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what we're gonna be going into right now is the seminar that I've wanted to shoot for years and the reason why is because I believe that in personal development on one hand we want to be really inspirational we want to train you and get you in the mentality of being very positive of seeing the upside and of growth and in a very negative world where most people want to focus on the negative and use the negative as an excuse for why they can't do it generally speaking personal growth is gonna emphasize the positive you can do it too you can do whatever you put your mind to you could be whatever you want to be etc etc but at the same time to meet at least to some extent I feel like that's a little bit of a coping mentality because rather than looking at both the pros and the cons of a situation I almost feel like when we do that type of personal development we're almost afraid of triggering the person or offending them or making them feel discouraged to the point where we might deprive them of tools that might really help them in exchange for just encouraging them there's an incentive not to tell you the truth because life is a pyramid so the base the most number of people at the bottom is the der pers is to have nots it's the people in this haze they're basically the haze I'm gonna talk about where the haze comes from to today okay I don't make it today we'll talk about on a different day but I'll probably talk today if not we'll talk it tomorrow so there's a haze the people at the bottom are in a haze and that haze that you have going on which I'll talk about later makes it where they believe that things that wouldn't really make them happy would make them happy because they don't even have an understanding about real growth or contentment is they don't have a sense of what that is so as a result of that if I talk about a real vision for what you know proper growth and maturity like real adulthood looks like and the satisfaction and rewards that could come with that that's not going to get clicks and that's not gonna get seats in the chair at best and I'm talking at best at least in my opinion you could make a high-level course for already successful people who get this like there's probably a couple people in this room who are already very successful that are like yeah everything you're saying I've seen that on my journey too and if you have answers for that I'd love to coach with you but to the you know if but if you want to fill up a room of 10,000 people it would be very very hard to find 10,000 people that would be sold on a proper representation of you know what a future successful window would look like a real adulthood or the real rewards that come with that there's not enough people to fill that up so you know as an example when I do YouTube videos I used to be unaware of this and I might go to a city like Las Vegas and I would shoot two videos one video I would spend three days working on just running after shooting locations perfecting the content to how I want it and all that kind of stuff and then another video I do is like a throwaway I would do it in 20 minutes the video I spent four days on or whatever I spent does maybe a hundred and eighty thousand views the videos that I spent 20 minutes or an hour on does a million views my favorite topics the ones I'm passionate about do very low views these ridiculous topics like just the most low level stuff you know how big are you or are you too short or you know do you want to make a gazillion dollars in five minutes like things like that that stuff gets really huge clicks Tim Ferriss an incredible author I've had the privilege of meeting him a few times Tim had a book that he was gonna call how to sell drugs for fun and profit and so he did a he didn't eat it a test on who would click on that and it was low so he changed it to the 4-hour workweek and what happened Tim Ferriss is born that is why I'm not against clickbait I think clickbait is a necessity you have to do quickly if you want to reach people with very high level ideas you have to click my ports him for the rest of his life people are gonna go to him ago but you don't even work a 4-hour workweek and he's gonna have to go yeah but if I wouldn't have named it that and I didn't even fully say that in the book I just said to this thing cuz in the book the idea of the 4-hour workweek was that's an example of what you could do but he also likes to work very very hard I mean this guy is very prolific right Tim Ferriss is prolific so that being the case Tim just sort of did that as an example of a you know something you put in his book but that's what made him famous in my view I mean it's also a great book but the point is would his book have been successful if he to the original title probably not so there's an incentive to communicate at that level if you tell people what the truth of them growing is most of Mon even wanted make no mistake I know how to come up here and flash images in your face to make you really want to learn a little bit more I mean I've studied marketing for years I've done millions and millions in sales in my life so I know how to do that okay I do okay quick question okay whew and that's why the room is this size but the point is this right like you have to understand like there's very little about marketing or business as far as my Nisha I don't know probably a lot of stuff still but you know my point right so there's a niche for it but I guess what I'm saying is that I want you to understand that while there's a niche for it there's not a mainstream niche for it and most of what you're being exposed to it's not digging deep water trajectory that's necessarily realistic so this isn't about me this is about you okay this is about your growth and it's about making you understand the biases of what it is that you're seeing so anytime that you look at something let me train you on this cuz I do this all the time i train my kids on this anytime that you look at something the first thing that you should do is try to understand it without critiquing it at first be able to explain what it is that you're seeing what is the next thing that you should do after you understand an idea that you've had shared with you what's the next thing that you should do after you've given it a chance you floated it what's the next thing you should do you should look for the biases you should look for counter opinions and you should look for biases so any bit of information that you're looking at you have to be considering what that agenda is now at running a business at a higher level when you're dealing with multiple different personalities you're now balancing a juggling the agendas of many different people many many many different people and you're literally trying to construct this sort of system or entity that balances all these conflicting agendas and incentivizes things and then there's all these weird quirky sides to it because do you focus it more on vision and the culture and the bigger picture and the and the family aspect and the fun or do you make it based on financial incentives you're balancing all of these multiple different agendas it's super interesting so you know let me give it let me give an example say that I have a guy up here doing a talk right and it he's he's he doesn't understand the larger bit of say how the corporation works so in his mind he's like I want to get a I want to get a talk and I want to get do some sales right something like that now if you're if your main goal is to do a talk then you don't even understand like you don't understand the bigger picture like say that I do an event like this right when I put something like this together how much balancing act you think it is for me to put together something like this what do you think I mean it's insane right it's completely the same and you're literally dealing with all these different moving parts happening at the same time to where you're balancing here's basically what it is so you take your raw expense of what it's gonna cost so you're bringing out a camera crew you're bringing out staff members to run the event you're getting the hotel you're getting the airfare for all the staff the hotel for the staff now you want to get a cheaper hotel not to burn the bank but then if it doesn't I had one staff member literally literally blow me up because this hotel room doesn't have a desk I could read you the text blowing me up this room doesn't have a desk I'm going home bro it's New York City my room doesn't have a desk either okay like it's 550 a night for no desk and 1,100 a night for the desk and then you're gonna go to 3,000 night for an extra three feet it's New York City as you all know so you know I mean I'm kidding but am I slightly kidding maybe but not totally off the mark so you know so are you gonna offend that guy later all getting it was called clarity of expectations and shared vision we'll talk about that later it's how you mitigate things like this so then we but there's egos involved right you're balancing on this right so then what you have is you have say it event and let's look at what you have so you have a situation where you have multiple different things one thing is the vision you want to help the world you want to give free value so you're trying to build a business that's socially conscious that makes you feel good and that your spirit can elevate from but you also have to float it right and of course all the delusional little people are so inexperienced and unaware they literally think that if you're just a nice guy that everything just happens on its own it just all happens on its own you just you're just a giving person it just happens like in the book the secret right ok so ok I'm just total delusion so then what you basically have so you balance that then you say to yourself if we record videos and then we post the videos what's the ROI on the posted videos now keep in mind to get a video you're dealing with multiple different cameras now let's look at the expenses on that are you guys enjoying learning about how business works seems so sort of a tepid response but I'll just hope that you're enjoying it ok right as I said not very inspirational remember I said that earlier see the real business talk it's not you could do it to the real business talk not very inspirational that's why your response is tepid it's not very inspiring but probably most of your like I'll probably learn something I need out of this all just I'll deal the sadness of this so let's think of it this way ok so you have okay first of all you have the price of the cameras right you have the price of lenses nobody think the lens on that camera costs right five thousand what do you that little monitor thing on the top cost it's about a thousand that's a Shogun the base how much does the Shogun that one basically cheaper Oh cuz the card how much you think the card is in it how much does the car did not in Shogun 350 per card cool how many cards do you have your 19 cards how much does the light is right there what's that light Koscheck cool that's pretty good you like Sheen nice to know so okay so you but you guys get the idea right you know say that you fly out you know 10 or 20 people as a crew from LA to New York say that you put them in in hotels that you know say that you pay them by the hour now here's what's funny as a business owner you're always the bad guy right so every single one of you in this room or anybody who knows me if I say that I pay them well they'll say that I'm being dumb because they want their thing to be cheaper but then if I say that I'm paying them cheap they're gonna say that I'm a jerk and I'm under paying people and you're always gonna be the jerk in the eyes of people who have never even put their hat in the ring to ever even try to accomplish anything cuz I certainly haven't done everything right but most of people that will give feedback on what I should have done right have never even done 1% of what I tried to do so you know and by the way remember the moral high ground is always the way of kind of excusing like you know excusing what the failings of a person I remember when I wrote a book called The Blueprint which I never even releases a book I later releases a digital products I spent four years writing that you wanna know why because I was just like that I was one of those people that criticize everybody else too that's why I relate to it I spent four years ready because I spent my entire life complaining about other people I complain about the government I complain about corporations I complain about rich people I complain about books I complain about movies I complain about everything meanwhile what was I doing so finally when I wrote went to write a book it took me four years and I never even got the book out cuz nothing was good enough for all the complaining that I was doing what are you gonna do the digital product was pretty sick though you guys ever see it blueprint decoding stuff for years I put in that thing yeah yeah what's that different person now yeah so what's that that was I did I worked on it from 2004 to like 2008 ish yeah so that okay my first program the foundations program I worked on for another like four years prior to that or so so that being the case like now you're bouncing a camera costs but here's the thing when you buy those cameras and then you take it back to edit it what do you what does it take to edit it how many computers you have to have what do you think those editing stations cost what do you think the software costs what even the editors cost then what do you think the I mean what do you think it what do you think it costs also what do you think the hard drives or big fat drive cost to store all that 4k footage on cause you don't even want to know that and that's always getting bigger every minute I'm sitting here there's several cameras racking up for day at 4k clips that are expensive every minute I'm sitting here the money's racking up what a cry with me okay then okay okay so then what then would happen again have you ever heard of self up teacher talking about somebody this they're not incentivized to this hurts your business when you talk about this but they're all dealing with it I know them they're Muslim have it worse so that okay so that being the case you have those expenses but let me ask you another question what happens when those cameras into like that those are those are cameras that that I bought two years ago are they gonna be at current resolution frame rate dynamic range to be up to speed with modern cameras how long will that be so they're so there's a cost per use there's a literal cost per use every time I'm using that camera gear you have to average out the amount of time that I'd have it's like when you have an iPhone it's only you know you might replace it every year there's actually cost per use you might not even be thinking about that's on a pretty simple level oh and I got to buy iPhones for a lot of my stuff to pay their phone bill their laptop so you see how this adds up you see where this is going now as you're doing that by the way nobody's gonna understand what's happening they're gonna just think you're banking and they're gonna think as you know the common people commonly do that you're banking off them they're gonna think you're your exploitative in many cases they're not going to articulate it but it's probably what they think they're never gonna see all those expenses but let's go deeper what about that what about the hard drives or the editing stations as the camera resolution goes up what do I do I do I get to keep all those same editing stations what do I have to do with those do I get to keep the exacting editing software why do you guys have to keep updating your iPhone's because the apps won't even work on an older phone in many cases right you have to keep upgrading so I have so at so when we eventually go to 6k or 8k which I'm not even sure if YouTube even is real 4k I mean is it I don't think it is it's all a big scam but you see what I'm getting at here right but that's okay so as it increases you've got to keep you know you've got to keep increasing all that stuff now say that an instructor gets bigger right the way I've done the company is that is that I give them all my leads I take all my leads and I dump it on them well now they're in control Lee's weather business just gets full control the leases I'm on the team so at that point are they gonna say they want less no they're gonna want more so then they're gonna come and they're gonna want more and they love what they're doing they're part of my brothers are my best friends these are my best friends in the world but they're gonna want more that's understandable right and that'll happen and so and at a certain point once they're super famous they're SuperDuper famous the second they would bounce they get 50% more instantly doesn't matter that I took most of my career to build other people up and build a system for other people to grow but they'll you know that can happen so in some it's actually a shock that most instructors have stayed do you guys realize that it's shocking that most have stayed it's really not a proper system it's not really a do it that's why there's no other companies that we're successful with the instructor model only as someone who's a codependent like myself could make it work because everyone taking an equitable situation because they care about the vision so that being the case there's shoes there right so you have all these different issues coming up and again what you have is you have everybody with their own agenda whether that's the salesperson a Human Resources guy and they all think that they're the one with who are the glue so as an example a camera guy his view is gonna be without the camera shot they wouldn't have the promotional content they'd be screwed the HR guys get to say without me mediating they'd be screwed the accountants gonna say without me accounting they'd be screwed the website designer says without me they don't even have a website they'd be screwed the sales guys are like I'm the 1 pound in the pavement they'd be screwed whether it's you know instructors the product wallah T people in your business whatever it is I'm the product what are you gonna do without the product they'd be screwed the marketing guys man they could have a great product but no product sells about marketing they'd be screwed so that's always in any situation they're the people are always gonna believe that they're situate that what they contribute is the most important one so say it's after me every human overestimates contribution every human underestimates consumption okay this is the real self-help by the way you want learn how to run a corporation or business this is the real self help this is why people that run proper businesses look at self-help gurus and think they're a joke they're like that's not how a business is running bunch of people jumping around and saying you can do it too that's not even that's not even business you know like for example Tai Lopez buddy of mine one of the first things he taught a his course that I loved is he said most billionaires are negative what are we talking self-help most business owners are positive right basically you know this is stuff that's harsh to talk about because you don't say that I talk openly about the fact that you know that's how a business works it takes away the kind of magic it takes away the fun vibe right does my team feel as natural to you after I told you all this not really right do you think there's any team in the world that's any different do you think there's any group of humans in the world that are any different do you think there's any humans in the world any different do you think that there's these magical humans that don't want to get as much as possible do you think there's any of these humans that just want to do more work for Less do these these magical humans that don't have an agenda to be honest with you I would say that my team is as good as it gets there's not a lot better they're actually pretty awesome these guys really care we've got a great vision and mission they live the top men's dating for years that's nuts these guys really care but that doesn't mean there's not a reality to to deal with okay so let's keep going how does this work it's called reticular activation system the core of most of humanity's problems Ras what's that mean let's do it first of all we had this thing called Ras you've heard me talk about it before it if you haven't google it now every human in the world needs to spend a couple months contemplating bar es if you haven't spent a couple months contemplating Ras you're in trouble deep deep trouble Ras is selective focus basically what you have say you go to court each person has a different opinion why do they have a different opinion they saw the same thing why they got a differ opinion why every one of you here if I ask you what you got out of this is good to see it in a different way that's also why you need feedback from a good council of mentors and peers by the way they're getting each seat in a different way I have tons of feedback so that being the case what you have is you have a situation where everybody's re s is different now what is it that manipulates re s it's basically re s gravitates towards what is value or what is a threat so if a beautiful person walks in here you're gonna look at them you're not gonna see me if the big fat cake comes in here you're gonna see that not me also if somebody comes in the back of the weapon you're gonna see that not me you're re s is meant to see things that are a value or a threat and it filters out everything else okay now from there it also confirms existing beliefs whatever you believe now your re s is gonna feed that that's why if you think you lost the pepper in the cabinet and you think it's not there and you're like I've looked everywhere where's the pepper and then your fret and then your friends like look I found it's right here and you're like am I losing my mind I look for 20 minutes for the pepper as soon as I lose something let me tell you what I do because I know what RS is I go I'm like the peppers there and my friends will be like no it's not there I'm like shut up the pepper is there say it with me say it with me the peppers here the peppers here the peppers are at night and then literally I literally make them say it with me and then it shows up now I know I sound nuts that might not be the most nice thing I've said today but I know I sound nuts so that being the case why do I do that with the pepper because I know that if I start to think it's not there I'm not going to see the opportunity it's why poor people can't be successful they're like the world's bad it's all scammers so all the opportunities in front they can't see it it's Ras that's why one of the first things any good self development program does is it gets people to stop thinking like a victim to believe they can do it too and start shifting their re s that is really what self-help is yeah I know that right it's just a bunch of RAS shifting because you can't even see what's going on because it's feeding your existing beliefs are determining it's also your ego if you have a big ego and you have you know you have all these protection mechanisms you're gonna see things in a way that protect your ego so you can't even take constructive feedback at the time because your aureus manipulating you and we all have this how do I know because I've recorded all my social interactions and seen what I look like imagine if you had recorded yourself as much as I have you know you did a seminar you know social interaction you thought it look one way and then you see it and you're like looks like this I thought it was like this but it was really like this I'm like there's probably this thing called Ras that's manipulating perception so from my perspective from my vantage point as a leader I'm always aware of anybody who I'm working with or with clients what their Ras is what their beliefs are and what beliefs that they're willing to absorb and change and what which ones are not here's the way that it generally works what I'm going to say here it's gonna be you're gonna hear it and you're gonna kind of get it and then you're gonna forget about it but if you think about it for a bit this could really help you there's two ways that people's beliefs are set up in my experience this is just my interpretation one is independently set up like this in other words you could knock down any given belief but the overall structure stays there oh I was wrong about that okay well I was still right about all this other stuff and that's cool I learned something new but what a lot of people do is they do this they intertwine them and so if you poke on one belief the whole structure starts shaking and they freak out and they snap when they get defensive it could be because that person was abandoned as a child and they get triggered to think that if you disagree with them that they're gonna be abandoned there's many different ways that this could be this could be hitting somebody okay from childhood trauma to their current beliefs are they in coping or thriving most people are in coping when they're in coping they they need their self-image so they're gonna they're gonna get flatline so they can't even take feedback the average person so much in coping that to survive they gotta intertwine all their beliefs and then you try to show them what would fix it and they freaked out they rejected that's why any of your friends who talk about self felt they can't hear it how many of your friends you talk about self up can't even hear about this stuff they can't because it hurts them I remember I tried to talk someone very dear to me about self-help like you know 10 or 15 years ago and she started crying she went I've been a good person just started crying and bawling and he never had experience like that you try to show some self out content to a family member you care about they start to cry and meltdown and think you're questioning them as a human being especially if they're older and they've been living a certain way up to a certain point and now they feel like you're calling into question last five decades or six decades you know this is kind of sad and morbid but you know the like the the grandmother of my kids on on their mom's side is a beautiful woman this is really one of the most sweet women that I've ever been in my life you know that like honestly not even just because she's like related to me in whatever way but really just cuz and I don't think my kids are gonna get to meet her properly as it adds like teenagers because her health is is all messed up because she drinks coca-cola pounds down all these greasy tortillas and I begged her for years to stop and she's like this is the food I fed to my children are you saying I'm poisoning my children I'm like like I'm not saying that I'm just saying don't drink coca-cola you know I didn't poison my children like please come on stop now she's had all these cancer operations she's on chemo you know her daughter's my kids mom is sad about it and she's only in her early 70s hey she made it a lot longer than a lot of people maybe she made longer than any of us will you know who knows right but it didn't have to be like that I told her since 2006 to stop now 2019 it caught up I could tell cuz she couldn't walk a lot back then cuz she's overweight I heard her knees look at the cycle there she gets overweight it's hard to what would it take to fix it you'd have to be able to walk well if you can't even walk what do you want to do you want to pacify yourself emotionally if you want to pacify yourself emotion what do you do eat she's stuck but I can't say anything just starts crying I talked to her husband I'm like yo you got to do something he's like I can't I'm like come on man can't do it so remember you always want to have it where I could show you something bad about yourself but that doesn't undermine the good things I get feedback all the time from different people they tell me all sorts of dumb things I'm doing that's okay but it doesn't mean I'm not doing some other stuff well I could also be doing things well - why do I have to base my feeling of self-love or self worth or if I'm just messing a few things up why not reframe that that if you're someone who's taking feedback wants it to improve you're one of the few people with the guts to take the feedback to be viewed in a positive light that's actually how I think by the way so basically you have reticular activation system and every single person their Ras is being influenced by what is the value what is the threat it's being influenced by their ego their self-image and their belief that their way over contributing and their way under consuming so let's go deeper so with Ras every single one of us thinks that we we know the truth we're giving the most we're taking the least yada yada yada yada yada yada now why does this happen what you have is something called derping derping is basically that human need not to exert energy now here's the way that works and basically when you build a corporation you're building a corporation to mitigate derping that's all a corporation is is to mitigate derping so basically you have there's two reasons why there's derping okay one of them is because people want to use the least amount of energy as they can and get the most back the other is this and this is really scary you know what's called a nice guy there's no such thing as a nice guy that's a deception there's no such thing as a nice guy nice people are the most dangerous people in the world okay they're dangerous here's why okay again things we don't like to talk about in self-help most of human history is a perpetuity of wars and people killing each other do you ever pause and say to yourself why didn't you everybody kill each other what's up with that like why didn't why is like all these movies like these like barbarian guys with swords and shields rushing I mean that would be terrifying rushing down a hill about to get chopped up and they're doing it World War one trench warfare to be followed by the sequel World War 2 genocide how much is genocide I mean this is at least one of the good things about the PC movement despite the annoying parts of it their act you know why it what they're I mean they do a lot of annoying stuff but you know what's the positive than the PC people are trying to do they're actually trying to stop genocide there's part of human nature to commit genocide man because humans are tribalistic most businesses in the same niche hate each other people competing for the same thing at each other to attractive people become caddy and a each other the tribalism is nuts so look at all that conflict right that's why there's no nice people niceness is a social strategy it's a social strategy the person is just like I'm just nice I'm harmless just doing my job just do my job okay here go do this horrible thing okay der pers get weaponized by sociopaths der pers gets weaponized by sociopaths that's why very dark people can manipulate der pers to go do their bidding and do all this crazy stuff the media does this they weaponize the der pers to go make crazy chaos and protest and also stuff the drippers don't even know if they're protesting what are you really mad about that guy what do you do bad what see bad about bad they don't even know what they're doing so it's called dripping why does that happen now here's the main key so I mentioned yesterday there's something called the winner effect there's a book called the winner effect okay so with the win it so the remainder of this talk is me and explain what derping is and then how to build systems to mitigated so humans can be redeemed so the first thing is that the winner effect is this thing where your brain chemistry gets altered based on how much you think you're winning it's a tribal thing so do you guys remember when the camera guy was at the back and I kept saying you need to move you need to move and he's standing there frozen did you guys see that he's derping the reason why he's derping is cuz that's a survival strategy his brain says you will stay alive if you just stay still it's a survival strategy and you all of you have it you have to be actively fighting against it to get around the derping so basically what it is imagine that you see someone who's very attractive and you walk up and you go to talk and usually what happens if you see someone who's very attractive what you do you can't think your brain gets frozen on ice mode right you can't think so that being the case when you can't think you go in dirt mode so you're thinking cuz you've never audited yourself properly you believe a let's go back to start of the seminar that when you get your Lambo you're gonna be happy you know all this great stuffs gonna happen someday when you get to this better future when in reality life is gonna be life sorry so then in addition to thinking that nonsense she's crazy okay you've never really paused and really audited like what the outcomes would be of your behavior then from there what you have is you've never audited how bad the derping really is if in front of an attractive person you shut down I can't think what to say cuz by the way what's the most common feedback in anything from social dynamics I can't think of what to say what does it really mean when someone says I can't think of what to say I need to be told what to say or even given a routine of what to say it means I'm shut down I'm derping I can't think my brain is on freeze mode so I need to be told by a higher power some charismatic guru what to do and think just like in a war when some leader just tells the people to go charge the hill that's what you want you don't want to have to think of what to do now everybody in this room has had a moment where you could think of what to say right yeah look I remember I was 17 years old and I was always shut down my whole life I was shut down and my friend will did this party and he invited over to school Dame Natalie very beautiful girl and I don't know what it was but like I suddenly start I could never dance I could never dance in my life and all of a sudden I started dancing with this girl Natalie I'm like this is crazy and then you know probably not a big deal to you guys but for me at the time at 17 it was like the biggest deal ever I'm like Natalie come to the bed we never mind of having sex but the point is I go Natalie come to bed and we lay down on the bed and I sat there talking and she like hung on my every word I was a virgin at the time and it's like incredibly attractive woman was listening my every word I was blown away but what was so weird about it that I couldn't stop thinking about for the next couple of days was how alive I felt around her was how I felt like I could keep talking I was my best self I was like why is that and what's funny have you ever noticed when you get into fashion for somebody it's not necessarily the person is how they make you feel and you'll get an infatuation for someone where you feel like this big person this big confident winner when you're around them and they actually have the keys to that the reason why was cuz that Natalie girl was in my little tiny group of friends she when she wanted to be cool with me because she's in my little group she gave me good social feedback and when she gave me good social feedback my brain turned on for the first time in like 17 years I was on a high from this for days I was like this is amazing I called Natalie later she was just totally flaky and you know that was it but anyway I got her number though you know I thought I got her number right big deal so anyways I got Natalie's number so I kept that in my mind I was like that was really trippy so when I first started learning about social dynamics I remember I had this one night where a couple people reacted really well to me by fluke it was almost just kind of like a law of averages kind of thing right she's got like a law of averages thing I went around a couple people who are nice to me so a couple people are being nice to me and I'm thinking wow this is such a this is like the best night ever this is so fun and then all of a sudden I became loose I had everything to say I didn't wasn't running out of things say I was funny I was singing I'm dancing I'm having fun I'm calling people over I've never felt like that in my life that's really what got me addicted to studying social dynamics it was because what would happen was my winner effect in life was so shut down I was in dirt mode but if I go out a couple people will be nice to me but maybe about one night at 10:00 a couple people would be nice to me but I went out thirty days a month so because of that going out thirty days a month to try to socialize if maybe three days a month people would be nice to me at the start and I would get the feedback I need at the start my mood would shoot up and as my mood would shoot up then what would happen is I get my winner effect up and I start to think I wouldn't I wouldn't feel suicidally depressed anymore I wouldn't feel super competitive or afraid I feel light fun laughing smiling was nuts crazy well what was happening there I was in perpetuity in this anti winter effect and in that mode if somebody would have been like that's the bad guy get him what would I have done probably never happened but what would I've maybe done yeah pitch for well lynching you know that's the way people act because they want a scapegoat they're in a negative mood and they want a scapegoat and people still do this today the media very much so does trial by media and they just go after people and they get out the metaphorical pitchforks because they want a scapegoat in some cases it's true in the media's doing a service and exposing something bad it's actually oftentimes very productive but oftentimes it's not human nature in dirt mode we think we know of all the society we have but we're still kind of the same that surprised you I don't know why it does so going from there you have you know you have people in this anti winter effect and it's shutting you down let me give an example I first got to college I'd have to write an essay they say six page essay I say to myself how do you write a six page essay I don't know what to talk about because I will adolescent in my winter effect I couldn't think straight but then occasionally I get a couple wins under my belt by fluke and I could write the essay like so quick it's like I'm getting like a flow State I can suddenly write the essay it was a crazy I can write the essay I can write the essay and I get it right but then if someone would just track me while I'm writing the essay I get angry because I lose access to my winter affect I'd freak out because I need the flow if I break the flow I'm done anybody relate to that here right so part of what I teach who here is coming to cell development program coming up your hand up you're coming for you guys that are coming the main thing you're gonna be learning is how I beat this which I'm going to say here but I'm gonna do for four days of exercises there okay so it's how I beat this it's how I can be on two days of crappy sleep shooting a video at night on the Brooklyn Bridge and just nail it it's how I can be going through you know the worst thing ever and just fix it but I'm gonna also explain it here but we'll be doing exercises there I'm gonna press on you and push you and mess with you and so on and so forth I'm gonna do that and then it's gonna be really intense that's why I think it's the best thing I've ever done because it also leads to having brilliants an entrepreneurship career and all these other things so but I'll explain it here as best I can so basically what you have is what I learned when I did my earlier work on social dynamics I was still in this frame that I need to have some kind of a routine to make to get that good response and then if I got a couple good responses from the routine then my winter effect would kick in and then what would happen is then I could start becoming talkative okay so in the book the winter effect what they explained is that with a boxer if you give the boxer too difficult of opponents in a row you'd think he'd get better right wouldn't you think he'd get better because the opponents are too difficult no he starts to feel like a loser it shuts down his brain okay so what you do instead is you get a somewhat difficult opponent and you win and then your brain chemistry your serotonin or dopamine it changes then you get a slightly more difficult one you win that now you're on a wind streaks and then you light up now your punches fly with confidence not with this hesitation you're playing to win not playing to not lose that's the winner effects they've done studies there's a guy named Robert Sapolsky he did studies on primates and these primates what happened is in this baboon tribe I think it was the the baboon's would get sick less their their brain chemistry to be different their cortisol levels would be different and then meanwhile people that were that were low in the pecking order they'd get sick more they get angry more do you guys understand this is also the root of poverty because when you're poor your winner affects down your cortisol is up and then you're in a poor environment which is really scary and you're getting bad examples and bad role models in many cases right do you see the cycle there and then they look at the media they see the Kardashians remember not to center shot them I don't to be the Lin sure but you know but what you have is like they Center shot these guys as the winners and so on and then it further entrenches it that's my journey that was what I had to break out of that's what this whole thing's been about I grew up in that and in an environment that was very toxic so I had to I had to fight and claw my way out of that but unfortunately as I fought and clawed my way out of it i just saw more and more crap you know you go learn about say dating and then you learn things about the dating world that's a little bit concerning to say the least that people chase after that people have Ras that people chase after value that maybe your partner who you think loves you for you is really there for the value and then if you lose your status they leave you start seeing stuff like that so you know you go become a low level of celebrity like I did and kind of zeal is celebrity like I did and then you got all these friends and then as soon as you get a little rough go in the meteor something your friends flee and say that you're a jerk during the joint issue clients just like yourselves no offense I'm gonna suck the energy other room even more clients just like yourselves that would come up to me and go you changed my life all this stuff Julianne gate happened I have facebook I'd see what some of these guys are saying they're like you know I attended a boot camp but I always knew those guys were bad it was horrible it was so bad that I tend I'm like geez man talk about kicking you and your down I stayed up till 7:00 in the morning crying with you you know and I mean you know and then I see them on the street later when we did come back and there's back at our programs or they see me on the shoes like what's up man I always had your back and you're just like humans humans whoa we are bad you know right because the truth is that we that's us you I'm not saying it to blame it on them I'm not like they're bad I'm good that's us that's a part of us it's called Ras it's a survival mechanism yeah you're a good guy until his last piece of food then what do you become you ever read the book of urgency by Neil Strauss it was his next book after the book the game one of my fame was a book about survivalists and Preppers people that prep for doomsday you know what's my favorite part of the book the whole time he's doing is prepping his younger girlfriend it's keep saying oh you're paranoid you're you know you don't need to be a prepper you're just so paranoid this is very negative so he does this trip to Catalina Island right and he takes the boat there to like practices survival skills or something to that effect I read it many years ago and his girlfriend's there and they go to the last restaurant and the restaurants closed and his girlfriend who's now hungry because she hasn't eaten all day she gets cranky she's like I can't quite remember exactly it was but it was something the effect of like break in go steal it and Neal suddenly have the opinion now the same person who sat there critiquing him for prepping and calling him up maybe a implying maybe he's a bad guy the same remember I said there's no nice people remember I said that she's the nice person what did the nice person do what's the first thing that nice person does when the food runs out rampaging stealing when I say there's no nice people hears I mean there's definitely nice people but here's what a nice person is to me a nice person is somebody who's nice from a position of choosing to be nice not as a social strategy of fitting in okay I'll give another example of that before I continue I had a student okay and he was at him in Chicago and the whole weekend he's like hi guys nice to see you how are you he's maybe 40 how's it going yeah you know and I'm like you know more of my hair keeps falling out okay probably three of the missing ones are from him and I love him to death but you know so he's going up we're kind of social skills and the people around in our workshop like hey hey I do and it's a complete shell it's literally shell and I tried to break it I'm like this isn't you is like maybe so yeah yeah you know and I'm like you're this is literally you hiding you're hiding this isn't you this is fake okay maybe yeah yeah you know right won't even disagree me he's too it's like it's like he's using agreeableness over agreeableness as a hiding tactic okay so finally on the last day I'm thinking how do i crack this guy and I I said things that wouldn't want to repeat here but as a final attempt I basically just said I basically just I grabbed my say listen I said some from the whole group I go listen I'm like Jared just wake up and I mean I'm not gonna say quite the things that I said but look imagine if you're gonna describe the types of things danos thinks about you don't say no so zero I basically just add a bunch of stuff like that okay I'm like you're just gonna Jared you're just gonna dominate and win and win and Jake are yeah yeah everybody and like and you know me I could be dramatic right I could be quite theatrical so I was like really theatrical and so I go like super deep on this right lady pond so I go super deep on this and finally right I'm like you ever just feel that way and all of a sudden he's like this easy he goes back to normal yes you know I think I used to feel that way men kind of got away from that you made a good point thank you thank you man and all 12 people are like ah right it's like three days oh yeah you're right I know all of a sudden he just looks totally normal dot and then he's a nice guy that's a nice guy then he became a nice guy what he was before was somebody who could be manipulated by people who would just tell me okay I'll do it gets long orders okay so for you at the back of the camera that's why I'm giving was giving a hard time earlier that's the mode you're in you have that I have that we have that you have that I have that we have that it's some it's part of humanity and what is designed to do from what I can understand it's designed to create a system where there's a leader in a group and the leader in the group leaves the tribe and so it creates followers it's a system that is a tribal in design as a cave person we have the leader the alphas they do mostly reproduction by the way so if you think this doesn't correlate to your dating this is the most correlated to your dating thing you've ever learned so in that group there's the alphas they do 80% or so of the reproducing so if you think this wasn't about dating this is the most dating base speech you've ever learned okay because when you have this down your dating is like so they're reproducing the most but then the other people become der pers the other people though because you have most of society put in a durp state they're easily manipulated they're easily fed on a corporate agenda to eat bad food bad medicine or whatever else bad education system is in some cases all sorts of bad stuff bad media they'll take it and absorb whatever is presented to them whatever pop music's presented to them the average person would listen to music here they're not listening to music they enjoy necessarily their version of music is seeing what the tribe is listening to they're not selecting what they enjoy there's no soul in their selection they're listening to it to see what everybody else is listening to look we all have that too they have it I have it we have it if I told you there's the most popular song right now would you at least be a little bit curious what it is you're like well you know you want to know what everybody else is listening to it's not the big it's no big deal it's human that's fine so what I learned in all these years of social dynamics was that there's this winter effect thing and it was literally shutting me down making it where I had no confidence I couldn't think straight I've been a durp state and that was the root of my dating problems at its core that was why I stayed in among a couple other reasons that were important to me I had to fix that but what I learned over time is you don't just need to fix that with a dating issue you can actually fix it by things like what we covered yesterday trauma release is huge massive because that's you're in this gerb state accumulating trauma it's also getting worse you can fix it at the level of food you can fix it at the level finding purpose you can fix that the level stepping up there's a lot of different levels that you can fix this you can also do it for you guys coming to the self-development course there's a lot of exercises that you can just if they're doing four days of non sub exercises where I'm gonna just put you in a durp state and hammer you out of it put you back into an herb state show you the way out of it just again and again and again and again and again and again and again and just you know like one of the big things that cell valve course is getting guys to talk and talk why why don't want to teach how to talk and talk because if you can talk and talk that means you beat the dirt State I got to show you how to protect your voice how many times have you guys see me show videos where I bring guys up to the front and no matter who I bring up here you know if they're in the room they've watched my videos and yet I bring them up and they can't project why derp stayed there literally their voice is retracted well if their voice is retracted what else you think is retracted if they can't come up with free-associate of things to say if they can't project their voice what kind of mind state do you think you're in what do you think that's a canary in the mine shaft for what is that you guys realize that the government like 90 percent their job is just to keep all these der pers from killing each other it's a cycle the der pers voted in the government and then the government has to handle the der purse it's a cycle it's because if you because what even as you say that they're the ones creating it part of me is like yeah pitchfork and like I said earlier as far as like you know corporate villains and stuff you wouldn't be wrong and yet I've met very high-level politicians outside at a table with Rudolph Giuliani I've met Bill Clinton I've met all sorts of these people and as bad as we think they are you meet them they're usually very awake people very engaged trying their best they're flawed they're flawed but they're actually trying they're gonna shred a lot harder than there's probably not one of us in here that's trying harder than any of them and yet we can say it's their fault that's what I was saying cuz I agree with you I agree with you so don't worry don't worry you're safe because I agree with you but I'm kidding so your voice isn't projecting how do you change yourself or society society is got a lot going for it but is in deep deep deep trouble there's no guarantee that society will be fixed there's no guarantee we're not going to be in complete mad max' territory eventually there's no guarantee of that most businesses fail right I think the other question is the other side you the thing you said which is how do you fix yourself that's really you have to be the change you wish to create we can see the people that are like I mean change society yeah but you're having to change yourself focus on yourself focus first on step one get up to a six-figure income step two get healthy step three be actively reading books step four be enjoying life so that you have resources then from there when you're in momentum you'll build into say seven figures you'll build into more extreme health you'll build into more opportunity happiness intelligence and gather people around you and then at that point maybe you can be you could have the great fortune of becoming one of those people that everybody complains about you can be that guy that everybody says sucks thanks because because in truth if you're gonna be somebody who makes an impact you're never there's never like there's never two person making high impact that everyone's like yeah right so really that's the decision you make is to serve and even if a lot of people don't get it but as long as enough people get it you try to focus on that and the truth is you might even mess it up you president right now you might mess it up there's just so many times I thought I'd be put in a leadership position and I could clean up the areas that other people were messing up and I got put in there man I had a wake-up call bro you know I did it's a wake-up call bruh like you think you think you'd do a different like when I wrote my book my book the blueprint when I write a book it's gonna be perfect then that shut me down because I was the critic for so long I couldn't write the book cuz I criticized everybody else so nothing I could write could be good enough that's why I say like if you actually start looking at politicians like it from a different or es filter as what are they doing right even if they are messing up or you look at a corporation what are they doing right it gets you out of what happened to me with the with the blueprint book where I was the critic all the time so I couldn't be the one taking action it's pretty crippling does my experience anyway you would have your own experience Thanks and you know it's funny what I have here is good but the truth that no one wants to hear is I blew my shot I blew my shot and no one wants to say that every time I say that people come to me and they're like no you didn't you helped my life and I appreciate that I had I'm smart enough I had a shot to make a huge impact I made an incredible impact on my nitch huge I know it I see cuz I can't not know it cuz every day I walk down the street people are in tears I mean people walk up to me just pull their wallet out start hitting me cash I'm like it's okay I mean like you know patient I take it okay you know but like literally it's like like I know the impact I made but I didn't live up to my potential I could have done way more do you want to know the main reason I didn't live up to my potential because I didn't get coaching young enough it's the truth that's why I'm inspired by coaching I didn't get enough coaching now I have coaches so what I'm when I can't see certain things I have blind spots or I'm not being pushed hard enough I have coaches that won't be a yes-man to me and tell me how great I am rather just going in like my little crowd and being like oh I'm great most of my time is getting coaching and having people telling me where I'm wrong it's actually funny to me when I'm teaching because 90% of my month I'm the student most of my month I'm just in there looking at the people like writing stuff down doing exercises and then I do that all month so I can so for you a couple days a month I come teach and then I'm like listen to me hahaha it's like hilarious to me usually the first 20-30 minutes that I teach I can't believe that I'm the one that gets to talk now and that I'm teaching it's like freaky to me because I I go to people above my level right you always want to have people above your level peers and people below your level you want to you want to have that mix of people above you peers who you relate with and then people that are learning from you so that you could reinforce those lessons what I'm sitting you're teaching I'm trying to reinforce the lessons that I got so I want to teach I want to be taught I don't want to appears so now you understand what derping is right is everybody feel like you get what the dripping is now let's look at how we mitigate that so in a corporation for example you mitigate that with systems so the first system right off the bat although everybody another in opinion is having a vision the problem is a lot of the time there's a lack of a shared vision the more here's a couple pointers for you and I've seen these failures of my own company one of them is lack of transparency when you lack transparency see people assume the worst they said in the book iron Jean that when the Sun doesn't see where their father's going to work Devils emerge in the mind it's amazing how when you haven't seen someone in a while you don't know what their intentions are you don't know what they're thinking and you start to think that of them you just do it's just human nature you think bad of the people you don't see for a bit and if there's a lack of transparency they always think that you're like exploiting them you're taking advantage et cetera et cetera now it's also sim system so take for example the camera issue that we had earlier I have been working on my systems for cameras for longest time but I've never quite got it down you have to have systems and educating systems that have clarity of expectations and systems and I keep trying to get it but I've never fully gotten it right because I've had speeches where I've just killed myself to do the best speech and the camera shot was screwed up you know frustrating that is when you you know you stay up late you're doing a speech you give everything you have you lose a shot it's incredibly frustrating so I've worked to get my systems down most businesses in general though the systems are a mess like you know it's funny if you actually look at our company's free online videos have you ever seen a company releasing more high-quality seven hour videos than that and I released long ones too and our team does too you wonder how we did it we were creative and how we did it we had to do so much balancing work we had to balance like we had to figure out ways to get lenses that were compact enough to travel without costing like $100,000 per weekend to shoot it but then still high quality and the way that we did I mean it's really creative how he did it I came up with this to I'd be like really research the crap out of this so those are prime lenses and it's shot on an a7 s - this is really weird you don't normally shoot us at a seminar on a 7s - I don't a prime lens here's how I did it so on a prime lens you yell what's called depth of field we can lo if I sit here and I say relatively still I have it I can go to a depth of field of 1.4 so normally the most expensive thing with with a seven hour shoot is the lighting they spend all this money on these huge lights think of it Anthony Robbins seminars you guys know how many dollars and lights you smelling you never think of that right I know you guys never think of that do you think the camera shot in an in a big gymnasium style room in his room is like 50 gymnasiums you think the lighting and place is cheap what do you think it cost you just do the lights II talked about taking things for granted you probably guys just thought that was like a fluorescent light in the room they've got to have lighting specialists come in and drag that stuff in there it's very expensive so you get into you get in the lighting in there right well I figured out that if we just got a couple of cheaper lights but we should have a seven s2 is the best low-light camera on the market and then the best lenses are Canon lenses that are Zeiss OTUs lenses that I can put you a 1.4 m/s table which makes it light up these things can catch the light even in the dark and they a7s and then what you do is you have a couple cameras like the moving camera or the back crowd shot that if I want to move around you put that at a lower f-stop or at a higher f-stop or whatever you call it like less light but then you can move more and now you have the moving shots when you want to move around right and then what I did was because that's shot on an a7 s at a7s how much space do you think that has a camera that size how long do you think it can record for only half an hour so I put a Shogun on top of it the Shogun makes it go for an hour okay so that camera there doesn't have a Shogun right now that camera there has no Shogun it can only go for half an hour and then it'll either overheat eventually or it will fill up the it'll cut the file but the other cameras have the Shogun and then these we can just sort of add separately I created that system so that I could I could travel all over the place and I could do it now it's still very expensive don't get me wrong it's incredibly expensive and it's very hard to manage the costs but I can do it that's still ten percent or five percent the cost of what probably got him Tony Robbins pain so it's still manageable and then I can still get my content out now when I put out my content I know what you're all thinking you're like you're pushing social media because you want to make money off it you guys have to understand I look like I've got it all figured out I don't I don't I have business mentors that get mad at me for this approach the common approach right now for example in internet marketing is called high ticket coaching and high ticket coaching they tell you to offer less value they say offer less they they they'll have you remove your products and remove your your free videos put up less and then just do Facebook advertising put them into a webinar and then do super expensive coaching where then they get the content so what I do say a two-hour three-hour video why am i doing a two to three hour video well one is I still do some decent business from it so I'm accomplishing a financial goal which is moving us forward but what other goal might have be accomplishing by doing a two or three hour video I'm doing what's called social entrepreneurship I'm trying to change the world I'm trying to make the world better because you could also argue that a three hour video is too long a lot of people say oh this is too long why do you think I put out through our videos cuz I'm gonna be dead someday someday when I'm dead there's not gonna be any more videos from me because I'm dead so what I'm dead if people happen to like my content or gain value from it they can take the three-hour video and they can chop it up they can make it let them make it into a seven-minute video here's the whole thing what I'm dead chopped it up how you want make me look dumb you know make me look crazy make me look smart do whatever you want it you know and like you can take it and you can play with it so I just want to get the content out what's my thing but I wanted to be able to fund that so my passion was to make the world better but the platform upon which I do that has to be supported so it's social entrepreneurship let me ask you a question would you rather own a sweet green where you make 5% the money but everybody gets healthier or do you rather McDonald's or coca-cola you poison everybody but you make 10 times the money what would you rather do anybody here there's gonna be a few people here that rather have McDonald's to it it'd be yeah you just rather there's people here you're like look because there's different personality types some people are empathic some people are more systems builders a lot of time entrepreneurs are more systems builders like my passion is building a system that creates jobs what do you think people McDonald's say you think they think they think they're poisoning people no what do you think they think how do they justify it two ways what are they cheap food that people love and what else it's providing jobs they're not thinking it's bad you think there are es it's like we're poisoning people no and they're like those people probably eating some crap anyway might as well be our crap is what they're thinking I've been even NEET I probably think in some ways people shouldn't even watch social media at all but I'm like well we'll make the videos because if they're gonna watch something I'd rather they watch something productive but I actually do believe people should watch our videos but I have mixed feelings I mostly think it but I've mixed with them you know because if the person just literally went out non-stop without the videos that'd be even better but who's gonna do that you need to have a context or someone explaining it so it's not really realistic but I have those same thoughts too we all have our Ras that makes us believe our way of thinking about things we you know it's we all are justified in our beliefs that we're right and everybody else doesn't get us we all feel misunderstood we all feel underappreciated everybody's like that except you're the ones that are right they're the wrong ones right like whatever you guys think of like America versus say China in like a trade war automatically you're siding with America right but why I do - but I'm just saying why it's like because you happen to live here it's just tribal you happen to live here you're just travel right I happen to believe that you know freedom and stuff is better than like what they do but maybe that's even delusional I've never really sat down with say a Chinese politician and haven't explained why they do their system that to us would seem oppressive maybe if they'd explain it to you you'd be like damn okay hey you don't write maybe you'd say that who knows what you think I don't know it's hard for me to imagine that but they clearly believe in it what's that yeah they get it done superfast right here you get you want to build one little thing it's like ah you know right there they're just like they put they they just press Enter but the problem but then there's downsides so yeah but yeah so it's like you know but if you ask that I mean clearly they're going along with it right which seemed similar I mean it was more developing their own games but but it's like all the downsides of the US right like like times ten we're like you try and do anything there's like massive protests so India has has like not to upsize that states but the downsides when you're saying you got it have you been there is that why you just heard about it okay got it okay so get crazy right so everybody has a reason why right in India maybe they feel that they're more spiritual right they're more so they're vegetarian the cows are in the street they're more spiritual they're not you they're not consumed maybe I don't know maybe they're right I have no clue you think game everything I got the answers whoever thinks they have the answers is the dumbest one in the room it's always the dumbest people that are the most confident so okay so getting back to systems so first of all you have a vision right the other thing is getting on the same page finding a win-win so a lot of building and see here's the thing okay this is very very important what I'm gonna tell you what I'm gonna say it's very very critical okay what you'll have with things like relationships is for most of us they're gonna go sideways for most of us our relationships whether in business friendship or romantic are going to fail most of your friends got growing up you don't have anymore most the people you've dated or not in your life anymore anybody you partner with the business bride not around anymore pretty crazy right not crazy but just does the average person actually think that no why does that happen learning to relate with other people in either a romantic manner a professional man or whatever it is is a skillset it is a very challenging skill set it is a high level skill set it requires some of the following skills empathy say these words with me empathy impulse control thinking outside yourself finding a win-win having boundaries having shared vision checking in transparency getting past you go realizing their value not succumbing to familiarity breeds contempt okay so there's a lot of it do you see all these skills if you ever read the book men are from Mars Women are from Venus by Jean Grey I read that it's like a textbook into all my relationship labels I'm like has this guy been in my house is this guy in my house all the dumb things that I do he's like boom boom boom boom boom and then all I'll think I've got it for like a week and then I'll start doing the same things to my girlfriend and then whoever's my girlfriend of the time and then I'll and and I'll keep on the habit for a little bit and then I'll repeat the same things do that until there's chaos and then I'll go reread the book and I'm like how why didn't I learn this this one telling you coaching is so important I should I should have a coaching that probably pretty much anywhere I don't a coach I'm screwed let's be honest anywhere that I don't have someone forcing me to be accountable I have a coach I'm basically screwed so that being the case what you have is like you have these different skills like take for example in a business partnership or relationship right the partners start off they love each other they're excited then both partners think that they're contributing more then they start to lack transparency they start to get in familiarity breeds contempt they get in a couple squabbles now they have some negative associations to each other then they'll tend to focus on that in their Ras then they forget what the other person was offering they start to suspect the other person has bad intentions they vent about the other person they talk about that person when they're not around to that their own generalized discontent about life I mean is any of this news to you guys it's the human condition so you do that right so here's some examples of things that you have to do to a high level first of all talking crap on people when they're not around never helps you I still do it on occasion never helps always bad never helps bad oh he's bad even when I'm doing it I'm like it's bad then I do it later it gets back to the person but they get the broken telephone version it's worse than I then will even when I said they feel betrayed then the end by the way the person that I vented to what do they think of me do they go along with it at the time yes do they encourage it at the time yes but then what do they think of you when you're not around they'll do it to me they're gonna do it to me they're gonna say that about me when I'm not around it doesn't help you gotta fight it the other big one is Steven Covey calls it seek first to understand repeat this after me then to be understood so in other words what you have to do is when someone when you're mad rather than rushing in and flipping out and assuming the worst you've got to ask them a question like what's going on 90% of the time anybody who I've worked with or been a relationship with or romantic with whatever they made me angry if I sat down while my Bloods boiling and asked them why they did what they did they clear it up and I'm like oh I totally didn't get that I'm so sorry 90% of time you want to know why it's like such a high percentage because you're probably around people fairly good you're not around complete morons so because of that it's usually going to make sense what they're thinking or if what they thought was wrong you could at least understand why they thought that and you'd forgive them very easily so you have to have that skill down but it's an impulse control because what happens your amygdala gets activated you get angry cortisol comes up and then it's all about the me show now and then you want to vent so now you start doing that and so much of what you do is based on rationalization Ras etc etc so what a corporation does is it understands everybody has their own agenda everybody has their own ego everybody has their own view of the world and it's trying to basically create incentive systems but also cultural systems to are all these big ego delusional humans notice I said the word humans am I saying that they're the delusional ones who's the delusional ones we say with me we ah delusional okay we are so right because because you look at everybody else you look they're so crazy you ever do that you look at the world they're all so crazy how often you do that to yourself right so we all have that that's us so what you basically in what happens is you get a lot of people that think that you know the opposite sex is bad or business partnerships are bad or corporations are bad or groups are bad and they get burned a couple times they're super jaded and then they don't want to relate with people anymore after that they're too jaded I've definitely felt that way a lot to be honest with you I'm not I'm definitely at my breaking point I'm just like I just wanna be left alone I just just want to be single and not even work with anybody ever again and I just can't stand people I mean if any of you guys ever followed up with your end of you ever followed everywhere okay nice to know you guys haven't okay at some point you're all gonna feel okay for any of you didn't put your hand up okay either because you didn't want to use the energy or cuz you're better than everybody but I've definitely felt like that at times just leaving a hand up later at a question okay Paula okay so what you basically you have is like I felt that way but the reason that I haven't got stuck there is because I do understand it's wrong I'm not even say morally wrong let me even say this there may be a time when I'm older what I just want to be left alone honestly like maybe I'm 60 or 70 years old I deserve to just be left alone and if I want to do that I'll do it but the reason that I haven't stopped at a certain level is because I think it's delusional it's it's really me kind of throwing in the towel I can't figure out how to control my anger I can't figure out how to control my impulse I can't achieve transparency I can't get a shared vision I can't put myself out there to get the right people on the bus I'm not attracted right people something to blame everybody else and just give up no I'm like no no no no I'm gonna stick in this I'm gonna stick with this that's why I've stuck with it now part of the challenge and this has been my challenge is either natural codependent so my challenge is I lack of boundaries that's my challenge I will literally chase down the same people that are leaching from me I do this all the time I lack boundaries other people their problem is they're trying to take all the time and then people get sick of them they don't want to deal with them you know anybody like that so it's the same issue right the narcissist or codependent so it's also you have to achieve emotional health there's two sides that I've seen where people that are lacking in emotional health one is I've met people they're like you got to get yours people are crap just get it super toxic by the way they're very disconnected from their higher self they're in pain people I got are just in a lot of pain don't be deceived when they look like they're they think they look like they're winning they're carrying crazy amounts of trauma they're very disconnected from their humanity they're very just disconnected from why they're alive on the earth they're miserable you don't want to be like that I promise you although make your own opinion they're hurting man they're hurting and but they'll front like they're winning to hide it because they're hiding it from themselves conversely have people like myself that can be too much givers and that's also talked to me like I just want a kid and I want again I don't want again and on saying the high vibrations day and then everything and it's okay it is nonsense you will mess yourself up so bad doing that you also have to have boundaries and when you don't have boundaries you'll get to a point where you just explode and that's my bad habit that I have where I have no boundary no boundary no boundary no boundary and then eventually my brain just recognize like my subconscious mind kicks in is like oh and and I'm like ah and I go crazy then everybody's like he always seems so nice what's he doing you know right and instead I go crazy because I'm literally getting the point like cuz all by the time that I've done that I'm literally working like 16 hours a day 20 hours a day not sleeping trying to please everybody right here you know and then eventually I just like and people aren't like understanding what I'm doing and then I'm just like I just can't take it anymore one of the biggest things that I want to bring into self development world is that concept of re s rationalization how delusional we are ego protections and basically that derping problem that we all have where we can't be highly creative because I've worked on this in my experience I'm able to outwork almost everybody I know I don't run out of energy easily in fact I gained energy from work I find that I'm able to focus much longer I'm able to be productive at of all I'm able to be creative very quickly very quick like output super high-level but the way that I did that is not with a little tweak or trick I'd have changed my entire psychology right I had to be able to generate that same effectiveness I was working on my dating life for social skills being out when I just switch on I had to learn how to switch that on on my own so in a lot of our self-development work that's a big focus to mine is I look at the guy who's miserable but not creative not making money he's resonating with unhealthy foods and overstimulating products and I've got to put him into somebody who's actually awake but here's the other side of it whenever you see somebody who's truly vibrant essentially what's happening is they've created many many win/win inputs into their lives that are giving more than it's taking you catch that it's giving more that is taking so what that means is that you've got to be looking at business relationships friendships work situations and so on and so forth and giving an honest brutal audit of what that is giving and taking and by the way when I do that I believe that everybody should have a voice when I teach self help I include advices to me advice the best analogy I can give you is like an app you ever take an app like this perfect 20 minute nap you wake up feeling 50 times more energized now you ever go a little too far on your nap for two hours and you wake up with a migraine and then you need to go back to bed to get rid of the migraine it's like people maybe the smoke a little weed but then their life isn't moving forward they hate that their life isn't moving forward so what do they do to mask those feelings of low self-esteem smoke more weed right some people could I don't smoke weed but some people could smoke weed with their friends on the weekend laugh their asses off like little kids come back refreshed but most people that smoke weed they think it's like they do they they don't do the 20 minute nap they do the two hour now so even a vice if you go and eat a big chocolate cake that could actually be very refreshing sometimes when I just feel like crap I could go eat something I feel refreshed but then there's the point where you binge and you feel worse so even if vices can be okay but you have to look is the vice of giving more than it's taking or taking more it's giving because really you out you have your spirit side right is it building your spirit is it taking from it maybe people you dated where you have a good physical intimacy but they're emotionally driving you nuts so you're getting the physical intimacy but they're taking as far as the emotional side but now what's happening have you ever had it where you're in a bad relationship and you're just tired all the time you ever had it where where you're in a bad relationship but you love the physical intimacy and then what you do is you break up you miss them like crazy miss them like crazy but you have five times more energy that's weird right isn't that trippy you miss them you're like I miss them so much I'm so sad but while feeling that you're like why am I so much energy I can run a marathon right now I could build in the company but you miss it but you're also sad that's the sign that you're in a relationship where you love the person or maybe had good physical side but emotionally they weren't feeding you they were taking from you and you got all your energy back you reclaim your energy people that you see that are very very vibrant the winner effect is jacked up they've also figured out how to relate with people with these types of general ideas that I've said of that genre win-win proper ways of dealing with each other they've they've created enough value but they're attracting people into their life that's creating win wins and so on and so forth okay so they've created those structures and what's happening is now they're getting fed energy to ever just feel tired all the time and you're like why am I tired all the time you're feel depressed a lot you ever feel pessimistic you ever feel kind of stuck I'm not saying that I have that I'm the only person the answer to that but my version of an answer to that is what I'm talking about here it's the combination of the lowered winter effects relationships that are win-lose not knowing how to create relations that are win-win consuming things into your body or mediasource in your body or energies in your body that are giving you this short payoff upfront and sucking from you on the back end and then because you feel bad you need to medicate that to make it through the day and you keep feeding that and most of us have never truly audited what that stuff is that's why when I teach self-help I do a ton of auditing work I get you to sit down and look at your friends your habits this that the other thing even your vices that I'm not even taking away and get you to look at all of it all of it and then what I get you to do is I get you to look at the way that your life is going and actually flesh out what's really gonna happen and I'm gonna tell you the truth it's not pretty even in my case I had so much more potential I'm sitting here I'm gonna turn 40 this your ads I had so much potential I blew my shot that's why I'm so passionate I don't I don't want you to blow your shot I'm still gonna outpace if you know bad things can happen and and that's anything can happen bad but if nothing bad to to bad would happen which we'll see because I acknowledge it totally could but if it didn't all outpace 99.9% of people but I still blew it relative to my potential most of you guys are blowing it even if you're doing well you're blowing it relative to your potential I didn't get coaching soon enough I didn't get people calling me out soon enough I was in my little loop I was just in my little reality just kind of going through the day go meet up with some girl go out maybe work on this I never had somebody just go Owen Owen wake up this is how much time you have left this is how many young years you have left and everybody always comes to me they're like well the Kentucky Fried Chicken guy built KFC it's 61 stop giving me these random anomalies and you know and focus on what's likely to happen okay it doesn't mean that I've totally give it up me hitting my potential but I know that I blew it but even though I blew it now and even though many of you have blown it but that doesn't mean that you can't at least meet some potential don't worry about what you lost I can't sit here complaining about my potential that I lost all that I can do is say for whatever reason that's how it panned out until until I was ready to receive that information I don't know why I was stubborn on certain things for a long time I don't know why it is what it is but here's how much time I could potentially have left in a common human lifespan which even that's not urine tea at all but here's much time how much time I might have left and then I can go from there and what I can do is I could change my criteria let me give a great example when I was in the maybe ninth grade or something like that I had this really big project and I put off doing it I had half a year to do it and I put off till the night before anybody here ever do this in school isn't that the worst feeling it's not one of the most traumatizing why did they let us do that come on you're setting us up to failure but anyway so I had like six months to do this project I think was long like the Luddites of England or something and like it's a history project and I waited until the night before it I'm sitting there and I'm saying my dad we're gonna do it I'm not gonna get the good grandma and my dad said something brilliant to me he said Owen make your criteria for success not getting the a because that's not possible anymore make it the best grade that you can with the time that you have maybe try to get a D so you least don't have to repeat the year in that course and then I did and I think I got a b-minus right so I probably you know my chance to get an A+ on life relative to what my potential is I lost that and again everyone always comes up to me under the hood it's because they're in self-help world they could never admit something bad they're always like yeah yeah you didn't do it it's your guy shot I'm like no I don't stop it just stop because if I here's the problem if I keep thinking like that I'm not gonna hit the potential that I do have left because I'm gonna be in la-la-land know what I do instead is I could acknowledge where I blew it make corrections own own and operate within the framework of what time I do have left to make out of my life and then from there give my you know grade myself based on the remaining potential and do that quick question yet well bro I've hung out with like many billionaires and I'm gonna be honest and this is gonna sound really cocky I've never met one I thought is smarter than me and yet here I'm sitting here and they're sitting there so I run a great business but I'm not in their shoes I could have done that stuff but instead I did what I did but I loved what I did do you understand that it's not just about money it's also about like there's a lot of metrics in life right look honestly I blew a lot of my life by being a codependent I stayed in situations that were sucking me dry for years I blew a lot of my life I stayed in relationships with women that we're never gonna act in a fair way girls that are very physically attractive and none of you would feel bad for me I would pull out their pictures right now and you just be like you guys would just be like there's no way this guy's an idiot even if that person could be the worst human on that could be the female Satan and I could be happy with that I'll show you later if you want so like you'll just be you're just gonna you're gonna hate me but that okay and I've had a series of that but funny enough many of those people after the first six months of bliss have emotional issues and so and I've stayed and I've also been with great people too I've been with a mix but the point is like I've stayed in situations like that trying to fix people I tried to fix people I work with I tried to fake I've tried to fix partner like I've just sat there not giving up and just ripping my I mean it's why I'm bald probably honestly okay I've sat in I've sat in situations I shouldn't and stained him put myself in risky situations I shouldn't say I stayed in dating what five years too late could destroy my whole career so I mean easily by the way like 50/50 will ruin my whole career so it's like it was a mistake go ahead louder if you can't hear what I'm saying on the voice level what hope do you have with this other stuff go not to mention gentle just up here showing you this honestly do you think you're a codependent perhaps yeah okay so me too it's like even when I let the person I'm like okay like they've done this this this is this this is like I'm like there's every reason in the world not if you put up with this and then even when I do it I'm like look I'm very sorry but I can't keep doing this and they're like okay and I'm like oh wow and it drives me crazy that's why I'm not a good business owner it's you know how hard is for me to say no when someone asks for a raise I can't do it I'm like oh I've no worse a business owner not to mention a lot of people that I've hired or people that I coached at one point I'm like you can get that financial freedom you know now I've hired them then some of them I got to fire them I took myself out of that process that's a smartest thing I didn't imagine firing somebody like imagine you I've worked with you on live events actually about a fire you all right it's too hard you know it's too hard I can't do it so I had to take myself out of the process so I tell that to people that get hired now if they've been through my programs I say look I'm so thankful for you come to program and if this person fires you and it was improper I'm sorry that I chose the wrong manager but I can't be involved I just can't and I can't hire people people always come to me at the event so I hire me I'm like I can't I like you too much I can't say no I'm not gonna say no then when you asked me for money I'm not gonna say no and then you underperform I'm not gonna fire even so I can't talk to you go away you know right like it's yeah I'm a codependent I have a hard time saying no I love seeing people win I like seeing them hit their potential I'm cheering for them it's too hard for me yeah I'm not good at it I'm a coach I'm not meant to be a manager I meant to be coach it's not my strong suit that's what you got to hire people around you and get mentors and so on and so forth so you know but then sometimes the managers you hire over fire or over you know so then you got immense so that it's all very tough broke everyone to tell you it's all very tough yeah but if you have codependents you have to heal that yeah cuz codependence will attract takers it's called human magnet syndrome I Ross wrote summer a quick question okay so you guys need me to be curious about this whole answer I didn't want to make this about me but I'll answer okay right off the bat think about your life right you only have so many years to be truly happy how many years have I spent in bad partnerships bad relationships where the person didn't care I would care I would care for both of us the person didn't care take care - they'll take it if you make if you put it out there but they didn't care but I would never believe it people would come to me and say oh and this person doesn't care I'm like no you don't know them like me and then you know it it's like it's just hard so it's like my first 20 years of my life was me in a durp state like that was so dark it was like being in a nightmare like 20 years of my life gone just gone right like that anybody here feel that way about their first 20 years just gone gone like just to write off just to write off you know like because if you're a complete loser and then you're being picked on and you're depressed and you're suicidal ISM it's just a write off now as you're older you can take stock of those experiences find beauty in them and the memories and you can reframe it and that's great so I think you could reframe it I'm teasing so now cam being a just being a comedic like comical skeptic side guys so now but at a certain point now from age 20 to 40 I just worked I just worked and worked and worked but here's why I did that I didn't have a choice for my social skills I had basically light level autism so if I wasn't gonna go out seven days a week I was never gonna fix that so part of why I've gravitated towards a lot of anti-aging stuff is cuz I understood that that like I knew that that like my version of like the really bad 20 years was gonna be probably close to like 35 years I understood that because my ability to talk to people or communicate was so poor that basically anywhere that I went I was being viewed as a loser and then what was that doing to my winner effect as we're calling it it's like a trap so I understood that I was gonna have to can you lis hammer away at it just keep working on my social skills going out getting it down also to be honest I was so traumatized by what I went out what I went through that was why when it got a bunch of instructors and built the business and out of the free content I was so burned and angry about all that I went through that I was like man I got it I got to go hire other people to to teach this you know because learning just for me I'm kind of wacky a lot of people resonate with me but some people like this guy's weird but then I have another instructor and they're like oh I like that one so I try to get other cast of characters you know to teach different types of demographics and whatnot because I understand not everybody can relate to me and I can try to like cookie-cutter myself to relate each type of person but then I lose the people that like the way that I do do it they're gonna lose out so it's this weird kind of thing right so basically a lot of my life I blew off either being completely screwed up because the social education system doesn't know how to handle people like me and then from there my next 15 20 years just a mere o'the you I think a lot of people just didn't teach me this stuff I'm teaching you now and I'm not trying to put credit on it but that's what a lot of what it was too honestly a lot of these lessons I just didn't have it I didn't understand how to how a business is run and I didn't understand how a lot of things would happen and it creates chaos that's why most businesses fail you don't even really have the education on it I mean it's really bad to guys like most products people don't even know how to market them at all like me marketing it's whoa like it's really well like I could take almost any business owner and show them how to be an ambassador for their product how to talk to a camera how to do marketing how to do launches how to do product liens how to make it integrate like I love that stuff almost every business owner I talk to you they have no clue my ex-girlfriend Sophie she runs an amazing water company and she had she's partnered with these two great guys love these guys and they wanted to white label her alkaline water so we're gonna white like white label her alkaline water and they're like we're gonna do this party to promote it and I'm looking at this party I'm like you guys are gonna lose so much money off this I tried to explain them all the different ways are gonna lose money and the way it's not gonna it's not going to help their business they can't see it they're clueless on it I want to help them they can't see it they're their egos involved remember what I said about this they have too many beliefs about it they think they know marketing they can't take the feedback they think I'm being negative into intense and I already know what's gonna happen so I had like most marketing you're not taught at the self development course we're gonna cover marketing we're gonna go I'm gonna show you how I market in di minima but I'm not just gonna show you I'm gonna make you like I'm gonna make you take this and sell it to me you're gonna have to okay I'm gonna show you how it's with a lot of also our es sucking and I'm gonna show you how it's gonna be awesome so basically marketing I didn't understand that for me to learn marketing you're talking probably three years to even properly understand marketing sitting in my house crying you know I moved to Hawaii I decided I sat in this like beachfront place in Hawaii studying Direct Marketing for years learning how to do that then it was probably another 15 years to learn how to be a public speaker so that was many many years to learn how to do that just the public speaking it was also you know years and years and years to learn social skills and then it was years and years and years to learn about nutrition it probably took me eight or nine years because I've been sick since 2012 you guys know that do I say that on occasion so right so still in this run every time I'm almost about to get sick I'm like oh man this is gonna be so bad I'm gonna lose my run so so man so I know how to not get sick I don't read many books to learn how to not get sick I'd learn how to read many books learn how to heal my brain I'd learn how to read many books learn how to heal trauma look in life most people are just meant to fail I was just one of those people meant to fail but I didn't accept that so because I didn't accept that I went out I got the money to take courses I got the people around me and then here's the big one I picked a project to test my cell phone when you pick a project to test yourself on see you remember I said earlier it's not about the money that you get when you pick the project to test yourself on it actually gives you the chance it basically brings the misery to the surface you see that like you know what relationships not intimate to make you happy right it's meant to make you miserable so that it shows how you're showing up shoves all your flaws in your face by you the other person who's a mirror and then you fix it that's the purpose of a relation it's not like happy happy sit businesses like that too it's not to make you all happy it's basically the show it's basically to put you through a nightmare show you every little area that you suck every little thing you don't know every little area that you're missing and then as you go through that process you learn it and then you come out with a feeling of happiness from it that you like who you became and then you look at everybody else if you feel kind of sorry for them because they're kind of delusional they're incompetent they don't know how to make things happen and they're rationalizing it and they're in a durp state like most people that's the real payoff remember I said earlier when people think it's like this vacation intimacy and you know a cool clothing thing or whatever cool house what I just said there that's the payoff it's when 20 years later you look at the average person you feel sympathy for their incompetence their delusions their state of mind and you even realize that you have a way to go and you start to and you actually start to enjoy the journey the journey is actually pretty cool now a lot of this doesn't sound that great and look for some people they don't need to do all this there could be a few of you in this room that are like I had great parents high school was awesome you know college was a great big party I got a good job what's this guy talking about yeah is there anybody this room like that actually put your hand up don't feel bad about it that's amazing that's beautiful if you had that I've got friends like that I'm like you're like a alien creature to me but it's amazing right and then there's some people in the middle that didn't have it as bad and then there's some people the extreme it but there's a large demographic get the people at that Inn who here relates to what I said about the first two decades being a write-off and then since then kind of somewhat improving but being quite painful you see that surprising right you're like damn you know I know what I'd be thinking about you cuz I'd be like whoa that's what I'd be thinking myself but there's a real demographic of that and it's an undercurrent in society that a lot of people don't want to talk about especially the men that are suffering they're dating nobody wants to talk about that anybody that tries to help with it they're like BAM stop no they should just get it bam bam bam so there is an issue with that and that was a big part of my passion so even though I didn't maybe hit my potential in some things one thing that I am proud of was that I really was willing to dig deep and go into those dark corners of people and try to provide solutions to them and wake them up to things show them what their potential can be and when you look at my life yeah you know what I do live in a big fat mansion in the Hollywood Hills I have traveled to most major cities and vacation in them I have had a great dating life and it's being way past anything I thought would imagine I've got to meet my celebrity friends or celebrity crushes or authors that I wanted to meet and hang out with them as peers and have that experience I've gotten to go to most of the very best restaurants in the world it's cool I did it but it's like I told you how do you think I felt when I did it pretty much how I feel sitting here again there's these brief moments where the food is so good you're like whoa-ho you don't write or like you know your intimate you're just like whoa I had one of those the other day the day before I came here a new new person and it was just like wow you know right and it's great I'm gonna do as soon as I get back I'm gonna do that you know and someone who I would think I would never be able to meet and I did it but and that's really cool right but end of the day am I gonna wind up with her probably not you know they'll probably be equal pain on the way out at some point and so on and so forth but I can the cool thing is is that like I said you can train yourself to feel the joy of that so if you look at a person a new person that maybe you're intimate with by the time that you get all the joy but then later perhaps some pain from either the relationship with a breakup it probably comes out to about breakeven but what I've trained myself to do is I've trained myself not to focus on that and I've trained myself to focus on the positive I've trained myself to not look at it in a bad way and to look at it in a good way I've trained myself to like I can now look at any X and just be like you know I just love you they might even still be salty in me but I'm like I just love you and I just remember the positive I can look at any person that I've ever worked with you know sometimes people will talk to me about people that I've worked with in the past or like you hate that but I'm like no well did it hurt when they left yeah it did it really hurt to be honest bad really bad it's horrible I mean it's the worst thing that could happen and not the worst but one of but I don't focus on that I focus on the good side I understand that we're all human I understand that I probably made mistakes I understand they probably made mistakes and when you don't stick on that whole thing of like getting on the same page and the shared vision and keeping on top of it it fails if you have a romantic partner and you let yourself go it fails that's what happens in relationships you can learn from it and do better in the future or you can choose to be a victim right say the words you can get bitter where you can get better so to me that's what personal developments about see I kind of think of it like this I don't necessarily think that the purpose of life is to just be always happy I think it's very possible that were spiritual beings and we're here to learn I don't know if that's true or not but I think it's conceivable that that's actually why we're here really I really do so because have you ever noticed in life it's like right when you kind of got it all good all of a sudden you're kind of forced into like the next challenge and it's almost eerie how it works now there is a counter-argument that I always think of both sides the counter-argument is that could become a limiting belief how could that be a limiting belief so what I said is pretty cool I think but how could that be also limiting believe it's important to always think of both sides what's the limit there yeah that it never could be peaceful right like like it always has to be chaos so I do think that there's two sides of it there right but I've had great moments of peace you know you know that moment I'm in my mansion in the Hollywood Hills I've got an amazing person there eating great food there's a movie on you know where I'm at some restaurant or you know I'm meditating or doing a great talk you know whatever it is I've had these don't get me wrong I mean I walked home from me at me and Julie and after we did our event yesterday we went and shot in Washington Square Park and then I walked home five in the morning New York City perfect time of year it was like an hour walk I got my ultra busan you know right it was I I look like I'm start crying right now it was beautiful just walking home by myself it was stunning I had such a great time amazing so amazing you know I loved a lot about life like life has a lot of life has a lot of really fun moments a lot of great moments and it's really beautiful but I also don't necessarily convinced that that let lie like always just trying to you know run towards these like leisure moments or you know sensual pleasure moments I think that it's really a lot of it is about the lessons that you get it's it's what you got out there's a depth to it right I think that like marketers have us convinced that like leisure or sensory pleasure is like the one most desirable thing I think it's a very desirable thing but I don't think it's the it's the only thing I if I were to look at my life and say what I want to just say in this completely peaceful blissful say my whole life or what I'd rather had the life that I had I think I would take the life I had I'm not totally sure because that's a tough one right because if you could feel it for a minute then you got brought back you'd be like maybe I want to you know go back in the box that makes me feel pleasure all day right but if I was being honest and not being weak but being strong I actually like what I've had to experience because it's allowed me to just learn so much and for me the real enjoyment is when I look someone else in the eye and I know that I have something to teach them I know that I have walked a journey that they could learn from and I understand that there's so many things that I own that I can offer because I've been through it and I can also make it easier for other people and I feel like as humanity moves forward we can lift each other up and we can you know we can go out and challenge ourselves and we can bring the lesson back and that's a very powerful concept in the book of hero with a thousand faces by Joseph Campbell the hero's journey the idea that we take an adventure and there's a call to action and then maybe we resisted initially then we start to take action there's a crisis I don't know if I have the order exactly but it's kind of like this we find a mentor the mentor helps us we get through a series of challenges and then after final victory the thing that makes it meaningful is bringing the lessons back to the tribe and that was why the the movie star wars was so popular with the Luke Skywalker story because it stuck to that narrative that's so powerful and embedded into the human psyche so never be afraid to go through different things or expose yourself to things and I hope that what I've done here is I provided a bit of a wake-up call for maybe it's something that's not a conventional type of personal development but maybe and I'm gonna have other whether it's videos or seminars that are about the beauty and the hype and the opportunity and how you can do it too and the good things and the fun and I'm gonna do that you guys know that do it all the time - I have lots of height videos or hype seminars that I do but I like to mix it up I like to do things a little bit different have you guys ever seen it where I do a whole video or I just crack jokes you seen that so you know I can do that right you know I can enjoy the moment but I also like to do some talks like this sometimes because I feel like if it's too much like just enjoy the moment if you do too much of that you could be things flying by you as well so I like to have that simultaneous like beautiful moments of uplifting seminar and presidents and joy and laughing and I want to train you on that and get you in that state of mind so you can enjoy your life particularly because no matter how good life gets if you don't have that skill you're not even be able to enjoy it you've got to learn to have the palette of true enjoyment but then from there I also want to get you looking at your life and really fleshing it out and seeing where you're really going and being honest with yourself and calling a spade a spade because if you fail to do that things can become an absolute mess and I believe in you I wouldn't be sitting here at this hour or doing this or even running my company the way that I do I wouldn't be doing any of that if I didn't believe in you so I'm here because I believe in you and I believe that you can reach a very high level I believe that you can train yourself to do incredible things I believe you can change your life and I believe most important that you'll feel gratitude for whatever help you got and you'll pay that forward I have no doubt about that and that gives me meaning and it gives me the drive to move on and keep pushing forward and I think also that despite any complaints I've made I think like used to be a lot worse a hundred years ago 200 years ago 300 years ago forty years ago look at what some countries have gone through so I still think lice actually pretty awesome and we're just in a process right and if there's all these other people that came before us that made the world better then we can also we can on one level try to live a fun life but we can also have another part of our life where we try to make the world better for other people and kind of get ourselves out of this mess and try to move forward and keep keep everybody moving forward like I said we're all family and we have to come together and move forward so that's the message that I have for you here today and I hope that it was thought-provoking I hope it was a little bit painful but I hope also that you enjoyed it so thanks for listening guys I appreciate that Thanks thank you guys thank you so much for watching this video I mean you made it you made it and it I think have you made it for this that tells me that you're very very committed to change your life your investing you get it how many people would see a video like this and turn it off it would be of no interest to them they don't want to hear it either a because it's not just helping them to cope or be because they're not even as invested as they should be in their own success so the fact that you did this I think that says a lot and I want to thank you for pushing through it because by pushing through content like this not even this content in particular I just think any content like this it shows me that you have the intention to be better and what that tells me is that you have the intention to make the world better and to me that's the most important kind of person on this earth so I want to thank you so much again I'm out of here I hope that you took a lot from this and I'll see you soon we'll be back with more peace

Channel: Owen Cook Free Tour

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Keywords: self help, self development, success, results, business, hustle, grind, personal growth, spiritual, spiritual journey, new york, pink shirt, queensboro bridge, seminar, free tour, corporation

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Length: 106min 14sec (6374 seconds)

Published: Mon Jan 20 2020