New Beginnings - Best Motivational Speaker of all Times - Dr. K. N. Jacob

[Music] new beginnings new beginnings if there's someone listening to me here this afternoon who is feeling that perhaps she could be performing on international stage can she see good down to this : twenty years ago it is someone sensing that perhaps he would be transformative corporate trainer and Conference speaker had he followed his heart's desire in his early twenties without wavering he has someone listening to me here this afternoon who fears perhaps he or she could be a see you in a multinational corporation and he/she learned Ali alone we utter personal branding and in art of winning with others it is someone listening to me here who feels perhaps they will be an entrepreneur creating job opportunities to hundreds of people had been been bored enough to implement that innovative business idea it is someone isn't it to me here today with very perhaps they would still be married do not have the boost or separated their spouse a deal and Ali alone emotional intelligence personality dramas and why men are linear criminal psychic is there a lady listening to me here with feeling perhaps I would even be married right now had I been taught Ali alone that living together is more flexibility than compatibility maybe she would it have been as fastidiously choosy are even thinking further than that it is someone feeling perhaps at they learned what we teach here they wouldn't have lost a loved one maybe they would have been more discerning most sensitive more emotionally conscious where we cannot change our historical realities it's never too late to be what you might have him nobody is definite no journey is ideal self discovery is a personal process and a private journey we all come to serve realization at different phases in our lives what is tragic however is to generate through life to Abdulle life without ever reaching that moment of truth that moment of reconnecting who you are that moment of rewriting what your purpose really is their reason for your existence yes Mark Twain was right when he said there are two most important days in life are the day you were born and the day you find out why Sheppard Austin found out when she was 56 years of age she's in many ways like any other lady listening to me here tonight except that she's 81 years old and that she is the most recognized oldest female bodybuilder in the world building a career to world recognition is no mean feat building a career to walk recognition from the age of 56 stretches our imagination to a new level altogether you too can do it is never too late to start it's never too late to so there's a time to be broke at a time to be tired with failure and a time to say our no longer live on skeleton means a time to wage war again is Cassity and luck a time to usher in abundant season there is a time to fight to quarrel uncontrollably and fight aimlessly at a time to mature up in your relationships and accommodate each other and celebrate each other's differences there is a time to be cheated conned taken for granted impregnated by runaway and our time to say enough is enough our take charge of my life or be responsible for what happens to me to come to that realization that things don't happen to you things happen because of you this had time to look for a job even to look for greener pastures and our time to settle down along Capri trunks our time to build your Brad to corporate recognition a time to become that executive that inspires hope there is a time to earn around doing everything all sorts of businesses apply no thoughts of jobs and our time to connect your purpose a time to stop pursuing fame and fortune and riches and success and begin pursuing meaning and significance and purpose and by default success begins to pursue you there is a time to be supported to be driven around to be fed to be housed for your school fees to be paid it had time for you to be depended upon our time for you to start on your feet and support others a time for you to drive others around to host them and to accommodate them you can forever remain on the receiving end there's a time to raise children to mentor them and our time to release them to the vast unknown for them to check their own cost a time to release that which you carry tethered and dearly fostered I don't know what season of line you're in this afternoon maybe 2018 is your year of graduation maybe 2018 is your era to own a home maybe 2018 is the year you are going to get married maybe 2018 is a year you're going to start putting up apartments maybe 2018 at the time you're going to cement your relationships maybe 2018 is your era of abundance if I were you our church ever maybe and speak authoritatively 2018 is my year of breath through 2018 is my year of promotion 2018 is may year of graduation 2018 day I look forward to get married if that my dream and if I'm already married to flourish in our relationships because confessions breed possessions it is a gentleman today I want to take you through very important lessons five of them let's so number one face your facts face your facts lesson number two expect to win expect to win lesson number three win everyday win everyday lesson number four change your habitual patterns change your habitual patterns that's the number five and the last one rewrite your story rewrite your story lesson number one face your facts for young men very nervous so invited for the very first edition recording by the executives of the Decca recording company the executives were not impressed as a matter of fact one of them said as they dismissed these guys I didn't like the sound groups of d'etat are on their way out the group that was dismissed is known as the Beatles their sins become the greatest bad in history among many other accomplishments they are sort of award billion records and they lived together as a team for 37 years the longest lifespan of any international recognized bed I ask you today have you been dismissed have you been turned down have you been rejected how you be looked down upon have you been fired have you been brokenhearted you see life is understood backwards but must believed forwards you've got to make sense of your past for you to learn to delete shatter it and make motion for you might need a life coach to help you connect the dots so that you can look to your story backwards and forwards I like seeing it this way unless you identify the missing link the passing of time will never alter your outcomes John Maxwell perhaps puts it in a better way than me he says that I could experience is not the best teacher evaluated experience is I translate that to mean you can have a long wrong experience you can be married for that years but you have such a wrong experience you don't qualify to get anyone it has always been a chaotic relationship you can be in business for 40 years but you've never graduated from a cure ski downtown you can't offer advice for others how to grow their businesses you can even lecture for 30 years the wrong way and mess up with students you can have a long wrong experience for changes that is your ability to reflect and to evaluate yourself a new year presents us with an opportunity to embody the last 365 366 days and right now I just want to invite you for just a few moments for you to reflect about the past one year it is dangerous for you to begin the year 2018 and start living your life running up and down without taking moment to take stock where am i where am i head you can't just start running up and about you need to take stock every new season and on asking these five areas what did you achieve in 2017 in these five areas the first area and the most important in your mental goals you see a lot of us only skipped just one meal we caused about we like everyone knowing how we did not take lunch today everybody nested knows you know today didn't have lunch but we are never troubled by skipping our mental meals a whole year in a row we rushed to hospital at the slightest toothache but we had to go for check-ups for our mental well-being yet on mind is a CPU that gives our allies command actually if you go through my teachings you learn I keep saying you don't have a mind you are your mind how often do you take time to feed yourself there you you can you is not a fellow walking around here I can lose my arms and legs and eyes and I'm still can enjoy and hope makes me can I do is my mind what did you do for your personal growth and development what did you deliberately do 2017 secondly in your relational goals are you just whining how relationships are not working for you how many artists did you go together as a couple how many times did you exchange gifts what have you done together this week the whole of this week have joked every day with my messy and besides achieving our health goals it also increases our edelen's our ability to board do you like it in the marketplace did you enhance your networks or are you just complaining how doors are closing for you Dudley in your career goals did you hit your targets did you achieve your KPI is the key performance indicators if you have been with me for some time you know I teach you not to achieve your targets but to exceed the targets to exceed expectations to go beyond expectations what did you achieve in a corporate world have you been earmarked for possible rewards and possible future promotions a different business did you expand your customer base if you enhance or open up new market from tears and even more importantly what were your tunnel was like end profitability number four what did you achieve in your financial goals to start with did you have a financial goal if you are single and you listened it to me you live alone then you need to be setting your own personal goals did you have a clear specific goal for you how strategies the overwhelming majority of the people listening to me here this afternoon you have financial goals for the corporations you work for and your boss puts pressure for you to achieve the financial goal yet you cannot put pressure on yourself to achieve your financial goals you don't even have one in the first place and if you came here in this meeting as a married couple what are your goals for 2018 does your spouse know what you need to make this year or are you intending to grow money in the trees do you have a financial plan how will you get that money and number five how did you achieve in your health goals did you have health targets to start with there are only two things under the Sun that you personally can do about your health diet and exercise everything else you leave it to God there are only two DS you can control what you eat at your exercises did you follow that plan if you had one a deep soul or benefits are you experiencing if you didn't follow the plan what do you intend to do differently in the year 2018 now I'm asking you to take stock of your 2017 along those five areas I'm not asking you to check what others achieved unless you're their life coach mentor or accountability partner and even there in Fast take stock of yourself you can take others where you've never been you can only effectively teach what you consistently model you know busybodies and losers are busy analyzing what everyone else achieved but they never check themselves they are flood dead above their own consciousness and I add you to rise above such petty folks and take stock of your 2017 taking stocks means making an assessment of the overall situation as a prelude to make informed decisions going forward and I'll give you some three simple steps to help you face your facts to face the facts number one locate where you are locate where you are the first step towards going somewhere is fast deciding you don't want to stay where you are locate where you are in your personal and professional life stop fooling yourself around locate where you are in these five areas in your articles in your relationships in your career in your finances and finally in your physical fitness be sure this is where I am step number two draw the red lines the vision points Tunney point A plus B which you never slid again during the red line means I'll never be broke again in the next two years or three years maximum four years are not going to pay rent again in the next six months I'm not going to read these pillows again I'm not going to break a relationship again draw the red lines that the enemy cannot cross who is the enemy Cassity noting that you don't want drug clear lines that cannot be closed and Dudley focus on what you can change not on what you can't change focus on what you can change not on what you cannot change you see the a lot of folks who keep on whining about how someone made them up oh you have no idea how he left me for children and no rent now I don't know what to do I didn't even have a job look at me who cares this is the harsh reality you have two categories of people one who will have a story to tell on us and the forecast will avoid one Buddha to avoid so hyegyo's preaching that story rather than focusing on how he left you focus on beauty more meaningful relationships focus on advancing your career focus on completing that degree you have failed to complete once you train your eyes too much on the door that is closing you will fail to notice that we do that is opening if you keep rereading the last chapter you never open a new chapter in your life and so I argued tonight do not dwell on what might have been look at what can be what are the possibilities before you are we learning something lesson number two let's go to lesson number two expect to be wilma rudolph was the traded chair of our father's twenty two children she was born prematurely and her survival was doubtful at the age of four she contracted pneumonia scarlet fever and polio that left her with a paralyzed left leg too supported by a big metal brace thankfully by the age of nine shows she recovered from polio and she was able to walk without that metal brace that supported her left leg at the age of thirteen she developed a rhythmic walk that doctors said was a miracle but that same year she decided she wanted to be a runner and she entered the race and lost she came in last she entered the second time and came in last and from then on every single she entered she came in last at everyone who knew her unanimously urged her to quit but she couldn't rent she couldn't hear none of it she kept on trying actually one day she won't erase and another one it another and from then on she won't every single reason as she entered in the 1960 Olympics she won't record meadows 100 meters 200 meters and together with her teammates the 4 by 100 meter relay and she was announced the fastest woman on one whom the doctor said will never be able to walk again mark you should not participate in Paralympics just participating in the No More Olympics will masaha serve as a winner she ran to win she expected to win and finally she did win there was a perfect harmonic agreement between her expectations and her eventual reality let me say this ladies and gentlemen these are perfect harmonic agreements between your expectations and your reality your outer reality is a reflection of your inner reality your outer reality is a reflection of your expectations you will never rise above your expectations you cannot cheat your subconscious mind a lot of people expect to fail all and they add up not disappointed they expect to Cora with your spouse tonight and believe me you will not be disappointed they expect to divorce they expect not to attract a life partner they expect their business to collapse they expect to lose their job they expect to be sick they expect to be in an accident they expect to die you know we come in this life with no expectations no attitudes no opinions no policies no values our well intended parents and teachers simply indoctrinated us with a set of beliefs and opinions and values which laga reforms our worldview and our early perspectives frame of reference if you like no other for most of us we are not conscious about our thoughts we are ignorant of the vitality of this precious faculty but now we need to come to this realization the life does not give us what we want like gives us what we expect unless what we want and what we expect are incongruent we have conditioned our minds to expect negative things to happen to us we have conditioned our minds for negative expectations we respond faster to negative expectations as a way of example in Kenya for instance whenever meetings like this are announced a lot of us don't respond we react to the five that we are likely to be calmed by another crook past reference of common ship and blood mill and counterfeits has braided many of us from taking notice of their true and they genuine because we respond faster to negative expectations we are trying to protect ourselves from crooks not to be combed one more time to overcome this conditional neural bias you need to interrupt the flow of negative thoughts and negative expectations by repetitiously and consciously generating as many positive thoughts as humanly possible positive assertions even need the sword Jayco and seem irrational will still generate positive results I guarantee you in any case negative expectations who make you a captive of Tara and a victim of fear living under the bondage of failure positive of fashion's provide new instructions to our subconscious might which then execute our conscious orders your subconscious mind in its pure and natural state is non-judgmental it doesn't decide what is good or bad for you it doesn't even decide what is wrong evil or good it doesn't even decide what is in our best interest our subconscious may simply implements our conscious orders in summary our subconscious performs our conscious orders so in 2018 expect to win do not expect to fail expect to be healthier than a racing horse expect money to flow like a never-ending stream expect your money to flourish like you've been hit afresh by Cupid's arrow do not verbalize what you don't want as a fact for example if you have no money in the pocket receipt from confessing I am Brooke and began to say customers are starting to flow in my business where I work I'm expecting a raise I'm expecting Ted as to cross my path if you and well don't go collide it as a fact begin to vocalize the healing begin to vocalize the solution for that solution does exist somewhere in the universe and speaking the affirmative present tense the now language don't speak about tomorrow and elusive future tense don't say I will be having money say I am doing well speak day I am so that it begins to happen I will be as elusive for in higher worlds time does not exist hot models your reality your model of reality is your life signature they're true asset of who you really are no one can cause you how you want to live your life living your life is the greatest art of all but majority of people are not conscious of this art after students of life however are deliberate about your life signature they don't just leave we are conscious about every single moment they live and they have I add you today to think closely about your beliefs because your beliefs are your personal loss in this auditorium this afternoon we have different laws for example I believe opportunities are all around me I believe Kenya is the best nation for me to live believe me if I had a different belief out of relocated if you don't believe you have an opportunity in this nation I advise you to locate as soon as possible and go where you think you have a chance otherwise would be a miserable failure life is too short for you to weather Phaedrus we have different sets of laws what guides you what's your model of reality that's the question I'm asking see many of us are preconditioned our minds to just operate within comfort zones in 2018 dare dream beyond what you dreamt before retrain the eye of your mind to see what you've not seen before I even invite you to listen to my video on breaking vicious cycle and please learn about what I taught about dream girls I challenge you today get your eyes of your undesired current circumstances and begin to project to your desired goal focus on the finishing line you are expected to win you are being waited for other finishing line you've gone through a lot but I expected to win you've gone through depressions but I expected to win you are this kind to win don't prepare - Phil don't practice to fail in 2018 expect to win expect it to happen expect last year to be the last year that you missed that goal expects to graduate this year expect to get your own home this year expect to buy a new car this year expect to take your children for holiday this year expect failure to come your weight this year expect to get married this year that's your dream expect your relationship to flourish this year you'll never rise above your expectations talk like a to expect a miracle walk like a talk like a to extract to in lesson number three win every day watch this irrespective of what you do or do not do on that if a store disobey this year you're going to have some results if I ask you in this hall how many here have a goal almost hundred percent of you here will admit in the affirmative but I'll ask you slightly different question how many this life audience have written down their goals for 2018 you can hit a goal that you don't have in the first place writing down goals clarifies your goals it clarifies thoughts qualifies your thinking writing down goals makes you focus you have you are very clear with what you're pursuing in the course of that period writing down goals gives your basis for evaluating performance you are able to take stock of where you are again is a certain yet stick writing down goals enhances creativity and innovativeness let me share one of our goals this year in a very fast growth of this year we intend to start a training center let alone a conference center but believe me before 1st of April be having a training center not our monthly meetings a number of you have come for our specialized courses I do honest training for public speakers all our Pappas courses will be training them from our facility and because we had already said to do this this year I visited a training center in Virginia that look like what I want to put up and realize we can't get a furniture locally you'll be buying them from Dubai so when you write down that goal it enhances your creativity now by a show of heart let me ask you one more question kindly how many desire to achieve your goals in 2018 thank you very much people who desire to achieve your goals wake up when it's convenient people desire to achieve your goals sleep when it's convenient they make phone calls when they feel like based on moods people who desire to achieve their goals when they feel like sleeping they just know they wait for the traffic jam committed people do what it takes to achieve their goals convenient people walk on feelings committed people walk on purpose committed people do not give stories you know how I've done this but there's no capital those are stories if they don't have a certain skill they require it if they can't acquire it their own sausage but they'll have no story to give by 31st of December they are inspired by results and so they can't allow stories to start between them and the resort this is what I'll suggest for you the very first step towards achieving any goal you want in life is to really be driven by something larger than you the very reason for your existence I call it your life purpose your lifelong goal now ladies and gentlemen I am so passionate about purpose I can't I don't even want to diverge into that subject but let me tell you this a fact of life life is an uphill assignment why add friction to it I'm already flowing within my purpose and emit a lot of challenges and barriers and Giants to conquer how much more on your flowing again is your own currents a shock is powerful and mighty only within its domain once you get it out of the sea into dry land it can be killed by a domestic dog why on earth would you dare swim against your own current the beginning of fulfillment in life is discovering your life purpose when you're a hundred percent sure what you do is what you love and what you love is what you do you don't do things based on an academic qualification you don't do things based on an opportunity that was available down street you do it because it's within you is your material form you have found your place you're at peace with it only then can you handle any challenge any storm that comes your way if you follow me at any given moment you can tell without a shadow of doubt I am operating within my domain it's a magnet and let along this year I'll be taking you through a subject called persona visioning and this is the reason I have established purpose classes for twelve good hours in a row this coming month of February we have 12 hours of transformation this will be our seventh season to take people through this if you have not connected with who you are if you are not truly found your place I add you to sign up for this class and I'll even give you a discount we have not given before these classes go for 20,000 inclusive of mirrors now give every registered sense on one member a 50% discount 10000 series thank you very much come from the 12 hours some people seated here had to pay 20,000 you come go through this class with you find your place connect with who you are every single year I received a day you wake up you'll have such an energy you look forward to doing what you love doing even of a Christmas even of a holidays even when I'm swimming I'm still trying to produce the messages I want again I'm too obsessed by my purpose by my calling and until you read that please life has no meaning you can make money and be miserable but again that's a subject for another day assuming that perhaps you knew your purpose then you need to break it down to three ear girls then tear on your girls my purpose this afternoon is just to discuss with you you and your goals once you've decided this is what I want to achieve in 2018 in five areas in your mental goals in your relational goals in your career goals in your financial goals in your hair up goals then you need to break it down to netted egos and have given a talk on the same subject you can search for it secure your life in 90 days go through it but then we need to move from being goals set us to go to achieve us and this is where the rubber meets the road this is the point I need you to take home if there is Error take home from this meeting it's what I'm going to tell you right now it is going to convert you from being a goal setter to a goal achiever and this is the message very simple win every day win every day this is how it works decide what you're going to do this week that we kept before every week decide what you're going to do the weekend before and write it down every day decide what you're going to do the night before don't decide in the course of the day you're going to adjust your agenda conveniently you've got to decide the night before morning will come anyway there's no choice the question is are you prepared for the morning you have already decided this what I'm going to do tomorrow when you're deciding what you're going to do the following day ask yourself I have this and you goes if I was only to do one thing just one thing just one thing to achieve my goals what is this it's only one item please pursue it to its logical conclusion when I take three hours or four hours or five hours they're not everything else and pursue that one thing to its logical conclusion now stop raging for a minute look at me just for a moment never never never never never never go to sleep until you in today never never never go to sleep until I accomplish your agenda for the day today failing is not an overnight event it is failure to make that telephone call today it is failure to see that client today there is failure to submit that today today it was failure to make that proposal today it is failure to tell a loved one I love you today and one day becomes weeks months and then you know agha filled your love for each other I've tested these things in many ways when I note for my PhD I say with humility and have an above witnesses in the hall here including a colleague lecturer who is in our midst I did it three I saw the only student who graduated being the first student who graduated in the country with project planning and management PhD my cosmetic earring class doing their thesis most of them perhaps are sharper than me the only reason they have not yet graduated is that they postponed it to another day they rescheduled the assignment to another day you see life is not divided and used in two semesters you've got to do it yourself in your alibies someone planned both for you albeit under way as you did not know it when you're not in class 1 you know 8 4 4 system in Kenya someone had set an 80 a goal for you and you knew he she will examine you whether you like it or not and so most of us became serious only the last year because the girl was there then every year you examined every time you examine every day let me tell you this every 40 lessons 40 minutes sorry every 40 minutes there are clear lesson objectives and clear lesson outcomes and that's continued in high school then suddenly you found yourself out of high school or college and nobody was planning your life one day turned into one year into 10 years 13 years later when you look behind you nothing to show for the many years of work you send some wilted ears within you without realizing what happened what became of me is because you joked with the SI unit of life the SI unit for life is the deep code today the SI unit is de not week not month not es nor decades you only need to joke around with your day the Lord Jesus taught give us this day our daily bread he further said every day has its own trouble King James for every day has its own needs late last year I went with desi who works with me to Mombasa to concert for a corporate organisation and he took me to task I was taking them through policy developments and they said doc look you helped us develop a business plan three years ago but it's not working so I told them okay fine let's face the facts let's start with the fundings here how are you evaluating performance and we are going to start with marketing department because these are the guys who bringing the business home they told me I asked them how do you evaluate them how often hold the frequency it is said we do it every month all right so every month you receive a report from these people yes then I understand the missing link it's very clear to me if I have to give a report at the end of the month I can tell you a visitor company X Y Z I can give you a nice story but if I know I will meet my supervisor 8:30 in the morning and I explain what I'm going to do that day today on an hourly basis I tell him I'm going to me for five phone calls and I'm visiting three clans and I'm going to meet the same supervisor at 4:30 before he releases me for the evening I can give a story today about company x and y and z but i cannot repeat the story for this later now that makes sense and believe me that's what we do in our office in fact in our office people don't tell me I'm going to make 10 cause I don't listen to those stories I ask who are you calling I want to write your name so that I hear the names you're going to give me tomorrow you can't fool people for a day but not for three days but if they are going to give me report at the end of the month we will never sell our own rate programs we will never take our programs to KBC or to airline companies will not be doing the trainings we normally do at every single week come this money have no breathing space our Diary is extremely booked it's overlapping because we have learned to mishegoss on a daily basis you people are nice people you're godly children you're god-fearing people and you have never asked yourself what happens 10 years later you have been tithing and there's no Brixham here is the secret my people perish due to lack of knowledge you'll go to charge and they'll tell you about God's responsibility but very few of them will tell you about your human responsibility and that's the missing link unless you in paddy you read up as a failure if I know what I'm going to do today to win and I repeat it tomorrow and I repeated three days later then our developed a prototype a masterpiece that I can run with and for the women and the ladies in our midst have a suggestion for you it is not easy for ladies and girls to keep up with goals unless I give them this secret come up with some triggers to trick yourself to succeed what do you mean doc come up with a sticker a sticker for what you're going to do today and stick it on the mirror where you keep watching yourself to remember what you're supposed to achieve today some of you the first place you go is the mirror some of you like food the first place is the fridge stick it on your fridge door so before you can pick your bread you first remember your goals men and women alike most of you addicted to your phones every day stick something on the screen of your phone you are never to call anyone before you see your goals come up with triggers do not leave this place without making that decision that I must win the day today some times I've thought to myself I've taken people through poppers classes some have succeeded majority have not how do I know those who succeed tell me lastly alone three people called me very excited they both are very fast cars the coulee let me go please doggie fat I remember all of them I was living a la Cruz the meetings we conducted San Andres she said I can't let you go you've got to dedicate my car you convinced me I can do it last year I have done it and I came here to show you that you can imagine the thrill the joy the exact me to my heart because the success of a mentor is a success of his prodigious nothing his desire that is his full meant to gives me a lot of pain when people come through Papa's causes some of them have taken them through very rigorous programs last year took a group to the Great River Nile and I took them through intense self-discovery three days three nights along the Nile this year April we are taking another group to Singapore yeah we are cruising from Singapore to Kuala lumper five days five nights connecting purpose August we are doing this for the Diaspora community all day from southern Thailand England to Italy and by the way some Kenyans who are seated in our ministry are paid then I've asked myself how come some of these people after going through such rigorous training I never hear any testimony and this has been disturbing to me and I thought to myself when I was taking them through Papa's classes we were able to identify what they can do on a day to day basis they wrote it down on a piece of paper others on a notebook but they didn't know how to write in February or in much or in June and I decided I'm going to address that challenge and I developed a tool for you I call it the organizer so their opportunity this tool so that you can write it you can write your goals every day hour by hour basis then you have a place for your contests who to contact and their projects and how to bring them down them down the reason I'm doing this is so that I don't give you ideas on how to impart a and then you order so how am I going to plant paddy so done it for you a couple of things about the organizer involved the organizer will help you break down complex projects into small manageable tasks the secret to get in ahead is getting started the secret to getting started is breaking down a complex project into my new tasks and then starting on the first one secondly the organizer will help you to have an order to make you order a rushing from one activity to another can be freaking exhausting the hour has come in stop confusing motion for progress you stop confusing activities for accomplishments you stop confusing processes for results you stop confusing stories for deliverables and the organizer will get keep you the order a sadly the organizer will help you to monitor your progress and you take in what you've done their completed and uncompleted tasks you are able to tell where you are are getting so you're supposed to be you can gauge the progress of your day-to-day activities you can see the tasks are accomplished and the one that are Perry probably the organizer create a memory outside of you you see the average human being can only hold a maximum of seven pieces of information for only 30 seconds if you try to hold more than seven pieces of information at the same time you are setting yourself up for failure the organizer will help you to keep aside that which you do not need a present so that you can amass yourself deeply into the present which is the prerequisite to optimal performance because you know your record is somewhere it doesn't bother your working memory so the organizer will help you to remain focused number five to help you remain focused and to keep up from secondary activities that means if I'm going to decide today on Saturday what I'm going to do tomorrow's Sunday what the organizer helped me to do is to avoid secondary activities life is very tempting a lot of imagine opportunity to raise up if it was not record in the organizer and you detect it to be an imagined opportunity I request you to make a phone call to accountability partner and tell them hey I'm the waiting from what I plan for the day today because some of the things you're running for could be : ship these things you engage in emotional thinking the opportunities that's why you get conned so the organizer help you to focus on the main thing keeping the meeting the meeting or I talk we agree we need the organizer and this time adage why a manual organizer the Forrester Research a very renowned research group Caraga received survey on successful CEOs and they found out 87% of all successful executive officers complimented electronic gadgets with notebooks even in the boardroom they believed in writing and that is why we keep telling students to take down notes even in this forum those among you who are writing down notes on a comparable scale will have a higher retention of the message you can't agree with me on this point I can present of a hundred messages of it and why I do not want to ignore the road of God's gifting I have never ever ever presented any message without writing it down writing enhances your attention your creativity and even your ability to conceptualize concepts right another thing undeniable place today one of the most prolific and most respected orders researchers and writers and professors of educational psychology Virginia benita argues that writing down notes activates the working memory far more than typing on electronic gadgets so I suggest strongly do not leave this place without picking the organizer when you pick the organizer write every single day what you're going to do the night before writing black or blue check for yourself every evening where you are again so you had planned to be if you can meet your accountability partner per week so be it but at least once a month and the accountability partner comes with a red pen an LS check pad a if you have achieved less than 80% of what you plan to do today you are headed for trouble if you always retain over 90% of your day's tasks I guarantee you 100% you're going to win your goal for the year 2018 yesterday pasta meridia Joe the senior pasta and founder of mbuna Church came to our meeting he was with us here and is going to be speaking in our February meeting on couples and money and when I finished speaking I asked him to pray for the audience and he said the clothes he was wearing in January he cannot wear them right now he is now wearing the same clothes he used to when he was in college over that years ago and the secret he learnt last year in the issue of dealing with every single day and was able to overcome a certain weight he didn't want to his desired weight and I know a number of people who have gone through my lessons who can attest that winning takes place on a daily agenda the 500 shillings are going to spend on the organiser' $5 is not what you owe on your goals in fact I'm contemplating calling some meetings here perhaps in the course of the year I don't think I want to it until December just want to call you back every one of you who attended our January forums and asked you to meet me on a desk like this and maybe other council members are going to help me so that I don't get overwhelmed by the work and you come with a book and with that check in which they did you go wrong and because canyons like McKenna you know stop adding stuff to what you didn't do just be true to yourself let's check what is there that you're able to do and then you can tell us is it that you are not realistic while setting out your goals the secret to winning win everyday look at your him and tell him or how we every day I will I need something please find out for me what do they expect to win this year what do they expect do they know how they define success do they know what that just looks like for this year just find out what are they expecting do you think they know what they're doing lesson number four change your habitual patterns change your habitual patterns to bring out this lesson on habit this a story I like giving of a man walk down the street on a sidewalk unfortunately he fell in a manhole he didn't know that there was a manhole it was not his fault but he still struggled to get out there on the second day he walked down the same street along the same sidewalk and he fell again the second time in the same hole he pretended it was not there I can imagine not even close in his eyes nobody pretend there's no HIV HIV doesn't care you can close your eyes but it's still there if you protect issues and try to bury your head beneath your head beneath a sad you just don't leave you they don't need you know there are people who go drinking to pretend that the problems are not there you'd only pretend for two hours then you wake up and meet them right there they're number three same street same sidewalk this time rowdy fair again his eyes were opened he realized it has become a habit day number four same street same sidewalk this time road he walked around the manhole his eyes had opened he was not a victim day number five he took a different Street altogether some people take this Street for a lifetime and the other windings are not changing explain to me how do you accidentally get pregnant the sixth time oh I didn't say that did I sorry you know refraction turns experience into insight for our habits those unthinking automatic choices that we make each day all habits no matter how complex they are all habits are malleable the most addicted alcoholic can become sober the most gluttonous person who wrestles in a single sitting two chicken can become moderate the cussing tongue can be in a blessing tongue the loose tongue can be tamed the hot-tempered can be controlled the promise cause can be chest and morally upright the most dysfunctional families that fight every now and then can transform themselves all of us have had some habits we tried to drop at you unable and some habits we tried to acquire and we dropped them along the way and the primary reason why we are neighbor to deal with our habits is not lack of determination is not even lack of willpower for most of us this is a strong desire within us to overcome alcoholism to overcome sexual promiscuity to overcome overweight to overcome fighting as a marriage no one was to live in a hotel marriage this is a desire within most of us even those who have short tempers if you talk to them did though they hardly don't like it there's a strong desire to overcome it so where do we drop the ball the challenge is because most of us do not really understand how habits work all habits a cyclic it's a habitual loop a trigger routine a reward a trigger a routine are you are something triggers into the habit you repeat it again it becomes a routine you get a certain satisfaction a certain pleasure that is deceptive and misleading it's a reward and it makes you to repeat the habit again and we need to interrupt this habitual loop so let me suggest some three simple steps practical steps to break and desired habitual patterns for us to have a fresh beginning in 2018 step number one identify your trigger what fit into your habit there could be many triggers but they were homey majority of people the primary trigger to any undesired habit are the people around us Scripture teaches do not be deceived bad company corrupts good morals 1st Corinthians 15 32 the primary trigger to all bad habits whether it's eating junk weather is having a site plan outside your marriage whether is drug and substance abuse or alcoholism the primary trigger is the company you keep I want to suggest this Asha a new season in 2018 you will never perform in a manner that is inconsistent with your level of Association your friends form you and you form your friends yet some friends God has brought your life for a season and the season could be over you are either growing together are all dying together you're either floating together all sinking together even your current income is an average of your three best friends that's why you know the restaurants to avoid [Music] because you are the same level you need to interrupt this kind of a comfort run when somebody s role in your life is over and let it go do not over insist you're always over period that doesn't mean they're bad people they are precious people in the sight of God they are vulnerable people to their families they may not be adding value to you if you are not adding value to one another please let it go but there could be another trigger to promiscuity if you exposing yourself to explicit materials magazines videos another trigger to eating unhealthy besides the people you hook up with is that the place you pass by and these days we have KFC driveway which does not make things any better for you what is this that triggers you to do what you don't want to do is it possible one of the triggers to alcoholism is because you're stressed more than you would care to admit it at home or in the marketplace or both and you're trying to look for solace step number two substitute the undesired habit with a desired habit substitute the undesired habit with the desired habit I really need you to follow this point because this me liberate some of you for a lifetime you seen your high school algebra you have taught substitution and elimination methods elimination methods exist only in pure mathematics and my first training is in mathematics in real life we eliminate through substitution what that means is this if you try to avoid or transistor that inhabit it persists whatever you resist persists the way to overcome that habit is to replace it with another hobby rather I'm going cold turkey on that habit II don't desire replace it tonight let me make it practical for you if the most vulnerable day in your drinking is Friday night an awful piano class and more for a Spanish class guess what if you decide you are not going to join your drinking buddies on Friday night and you start watching TV at home one phone call will make you very vulnerable they agree with me but if you told them I'm doing a certain class of undoing some accounts the elected to respect that but they don't respect i don''t correct they record - oh this guy's doing some class they like you to respect that then after your piano class nine o'clock you are likely to join them for it night drink so how do you avoid that join the guys who go for Carla walk Saturday morning at 5:00 they work for ten kilometers or 15 kilometers now since you know you have to wake up by 5:00 in the morning on Saturday you're not going to join those guys after the class so unless you plan what is going to happen Saturday morning you're likely to leave the class and join them which would be worse off on Sunday morning make sure you attend the first morning service the Rodd services for drunks sorry that's a joke forgive me cause they're taking over you a lot but on a serious note and low for the morning service it will force you to be cautious about your Saturday evening what am I saying if you focus on your drunkenness you'll never become it subject it with a desired behavior let's come to extramarital affairs I'll give you a formula to deliver hottie percent resort I have no guests this one works a hundred percent of the time the very very simple step number one and this works all the time this is for men only girls don't listen Elysee is for men only the next time a girl asks you for your phone number give her your wife's phone number now let me tell you something the first call will be the last call it works you know it sounds like a joke but that's all exactly I do and also of course to me know that even cents for non-members Ohia among the ladies who here they know if I've ever given anyone appointment the ADA code my Peoria code my machine that's just a fact a delay is anyone who can prove me otherwise I'll see the same way Jesus ad public stand up and embarrass me now you just pop us to do it that way the second thing you do to deal with the affairs make sure you go for out with your wife this may be hard if you're not on it for long so let me make it practical for you look for two or three couples that you can hang out with because your desire to talk to another woman talk to your friend's wife look you can look here you can't convince me you have burnout has four couples and you have four women and you can't see what you're looking for in life you can't convince me you must be very sick so you can click yourself by getting up as family friends and be going out together and deliberative for the past two few weeks talk with the other person eventually be able to talk to yours you must come up with a way to stop a habit by replacing it I'm two months shy 15 years of marriage and I can tell you that blinking an eye my outings have been with my mother who is together with me and this is the river she resigned from being the copy trained in Safari come to join me when we started in a lot of international missions we go everywhere together and the last time I checked any woman on this planet ideally she has whatever you have can you be honest come to the issue of eating the biggest challenge with overweight is because you live with people convinced you you have no problem it's a gene inherited from your grandfather let me just tell you the truth cuz I won't tell you the problem is not your Godfather's gene the problem is your eating habits and lack of exercise period I want you to talk to Kabira or Madera Valley and show me one person is overweight show me one and the primary reason is some of them don't take lunch most of them don't take lunch and they walk for a long distance to walk in industry area why are these genes only found in Kilauea and Lovington why think about it it has to do with diet and exercise period so how do we overcome it fast change the people you hang out with who encourage you to go for fast foods get organized so that you prepare a proper meal get the organizer cause another reason you go for fast foods is because of being disorganized I know a lot of people eat junk for one reason they are so busy they want to eat in two minutes pick the organizer organize your lunch hour take a good one hour and connected yourself or replace the habit by going for a health club during lunch hour you will not hook up with people who are conscious about health and not change I guarantee you I'm conscious about it as I told you today today hello as a bow draw so tired eyes will see us speaking last night I was still able to do my 30 minutes today here in this circuit right here and for two weeks this week and next week I am on a no-quit diet or assume after that and every so often how to come up with a way to ensure I do not add cholesterol and affect my breathing capacity which is so essential for my career you've got to purpose don't bicker the only one with nice bath for testing junk we all can we chose not to I know today they'll go to encourage you again so it's good you've had the truth and this truth will set you free step number three repeat desired patterns repeat desired patterns repetition is the mother of all learning we are creatures of habit and creators of habits so I challenge you examine the habit that you don't like check the payoffs and replace the payoffs with higher better dividends for instance if I've been ugly from alito fears that I know nobody tells you these things elsewhere and I now decide to reform from 2018 and have a different life altogether what are the higher better dividends I'll spend more time with my children doing homework or is a better generation after me because I now realize if I invest in my children I don't have to invest for my children I have better time with my wife and I have better time in the working place because perhaps these are the fears I was having was distracting me from my key KPIs overcoming a hobby that you never thought you can overcome will give you indescribable peace and boost your confidence to a man at a degree you never thought possible so trick yourself to win winning is not about personality types it's about what you do on a daily basis you overcome your behaviors by changing your daily routine winning is about daily practices daily habits you take home tonight daily lesson number five and the last one rewrite your story maybe before I give you the last one how many plant only Alaska busier the Lord answered Austria's it will happen expect it to happen number five are you there rewrite your story rewrite your story George Weah participated in the presidential elections in Liberia in the year 2005 and lost in the presidential campaigns his competitors exploited the fact that he was uneducated the fact is he didn't even have a high school certificate although he could speak English French and Italian judge decided to go back to school and we're 206 at the age of 40 he got his high school diploma he proceeded to Deborah University in Miami Florida where he got his bachelor's degree in business management and now he has a master's degree in public administration on 22nd of January this month just a few days to come George Weah will be inaugurated as the president of that country that was founded by freed slaves from the United States the 1995 World Footballer of the year and the only African player up to now to have been awarded a prestigious award refused to be defined as an academic failure and a political loser the Liberian president elect this era to change his narrative he has now rewritten his story and as long as the ardent Jews his inspiring story will be passed on from generation to generation in the pages of human history if an anonymity bola could dream of becoming a president why not you there are no unreasonable goals just unreasonable deadlines I want to suggest this afternoon use the lens of destiny and visualize your future self see the pass on your ADA beam for some of us is in 20 years to come for some of us in 30 years for some of us it's in 40 years but he's a secret person you want to become and you don't want to share with anyone less they mock you let the radicchio maybe there's a secret within you to be the dust realist in Africa maybe there's a secret within you to be the next governor of Nairobi maybe there's a secret within you to be the president of Kenya maybe there is a secret within you to be the UN secretary-general maybe there is a secret within you that you don't want to share with anyone else that is your future self now I like it to hold a conversation with your future self in this person want to talk to you today what would he tell you what choices did they make between where you are and where they are how did he handle obstacles and barriers and charities and embarrassing situations and defeats in this person were to look at you if you feed yourself or to stare down the life you live in today what would they tell you what Corrections would they make what suggestions for the other whole of your life for you to move from where you are to that person you secretly see what obviously they give you please allow your future self to respond to your present self and write down the responses as you hear them this is the story you are rewriting and the reason I want you to exercise your imaginative power is because you cannot go where you cannot dream you cannot reach where you cannot see did you have some childhood dreams what dreams did you drop along the way pick them up you have just one life to live ignite the sparks the tiny sparks of possibility that dwell within you and execute the story of your dream into a printable friends of achievement life is not a practice awaiting the actual performance every moment you live you are executing a final performance on your life stage life is not a dress rehearsal stop practicing what you want to do and just do it you can't build a reputation on what you in Ted stop waiting for the person you want to become they may never come your way and stop being the person you want to become in your life you will never be invited for auditions your body director the show and the producer your brother scriptwriter and the actor you about the judge and the artist in the performance you're both the Lana and the master you better go cetera and the good executor no one who come to appraise you you've got to do it yourself as a judge to your life story are you fair with your life story everything that has a beginning has innate your life or not at a definite beginning it has a definite end in between is your life story your life journey how is your life story unfolding life has no rehearsals if you repeat it across you do repeat life that is part of your story if a business goes down that does not mean you have repeated business no it is still part of your story if you separated with a spouse that a story you cannot erase today I've given you a 365 book page book to write your story nothing has ever appeared in your book before it's a blank screen you're on a fresh page today in the net 365 360 days what are you going to write on your life story we're it inspire anyone like George where's as long as you can hear my voice your story is not yet over God is not done with you yet so stop projecting or looking at the ends that are closing don't cast your eyes to the ends that are closing open your heart to new beginnings one day when employees go to work they found a note on the door written these words the person who been hindering your progress the person who been sitting on your promotion in this company has now passed away you are invited for the funeral at the room prepared in the gymnasium initially all the employees was sad but a few moments they thought I think this is a good thing now I can see the identity or the person who has been sitting on my breakfast and one by one they open through the coffin and when the first guy reached where the coffin was and he looked inside he left in a sober mood like something had breached the depth of his soul he couldn't talk to anyone inside the coffin where they were invited as we traditionally do to give our last respects he found nothing but a mirror beside the mirror our attendees words only you can hinder your progress only you can transform yourself the honoree for 2018 to be different is to realize we don't win by chance we win by change this change must be an internal process and because this change is normally infinitesimal and invisible very few of us are able to notice it so we begin to notice the visible signs of success in other people we had Maya because in other people great businesses in other people great relationships without realizing we are gazing at a mirage grasping at an illusion we admiring the fruits without studying the roots without realizing that true success is not what is seen with the naked eye but what happens inside that person when we fail to recognize this for the mental truth we begin changing external circumstances so we change from one business to another or we relocate business premises or locations we keep changing jobs because we think there is a certain boss who've been sitting on my promotion we even relocate countries of residence because we think other countries are better than ours some people even change their business partners or living life partners because you're projecting issues to others rather than yourself you didn't once sitting on your performance thereby you become a prisoner of yourself repeating the same visa cycles recurring patterns you're in a loop the only way to get permanent irreversible changes is an in a walk when you fail to realize that you think your business will automatically get better you're married you automatically get better if you're single I automatically begin to attract people without realizing your self-rejection tells people a 20-18 automatically get better I automatically lose weight who told you my children automatically be disciplined hear me Kenya you've got to be intentional you've got to be automatic oh you got to be sorry deliberate you got to be intentional and deliberate you will not automatically get better you've got to be deliberate there has to be a good plan you've got to purpose to win you're not going to win accidentally in any area of your life I honestly believe if you follow my growth plan your life will never be the same again if you plan and I can see some people here who have made that decision to come here either the first Friday of every month 6 to 8 o'clock or the first Saturday of every month 3 to 5 o'clock if you purpose to come if you commit to come don't come emotionally don't come erratically sporadically by feelings you commit to come don't give stories of traffic jams and rings when you have had how when you've had a hundred downpours and traffic who still had audience here when convenient people are sleeping the committed people still here can you imagine the lessons you miss last year of teaching on strategic thinking I was teaching on the power of an idea and while I encourage you to watch YouTube's they cannot replace a live meeting do you agree with me would you replace your Sunday services and start watching preachers in your house is it the same there is something called the spirit of the moment they motion that hour where are your spirit connects with my spirit the rest is listening to inspirational talks right now I guarantee you some nice opinion inside I guarantee you I can sense it I can feel it I can feel a transform a spirit to you people and that's the difference commit yourself then purpose if you have not done the 12 month my life journey where we teach in details in intense in small groups of seven to ten people purpose to be there let me read you one testimony I receive so many testimonies almost on a day-to-day basis someone sent me this I don't know how I've never met her dr. King and Joey I could not leave this year end without my personal acknowledgment I first met you when you came to npc Quran last year and has since become a member together my son who is in Junior club when you talk this a psycho I knew my life had to change in summary I got a new job we bought some land as I ordered three coveted Awards in my organization we moved into our own home in June a grown closer to God I went back to the gym and finally graduated my MBA on Friday after eight years I started writing my goes down I have my daily five I'm deliberate about growth I'm unknowingly positive with lots of positive talk I listen to pass on the Romans audio videos in the car each day etc except that the list is endless you have checked my life I'm ever grateful for you God sent you to me I thank you sincerely from the bottom of my heart may God continue to give you wisdom to transform the generations Happy New Year thank you thank you so much you are the next testimony every year holds a new promise every day presents a new beginning I now command you to the Lord God of new beginnings the Lord bless you and keep you the Lord bless you and be gracious to him the Lord bless you and turn his face toward you in Jesus name thank you [Music]

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Length: 85min 32sec (5132 seconds)

Published: Fri Apr 06 2018