How to detach from people and situations

hi guys um I just got out of the shower my hair is still wet and I decided to make a video today about Detachment and why I think Detachment in life is so important not only Detachment from people but also detachments from things situations whatever why is Detachment so important first of all if you are attached to something if you are attached to a person if you are attached to your situation that thing controls you so that person that situation can make you feel any type of way if they do not text you if they do not reply to you they can make you feel unhappy and the same same way if they do give you attention they can make you feel happy but that means that you're completely powerless over yourself and over your own emotions this can get so dangerous to a point where a person can take their own life because they're so attached to someone or so attached to a situation I think this is a very important subject to talk about also if you're in attached to something that might have happened before in the past and and that's the only thing you hang on to that you can also not move on in your life so in order we need to completely detach and we need to realize a lot of things and in this video I am going to show you what you need to realize in order for you to attack hi guys my name is this and welcome back to my channel okay so first things first um you need to realize that when you're attached to something you are operating from your ego I read this book recently it's from Gabriel uh Weinstein and it's called spirit junkie I absolutely love the author um definitely check it out and in this book she was kind of talking about Detachment and she basically said that our true Essence is love so we are love when a baby is born a baby is just you know loving a baby doesn't hate themselves a baby is just like joyful and happy about life but when we we get older our ego starts to develop and when our ego starts to develop we also become attached to things we come attached to people and we idolize them or we idolize a certain lifestyle whatever right you have to realize that this is your ego this is not you and this is not your true Essence this is not your love if we're we were thinking from a love standpoint we would believe that we can have everything we want and we can create anything we want and we can be with the person we want because we have that self-love and when you have that self-love inside of you when you're not controlled by your ego then you attract also everything you could not get attached to someone or something because you know that you have abundance in your life you know that whatever you want would comfort you regardless because you know that you were meant to you that you were put on this Earth to be blessed just because you are breeding you can be blessed you would know that your existence is enough to attract Miracles There Is No Lack in life if you're operating from love but our ego makes us believe that we're not good enough our ego makes us believe that in other person's life is better than you and that you cannot have that but that's not reality our ego makes us put other people on a pedestal and makes us obsess over them because it makes us feel like we're not good enough and we will never be on their level but if you put like you yourself and that person that you idolize in a situation where for example you guys are in a plane crash together and the plane is falling down do you think that other person is special no you wouldn't look at them that way you would literally be all just be fearing for your life you know I think this is also a big misconception about the things that I preach because I love to say you're amazing you're you're special you're unique to myself in the mirror but that's also what I say to myself to help myself with my self-confidence and to work on my inner child and healing my inner child but at the same time I do not go out and think that I am better than anyone or that I'm special or that I'm unique I'm not we're all equal and we're all connected I have said this multiple times I bleed you will bleed um I leave this earth you leave this earth and another way we get attached especially in a relationship is because we think like oh no I will never find anyone like that again but see that's why you are in this lack mindset you think that you cannot have more and that's the issue because I for example I have a relationship right and in my relationship I know that right now what we have is very nice it's it's very good but I'm not attached to my partner like that because I know if he leaves something else will come as something better which will come I do not base to myself completely on this relationship because I if I give my partner the power to make me happy or make me unhappy then then I'm so powerless it all depends on me I can make myself happy I can make myself fulfilled and whatever he gives me is just extra I'm not looking for someone to complete me because I'm complete myself anyone that has been in a long-term relationship knows that if you do not have that individuality in the relationship and if you do not have separate Hobbies separate things that you guys like to do as well you will become depressed because at the end of the day Everyone likes their space everyone needs some space sometimes and you have to understand that you have to realize is everyone that comes into your life has a purpose in your life see I believe throughout my whole life I have been guided I have had so many miracles happen and honestly I would love to talk about them but I think like a lot of people are not ready to hear these things and they will not believe me simply so I I'm not gonna put these things out there but I know for myself a lot of Miracles have happened in my life and I've always been guided but I've never realized at that moment that I is being guided certain people came into my life certain things were being said to me but I just took them as like oh what a coincidence but now that I am more aware I can see how I am being guided towards what I need to go I can see that I I have to trust my own intuition more in life are constantly being guided in life and the people that come inside of your life have a purpose I believe that when when we have a partner I believe that when we meet certain people that we create something with we have a soul contract with them right so that person is meant to be in your life whether it was a good relationship or it was not a good relationship that person was meant to be there to elevate you and it will always be elevating you there is nothing bad about it even though it was a bad relationship you became wiser because of it you learned a lot about yourself and about other people and that person was meant to teach you that that person was supposed to show you and show you a site that you need to work on in life I believe we are put on this Earth to work on our traumas I believe that we are put on this Earth to constantly evolve and learn more and be willing to learn and become more conscious I've had uh conversations with doctors I've had conversations with um artists I've had conversation with other YouTubers that when I sat down and I talked to them they made me realize so much about myself and they said the same thing they said Liz I can see that we were meant to meet because you made me realize this and now I can go work on this because turns out I still am triggered by this situation and I didn't know so when these people come into your life do not look at it as like oh my God like why this happened no why is this teaching me what do I have to deal with that I I didn't realize before when you see that everyone has a purpose you can also see that oh okay when this relationship ends that person did his purpose you did your purpose in his life he did his purpose in your life and then you guys were meant to separate you guys were not you guys were only meant to be together for a period of time and when the contract ended you guys were meant to separate and when you have that understanding that life works that way it becomes much easier to not attach yourself because you can see the value of the relationships of the friendships of the people in your life interesting is you need to stop creating fantasies about the situation about this person we as humans we naturally like to fantasize right but if you start have to do that you can make this person into something or the situation into something that that they're not and after that you get upset because you think oh why did they do that because you created a false fantasy in your head about this person but honey they were never that person you did that to yourself by creating this attachment you have to go into situations whether it's a job whether whether it's a relationship thinking it just is what it is it will be like what it is you know just go with the flow and don't cry to create oh it has to be like this oh this has to happen whatever no that means that you're you're not living in the present moment if you're not living in the present moment you will never be appreciative of it first of all and you it will never be good enough for you it will never be good enough because you know what people cannot live up to your fantasy in your head because your fantasy is not real you're talking to real people are volatile their emotions are volatile you cannot base your whole rose colored glasses that you have on life and say that it has to be that way we can never predict what will happen and you have to accept this you can hope for the best possible outcome but maybe some bad things happen because you are meant to learn something in that situation but you did not calculate that in your fantasy you just thought I want everything to be perfect but what if something bad happens then you get sad about it and afterwards it would be perfect so it doesn't go your perfect plan way but another way the thing is get a life like honestly I think people that are so attached to to other people that are so attached to uh situations or whatever I think these people have no life like honestly because how can you even have the time to constantly focus on someone else if you're constantly focusing on someone else or if you're waiting on your phone like please text me please text me like do you have nothing to do honestly you have nothing to do if you don't have a life get a hobby like like get passionate about something learn a new skill uh go outside go for a walk but don't be constantly in your head like oh my God oh my God like what are they gonna text me when I'm gonna do this like calm down and it's it's just desperate it's unattractive because it's like this person is your whole thing like this person can can literally make you make you depressed in a second if they don't reply it's embarrassing to be honest to be like that you're focusing on yourself if you're focusing on getting better that way if that person texts you if they don't text you you don't really care you it's nice it's not like it's cute and all these things but when you're so focused on yourself as well then like I said they just add value into your life they don't give you your words because you define your word already you see you are whole and they just add value and like I said you're operating from a lack mindset because you think if you do not get this job if you do not get this person whatever you will not have anything else anymore which is not true but if you put out that attachment to something and and if you're not willing to let go of that then that is what you will get you have to be willing to let go of past experiences you have to be willing to let go of of past relationships right I had this thing with my uh past relationship he would always help me like uh with everything and and I was not willing to let go of him because it was comfortable right but I knew this relationship could not work out any longer and it's not what I wanted but I I was so scared and I was in my like mindset I was thinking if I let go of him then I will not have something like this anymore but so and I would constantly ask that please give me please give me something like that please give me relove whatever but I was not willing to let go of my ex so then what I did is one time even though I was uncomfortable and I didn't have anyone else I said okay you know what whatever I'm done I do not care how much comfort he provides I'm gonna let go of it a couple months later I met my partner that I have now and he has honestly been the best relationship I've ever had in my life but see I was not receiving what was meant for me and for my highest good because I was not willing to let go of my other relationship because I I felt comfortable in that so I had to create that Detachment and I had to have that fate that that something better will come from for me and then that's when it all came the thing is what is fomo so fomo means fear of missing out and a friend of mine she came over for New Year's and she basically she asked me she's like Liz do you ever get fomo and I was like no I don't get fomo uh I'm like do you get fomo and she's like yeah I get it all the time but then I started to wonder why is that why do I not get that and why does she have that but my friend she's like every other person right she just uh follows people on Instagram her friends whatever like everyone that's normal and um she she like she sees their lives she she looks at Instagram people this whole social media world like I've told you guys I have I do not check Tick Tock like videos I do not check other Instagram accounts I post my stuff I do not read anything and I leave okay I make social media work for me I do not work for social media this way I do not have a fear of missing out because I don't know what I'm missing out on I don't know what other people are getting up to and I don't care because if I do start to constantly look at other people's lives I will start to compare myself to them and I will start thinking oh my God okay like am I doing enough maybe I should do better and whatever and I will go into a big panic mode so you get attached to a false reality of happiness because most of those people are also not happy but obviously they're not going to post their sad moments because they don't owe you that to post their sad personal things but they will post their best life and you will create again a fantasy about their life and that you're upset because you're attached to a lifestyle that does not exist True Value comes from your personality True Value comes from your wisdom True Value is how you treat other people the thing is you have to realize you will never arrive to happiness if you attach yourself to something and you think if I have that I will be happy if this happens I will be happy if I buy this I will be happy I used to have this mentality and let me tell you I was never happy if anything I got more depressed why because I had attached myself so much to a situation and I thought this would bring me happiness and when it didn't I got depressed because of it even though I had that thing that I wanted so you have to realize nothing will make you happy the happiness you are searching for outside is already within you the love you are searching for outside is already within you I've spent many vacations where I was supposed to just rest and lay down and not worry about anything just completely in a panic mode and Restless because I was thinking I have to achieve this I have to do this whatever otherwise I'm not good enough and the other ones I will not be happy whatever it completely took away my happiness like I wasted I honestly feel like I wasted that vacation because it was like I was supposed to relax why was I not in the present moment why could I not appreciate it because I was attached to an outcome that did not make me happy now when I became detached from all of this I can be happy right now I'm sat in my kitchen thank you God like I'm happy just to be standing here I'm happy that I can make a video for you guys like these things make me happy and right now I feel grounded I feel that I'm actually I don't feel that I'm chasing for a future or that I'm living in the future or that I'm living in the past no I'm actually in the present moment and I'm enjoying what I'm doing on a minute to minute basis if you want to detach you also have to realize that you will never leave you you might think like some people attached to people because they have abandonment issues and they think like oh uh I'm so attached like they cannot leave me whatever you will never leave you you are the one person you will always have in your life and in the Hereafter you will always have you okay maybe you won't have your physical body but you will have your soul when the hard times the one person when you say nobody was there for me the one person that was there was you you were there for you so start acknowledging that give yourself some more credit you were always there for you and you will always be there for you so do not think like oh my God like I will have no one when that person leaves me you have you and that's why I say develop you more work on yourself more heal yourself look at the things that trigger you heal those things sit with yourself Journal meditate go to therapy is once your soul evolves and secure within yourself you do you're not afraid that anyone will leave you you do not think that you're alone because you you know that you have you I was talking to a girl and I basically told her I was like yeah I have this like issue that I really enjoy being alone and and I feel like I should go out and I socialize and constantly like try to make friends but I really like my solitude and I like being alone with myself and as you said but Liz that's so much better than than not being able to to enjoy your own company and that's so true like imagine I could not sit with myself and I constantly had to have people around do this all in order to have Detachment you should realize that there will never be lack because you were put on this Earth to be blessed and start to realize that start to realize that good good things are meant to happen to you so when you realize these things then then you you literally think like oh Miracles should happen to me because that is what I deserve because I am walking on this Earth like um I don't know who said it but I heard it somewhere if if God was done with you you would not be alive he's not done with you he's not done with you and you're meant to be blessed whoever leaves you whenever you feel alone you're never alone when you have yourself and if you believe in God you have God as well start focusing on you start availing evolving yourself to the best way possible and honey it will be so liberating because you don't need anyone to determine your value you don't need any situation to say hey if you get this or if you get this person then you're valuable no honey you're already valuable just because you're alive just because you're breathing anyways I love you guys so much I hope you guys learned something and yeah I see you in the next video love you bye

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Length: 21min 1sec (1261 seconds)

Published: Sun Jan 29 2023