r/Bestof My Wife Became a Drug-Addicted Cheater

welcome to r/b bestof redditor updates where a story gets worse and worse and worse and worse our next Reddit post comes from r/ Ami the butthole my wife is usually an angel of a woman but has recently gotten into a friendship with a woman whom I personally believe is a bad influence on her not in a patronizing way more of a lay down with dogs get up with fleas type of situation I never said anything about her friend's childishness or her very radical missandry because frankly it doesn't affect me until it did a few months ago my wife began pressuring me to do more around the house now before I get an instant you're the butthole we already split chores and child care admittedly she did have a bigger cut than I did because she's a stay-at-home mom but I do most of the cooking for breakfast and dinner lunch is her responsibility for her and the boys I take out the garbage I do the laundry and I deep clean the bathrooms once a week I also help with our boy homework and such she insists that I'm not doing enough and that I should be doing more around the house I tried having discussions with her about what she expected from me apparently all chores and child rearing should be my duty it seems and for months this seems to be going nowhere she's used the word divorce more than once when speaking on this which felt manipulative it boiled over when we were out with friends one night and she began talking about how I never helped out and how I use her as a house slave I'll admit I saw red the next part is where I might be the butthole I didn't say anything that night but the next day I asked my boss to be given reduced hours for the next little bit due to stress then I took over everything in the house I cooked breakfast I made lunch for the boys before I drove them to school I cleaned the house top to bottom I did every dish we had twice and so on my wife was blindingly happy and bragged to her friend that she finally had me worn in she didn't lift a finger for around a month then she began asking why we never went on dates anymore and complaining that she wanted to get her nails done because they were growing in I explained that I had to remove those things from our budget so that we could continue to afford everything else but we could absolutely have a movie night in and I could paint her nails for her she was unhappy with that solution so I asked her if she would want to get a part-time job to pay for those luxuries he would have thought that I asked her if she wanted to join a cult she then asked if I could just pick up more shifts at work to cover her other expenses and she used the phrase be a man which I found more than a little insulting I then asked her if she'd be willing to go back to splitting the chores and such which is when she began to catch on that these two things were related she yelled at me that I was being a manipulative butthole for doing this and even claimed that it was Financial abuse I still stood strong for a while but now I'm questioning my methods because even I feel like what I did was underhanded so am I the butthole in the comments op clarifies that his wife wants to be a stay-at-home mom also his two sons are not biologically his they're biologically hers and he's just raising them then 6 days later Opie posted an update how do I explain to my sons to help them understand that their mother is going into rehab so the gist of it is that my wife and I recently had a blowout argument where she admitted to using two substances for several months now and she's agreed to get checked into rehab which we're currently setting up now how the hell do I bring this up to our kids without them being judgmental or hateful to their mother or Worse falling into the same mental space that I'm in I don't want to lie to them which is what my wife wants but I'm failing to see an alternative that won't destroy them or the respect they have for their mother down in the comments people are asking op what his wife is taking and she's taking CL Clon appin clown Ain which treats panic disorder and anxiety so I guess it Mellows you out and then also Adipex what on Earth is Adipex it lessens appetite so it's like a dieting pill I suppose anyways his wife has been buying those pills from her friend she also admitted to having tried Coke and several other prescription narcotics but those were the only two that she did often then 4 days after that op posted another update I was driving my wife to the rehab center that we decided on on the way she was screaming at me about how she can't believe that I'm humiliating her like this because I explained what was happening to the boys and I made her message her dealer slri that we would not be hanging out or using together anymore she was yelling about how she doesn't want to go that I'm a controlling monster and how threatening her with divorce and taking primary custody of the boys was too far and that I was insane I just took it and took it and took it until I couldn't and I screamed at her I screamed that the woman I met would have rather died than had a pillhead junkie around her sons and how she disgusted me and that I don't know if she knew how much I was considering leaving her not because of the addiction but because of the way that she was effing acting as if she hadn't brought drugs into our home she brought them around me a former addict myself and around our boys that I'm beginning to hate her for what she did that she was becoming exactly what she always cried about her mother being and that she was lucky that I was here to stop it before what happened to her happened to her damn son it makes me sick to say this but watching it sink in just how far she had spiraled felt good watching her realize that her actions have consequences was nice she yelled a few more times times that I was an abusive butthole or whatever but she was still crying so I felt like her heart wasn't into it I plan on speaking to a lawyer I don't want to divorce her but I don't know how healthy our relationship could possibly be after this I know yelling like that was wrong but I don't feel bad and that's the part that makes me think that maybe I shouldn't be married to her anymore for her sake and my own then at 12 Days Later op posted another update she was effing cheating the drug dealing friends sent me effing videos of her dancing and grinding on this ugly hickl looking bastard I'm destroyed the boys are staying with my mother for a few days and I'm taking the next week off work I am so done I've never been so angry in my damned life the woman was so smug sending it in case you don't realize that you're replaceable to her she said well the Free Ride stops here I'm done I saved the video immediately and and I'm going to see a lawyer ASAP I am super thankful that my parents insisted on us signing a prenup that had what I thought at the time was an inhumane cheating Clause I've never been cheated on before and I feel like tearing my hair out I genuinely never thought that she would turn out to be such a scummy piece of garbage I can't handle this I'm physically not able to handle this I haven't been able to keep my food down and I drank for the first time in over a a decade last night then I woke up and had to pour the rest down the drain because I'm about to spiral and my boys don't need both Mom and Dad in rehab right now I'm so close to losing my mind down in the comments op adds this clarifying context two of my three sons are stepsons but I adopted them they never had a father due to their biological dad being an absolute piece of garbage my biological son is the youngest and was born to a girlfriend who's not in the picture and doesn't want to be my sons are 9 12 and 14 my wife had two jobs when I met her though they were both terrible jobs and I'd been looking into finding her a better one as for her dealer she was getting her drugs from her friend who's a woman and a few of the men that she cheated with then about 2 months after that Opie posted another update first Opie explains that while his wife was in rehab he sent her video proof that she was cheating and then he went to a lawyer to initiate divorce proceedings he continues I moved all of her belongings to our guest room minus the pills that I found hidden in her bedside table I took pictures of those in their hiding spot and then flushed them I also removed her from my bank account and credit cards I spoke to my boys explaining the situation without demonizing their mother to the best of my ability and they seem to understand that I have no intention of abandoning them and blood or not they're my sons then she came home the boys were and still are away at camp a birth birthday present paid for by my mother my wife was quiet she had her eyes on the ground from the moment that I picked her up at the facility all the way home once we got home I silently led her to the guest room and she did not take that well crying before she could even take the first step inside throughout the next couple of weeks I let her get settled in and though I stayed carefully neutral I knew she could tell something was coming but I wanted to be as Fair as possible and to try to let her get used to being out before I said anything because that was one thing that I myself hated about when I left rehab everything was flying at me so fast I didn't have time to breathe finally I asked her to sit on the couch and I began explaining to her that I don't believe that I can continue being married to her and that I wanted a divorce I should have known that her reaction was wrong she didn't say anything at all only nodded and cried quietly as I spoke I explained that I didn't intend to hurt her but I couldn't be married her anymore and that maybe both of us should focus on being the best parents that we can be apart I told her I had no intentions of kicking her out and that because of our prenup the divorce should be cut and dry and she should be safe to begin looking for employment now and once she has a job I'll help her find an apartment at first she stood up and walked to her room I let her because I thought that she must have been overwhelmed and this talk could wait she didn't come out at dinner time and I weighed whether I should leave her alone or not eventually I decided to knock on the door and ask her if she was hungry long story short she had smuggled pills into my house somehow or she had a stash that I was unaware of and she had an overdose and was dead for several minutes in the ambulance she's now in a medically induced coma because the doctors aren't sure exactly how much damage she's done to her brain from what they've said I feel like an absolute monster like I'm the scum of the earth like I should have just said nothing like I should have just dealt with it just held it in and stayed I'm responsible for this and it kills me I may not have the same love for her that I did but I do feel so very sorry for everything that she's been through it's killing me I haven't told my sons yet and I'm debating waiting until they're back from cam so they can have a little more time without this on their mind on top of everything else then 5 days later Opie posted another update she's not awake yet I explained the situation to our boys to the the best of my ability and I asked if they wanted to see her they all agreed to see her eventually but the oldest only wanted to go to support his brothers I'm concerned about the anger that he's building towards his mother and I do intend to talk to him about it but I don't want to tell him how to feel or tell him that his feelings are bad and wrong I was already working on getting them into therapy but I'm going to expedite that then 7 months later op posted another update my wife is dead I know that everyone said that she was manipulating me or trying to make me stay with her but honestly even if that was the case it didn't matter because the moment that she woke up we both started crying and talking and we didn't stop for days she went back into rehab for a little while came out and we both did couples therapy and solo therapy for both of us she seemed happy she seemed better and I'd hoped that the crazy part was over and we could just be happy again she promised me that if anything happened if there was anything she needed to talk to me about she wouldn't hesitate everything was going well and now when I asked myself if she would ever slip or if she had never stopped in the first place the answer was no there was nothing suspicious except for the fact that she had an overdose at her friend's house while I was working and she died on her couch the friend oh my God the friend didn't even want to call an ambulance but her boyfriend had to convince her to I don't think either one of them were arrested that day but I know from the paper that she was picked up a couple of months ago for selling everyone kept telling me to go to the cops and frankly maybe I should have but frankly with the way the police act it wouldn't do much good since then I've been drinking terribly I took up smoking again too something I quit before I got married because she hated the smell I hate it now too the smell I mean but the hand to mouth is nice my sons are in therapy and they're taking the loss as well as they could be expected to the younger two talk about her a lot but the oldest is mostly angry I'm thankful that he doesn't seem to want to say anything to his brothers about it but I always let him tell me anything he's thinking even when it breaks my heart I know that maybe everyone here has an idea of who my wife was but one thing that you could never deny was how much she loved our boys they were her pride and joy absolutely everything to her Valentine's Day is tomorrow on the way home from work recently I caught myself calculating flower prices before I remembered that I have no one to give them to unless I put them on our grave I remembered getting pissed off at how expensive roses were getting and now that seems so silly I just wanted to say if you have someone you love please cherish them do something extra nice for that person you love tomorrow for my sake man you guys drugs are crazy it's also ridiculous how one of the very first things in this entire story is how op said my wife's new friend is a bad influence and then as the story progresses we see just how true that is the wife's friend is a monster obviously the wife deserves some blame with this as well because it was her decisions that made this happen but still if the friend were never in the wife's life then the wife would probably be alive right now our next Reddit post is from r/ True off my chest I broke up with my fiance because of his family I don't think think that I can marry my fiance because of his family I know people will say that I'm crazy but my gut tells me that I'm right this was supposed to be my first time meeting his parents he has two sisters a mom and a dad I was excited to meet my future in-laws but it was shattered some things about them just didn't sit right with me his mom is very possessive about him like the first thing she said when she saw me was so you're the lady that keeps my son busy I know it sounds like a joke but she said it in a condescending tone throughout the entire Gathering she was trying to avoid me she would get irritated whenever I got closer to my fiance she made a very mean comment when I asked her for a piece of pie that she made she said that I'll never be able to fit in my dress if I eat any more of it she deliberately made me sit far away from my fiance so that she could sit beside him I could tell that she didn't like me but I tolerated that but also she was way too harsh on her oldest daughter she kept making comments like when are you getting married oh you're still not over your ex so MIA the oldest sister used to date this guy Ben until he dumped her to be with the younger sister Jen Jen isn't very nice either she was mean to Mia and kept bugging her to get a husband Mia is 33 I don't think she needs to be in a rush Jen also didn't like me because she made some snide remarks about my upbringing I grew up in an abusive household I had to struggle a lot whereas my fiance came from a well-to-do family his dad didn't speak much he didn't say anything and just nodded the only normal person there was MIA because she just kept to herself but nonetheless I did not feel very welcomed by them I just had this gut feeling that if I get married this will be my whole life I would always have to be in competition with his mother but he's so nice and sweet I've never felt so in love with anyone like I did with him he bring me flowers takes care of me and treats me like a queen but I don't like his family at all so I broke it off with him and he was understandably sad he asked for a reason I just told him I didn't feel good about our relationship that we're not compatible there were tears but I left now I'm sitting in my aunt's house writing this one moment I feel like calling him and telling him that I had cold feeds that were perfect together we earn a lot we have similar hobbies and we're sexually compatible but this one thing about him just bugs me a lot I am heartbroken I know I don't deserve to be because I was the one who called it off then later the same day Opie posted an update I just talked to his sister Mia on the phone it was a surprise to me that she wanted to talk she got the news of us breaking up and asked if we could talk on the phone I agreed I was desperate to hear any news about my ex fiance we talked for like an hour or so it was mostly her telling me how her family was toxic that I made the right decision because her mom had a weird obsession with her baby boy also she doesn't know why but she understands that she's the black sheep of her family she wasn't adopted nor was she an affair child she also mentioned that her mother was a bit of a racist because of where I came from overall she just wanted to warn me I asked her why my ex- fiance doesn't treat her right she said that my ex fiance has this delusion that they have a picture perfect home but he doesn't realize how toxic his mother is she did try to bring it up with him but he just said that they're family and that family shouldn't hold grudges honestly I feel bad for Mia she said that she'll be going no contact with her family she thought that she could Salvage their relationship and let them be a part of her life but she decided that she doesn't want that she also shared some personal information about her relationship status and future then 2 weeks later op posted an update I did it I finally talked to my ex- fiance I told him everything that I mentioned in the post and also about my feelings for his family especially how they treated Mia needless to say he was upset he tried to convince me that this was all in my head that I shouldn't throw away our relationship because of his family that his family will accept me if I become a part of it I tried to explain things from my own perspective but he wasn't budging then the topic of Mia came up he said that it was unfair that even his sister was abandoning the family he mentioned Mia's big news and said that she doesn't want to be a part part of their family I told him that I already knew about it because I talked to Mia that seemed to upset him even more he's pissed that Mia shared her news to me before to his family I got angry and told him this is exactly why I don't want to be a part of his family her mother has made racist comments to me I'm half Bengali his mother treated me like an outsider and didn't make me feel welcome his family is very toxic I grew up in a toxic family I don't want to die in one maybe someday he'll find a woman his mother approves of but that woman is not me we had a big fight he was obviously defending his family he wasn't willing to listen to what I had to say overall he was very dismissive we ended our conversation on a very bad note and I'm sad about it aside from the family drama he's genuinely a good guy but I don't think that I can handle his family because you don't just marry one person you marry their entire family but they didn't even bother to know me at all so that's the update wow op your instincts are spoton good call breaking off the engagement you just spared yourself a lifetime of Torment that was r/b bestof redditor updates and if you like this content check out my podcast where I publish the exact same episodes also hit that subscribe button because I put out new Reddit videos every single day

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Published: Thu Mar 14 2024