Posted by
u/ThrowRA77474 10 hours ago
Gold Hugz AITA for not wanting to use my college fund
to pay for my brother's treatment? My parents divorced when I was about 7 because
my dad had admitted to having an affair. My mom and I moved out of our house and into
an apartment while my dad immediately moved his mistress into our house because she was
pregnant with my twin brothers. My mom was devastated but she quickly picked
herself up for us. She went back to school and as a result, she continued climbing up
in her career. My mom adjusted better to going from a double income household to a single
income and was able to contribute a substantial amount of money to my college fund. My dad on the other hand had a harder time
as he now has to support a family of 4 sometimes 5 on a single income as his wife is a SAHM.
My dad did not have much disposable income and so did not contribute as much to the fund. I'm going to finish school soon and I have
a good shot at getting into my first choices of college. Unfortunately my brother [10M] was diagnosed
with a kidney disease which has progressed to where he needs to be on dialysis. My dad
is drowning in medical debt so my mom agreed he no longer needed to pay child support. The specialist had suggested a different treatment
for my brother as most other treatments didn't help or stopped working and they are running
out of options short of a transplant (not doable at this time). This treatment is not
covered by insurance and costs a lot. My dad can't take out a loan due to debt. Dad and his wife sat me down when I was over
and asked if I would be willing to let them borrow my college fund to pay off my brother's
treatment. They offered to pay the money back but I knew they wouldn't be able to. I really don't want to give them the money
because I know if I don't get any scholarships I wouldn't be able to go to the college I
want to without going into debt myself. My future would be at risk and I know my dad
wouldn't help if I needed it. In addition, the money technically belongs
to my mom, I can't just give it away and I know she would refuse to give them the money. My dad and his wife are furious at both my
mom and I and is trying to guilt me into it. I do feel terrible for my little brother. AITA? Posted by
u/Walfredo_wya 12 hours ago
Bravo Grande! Take My Power AITAH For telling the lady 2 seats behind
me on a plane she was screaming the whole flight?
At the airport now. The lady 2 seats behind me on the flight was talked extremely loud
the entire flight. I had earplugs in and it was piercing my ears. After the flight landed the lady across the
aisle from me looked terrified and said they’re on her next flight. I got up and walked back
and said, “you guys are flying to Florida next right? You may want to consider being
a little more quiet on your next flight. I had earplugs in and could hear you screaming
the entire time” I turn back around and her boyfriend calls
me an jerk. So I turned back and asked what he said. He told me I was an jerk. Then the
girl chimes in and said, “we weren’t even talking loud.” I show them the earplugs in my hand and said,
“I had earplugs in my ears 2 seats ahead of you, and I heard all about Franks wedding,
your nail appointment, feeding your dogs, your cellphone bill, the tv shows your mom
watches” Am I the jerk? Posted by
u/Unable-Guarantee-375 4 hours ago AITA for saying that I don't want an expensive
tray stolen at a wedding? My boyfriend (30M) and I (30F) were invited
to his friend's wedding. I've met the bride and groom a few times, he has known them for
decades. There is a local tradition for each guest
to bring a dozen cookies to the wedding, then at the wedding everybody's cookies are displayed
together to make a cookie table. We wanted to participate, so we baked cookies the night
before. I have a very beautiful and expensive tea
tray. Boyfriend suggested that I use it to display the cookies. I said no, it's a 300-person
wedding, I don't want some auntie "accidentally" taking it home with her. Boyfriend seemed
fine with this, we found a simple bowl that was perfectly appropriate for the occasion,
and used that to display the cookies. After the wedding as we were preparing to
leave and I went to retrieve my bowl, boyfriend told the newlyweds that I didn't want to use
my tea tray because I thought one of their guests might steal it. I tried to backtrack
by saying that I just didn't want it to get misplaced or damaged, but he "called me out
on lying." The newlyweds said something about everyone there being friends and family, it
was very awkward and we left shortly. I am angry because I told him that in confidence
and he should have known better than to repeat that to his friends, even though they were
very close. Posted by
u/Confident_Pack_7451 6 hours ago AITA for
changing my middle name to what my birth name was supposed to be?
I was adopted at birth. My adoptive parents and I have a good relationship now, but it
was rocky for a few years there. They didn’t tell me I was adopted and I found out in what
I consider the worst way when I was 16: a spiteful relative told me. Not out for my
best interest but they got mad at my mom and was trying to ruin her life. It caused a huge
fight within the family and everyone focused on the drama rather than my entire life crumbling.
I finally ended up in therapy at 18 and have been attending on and off for the past 10
years (currently on). I didn’t speak to my parents from the time I was 18 until I
was 23. They acted like I was insane for being upset about all this. Eventually, they apologized and began going
to therapy themselves. We’ve slowly rebuilt our relationship. They have since accepted
my search for my bio family and upon finding my bio mom, have been amazing with her. My bio mom was coerced into giving me up.
She hadn’t wanted to but her family all but forced her. She had no support. My parents
didn’t know this part but purposefully chose a private adoption so I’d never know I was
adopted. My bio mom and I have known each other for 4 years now. She is an amazing,
kind and generous woman who is just like me. I spent so long feeling unseen and different.
She was like completing a puzzle. My bio dad died when I was 12 and it’s devastating
to know I’ll never meet him. He didn’t want to give me up either but they were very
young and again, no support. My bio mom told me she had named me Summer,
but my adoptive parents changed it. She understood but I could tell the name meant a lot to her. I recently got married and am changing my
last name. I decided since I’m changing my last name, I’ll change my middle name
too. It’s got no sentimental meaning vs Summer, which does to my bio mom as it’s
her favorite season and I was born on the first day of summer. My bio mom cried tears
of joy when I told her. She is so touched. My adoptive parents are ticked off. They say
that I have erased them. I kept my first name that they gave me. They say if I “had to”
I should’ve just added Summer to my name. AITA? EDIT; because some people are twisting my
words. I am NOT mad I was adopted. Given my bio mom
was coerced and forced, someone had to. I was NOT given up out of love. My bio parents
loved me but if they had it their way I would’ve been raised by them. I’m mad I was LIED to for 16 years and by
my adoptive parents’ admission they never planned on telling me. I cut them off because
they gaslit me and refused to admit they handled it badly on top of telling me I was crazy
for being hurt. I do not need to be grateful I was adopted.
I do not need to be grateful they loved me or provided for me. Those are basic things
that SHOULD BE done. I am grateful for a lot, but that doesn’t changed the awful things
they did. My adoptive parents admitted my middle name
is meaningless. They picked it randomly (it’s the stereotypical Marie). So yes, I am sure. Finally, I did NOT change my name to be vindictive.
I changed it to represent both families. I am not upset my name was originally changed.
I get it. I’m just trying to form a connection to my birth family. Posted by
u/leftbehind2023 10 hours ago
The Poop Knife2 Table Flip
A Diamond in the Poo2 Calculating
Are You Serious? Lawyer Up
Snek Facepalm AITA For not letting my ex take our sons overseas
because our daughter can't go I (38F) have been divorced from my ex-husband
(40M) for 4 years. We have 3 kids together (17F, 15M, & 13M). I have primary custody
of the kids because we live on opposite sides of the country. We alternate major holidays
and he gets them for 2-months during the summer. He works in the entertainment industry in
California, while I live near family in Georgia. Last summer, our daughter decided that she
didn't want to visit him during the summer. She didn't want to miss a summer with her
friends, has a part-time job, and had other summer activities here she didn't want to
miss. The three of us talked about it and my ex was very understanding and supportive
of our daughter's choice, even though he said he was saddened and disappointed by it. But,
he didn't push her on it and we all came away from the conversation in agreement. This summer is the same thing. She'll be a
senior this fall and wants to stay here with her friends again. We had another conversation
and although my ex expressed his feelings and hoped she'd change her mind, he didn't
push her on it. Our son's have been with him for about 3 weeks now. Last week, he called me and asked me if I
could send him the boys' passports because he wants to take them overseas. Apparently,
a colleague of his invited him and the boys to take a trip on his yacht down the Pacific
coast for a couple weeks with stops in Mexico and Central America. This was a spontaneous
thing, it wasn't planned. To say I was a bit put-off by the whole thing would be an understatement.
I don't feel 100% comfortable with it, but I understand it's kind of a once-in-a-lifetime
experience for the kids. However, our daughter can't go and that rubs
me the wrong way. I asked my ex if there was any way our daughter could go too, and he
said that unless she can make it there by the time they leave, they can't wait for her.
Our daughter has multiple activities already planned for that timeframe that we have either
already paid for or that she is really looking forward to. When she heard about the trip
idea that her brothers would go on without her, she was very disappointed. So, I told my ex that unless there's a way
for our daughter to go too, I am not going to send him the passports or give him my permission
as primary guardian to take them to another country. My ex gave me quite a bit of pushback
on it because he and the boys are really looking forward to it and he says it's a unique bonding
experience that I am depriving them of. When I told him how disappointed our daughter
is about it, he said that if she's old enough to make mature decisions about how she spends
her time and doesn't want to visit him, then she's old enough to realize that those decisions
mean she might miss out on things that her brothers get to do while they are with him.
The boys have been practically begging me to let them go and I know if I don't let them,
they will blame me and their sister for it. Posted by
u/amsmiller 9 hours ago
Table Flip Dread
Facepalm AITA for
telling my parents my wife has postpartum depression?
Throwaway account. My wife gave birth to twins 3 weeks ago via emergency c section and a
little over a week ago we finally got home from the NICU. I think in my exhaustion I
forgot to mention it to her; but my parents decided they wanted to visit our first week
home and I worked out all the details with them. This was when the crying started. My wife
has always had a great relationship with my parents so I thought she’d be happy to see
them but she was really upset when they showed up. I know from reading the questionnaires
that not finding happiness in things that previously made you happy is a sign of PPD.
I know she’s ok with visitors right now because her mom is here helping. The twins are a lot of work so my wife has
been pumping every 2 hours to allow us both to bottle feed. She said it’s because she’s
having trouble with the babies nursing but I think it’s just so she doesn’t have
to get up to feed them at night and can have me do it. I’ve been struggling to wake up
and stay awake to take care of them for my 6 hour night block but I’ve been pretty
good. My wife has only had to wake up during my shift a handful of times when I was sleeping
which I feel like is way better than most guys. And on top of it when my wife is awake
her mom helps her so really it’s harder for me. My sleep deprivation has gotten unbearably
mentally to the point where I need a mental reset to be a good dad and partner. My parents
wanted to do some exploring in the area anyway so each day they were here I would spend time
with them trying to be a good host. Bike rides and hikes with my dad and shopping trips with
my mom during the day. I’m only out of the house for maybe 5-6 hours max each day and
help with the babies when I get home. A few days into my parents stay my wife said
she no longer loves me and resents me for not caring about her or our kids and leaving
during the day/“treating my PPL like a vacation”. She also said that she wanted my parents out
in a really rude way right in front of them. I was really embarrassed for her because they
were nice enough to buy us all dinner multiple times when she didn’t feel up to cooking.
I told my parents to excuse her behavior but that she had postpartum depression so we shouldn’t
hold it against her. She packed up the babies and herself in the car and drove with her
mom to her parent’s house. I’m doing everything I can to contact her doctor about her PPD
because I’m really worried about her and love her so much. I really don’t think I’m
the AH here for mentally resetting so I could better support my family and trying to get
my wife the help she needs. Am I really the jerk here? Posted by
u/SNORKLESNORKLES 16 hours ago
The Poop Knife A Diamond in the Poo2
Press F I am disappoint
Hugz AITA For Not Congratulating My Brother On
His Wife’s Pregnancy. AITA For Not Congratulating My Brother On
His Wife’s Pregnancy. I had to terminate my pregnancy 3 weeks ago
due to my babies brain not forming correctly. My partner and I had been trying for over
a year to fall pregnant, I was crying about not being pregnant constantly and even went
and seen a hypnotist to get me to stop obsessing, we were just starting to look into IVF when
we fell pregnant spontaneously and we were so dang happy. We were half way through the
pregnancy when the Drs were starting to get worried about the scans. To save a long and
heartbreaking story short, our beautiful baby would not of survived and we had no real choice
but to terminate. Because I was so far along the safest way
for me to terminate was to birth my dead baby, no words I can write here will come close
to aptly describing the pure concentrated heck my husband and I went through in that
hospital room. Entering into a hospital pregnant and leaving with nothing but a box of paperwork
and some pills is an unspeakably terrible trauma I wouldn’t wish upon anyone. 2 weeks had past and I had been slowly healing
physically and emotionally. I had just started to get out of bed, when my brother and his
wife announced to the whole family that they were pregnant with their second child (only
7 weeks). My Mother broke the news to me because they didn’t want to be the ones to tell
me. At first I was so heartbroken but then o became
enraged. I don’t understand why they didn’t wait to announce their pregnancy til 12 weeks?
(As is usually the tradition) they have a daughter already and they waited 12 weeks
before they told anyone that time but this time they didn’t, they decided to announce
early at 7 weeks. I felt like it was unintentionally cruel to announce it so soon after my babies
death, my baby is still laying dead on a slab in a morgue awaiting an autopsy and cremation
and they couldn’t even wait for that. For context my brother and I are very close
and he knew of all the struggles we were having conceiving and then all the troubles with
the pregnancy, he was very aware of what my partner and I had been through and how I was
coping. He and his wife even prayed over me one day (they are super religious, I am not,
especially now) to help god give me a happy, healthy baby. I felt so betrayed and angry that I sent him
a text message calling him and his wife cruel jerks and said he had to of known what his
news would of made me feel and if the shoe was on the other foot that I would of kept
my news for a few weeks longer, they could of at the very least waited until the next
month. I never congratulated them on their pregnancy and told them that our relationship
was over and to not contact me. When I told my Mother what I did she defended
my brother and his wife and said it wouldn’t of mattered when he shared his news. I’m
not sure how he feels about it as we haven’t talked and probably won’t until I calm down
a little more. It just freaking hurts you know? Posted by
u/Express-Breakfast948 15 hours ago
Facepalm AITAH for not going home to my mom, and now
she’s in Honolulu, Hawaii on vacation without me?
There needs to be a little context so let me explain. I’m an only child (16M) with
divorced parents. My mom has a guest (another cousin of mine) who is staying in MY room
from June to August. I was with my dad on a Sunday where my mom texted me to bring clothes
to her house. I asked why and if she had any plans. She said not to worry about it and
that it shouldn’t matter if she has plans or not because it’s her week to have me
as my parents have 50/50 custody over me. She also said that she’s on vacation time
from work but never mentioned about going anywhere. And although in the past she thought
of going somewhere, she mentioned that it might be local. Anyways, I told her that I already have plans
with some cousins and she snapped asking why I don’t want to come home. I tell her that
for starters, my cousin is staying in MY room because we have no guest bedroom, and that
I don’t want to sleep on the couch in the living room or on the floor (I am a big guy
as well so the couch or the floor wouldn’t be as comfortable). Also, my cousin would
be staying until days before I start school, and I didn’t want to not have my room for
months before I start school again. After a few minutes of bickering back and forth,
she eventually said that she wants me to go to my cousins. After about an hour, she texts back again
saying that I should bring clothes. I ask if she has plans and that I need to know because
not only do I not want to sit in the house all day (not even in my own room) doing nothing,
and that I already have plans with cousins. She snaps and after, I eventually give up
wanting to end this argument. I tell her she can pick me up at the end of the day, but
she refuses and says I can just go to my cousins. I tell her that I chose the latter and then
she gets mad again. I end the conversation by telling her and I quote, “Let me know
when you’re done being mad at me.” I am now at my cousins and after looking at
things on sale on Amazon, I notice delivered packages a few days earlier (me and my mom
share the same account), and they were supplies for the beach. I check my mom’s location,
and she is in the middle of Honolulu, Hawaii. I am in disbelief and anger that my mom wouldn’t
tell me her plans and that I missed out on a trip to Hawaii. I have yet to lash out at
her but I tell my cousins about it and I empty my frustration. AITAH? Posted by
u/Free-Cicada-3233 1 day ago AITA for "ruining the birth of their child"
for a couple I don't know? Not the A-hole
I (24f) was unfortunate enough to witness my brother's birth when I was 6. Front row
and all, I was the first person to carry him in the hospital room. To be honest, I don't
remember anything expect how horrific that memory is. My parents have apologized and
we have made peace with it, they thought it would be cute for me to see my brother first,
it wasn't, they said sorry and we moved on. The rest of my family hasn't moved on. They
still think it's absolutely bonkers I don't think it's a magical moment. Fast forward to now, I'm visiting my aunts
and uncles during one of their reunions and a couple that's friends with one of them are
talking about how excited they are about the birth of their kid. I say nothing. They keep
talking until I heard how they are also planning to have their first kid in the delivery room
with the mom to have "an experience like I have". My aunt goes pale and before she could
deflect I said "If what you want is traumatize that kid for life, be my guest." The couple
is silent and my aunt quickly shifts the topic about other birth and baby things and my uncles
ask me to go eat something over there. I understand when I'm being dismissed so I
ate some more food and left for the night. After that, my extended family is blowing
up my phone about how I ruined the birth of their kid for the couple and how now they
are feeling like crap and bad parents. I think I saved another poor kids eyes but it also
wasn't my place since I don't know them. So, AITA? Posted by
u/Flimsy_Wish_7885 1 day ago AITA for frightening my nephew and making him traumatized
for life? Not the A-hole
I had a cookout at my place on the 4th. My daughter’s (13) switch goes missing. I contacted
family members and my wife’s sister (Kara) said my daughter gave it as a gift to her
son Stevie (6) for his upcoming birthday. I ask my daughter and she said it wasn’t
true she let Stevie use it so they could all play Mario Cart together and it went missing
after the cookout. My daughter is upset and I call Kara back who insists that the switch
is now Stevies and my daughter is too old to play anyways or will outgrow it soon and
it was a gift to Stevie. She calls my daughter an “Indian Giver” After this I contacted my uncle who is a police
officer and he watches Kara’s house and a few of his friends go over and threaten
to arrest Steve and Kara over stolen property. Kara reluctantly gives it back after an incident
with the officer that she could have been arrested for. The warned Stevie next time
steals both him and his mom will go to jail. They let my SIL go without incident. SIL says Stevie has been crying non stop and
having issues sleeping because he doesn’t want to go to jail and blaming me and my family
for traumatizing her son. My response might have been heartless because it was “I guess
he’ll never steal again” Kara thinks he’ll be traumatized for life for making a big deal
over a stupid game. Posted by
u/bloops_and_bleeps 23 hours ago AITA for not wanting to spend my own money
on my sister’s baby shower? Not the A-hole
My (24F) Sister (28F) is pregnant with her first child with her husband. Without even
consulting me or anyone, almost immediately after she told us she was pregnant she basically
started planning her own baby shower. Invitations, venue, theme, guest list, everything. Ok cool
she’s excited it makes sense, I guess. I am not very familiar with baby showers as
I’ve never been to one let alone thrown one. My mom reached out to me saying “Just
so you know, your sister is expecting you to throw this shower for her.” Hmmmm ok.
Sister never even asked me. But I figured it was the right thing to do to reach out
to her and let her know I’d be happy to help her with planning, sending invites, etc. But she is planning basically everything herself
..but sending me links to stuff saying “here’s the venue let me know when you book it!”
Or “here’s the exact invitations I want let me know when you order them!” Like Jesus
H. Christ, that’s tacky and entitled AF to me. SHE chose to have sex and get pregnant,
why on Earth should the responsibility to pay for everything fall on anyone but her
and her husband??? Im happy to help plan it but I told my mom
I won’t be paying for anything other than a gift. My mom said that’s rude and as her
only sister I should help out (my mom will be helping pay for the shower as well which
I also don’t agree with). I do make slightly more money than my sister
(but with her and husband’s income combined they make a little more than me) but unless
I was crazy rich I don’t think it’s fair to expect someone else to cover these costs.
Especially because I think a baby shower is stupid in the first place, like just send
out an announcement and people will send gifts if they want to. I think expecting people
to travel from out of state just to give you a gift in person all because you had sex (!!!!!) is
insane. But people can do what they want so in that aspect I’ve kept my mouth shut. AITA if I refuse to spend my own money on
this baby shower? Posted by
u/sleepy_g0lden_st0rm 1 day ago AITA? My dog pooped on the sidewalk that happened
to be in front of a cafe in NYC – Owner was not happy.
Not the A-hole I just had an experience that I am not sure
how to feel about. I was walking my dog on a commercial street filled with small businesses
and shops in Queens, NY. I had just come from the vet and my dog, a beagle mix, had been
pretty nervous, so I thought a little walk would be nice. As we are walking, my dog suddenly stops and
poops in the middle of the sidewalk. Now, this is not an ideal place for him to go,
and usually he tries to find a grassy spot off to the side, but apparently he needed
to go and this was where he was going. This spot he chose to go on the sidewalk happened
to be a in front of a cafe (about 4 feet in front of it). I didn't think much of it, or
even notice what business I was in front of. I got out a poop bag to pick it up. I picked
up the poop in the dog bag and tied a knot. There was a small amount of residue that I
couldn't get off of the sidewalk (not sure how to avoid that). Just as we were about to continue walking,
someone pops out of the door (who I assume is the owner of the cafe) and says in a rude
tone, "This is a business, don't let your dog poop here (pointing to where the dog had
pooped). He should have pooped over there (points to the curb)" I didn't know how to respond and I think I
mustered something like, "This is a sidewalk and this is where he stopped to go." I didn't feel like I should apologize for
anything in this situation so I did not. I was more annoyed than anything. I turned and
left without further engaging with the person. I noted the shop and made a mental note to
never visit it. Just for a better visual: This cafe has no
outdoor seating. This is just a public sidewalk in front of their cafe that is on a pedestrian
street in a big city. I am not sure what I could have done differently.
I picked up the poop. The owner of the cafe didn't need to come out and say anything.
They don't own the sidewalk in front of their cafe. This is NYC, we all have to share the sidewalk. Who's the jerk?
