People Share "DARK FAMILY SECRETS" And How They Handled The Revelations (r/AskReddit)

have you ever stumbled upon a dark family secret have you found out something about your family that was completely unexpected how did you handle the revelations a long time ago back when I was still in middle school my mom's best friend died she wouldn't tell me how she died only that it was sudden when I asked why we weren't going to the funeral she told me that there wouldn't be one because her body was being donated to science I didn't ask any more questions that was the last time we ever talked about her well five months ago my mom handed me her phone to find the number for Domino's and as I'm scrolling through her contacts I come across the phone number of the dead best friend biggest what the duck moment of my life the next day I called it from a payphone at Waffle House and she picked up I instantly recognized the voice and accent she's not dead second-biggest what the duck moment of my life this needs a follow-up too much of a cliffhanger I didn't know what to say so I hung up and went back home when I got home I looked her name up on Google but I didn't find anything I told my sister but she doesn't really care I told my dad too and he seems about a spooked as I do but he's of no use because they're divorced and rarely ever talk to each other I also told my girlfriend but she doesn't really like it when I talk about my mom so she's of no use either I'd asked my mom but don't think it's a good idea this is a pretty big secret and I don't want her to know that I know plus I like mysteries I feel like one of the Hardy Boys when I first started dating my girlfriend I was invited to her very conservative Catholic parents 25th wedding anniversary party I was hanging out with her and her 24-year old older brother afterwards and she was talking about how her mom found her birth control earlier that week and lectured her about how wrong premarital ex was we weren't having eggs I quit did some mental math and said she should talk since our brother's birthday is in five months they both looked at me with a crazy amount of shock their faces they had never figured that out my dad recently told me a family story of one of his older distant relatives will call her Jill mainly because I don't remember her name this all happened some 70 years ago a good 20 years before my father was born it's a bit unclear what actually happened but I'll try my best to piece it together Jill was a plain looking girl who was raised on a small country farm being a bit of a quiet tomboy she didn't go to school but took care of the farms horses instead one day in her teenage years Jill was in the stables when something spooked one of the horses it reared up and kicked Jill in the face since there was very limited medical surgery she ended up somewhat disfigured and scarred she withdrew from much of society and live solely on the farm as a hermit years of isolation pass and one day Jill vanishes perhaps her immediate family knew but no extended family were ever told what happened that is it until they were notified of her death four years later you see it turns out Jill had ran away and enlisted in the Army she had fought overseas in World War two and had been killed now that might not seem like much of a story but keep in mind that only men fought in World War two Jill had somehow managed to pose as a man for four years in the Army without being detected and it was her death that gave her away considering the rest of my family history isn't very exciting I think it's a pretty cool story my grandmother has all the dirty little secrets but she's too proper to spill anything until this one night when she told me about my grandfather's her husband's family essentially they were poor living off the streets and trying to earn money during Australia's gold rush anyways the family had too many kids and not enough money so they sold one of their kids to a Chinese businessman he would have been my grandfather's great-uncle I suppose no one knew and she hasn't said boo of it since then my mum was born in Colombia and moved to the US when she was 12 I never knew much about her family and was told multiple variations of sugar-coated stories by other family members whenever I tried to find out more about my family history I was already aware that the Italian side of my family paternal had ties to the mob II New Jersey and eventually moved to Miami where my parents would eventually meet through Google I also found out that my grandfather was a snitch ended up in the witness protection program after being implicated in a murder and being indicted for selling massive amounts of cocaine okay I thought I can deal with that knowledge shitty about the coke but maybe my mom's site wasn't so bad thanks to ancestry websites and Google I soon discovered multiple newspaper articles from the 1980s that would indicate that my maternal Colombian grandparents were the leaders of massive pot smuggling ring which at the time was referred to as the largest pot smuggling operations ever carried out in the US both my grandparents were sentenced over 250 years each but after that my trail ran cold and do not know how or when they died family rumors would have me believe that my grandfather died of a heart attack in jail soon after hearing that my grandmother was murdered in Colombia my mom never talks about it and I don't feel comfortable asking very few of my friends know about it but I must say I find it ironic that my Italian paternal grandparents were coke dealers while my Colombian maternal grandparents were prolific pop smugglers TLDR three out of four of my grandparents are convicted drug dealers cause of death still unknown for maternal grandparents somehow I went to college have no illegitimate children or drug habits hooray I found out that one of my own sisters was exiled from Russia for challenging an army officer to a duel with swords and winning my own sister worked in the Tzar stable and the argument arose when the army officer insisted on riding my own sister's horse the horse threw him off and the army officer shot it we've always been horse people my parents used to always joke about how we picked the wrong boy at the hospital I never thought much of it a year ago I'm now 17 they told me that when I was born in the almost exact time as a boy whose parents abandoned him the boy was almost the same size as well now you'd think that this would never happen but I was born in China at a hospital that somehow mixed us two up essentially they weren't exactly sure if I was the son of my parents my mom looked at the two of us and swore that I was the one despite the nurses tax stating otherwise genetic tests were relatively expensive then and were refused by my mother they didn't care at the time since there was no parent to claim the other boy now I'm about to go off to college and I have no intention of finding out whether or not and the biological son strange when I think about the other boy though people always say I do look like my parents though so I have little doubt that mother knew best edit more crazy considering that I moved to the u.s. in fifth grade and am now lucky enough to go to a top American school how different the other boy's life must be is just insane to think about TL ER nurse mixed up two boys mother declared me to be the son and to this day we'd rather not know the biological truth family is family my friend's mom not mine was one of a few children from a Catholic school when she was a kid who pressed charges against a priest who was accused of child molestation twenty years after the fact during a family Thanksgiving dinner she got blackout drunk and admitted to the whole family that she had never been touched by the priest nor any of her friends they just wanted the cash from a settlement she still has all of the money and I shouldn't know but my friend did the same thing when he got drunk and told me PS not my mom throw away account I found out over Christmas whilst doing a family history search online that my dad had fathered two children by a different woman about 20 years ago sidenote he and my mother have been married for over 35 years his name brought up results for not only myself and my two brothers births but to other births he has very unusual first and last names so curiosity got the better of me and I started to find out more the births were registered in north of England in the Newcastle area this rang alarm bells immediately because my dad had worked in this region for five years with the company he worked for in the early 90s I was only a little kid and I missed him so much and so did my brothers and mom he worked on a two-week on two week off rotor though so he was always back and forth then I dug a little deeper just to confirm I found the children now grown women face book pages they still use the last name given to the mat birth our fathers I didn't contact them because I had a suspicion they'd have no idea they had siblings and my suspicions were confirmed when I contacted their mother on there instead at first I told her I was a relative of my dad's and I wanted to know more about any children he potentially had because I was trying to track him down she confirmed that he was the father of her children after I sent her some details and a photo from that time she proved it 100% by scanning and sending me copies of the birth certificates and some photos she had of him and their daughters when they were just babies and she told me to call her I called her I can't say I was ever nervous or anxious about this call but I remember feeling live it live it at him mostly for what he'd done to my mother and us as a family whilst he had supposedly been working hard and all alone up north whilst his wife and children sat on their thumbs and whales patiently waiting for his return every two weeks for five years I told him my name and that I was actually his daughter his only daughter I thought up until that moment and that I had two other brothers who were older and my parents had in fact been married for over 35 years this poor woman screeched on the phone crying she never knew any of this when she met my father it was in a pub in Newcastle about three months after he had moved up there he said he was single and didn't have any family and was from Wales but he lied about the area in which he grew up a couple of months later they were expecting their firstborn and about a year after that a second daughter she said when he went back to Wales every two weeks she thought it was for work-related stuff and that he would call every other evening from a local phone box because he didn't have a landline when the daughters were just little kids the oldest being about three he left one day to go to Wales and work and never came back she tried to contact his company he worked for and they said he no longer worked for them this was around about the time to my knowledge his five years in Newcastle was up he had left the company and moved back to Wales because he had lied about where he lived in Wales she was unable to track him and now being left with two girls and no job she had to get on with it after about a month she realized he wasn't going to contact them again and he was gone wherever she didn't have a clue he had a massive family with wife and kids and a mortgage and a dog back home in Wales and if she had she definitely would not got into a relationship with him least of all had kids I haven't brought it up with him obviously because of my mother but Christmas was so difficult for me personally knowing this for two days leading up to Christmas I got so blind drunk and locked up I slept for 18 hours straight on Christmas Day and missed the whole thing my father was fuming I'd ruined Christmas and I very nearly then exploded but I kept my mouth shut then on Boxing Day I got a call again from the mother in Newcastle telling me she had told her daughter's very delicately what had happened I had contacted her revealed everything and that she will leave it up to them to decide what to do so far they have done nothing I have not been in contact with the mat all and vice versa sense however the mother did call me around Febuary time to check in with me and see how I was she's a very nice woman and was curious if I was visiting the North in the future and if she would like to meet them I told her I would think about it I'm actually visiting New Castle for a hen party in two months so I'm thinking about it more part of me hopes one day they come knocking on our door because they know where to go now part of me doesn't because of my mother over the past seven months my relationship with my father has disintegrated and is the chief cause of his stress it's so bad he's telling me it's exacerbating his heart condition which he is on pills for my parents are laying it down to some kind of mid twenties rebellion because I didn't have a rebellion when I was a teenager apparently I just want to kick him in the face every time I see him the next step in this saga is to tell my eldest brother he is serious and mature and will be able to deal with it a bit better I think he's never had a great relationship with my dad for some reason so I'd like him to know his wife my best friend already knows there is something wrong with me because I think I'm pretty much having a breakdown over it the burden is too tough I'm even struggling with my job part of the reason I want them to knock on our door looking for their dad is so that the weight is lifted but how do you go back from that my mother is a proud but fragile woman and it will destroy her if you got this far thanks for reading this helped

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Length: 14min 43sec (883 seconds)

Published: Wed Oct 30 2019