How karma did it's job on my fiance

revenge on my cheating fiance was bad but the Karma was brutal this happened to me about 1999-2000 when I was 19 to 20 years old my friend told me that this was the juiciest revenge karma he's ever heard of and that I should post it here if you've ever been cheated on by someone you love this is for you sorry in advance for the wall of text but this is the emotionally eviscerating kind of revenge and karma and for that reason I felt the details were important I was single after around five years with my then boyfriend and had finally mustered the courage to tell my junior highschool crush let's call him DN diaochan is all about the candle I'd been holding for him for the past seven years ever since the first time we met I was still somewhat new to the Pacific Northwest after leaving my home of Alaska and figured while he's in Alaska and I'm here and never moving back so I might as well let the unspoken thing be spoken get the answer I'm sure is coming and move on with my life I was pretty sure that once I laid down all the cards he wouldn't have wanted to be friends with me anymore or would have said something like I'm not into you that way I was expecting at most an awkward conversation with him that may have explained my behaviors over the years I had known him much to my surprise he reciprocated my expression of sincere love dn and I had been friends for all that time and though I never dropped hints to him about it I did tell my closest friend at the time he and I even kissed once during our first school year together and even though I wanted to I didn't ever press the issue or pursue him further giving him the chance to take the lead which he didn't his words to me were poetic and so full of promise including him saying how I always had a thing for you and never knew how to approach you and I was so afraid you would reject me and I'd be humiliated and so on the same kind of stuff I had told him seven years later having not the slightest clue that he was going to react that way at all it made me question my decision about never moving back I mean never after the phone call professing love each other that word never seemed so extreme if I relaxed that decision maybe I could have the opportunity for the relationship I had wanted for so long I had a really great perk with a family member who was a pilot and was able to fly on a buddy pass standby ticket pretty often so I decided to fly up to Alaska every couple of weeks to CDN once the news got around everyone in our circle of friends would exclaim oMG u plus TN I always hoped you two would end up together you are the perfect couple I thought it was super cheesy and romantic but it actually felt validating and nice because that was what I had envisioned and hoped people would say about us I was always very careful to avoid dating or even flirting with anyone I went to school with for the sake of avoiding interpersonal drama and gossip at school which would have disrupted so much more than my education after several months of traveling to see him every couple of weeks he asked me to marry him I said yes and then without hesitation started planning to move back to act to be together and start her life there in our hometown I made my plans for the move packing up all of my belongings and parcel shipping everything I earned thankfully it wasn't much because I was still so young and didn't own any furniture dn and I were going to live together at his place where he had a roommate let's call him bicycle man VM who I will never forget and the reason why is coming up in the scant number of days before my final flight back up to Anchorage I started feeling kinda rikey and gross and after several days of that followed my intuition and took a pregnancy test I found out I was pregnant and I was so overjoyed that I called him one evening to tell him about it there was already a party going on at his place I spoke with Deanne briefly and said I have some news I want to share with you and he said but first I have to tell you about this really cool artist chick and he told me about this girl who came to the party let's call her thought yes a terrible nickname used only because I'm too lazy to think of a better acronym and it made me laugh when it first occurred to me I was irked by the way he was talking about and realize this is not the time for a big reveal I think I said to DN something like don't do anything you'll regret he asked me to call him later on to tell him whatever the news was so I said I would and then I did hours later whoever answered the phone said that DN was there but couldn't come to the phone right now I had this awful stomach sinking feeling because I already had an intuitive feeling about what was happening dn never called me back that evening I called him the next morning no answer I was heartbroken that evening I finally got to talk with him and reminded him I have news but he interrupted me to say I have to tell you something and my stomach sinking feeling was now turning to nausea he admitted that he cheated on me with thought all while the time I was trying to reach him the night before I hung up the phone on him and threw up he didn't call me back to ask what my news was I called him back later on to verbally upbraid him and all he could do was ask for forgiveness and tell me that it was a mistake and that he still wanted me to come there I told him there was no chance that I would marry him after that that was not a mistake buddy that was a choice I said I would be up there to get my things and then I'd be gone for good it took every ounce of my emotional strength to verbalize my thoughts without screaming I miscarried the pregnancy that week add that on to the absolute devastation that this person I had longed for after all these years didn't actually intend on a committed relationship after proposing to me and then I had to deal with the immense pain of losing my first pregnancy and then to top that off I had to fire up to encourage weeks before Christmas to pick up all of the stuff I had already parcel shipped there wait for it to arrive with nowhere else to go but the ends home I had to face him and be around him after having my heart thoroughly crushed I knew also that out of our mutual friends and our families would either learn the truth or would be told lies if DN tried to save face about his mistake I didn't know DN to be that kind of person but then I didn't know him to be a cheat arriver so all bets were off when came to an educated guess about what course of action he would take so I got on the plane flew up north to Alaska and of course DN didn't remember he told me the day before that he'd picked me up at the airport or he didn't think it was worth it whatever it was it was the most awful feeling to be forgotten about and left there stranded even more humiliating was when an elderly couple of the airport saw me waiting alone picked up my Lost Girl fibe and asked me if I was okay and I lost my calm demeanor broke down in tears at the airport i shooed away the well-meaning couple because I couldn't keep my SH together long enough to be gracious about any help they could have offered I finally got a cab and went out to his place banged on the door outside and waited until I couldn't feel my fingertips anymore and the racket finally woke up the M who let me inside DN was in his room passed out on his bed I went to the living room couch and waited I didn't know exactly how to confront him so I didn't he already knew how I felt based on our phone call following his confession I acted like I no longer cared about it because the last thing I wanted to be seen as was a crazy ex there was no way I was going to let his behavior and choices besmirched my reputation so I acted cool and dispassionate as if it were all just a matter of fact end to a relationship I kept to myself as much as possible DN must have taken that as some sort of sign that we were just only friends as if we never had a relationship as if he had never asked me to marry him and he had a bright idea to invite thought over to meet me as it turned out dn Tolls thought that I was just a friend and he never told her about our relationship engagement me visiting frequently to see him me moving there to be with him etc it was like I was just erased and discarded looking back this is a very clear case of a narcissists relationship pattern of idealize devalue discard every moment between arriving there and leaving felt like it was just me crying and feeling so incredibly hurt that it broke my whole world I had sacrificed my family who had all moved to the Pacific Northwest by that point I left my job so that I could move back to Alaska and be with dn I was so into the idea of a relationship with him it didn't even feel like I had sacrificed for the sake of our relationship but I did and it hit me that I sacrificed family and job who had never hurt me at least not in the way dn had hurt me I regretted leaving them to be with BN and his empty promise of love when the news spread to our mutual friends and his family no one could understand why dn and I was split up while everyone understood why I was crying and upset no one really knew what to do with the constant stream of Tears I maintained my composure as being the not crazy ex to the best of my ability this all happened in front of people who knew both of us for years they were dumbfounded about thought and what she was doing with dn they put the puzzle pieces together themselves I kept my mouth shut and only stated facts when I was asked yes dn would rather be with her so he is with her I'm here waiting for my things to arrive so that I can ship them back and then I'm getting on the next flight out of here one day out of the total two weeks I was there BM remember came out of his room and saw me and my silent waterfall of Tears and just said to me DN is a total idiot if I were you I would be crying too for some reason that made me feel better about the whole thing BM was a musky badder to a young woman like me and for him to say that made me feel like the world wasn't such a cruel place after all I still had not told anyone about the pregnancy or the loss because even though I was grieving and in pain if I mentioned any of that I knew that I would be treated like a crazy ex who was making up stories to make him feel worse or make it all about poor me and I just didn't need any more nonsense on top of that I suffered in silence and perfected the art of crying without making a sound so that I wouldn't draw anyone else's attention to my grief over those two weeks DN invited thought over frequently he probably thought it was no big deal to me was not thinking about me or how his behavior was affecting me I was in a state of shock I never thought he would treat me like that after I had known him for so long and had never seen him behave in that way I stayed on the couch while the two of them had their fun in d-ends room within a short a move that like is such an horrible thing to do that I'm still surprised it didn't instantly place his likeness in the dictionary under the definition of sociopath I didn't have the energy to confront dn or to argue as to why doing something like that was cruel and heartless if he didn't know that already me telling him wasn't going to teach him the basics of empathy I was so angry at him that I wanted to hurt him even worse than he had done to me before our left I concocted a plan to poison his new relationship with thought this is where the revenge plot comes into play I'm bisexual and I knew that thought was at least flexible in that regard and obviously she was willing to move fast with someone so add yet another party night a seemingly regular occurrence at that house I got thought all to myself before she got drunk for long enough to seduce her I shut both of us in d-ends room meanwhile everyone else was getting too drunk to get that anything could have been happening in there dn was occupied with the guests and may not have noticed we were missing after we were finished I told her why I was there and told her about my history with TN with an icy and dispassionate apathy that Illustrated how much TN was dead to me I told her if he cares about me enough to propose to me and then do what he did with you after I've known him for years just imagine what he'll do to you suddenly she understood why I had been so somber when I was introduced to her she had no idea that I was anything more than an innocent friend of d-ends she didn't know why I was there in Alaska or why I was waiting for boxes she didn't know anything she felt profoundly guilty and regretful despite the fact that she didn't know any better she had been deceived and I had been too gracious to lose my cool or cause a scene at a house party or in front of anyone else as would have been expected when I was in private with her I told her everything including how they had pined after him since I was 12 years old because my adolescent hormones didn't know better dn walked in on us and must have assumed that nothing was wrong only because nothing terrible was happening in the moment that was either hubris or drunkenness on his part there was no confrontation again the party went on and thought left the next day Dean asked me what I was doing with thought I said to him she was an easy piece of her and I'm not surprised you were able to get busy with her the same day you met her I just happened to do the same thing you did eater I didn't see her that way I said that to her because it was the most emasculating thing I could think of the look on his face seemed to suggest that his D had shriveled and inverted into his body he looked more mortified than than I've ever seen him I still played my poker face he didn't know what to say after that so he said nothing and changed the subject I made him feel just as small and insignificant as he had made me feel mission accomplished or so I thought there's more I got my belongings finally and shipped them all straight back to where they came from I got myself on another flight out of there a day or so later didn't ever see thought again I didn't hear from DN again for the next five years five years later I was married and had just learned that week that I was pregnant with my first child I got an email from DN he tracked me down through social media back in 2005 he said that he wanted to catch up with me and so I obliged him with a phone call thinking I was gonna gloat about being married and having a kid awesome DN told me all about all the Karma that went down after I left said you didn't go crazy while you were here but whatever you did planted a seed that grew into something that destroyed my life he didn't say that would forward but close to it I think he used the word cancer in there somewhere perhaps my intentions to avenge my dead fetus invited my guardian angels demons may be more likely to intercede in the situation in order of appearance [ __ ] cheated on him with his best friend and then moved in with the dude only two weeks after I had left ouch he got fired from his job on Christmas Eve his boss was another mutual friend who heard about what he did to me decided he didn't want the guy working at his video store anymore ouch his truck broke down in front of an electrical station got impounded he didn't have enough money to get it out since he lost his job so he lost his truck too ouch that is pretty bad when you live in a place like Alaska in the middle of winter his family caught wind of what went down with me and disowned him ouch I thought that was pretty extreme what did they hear I never found out but just chalked it up to Karma after thought was gone his remaining friends unsurprisingly through another drinking party at his place except that this time they got me and wasted drunk and then B the crap out of him and threw him out of his own home into a snow berm and locked him out he took refuge with the neighbor but later on he had to leave the state because he had been shunned by all his remaining friends had no family or job or truck etcetera and was now single without even a thought to lean on when we spoke he had been living in Texas and rethinking his life and wanted to know how I was doing after our engagement friendship ended and that was when I decided that the time was right to tell him about the baby we could have had and then distinguished guests was when he started to cry and I told him how much it sucked for me to feel like I couldn't have told him about before for the reasons I mentioned above and then I heard his full-on ugly cry on the other line he was sobbing on the other line and couldn't stop apologizing he said I had no idea you were pregnant I felt a momentary indignant rage and sublimated it with another poker-faced moment in my matter-of-fact emotionless response we had s so it's not like it was impossible for that to happen I tried to tell you at the time it was more important for you to confess your horrible choice than listen to my news you didn't have any idea that I was pregnant because you didn't care to know you didn't even ask more sobs on the other end of the line and more apologies than I've ever heard in my life from anyone I ended our call by saying it's really ok I don't hate you I wanted to say I pity you but held my tongue things are better for me now I'm married and we just found out that we are pregnant with our first child anyway it's really been nice catching up with you and finding out what happened with your life sorry to hear it's been difficult let's keep in touch he didn't I don't know why he bothered contacting me in the first place because he must have had some idea how that call was going to go down but he probably wasn't counting on finding out that he cold been a father and we could have had a family together if only he hadn't crushed the heart of someone who actually cared about him in hindsight that relationship was nothing more than me confusing his charm his words words words and my infatuation and pining away for actual love I spent so much time wondering and questioning what I had done to deserve him doing all of that to me what I didn't realize was that he didn't do any of that because of me or to punish me for any reason he did all of that because the only person he had been thinking about was himself it took me many more years before I would learn how to identify narcissistic behavior and now looking back I realize that I had narrowly escaped getting myself stuck in Alaska and romantically committed to a person who has little capacity for empathy and doesn't feel remorse when he wrongs someone I learned how to get revenge by maintaining my Grayson composure stating only the facts keeping my emotions to myself and my demeanor together just long enough to plant out in the heart of the new other woman five years after he crushed my heart he cried enough to fill a bottle with his tears and my satisfaction poured it over the flowers on the grave of our tiny dead fetus I'm sorry baby

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Length: 19min 50sec (1190 seconds)

Published: Mon Feb 24 2020