Posted by u/Dreamymewstars
4 hours ago My entitled mom just forced me back into horse
back riding and I got grounded on Sunday for me saying no
M In December 2020 my mom forced me to do therapy
horse back riding and it was freaking heck they lied about so much crap. Recently I got a dang
trophy bc I mastered the walk trot class for people with disabilities in the world show. Not
surprised I was with people who just moaned and didn’t move their horse or did crap and just ran
away ect. I was forced to do this because I have ASD ADHD and PTSD and a heart transplant. I was
treated like a 2 year old by the trainers I had to have someone always with me even though I’m
fully independent. I lost it in February this year because I fell off my horse and broke my
wrist because the crapy trainer was looking at their phone. I took a 8 almost 9 month break
in August one month before I was due for a T and A procedure. I was told i was going to ride
again after surgery but it won’t be at a therapy center. I’m not a horse girl I’m a theater and art
person who also LOVES to swim. I was taught how to swim by my dad while I was in heart failure
from when I was one month old to 13 months (I was 13 months when I got my transplant) I was
never forced or pushed to swim. I’m currently in diving lessons because I adore jumping off
high dives and I want to be in my high school’s swim team. Now let’s move to September 14th
(day of my T and A) to September 29th final day of my recovery. I was told she’s starting
to look into places. I only had 2 lessons at the new place yet I still hate riding. Yesterday
my mom got mad because I was to tired to get out of bed/said I didn’t want to go and yelled at me
and took my switch away. I want to quit I want a family member to help me. I can’t I feel like
I need to go to my dads side to help but they live in Chicago and I only see them once a year.
Riding is not good for my mental health and my own psychical state it makes me tired and it hurts me
badly. I was told I will ride until I jump. I was pushed into this crap so much that I hate it I
didn’t mind at first but it’s bad. She tells me “but scarlett does it” she’s my irl friend btw.
But that’s not a dang excuse and she brings my friends into this. She calls me lazy yet I do
diving and I spend most time resting because I get tired easily. Therapy does not help me it only
helped me 12 years ago because of recovery. And I needed physical therapy. I’m fully ok now but I
feel like the only thing that makes me happy is meeting other kids my age (I’m 13 and I was born
June 2010 said tht bc I’m old enough to be here) who also have cardiac conditions. I need help
to get me to quit . If I say no I’ll be told then no switch or phone. I’m sad my mom turned
like this I wish she never found that thearpy center if she didn’t I wouldn’t be forced and I
wouldn’t feel more exhausted. She used to say I need to finsh one season of a sport if I didn’t
like it I could quit. I used to do gymnastics or cheerleading and dance I liked it but quit
because I was badly bullied. Now it’s just ur doing this and u don’t have a choice. If I
ask my grandparents to help me (moms side) they will gaslight me by saying “ur going to need a
scholarship because of how crapy ur grades are so ur going to keep riding” and will fake cry and
say “but ur throwing ur talent away blah blah ect ect”. Can’t even get my dad to help me. Apparently
im “lazy” im really not I need to be careful with my own body because of my medical conditions
and I have very bad daytime tiredness and them making me do this doesn’t help. Also apparently
I can’t say no until I’m 18 to this is this true? Posted by u/tonysixwing
11 hours ago My dad owes me 50k and his should have been
ex called me an entitled piece of crap. M
First time poster and horrible at written English so please
forgive any spelling or formatting mistakes. Some context, I am 30 going on 31. I have an 18
yo sister who’s existence is the whole reason I’ve put up with this crap so long as I don’t
want to abandon her, she is also fed up with it. About 6 years ago my dad meat his gf who
is a total Karen. She ruins every meal out, always finding something to complain about, talks
down to her autistic 19yo daughter treating her like she is 5. As well as many other things.
Essentially her behavior got my dad to start talking about getting back together with my
mother. He has strung that along for 2 years costing us thousands of dollars. He has brow
beaten me into applying for online payday loans I knew I wouldn’t get which got my identity
stolen, because he couldn’t pay the rent. These examples are just the tip of the iceberg. Now Sunday morning I saw it was cold and going
to be cold all week. My dads gf asked me what I wanted for Christmas a couple weeks ago
I said I need some thermals as I work in a loading dock. So anyways I off handed mention
I had gone ahead and bought myself two sets, I need like 7 as she uses the washing machine
as a hamper and I can barely do laundry once a month. The gf then proceeds to tell me “well
you might as well open your Christmas present now.” And my father also starts berating for
buying myself a necessity I had asked for. I would get the point if it was some sort of
fun special thing, but the attitude was that I needed to freeze at work because not waiting
till Christmas was rude to the gf. This all rumpled into the gf bringing up how she had
helped me out and my dad owed her 11k and I said he owed me 50k. Then my dad started on the
whole do you know how much it cost to raise you, I told him he doesn’t get to do that he chose
to have me. He then started to deflect towards my mother and it when down hill from there.
He forbids us from asking him about shared finances in front of gf and is always around her
or out running his business so he yells at me for calling and asking for the money he owes me for
the month while he is working, and goes on about how he wants to buy a house. Essentially it’s
become I’ll pay my portion after I buy a house and all my big boy toys. The next day I had
to come home from work because the calling me an entitled piece of crap set off my mild autism
and I was up all night and almost hitting people with the forklift. I am done me and my sister
are moving out asap and I’m cutting contact. Posted by
u/ThroWRAmetalm 22 hours ago Entitled family harasses me after
my bf knocks BIL on the ground L
So this story happened a week ago, my sister was in town to
visit with her husband and 11 year old son. My bf isnt a huge fan of my sister's husband, by
BIL is as my bf would describe “tactic-cool” basically he's really into military stuff even
though he never was in the military. While my bf was a US marine for 5 years. When they met my
BIL tried to act all buddy buddy and even said “these people don't understand warriors like us”,
my boyfriend finds it annoying both that my BIL is trying to claim warrior status while being
a banker and my bf is not fond of the military after all it did to him so he gets ticked off
when people idolise it. But the problem started when they came over. It was a generally nice
night other than a passive aggressive remark by the BIL when he learned I was not cooking but
in fact my bf is, i'm a terrible cook and he's amazing at it so he generally cooks. After dinner
we were all getting caught up in the living room and their son “Jack” was getting bored and
started walking around. My bf got up after him to watch over him as an excuse to get out of
the conversation. This is what my bf said happened He followed jack around the house
until jack said he was bored, trying to be a good uncle my bf offered to
show him his office and they went inside, my bf is protective of his office only him and
I are allowed inside, so this was a big deal, but my bf wanted to be a good host and uncle.
So he showed Jack around the office, showed him his warhammer armies, the knives he forges, his
gaming pc, and everything else (bf has too many hobbies) until they got to a locked cabinet. Jack
asked why it was locked, my bf explained his guns were in there and if his parents allowed
it he would take Jack shooting one day. A little while later my BIL followed them into the
office, my bf was annoyed he was in there but felt he couldn't kick him out as his son was in there
and he had the right to be there. BIL started talking to him about my bfs guns and wanted to
see them. My bf was hesitant but felt there was no harm because BIL is a grown butt man, also he
keeps the ammo in the garage across the house. He opened the cabinet and asked my BIL not to touch
them unless he hands them to him. My BIL promptly ignores this, grabs a gun from a rack, does not
check if it's clear (my bf emphasises that it was a huge no no) and starts waving it around. My
BIL then thought it would be funny to pretend to shoot his son, so he pointed the gun at Jack. My
bf reached for the gun, knocked BIL to the ground and secured the gun. Then all heck broke loose.
BIL started screaming at my bf and my sister ran to check what was going on, then my sister started
screaming about how my bf could let her son near a gun. My bf isn't a yeller. He's not afraid of
confrontation but he never yells. He just calmly put his gun away, locked the cabinet, looked
at me with a “these people are idiots” look, and waited for a lull in the screaming. He
told them “get the freak out” BIL got in his face and acted like they were gonna fight. My
bf just started him down until BIL backed off, Bf’s 6’3, muscular and carries himself like
a former marine. He basically just stared my sister and BIL out of the house, never raised
his voice, never said anything threatening. But after that the story my family was told
is that he's a sociopath with an arsenal, has PTSD and all of them are blowing up
my phone trying to get me to leave him. Apparently they even called the cops but we live
in his hometown, the local sheriff taught my bf how to hunt as a kid so the sheriff knew it was a
bs report but still reached out to me to confirm, I assured him and my family countless times that
he is not dangerous or hurting me, it's starting to get to me and i don't know what to do. My bf is
concerned for my mental health but he told me he couldn't care less what they were saying about
him. I'm probably gonna go low contact until this blows over. I'm just glad we live a couple
states away so they can't harass me in person Posted by u/Samuel_Jetstream
1 day ago Random Kid keeps whole hotel floor awake,
him and his mother get to regret it M
For some context, this happened a couple weeks ago when me, my 2
sisters, and my aunt and mom were on a trip to an indoor water park. We stopped at a hotel around
8 PM and we decided to crash there before we go to the water park the next morning as it was
down the road. So I sleep in a pull out couch, my aunt in 1 bed, and my 2 sisters and mom in
the other. Fast forward to about 5 A.M. and we all wake up to a loud crash, followed by manic
giggling. I sit up quickly and rub my eyes a bit, while my relatives do the same. We ask each other
what that was, realize it was just an loud noise, and try to go back to sleep before we here more
giggling even closer, with stomps and sprinting up and down the hall. I get ticked off and stand
up, put on some shorts and a wife beater before stepping out into the hall when a small kid about
8-9 smacks into my stomach. Now, I’m a big beefy kid at 6ft 175lbs, and this didn’t faze me.
The kid however, smack right into the ground and started crying and wailing. I look down in
surprise, but I feel zero remorse for this little crap. Then I hear what I at first assume is an
angry bull, before looking up and seeing a middle aged blonde lady stomping with her arms swinging
side to side like it’s a cartoon. She very angrily says “excuse me, but WHAT exactly do you think
you’re doing to my sweet baby?!” Ek then goes, “m-mommy, he pushed me!” I very quickly say “no,
I did no such thing. YOUR child ran directly into me after keeping my whole family awake at 5 A.M.”
she then smugly says “I don’t care what you say or what he was doing, you look like a grown man
and you just assaulted my child! I’m going to get security, and press charges.” I say “go ahead,
I’ll wait.” She then gets a very confused looking guard who sees me and says, “sir, this woman here
says you assaulted her child. Is this true?” I then patiently say “no officer, I walked out of my
room and this child ran into me.” The child then says “Nuh-uh! You pushed me to the ground, I was
just having fun playing.” The officer simply says, I can check the security footage if you’d like,
we can see what happened here.” Her face suddenly scrunched up and tried ever so hard to not look
suspicious about it. “Oh” (she suddenly said in a sweet, calm voice) “well, I may have been wrong,
there’s no need for that. Come along sweetie, let’s go back to our room.” And dragged the
kid along as he pouted and made a fuss. I shrugged at the guard and went back inside to
tell me family about it, and that was that. Posted by u/KingBoscoleen
1 day ago EP put their kid in my car to say hi to my dog. S
Yesterday my dog and I were road-tripping back from spending
Thanksgiving with family. A few hours in we stopped to stretch legs and get some water;
pulled into a rest stop w plenty of parking, not very busy. After I let him out to stretch,
he was sitting in the back with the windows open while I pulled up directions in the drivers seat.
For context it’s an SUV with a three-seater bench in the back; my dog was sitting directly in the
middle, didn’t have his head out of the window. All of a sudden I see a toddler being
lifted into and through the open back window by their parent to pet my dog??? The
child’s body was 50% into my vehicle’s open window— this wasn’t a hand next to the window
to get him to come sniff it. The EP is laughing, as is the other EP holding a younger baby standing
next the parent that’s currently trapezing their toddler into my car. They did not ask or say
anything, they just laughed and stuck their toddler into my open window. I was so shocked that
I audibly gasped and just turned around and gave them a confused/annoyed look. It took at least 5
solid seconds for them to acknowledge my reaction and pull their kid out through the window, never
apologized, just walked away while still laughing. I have a recognizable, friendly, giant-breed
dog that kids typically want to pet; LUCKILY he’s already used to having to interact
w parents and young kids. This scenario was just so unsafe to me though— these parents have no
idea if my HUGE dog is friendly and put their kid in an extremely unsafe situation. Let alone
the rudeness of just entering someone else’s vehicle?? In what remote world was this okay to
do? I wish I wasn’t so shocked and said something. Posted by u/Miserable-Piglet-847
2 days ago My parents wants to give my sister
the earrings my grandma left for me L
This story is so weird when I (27f) was 20 y/o I was in relationship/fwb
situation with a guy (now40M). It was messy, we were on and off for almost 5 years.
He was always clear he wasn't ready for a relationship and I was always clear I
was madly in love with him. Everytime I got tired of the situation and wanted to
leave somehow he convinced me to stay, because love is free, we have so much time
together, he wasnt ready to commitment. I asked abvice to my sister (now42f) and she gave
me some crappy advice like made him compromise, leave sfuff at his place and basically turn him
into a boyfriend until it was to late to him to say no. I never managed to do that because I
wanted him to love me as much as I loved him, not trap him. During the last night I
spend at his place he said he wanted to try something more serious with me, talked
about some dates he planned etc. Only to ghost me forever. It was hard. This was the first
person I loved and he treated me like crap. Six months passed and my sister came home, we
both lived with our parents, saying she wanted to introduce her brand new boyfriend, she had have
ton of boyfriends but she said this was the one, it was a dinner only with my parents at our
home so I was excluded and expected to just go out or chill in my room. The day came and
while they were dinning I ordered a pizza I came downstairs only to find the guy I
was with six months prior dinning with my parents and sister. I was shocked but pay
for my pizza and went to my room again to cry. After dinner was over I confronted my sister in
front of our parents and begged her to not be with him. To be loyal to me, her little sister.
There was no way she didn't know who he was, I had showed her pictures of him, his socials
media, where he worked and she even know where he lived, they never met because he
didn't wanted to met my family and never introduced his. But she knew who he was and she
excluded me from that dinner because she knew She said they met by chance after we
stopped seeing each other. She knew how hard that "rupture" was, she knew how
painful it was to not have even a closure, he just stopped replying, not even blocking
me just left me there wondering after 5 years. She knew that during those six months I was
still hurting. I know how it was my fault, I was too naive and thought that
if I stayed long enough he would be ready for the relationship I wanted and
would learn to love me. Stupid, I know. She defended herself saying it was a
coincidence and chemistry was there, she loved him and she wasn't going
to lost the love of her life, this stuff only happens once in lifetime. When
I was in my early twenties I would believe that, however now I know that there are
8 billions people in this world, there's no ONE love of your life, you can find the
love of your life multiple time if look for it. My parents sided with her and said I should get
over it since we never have a real relationship. One and a half year had passed. I've been excluded from multiple family gatherings because
he would be around and my family thinks I will bring negative vibes since
I'm still bitter about everything. I have no feelings for him but I feel
betrayed by my sisters and my parents, he is just pos on my eyes now. My sister is now six months pregnant, due
her age she had been extremely pampered by my parents. She still lives at home and is going
to move with him maybe two months after the baby is born. Then they're going to marry. In my
culture is normal that if a woman gives birth moves back (or stay) with her mom so the mom
will help with the baby for the first months. A week ago my sister's friends made a
surprise baby shower I happened to be at home I tried to talk to them, I don't
know why, maybe because my sister and I were to close before and I'm sad we're not
longer friends. But her friends acted like I wasn't there and only replied to me
with 'hmm' 'yes' 'no' or silence as it I was the one that created this mess. Or I was a
homewrecker. Or I tried to seduce my sister's man. I was planning to move already,
I was saving money etc. But after that I left immediately to a friend house.
I'm in the process to find my own place. 2 days ago I recived a call from my parents
asking me to have a talk. I went to their house and they informed me that the diamond
earrings my grandma left me will be given to my sisters. Those earrings have been in my
family for four generations and before my grandma died she said the earrings will be mine
and my sister will recived a gold necklace. Grandma trusted my parents with the earrings,
there was no will or anything she just asked to give it to me when I was mature enough to
appreciate/take care of a family heirloom. Now my parents thinks since my
sister is getting married first and is having grandma's first great
grandchild my sister should have it. I'm really MAD now, they're robbing
me of something my grandma LEFT TO ME. I don't think my parents are evil evil, I
think they were to worred my sister wouldn't marry due her age (again in my culture a
single woman in her 40's is something to worry for her family) and now that she's forming
a family they want to reward her with everything. But I was the closest to my grandma, she made it
clear the earrings will be mine not my sisters, not the first one to marry
or have a child but mine. After two years of being excluded in favor
of my sisters I gave the ultimatum to my parents they give the earrings to me as my grandma
intended or I will cut the from my life forever. Not gonna lie the idea of cuttting my
family off is too painful but I feel they already made me and still makes me so
wrong I dont want them in my life anymore. I feel a little shallow fighting over this but those are only things my grandad left
to they are not e entitled to them. Posted by
u/idunnohelpmeplease 3 days ago Your kids are not free labor. Full stop. L
Before anyone accuses me of being a whiny kid, I will say
this; washing dishes, cleaning up after oneself, taking care of a pet, or other meanial chores
are not "labor" in this context. Those are merely tasks that everyone should probably know how to
do in order to improve one's quality of life. Additionally, it's totally fine to ask a child
to flip on a light switch if your hands are full, or have them help to clean up the home that
you share. It's fine if you ask a kid for help, or get them to clean their own
messes, if they're old enough. What is not okay, however, is
to make them do everything, all of the time. This is the situation
that I find myself in. I'm an adult, and I pay to stay here just like anyone
else. I keep it clean, cook for the family whenever I can afford ingredients, and
look after the children whenever needed. But I am also called away from whatever I'm
doing to do these little side quests for my mom, or to prepare and serve food to her when she's
"too tired" (lazy) to just get it herself. (She's extremely picky, so getting food often
means multiple trips to and from the kitchen, something that she laughs about occasionally). I am called well after breakfast hours (sometimes
close to noon) because the kids need breakfast, and because I just happen to not work that
morning, it's my task to do it. When I ask why the heck they weren't fed sooner, my mother
makes up some BS excuse about not having the time, all while still lying in bed in her
pajamas. She couldn't find the time to pour a few bowls of cereal,
and now it's become my problem. The same thing happens for lunch on the days
when I finish with work early. I come home, and before I can even get through the doorway,
they're requesting McDonald's and tacos and my fancy little grilled cheese sandwiches (I
basically just cut them into triangles). It's either rushing to get them food before
they start cannibalizing, or having to set my things at the door and help them with
something unrelated that my mom refused to help them with (usually something related to one
of their phones, a concerning message on Roblox, or acquiring art supplies because one
of them feels compelled to doodle). On my days off, I've been woken up and
informed that I have to look after the children all day because, surprise surprise, my
mother has somewhere else to be today. No prior warning. No asking. Just "this is what's going to
happen, now put on your shoes and get down here". Mind you, my siblings are fed and cared for when
I'm not here, but the house often stays messy, and their desires unrelated to food or basic
care are unfulfilled in the meantime. It's then up to me when I'm home to give up whatever free
time or sleep time that I would love to have, all to ensure that the kids don't feel totally
ignored (my mother has said this much to me, the part about not wanting
her kids to feel ignored, not realizing that this is
literally her job as a parent). I am almost never called by her unless she
needs something related to childcare or her own frivolous whims. My "No" is unheard every
time unless I'm too busy, tired, or sick to move, and at the end of it all, I get some half-arsed
thanks before being ignored or shooed away again. I do a lot at work and at home, and my
limited free time is just spent dreading the next day's tasks or sitting quietly in
my room, ignoring my own hunger or needs and pretending to sleep so that hopefully,
I'll be left the heck alone for a while. My mental health is already at all all time
low for reasons that I'd rather not get into in this post, but it absolutely does not
help when I have to ignore my own empty belly of full bladder, all because
she'll suddenly find some reason to need my help the second that I open my
door and she remembers that I'm here. I hate this. I've become little more than
an extra set of hands, a spare wallet, a listener when she's upset, and
a free third parent with none of the authority (she won't even let me
send them to their rooms sometimes). What's most frustrating is
that for everything that I do, I get next to nothing in return. My mom
rarely makes or buys dinner for all of us, I've had to walk home from work on occasions
because she forgot that I worked, she still hasn't taught me how to do my own taxes, she won't
listen when I need to talk for a change, and she doesn't always pay me back when she borrows
large sums of money, unrelated to the bills. There is no equal exchange here, and we are not
mother and kid or even just roommates. I am an extra set of hands with no opinions or complaints,
no sick days or arguments. And if I mess up, she has no trouble telling me all about it,
usually with some unkind words thrown in. Your kids are not free labor,
people. The oldest, the middle, the one with the most free time or the one
who spends the most time indoors. There isn't really a good excuse for dumping
it all onto one of them, especially in a household where there are enough older kids
or even full adults to share the work with. Here's an edit, since I probably did more ranting
than explaining: My dad is in the picture, and he works from nearly sunrise to sunset
most days in order for us to afford bills, not including my contributions. We always have
food on the table and our lights and water on, but the Internet and phone service aren't
always paid for, none of us can really afford too many doctor visits, and one missed paycheck or
emergency situation could set us back for months. I am in my early 20s, and with my
low-paying job, not having a car, and current lack of a degree (I can't continue
college without financial aid of some sort), moving out isn't really possible. My job is
walking distance, though it doesn't pay enough to save up for a car or a place to live. I'm taking
the necessary steps to get my life in order, but it's a slow process. Dealing with my mother
and her BS is definitely not helpful. I also can't just.. leave when things are this bad either. I
couldn't afford to, and I'd end up coming right back, if there's still somewhere to come back
to, considering that my income is important too. I'm doing my best with what I have, but I kind
of have no one. My dad is supportive and awesome, but he's almost always busy. My mom is usually
available more often, but simply doesn't care. Google is my friend, but that's pretty much
it. And that sucks. I mainly posted here to get it out of my head, as my mom was being
really crummy yesterday. It's not bad enough to get CPS involved, as my mom's whims and
pettiness aren't worth breaking up a family over. It's just kind of soul-rending
that so much of this falls onto me, especially considering that I'm not even the
oldest or second oldest amongst my siblings.
