- <i> Tonight on Supernanny.</i> - Come out here.
- No, no, no. -<i> Jamie and Ian
have four children.</i> - Four anything, just a lot. - When our mom is at work
and our dad stays home, he doesn't really do anything. - Is it mom's job
to cook dinner? - Yes, it has been. - You got a husband
that is not listening to you. - He just thinks
I don't do enough. - I've tried a lot of things...
- No. Excuse. It's a wake-up call, mate. - When am I
gonna finish playing? - When I tell you
you can come inside. - No. I don't like the outdoors. [music] - <i> Today, I'm in Upstate New Yok
to help the Orr family.</i> Jamie and Ian have
four children. <i> And right now, they don't know
how to calm the madness.</i> - You need a drink?
- Yes. -<i> Mommy's stretched,
she's exhausted.</i> <i>And he's desperate for my help.</i> - [crying] - Hey, stop. - Hi, I am Ian Orr. - I'm Jamie Orr. <i>We've been married for 11 years</i> <i> but we've been together
our entire lives.</i> -<i> Julian, he is the oldest.</i> - <i> He's very intelligent.</i> -<i> But he spends literally
a hundred percent</i> <i> of his time
playing video games.</i> - Yo, let me play. - Just calm down. -<i> Gianna, she's got
a beautiful heart.</i> - When she does do something
wrong, it's very hard <i> because I know she knows</i> <i> that was wrong,
I shouldn't have done that.</i> - <i> Ava, she's very strong-wille.</i> It's Ava's world all the time. -<i> And Lola, drama is
just nonstop with her.</i> Did you spill it? - Yeah, Mom. [speaking indistinctly]
- Okay. Four anything at a time. It's just a lot. - Hey. <i> There's always a problem
fighting over something.</i> I make rules all the time
that nobody follows. Clean up the shoes
that are all over the place. - No. - Are you kidding me right now? Bedtime becomes such an ordeal. Julian does still climb
into our bed every single night. -<i> I'm an attorney.</i> <i> I recently tried
to work from home.</i> But the kids
are a lot to deal with. Don't talk back.
Don't ask me any questions. -<i> I work full-time
for an international company.</i> I get home and no one's doing
what they're supposed to. <i> The house is a mess.</i> <i> So, I'm cleaning.
I'm cooking.</i> I don't sit down
and I am killing myself. <i> Things are all starting
to fall apart.</i> - [speaking indistinctly] - We're frustrated.
It's chaotic. - <i> This cannot continue.</i> [music] -<i> This is my observation day
with the Orr family.</i> <i> I really don't know
what to expect.</i> I guess we'll get to see. - [speaking indistinctly] - Nanny Jo is coming to help
our family. I guess we need it. - Oh, my God. Can't have Jo Frost
in your house looking like this. I'm, like, so excited,
I can't even tell you. <i> I'm sure I'm gonna get
yelled at,</i> but it's a dream come true. [sighs] [knocks on door] - [gasps] Hi.
- Hello. - Oh, my God. I can't...
- Hello. How are you? - Hello.
- Oh, my God. - You're shaking.
- I am. - Hello.
- All right. Come on in. - Can I come in? - Please.
- Hi. - I can't believe she's here. - Hi.
- That's Ava. - Ava, how you doing, my love? Pleased to meet you. She's lost for words. Gianna, pleasure. Nice to meet you. Julian.
- I'm not used to the handshake. - How you doing, sir?
Pleased to meet you. - Me, too. - Lola, this is Nanny Jo. - How do you doing, Lola? Cats got everyone's tongue
this morning. - How are you? Welcome.
- My pleasure. Very well. Thank you.
- Sure. - So observation day
today for me. So, no - no graces, I need you guys once and all
to just be who you are. - I'm looking forward to talking
to her and getting her help. <i> And it's nervous excitement
but I'm ready to do it.</i> - Kids, I want to ask
you something. Come and sit on the sofa, love. Right. So, question. - Yeah. - Mm-hmm.
- Why am I here? - Um, to help out
my siblings and my parents. - All right.
Lola, why am I here, love? - You all just annoy each other? - Yup.
- Yeah. - Right. - I think you need
to help my parents. - What do you think that I might
be able to help them with? - Usually, when our mom is
at work and our dad stays home, he's always in his office and he doesn't really
do anything. - Right. Dad works,
step up and handle it. - Yup. - Right. Nothing nicer than children
giving you the story. <i> And they're so willing
to sit here</i> and tell you what they believe
the problem is. Okay. Thanks, kids. - So I hear you've just
recently transitioned from work in the office to home now? - Right.
I have an office-based, um, towards the front
of the house. - Right. Okay.
- Sure. - Do you wanna just give me
a rough layout, so I can see where in case.
- Oh, sure. Sure. This is the office-based. - So this is your office-based?
- Sure. Sure. - Okay. So this is what
you have now. - This is--
- This is the guest room. - --a kind of
the guest room. Yes. - Okay.
- Yeah. So it's kind of an extra guest room.
- All right. - Up here are the bedrooms. This is Julian's room here. - And then the girls
are all in here. - And nobody cleans it?
- All right. So I've seen the layout.
Thank you very much. - Okay. I'm just gonna grab some
socks from somewhere if I can find any because Ava and Lola are
running around with no socks and they fear cold. - Why are not getting
their own socks? - Because if I tell them to get
their socks, they won't get it and then it'll just
become a whole long thing.
- So you're in a space where you tell your children
to get things and they don't get it. And then so you go
get their socks? Jamie's babying these kids
and they're not toddlers, they're more than capable
of doing things for themselves. If these parents hold
them accountable. All right. Budge over. - Come sit--
- [speaking indistinctly] I'll come sit with you.
Watch over. Let's have a look. All right.
Let's take a look. What's this game about? - Physically just trying
to kill people. - And you get more points
the more people you kill? - Mm-hmm. - What age is this game
you're playing? - Uh, mature 17. I don't play it much though. - Yeah, you do. You play it all the time
with Caleb. - Why not play sports on this? Why play killing? - Well, I feel like games
like these are just more fun. I kind of just feel like
I'm there hitting the zombies. - Because you actually feel
like you're there. - Yeah. [knocks on door] - Come on in. - Hi.
- Hello there. - Why is Julian playing
games 14 ages? - Quite honestly, the kids his
age play those games. Nothing violent
or too, uh... - I just watched down
there though, like, he's playing games
for 17-year-olds. - He's always kind of a little
bit more mature for his age. So he is able to step back and look at things for
what they are and say this is a game. No one is dying in real life. - Right. Thank you. - Sure. Sure. No problem.
- I appreciate it. <i> I'm not saying kids
can't play video games,</i> but parental advisory on games
are there for a reason. <i> And I wouldn't be surprise
if Julian playing</i> <i> these violent video games
is contributing</i> <i> to his restless,
sleepless nights.</i> - Hungry guys? You want some lunch? Gia, you want
some mozzarella sticks? - No.
- She doesn't like cheese, no? - She loves cheese.
- Yeah. - But she won't eat it because
the cheese is oozing out. - Well, I just like the cheese
outside of the stick. - Right. And what's this here? - Nuggets, fries. - And who's that for? - Ava. Because not everybody
can eat the same thing. I feel like I literally
run a diner. They're very picky. You gotta eat your nuggets, pal. - All of it? - Yeah. And what's wrong
with the fries? - Um, I don't like
the brown part. It taste burnt and I don't
like burnt things. - These are not burnt. It's actually just
like the skin of the potato. - Oh, I don't like potatoes. - The fry is a potato. - So why do the kids
have these fried processed food
in front of them? - Because that's quick, and can throw into the oven, and it's done,
and they're eating. I'd love to spend more time
and make real dinners but nobody eats it. It's gonna end up screaming,
crying, argument because they're not getting
what they really want and it takes up too much time. -<i> When you're a parent
and your kids push back,</i> <i> it's a frustrating situation.</i> But if you do things
to just make it easy, it's not the way that you should be
moving forward because you gotta give the kids
what they need. <i> And what these kids need</i> <i> is balanced nutritious meals
full stop.</i> Mom, you're out
at the house at what time? - 8:00-ish. - And come home? - 6:00 to 8:00 is your time. - Between 6:00 to 8:00.
You're right. - And by then,
would dad have fed the kids and had everything sorted?
- No. - Is it mom's job
to cook dinner? - Yes, it has been.
Yes, it has been. - When I get home,
I start making it. And also, there's so many
other things that need to get done. I never sit down.
I'm like constant, constant, constant, constant.
- Mom. - So I would like more help. - You both have had discussions
about the lack of, correct? - Right.
- Mm-hmm. - I really like
calm discussions, I'm tired of arguments. - Yes, arguments about help. - Usually, once they get home
from school, they're supposed to do chores. Everyone has designated chores.
- Right. Okay. - After the chores,
they would do their homework. - Yes.
- Um, then they can watch TV or whatever they want to do. - I'm just seeing
you shake your head to absolutely everything. - Well, because everything
he's telling is true. Yes, it's there. But
that doesn't mean it happens. - What do you have in place? - Well, I mean, honestly,
that is what's in place. The chores, they should know
their chores. - Okay. Somebody show me
the house chores. - There was a list.
I actually, I throw it out. I don't--because I was just kind
of clean it up but I had--did post it.
- You don't have a list? - Yes. I do have a list.
But I got rid of it. But they know what
they're supposed to do, it's what they're doing.
- Can I ask you all a question, children? That chart
that mom's talking about. - Yeah?
- Do you remember what was on it for you?
- No. - Gia, do you remember?
- Not really. - You don't remember
what was on it? - I don't remember.
- No. Because you changed it a lot.
- Yeah, I remember. - You changed it - a lot.
- There used to be, like, 30 things on there.
- [speaking indistinctly] - I changed it because--
- So it kept changing. Are you-- - --they kept complaining
and whining. - <i> If there's no house chore lit</i> <i> and the parents keep changing</i> <i> what they're supposed
to be doing.</i> It's not the kids' fault, is it? It's down to the parents. - Come with me. Uh, excuse me, children. I'd like some privacy, please. - Sure. - All right.
What's going on? Like, seriously,
what is going on? - [laughs] I don't know. I--
- No, no. This is what
I'm getting from you. I don't know. Yeah. Why have you checked out? - I'm tired, because I'm doing the shopping,
I'm coming home, I'm trying to make sure everybody's eating this
or eating that. And when I get home,
I have to do way too many things. That's why I'm always asking
for his help literally because I'm always only
doing it constantly. - You're telling me right now
that you got a husband that is not listening to you.
- No, I'm not. - Or respecting
what you're saying. - No. - And what do you really
wanna say to him? - Just help, seriously, like, he's really stubborn. He just thinks I don't do
enough, bottom line, that's why I'm glad
you're here, honestly. I was praying
that you can see things and maybe shed some light
because I feel like someone else needs
to tell him like, "Hey, "you think you're doing a lot
but you're not doing anything." - Okay. Thank you very much.
- [laughs] - Because it's about
to get real. And I'm about to change things. <i> There's improvement needed
for both these parents.</i> <i> Ian needs to step up</i> and he needs to lighten
his wife's load. We will talk, sir, tomorrow.
- Yes, yes, I'm sure. - Let's get things a little
bit of space, shall we? - I am happy to do that. - But at the same time, Jaime shouldn't let Ian
off the hook. <i> She should hold him
accountable as a partner</i> and she should also hold
these kids accountable. I will see you in the morning and we will go over our parental
consultation, all right? So, headway for good change. - Sounds good.
- All right. See you then. - Alright. [music] -<i> Is it's teach one today
and I'm about to do</i> <i> a parental consultation
with mom and dad.</i> <i> I have a lot to say</i> and a lot of it is going
to be on them and taking accountability <i> for the bed
that they have made.</i> - Lola, what's the problem? - So, why don't you come
out here. - You can't put it in
a ponytail for her? - She won't let me.
She wouldn't even open the door. She locked herself
in the bathroom. - Okay.
Well, three girls. [laughs] [knocking] - Hello.
- Hello, welcome. - Okay. Where's the kids? - I think a mixture
of up and down. - All right. Let's bring them
all down here for a moment. - Well, Lola has locked herself
into the bathroom, she won't come down. - Okay. Lola, you gotta open
the door, though, okay? - I promise I'll let you do it
by yourself. You gotta open the door, though. Coming up, the little thing
in the middle. Yay, good job, pal. All right. Come on out,
come on out. - What happened?
- Come on out. - She's trying to do
her hair by herself and so she locked herself in
because she don't want my help and she's frustrated
because she's saying she can't do anything
by herself. - I actually agree with you. You must be very frustrated that
you can't do anything yourself because you need to be taught
to do it, correct? Does it sound like a plan
that mommy or daddy teach you a couple of hairstyles so that you can do it yourself,
is that a good plan? - Yes.
- Yes. Okay. So in the meantime, mommy is gonna put your hair
into a high ponytail. Okay? So that's off your face. Okay, Mom, high ponytail. - Okay. All right.
Let's go. - Kids, right now got down
into the playroom. Jaime and Ian,
let's go sit at the table. I'm sitting here
thinking, wow, four really smart kids. But where is the guidance that brings them to a place
of being capable, and happy,
and self-esteem because they see
their abilities to achieve, to meet their milestones. What is service to them? Because both of you have not kept on
the children by saying, "Here's your chores." And instead,
you do it all. - I mean I do, it's frustrating. It's a constant... - That's what parent--but--
- Fight, argument, not listening,
just gotta go over it again, and again, and again,
just drawn out. - But how are you going
to teach your children to be able to do
that if you're a pushover? And look where that's got you. - Yeah. I know. - Kids just push it. Give them an inch,
they'll take them all. - That's very true. - And you're letting them do it, not just you, Jaime,
but Ian too. Julian, videogames. He's playing games
but are above his age. It's ludicrous to me. What's the impact
of those kinds of videogames, they desensitize you, they create a lack of empathy, and then probably why he can't
sleep through the night. There's gotta be some
moderation. These kids need to
eat healthier. - Yeah. - And kids need to be guided by parents who understand the types of foods
they should be eating. - You're right.
It's gotta be enforced. - And what they need because you just gave them what
you won't eat and so did you. - What you just said is to me,
a big part of the problem. - When it comes to
your parental responsibilities, you do expect mom to do a lot, but she's checked out. She got nothing to give. And you know why? Because you
don't pull your weight around this house, Ian. - Um, I've tried a--
- No. A lot of the things
- Excuse. No, no, no, no, no excuse. Try a load of things. You have a wife right now
who's saying to you, "It's too much for me,
I can't do it." Ian, that's a wakeup call, mate. And if you can't see that, then you need to put
some glasses on right now. - I see it. I see it. - And the sassy attitude
from your children is mimicking the behavior
from the parent, you. So, at what point do you
take accountability for your own behavior and the example that you set
in your children? - It's not good. - My concern is your commitment
to this process because you're only going to get
out of it what you put in. - I wanna get things on track. I think we can do it. She started the tough
conversation. She felt like maybe
I was dropping the ball and not doing what I should do
and that was real, I mean that was impactful. - I can't keep
living the same way. - That you've hit a wall, they put you
on your bum, right? And now you get back up,
dust yourself off and let's move forward here. -<i> I feel beat up overall,</i> I do feel good
because the one thing I've always needed was help and wasn't getting it. Hopefully she was able to break
in down a lot and enough so that he's able to help more. [music] [laughter] - [speaking indistinctly] - Hey, Jojo.
- Hi, love. I wanted to show you something. Come and sit yourselves
down on there. The first order
of business for me is talking to these kids
about eating healthier because after all,
these kids are engaged, I'm feeling good about it,
then they'll embrace it better. These are the food groups that make us eat every day
a healthy plate of food for breakfast,
lunch, and dinner. Okay. So this is
all your fruits and veg, and then we're looking
at our grains, and then going into proteins, and then dairy,
and then to good fats. When we look at a plate,
what you see is that most of that plate should be
full of fruits veg. <i> It's important to educate
the children</i> <i> about healthier eating
and food groups</i> <i> so they become empowered</i> and more excited
about eating healthy, having choices to make. - For lunch, I can have
a chicken sandwich so the chicken would be
the protein. I could put cheese in it for dairy.
- Correct. - I could put avocado on it.
- And you can use-- - Correct.
- --whole wheat bread. - Yeah, for this.
- Yup. Exactly. -<i>
because it makes me feel strong</i> <i> I like eating healthy</i> like a fire that goes
to a waterfall but still burns. - That's what I'm talking about. Yeah. Exactly. <i> Jaime, can I have a word
with you.</i> <i> Right now,
you are going to give me</i> the list that you threw away, the list that you kept changing, the list that requires these
children to step up and do their task
and have more responsibility. So piece of paper
and a pen and write down
what those chores are. - Okay. - Jaime has
never followed through <i> on holding these kids
accountable</i> for doing their chores. <i> So I'm gonna have mom
make a new chore chart</i> <i> so that these kids
can follow through</i> and take this
heavy workload off of her. - Come on,
let's all sit together. All right.
So let's go over each child chores.
- Chores. - And then write it down
so it's solid here. Because here's the thing,
there are how many of you? Six.
- Six. - And that's a lot of these. And the more we all
come together and be a part of what
needs to get done in the home, the more we get to do
the things that we really want to do
all the time, right? But just really to spend
a lot of time together as a family. So let's just go over that. Julian, just read it out, so Julian...
- Julian take out recyclables on Tuesday.
- Yup. - Garbage on Sunday.
- No, take that. Julian's not capable
of doing that. So, Gia, sweep the kitchen, put the dishes from the sink
in the washer. - Ava, all right.
Ava, what you got there? - Empty the dishwasher.
- Mm-hmm. - Put clothes away. I feel pretty good actually seeing how much the kids
were not resisting to anything
and willing to help. So Lola, should we
have her separate the socks? - Yeah.
- [chuckles] And I feel like finally,
you know, I'm getting heard. So I'm optimistic and I pray that they do
stay on it. - Mom and dad is on both of you to hold the children
to their responsibilities, - Well, that's how the cookie
crumbles today. [laughter] - It's different because
we have a lot more chores now and we have to eat, like,
way healthier than we used to. - You don't like it? No? - I don't really like chores,
but it's like a group thing so I'm not doing it alone. - It's about helping
your own family, all right? And we just all grab it. [music] -<i> Yesterday, the chore chart
was put in place</i> <i> so that all
family members contribute</i> to the chores
that need to be done. <i> We do need to move forward.</i> <i> We're getting
these kids involved.</i> We have the whole meal planned. Hi, Ian.
- Hi, how are you? - All right. I spoke
to the kids yesterday about the food pyramid. I wanna keep up the momentum. What I'd like to do
is I was gonna take all the kids to the farmers' market
up the road there and get the fruits and veg. And you guys cook up
some chicken breast, so when I come back
with the kids, you guys can sit down
as a family and have lunch. - Sounds good. - Ready for that, Ava?
- Yes. - All right.
Round the troops up. <i> This was a family that</i> <i> did not have a healthy
meal planner in their home.</i> All right. Let's take a look
and see what we got then. Those kids were eating
fried food, processed food, <i> high in sugar, high in salt.</i> It's just not healthy
for anyone. Right. Okay.
So, some juicy tomatoes. - I can put sliced tomatoes
in my sandwich. - Yes, you can. Who can point out
where the avocado is? - There.
- There we go. - It's a good fat, right?
To go in sandwiches, right? Or to be--
- Or guacamole. Exactly. A guacamole or sliced
on a salad for example. - I'm gonna teach my parents that they need to eat
healthy to grow and they need vitamins. - And sandwich and, uh-- - You're just really excited about that sandwich.
- Yes. - This looks good.
- This one looks good. - That one? Okay.
So let's put that one in then. - All right. - It's a big lettuce. -<i> I don't believe kids
are born picky eaters.</i> <i> We create picky eaters.</i> <i> If we're all very enthusiastic</i> and having
that positive attitude towards eating healthier,
they will step up and be accountable for
themselves in eating healthier. <i>And that's what we've seen here
with the kids</i> <i> and they did
a really great job.</i> [music] - It looks like we got a lot
of stuff here. - Yeah. We did got some
great stuff. - It was so fun.
- Ooh, yummy peppers. - Yeah. Yeah.
- Yup. - Even just from yesterday
till today, I've seen that the kids
are engaged. They're learning
about eating healthy, about how it affects them. - You just want chicken
and then the stuff on the side? - Yeah.
- Yeah. - Okay.
- Me, too. - Me three.
- Chicken salad, me three. - I mean, who could ask for anything better
than that, you know? I mean, I'm happy. - It's a tomato. What we're talking about?
Enthusiasm is contagious. - Can I have one more spoonful? - Absolutely. - I feel
like a changed person from changing my diet. - Today is a great day.
- Oh, my gosh. This is delicious. - Seeing these guys eat
so healthy. - My body is probably
gonna go into shock. All your bodies
are gonna go into shock. [music] - Just take a seat
for a minute, all of us. One of the reasons
you asked me to come here was because Julian comes
to sleep with you at night. Mom, can you call Julian up?
- Julian. - So I can get
to the bottom of it. - Come.
- This habit really concerns me because Julian's 11 years old. <i> He should be sleeping
in his own bed,</i> <i> in his own bedroom.</i> <i> I really wanna hear
from Julian</i> why he keeps going
into his parents' bedroom. Julian, come and sit down, love.
- Come sit, buddy. - I just wanna ask you
a few questions. I was just talking to mom
and dad about sleep. And they were saying that
at times that you go into their bed as well. - Yup.
- So, can you tell me why you do that? - I always feel like
there's someone watching me. And that if I go to bed
in the dark that they might come
and strike. - Right. Then your mind gets
carried away, right? Because you think, "Oh, my God.
Somebody is coming here." And you spook yourself out.
- Yeah. - All right, darling,
thank you very much for letting me know.
- Cool. - I appreciate it. - Now, tell me that has nothing
to do with the video games that he's playing in? - I mean, I don't know. I-- - Ian, that is one
small example of the impact that it has
on young children that are playing video games that are far older
than the age appropriate playful video games
that they should be playing. He's hunting down,
and killing, and people hunting down him. And now you tell me that
this is separation between the virtual
and the reality because from what I see, it
just stepped into his reality. - It does appear so. I can't disagree with that. - Then-- - Yeah.
- --it's over. - Julian's always so happy
and laidback that I'm thinking these games
aren't bothering him at all. But then to hear him say
that he's scared that someone's gonna come
out and strike. I'm going, "Whoa."
Hey, that was a bit of a-- an eye-opener for me. - Have that sort out with him. Make a decision about ones
you're keeping and the one
you're deleting. Your job is to protect
your son, okay? And to keep his mental
and emotional wellness in a good space. [music] -<i> It is my final day</i> before I go off
for a couple of days and leave this family
to follow through <i> and make sure
that these children</i> <i> are able to regulate
their video games,</i> <i> that mom and dad
were on the same page,</i> and that as a whole family,
there's more balance. Good morning.
- Good morning. - I think everyone
should get out and get a breath
of fresh air. Well, it is sunny.
- That sounds good. -<i> It's really healthy
for children</i> <i> to be out in the fresh air.</i> They need to keep moving
and be active and let off their energy
and play rather than sitting around
the screen all day. Choose some coats on. Just go out and have some fun. <i> And Julian needs to know
that there's more to do</i> <i> than just sitting there
and playing video games.</i> - Yeah. That's the best,
you catch one. [music] - I love to play more outside
than video games. <i> It's fun.</i> - [sobbing] - What's wrong? - You have time. - No. When am I gonna
finish playing? - Where? - When? - When I tell you
you can come inside. - No! - Mom, what did we learn by the way
that you speak to Lola? - Jamie has compromised herself
as a parent. She's allowed the kids
to walk all over her <i> and that's why
they don't listen.</i> - Lola. - When Jamie can act
more assertive, then these kids
will take her more seriously <i> and do as they're told.</i> - What are you telling me? - After you ride your bike
for about 10 minutes. - Lola. - That's not long at all. - It is.
- Lola. You're a big girl. Ten minutes on your bike. Pull it together. Okay? You can go play. - Very good job. -<i> I have been giving the ends
of the kids too much.</i> <i> So, Jo helped me be firm
with Lola</i> and I do break down because the whining
breaks me down. <i> But then we're gonna end it.</i> [music] -<i> I'm gonna feed the kids.</i> - Kids started, pal. -<i> I'm really pleased
with the progress</i> <i> that the kids have made</i> <i> but Jamie and Ian
still have work</i> <i> when it comes
to parental responsibilities.</i> Mom, Dad, come into
the living room here. - Sure.
- Okay. - I need to make sure
that dad understands <i> exactly how much work mom
does around the house.</i> - That's a lot of boxes.
- Boxes. - Yeah. Okay. Right on the side of each box, what's on your plate right now. - So, one box
for each responsibility? - Yup. Have at it. <i> The boxes are a visual aid
of being able to write down</i> exactly the responsibility
that each parent has. <i> And to be able
to take a look at that</i> <i> and weigh up who's doing more
in this situation</i> <i>and how can we lighten the load
on one person's shoulders,</i> <i> so that we are carrying
that weight together.</i> All right. Step two,
stack your boxes, please. - Like I'm playing Jenga.
- Right. Mom, you've been
definitely feeling, I've got too much on my plate. <i> The idea of the box technique
is just stack up</i> <i> what's been your shoulders.</i> <i> And together,
look at how you resolve it.</i> So, we both feel
like we're carrying all load, <i> we're doing our best.</i> That's teamwork, right? Let's sit over here.
Let's take a look. Okay. It's really not even. So, Jamie, you've been talking
a lot about responsibility and about having a lot
on your plate. What sticks out
like a sore thumb that you don't want
on your plate? - Making the dinner. - Okay. Please look at that. So, Mom, you're not getting in
until quite late. I'm gonna tell you that your
children needs to be eating no later than 5:00, 5:30. So, and since you work
from home, you can make dinner
on the weeknights. - Here's where I guess
I have a problem. Leaving work for Jamie
is somewhat flexible. So, I'd certainly be willing
to talk about maybe doing some kind of
flex arrangement. - Your four children
need to eat. Are you gonna feed
the kids or not? - I can certainly do it. I'm physically able
and I can do it. - Oh, my God.
I can hear a but coming. - No, I--we'll see how
it works out. I mean, I don't-- - What do you mean
how it works out? Ian, it's your responsibility. You're the one who's home now. What is there to get? You need to feed your children,
Ian. - I understand. No, I wanna-- - So, Ian,
what are you gonna do? Are you gonna feed
the kids or not? - I can feed the kids but I don't want to become
an incentive. Like, let me stay at work
because if I stay at work, then he'll make dinner.
So... - Are you kidding me? [music] - Ian, what are you gonna do? Are you gonna feed
the kids or not? - I can feed the kids but I don't want to become
an incentive. Like, "Let me stay at work "because if I stay at work,
then he'll make dinner." So... - Are you kidding me?
- No, I'm-- - Are you kidding me, Ian?
- I'm serious. - Your kids need to eat at 5:00. You're thinking of yourself and you want it to be
when mom comes home, so that she can do it. She can't. She's at work. So, who is going to feed
these kids? - I will feed them. - It was tough for him
and I knew it was. But she didn't back down
and it was like, <i> "You're gonna do it."</i> So, I think he definitely
will step up. - So, the dinners
are out the way. Walking the dog? - I can do it in the morning
if he does the afternoon. -<i> With the boxes,
you can juggle things around.</i> <i> It took a lot of time
to go through it</i> <i> because these things
do take time.</i> <i> But afterwards,
if compromised,</i> you've communicated and
you're feeling happier together. Are we both feeling
good about that? - Yeah.
- I am. - Yeah. Good? All right. That's a high five
for the two of you. All right. - It's time to eat. - My mom, she's, like,
doing these things. Daddy doing all that work just actually forcing our dad
to do with some work too. Because usually,
he just, like, sit around and, like, wait for our mom
to do everything. <i> It's a good thing.</i> - How's it going?
- I like the sausage, like-- - Do you like it?
- Yeah. - Well, we'll try
and repeat it for you then, pal. -<i> Jo's leaving for a few days
in order for us to see</i> if we could keep everything
that she's taught us together, <i> but I think we can do it.</i> -<i> It's been days of training</i> and now I feel like
this is it. It's time to put it all
into practice <i> and see what we've got.</i> - Not so bad, right? - No. - Good.
Because you can do it some more. - Uh-huh.
- [chuckles] - I hope that when I'm gone
for two days, I can actually come back
to see in footage <i> where they're taking the meal
time to a whole another level.</i> <i> And also at the same time</i> <i> Julian having video game time,</i> but with restriction on the type
of games that he can play. So, I'm gonna leave.
- [chuckles] - Kids were already in bed.
Get some sleep, you two. Okay. You're welcome.
Thank you. And I'll see you
in a couple of days. - I'm gonna try my best
to keep it together, <i> but I'm really nervous.</i> I hope everything
does not fall apart. [music] -<i> So, today I'm returning
to do the parental review.</i> <i> I've been away for two days.</i> <i> Each parent,
they've had responsibilities</i> <i> as the kids having chores
to do.</i> So I'm just hoping they've
actually followed through and done that.
-<i> Gia and Ava,</i> <i> you guys need to load
the dish washer.</i> If not, what's gonna happen? The sink's gonna have
dishes in it. - Have at it. -<i> With Jo gone
for a couple of days,</i> I guess maybe
I feel refreshed because I didn't have
the spotlight, you know, on me for a while. <i> We are working
towards the goals</i> <i> that Jo set for everyone.</i> So, I think she'll be proud
to see that the kids, they're doing it.
They're really doing it. -<i> I feel like
I will make Jo proud.</i> I hope so.
But then again, I never know. - Hello. - Hello, hello.
- You good? - Welcome again.
- Hi, Jamie. Good? - I'm good.
- Got a good couple of days? - I did. Yes, I did, very much. Everybody's hiding.
- Okay. Where are the children? - I know.
- Oh. They ran around somewhere. - Let them do their thing.
- Okay. - We're gonna go over
the parental review anyhow. - Okay. No problem. - I've been away for two days. I've got footage here. Let's take a look. - What is the rating?
Let's start with that. - Teen.
- All right. So, we can get rid of that.
That's for sure. Uninstall, there you go. - <i> This is a very refining game.</i> -<i> So we can uninstall that.</i> We've gotten rid all of the ones
that are mature, right? - Yeah.
- Level. Okay. Yeah. So, you're good, man. Have some fun, all right? - Well done, Ian. So now, we have games that you most importantly
feel happy knowing that he's playing
whether you're there or not. You know what the content is and you're doing what you're
supposed to do as parents, you know, protect.
- That's right. - Right? And guide. And with Julian no longer
exposed to that violent content, you can expect to see him start
to sleep better in his own bed. - All right.
Let's move on to Lola. - <i> Okay.</i> - I'm gonna need a brush.
- And you got to brush it back. Okay? From the front to the back. - Good. She's doing it. - [speaking indistinctly]
- One, two, and three. You see that? Ta-da. [music] - So,
I'm really pleased with that. Lola needed to be
a little bit more independent. You know, you did a lot for her. And you could see her little
face when she does do things. You know,
she needs to feel capable and that she has the ability
to accomplish. - Sure. I think it gives her
a sense of pride, you know. - Yeah, of course.
Absolutely. So, well done there with Lola. My main concern now
is how Ian did stepping up and helping out
more while I was gone. I hope I get to see that. [music] - My concern is how Ian
did stepping up especially with getting dinner
on the table. All right.
Let's take a look here. - Did you want some cucumbers? Julian,
do you want some salad, buddy? - I am so proud
of your children. - We are too.
- We are. - So, this is yourself, right--
- This is me. - This is you getting
the dinner ready? - Getting it ready.
- All right, Ian. - Nice cooking. - How did it work for yourself? - I was able to get everything
ready on time and they ate. - And that's fantastic.
Well done. And what a difference
for your kids. Eating healthy,
meals and snacks. So, I have to say kudos
for following through. And I hope we can move forward. The chores. - So, Gia, you got to load
the dish washer now? - Yeah.
- All right. Look at you, what's going on there?
- Peace, people. - [laughs] - Oh, my gosh. - Yeah,
it's called multitasking. - [laughs]
- Get her face done, put the dish washer,
that's my girl. Let's go, yeah. - That was hilarious.
- It's how you do it. - Julian is picking up
the garbage. Good boy. Oh.
- Oh. - [chuckles] Good job. - There. Well, I mean, that's it. No big fight.
No big fuss. - I know.
- So they go on and they did them.
- That's been amazing. - And they are
more than capable. - Like, seriously,
it's just been with the chores. Amazing.
- I think a big part of it was having structure, having responsibility
spelled out, and then being held accountable. - I totally agree. You know, with it being placed
up on the wall and written out, it's like here's what it is
and we get it done. Do not move it.
- No. - Do not change it around. Do no move it.
Leave it like that. So, I'm really pleased
to see that. - The girls have something
for you. - They've got some ink. - Ready? Go. - ♪ I just had a visit ♪ from the Supernanny
- ♪ Suppernanny - ♪ Now,
there's no more chocolate ♪ ♪ Or too much candy - ♪ I used to have breakdowns
and baby fits ♪ ♪ But after Supernanny,
I just quit ♪ - ♪ Supernanny is in charge ♪ She doesn't play ♪ I'm on bed on time ♪ Eat veggies every day ♪ So, before you lose
the chores ♪ ♪ Start acting crazy ♪ Don't be afraid to call
the lady ♪ ♪ Who's quick with wit
but firm as a penny ♪ ♪ Call for a visit
from the Supernanny ♪ - Whoo! - That was awesome, guys.
- [laughs] Well done. That one's awesome.
Oh, give me five. Oh, it's brilliant. Dropping the mic there. - <i> The house does seem happy no.</i> <i> We can eat together.</i> I think you're coming change my family's life for the better. - Okay. Kids, bring me the love. Give me some love here.
I'm going. -<i> Ever since Jo got here,</i> <i> I've been feeling like
a new person.</i> If I could say anything
to Jo Jo, I would say thank you. - Come here.
Let me give you some love. - Hello, mate.
I miss Jo. - All right, thank you. - I appreciate it. -<i> This is definitely been
a life changer.</i> In the beginning,
I was hitting a wall, nobody was listening to me. <i> And now, everybody is actually
following rules,</i> <i> eating healthier.</i> <i> Ian has stepped up.</i> Now, I feel like
we can go forward. I'm good to go. - Ian, take care.
- Thank you. Thank you very much.
- Take care. - For myself and Jamie, we're on a new page
where we can kind of, you know,
attack and move forward, you know,
positively with the plan. <i> All thanks to Jo.</i> - Bye. Take care.
- Yes. Thank you. - Bye.
- Say bye, Julian. She's right behind you.
- See you. - <i> You know, a week ago,
I had two parents</i> <i> who said that their kids</i> <i> didn't wanna listen to them
about anything.</i> Eating healthy, chores,
taking responsibility. - Are you watching her leave, G? - I'm gonna miss her. -<i> The kids did step up
on every level</i> <i> and these parents are now</i> realizing that their kids
are gonna hold them accountable to doing the same. <i>And that is what's very hopeful
for this family</i> <i> because if you're committed
and you want it,</i> <i> then you'll move forward
together</i> <i> and it's all about together.</i> <i> Next time on Supernanny.</i> -<i> We have four
beautiful children.</i> -<i> But our schedules
are different</i> which causes a conflict
in our marriage. <i> I work an overnight shift
and I sleep during the day.</i> <i> So, I try to spend
some quality time with them.</i> - Emotionally,
how you've been feeling? - Oh, I'm drowning. - We're just stuck this rut of what we call everyday life. I mean, you can't deny
that you have said things to me that are way out of line.
- I don't deny it. - You want everything
get no cost. Nina that ain't gonna happen. Listen to me seriously, how are you gonna change
anything?
