My narcissistic sister is destroying my parents marriage

my narcissistic sister is destroying my parents life first of all I apologize for the length of the below but I'd like to set up some background before getting into the current issue my adult sister is tearing apart my elderly parents and I'm struggling to help as background my sister has always been a problem child it started as a rebellious teenager and as she got older she became increasingly narcissistic she speaks in a fake European accent exaggerates her importance and beauty talks down to people she deems beneath her particularly our family service workers etc is unable to keep relationships and is an alcoholic over all she is totally insufferable she is physically attractive to many men so she is able to easily jump from relationship to relationship and snare men in to support her and her extremely expensive lifestyle travel beauty products high fashion she is currently working on her third divorce currently separated she has a teenage son who lives with his father and stepmother and has chosen not keep in touch with her she is an absolute drama queen she is a compulsive liar and creates stories mostly about her exes claiming they were s deviants embezzlers after our family money etc as well as her past employers as she can't keep a job for more than a few months these stories are all presented without any evidence and as one-sided stories we never hear much from the exes my father is largely rational and stopped believing her stories and victimization a long time ago but my mother who is rather run educated and unsophisticated a beauty queen from a third world country who married my father early and has never worked herself believes much of what my sister says and even seems to relish in the gossip and drama this has created a lot of tension between my parents who are hardly on speaking terms themselves my sister and my mother are very similar in the sense that they are both extremely entitled and believe they are entitled to privileged lives of luxury because of their beauty in a way my sister seems to be a younger version of my mother both are constantly gossiping and passing judgment about everyone when I push my mother she agrees that my sister has may have some issues but in the end she continues to support and enable her privately with me my parents have asked where I think things went wrong with her they often blame themselves saying that they left her alone too long with babysitters when she was young they didn't or that they weren't generous enough they were trying to determine where things went wrong due to her most recent separation she had to move in with my parents it seems they can't go more than a few weeks without my sister raising some drama examples are her getting fired from her job because she uncovered some international embezzlement scheme the CEO was orchestrating or her getting news that a son is being SM by her ex-husband's wife's family she got fired from her last job because she claims her boss's wife found her too beautiful and was jealous she talks about how her second husband is trying to hire someone to get rid of her while she has been living at my parents house she has been acting very disrespectful bringing her constant stream of men who she meets online home coming home at all hours of the night drinking excessively taking my parents to expense of fine dining and having them pay etcetera all of this has been pushing my parents apart even further the final straw came last week when my sister has now claimed that my father's brother our uncle and her when she was six years old she has never spoken about this before over all these years it only came up because my parents are currently involved in a separate beef with the same uncle as a sidenote my sister has claimed in the past that other distant male family members have flirted with her again all without evidence and as one-sided stories but my mother has completely latched on to this story she already dislikes this uncle and it has now become her aha moment as she believes that all of my sister's outrageous behavior and ruined lives her loss grandchild is due to this uncle on my dad's side in her when she was six my mother is now planning on calling the police and exposing this uncle as a result my dad has lost ish although his relationship with his brother is currently strained he is not about to support this accusation and risk his brother to his large extended family my father has told me he may divorce my mother over this they just had their 50th anniversary and move in with me and my wife I personally don't believe my sister she has lied her entire life and I'm bewildered to why my mother constantly believes her my sister just seems to love drama and chaos and constantly brings it into her life whenever she is feeling bored or without attention how can I convince my mother of this is there anything I can do to help this situation this is an extremely short and abbreviated version of what happened because the long version would take hours to type out my sister was having a long and ongoing affair with her manager at the bank it came out to both families when the managers wife caught them in the act at the time my sister was two months pregnant word got back to my bill and this whole drama happened my sister and her husband have chosen to stay together for their kids the bank manager and his wife got a divorce the child my sister was pregnant with was not her husband's he was going to divorce her if she kept it and the bank manager chose not to have it either because of religious beliefs at this point it was too late for Anna so then opted to put him up for adoption my brother and I deliberated on who would adopt him rather than going into the system I decided to do it because I'm well off financially and can support a child my partner was also pushing for me to do it saying he would help are financially however he could we are not married just dating and rate is now my son and is eight months old I do love the kid he is such a sweet baby he doesn't cry like most babies do for no reason the doctor told he's just chill he mostly grunts when he wants food he'll cry when he's tired my sister won't even talk to me and stopped around six months ago I figured it was a stage but she threw the gauntlet down over Christmas she said to my mother that she won't come if I'm there with andrade my mother told her to grow up and that she's not alienating anyone my sister didn't come at all for Christmas that caused some tears from my parents not being able to see some of their children my sister won't reply to any text or call I'm pretty sure she's blocked my number and social media and I'm just wondering what to do because if this is going to become a thing where my sister eliminates the family because she doesn't want to deal with me and Andrade then how many family gathering and birthdays are going to become a cluster my parents are fighting over it my dad is on my side and my mother wants to see the other kids what to do so as crazy situations go this is one of the most insane things I've ever been a part of backstory about six years ago I was 17 I met this girl local to me and we started dating she was great she was 16 at the time only thing was is she had a two-year-old daughter now the only way I could describe her backstory was coming from a broken home foster care system e.t.c e.t.c she was also know as a mum at the time I thought it was crazy being able to have that much responsibility so young she was also around two months pregnant at the time of this story not mine about a month after we started dating I don't judge and I was young story time it was a nice summer evening so we went out for a walk Mimi of course GF girlfriend gdgs daughter EPM and EPF entitled mother father AB entitled brat we took our usual walk girlfriend was having a fake fact she was a smoker so using it as a false placebo important we were nearly home when a couple and their child walked towards us coming the other way they also had a daughter who looked around - nothing like them though they were white middle-aged e.t.c and Ed was mixed-race entitled parents and entitled brat started talking to girlfriend's daughter how cute she was the girls started blabbering to each other like young children do her parents asked how old we were we told them and they looked a bit sickened at us Farrell friend mentioned about her new baby coming entitled parents asked me if I'd considered contraception I've never been good in social situations so the first thing that I managed to say was oh it's not mine Q even more horrified looks entitled mother pointed out Kjell frames fake [ __ ] girlfriend showed her it was a fake to use as a placebo which didn't make much difference they were both getting more angry conversation goes on like entitled mother it's just God testing us how we can't have children and people like you can girlfriend people like me entitled mother yes trash look at the state of you I may add we had just taken girlfriend's daughter down to the river to play in the mud at this point we just went to leave because it was just insulting entitled father at this point grab the harness girlfriend was using to let girlfriends daughter walk ahead of us this made her fall and graze her knees making her cry loudly entitled mother swooped down at this point and picks her up girlfriend lost her demanding to give back her daughter entitled father said he was phoning Child Protective Services in the police because we are incapable of looking after the child entitled mother says that entitled brat needs a sister and girlfriend's daughter should go home and live with them because they can offer a better quality of life I grabbed girlfriend's daughter back at this point AB is screaming because she wants a sister and people are starting to look out of their windows and come out to see what's going on this is the heartbreaking bit girlfriend is restrained by a member of the public and girlfriend's daughter is given to any title parents to hold the police arrived child is taken by Protective Services and girlfriend is questioned about how she hurt Inez why she is dirty and a load of other questions CPS also did a check on girlfriends flat to make sure it was suitable and overall it was a very traumatic event for her we never heard anything about what happened to entitled parents and their child it all happened quite quickly arguing for about five minutes loudly before the police turned up and split it all up girlfriend's daughter was returned quite quickly after the checks and even though I'm not with her anymore I see them occasionally the baby was also a daughter and both girls are getting on great now I will always feel bad for not doing more or being more useful can't imagine how traumatizing it must have been for her

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Length: 11min 9sec (669 seconds)

Published: Fri Mar 27 2020