This Makes Him Fight For You & Not Take You For Granted

a lot of women dream of their prince charming and it's of course only a real and a good prince if he fights for the princess I think a lot of women would find it hard warming if their boyfriend or their man would fight for them if he would fight for their relationship and not necessarily with his bare hands but even that can be appreciated if it's not a drunken bar fight because some other guy who's wearing a jersey of a competing football team smile at his girlfriend but instead it's a fight out of love it's a real he's fighting for me flight because he loves me because he wants to protect me because he wants to keep me because he values me and there it was value a man will indeed fight for what he values so that means regardless of your behavior and who you are and your personality and even the way you treat him as long as you have the keys to his car in your purse or his phone or xbox controller you will be fine he will fight for you he will defend you like his life depends on it because it kind of does however if you truly want him to do it for you out of love for the relationship and some other things are needed as well and that's what this video is for I'm an author I write books about relationships and dating for women I also write about other topics like managing difficult emotions a real name is key it try repeating that after me so that's why I use the pen name Brian Knox and first the top level of this concept is actually pretty simple he will fight for you when he values you so that means when losing you would be a nightmare to him when that would make his entire world fall into pieces because he really values both you and the relationship now a first thing to note is that as humans we value the things that we work hard for the harder we work for something the more valuable it becomes I'll prove it if I give you $100 and just 5 seconds later a wild monkey steals it out of your wallet and runs away with it yeah you will not be too happy about that but you will probably not lose any sleep over it if instead it's $100 that you have worked really hard for and that monkey steals it out of your wallet now this time you may go full King Kong mode on that monkey that monkey better Ron right it's different you may value it a whole lot more because you've worked really hard for it and I realized that when we translate this to a romantic relationship it seems like a ridiculous fact but it's still a fact is the reason why for some couples everything starts to change as soon as they have been married for a couple of months why because love is supposed to be unconditional then I have this love now it's mine to keep there's no need to work hard for it anymore I deserve it now I'm entitled to it no we are not and you may have already noticed this too the more effort you put in a guy or in a relationship with him the more you will be afraid of losing him and the more valuable he becomes to you why because you've worked really hard for it so without playing hard to get allow him to work hard for you as well that's how you become valuable to him and that is done by showing your standards by not accepting any BS by making him less important if he acts like an ass and by calling him out on it in a non needy way his son by never trying to please him by not overcompensating by not giving him anything that he takes for granted if he takes something for granted you stop giving it if you cook him a great meal and he doesn't say thank you popcorn for dinner it is the next time a great guy will always appreciate the things you do for him he will work hard for it he will earn it because he wants to earn everything he gets in life it's his normal modus operandi he's not lazy so in that relationship the both of you will be working hard to make that relationship succeed so if you ever feel like you are the only one rowing in that relationship and it's going in circles because of it then stop rowing realize that you don't need him that you are enough and if it's a good guy as soon as the boat has stopped moving he will go whoa something happened here he will wake up he will start to paddle but some women when their guy no longer appreciates them they start to complain about it because they need him they become needy in that relationship they say things like while you used to why don't you ever the boy friends of my girlfriend's they I think I deserve and so on but what they are missing is that they are actually giving away their power in that relationship now he's even less incentivized to fight for her to fight for that relationship can you see why that is if a man takes a woman for granted so he's not fighting for her he doesn't value the relationship because he got lazy staking everything for granted and all she does is complain about it and act needy well now he knows he has her he's calling the shots in that relationship and he can stay lazy because she's clearly not going anywhere but if instead that same woman stops idolizing him if she realizes that she's enough that she doesn't need him if she stops giving him attention if she starts to be very passionate about things that have absolutely nothing to do with him that fulfill her if she's in other words living her own amazing life and she doesn't need him and do things can happen first if he doesn't care about her then he will not notice but she will and she should leave him second if he likes her and he was merely taking her for granted because he could now he's going to wake up he's going to fight for her but here's a thing she's not playing games here she didn't do any of this for him if she's now passionately busy with a lot of things that have nothing to do with him that fulfill her then that's not for him it's for her it will strengthen her identity her self-esteem her confidence because here's the thing if a man likes you then the less you need him the more he will fight for you his efforts will actually increase and has been like that for ages the less the princess needs the prince the more the prince will do to get her attention things like working out waxing his horse so he can use it to show off it have you seen my shiny horse huh so how you do and the more II will do to keep her attention to make their relationship a better one every single day so the more independent you are the less he can and the less he will take you 4 grand so if you have an amazing life because you have your own hobbies you have your own friends you have things that you are passionate about that fulfill you well then you don't need him you want him but you don't need him and that's a very powerful difference because he now wants to become a part of your life as well because you have one and some women and I'm not saying you are one of them but some women will build their entire life around the guy they love even if they had an amazing life before as soon as they fall in love as soon as they fall for a guy they drop everything because they want to be with him he's everything now but as I explained in my book she comes first that's actually very dangerous first of all the men they are dating or have a relationship with or are married to will not only take those women for granted the women themselves will start to feel very empty very frustrated and very needy in that relationship because now all of the fulfilment and all of the joy has to come from him that's not very healthy now another fascinating thing that will make him fight for you is when you don't make it easy mind you this is not playing hard-to-get I'm not saying make it hard there's a huge difference here some people when they fall in love they try to make it as easy as they can they remove all of the obstacles because they want that relationship to get started right now a lot of women fall for a man and then they will try to get in his head oh maybe he thinks that I don't like him so I will tell him how much I like him oh so he's really busy at work but I want to see him I want to have a date with him so I will tell him that I will drive to wherever he is I will put in the effort I will make it easy yeah although these things are fine when used occasionally sometimes when we fall hard for someone we make everything easy we try to remove every possible obstacle because they it would be ridiculous if this romance and this awesome relationship would feel because of those obstacles right so let me remove them well sometimes the romance starts because of the obstacles they race the stakes they race the value these obstacles can create Cupid spark plus as we all know as humans when something is easy to get when it's abundantly available we just don't value it you are at this moment probably not very grateful for the oxygen you can breathe in right now you're taking it for granted right but if someone was pushing your head on a water just like in the movies Boop at that moment you would start to fight for it of course you would because the oxygen became scarce then and I knew that these things are ridiculous at first sight but again it's reality it's true so if you want him to fight for you then there's never a need to play hard to get like I've said a gazillion times in this video but don't make it too easy don't put in an effort to make it easy allow him to work for it because and this is another very important insight you will notice that you too will only fall and I mean really fall for the men that allow you to work hard for them as well if a guy makes it too easy if he's overcompensating if he's always available if he's needy if he's all over you he will get friend-zoned if he's super attractive then it will take a while before you will say let's just be friends but it will happen the moment will come that's just how it is so don't remove the obstacles by making it too easy and there you go I'm about to go wax my horse but I hope that you found the concept of this video an important one if you want more strategies tips and podcasts things that I'm not sharing over here you can visit me on Bryant Knox com subscribe to my free newsletter over there if you would like to read any of my books so listen to any of them then you can do that on Amazon by typing my pen name Brian Knox in the search bar you will get a full list of all of my books then I will also put links to everything underneath this video in the description as well I want to thank you for watching till the very end I love it when you do that and I hope to see you in another video

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Length: 10min 50sec (650 seconds)

Published: Wed May 20 2020