Give Your Partner the Gift of Presence

hey it's Tony Robbins listen I'm here today to talk to the gentlemen the group but in case any ladies are watching today as well here's my question for you ladies how many of you cannot stand a man who can't make a decision how many of you cannot stand a man who at one point in the relationship he's there for you and now he doesn't feel present at all how many against that a man that can't tell you the truth and now that I stirred up the ladies this really a bit video for men Oh gentlemen I know you know there's been women in your life who have felt in the beginning so much passion for you and then gradually you guys seem to drift apart you love each other but there isn't that same aliveness that same sensuality or sexuality or excitement together and what of men think that's women that creates it I would argue to gentlemen but if you and I take responsibility we dig underneath and we understand what the triggers are that make women turn off then we can turn them back on and not by some stupid technique but by the thing that affects most women the deepest and that is your presence most women are starving for a man who's present what does present mean it means a man who is right here with me 100 percent right now his mind isn't doing 20 other things I know gentlemen it's hard to be present when a woman is talking to you and she's talking about so many things so quickly very often that don't relate because a woman's brain has something called diffused awareness it means they take in everything all at once it isn't multitasking it's literally transitioning not even transitioning experiencing multiple conversations and people at one time whereas men tend to focus on one thing at a time and when a woman starts doing that most men's brains click in and they try to focus on one thing they can handle and they're no longer present if you're in your head and you're not connected that woman she doesn't feel that presence and presence is what opens a woman presence is what causes a woman to open to you essentially sexually emotionally her heart or soul the whole nine yards ladies correct me if I'm wrong there is nothing more powerful than presence when there's real love involved so and oft often women was on to a man who doesn't even love them but who's present for them where they feel like there's nothing else in the world but me right now and gentlemen you know how to do that when you're in the zone in sports you are so present when you're in the zone trying to solve a problem you were so there and you probably were so there when you were pursuing this woman but if you can train yourself to bring that presence back on a regular basis you can own your woman like she's never been owned where she will literally melt to you I don't think most women who are feminine would argue with what I'm sharing with you right now if they do they can not only talk back to the video they can write some comments down below wherever this thing is posted so what makes women also feel you're not present is when they feel like you're not honest and most men are truly honest but they just don't want to deal with what they call the that must be the technical term right the they get for telling the truth because she disagrees about it and then get worn out by words men would happy to resolve it but the finally they'll just say yeah yeah okay okay when you say yeah yeah okay okay and it's not really okay with you you're not present so she gets even more animated see most women they don't want to please her they would like to be pleased but they don't want to please her a pleasers trying to anything a can to make things work they feel there's no present for them and he has no Center he has no strength they may like him but it's going to be hard for them to respect him and if she doesn't respect him there's not going to be a lot of passion if him is you that's a real problem you and I both know with you're a single man who's meeting women or whether you're in an intimate relationship so I thought maybe what I show you is one example of how women perceive dishonesty with men perceive it as just leaving things out so they don't have to deal with more challenges and how to deal with it differently and I can tell you that verbally but it might be better to witness it we were in Hawaii recently and there was a gentleman there sharing with us that he has so much difficulty just dealing with his wife she wants him to do things like do the dishes and he says I run a business and I don't do the dishes she feel doesn't feel like I love her and I said well then why would you just do it at times he goes I do at times but it's like every time and so she asked me you know you know am I gonna do dishes and I say yes and then I don't do it then she gets mad at me and I said yeah because there isn't anything authentic I said why don't you play your wife right now let's talk about whatever she's upset about and I'll just be me but I'll put I'll be you knows I'll be myself if I was you and you'll just watch this little video and it's pretty simplistic all I basically say is no I'm not going to do it and he was shocked when I demonstrated this but I didn't do it harshly I didn't say you should go do these dishes I don't have the delusion that that's a woman's job I just said I'm not gonna do it this the higher priority but I also don't think it'd be your problem and I am committed to working out a solution but I'm not going to do this and there's some things that you probably want to do I want you to let's work this out it's coming from a place of congruence and people can feel when you say what you mean and you mean what you say versus when your play cating so I know this is third grade at one level like we all know this intellectually but knowing intellectually in doing it is an image between having a passionate relationship in a relationship where you're constantly accommodating each other and accommodation doesn't produce passion it might have a relationship where there's some friendship but again the only difference between you know a friendship and an intimate relationship is intimacy and real exciting it to see is when people feel your presence feeling dishonest you'll take it away so watch this quick little video real simple and see what you get out of the gentleman and think about if you might use that same sense of presence that's already inside you that you use in business or sports with that woman and not let the password out you might be surprised women very often when they feel that strength it excites them to see you have a standard you're not going to be swayed take it out and then and maybe show this even to a woman in your life and see if she agrees you might say of Tony Robbins are so full of it that's a bunch of crap my bet is she'll say yeah smack you on the shoulder that's what I've been trying to tell you be present with me and instead of you know saying well I'm sorry I'll do better just deliver it maybe this week is the time Valentine's week a time for you to find your own Center the way you do in business the way do we have a purpose you out with a woman in your life the game will change

Channel: Tony Robbins

Views: 786,742

Keywords: tony robbins, love, passion, relationships, anthony robbins, marriage, Valentine's Day (Holiday), self help, tony robbins wife

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Length: 6min 17sec (377 seconds)

Published: Fri Feb 14 2014