work with your relationship with Hayley because Haley's pushing buttons that make you really mad and whilst you're feeling away and you're holding on to that anger it's not going to get better your relationship with Hayley okay [Music] yeah this have a break cut yourself some slack here recognize what we need to work on don't recognize we're moving forward we're not going back we are moving forward we are moving forward [Music] all right when I watch the DVD I noticed that Mum and Haley were still in a pickle with regards to their relationship so I took them to a place that was very quiet where Mum would realize that there would be key words that she would need to remember in order to stay emotionally connected to her daughter what we are going to be doing this afternoon priming up this okay when we reach certain points you're going to find that there are envelopes for you to open will have a very strong message in them with regards to how you guys build on your relationship together [Music] mom why are you sad looking at it it looks scary and I know some of the things that I need to change about myself to be a better mother are going to be scary to face and scary to do but I'm willing to do them and I really want to improve our relationship my mom doesn't show anything that she likes me at all but she's that interested in like making an effort to communicate with me you gotta help out Okay click that one from you the first message I gave Michelle was to trust her own instincts because in doing that she would become a more confident parent trust yourself to deliver work on your trust with Haley I think this is the first step for my mom reaching out and wanting to communicate with me because it looked like she really made an effort to try to my mom's climbing this Tower I really recognizing all the things that she personally needs to do so that she can get closer to Hayley emotionally so this is a good steps to get that relationship that she wants with her own daughter [Music] and in the final envelope I spelled that exactly what Haley wants most from her mum see ya [Music] love me [Music] I knew things needed to be different and I didn't know how to do that on her own and I was willing to go through this very humbling hard experience because I wanted to change things and I wanted to change it for them and my mom is really trying to reach out to me and she's really trying and she loves me a lot I think I'm gonna try to communicate with her to try to connect with her and be closer to her it was cool [Music] [Applause] [Music] foreign [Music] thing I did need to check on though and that was to see exactly how well Haley and Cameron had worked put in their English garden together it looks fabulous and when I went outside I just saw all these beautiful plant pots that they had decorated and designed for it look I love it this is your centerpiece on your hanging baskets actually looks really nice the colors that you've chose up against this gray it was amazing to see how excited Haley and Cameron were to show Joe the garden they had created I mean Haley got um really good while we were making the English garden I feel like I'm compromising with Cameron more learning to work with her later one two three seeing Haley and Cameron work on their relationship and mend it more is gonna be the thing that matters the most to me my garden is looking more beautiful every day yes especially when you guys smile [Music] the Moy family even though dad is still away on business have become more emotionally connected and that's because two parents were willing to commit in making that change and that's what counts so listen all of you take care keep up with the emails have fun with the webcam remember keep making some smart choices and Mum own it they have already begun to see in our family as a whole a feeling of closeness I am communicating better with my husband Haley and Cameron are more willing to work together [Music] oh thank you so much Joe you really helped our family who are angry and out of control she didn't have to go take care of yourself all right keep emailing [Music] your dad's been calling on my mom is yelling less bye Joan thanks for helping with her family [Music] take care and Mom give me a big hug thank you so much I'll thank Joe for giving my wife and I the tools the techniques to address our parenting issues I am looking forward to coming home I would like to do is that I can't thank her enough for working with our family [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music]

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Length: 39min 25sec (2365 seconds)

Published: Sat Aug 26 2023