r/Bestof My Wife Abandoned Our Baby to Die

welcome to r/b of redditor updates where it's slowly revealed that op is married to a psychopath our next Reddit post is from r/m marriage I'm a 34-year-old man and my wife who's 42 is a stay-at-home mom Opie's wife is 42 so she's 8 years older than op interesting last week I was at work and my two oldest kids were at school my wife was sitting at the dining room table when she saw a man walking down the driveway and going to the front door he had what she thought was a hammer she went to the front door and the guy was trying to get inside the guy saw her and waved and tried to get inside she fled the house and ran out the back door she left behind her cell phone and her Apple watch she also left our twin 8-month-old girls inside they were sleeping in their cribs she ran through the neighborhood looking for someone to help her call the cops eventually she found someone and they called the cops the police responded bonded and cleared the house it turns out that it was just a repair guy who was supposed to go to our neighbor's house and he had been told that no one would be home and to just come in she's what she's mad at me for not being more supportive of her okay this is a long post I didn't know where this post was going I was not expecting that line she's mad at op what did op do you abandoned your daughters to get kidnapped or eaten by a monster what are you talking about okay okay I'm sorry I was just I was shook you guys I was stunned when she told me this and I was surprised when she said that she left the girls she's always yelling at me about how I don't do enough for the kids unlike her who sacrifices constantly I don't think that's accurate but it's besides the point we've been having major issues in our marriage for a long time apart from this she's acting like this is one of the most traumatic events of her life which is making me madder and mad I'm having a real hard time putting this one behind me if this guy had been a bad guy she would have abandoned our girls to him so that she could save herself our house isn't that big and people in the neighborhood and online know that we have two little girls I honestly don't know what to do then op posts some extra information in an edit my wife doesn't believe in therapy and she refuses to go to marriage counseling that I set up for us online after the kids go to sleep a big issue I'm having is the double standard that if I had done this she would have never forgiven me and probably divorced me back when we moved into a new house we had a fight because my side of the bid was on the far side away from the door and she said that I needed to be able to stop and attack her I've been yelled at for abandoning my daughters when I take a shower in the morning before work and they begin crying or if she's sleeping in and one begins crying while I'm changing the other's diaper and it takes me a minute to finish I totally understand that this is fight ORF flight and I'm not trying to Monday Morning Quarterback I haven't critiqued let alone criticized her the only thing I did close to that was I was surprised when she told me that she left the girls also Opie clarifies that this is a one-story house so she wouldn't have had to run upstairs grab the kids and then run back downstairs also Opie clarifies that he's currently in therapy she's mocked me in the past for going to therapy and uses that as a way to invalidate my opinions as in what do you know you're just a depression case so there is no way that she'll see a therapist then about 2 weeks later op posted an update long story short things are not going well I feel like I'm an airplane pilot who's trying to land a plane that's disintegrating around me and that the time to bail out is now I'm also realizing how much I've normalized these issues and that my good days with her would be at best marginal days for other marriages and that most of my days with her are awful since that post I I've really tried to do what I can to support her I honestly thought that I had been supporting her anytime she wants to leave she can I do the Lian share of the chores at home which means laundry cooking groceries and morning and bedtime routines for the boys who are school age we do an informal system for dishes and with the girls for the baths it's close to 50/50 on those I also pay all the bills and handle all the extracurriculars one commenter said that she gave birth 8 months ago so I should be more sympathetic and yeah I totally get that but since she gave birth she's done four 10 km races a marathon relay and goes to a run group and dinner afterwards twice a week she's also gone to networking events for her business that she's currently working on since my first post we've had numerous issues we've had a lot of days with screaming matches here's some examples she woke up early on Saturday but didn't wake me or my son up for his early practice I slept through my my alarm she didn't do anything to help us or get ready her only comment when we came back was how late we were the moment that I came home she went to bed I had all four kids by myself which is fine I took the kids to the sore to run errands as soon as I came back in she got in a shower and left and refused to take any kids despite their cries she refused to tell us where she was going Sunday she refused to go to anyone's hockey practice because she had to clean the house while I was going to the skating rank with all my kids crying she called me because she had hired a person to clean our garage and she wanted to know where we could move things to this was the first time that I ever heard of this the lady she hired did a good job of cleaning the garage but she threw everything in the dumpster including like unopened dress shirts we had a thermonuclear fight on Monday my oldest son was screaming at me to get a second helping of dinner ready I tried bluffing to send him to bed without the second helping so my son went straight to my wife and she overruled me once my kids left the room I explained to her what I was doing and she spiked her laptop on the bed jumped up and started screaming at me she Then followed me out of the room screaming in front of all four kids that I'm a whiny be word and not a real man and that I'm trying to starve her kids funnily enough this was just before our marriage counseling session while I was in the way waiting room for that session she continued screaming at me and attacking my character when the session started she refused to join she was puttering around and she started blending something I tried to be as objective as possible and the counselor said that she was impressed with that in the last 5 minutes I tried to just bring my laptop to [Laughter] her when I did she collapsed to the floor like Superman man seeing Kryptonite she refused to do it after that I went to bed and she woke me up saying that she wanted me to set up our printer yo guys I this post it is impossible to predict what op is going to write next this is the most chaotic woman I have ever read about we had changed routers and I hadn't had the chance to set up the printer yet her lack of anger caught me off guard so I did it she silently stood over my shoulder the whole time and refused to let me see anything wait what does that mean refuse to let me see anything so she was printing stuff out in secret is that what op means what what is this post we had a couple of other fights along the same Lane but yesterday Thanksgiving we had a decent day it's not that she was overly affectionate we just didn't fight she slept in until 1250 in the afternoon and was snippy because I didn't have everyone ready yet she wanted the girls in the car seats she then began a 90minut shower and makeup routine and helped with the kids for maybe 20 minutes we ended up an hour late for Thanksgiving dinner but for us that was a good day yeah there was no affection or anything and we didn't speak in the car but yeah my mind forgot all the issues that we'd been having and I wanted to make it work that night I woke up to attend to one of my girls who was very sick this is the one thing that my wife had always done exclusively attend to the kids when they wake wake up at night she's actually taking kids from me when I do get up before her she says that it's because I have to work one fight we had in September was she screamed at me for being selfish for taking my daughter and sitting with her I said that I didn't mind because I was up anyways and my wife turned that into somehow me keeping my daughter up because I couldn't sleep the problem is that that's become a trump card in every argument but anyways I was with my daughter from 4:00 a.m. to 5:00 a.m. and my wife slept in this morning I woke up at 9:00 a.m. which is the latest that I've slept in that I can remember I started making the kid breakfast and finishing the laundry she was working on her laptop already she snapped that I shouldn't bother cleaning the house because she had hired someone I tried very very hard and refused to Escalade but I told her that we can't really afford a cleaning later and that I've got it she proceeded to call me a little b word and scream at me in my face in front of my kids one of my boys ran and hid and the other sat and read on the couch but he wasn't happy she blamed me for not having time to clean and not having money and that I couldn't clean or do laundry to her standards and that she wasn't a cleaner it was about an hour of just constant abuse so I spent today cleaning the house doing laundry and taking care of all four kids my sons did more cleaning than she has for a month what's really Disturbed me is not the abuse towards WS me I've normalized that and I'm used to it and honestly if she kept it behind closed doors I was prepared to wait out the next 17 years and leave once my kids were out of the house but my oldest son is clearly mirroring her behavior and internalizing the stress it doesn't help that she constantly wants to ask him who's your favorite who yells more and who's the better parent when I refuse to do that she says that I'm scared of what he might say so I guess Reddit that I just don't know what to do I'm trying to fix this I'm keeping an appointment scheduled with a counselor but beyond that other than talking to a lawyer I don't know what I should do she honestly doesn't see any issues with how she treats me she keeps saying I'm a diamond and if you leave me you'll only be dating Pebbles besides the fact that I don't want a divorce and she spent the last 6 years threatening a divorce I don't know if I can show anyone who's that out of touch with reality or see seemingly so closed off from recognizing that they have a role in causing and fixing their problems with the marriage dude buddy friend pal you got to wake up dude you have to open your eyes your wife is a certified nut job like what does she do it's it's really unclear what her role in the family is because op said that the wife takes care of the kids in the morning because he has to work so that implies that she doesn't work but also she was home alone with the kids during the day and that would also imply that she doesn't work but Opie said that she was working on her laptop so I guess she's trying to start a business what do you think the odds are that the job that she's trying to start is an MLM scheme well okay anyways so she doesn't work what does she do what does she do she runs we know that she runs and she yells at her husband she doesn't cook she doesn't clean she doesn't really take care of the kids she just sleeps in runs and puts down her her husband op this post is is a certified train wreck it's just every paragraph is another shocking moment of some horrific instance of emotional abuse and I don't understand why you're still with her dude you've got to move on if not for your sake then your kids sake if you endure this abuse for the next 18 years then you're going to be teaching your sons to be spineless pushovers and your daughters to be horrific emotionally abusive shrews it kind of sounds like she might be a narcissist where everything is always someone else's fault and she just wants what she wants when she wants it and if she doesn't get it she explodes on everyone around her I you know I'm not a psychiatrist or anything but something definitely seems mentally wrong with this person it seems like this transcends just being a mean person like it's something worse than that our next Reddit post comes from r/ relationship advice this is honestly not something I expected to post about but here's the thing I've known this woman who's 28 for a while since we're in the same friends group she's a nice person attractive and honestly I've always enjoyed my talks with her a few weeks ago I a 26-year-old guy asked her out on a date I figured if she says no it's fine but she actually agreed we went on a date this past Saturday and honestly I thought that it was awesome we went out to dinner had drinks spent the rest of the night talking and we even took a walk on a walking bridge over the town's Lake which isn't a big one I dropped her off and I was elated I absolutely loved the night however that night when I was scrolling through Tik Tok on my bed a post from her appeared on my foru page I don't follow her nor did I even know that she had a Tik Tok essentially she said in the post getting ready for a date that I really don't want to go to that was like a bucket of ice water being thrown on my head I was so freaking happy and I just found out that she didn't even want to go on the date with with me don't get me wrong I'm not saying that she has to want it but please let me know if that's the case we don't have to go out we can forget I even asked her out in the first place but doing this on the internet it made me I don't know self-conscious or something now I'm unsure about what to do should I tell her that I saw the Tik Tok or just forget about it honestly it really hurt me and I'm not really sure if I want to give this another try I mean she didn't want to go out with me in the first first place right then about 1 week later op posted an update after last week's post I read almost every comment or at least most of them some people mention that anxiety is normal and feeling like not going out is definitely common suggesting that I shouldn't look too much into it while I agree with that perspective and see no fault in not feeling like going out what bothered me more about this situation was that she posted a public Tik Tok about it I'm a private person by nature and even my social social media accounts like Instagram have only a single post I don't really like to overly share nor do I want to be with someone who does it's completely fine to share whatever you want I just don't want to be a part of it so I decided not to contact her I chose to pretend that I had never seen the post and let things be I understand that a lot of people might think that this isn't the best choice but I feel that it's the best course for both of us last Thursday a few friends who also happened to know her invited me out for drinks we went to a bar and while we were eating and enjoying our drinks a mutual friend asked me how the date went as our Circle was aware that we were going on a date I didn't want to say much so I just replied oh it was good but I don't think that we clicked this friend followed up by saying we figured which made me feel rather uneasy when I asked her what he was talking about he hesitated but eventually said that they had seen a Tik Tock post about her not wanting to go out at this point I didn't really know what to say this situation is just incredibly messy for me but there's not too much that I can do about it still I wasn't going to mention it nor did I try to look up if there was an update on her Tik Tok in fact I deleted Tik Tok after that incident it just wasn't doing me any good nevertheless this past Saturday she texted me she mentioned that she enjoyed our date and asked if I wanted to go out again I understand that she clearly stated that she enjoyed our time together however I don't want to be with someone who exposes so much of their personal life it's not something that would be good for me so I decided to tell her the truth and sent a text explaining that while I absolutely enjoyed our date her company and I thought that she was an amazing woman her post from the night of the date came across my for you page on Tik Tok and it made me feel really self-conscious while I understand that she enjoyed the DAT contrary to what she felt at the time of the post I didn't feel comfortable going out with someone who had such a high level of exposure online I I wished her the best she read the message and left me on red ever since I don't think that she'll reply and I don't think that we'll have a lot of social interactions going forward well my guess is that the reason why she's not responding to your text is because she's too busy writing a Tik Tok about how much of a horrible man you are to stand you up for your second date what a what a disgusting human being you are Opie I think you're probably better off because not only was she airing her laundry in public but what she did was embarrassing she was putting you down and yeah she was putting you down anonymously because most people don't know who she's going on a date with but still it was an insult directed at you that was r/b of redditor updates and if you like this content check out my podcast where I publish the exact same episodes also hit that subscribe button because I put out new Reddit videos every single day

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Published: Tue Dec 26 2023